My mom has it 😬

I am that bestfriend with BPD lol

Hi.. Can you please help me forget the most hurtful thing people have said to me in the past? They told me that I should die , that I have nothing to live for, please can you help me?

@@caniedead6487 sorry for that. You need someone to talk to so you can build self worth.

I have bpd, this is a amazing video,, thank you. I never thought i would find a video that explains my thoughts and motives perfectly like this❤

Congrats on your recovery. Most persons never realizes psilocybin can be used as a miracle medication to save lives. Years back i wrote an entire essay about psychedelics. they saved you from death bud, lets be honest here.

Can you help me with the reliable source 🙏. I'm 56 and have suffered for years with addiction, anxiety and severe ptsd, I got my panic attacks under control myself years ago and they have come back with a vengeance, I'm constantly trying to take full breaths but can't get the full satisfying breath out, it's absolutely crippling me, i live in Australia. I don't know much about these mushrooms. Really need a reliable source!! Can't wait to get them

YES sure of Dr.benfungi. Did straight shrooms in few nights. Left me like a blank slate after words, no more addictions, pains, ptsd and depression. Shit saved my life, all thanks to Dr.benfungi

100% agree I used to have Psychosis and paranoid thoughts like "people thinking about me talking about me etc. Very odd behavior after getting off Adderall from 7-16. Antidepressants at 18-29. 31 now. I took way to much, but took about 20g of Gold caps (Psilocybin containing mushroom) I analyzed my entire life. The emotions that came out helped me understand behavior etc more. Wont ever need to do it again because I'm happy and contempt forever, but I wish more people did this to alter their perception of reality. Would help with healing much trauma

How do I reach out to him? Is he on insta

That hit me right in the feels

Exactly

We really don’t mean to be this way

SAMEEEE

Big oof

Stay away from people!! Don’t hurt them and get some help

@@allybailey2045 update: I don't have BPD, I was diagnosed ADHD, bipolar and going to therapy and taking meds. My friends love me deeply and I understand that. I am my own worst enemy so I have to kill that enemy so Christ in me can help me love like I'm supposed to in this crazy world.

@@allybailey2045 more like they hurt us

Sounds like me

@@allybailey2045 It would be a really sad life staying away from people that you love because it's an effort from both sides when you have BPD. You have to work on yourself but also your friends, if they are your friends, should be understanding and patient as hard as it is to be that way when working with someone who has BPD. I have been recently diagnosed with BPD and it's really hard. I isolate myself when I feel like everyone hates me (and I have no reason to think these things), I push people away and I hurt them sometimes but they are trying to understand and they reach out to make sure I am okay when I do these things. If you have friends that love you, they will reinforce that and make sure they reassure you of their love because unfortunately, we need that. It's really hard sometimes because of the constant battle within our own minds to see that the thoughts we have are fabricated and what we think they are thinking, they aren't and we couldn't possibly know that because those thoughts of what they think of you are fabricated. We just have to learn how to fabricate positive thoughts for a positive reinforcement and it's a real struggle sometimes.

Thank you so much for this. I try it and my partner says I have a beautiful heart and great person. But man I hate I have episodes. Though I actively try to prevent them, and learned steps to help with my issues. Thank you

thank you for saying this. I have bpd and already feel hard to love and this video really made me feel bad about myself. your comment made me feel a lot better.

Yeah we have a lot to offer but at the same time we have a lot to suffer too... Overcoming episodes gets harder as each ends. I now wonder how Lucky I would be if I could spend a whole week without crying.... sounds like dream.

one of my closest friends has BPD and I absolutely adore them!! I'm trying to learn more so I can better help them through their tough times so if anyone has any tips please let me know :D

i was in a relationship with someone with bpd and it was the most manipulative experience ever. i feel traumatized.

Same

Same

Same

Yup

same it was uncomfortable to watch this

Yeah.. it's heart breaking moment ..but maybe we have to accept this cause at the end we don't have just ourselves.

Knowing what is it and accepting is already such a compliment I think. Someone really important to me probably have it too. Sadly I never managed to get her to go for professional help.

If they don't want to be with you anymore they were never real friends in the first place.

Truth Troll or the BPD person is just too toxic and the friend can't handle it anymore. Persons with BPD are not the only one whose mental health is important. The friend's mental health is also important and maybe getting away from the BPD person is the way to get out of the toxicity specially if the BPD person refuses to get professional help. sometimes, you've done everything you have and you're already drained that the only option for your own sanity is to walk away from the toxicity.

