What’s one emotion you’d like to minimize?

My best friend in Connecticut called me to tell me she was feeding a stray cat about eight years ago.I was visiting and wound up taking over trying to find this cat's owner. We never found them and I wound up taking the cat back to my State and still have him many years later.He is a sweet cat, but he barfs after he eats A LOT. Years later, it has occured to me that maybe he had loving owners even though he was out in a snow storm.Maybe he was just barfing in their house too. I realized he was previously owned when I took him for a check up and found out he was neuterd. Oopsie. What could I have done? Taken him back and left him outside in a snow storm? So I kept him and have always felt guilty in case he had owners who loved him.I can relate to the bike story...Many years ago,I found an envelope with $400 bucks in at in a salon that I worked at. I gave it to my manager at the pharmacy next door and it occured to me years later, that he might have kept it. It might have been someone's rent and I wish that I just had posted it in the newspaper to find it's rightful owner.

I am a minimalist and my roommate is a collector and a beautiful pack rat. Boundaries have been priceless. Their space in the house is packed up to the ceiling and my spaces are what they call institutionally clean. The shared spaces are portioned off the same. I have anxiety with things and I laugh because they have anxiety without things. Around their chair are a few things and around mine nothing but a spot for coffee. They love art so there is a room that is 20 by 20 and I told them that they can take every wall and it looks like an art gallery. My only requirement is that they have to keep things clean, dusted, vacuumed, and neat which they have. You have never seen so many see through bins. At first it was difficult for me and after 5 years I have not convince them to have less. They love to shop and rescue things from second hand stores. It brings them joy. None of their stuff ever ends up in my space so it works out.

"Clinging to the luxury of not doing the hard things now "wow❤❤

TK, thank you for your compassionate response to the woman with the bike. Ryan, good to have you back, man. We love you!

I'm so happy I made productive decisions about my finances that changed my life forever,hoping to retire next year.. Investment should always be on any creative man's heart for success in life

Wow, that last call gave me chill bumps. I am a 12 step gal myself, 25 years in Alanon, I grew up in serious violence, addicted parents and abuse. Recovery saved my life and his call was so moving. You gents are in my top 3 list as well. Everything Thing That Remains has helped me learn to live in new ways. Thank you!

The BIKE: use this as a learning experience- drop trying to control’ (in a good way), forgive yourself for taking on the baggage and learn from this- the BIKE has caused you to be trapped into a situation that has taken up space in your mind. Let it go- forgive- don’t pick it back up. Move forward with the knowledge that there are some situations that are not worth getting involved in. TK’s wallet example was a great one- ID was available so was an easy fix.

Love TK's quote about seeing someone's brilliance and beauty and calling it forward more effectively. Jotted this down to remember it.

The biggest thing I got was from Tk. He was saying something about making an area easily accessible to put your things down even on the most tiring days.

What about understanding for the person living with a hoarder? Do they deserve no respect? Why is it all about respecting the hoarder? I have a twelve year relationship with someone who is a hoarder. It is very stressful.

This is not about the bike! Think lack of clear boundaries and control issues.

Said by Josh with such lackadaisical nonchalance "nothing can get in your way if you dont know which way youre going in the first place" that certainly hits home and stunned me in such a way that i missed the next 5 minutes of what was said.

Josh, you’re wrong! THE BIKE: I don’t know about the laws of where she lives but if this was the U.K. then she has not stolen the bike. Here if you have made ‘all reasonable steps’ to find the owner, which clearly she has and even contacted the police, then after 28 days the property legally belongs to her. Here if the police took it in, they would give it to her.

Random, but Ryan sounds so clear. I thought he was physically there. 😂

My mom always taught me and my brother to be “saviors” later I learned she was a narcissist. This year my brother was killed, shot in the chest trying to interfere with a couples fight in a parking lot.

Thanks. I'm needing this. ❤

Loving this “bite the bullet” topic.

Thanks a lot for the ebook, I have just downloaded it in my Kindle👍

A person who leaves a bike unlocked and unchained is usually either someone who put it there for someone to take (decluttering) or is someone who stole the bike for some reason and stopped needing it, or wanting to get rid of evidence. I wouldn't take the bike in case it belonged to someone who had just become a murder or kidnapping victim.

Where is the third guy? Not seen him for the past ~10 podcasts

So much wisdom in this show.

I mean...I think TK deserved the cone.🍦👮‍♂

If this was a dog, you reported it found and there was no record of the dog missing, and you would like the dog, would you leave the dog on the street?

Great channel, thank you!🙏

Thoughtful Deeply good Thanks

Sentimental is the hardest for me

Thank you

Aleksandra's dilemma reminds me of something the NYTimes ethicist would take on in his column.

putting human attributes onto things is something i have trouble with. - like this lady feeling she needs to care for the bike. In case it ends up in a bad home or suffers a bad outcome. This kind of thinking gets in the way of me getting rid of things sometimes.

Amy's stolen all of my money. I can't even get a colonic to stay alive one more week.

How not procastination?

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You cant "teach" the boyfriend...you need to learn to deal with him❤