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Aww thats an great memory. You never forgot that kindness❤

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Aww that’s beautiful

i understand the thoughtfulness but i would be on the kill if my neighbour touched my daughter let alone bathed her!

I'm sorry that you were abused and neglected. Hope you get the support and the love you deserve. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

I have asian perents sooooooo

I am so sorry about the way you were treated. I agree this was a happy video

U truly are a Godsend❤❤you untangled her hair but you also ministered to her Spirit & soul..I felt the love, patience & understanding you gave to tend to her needs..hopefully she takes that love & it uplifts her in every way.. You made a lil girl a princess🥰🤗💕💕 I hope she takes that into her new life..I just felt the need to thank you cuz u r amazing🙏🏿🙏🏿God Bless❤😇

going through that right now people only care about us when were kids like under 18 but once we pass 18 99.9 % percent of people wont care about us anymore and treat us good...

Absolutely. I was in a group home and I caught lice. They sent me into the bathroom with scabies cream and told me to figure it out. Didn’t help me apply it, comb it, nothing.

@@brookecaudill9392 thats awful sorry u went through that

Right? That all by itself warmed my heart. So glad they reached out.

She sounds awful. I also have been unable to brush my hair for weeks sometimes. It isn’t like we don’t want to take care of ourselves. Wish people had the minds to understand that.

Judgemental af. I lost most of my teeth to depression and neglect, those kinds of tasks are the first to go when depression hits.

I had to get all my hair cut off due to depression. The matting happens so fast. It really was fast, in about a week of not brushing I could no longer get a brush thru it and the shame set in on top of the depression. I also have been neglecting my teeth so if I ever get better and start to care again I would think dentures are in my future. I struggle to shower as well. I havent been able to work in 6 months. I have never experienced depression like this and it's really debilitating. I have zero desire to do even the fun things i used to enjoy. All i want to do iis sleep. I barely leave the house because I think I gave agoraphobia too which is new to me. It started with the pandemic and I thought when the pandemic was over I wouldnt be afraid to leave the house anymore. Nope, uts even worse. I am sharing all of this so people can know the agony we depressed people go thru. The gal that took dare of my matted hair was so kind and gentle and that appointment helped the depression lift a little.

I’m sorry they made you feel bad, there are so many with you know that I’m sending hugs❤

Aww thank you all for your sweet comments. Literally making me tear up 🥹 manic depression is real and I wish there was more knowledge about it. Wishing you all the best and thank you so much 🥰

Bless you - all the best in future.🙏🏾

such a beautiful story, most don’t realise how important hair can be to women and their identity..

@@mariyastoyanova31 For sure. Especially if you’re already feeling vulnerable.

@@litespeedway6538 Thank you. You too!

If I may ask, what is it like to be in a coma? I heard that can still hear, but can't say anything back. Are you awake or in some kind of deep sleep?

Tangle teasers work too

My hair use to get like that all the time when i was kid not that big of a deal my dad was best at detangling it

@@JO-sk7fo her parents should never let her hair get that bad

@@notmyrealname4978 What parents? Did you read the title?

@@notmyrealname4978 She's in a group home after her family fell on hard times. Can happen to adults too where depression kicks in and you don't feel like you're deserving of love or kindness to your own self, don't judge just because you can't understand hard times and trauma, and mood changes that are severe enough to have something like this happen. I'm an adult, my hair gets SUPER bad when my depression kicks in and I don't feel like I deserve love or to treat myself with kindness. Sad you think this is all a "parents" fault, especially when it's a TEENAGER.

I bawled my eyes out at that part 🥹

So lovely ❤❤❤

@@Miranda0625Yes- I LOVE this channel. Hadassah and Co treats the whole person-not just the hair. It is amazing!

Right!! I almost cried hearing they threw her pizza party on the second day ❤️ Soo sweet

that‘s horrible! I'm sorry you had to go through this! ❤️🙏🏼

That hairdresser was bang out of order... You were a child! What caused that matting was neglect and depression - & *neither* of those were your fault. I'm so sorry that you went through this. Negative experiences from childhood are a heavy load to carry. It's important to realise that it wasn't your fault 💖 Wishing you happiness and healing x

This is so sad 😞 I can't imagine not tending to my daighters beautiful hair 😢 I'm sorry you weren't given the same care. I hope you have healed and are not at a place in your life where you can practice self care ❤

Same.

​@@georgina-a for real!!! even if a hairdresser yelled at or scolded a grown ass adult it would be SO out of line omg straight up derangement. you're being paid for a service, nobody is paying to be judged 😥

Thank you for your support. We will be accepting donations in the very near future.

@@love518salon wonderful. Can't wait to donate x

cant wait to donate!!!

This girl had TRAUMA to her. You were SO good to her!