@@bonitabanana9342 I've been in this situation unfortunately. I'm not sure if they had BPD or some other illness (but with the symptoms and other things I know about them, I think they have BPD along with a lot of other mental issues) but it was very toxic for me. I wanted to stay their friend and for the longest time I denied that they were manipulative or toxic to me, because I wanted to be their friend and help them so badly. At some point, after coming to terms with it several times, I finally decided that I couldn't handle it anymore. The worst part was, she acted as if she didn't care at all, didn't try to say or do anything. It was over text and I explained she was toxic and some other reasons, and after asking a few questions, she complied and we haven't spoken since. It was heartbreaking on my end, especially as it seemed as if she didn't care. It's difficult for her to show emotions and she's extremely depressed, along with other things, and so I never really knew if she cared or not, or if she just felt as if everyone gave up on her. It hurt knowing and thinking these things too, and I think I was kind of harsh on her, looking back on it. I was emotional and done with it too though. I still hope she's doing better, and although I might not care in the same way anymore, I still hope that she's able to heal. (Sorry for the long read 😅 and life story)

@@moonbunny7380 That's quite a bold statement to say for not knowing the whole story: a very narrow minded opinion. Have you considered that a child may have been affected by her behaviour ?? I didn't want to leave her but I was morally obligated to leave her for my daughters best interest. You're speaking from victim mentality 🙏

I completely understand what you are mean. I had a very life changing relationship with someone who was trying so hard to be there for my down times and he truly wanted to I understand me. But, our mental illness is different. And it cannot always be about us. That’s when our partners leave because the harsh truth is that we can be selfish. None of this is to degrade our experiences or make us look bad. But we need to see the stress we are putting our partners through. So thank you to everyone who gave us a chance and truly tried to understand us 💕

@@sleepinggiant333 Damn, I’m sorry to hear that.

Trust me, it was harder on her when you left 🤷‍♀️

@@alliescott1115 I'm sure it was

That is so sweet, i hope you and your bestfriend have a long lasting friendship!!

Same have had my best friend for 7 years and I truly love her and feel blessed to have her as my friend

Friends like this exist? You're one lucky person honestly to have that kind of support ❤

That was so sweet. You're truly lucky to have someone who understands you.

I'm so happy to hear that 🥰.

Void Gaming thank you form this, It made me laugh :)

Lmao

I don't have BPD (at least I wasn't officially diagnosed as one yet) but I'd just refrain from making friends in general. I don't think anyone will like me anyways...

Didn't just assume you have a friend. Assumed you have 62.5 friends! As an introvert I just have to say "Wtf?!"

I lose a lot of friends bc of this so ify

Elijah Naumov I agree

I guess it's because people with BPD learn social cues and how to fit in in the same way that people without it do, it just warps their perceptions initially because the condition makes it hard to be a chill spiritual oasis most times. They don't learn how people are supposed to react normally or "in rest mode" initially, other people's reactions are always of one or two types, never being a "normal" one. But as they get older they learn normalsy because at some point they will have contact with normalsy. Besides, understanding what the person is going through helps a lot on cutting the vicious cycle of rejection, because it gets rid of part of the rejection so the person can get a tad of normalsy Anyways, that's a supposition.

Probably it's because personality disorders don't work the same way the other disorders do. See, BPD is "egodystonic" (i.e, there's something wrong but there's a disconnect between that and themselves), so there aren't too many treatments (besides DBT) or experts who know how to help those who have the diagnosis. Most treatments are for egosyntonic conditions, as treatment for those are usually voluntary.

Have you sear he's for "how to live with BPD"? Because...there's videos on it if you search. - The CaitlynBot

This is so true! It's time to end the stigma. Do you know anyone who might be suffering from BPD?

I hurt myself so i wouldn't lash out at others, but didn't realise i was still indirectly hurting my family. I'm in my 40s now, but still struggle

@@taraelizabethdensley9475 I can relate to that as well. I didn't want to explode my frustration outwards onto others so I'd hurt myself instead. I'm 34 btw. I hope you are able to make progress and not hurt yourself anymore. I understand it can be so hard when you're deep within a trigger. But for me I just started to remind myself that it literally solves nothing. All it did was make me feel worse after leaving marks on my body. That we deserve love to and not to punish ourselves. You are valid even when you feel out of control and triggered. If you can be kind and protect others, you can turn that kindness onto yourself. Sending you so much love and thank you for sharing ❤💕

Well said.

