Depression and hair - How to detangle your hair when it's really knotty

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Depression and hair - How to detangle your hair when it's really knotty

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Bit of a different video for me as we chat about how to deal with knotty and tangled hair. I get a bit personal too and show you how my hair is after 3 days of wearing the same hairstyle while in isolation. READ MORE ---
I have a lot to say on this topic so it's a longer video than normal, but my main tips are:
- Don't feel bad about your hair
- Show your hair some love
- Always be gentle
- USE MORE CONDITIONER - this is key to detangling
- Use a brush with flexible bristles
(I'm using the Glide Flexibrush which is available from salons - this is a similar style you can find online amzn.to/3ps8aS8)
I also used the SheaMoisture Coconut leave in spray - available here - bit.ly/39eDsqd
Also I talk about how depression can change your hair and other factors that affect your hair too.
I really hope this helps and if you're struggling, please call a friend and see your doctor. Here are some numbers you can call:
AUSTRALIA
Kids Helpline - 1800 55 1800
Lifeline - 13 11 14
USA
LifeLine 1-800-273-TALK
CANADA
LifeLine 1-833-456-4566
UK
The Samaritans - 116 123
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Christina xx

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@thecheapweeb7595 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you. I haven’t brushed my hair for two and a half months and I didn’t know what to do,but this video helped me. I’m fourteen and I haven’t really taken care of myself either

@missmarston4953 3 жыл бұрын

Hun I felt that Recently I've been kind of motivated to get myself together If you ever need a motivation buddy, I'm here :)

@bloop1403 3 жыл бұрын

same

@cristelmejia7793 3 жыл бұрын

Me and you literally have the same situation😅.. I'm watching these videos and then dont brush my hair 😐 because I always watch them veryyyyyy late at night

@missmarston4953 3 жыл бұрын

Update: got a pixie cut because it was so bad 😏

@bloop1403 3 жыл бұрын

@@missmarston4953 that’s great if it’s better for you than I support it :)

@nonyabizness956 3 жыл бұрын

I looked up this video when I realized that my hair was basically one solid piece. Quarantine and this year in general has really taken its toll and I'm really grateful for this video

@Hairromance 3 жыл бұрын

thanks for watching and hope you're doing ok 💛

@lyric-jadedevine7425 3 жыл бұрын

Going through this now and trying to get it out 😫 how’re you doing now?

@taehyunstapiocapearlinkiga1770 3 жыл бұрын

@@lyric-jadedevine7425 did you figure out how to get the whole knot out 😩

@daniellesolo4776 3 жыл бұрын

Mine’s in the same state right now: terrified I won’t get it out, but hoping I can at least get it to a more “separated” // normal state

@lifeisapain2284 3 жыл бұрын

The last time I had a major knot my mum cut it out, and now I have a big piece of hair missing in the middle of my head. At least you can’t see it when I have my hair in a ponytail

@kimberligalvez2014 4 жыл бұрын

this made me cry.. you are compassionate.

@Hairromance 4 жыл бұрын

❤ lots of love! Hope you are doing ok 💕

@R.A.A. 3 жыл бұрын

Kimberli Galvez I was just gonna say that ... All we need the most sometimes is Compassion & kindness.

@R.A.A. 3 жыл бұрын

Hair Romance I don't know what you said exactly that in less than 2 minutes I choked on my tears, I pause it, Here to tell you that am here as a form of fighting back, trying to lift up my spirit, It's really hard leaving the bed, but I miss me ... What's hurting the most isn't how I used to look, "how I to used to feel ... Full of life." You made my day Angel , I really can't remember the last time My eyes filled with tears .

@barbaragray4309 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you ,my hair is long & ties up in knots when I wash it,I will try this& hope it works,............

@Hairromance 3 жыл бұрын

@@R.A.A. hope you're doing ok 💛 thinking of you!

@mycutecatfelix9845 3 жыл бұрын

I have a horrible case of hair depression. I always cover it and refuse to let anyone see it or touch it.. I can’t even tell you how long it’s been since I even attempted to try and brush it out.... but today I am going to really honestly truly start to brush it out. Without giving up. Even if it take a few days... thank you for making me feel that I’m not alone. Even the people in the comments that aren’t afraid to tell their story. It’s brave and exactly what I needed to hear; so thank you to everyone in the comments for also making me feel like I’m not the only one because for a long time I thought I was the only one. Sorry for the long sappy post but I meant every word. Wish me luck and if you want to stay updated on my journey just leave a comment and I’ll keep you updated! Please no hate. Depression can honestly do this to you and much worse. All it takes is one day of feeling okay to take a stand. Anyways now I’m rambling. Here I go! I’ve got this..

@Hairromance 3 жыл бұрын

thank you for sharing 💛 put on a new series to binge watch and make the process more fun - good luck!

@rezinate1700 3 жыл бұрын

How did it go?

@mycutecatfelix9845 3 жыл бұрын

@@rezinate1700 I finally brushed it out! I feel so much better I wish I could post pictures on here!!!

@skittlessunshine5518 3 жыл бұрын

@@mycutecatfelix9845 ahhh yay!!!! I know the feeling. Just to run your fingers through it again is amazing 🙂

@unapologeticallyJax 3 жыл бұрын

ya right now mine is in a solid pancake mat... at the back like a huge dread. This is horrific.. im 51 and in 30 yrs of having long hair i have NEVER let my hair get like this. I am way beyond the lovely girl in the vid... but i have also you tubing girls with black hair that easily gets matted and ppl getting dreads out that have gone matted. I am white... but i really appreciate the vid and comments... knowing i am not alone. a month of depression hair up in a bun all day and night and not dealing with the tangles that started like the girl in the video has.... at that time ... has left me scared i wont get it out either. Gonna keep trying. Will update on here if i get this damn thing out.

