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i definitely feel overly dependent sometimes because im so anxious about everything, it makes me feel just dumb

Timestamp: 0:55 You find it extremely difficult to be alone. 1:36 You rely on others to make decisions in your life. 2:20 You do things to win other people's approval. 2:55 You are highly sensitive to criticism. 3:25 You need a lot of reassurance. 3:58 You find it difficult to start things on your own.

I’m used to being told what to do due to my parents often deciding for me growing up. Now I feel directionless.

Me trying a bit to become independent but know that some things are required to depend on family while maintaining my independence: Balance is key to success 🙌✨

You can’t be alone. You feel like you need another person to be complete. When the most loving and rewarding relationships are when two complete people come together. Spend more time alone. Get to know yourself. Learn to enjoy your own company. The most important relationship we will ever have is the relationship we have with ourselves. We’re with ourselves the longest. And let’s ensure that what we’re sharing with another person is worthwhile. What we have in ourselves is a gift. And we should share it with someone who will appreciate it.

1. Scared to be alone 2. Can’t make decisions on your own 3. People pleasing for approval 4. Highly sensitive to criticism 5. Needing a lot of reassurance 6. Finding it difficult to start things on your own Me 😅

I have been wondering for a while if I may have this. I haven't received an official diagnosis, but this sounds like me, 100%. I am better than what I used to be as I am seeing a therapist and am in a recovery program. I just moved into my own apartment instead of living with my parents. I am 32 years old, and the crippling self-doubt and lack of confidence kept me stuck for so long. I am learning better how to have stronger boundaries and to make decisions for myself. I am proud of my progress. For people who have tendencies like this or struggle in these ways, you can do it. It is going to take a lot of work and a lot of courage. But you are capable. 💖

You just described my entire life and i wanna cry 😢😢😢 cuz i want to be independent but feel scared to do things on my own

I got diagnosed with DPD last year. It’s incredibly difficult, because the clinginess and sensitivity I have often leads to the rejection I’m so afraid of. I’m hoping to find good treatment soon, but it’s not particularly easy in the state I live in. The best advice I can give if you are friends or partners with someone with DPD is, for one, let them make mistakes. Don’t enable them, of course, but don’t berate them if they mess up if it wasn’t something they meant to do. I’ve mishandled social situations many times because of my other disorders, and when I get yelled at or someone cuts me off for it, it wrecks me for weeks or even months at a time. Instead, try to be understanding, point out what they did wrong and why it was wrong for them to do if they don’t already know, and encourage them in a better direction, teaching them how to be better in that circumstance if you can. If the poor behavior continues or if they aren’t putting in effort to be better, then confront them, absolutely, but if they try and they do change, let them know you’re proud of them for it, it really means the world. And secondly, don’t try to force them into isolation or uncomfortable situations. I remember times where I’ve lost track of friends in crowds or places I’m not familiar with, or I’ve been isolated from my friends for extended periods because they haven’t had the time, and the panic that sets in is unbearable. It’s not their fault, and I’d never blame them for it. But if someone ever MADE me stay on my own because of my disorder to try to “help me get over it”, I’d never forgive them. All that does is make me terrified, inconsolable, and ultimately MORE dependent. Instead, encourage them when they DO take initiative or make decisions independently. If they say they want a certain restaurant for dinner, for example, try to accommodate. Even if it’s not something you’re in the mood for, it often times takes a lot of courage for us to even suggest something we want for ourselves for fear of disapproval. You don’t need to cave every time, any of us that are decent wouldn’t expect you to. But, we notice when you go along with what we want, and it’s very considerate and appreciated, and helps with our confidence a lot. Thanks for reading, if ya did, take care and good luck, everybody💜

I realized lately just how extremely dependent I am on the other people in my life. I rarely do anything on my own, I always take whatever my parents or friends suggest. When I consider starting a hobby, I always find myself telling them about it, and based on their reaction, I decide if I want to do it or not. Even when it comes to what I eat. I am currently in the process of quitting my job because it sucks, and even for that, I asked my parents if I'm even allowed to - because if they don't like that decision, I feel horrible. A while ago they started telling me I will, from now on, make decisions for my life by myself since I'm an adult, and it scares the hell out of me. But I know I have to become independent - I just don't know how. It doesn't help that I'm autistic and have ADHD and therefore always need a little bit of guidance anyway. But without approval, I rarely do anything.