This!!!!

All right. I guess I’ll take your word for it. Unfortunately the BPD in my life was my mother who emotionally drained me and regularly terrorized me when I was growing up. Her abuse of me continued until she died when I was 46. I understand she was acting out of her own fear and pain, but it has left me unwilling to get close to anyone who identifies as having BPD or who behaves like her.

@@reginarodriguez-martin4928 People with BPD don't actually love others. They use others as an extension of themselves to seek validation. Nothing more. And so many of them refuse to take any accountability for their actions.

@@Mtz2604 Hello! May I ask a question? Do people with BPD actually get to hurt others physically? Or is it more on verbally? Thank you!

@@beloved_christi3625 no worries! And yes to both. Sometimes we don't know when we're being abusive, reason why education about the condition, talking a lot (when possible and if it doesn't trigger a bad reaction, and crying while talking is totally normal, believe me... I have ninjas in front of my eyes that do their magic randomly. I just stopped to feel ashamed if someone else see me crying, is like what? Is natural) with that person, in order to have a perspective of their perception of life. I've been verbally and physically abusive. With guys. My poor and dear brother, my lovely stepfather, and a douchebag in highschool received the jackpot. My relatives verbally (well I broken some plates into my bro's feet but didn't hit his body with any of them, BTW he's 13y older. My stepfather was an inch about to be lift from the floor and throw, kicked and breaking his foot - he's a short sir, like 5'1" but electeomechanic, so he's strong he was on his late 40's - I managed myself to push him out of the house before it was too late). With the guy at highschool, I sent him to ER of the local clinic with minor open lacerations, but he was asthmatic and I put on his nostril the very opening of the spray and proceed to fumigate this poor guy twice, I beat the hell I could out of him, twice (I took a break to get a sip of water, I wasn't feeling the pepper spray but it gave me a lot of thirst). The guy was playing rough with a female friend with a petite complexion and I was just 2 inches shorter than him, but maybe 10k of mass above him and when I distracted him from my friend, he came after me. I warned him 3 times, showed him the pepper spray without the safety block and he cornered me pushing his hips against mine in a sexual way, I went nuts and the guy suffer. He puked and all. Police was called at highschool, cops didn't believe a 14y/o girl would beat a 16 and a half guy like that. With woman, verbally abusive is a compliment, nasty, shady, corrosive... Are more accurate adjectives. But those were episodes (others also but won't mention) that happened on my teens, I was undiagnosed and unmedicated. So yeah, we can be quite toxic. Not all are like that and now I'm 28, I work a lot to control my anger and sadistic tendencies that come to surface once the anger escalates. I try not to hurt people, but is like holding the ocean, to be polite, assertive and avoid being like that. Sometimes I take more than what I should from others in fear I will lash out terribly and then I won't be able to control the outcome. That's one of the reasons I trend to self harm, to inflict the pain/punishment on me rather than others. Is a tricky personality disorder, more with other psychiatric conditions, but here I am, healing with therapy and sticking to my meds since I was diagnosed at 26. Again, sorry for the long answer. Hope it helps.

@@beloved_christi3625 My ex fiance would punch and smack holes in our old apartment. To get a reaction out of me he would go after my dog. He never hit me, but the closest he did get to getting physical with me was when he ran up on me and held me up in the air. I thought he was going to body slam me in that still moment. I suffered from sexual abuse from a ex 15-19 and unfortunately my trigger is a fight mode once I get scared. After he dropped me and proceeded to scream profanity at me I ended up smacking him across the face rupturing his ear drum.

@@Mtz2604 I was about to say all of this... except I'm 20 and single lol

@@lycheemyusic your younger! Use that advantage for seek the proper help, if you need medication is your choice, in my case is needed. And take that time. I'm healing from a lot of things. At therapy I realized with my clinical psychologist that I also have CPTSD. It doesn't matter... I'm working to heal all, to develop what I didn't on time. You can do it 😉

youre so sweet i'd be your friend (with benefits)

@@nihill5995 tf

@@nihill5995 eeeeeeh...