@helloiamtiredallthetime.631 3 жыл бұрын

I’ve been depressed for 9 years without any help for it, but I’m at my worst right now with my hair, because of quarantine. My hair is so knotted. I am trying to force myself to finally brush my hair, but there’s so much. I’ll edit when I can, and how it went. Edit: I brushed through most of it, but still have a good chunk in the back. I’ll have to take a shower to get rid of it. Edit 2: YES, I FINALLY BRUSHED THROUGH IT! I’m so proud!

@Hairromance 3 жыл бұрын

I'm so proud of you too! I hope you're doing something kind for yourself today 💕

@helloiamtiredallthetime.631 3 жыл бұрын

@@Hairromance Thank you so much! I did some baking, and am drawing right now! Both help my mental health a lot :)

@Hairromance 3 жыл бұрын

@@helloiamtiredallthetime.631 love that 💛💛💛

@lyric-jadedevine7425 3 жыл бұрын

How long did it take, haven’t brushed mine since November and I’m finally getting it done now, it’s seems to go on and on

@helloiamtiredallthetime.631 3 жыл бұрын

@@lyric-jadedevine7425 It took a good while, but it gets better and easier as time goes on. I know it’s very difficult, and feels impossible. You can do this, and I’m here for you.

@lexjordan691 3 жыл бұрын

I’m bawling, I needed those first 3 minutes of this video. We all blame ourselves and I was about to rip a brush through my hair but I’m willing to take the time to slowly de-tangle it

@Hairromance 3 жыл бұрын

hope you're ok Lex 💛 be kind to yourself 💛

@lexjordan691 3 жыл бұрын

@@Hairromance thank you I’m doing much better🥺

@Hairromance 3 жыл бұрын

@@lexjordan691 I'm so happy to hear 💛

@deborahgayle9693 3 жыл бұрын

I just found this video and I’m crying watching it, I just got out of an abusive relationship... and I’ve been wearing my hair in a bun for 2 weeks now... 😩 it’s so bad

@Hairromance 3 жыл бұрын

Hi Deborah, I'm so glad you're out of that relationship! Hope you're ok and taking care of you now 💛

@656babydoll 3 жыл бұрын

Try the biosilk therapy. U can find it at winners or home sense at a lower price. I use it and it makes a great improvement.

@yourlocalwhore6917 3 жыл бұрын

School had came back and I felt so drained and tired that I couldn’t even untangle hair. It’s currently a mess, I don’t have depression, never been diagnosed but school stresses me out a lot. Thank you!

@Hairromance 3 жыл бұрын

hope you're ok! 2020 is a lot 💛 good luck with school and be kind to yourself xx

@nikkifortner2874 3 жыл бұрын

UPDATE‼️‼️ So.. while what she said is obviously good advice, it wasn't anything the majority of us didn't already know. It was her DELIVERY that sealed the words in. Her kindness. Patience. Love. Just her. It was her. As far as this method working for me, idk. If it goes the way it did yesterday and I can't find another way to get this damn thing out my head, it'll probable take over a week😑🥺 My hair is halfway down my back. . Right now tho, its not even hitting my shoulders. I get really bad panic attacks which bring in depression. I honestly can't even tell you when the last time I actually washed and brushed my hair was. Its all just one huge knot. 3 minutes in to this video and I'm already loving everything about it. Whatever you say to do, I'm gonna try and then come back to update 🥰 Wish me luck 🤣🙌

@Hairromance 3 жыл бұрын

Thanks Nikki, sending you a big virtual hug and hope you're ok 💛

@lilkittenxo3054 3 жыл бұрын

I can’t thank you enough for this video. Last month I experienced homelessness to the fullest. My hair is in between 26-28 inches long and was stuck in a bun for 32 days. I didn’t have access to a brush or conditioner. Now that I am getting back on my feet, trying to brush my hair has been a nightmare. This video really gave me comfort while working through! I have a few more sections to go and I feel amazing. Thank you!

@Hairromance 3 жыл бұрын

I hope you're ok, I'm so glad you're here 💛

@swilliams5554 3 жыл бұрын

I can’t even separate my hair into two sections. When I take my bun down my hair stays in a ponytail shape even if I shake my head. Hair is matted to my roots. Really nice video, thank you, we need more honest content like this on KZfaq

@jianhaotanswife7799 3 жыл бұрын

Me too, havent brushed it in 3 months

@Hairromance 3 жыл бұрын

thank you 💛💛💛 and I hope you're doing ok now. Be kind to yourself 💛

@AlexeJade 3 жыл бұрын

Mine too. I have 3 huge knots

@sagescott580 2 жыл бұрын

Mine too… haven’t brushed since February

@savannahbanks 2 жыл бұрын

Months, me! Depression.

@legendcc1 4 жыл бұрын

I wish there were more people like you in this world 💖

@Hairromance 3 жыл бұрын

thinking of you 💛

@ceci1ist 2 жыл бұрын

this is the third time this year that this happens to me. I just get so upset about my knots that i just avoid it all together. I finally got the courage and just listening to you while i do it just helps so much. A lot of people get really embarrased about this including me. Thank you, you aare helping so many right now.