This has honestly opened a lot for me . I noticed my dpd when I always sought assurance from my love Interests and when they didn't give me I'll often spiral and cry for hours and eventually I'll be in such a dark place that we end up breaking up, it's like that every single time. I depend on people I lot and when I'm told to do something on my own I really look dumb cause no one is there to help me. All the symptoms you listed are so true about me. Right now I'm single and praying everyday that I find my proper footing in life without a man or anyone to help me all the time. It's hard and scary but it's even more scary living the way I was months ago. Thank you for letting me know that I'm not odd or a weirdo and I'm not the only one facing this, it's really comforting.

i just want someone to be happy with me and tell me I'm not a failure

I grew up with epilepsy so I had to depend on my parents more than most other people my age. But even after I became seizure-free, I continued to depend on them for many things because I had gotten so used to it at that point. Fortunately my parents don't mind as they had prepared to support me for life in case my epilepsy persisted, but as we're all getting older, they've started to teach me more about how to handle certain situations on my own

Stumbled upon anxiety, then codependency, then anxious attachment style, even BPD. Then landed on this. One day, I'd earn and get some therapy.

I've learned that I can make decisions in just a snap of my fingers, even in a difficult, unfair situation, I know that I need to make a choice or else I will let myself down.

feeling down today with a lot on my mind, seeing this video is like a big sign into my face because I have hard time working on doing decisions by myself the journey will soon be over and ill feel whole again

Because of your videos, I found out that I have a lot of disorders and has had trauma. Without your videos I probably would’ve never found out❤❤ (found out I have DPD)

I sometimes need to rely on others without knowing it

I used to have three out of six of them. I can mostly keep them in control now, but sometimes relapses happens. I used to feel the need to talk to my SO all the time, I did things to win her approval, and I need a lot of reassurance that she won't just up and leave. Until a friend told me that these things would actually do the opposite and drive her away because she will feel smothered. The most effective thing you can do is to keep busy. Find a second job, go to the gym, hang out with your friends and talk to them, try a new hobby, whatever works to keep your mind from overthinking. These worked wonders for me.

Omg thank you for informing so many with disorders! And raising awarness! I've learned so much thanks to you!

i can't believe how much this is me. every time i put my trust in a relationship, no matter how well it's going, they always end up leaving. then people say why do you always need reassurance? well maybe if they wouldn't eventually leave every time they give me their trust they won't, then i wouldn't seek it.

Timestamps 1). You find it extremely difficult to be alone 0:55 2). You rely on others to make decisions in your life 1:35 3). You do things to win other people's approval 2:19 4). You are highly sensitive to criticism 2:54 5). You need a lot of reassurance 3:24 6). You find it difficult to start things on your own 3:57 Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late. 💙💙💙💙💙💙

It's hard to know that being yourself can hurt other people.

I realize I've been like this ever since I was a kid. I was dependent on every decision I made because I was raised to be that way and now I'm trying to get out of being dependent and going independent. I wish I would've learned about this sooner as I realize my circle wasn't as positive as I imagined...

I'm overly dependent, so this is the perfect video for me, I'm watching this right now Also I know this is not important, but my birthday is October 20th, next week on Friday 🎉

thank you for this.., now i can sort of start slowly fixing this myself so she feels safer and less stressed with me, i can't thank this channel and everyone running it enough, it's helped me with almost everything in life time to time

it’s really nice to see people talking about cluster c related issues. i find very little cluster c information online which can be pretty isolating. people will often see my symptoms come up and attach other issues/coping mechanisms that work for cluster b or general trauma disorders to what i’m going through and it takes so long to articulate that what i go through is a bit different from what they’re likely used to. i’m glad that more information and accounts of these experiences are getting out there into the world. us anxious types are getting braver at sharing what we go through