I can be your friend☺️ i am a girl too. I have bpd

i wanna be your friend, i have bpd too

I agree. It can be incredibly draining. I've developed trauma responses as a result of the friendship which I am trying to work on

I’m so hopeful to hear this. I have quite bpd and I want to find someone with bpd who I can get along with too

@@elfglow4557 relatable

How can I join

Thank you! I'll stay strong. Another BPD fella here

Thank you m8 I'll stay strong

🙋🏻‍♀️

I'll try 😂 thank you though. To all my bpd warriors - stay strong. stay safe. you can do it!

WTF 146 likes?! TY! 🥺 NEVER got so many likes before. ❤️

I feel this. I never wanna tell people but I also want people to now I have bpd and understand what it is so they can understand me. I’m terrified of people hating me or being afraid that I am manipulative and toxic.

When you've been diagnosed with BPD and are afraid to tell people how you actually are and feel about them because you know it will change later and that you'll upset them or scare them away.

i love the system pride pfp ;)

If you have a mental illness you ARENT abusive. If its something you cannot control thats not your deal. Its like blaming a dreamwalking person for peeing on a carpet. Abusers know what they are doing.

LMAO!

thank you for sharing i have BPD and my best friend for over 10 years has put up with everything with me. her friendship is like my rock. we need people like you thank you for being so supportive

Gavin Pintro hmmmmm.. be specific. What boundaries. Bpd are most respectful when it comes to boundaries. U talking narcissistic people?

PLEASE DO A VIDEO ON THIS

​@@Madeviets Oh? I thought the opposite to be the case (maybe I'm wrong!). From what I understood, individuals with BPD go through severe emotional instability. As a result, this causes them to be more likely to use certain "tactics" in order to get attention from their peers which, could overstep set boundaries. I also genuinely connect with this because I live with an individual who was diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder and, there have been countless instances in which she would say and do extremely hurtful things that I definitely feel no "normal" person would commit no matter the ugliness of the situation.

Gavin Pintro that’s a narcist

@@Madeviets I see

Agreed, their animation helps to bring a light hearted approach to an otherwise serious condition. 😊💡

Glad you like Grace's animation!

I know right?

so well said and exactly my experience with bpd. thank you.

THANKS FOR SAYING IT! i also felt bad seeing that cuz bpd doesn’t make us bad people and if the others understood what’s behind the actions they would see the logic (even if twisted) there! being clear is one of best things you can do to a bdp person because we already live in an ocean of doubts and fears and that’s why ask so much or try so hard we want it to be solid so we don’t lose it all anymore…

Its mostly mentally disabled people getting hate in general, and as an autistic person, I hate his they made an entire SLUR just to offend us.

Thank you for this clarification and for expanding on what was in the video, this is so helpful. We all seem to have some form of trauma, and BPD is just one expression of it. So I really feel your point about the need to open up dialogue with our close ones who express their trauma, and support one another through it

What's funny is I watch the video and think the video bends over backwards to not do what you're implying. Reading your comment makes me feel gaslit that we even saw the same video, which is ironically the kind of manipulation that my friend with BPD does. Your comment about setting up boundaries is exactly what my BPD friend does. She constantly sets up boundaries, but at the same time expects you to be able to their emotional support pet. Thinking that people who deal with NPD don't have empathy is laughable. If anything, it's because of the nonBPD's empathy that drains all their emotional bandwidth that becomes exhausting. Constantly trying to feel the other person's mood is empathy, and why they feel like they are walking on eggshells all the time to not trigger them. Your last sentence is why my nonBPD friend had to cut my BPD friend out of her life. By setting up boundaries (which could be interpreted as being avoidant or evasive), my BPD friend keeps saying it's ghosting, when it clearly is not.

Personality disorders are NOT mental illnesses, that’s the first thing to learn.

@@M_SC Can you explain why?

True, which is why you need to have almost all symptoms in order to get diagnosed but having a halfway here and there makes it trickier. Especially when you have suffered too much yet didn't go to the doctors about it

The symptoms can be relatable and overlap, so yes, that's why getting diagnosed professionally is essential. However, with people who actually have it, it is evident that these symptoms are much more intense than people without BPD and it can be debilitating and take over their whole life.

I'd highly recommend that you don't use these videos to diagnose yourself, and see an actual expert to see if you''re actually suffering from a mental disorder, and get help if you are. I love this channel's content but they really should make it clear that self diagnosis is extremely dangerous and these videos are not meant to be a substitute for a doctor.