@HarMarz07 3 жыл бұрын

I'm so thankful for this video... its been almost three month of me putting my hair in the same bun or leaving it up because my depression and anxiety. My hair is usually below my bottom but it is so matted that ts just below my shoulder blades. It's gotten to the point where I just cry and cry... but the sweet way you explain And the self love you promote had inspired me to take care of myself. Thank you.😭🥰

@dianapoirier7176 2 жыл бұрын

Please My Friend Love 💕😘 yourself enough to 1 take care of your body push yourself here if you need pain relief go to drs and demand it from this world 🌎 and people if you need mental health go to Dr or group therapy for yourself then take care of your body then your environment fung shway then once you can care for yourself you can care for others in your life or it'll be easier to get a life 🦋🕊️ live sweetie 🥰😘 DON'T WORRY BE 😊😁 HAPPY PLAY THIS SONG AS YOU GET TO BRUSHING, BUBBLES BUBBLES IN THE TUB WASHY WASHY SCRUB, SCRUB, SCRUB,,BE WELL GOD LOVES YOU ,YOUR GUARDIAN ANGEL LIKE VES YOU 😇😘🕊️& I LOVE YOU TOO🥰 🙏

@zoelemon1851 4 жыл бұрын

My hair has gotten so knotted and greasy that I just want to cut it all off. I beat myself up for not being food at taking care of it but I was never taught how. Thanks for helping, ill do this now.

@Hairromance 3 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching and I hope you're doing ok 💛

@GentlethemJoey 4 жыл бұрын

Depression hair is real. I usually just yank a ton of it out as I brush it to death. Is that not the right way? Lol. Thank you for this, hopefully it won't be so painful next time.

@Hairromance 4 жыл бұрын

Hope you're doing ok, it's an extra tough time now. Lots of love 💕

@hayleeperkins3007 3 жыл бұрын

My hair is crazy. I haven’t washed or combed it in like a week. Ugh. I hate it.

@valeriapebble 2 жыл бұрын

Start by using a rat tail comb to gently pick apart the mats, then liberally apply leave in conditioner or just regular conditioner, and brush from the bottom first to get out the knots. I'm a student hair stylist and I have a client who I'm helping, and I just slathered leave in conditioner and got to de-tangling. We've brushed for 3 hours so far and her next appointment is tomorrow so we're gonna get it all fixed for her ☺️

@adriannisifonte2368 2 жыл бұрын

@@valeriapebble God bless you!

@valeriapebble 2 жыл бұрын

@@adriannisifonte2368 💖 I hope it helps. I finished her hair in 5 hours using that technique! We were really crunching for time, but it caused her minimal pain.

@Melissa-zw1ft 4 жыл бұрын

Agreed here. Sometimes you can only “be happy and all positive” only so much. Sometimes it’s easier to deal with (a little) sadness and do the minimum with hair and makeup.

@Hairromance 4 жыл бұрын

thank you, it's a bit of a rollercoaster right now, right? Hope you're ok 💕

@ayeasha1961 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much. Ive been sitting here for days so upset with what my depression has done to my hair. I needed to see this so badly. I cried

@Hairromance 3 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching and I hope you're ok Ayeasha. It's going to be ok xx

@ashleyb5552 3 жыл бұрын

I feel so heard, seen, and validated. I thought this was just me. It’s been almost 2 1/2 months since I brushed my hair. I’m so scared, but I need to do it & I know I’ll feel so much better

@rachaelcooke6108 3 жыл бұрын

I’m 17, I struggle with anxiety, my hair touches the floor, and I have a very demanding schedule, I also have a very sensitive scalp. This video is a new life for me!! ❤️❤️

@Hairromance 3 жыл бұрын

wow your hair is so long! So glad I could help 💛

@elizabethb6 4 жыл бұрын

Been laid off and working in the yard everyday. I am a curly girl and my hair is a mess... thank you for this video. Going to give my hair some more love!

@Hairromance 4 жыл бұрын

💕 sorry to hear, hope you're ok and thinking of you xx

@susanstutts8001 2 жыл бұрын

Hi I was in the hospital with cancer for along with no one that would help with my hair.everytime I got home I ended right back in the hospital. I am69 and my hair is so matted in the back and feels hard in some places. Please help me I refuse too cut it it's my best assett

@raspberryghost7372 3 жыл бұрын

I have bad depression hair I thought of shaving it since it's bad bad but I want to try my hair is a big confidence holder for me I want to try first before just saying Chuck it. So far 1 quarter is detangled and it's not the worst yet. I use to just sit in a tub of warm water that would eventually turn cold to sit there and untangle my hair your video helped me to not be angry at my hair but to be a bit more gentle. Thanks,❤

@Hairromance 3 жыл бұрын

thank you 💛 detangling is normal and we don't need to make it uncomfortable or a punishment, it can be relaxing if you make it that way 💛

@peytonnicholson 3 жыл бұрын

I lost three family members in 3 weeks, I've been neglecting my personal hygiene along with brushing my hair. I just keep it in a bun 24/7. tonight I had a bit of motivation for the first time in 5 months, I washed my hair, found this video and got my hair detangled after not having the motivation or energy to brush it for 4+ months. it took 3 hours, but I did it thanks to you and your video. thank you. having my hair cleaned and properly brushed made me smile, genuinely, for the first time since the losses.

@Hairromance 3 жыл бұрын

oh I'm so sorry for your losses, that is so sad. thank you for spending some time with me and I hope you're continuing to be kind to yourself 💛💛 thinking of you

@BeegirlsHoneyHouse 3 жыл бұрын

This is lovely~thank you and all for sharing..I’ve joked with myself(🤦‍♀️) about my pandemic, quarantined remote work-stuck at home, tangled matted hairdo. I’m single, live alone and have minimal social interactions. My hair is dreadful and I’ve had an awful experience every-time I’m working it. Now I’m ready to follow your guide and gentle approach.🌎💚🌀✌🏽🎁tyvm Love

@Hairromance 3 жыл бұрын

thinking of you and sending a virtual hug 💛

@abnormia 4 жыл бұрын

Omg this was exactly what I needed. I didnt wash my hair in a week and when I finally got my hair in the shower it took me probably half an hour to detangle. I have curly hair so i dont brush it unless I'm in the shower with a fook ton of conditioner. Youre a life saver ^^

@traceymurphy4804 4 жыл бұрын

Amen, sister...