My spouse has DPD and it was so stressful that I developed an autoimmune disorder and had to leave the relationship. This is seriously no joke. Imagine thinking for two human beings at every single moment of the day. Decisions like "should I take a clean cup out of the dishwasher" when there's no cups in the cupboard.

this channel has helped me in so many ways, the fact that all of this advice is free is amazing

I hope regardless of any types of person or disorders you are, be empathy with yourself. This vid should be useful for you to acknowledge who you are now but be conscious that it's not totally you. It's just a part of you. Learning to accept it, then to improve the situation bc you deserve it. No need to be desperate when figuring yourself out. I'm also learning who I am everyday, sometimes it's a bit overwhelmed, sometimes I've been scared of my thoughts and my dark sides. But I'm trying to accept it all as it's not a complete me. It's not my identity. And acknowledging it helps me feel more empathetic with others as I know that no one is perfect and all good. But trying for the good is enough, and I hope those who are down can feel a bit released, knowing that you are not alone having those symptoms and people are mostly the same in some certain sides 🤍

It feels nice to see more videos like this. After watching it, I’ve realized I’m not alone. I relate to a lot of points this video discussed - in fact, it made me feel sad. I’ve been people-pleasing all these years, and yet, the cycle hasn’t ended. Perhaps it may have resulted from my childhood. But at the same time, I don’t know. I’m too emotional for my own good sometimes… I may need more time to heal.

Reminding me of the fact that my friend said my resting face looks scary. Makes me sad and cried a lot about it. Also seeing her with someone else makes me feel overly jealous because they're way more talkative with each other. Imagine one day she leave just like my past relationships makes me shiver.

Daily life of an introvert

I felt alone most of the time due to my past so i seeked online as a way to not feel alone, making friends and sometimes relationships

I always knew that these people were out there, but I never found them, and neither can I call myself dependant. Though to a person who is like this I hope that you feel good, and that your friends support you.

I love to watch this videos. They make me feel so calm. Also that’s stuffie is ADORABLE! 🧡🧡🧡🧡

I'm so afraid of becoming a burden to my friends, I need to constantly check in on those closest to me to make sure I'm not too much. This doesn't really talk about the torture that goes on in your brain when you are alone. It's not simply scary to be alone. When I'm alone the brain worms invade and tell me over and over again how useless I am, how I'll just get in the way, how I'm so difficult to be around, how no one loves me for anything but my appearance over and over like a merry-go-round. Simply the presence of a friend in the same room as me is a great relief because it proves the voices are wrong. This person is with me. They wouldn't be here if they didn't like me. I'm safe(from myself). It also doesn't talk about decision paralysis that can happen when multiple people ask for your attention at once, because the people pleasing is so great. Being asked out to 2 different plans at the same time on the same day can cause tears because I'm so afraid I'll lose the friends I don't choose. It's such torture to live with this condition. I'm so tired of it. I don't want to be like this anymore. When you care so much about keeping friends in your life, the idea that you cause a burden to them with your needs is a huge self-loathing spiral.

I’m overly dependent on a fictional band. fucking love Gorillaz.

Thanks for helping me I’m happy now

I got really lucky. I acted a lot like that throughout my life. Then I met my husband and he was able to help me work past it all. It's still a struggle but talking to a therapist helps.

I was just diagnosed with this and I’m doing some research. Now I have autism, adhd, generalized anxiety disorder, depression, depersonalization derealization disorder, AND dependent personality disorder. I should win an award for the amount of mental health issues I have 😅

I was professionally diagnosed with DPD when I was in ny early 20s...im abiut to be 31 soon and it still cripples me til this day. I haven't been truly single since I was 15 years old. Please don't waste your life away pleasing other like I did and get the help you deserve. I still need to get mine..

I’m insanely emotionally attached to my best friend, this is super helpful. Thank you ❤❤

Psych2Go always releases the perfect video for whatever's going on in my life at just the right time.

I don't like having this. I can't even be happy on my own anymore. I pray anyone who have DPD will overcome it. I feel you. We'll get this over together.