Just remind them that its you sumptoms, not you. I'm going through a rough time myself and i spoke to my loved one. I assured them; it has nothing to do with them, I'm just overwhelmed. Your loved one will understand if you tell them clearly. I do it and it makes a big difference. They are happy to see I trust them enough to be open and expressing myself about my fears. They know to not take it personal and they understand without judgment. Don't give up. ❤❤❤❤

I feel this so deeply. When they actively ignore me and not others knowing that I'm also not mentally well, it hurts to sit there and take this behavior over and over. Makes me want to drop them entirely. They sent the group chat this video while continuing to ignore me. I know the video said it's not personal. But boy does it feel that way.

@@Mortifysometimes some BPD people do things purposefully which sucks too

​@@adymations7233 its crazy to be brought back to this video 2 years later haha I went to therapy, set boundaries, got rid of my friendship with them, and learned that I was not only raised by a mom with BPD but also befriended a variety of people who hurt me over and over who also were diagnosed with BPD. So, not sure what the conclusion is, but I've been abused by people with BPD my whole life, evidently. But I'm growing to be better and keep myself protected. Not everyone with BPD is a bad person. But the 4 people with BPD that affected my life, left me with crippling PTSD. Food for thought.

Yeah, empty is at least just me

Empty all the time ... lockdown is terrible for me , dissociative symptoms still scare me

Sky Holland same

I feel empty at least one a day. I think the fact that I feel lonely more often in social situations than lonely at home says a lot about my mental health

I feel you!!

I have that too. Please love me too. Im serious

@@oscarmoreno2585 ily ❤️

I wish my fiance felt that way.... He left me today, because let's be honest, i'm unloveable as a borderline.... All I ever wanted out of this life was to be loved.... Just by one person... I guess that was too much to ask for....

@@laynedoe3455 You're not unlovable, some people just can't put up much with certain people. Some people aren't just meant for each other, their relationships don't work, not because one is a terrible person, but because you just can't fit a square in a circular mould. My best friend (who is also my crush) I've been there for her always, she has BPD and many of her friends have left. I haven't and I'll always be there for her even tho our friendship can get very exhausting at times. I love her to death and its not because I have a crush on her, but because of who she is as a person! I hope you get someone in your life who will love you unconditionally and be accepting of you at your core ❤️❤️ if you ever need to talk I'm always here

my ex bf had it and even i loved him sooo much... well he decided himself to leave. 😢

I feel you man. totally...

Do you have a Tip on how to support someone with BPD? Especially when the person has a down phase?

​@@syphos9411 I guess the best thing I could say is: try to remember that this person who is now going through a down phase is still the same person you probably knew during a good phase - even though their behavior makes it difficult to see it. Therefore, simply assure them that you love them and won't give up on them, so as to show that, no matter how hard they try to pull you away, it's not going to work because you're there by their side and that's it. If you know the particular way(s) this person feels loved (each person has their own way(s) of feeling and showing love, be it in the form of saying so or needing to hear that, giving or receiving presents, protecting and paying company etc.) it can be easier and more effective.

@@hyp3rs0mni4tic thank you for your advice. Really thank you! I think what it makes it so difficult is that he hides. He won't read any messages, he won't answer the phone. But your words will give me the strength to keep trying! To encourage any baby steps, even though I am afraid that he thinks that he's not worth it and stop trying to beat his fears.

@@syphos9411 He's probably "avoiding" you because he really fears losing you and doesn't want to face or deal with this fear - the irony is that this behavior of his ends up making it easier for people to actually leave him. I know well. But I hope you do show him you're not going anywhere, and that time and maturity help him see that. Wish you all luck in the world.

❤👼🕊 You're not along...💪❤

I realize that I push away the people who care the most about me . I hate myself so much it hurts

I have BPD, but it took them like 2 years to diagnose me, just because they refuse to diagnose under 18 even though I obviously suffer from it. Then they wondered why I didn't respond to their treatments when they were avoiding my actually condition and the treatment I need for it.

Emeralds4lyfe i got the “dance around it” like “were not saving you have BPD but if you did this is how you would self regulate emotions”

BPD was only mentioned once in my appointment and it was never brought up again (because dear doctor forgot to key in my case report on time :'( ) Now the doctors keep saying that I just have poor coping mechanisms so I went to a private institution for a second opinion... I really wished that they had decent exposure to mental illness back in the days where I was so hurt by everything

@@reneeladouceur Your summary is exactly what you'd expect from 2 normal individuals except for the non-apology.In which case that is what I'd expect from a BPD order. You are letting them recover on their own. I on the other time spend my time and use my presence to let them know that the melt down hasn't destroyed their life. They recover and know they are forgiven. You give them space and wait for an apology that they feel so bad about that it will never come. Don't treat a not quite normal person as if they are normal and then be upset when then don't respond like a normal person.