@Hairromance 4 жыл бұрын

Hope you're doing ok! I had to go through this again today so be kind to yourself 💕

@TheShadowgal1 3 жыл бұрын

Christina, thank you so much for this. I manage depression and am dealing with 2 autoimmune disorders, which led to losing half of my hair after Christmas. As it's growing back during the pandemic, it's often in the same bun for several days at a time, and dealing with the tangles when the time comes can be daunting. I appreciate your openness about your own experiences, and words of encouragement. 💛🇨🇦

@Hairromance 3 жыл бұрын

Hope you're doing ok and I really appreciate your lovely comment xxx

@carole7538 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for making this. I had my second baby in April 2020 & got diagnosed with postpartum depression less than 2 weeks later. I’m 4 months postpartum now & experiencing god awful postpartum hair loss to the point where I’m scared to brush my hair. It’s nice to know I’m not alone.

@Hairromance 3 жыл бұрын

you're definitely not alone xx take care of you xx

@shernfx3321 3 жыл бұрын

This made me very emotional. My hair has been matted for awhile now because I’ve been too embarrassed to do anything about it/ask for help. Thank you for making this.

@Hairromance 3 жыл бұрын

you're not alone 💛 make it a nice thing to do and take you're time. I hope you're ok cc

@aliviajohnson7733 3 жыл бұрын

If you had to go through this I’m so sorry and I’m so proud of you no matter what my friends motivated me to get up and take care of myself if you ever feel alone I’m here I needed the help and I had the right people to help and if you need the right help you can always talk to me

@-Cece 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you Christina! You are spot on with the symptoms I struggle with. I suffer from thick matted curls, super tender scalp, and long tresses that I don't want to spend the time fixing. And this is a reflection (pun intended) of the lack of love for myself. Mind blowing revelation here!! Since working from home (and even before) I often put my hair up and took it down multiple times a day stressing it further. Thank you for discussing this very important and real topic. You are the first I have seen to acknowledge mental health and hair struggles as being connected to each other. Thank you for sharing your love!

@Hairromance 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you! And hope you are doing ok. There's such a collective stress at the moment and it can come through in so many ways. It can help to recognise any symptoms so you can bring back that self care. Sending you lots of love 💕

@traceymurphy4804 4 жыл бұрын

Thanks so much for this. I have been so sad and not carrying how my hair looks and its a rats nest. So necessary right now!

@Hairromance 4 жыл бұрын

Hope you're doing ok 💕 be kind to yourself xx

@1990cb 3 жыл бұрын

Reading through the comments makes me feel so much better that I'm not the only one who has this problem! Not just the knotty hair but not having the motivation to actually brush it each day from depression/anxiety etc. I cannot stress how bad my hair gets sometimes when I get stuck in a rut Thank you for this video! You seem like such a lovely person

@Hairromance 3 жыл бұрын

thank you 💛 you're definitely not alone and I hope you're doing ok 💛

@markstevens1941 3 жыл бұрын

Your empathy & compassion is overwhelming heart felt you actually understand . Thank you so much your video really helped me I was so desperate.

@Hairromance 3 жыл бұрын

Thanks so much Mark, I hope you're doing ok 💛

@markstevens1941 3 жыл бұрын

@@Hairromance your welcome, everyday is a battle but with caring beautiful soul's like yourself makes me believe there is hope. People & family members don't realize that a kind word or understanding is enough for people with mental heath issues instead they ignore you , tell you to pull yourself together. Your words touched my heart as if you were talking directly to me it gave me hope & I managed to take the knots out my long hair & felt better afterwards keep shinning bright like the star that you are. Love, light & blessing's to you :)

@abidebythecurse 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for making this video. I have dealt with minor depression hair before, but today was my worst hair I've ever had, and I was scared of diving in to it because it had been a little over 2 weeks of not brushing and just popping it in a pony or bun for 2 weeks. This helped me know I could tackle this. It took a little over 30 minutes to gently brush it out, and I feel so much better. Thank you for making such a kind and caring video about this.

@Hairromance 3 жыл бұрын

thank you so much for leaving me such a lovely comment! I really appreciate it 💕💕 I hope you're feeling ok now too 💛

@ninasmith9804 2 жыл бұрын

I just sat at my kitchen table for 2 hours, while my mum brushed out my matted/knotted hair. My hair is extremely curly, and knots easily, and I just don’t have the time or will to brush it. This is the 3rd time this situation happened to me and was extremely bad. It came out though. Sit through the pain! It is so rewarding, and you can do it! ❤️

@_martinasaliba 2 жыл бұрын

I cannot thank you enough, seriously. I don’t necessarily think i have depression but I’m very unmotivated to do things such as shower, brush my teeth, make my bed etc and if i’m being honest, i haven’t brushed my hair in a week or so. Plus i have VERY curly hair so you can imagine how knotted it is right now. It’s currently 12:41 a.m, what i am planning to do is start working on myself. Tomorrow (or should i say, later today) I’ll make my bed, brush my teeth, go to school, do my homework, and spend the rest of my day working on my hair. I’m off to bed now, wish me luck guys :) I’ll keep you updated on what happens :)) Update: didn’t wash my hair. but i had a really good day. tmrw i don’t have school i’ll try washing it then. I did all my productive chores and im really proud. I’ll let you all know what happens :))

@toastscab6725 4 жыл бұрын

I’ve been depressed for a couple months now and my hair in awful and tangled horribly I hope this video helps:)

@Hairromance 3 жыл бұрын

thinking of you & hope you're doing ok 💛

@noorehqamar8442 3 жыл бұрын

@@Hairromance kindly help me to save my hair.. its a massive ball that i am unable to depart into a section. What product will works perfectly

@Hairromance 3 жыл бұрын

@@noorehqamar8442%F0%9F%92%9B there's no magic product, any conditioner will do and allow plenty of time. Relax and work slowly and you'll get there

@leadu161000 3 жыл бұрын

thank you so much! i suffer from depression and i didn’t wash my hair for almost 2 weeks, it had crazy knots

@Hairromance 3 жыл бұрын

thanks for watching! Hope you're doing ok xx take care xx

@jianhaotanswife7799 3 жыл бұрын

I havent brushed mine for 3 months. Also im so sorry. I am going through the same thing. Dm me in ig @igblinksofficial !