I don't know when my motivated, self confident, ENFP side become this...(ig while getting out of dpdr-depersonalisation/derealization disorder, I took much stress to make my studies up to mark. I shared it with barely anyone. And now I have became that desperate for support..) Whatever my condition is I promise myself I will cure it!! Thanks for sharing knowledge on dpd. I could understand things better now :)))

I am diagnosed with BPD and DPD. Thank you for this video! c:

Thank you very much 🌹🌷🌺

I have BPD (Borderline personality disorder) and I heavily resonate with this. Idk how easy it will be for me to get better tho bc of my BPD.

And one about intelligence

I love the animation for this episode

Please do a video on how to study for exams

ya that exactly what I feel about it but I'll learn more whenever I can

This explains so much of me Why im so inlove with them and so scared to go alone I always say someday i wanna go i guess now is a great time too i hope i do good Thanks alot psy2go for the video

I have been a people-pleaser all of my life. I grew up with autism, so I've always lived with the assumption that everyone else knows things better than me. I always find it hard to socialize and choose outfits, because I'm obsessed with doing it like I'm "supposed to". I find it difficult to make big decisions independently; if my mum shows even the slightest amount of doubt about a university course I'm interested in, I immediately stop being interested in that course. I always find it easier to let the person I'm hanging out with choose a film or a restaurant. It feels like my difficulty with making big independent decisions is ruining my life, because I feel trapped by letting what I think other people think is a good idea dictate what I do. I feel like I will never follow my dreams.

3:03, this EXACT moment has happened to me when I’ve been criticized or rejected in any way. I’ve excused myself to the school bathroom and cried until passing period ended:( I’ve never heard about dpd but I wonder if I may have it?😅I relate to a lot of the signs :[

These are the people i distant myself from because theyre too dependent on me

I got a new therapist while in the midst of grieving over several terrifyingly close losses. He gave me information on the various types of connections and dependencies 😅 As I've worked thru the immediacy of the grief, I am regaining my balance and resilience. I'm still terrified of my spouse dying, as it is closer every day. I know I would be ok eventually, just ok will look different. Carpe diem until then, right? ❤

Thx

I usually feel stressed out in homework or if someone's yells at me makes me sad and I try to make up I dont like being alone

I am suffering from DPD and i feels like you are talking about me! And because of this i being depressed!

That's scary how much disorders matches me through out this entire channel

Thankfully coz I'm an ambivert on the introvert side more than the extrovert one, i do most of the projects and assignments alone despite the fact that I like group projects more (not coz I'm dependent on others ofc) and ask less about other people opinion when making my decision but i take criticism easily to my heart all the time. Should it be concerning? 😅 Well, the video was informational and great. 👍🏻

I like the bow. It makes look nice 🙂

I knew i had adhd, and i wanted to self diagnose my slef through search to be sure and i got this reassurence but i wanted my parents to take me to a profesional to get diagnosis to see if i was right i did a lot of search before going there and i became sure that i had autism as well... then i get there to get dignosis and i was right i have both i speaked with him about dpd and he said that this is another topic and autism can also have some of the symptoms, this is why it felt so relatable... but... i have all of wich you talked about and very severe too. i am now 100% sure that i have adhd autism and dpd plus i got diagnosed with dylsexia when i was a kid so its also a plus.

LOL I haven't spoken to anyone in like over 48hrs and it has been bliss. The fastest way to learn confidence and independence is to develop a contempt for others.

I never knew this was a condition, but relating to nearly all of these symptoms, i know now i need help for this.

What if you hate being alone. But youre always alone???

Really a useful video but we should not confuse some of these signs can be the result of wrong upbringing and a parent violating your privacy permanently

Ppl around me think about me as a very independent person, but deep down I know I'm highly dependent on others. it's very difficult for me to make decision or not get validation by others. And now I know it's a disorder.. It's very difficult to live like that 💔

Sometimes I don't know if it's something like this or depression or something else, or just laziness. that's what my parents seem to think, but it just seems to be a symptom of a bigger issue, but i'm always wondering, "what if there is no bigger issue?" and even worse, i've tried to fix it, but all my efforts to stop being "lazy" have just failed. it's kinda like a new years' resolution, and it sucks.