@@reneeladouceur I am no professional when it comes to knowing anything about psych. I'm just a guy with experience with my child. She is now grown with children of her own and a very understanding and loving husband. She sometimes calls and somehow she feels better later in the call. She still calls me her rock. This is just one case and how I deal with it. I hope it helps someone in the world. I agree with all you have said. God knows that my Ex was a complete failure at dealing with it. So, yes, a person can only take so much. My reward is that there isn't another person on earth who loves me more. May God send you the gifts you need in dealing with this.

@@reneeladouceur It sounds to me like you made the right choice. That sounds like a situation where he has made you feel responsible for his mental well being. And, well... this sounds like BPD AND much more. If the BPD was left to fester as a child I'd say that HE has bigger problems now. It doesn't sound like he's going to change. If you apologize, he may never realize there's a problem. I'm not saying that "he" is, but, I've seen these angry kind of people become dangerous. I feel like I must add one more thing. I don't like the advise your psych gave you. Again, my opinion, a shrink should never diagnose or attach labels to people they have never examined. I think the shrink sent you off on a wild goose chase. BPD in my experience are introverted. Their anger turns inward and are prone to cutting and other self destructive behaviors. BPD can be triggered by the slightest thing or sometimes nothing at all, but this sets off an emotional response. A triggered emotional response that is outward, angry and destructive to other people may be BPD, but it doesn't sound like it to me.By mentioning BPD I think you've looked for an answer that doesn't exist. This behavior sounds very narcissistic to me. Look for some info on narcissism and if you think that sounds like him, run and don't look back.

@@reneeladouceur As a person with BPD this is my biggest fear. Getting so into one of the episodes that I will mentally abuse people close to me. Sorry you had to go through it and it's okay to leave cause you have to keep yourself first. I hope you are doing better now. Not all of us are the same that is one of the reason why this disorder is so hard.

Your approach sounds amazing- I admire your effort to demonstrate presence and understanding.

The diagnosis is kinda scary Don’t be put in an evil box I think the infj NI loop might help to make it less scary

Even if we do understand, sometimes there's nothing we can to help. I try to just make sure my person with bpd knows I'm still here for them. Sometimes I have to put some distance for my own wellbeing though

THISSSSSSSSS IS SO ACCURATE

Omg this is so me 😭

@@leahwilson8982 yooooo my nickname is leah is this a sign💀

@@undead.angel001 oof! Maybe 🤣

@@undead.angel001 my actual name is Leah 😅

hey im sorry you’re going through this, i dont know how to help bc im going through the same exact thing (except for i havent been diagnosed but i really fit into the criteria) i lost the closest ppl to me this year and i still dont know why or how or if its too late to fix it or not, it feels paralyzing like im helpless and lost in it all. this made me feel less alone so thank you for sharing it

If ur in therapy learn about splitting. Work on your splitting. You need to see yourself as a separate person with your own emotions and worth. When i ised to see everybody as super good or super nice, they could never do anything wrong. But they are humans too and they have flaws too. The i would switch to being clingy, overbearing and if rejected, just plain cruel. People walk away from this kind of behavior and we end up feeling more lonely and useless... .slowly learn to trust learn to see you'll be ok. learn that it's OK to not be perfect learn boundaries and i promise you, you'll be surprised how people will WANT TO be around you. 😘

Did you find the points reliable? Any that you feel could be added to the list?

They were very accurate, I think you covered the most important aspects! You are the best mental health channel on KZfaq. You guys are really doing great work!

Sending love to you!!

Sevillana2001 awe you too, Stay safe during covid-19!

this is so cute i wish all my friends were like this!! stay safe :)

I have BPD and started Ketamine treatments a little over a year ago. They saved and changed my life. Perhaps you can do some research and bring it up to him! They not only take away all suicidal ideation for me it helps the depression and borderline better than any medication. I no longer take any psychiatric medications except for Xanax as needed. I believe it has the potential to change how we treat many mental health disorders.

Did we miss any points that could be included Steve?

please don't self diagnosis,see a doctor!!