@moon9child575 Жыл бұрын

I hope everyone who finds this video is kind to themselves ❤️ Thank you for taking the time to share this.

@Linda-cq8yk 4 жыл бұрын

I love how your smile shines through your eyes

@Hairromance 4 жыл бұрын

😊 thank you

@KellenHillard1102 2 жыл бұрын

I lost my father unexpectedly almost 4 months ago. I've dealt with depression and anxiety throughout my life. Losing him has sent me spiraling into a depression deeper than I've experienced in over a decade. I haven't brushed my hair since losing him. I've worn it on top of my head in a bun for months. It gets knotted, but it has never in my life been this matted. I came across your video to search for ways to help my predicament. I appreciate your kind words and tenderness when it comes to mental health. Watching your video made me feel loved. I particularly liked how you sat down and did the video of detangling your own hair... walking the viewer through the process, step by step, using yourself as an example. Thank you for sharing this video. It brought me peace, comfort, and hope tonight that everything will be okay. 💜

@beansprout4431 3 жыл бұрын

thank you so much for this - i have waist length wavy hair and it's been a tangled mess for at least a week now thanks to depression creeping back in. i was getting really discouraged and felt like i should just chop it all off. but i think the message here is clear - i just need to take better care of myself and show myself love, and that includes my hair!

@Hairromance 3 жыл бұрын

thank you for watching and I hope you're doing ok 💛💛

@Happyrunner27 3 жыл бұрын

I found your video because my hair is constantly knotting. Wow, I did not expect you to stir up my feelings. Even though the video was slow for my liking, I needed to slow down and have the mindful moment. Thank you!

@Hairromance 3 жыл бұрын

thanks for taking some time with me 😊💕

@gojoramsay 2 жыл бұрын

thank you so much for this video i cant even appreciate you enough ❤️❤️ i didnt brush my hair for 2 months straight during quarantine and i was able to comb thru it all and i told myself i’d never let it get that bad again but here i am a few months later and i haven’t combed my hair in 3 months. it’s so bad and i’m so ashamed of it but your words are so encouraging, thank you genuinely ❤️❤️

@TheBombshellBabydoll 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much. I'm 4 months postpartum and I went over a week not brushing my hair. When I tried, I cried because I felt like such a failure at life. I am suffering from some pretty severe depression and I was so worried I would have to chop off all my hair. The very idea of attempting this task brought on panic and your video really made me feel better. I can barely get myself to shower and to know that I'm not alone brings a heavy weight off my shoulder

@Hairromance 3 жыл бұрын

you're not alone 💛 I'm glad you're here

@ecampbell5837 3 жыл бұрын

I have been there, my heart breaks for you. It will get better. Little bit at a time.

@kita3256 3 жыл бұрын

You are an angel. Thank you. This was so beautiful because it really matters to depressed people like me.

@yabokuyui1701 3 жыл бұрын

I'm grateful for this video. Although my hair is probably too far gone and i'm going to shave it, it's nice hearing that others understand.

@Hairromance 3 жыл бұрын

you;re not alone and I hope you're feeling ok xx

@chihuahuainacone 3 жыл бұрын

I know this is months late, but there's not really such a thing as "too far gone". I used to go to cosmetology school, and we literally would untangle people's dreadlocks! If we can untangle matted hair like that, anybody's hair can be untangled with enough patience. (: If you can't find the will or energy to untangle it yourself, there are salons or cosmetology schools that can do it for you.

@abbeybevan8225 Жыл бұрын

this is making me cry, thanks for looking out for us when we cant do that ourselves

@CYndibabI 3 жыл бұрын

reading the comments make me cry a lot are going through so much! I suffer with heart problems and it’s caused me not to be able to care for my hair then ending up in the hospital often and those horrible pillows with bad pillow cases really matted my hair so bad plus being in bed most of the time! I’m just in tears 😭 my hair is so bad I hope I’m able to get it unmatted yes I need help I’m not able to do it! prayers for everyone here going through a rough patch! thank you for this video 😘

@Hairromance 3 жыл бұрын

💛💛💛 that's a lot, I hope you are doing ok xx thinking of you xx

@alexthebudgie9071 3 жыл бұрын

I haven’t brushed my hair in 2 week and not properly in months. I’ve decided to do it before my shower. Thank you for this guide.

@Hairromance 3 жыл бұрын

hope you're doing ok 💛

@vanessab9499 3 жыл бұрын

I am soo happy I found this. Between personal life issues , becoming a first time mom and covid I feel like my hair is always a mess. My hair has been so important to me my entire life and I do not feel like myself . I feel ashamed and embarrassed most of the time but this helps very much. I appreciate this so much thank you , your an angel! Xoxo

@Hairromance 3 жыл бұрын

thanks Vanessa 💛 I hope you're doing ok, I know you're a great mom

@franshescahenry6435 3 жыл бұрын

Thanks to your video I was able to detangle my hair without ripping it out, crying or almost shaving it off. It helped me have the patience to comb my coarse curly hair that had been put in a bun and left for 3 or so weeks because of moving and new pregnancy stressors. It was a stiff birds nest and took me 2hrs to comb through. Thank you greatly! I even felt soo motivated I did my eyebrows, waxed my upper lip and shaved/trimmed the rest of my body and I feel and smell like a QUEEN! 😊 I wouldn’t have done it all without your encouragement ❤️

@Hairromance 3 жыл бұрын

yay! Thanks so much Franshesca! 💛💛💛 That is amazing xxxx

@AlexeJade 3 жыл бұрын

I’m glad I’m not the only one. Left my hair in a bun for very long time and have 3 big knots. Feeling overwhelmed

@heathertempleton9974 3 жыл бұрын

OMG. I had no idea "depression hair" was a thing! I've been so horrified with how I could possibly have let this happen, but wearing a bun for 5 months during my mom's cancer treatment (and literally, shampooing it with the bun IN because I can't comb it!) has made it a nightmare. Thanks for your kind approach to this, I have never heard anybody even talk about this before. I feel so relieved I'm not the only one. God bless!