Hi!!! 😊

wow so true bestie

Its true its just that sometimes i cant think straight without someone beside me Like my bff Our sections got shuffled and theres just a gap now

Now, I don't think I have full-on DPD and it may just be that these signs overlap because of my anxiety, but gosh dang did this video hurt. I feel like I'm so busy relying on others to do things so much so that they don't like me because I'm too "clingy". So I force myself away from people I care about because I know no one wants to live a life with someone who is constantly seeking approval. It's how I've lost so many, and it's likely how I'll lose so many more. All because of this irrational fear that everyone hates me because I can't seem to manage life on my own. After all, many a time I have annoyed the heck out of my mom by asking for her help since I do it so often. And sometimes I don't even heed her advice! I just stay stuck because I'm too scared to go anywhere. Doing something that could bring more happiness actually scares me because I've talked myself into this idea that new happiness never lasts, and I'll just end up feeling worse after it because I fear when things don't go my way. I feel like someone no one wants to be around because of my mental illness. These days I think my existance is an issue. I don't think anyone can help me, though, because I'm too anxious to go to anyplace other than where I am. I truly am alone emotionally because of that

I have at least 4/6 of these marked down as me. I’ve let go of the worries and let myself get to the root cause. Which was me running away from change and God. Doung that has caused me to chase after ppl and grab a hold of them for too long, crushing my self worth in the process. It’s a process starting from the delayed beginning to become more independent and to stop being a selfish people pleaser in my walk in life and in God. I greatly appreciate the videos you guys make that calls me out. Helps me see from a different perspective.🫶🏾

Texted my DBT therapist right after this video.

The first one and someone leave you I felt that and I was sad and my brother was not there

And one about gaming and it's impact on intelligence and iq

Sometimes I try to be dependent from those people around me but they keep on rejecting about my hair and my looks especially my brother has toxic traits about me and my dogs which makes me feel upset and depressed but Im so anxious that there will be cause of money problems, family problems, people's opinions, rejections, and humiliation while achieving my goals

I always want to like and love alone, I think social anxiety

You could depend on me more. I will win your trust.

Yes

I am in a limbo state with being dependent on some people and also don't want to be with people

Can u do lifestyle changes with happy moments and go ahead of nostalgic moments

Idk if you do requests because it’s been a while since I seen your channel but could you do a video of ADHD?

A question for people who are single, and over 30. When you have to fill out paperwork that asks for an emergency contact, who do you write? I'm 33, and I still use my mom, but that's starting to feel childish. Are other people doing this?

What happens a person with DPD actively defies their anxious thoughts and behaviours, consiously choosing to react healthily? Does it cause burnout? It has to be different than anxiety and anxious attachment style which can just be changed.

oh goodness these videos are becoming too relatable lol

I Don't Know How - To Cook - Wash My Own Clothes - Commute Public Transportation Etc. 😢😢 Hate My Guys 😞😞

Im pretty sure I fall into these habits and I am going through a situation that has all these elements right now. tbh I dont know what to do or how to handle it. Like I know what Im doing is unreasonable and is something I shouldnt, but I just keep going in circles mentally

An episode about stuttering would be so interesting,but I dont know how you guys select your videos subject

hey psyche2goers, a freshman in highschool here in distress and finding it difficult to talk to my parents about showing signs of adhd, any tips for me?

Im very anxious bc I lost many close dearest people to me as a child its like eachtime I grew up and found new people as considered them as family I lost them dur to sickness , death, or other reasons I dont wanna share , it made me feel extremely anxious , Its like each time I convinced myslef the future might have something good for me I learned eachtime through harsh expérience otherwise, im very anxious I feel so wounded by life the death of people you love you have no power over it but when it start to be a routine you end up being inhabited by anxiety i fear the future and starting new project makes me terribly stressed of the outcome sadly no real medication or therapy can reuely heal you from such experience only hope is keeping me going .

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I have a lot of these so now im starting to worry 😭

Me trying to be independent, but too broken. How do I overlook past wrongs and change? God knows I didn't deserve the hands God dealt with me with

i never thought it was a disorder now i feel like everything is wrong with me

I have some of these signs.