@Psych2Go: I don’t believe so. It’s an interesting thing to look at - I’ve had a lot of problems recently, so there are likely a lot of threads to separate out, but I’ve never really connected with more than a few people in my life. I don’t mean to imply that I’m unfriendly or anything, but I’ve never really felt that most people actually like me very much. I certainly agonise about all the things I’ve done wrong, the mistakes I made and the times I hurt someone when I didn’t mean to, in the dark watches of the night. Would a sort of low-grade paranoia be part of this subject? It feels like it might be. I often feel that this feeling makes me act in a strange way, where I don’t think I could help someone understand how I feel if I tried my hardest. @Jennifer H: I will, boss - don’t worry about that! I’m very much getting into self-care after a very scary eighteen months (which is how I found this channel!) so I feel I’m moving in the right direction. I’ve had help from medical professionals and continue to do so, but every so often something like this video comes along and a little lightbulb goes on in my head. I’m not in a place where I “ignore myself” if that makes any sense - I’m not about to stop trying, and that definitely means getting help and advice. @Kuga139: I shall find a copy and see what it has to say! Thank you for the recommendation!

You also don't have to threaten or hurt people to have BPD. People with BPD are actually more likely to hurt themselves than others.

@Nicolette James: that’s sort of what I meant. I’ve never threatened to kill myself to manipulate anyone or elicit a response. I mean, I’ve never threatened anyone with violence against them either, but even when I was seriously considering doing something last year, the only ones who knew were medical professionals. I’ll tell my friends eventually, but it’s still all a bit raw. It’d feel like a cry for attention, I suppose.

Following.

ϟ Teresa the Potato ϟ I have BPD, and I would like this video too!

I have a close friend too with it and it’s very difficult to continue our friendship. I’m so patient with her, but she exhausts me.

It is the bpd. I have bpd and get like that. to be honest

@@chrisroberts1435 no offense at all, but could you explain how it feels like when you 'ignore' your loved ones? For what reason? I know you dont mean any harm and i just want to know why. Its alright if you dont want to answer this question if its too personal ^-^

She’s a selfish witch

@@tee630 It's very hard to say. It starts with the fear of being abandoned so we do it first, to avoid the pain of seeing the ones you love leaving you. Then there's the feeling of being guilty that you left them, so you end up trapped and not able to come back since you just want to forget you hurt them Or like me, there's a part of abandon, but also the fact I'm scared of myself. I feel toxic because of my mood swings and hurt my lover with words. So then, I try to leave him, thinking he will be better without me Luckily, he's a strong one and never stop trying to keep me, our fight can last hours until I come back to my sense and then we are back as normal

@@tee630 I have BPD and for me it's because of the fear of intimacy. 😱 Even though we want to experience a relationship, it's just not possible if you afraid of interaction because of the abandonment trauma. I hope this helps you understand BPD and dissociative disorders.

Kip Blank can you explain it to me please? I’m trying to compare for something

The video was a little confusing

Same

People dont use this video as a self diagnosis

Thanks for sharing! How do you feel after watching it?

As someone diagnosed with BPD, thanks alot for your comment ❤️

@@Zimtblut no problem, anything to help a fellow friend (・∀・)ノ

@@unknownlittlelady :)

BPD gal over here, thank you!

❤ thank you for your kind comment.

I have friends who have BPD, one I was friends with before her diagnosis and one I knew she had it. We've had some crazy good times and also some very rough times together. It's not been easy, but as a person who also struggles with mental illness I've always stood by them as a pillar of support even when things got ugly. My story is not the only one... You will see others who write similar comments under the video :) I know you commented a year ago and I hope you are feeling a little less alone and grappling better with the realization of where and how your trauma developed alongside who caused it. I wish you all the best and for you to know that you are not alone ❤️

Your feelings count just as much as hers did. Remember that. Also...The entertainment world is a cluster b hive

Sorry you had to bear that, my friend. I hope youre in. abetter place now

aww that’s a good idea! i hope they were understanding 💕🥺🥰

I wont even tell since it would make me seem crazy and or them telling me to man up or grow up or some other stupid shit like that since im a male

@@user-xw4od8kb7y that sucks

I just did the same. I sent the video to people that have cut me off due to BPD. I'm actually proud of myself, because one of the main issues for me is to be ignored and feel abandoned. I'm taking a risk by sending the videos, because if they don't respond, it could could send me back into the thoughts of abandonment. Instead of being fearful of abandonment, I'm telling myself, that the fact that I'm taking a risk, is inner strength. I hope that made sense.