@Hairromance 3 жыл бұрын

you're not alone, and caring for someone is such a stressful time 💛 I hope you're doing ok

@ladystrange4769 4 жыл бұрын

And you’re very smart to start at the bottom. I’ve had arguments with “ professionals “ trying to comb from the top 🤬. I’m like how bout nooooo hence why I rarely get haircuts n when I do- I’m the one to detangle it for them breaking my arms. Lol

@Hairromance 4 жыл бұрын

oh that's awful! I would be grabbing the brush back from them too! x

@skittlessunshine5518 3 жыл бұрын

Omg your hair and hair color is gorgggeous

@ladystrange4769 3 жыл бұрын

@@skittlessunshine5518 awww thank you so much! I finally had a granddaughter with red hair after having 5 kids n 5 grands 😇 I’m in heaven !

@skittlessunshine5518 3 жыл бұрын

@@ladystrange4769 My mom is a red head and my cousin has that deep auburn red...i love it.

@ladystrange4769 3 жыл бұрын

@@skittlessunshine5518 that’s awesome both parents have to have the MC1R gene mutation to get a redhead hence why I had none myself because of the father. It’s always a nice surprise when it pops out like that🤗

@charlottsie2187 3 жыл бұрын

I really needed this today. My depression hair is the worst it has ever been and I've spent the entire night having a breakdown about it and trying to get it done.

@Hairromance 3 жыл бұрын

Hope you're ok xx

@charlottsie2187 3 жыл бұрын

@@Hairromance A week on and still working on it, there's a part at the nape of my neck I just can't get done

@Hairromance 3 жыл бұрын

@@charlottsie2187 thats a tough spot to reach, use more conditioner and keep working from the ends up to the roots. Is there someone that could help? It's good to ask for help xx

@charlottsie2187 3 жыл бұрын

@@Hairromance Okay so it took me two weeks, a lot of conditioner, a lot of tears and breakdowns and a lot of help from my boyfriend but it's finally done and time to make a change and look after my hair

@samanthacampbell375 Жыл бұрын

I have been searching for videos on how to detangle my hair. It was up in a "mess bun" for over 2 months. I battle with depression and care tasks always fall to the bottom of my list. When I came upon your video I was immediately beyond grateful. I suddenly knew I wasn't the only one who struggles with this issue. Thank you for creating a safe place not to feel judged and providing the tools and information that I needed to begin to untangle my hair. Thank you, thank you, thank you. 💛

@autumndeltoro1031 3 жыл бұрын

I’m a first time mom struggling with major postpartum depression, having never dealt with it a day in my life prior to having my son. I’m going on two months without brushing my hair and even longer without washing it. I haven’t even watched your video yet but I can’t begin to describe the relief and hope I felt as soon as I read the title. And I’m not sure if you’ll see this but I just had to try and reach out to you to thank you for the comfort that brought me.

@lyric-jadedevine7425 3 жыл бұрын

Just know you’re doing a great job, I know it’s hard right now but you’ve got this!!

@Hairromance 3 жыл бұрын

thank you 💛 you are doing so well and are a great mom 💛

@Hairromance 3 жыл бұрын

@@lyric-jadedevine7425 thanks for being so kind 💛

@zoelee3991 3 жыл бұрын

This video is 1 year old and I found it and I’m thankful . So much stress and depression I haven’t brushed my hair and it’s so embarrassing I went to 3 different hair places and no one could help

@alanamilligan7448 3 жыл бұрын

I literally ripped my hair out before finding this video and then I found it and cried cause for the first time it felt good to finally at least have enough energy to brush my hairs thank you so much

@Hairromance 3 жыл бұрын

thank you Alana 💛💛 hope you're doing ok xx

@ohmanholyshiit 3 жыл бұрын

I see I’m not the only one who try’s to hide their tangled hair by making it a messy bun.

@lyric-jadedevine7425 3 жыл бұрын

Nope

@Hairromance 3 жыл бұрын

definitely not alone! 💛💛💛

@KIM-ff2eq 3 жыл бұрын

This was a beautiful video. Everything well said. Also, detangling can take hours upon hours. If you have thick, dry, or coloured hair and let it go, patience and breaks are key!

@Hairromance 3 жыл бұрын

thanks so much Kim 💛💛 💛 and yes you're so right - patience and breaks are key!

@daraghflaherty8033 2 жыл бұрын

So glad I found this video. My depression hair continues to get worse and I'm too overwhelmed to do anything about it and embarrassed to go to a salon. The patience and non-judgmental approach of this video is just what I needed to finally deal with mine.

@damarisrodriguez5118 2 жыл бұрын

This is probably one of the most helpful videos I have seen on YT, on many levels.

@JenStriff 2 жыл бұрын

I just found this video and can I just say thank you so so so fricking much. You are a bright ray of sunshine during a very dark time for me.

@jewellheinlein9073 3 жыл бұрын

I love you! I'm sitting here crying because I'm scared to start the process and I can see my sadness in your eyes be at your still so positive. We really do need more people like you. Don't ever doubt how much these videos mean to people!

@Hairromance 3 жыл бұрын

thanks so much Jewell, that means so much to me xx I hope you're doing ok today 💛

@emsjen 3 жыл бұрын

Man... how do you explain feeling like someone is giving you the most compassionate hug thru a video! My hair is one big matted mess as my depression has been had me barely leave my bed in a week. I came on here looking for anything besides (hypothetically) soaking my hair in gasoline and lighting it on fire. Thank you... from all of my heart... thank you, not just for the hair info but for understanding and relaying info that some people fortunately will never experience.

@Hairromance 3 жыл бұрын

thanks so much Jen 💛 it's so hard for someone to understand when they haven't experienced it. I hope you're doing ok 💛

@susansplawski7573 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for this video! I totally get the depression/anxiety connection with curly, wavy, frizzy hair- its a lot of work! Exhausting. I sleep late due to depression and when I have to get up early I can’t deal with my hair. I put it up or throw a hat on. In a few days time I have an unmanageable mess and I don’t want to go out in public. So I watched your video and untangled my hair with you. I do feel better now. You are the first person to put words to this problem and I appreciate it.

@polymatheialearning 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for this video. I have been dealing with depression for longer than I care to admit and I am so glad to have come across this video at the right time.

@doryhanner7332 2 жыл бұрын

I really hate my job so I just throw my hair in a bun, I did that this week, usually wash it every 2 days but I got sick and when I felt better I took my hair down and it pretty much stayed due to matting because of my curly hair. This made me feel better because of the kindness and gentleness you presented. Thank you, never stop being you

@420orcagang 3 жыл бұрын

My depression hair is really bad (I’m talking the back is multiple clumps) and just seeing someone talk about all this wout the tips alone is truly special tysm, I’m a 24 year old chubby sad boi and my hair is the one thing that makes me feel like a princess. Seeing my boyfriend very soon and fingers crossed I can fix it all by then. Seriously again, tysm the fact this video exists is so lush and helpful

@Hairromance 3 жыл бұрын

Hope you're ok and glad you've got something fun to look forward to with your boyfriend! 💛💛

@ambbie2710 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for your patience and guidance. This feels really hard emotionally untangling because I realize how bad my depression is while doing so. I am so sad and it's hard to do this, it's been a month and I feel disappointed I stopped trying. While I'm untangling my hair reality just hits hard. Thank you for not leaving me alone during this process

@astriddelis6101 2 жыл бұрын

You are so sweet and calming thank you so much. This really be a stressful time but you made me feel so safe about this 🥹💕

@melodymoraguez7922 3 жыл бұрын

I just became a mom. Postpartum depression is REAL and painful and my hair also has been suffering because of it . Thank you so so much I’m crying

@Hairromance 3 жыл бұрын

thinking of you Melody! 💛💛💛 and the postpartum hairloss is so difficult and creates more tangles too. I hope you're doing ok 💛

@eg2839 3 жыл бұрын

I cannot thank you enough for this video, I have depression and anxiety, and a lot of stress going on that is out of my control, this has meant I've barely been functioning let alone living a full life, this isn't just lock down, this was pre covid, so I literally am doing what the least possible to be socially acceptable and to be able to keep my job to pay bills! Hair, personal hygiene, nutrition, home management have not got a chance of getting priority, as I'm forcing myself to get through my 40 hour job, so its bed to desk, desk to bed, only when I am forced to leave home for specific reason do I then think oh ssshhhh my hair!! Up till today I relied on my mother sorting it which would send my anxiety sky high and not to mention the humiliation of it all! I also have a hair phobia, where I am super sensitive to loose hairs, and can fixate on searching for 1 that I'm convinced is there when it probably isn't! Anyway, I watched this video and it was like having a big bear hug!! Truelly, you made me feel that I was able to get this done myself! It was not easy and mine just finished it now after starting it at 6.30am, so a good hour! It really was exhausting! The leave in shampoo on dry hair was the best! I have very fine flyaway hair and it knots easily as it's now lockdown long! Time for a short new look maybe?? Thanks again.

@Hairromance 3 жыл бұрын

Sending you another virtual hug, you're doing so well! Hope today is a good day for you 💛

@eg2839 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you! Just realised I put shampoo but I meant leave in conditioner.

@Hairromance 3 жыл бұрын

@@eg2839 💛

@tenshiisbored2643 3 жыл бұрын

i was actually freaking sobbing because i couldn't do anything with my hair in the state it was in. thank you for this video, it really helped. a lot.

@lyric-jadedevine7425 3 жыл бұрын

How’re you doing? My hairs currently a right state and I’m trying to get through it xx

@Hairromance 3 жыл бұрын

hope you're doing ok now 💛

@urusuurusu 3 жыл бұрын

this video is so nice and relaxing. i'm fourteen and have been putting my hair in a high bun for a month, maybe two now. i'm always ashamed of my hair and try my best to look decent. the back of my hair is so tangled and i've been scared to detangle it again because this is the longest i haven't brushed my hair. this has happened in many years of my life, but usually it's only a few weeks that i leave my hair. i plan on asking my mom and maybe my dad for some help, and i'm planning on cutting my hair shorter so it's easier to manage (and i have 3B hair and don't really know how to take care of it) i hope if other people are going through this, know you're not alone and some other people know what you're going through💕

@jeannesnodgrass8073 4 жыл бұрын

Thanks for making this video. My hair is short now but when I had waist length hair (curly 3b) detangling my hair gently in sections took at least 15 minutes each time. I just figured it into my routine and considered it part of having such long hair. Having a good attitude made this a peaceful time to slow down each day and enjoy my hair.💕

@Hairromance 4 жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing! That's a lovely way of looking at it 💕

@clem304 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much. I can't really express how much this video met me with kindness and helped me to care for myself better. Thank you.