@white guy of narnia LMAO i added it years ago but yeah it's pretty cringe

If you don’t mind me asking do you have different effects after arguments than an everyday person and if so what are they? (if you don’t feel comfortable answering I understand)

@@Rain-vk5mk i dont mind! What do you mean by effects?

People with BPD do have empathy so yeah I'm with you here. The problem is not everyone is aware of it like you are and many others here. Without them knowing what is going on with them well is really hard.

@white guy of narnia Thanks for sharing I am called insensitive a lot so I wanted to try and be understanding I’m not trying to get in your shoes cause I know I can’t unless I experience it but I wanted to get a little feedback to get an idea, thank you very much :)

im crying

i feel you so deeply i didnt even realize this is a thing and im sorry ur going through this and i just hope we can see a way out of it. sending you so much love xx

Uh oh. Pretty sure I have bpd. Never related more to anything in my life.

I know the pattern and it is so exhausting and unfulfilling

No worries!

@@Psych2go yesss i am really grateful you guys raise awareness on these so called taboo topics. You really change the world for the better and help educate people on these not so known and misunderstood disorders. Keep up the great work and raising awareness!

ME TOO! FINALLY

Same

I'm not sure, I show some symptoms, such as chronic feelings of boredom, a fear of abandonment, suicidal thoughts and a shifting self image, but I'm sure its something else.

Bailie Warren I think my moms side and my sisters have bpd since people have told me I’m bipolar

Don’t self diagnose guys ;-;

Yeah I don’t think everyone is on an extreme end. It’s a spectrum. I have quite bpd I only get very bad under big traumatic events. And even then if I have support I can handle things way way better.

Yes, I believe this topic was a request from a while back when we had one for depression and anxiety..

Psych2Go could y’all please make a video on what not to say to someone with autism

@jacob. yeah ikrr people r very rude and socially awkward. It most often has to do with lack of knowledge and proper education. It says more about them. They should know better. They have no right to put people into boxed and use their disorder as a handicap when most often people with disorders still become successful and r no less than others. Keep being you!!

Sending hugs 💜

Yes, my mother passed in 2012, I never knew about that. She did was abusive, toxic, manipulative, unpredictable triggers. My father was too stupid to call police. Later they got divorced and us kids, have moved away very far. And we did not want to see our father since he allowed her behavior go awry. That’s very unforgivable! He passed 2010. We didn’t attend their funerals too.

@@rbsmith3365 it's very unfortunate to hear that, but it's entirely understandable why you would hold a grudge and be upset at them both, regardless if your mother had a mental condition. It isn't right that your father never did anything either. I do hope over the years that you've been able to find some sort of closure for it all though. I wish you well

@@katieeberts9668 Hello, my 2 siblings did hold grudges but not only her. Father too. My grandparents have told me that both of them if you want to get married. Says that, My father came from poor family. HS drop out. Then in navy,. Drop out too. Smoker. Bad candidate. Neither compatible. My grandparents wants him to follow their path. He refused. Our lives were up and down. He made her life miserable. And mother got anxieties like clingy, needy, toxic, and more. But why didn’t they divorced in 1968, ‘73, ‘75 ?? And so until 1983 when, I was in college and my relatives and, I were unaware that she have moved out. And my father gave her up. Later father remarried. He wasn’t completely honest with young stepmother and relatives. And blamed us kids about mother’s problems?!? Didn’t respect boundaries while, I was growing up. He cannot be trusted either. And, I was unaware he got divorced again. Until he was dead at 69.... Smoking kills him. All of us have moved on from them. And it damaged to my siblings too.

maybe don't comment this on a space for people with bpd?

@@colorbar.s No, I have quiet bpd and comments like this are important because even tho we individuals with bpd go through hell everyday we don't often speak about the "victims" of bpd the people that we hurt. I think it's great that they can share their experiences and understand each other. But I also want to remind everyone that not all bpd individuals are like that. I know for a fact that a lot of them are just nice people who only want to feel better and live a decent life.

Remember that your feelings are just as important as hers. What people with BPD tend to do is make everyone around them prioritize the BPD-Sufferer's feelings over everyone else's. You are not a doormat. It's not your job to "fix" her.

You have the right idea.