@Hairromance 3 жыл бұрын

You are so welcome 💛 thank you for watching

@taediumvitae5613 2 жыл бұрын

You are an angel! You radiate kindness and empathy! While watching this wonderful video, I managed to untangle my waist-long hair which had turned into one huge matted ball. I feel so much better now. Thank you so much!

@judyb1539 3 жыл бұрын

Watching this with tears streaming down my face.I am not alone...thank you!!!!!!

@jordanindigo8411 3 жыл бұрын

thank you for the words of encouragement, i have depression and anxiety and i’ve had a knot so large i had to shave the back of my head , even after that i still get them and have to spend hours detangling. thank you for the advice.

@Hairromance 3 жыл бұрын

thinking of you 💛 hope you're doing ok 💛

@cone5139 3 жыл бұрын

thank you for this video ❤️ i’ve been extremely depressed and quarantine made it a lot worse, my hair is SUPER tangled. i’ve tried to untangle it before but i got frustrated and didn’t have the patience and motivation to. i want to finally try to untangle it completely because i want to get better, i want to live the life i want to and stop avoiding going out because of my hair.

@Hairromance 3 жыл бұрын

I hope you're ok Ivy 💛 it can be so frustrating but make sure you're nice and comfy and watching something fun and it will be easier 💛

@soniafox6411 2 жыл бұрын

Such a lovely video and message which made me cry at your words of kindness. Thank you for making this video. My hair goes to the dogs when I'm feeling low also and the longer it goes on the harder it gets to even think about sorting it out. I'm feeling quite empowered to condition my hair here now.

@stephyvandee11 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for this video and the time you took to create this, it really helped a lot because I don't want to burden or depend on people with my anxiety and depression, so watching this while brushing my hair with you too, is like spending time with a gentle, calm and loving friend.

@nisamskreuzer5891 4 жыл бұрын

Good job Christina! Omgosh, what a PIA tangled curly hair is and I can't tell you how many times I've ripped my hair out (not completely) in frustration and impatience. I say to myself, "nobody has this much trouble, it must be me!" Thank you again for your kind and gentle reminders to take time to be good to ourselves and consequently our hair. I would have more hair now if I had done that more in the past. BTW the shower works great for me and I have been known to lie on the bed and comb my hair out when my arms get too tired. 😳 yes, its true. And thank you for your honesty in talking about depression, it is a struggle for many and reassurance that you're not alone is always good. 💜

@Hairromance 4 жыл бұрын

thank you! You're definitely not alone! and hope you're doing ok in these surreal times xx

@alyssageline293 3 жыл бұрын

my hair is EXTREMELY knotty and is balled up with knots. thank you so much for this.

@Hairromance 3 жыл бұрын

hope you're doing ok Alyssa 💛💛

@kerrazee 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for being non judgemental and friendly. I appreciate your kindness ❣

@ticklemecolor 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for this video. We were in very low spirits and this compassion, instruction, reassurance was exactly what we were in need of. Our curls were driving us crazy in lockdown.

@Hairromance 3 жыл бұрын

Thanks so much Adriana, hope you're ok 💛

@moniquemccaulley1738 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much. Work and being tired and not taking time for myself left my hair matted and tangled. This helped me so much to take the time to love my thick curly hair again. 💞💖

@75Bigsistr 4 жыл бұрын

This has happened to me! Yes, we should be kind to ourselves. Thank you for the tips. You are lovely! ❤

@Hairromance 4 жыл бұрын

Hope you're doing ok in this surreal time 💕

@syfygamerchick 3 жыл бұрын

You are such a beautiful soul thank you so much. It's comforting to know that someone out there understands that sometimes it just isn't so easy to do something as "simple" as brushing your hair. Stay who you are ❤️❤️❤️🥰

@Hairromance 3 жыл бұрын

thanks so much 💛 the small tasks can be so hard xx

@awho33 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for being so genuine and real. I thought I was alone. I'm so overwhelmed because I have really long hair... Like past my butt...I've been keeping my hair in a bun for 2 weeks nonstop. It's overwhelming

@Hairromance 3 жыл бұрын

you're definitely not alone 💛💛💛 I hope you're doing ok Alicia

@kellypassalaqua3427 2 жыл бұрын

Aren’t you a love! Such a kind and loving tutorial on how to detangler your hair. This has helped me so much and I’m excited to try a leave in conditioner as I’ve been experiencing hair loss and my hair knots up into like a rats this you would say so I’m feeling more hopeful and I thank you so much sweet lady! 💖

@wereoneasystreet 2 жыл бұрын

After a lot of tears, conditioner, and ice water, I finally got through all my hair. I haven't brushed nor washed it since my friend passed. It was so so knotty and I had no idea how to comb through it or what to do. I found this video, and sat down, and brushed through it all. You don't even understand my gratitude at this, thank you so so much

@LuckyLioness369 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for your kindness and compassion. This helped me a lot.

@tamilakoshae3496 2 жыл бұрын

I’ve been suffering from hair depression during quarantine for about 3 months now, my hair is so knotty, and matted. I didn’t know what to do, I ripped through it, and used multiple conditioners, but nothing seemed to work. I finally was ready to cut it off. But now, it finally came out. And I feel amazing about myself, I’m now not embarrassed to have my hair down

@prisha_27 4 ай бұрын

Thank you for this. I lost a huge chunk of my hair during the quarantine because i couldn't take care of it. It hurt my scalp so bad that i ended up having to take painkillers. It made me lose hope and made me want to shave it off. I've been struggling with my hair for years and it leads to breakdowns. Today was the girst time in my entire life that I've been able yo remove all those knots patiently along with you. My hair looks pretty and it doesn't hurt.

@camlol5622 2 жыл бұрын

as of now I have gotten one side of my hair detangled and the other side is really bad but after watching this video o don't want to give up. I have my spotify playlist on and I am in my comfy clothes. thank you so much for this, I truly appreciate this