Honestly, this is so sweet. And the way she got excited when they hyped her up and did the big cut 🥺❤️

You are an ANGEL. Thank you for taking such good care of her.

Bless you! What a genuine and amazing human you are. Thank you for the work you do. I hope your life is filled with joy

*tears. Thanks for being you.

What oil?

How you could fix her hair because My hair became matted😢??

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I have depression and at first I wasn’t taking care of my hair at all it looked so bad my mom had to cut my hair short in November I was in tears and I didn’t like the way I looked but my mom found pills that helps hair grow fast so I started taking them and now my hair is already close to my shoulders I love to play with my hair and now I get to do that again I’m never letting my hair get that bad again I don’t like having short hair but at least it’s really easy to take care of short hair

@@Manderz89 what pills? I've been trying to find good supplements. also as a life hack sort of, i siggest braiding your hair into pigtails or even a low braided pony. if youre struggling really badly with taking care of you hair, the braids will at least keep the hair together

@@nyct0phile The braiding will also help keep the hair from knotting up.

So so true. You let yourself and your surroundings go. It's hard to reclaim it too but when you do it feels so much better, like taking a shower after days. It's a hard road with mental illness.

@@Manderz89 their are NO pills that make your hair grow !

But shouldn't they have helped her to prevent this in the first place?

@@Tegdirb64 sounds like it was like that when she came to them already.

@@Tegdirb64 as Everly Nevins says below: "Sometimes life doesn't let you think about personal care." The staff can't physically force her to comb her hair. She was likely traumatized, depressed and in some sort of shock and just wasn't ready to deal with it yet. I've worked at facilities like that and most of the people I worked with really cared. But part of healing is not forcing someone beyond their physical/personal boundaries. It's impossible to "help" if someone isn't ready for it.

Look at the kids nails, do you still believe that she has been neclected so much as they try to make you believe .. ?

@@no.name.required it happens every single day of children going through neglect and @buse. Why wouldn't we believe a child?

Wow, what a cool job! I love that specialized hairdressers exist. I never heard of it but admire you so much for providing this service! 💖

So glad that you take care of the special needs cases, going to the hairdresser with sensory problems is hard

I’m not a hairdresser, but I do get called in to help a lot of people who go in as like a sort of therapy. I talk to them and keep them company and let them know they’re not alone. Because in my city there’s a lot of stigma to be perfect. To never let the world see you down. And that’s unfair. I’ve been through so much and I know how hard it is to not blame yourself for how you’ve been treated. I’ve made so many great friends by doing what I do. And I’ve helped close to 400 people just feel better about themselves and give them the support they’ve needed. I don’t get paid for this, this is something I started when I was in high school as a nonprofit with my neighbor who is a social worker and got permission and got me certified

@@xLadyBanana here's your award!! no one cares

wait they have specialized hairdressers? that wouldve been great growing up, my stylist just threatened to shave it off

Same. My mother cruelly always made me keep my hair long (it was past my butt) but she never wanted to comb or wash my hair so it was always severely matted and had lint in it. I was also tenderheaded. It was miserable and I was made fun of in school because of it. It was such a weight off my shoulders when I finally cut it off. Now I cut it into a short Bob when it reaches my elbows.

i wish all support homes were like this. sadly, there are terrible stories and some simply lack funding. we need to do better in making sure we provide well for such unfortunate children.

as an adult who recently tested in range for aspergers, it crossed my mind it's possible she's got undiagnosed issues such as autism maybe? I feel for kids in the system, deeply. And to have undiagnosed issues you have to mask just adds to the challenges. Thanks to this hairdresser and her coworkers/friends for caring for her so beautifully. Autism until recently was studied only in the context of how it affects males. So females never fit the profile because they are brought up very differently. Society has very specific, sometimes strict, requirements for girls and women regarding dress, behavior, interests, and expression. Today it is thought that instead of the ratio of autism being 4 boys to 1 girl, it is closer to 1:1.8. Girls are still highly under-diagnosed though. And the old stereotypes remain. "She doesn't look autistic. She doesn't act autistic" Because the brainy nerdy boy social outcast is what people picture.

Does the hair not get matted when it's short into a bob? . I have very long hair but struggle with personal care and my hair is matted right now

@@bettyjones5375 For me it was easier. Even a cute pixie cut. Requires very little brushing. The shorter the hair, the less care it needs in terms of styling or combing. Also easier to wash. As I say, in my personal experience, chopping my hair off was the best choice. It can always grow back once a person is on the road of recovery. 💗

Not to be that person but also I personally feel like saying "a phase where" implies clinical depression is just that, a phase.

@@maplemilkie Hence why I was talking about myself and my experience. It was a phase in my life due to various circumstances. Not to mention the context in which I used it is completely different to what you're implying.

@@everlynevins I see, I just think using the word "depression," which is actual mental illness, shouldn't be used to describe a state or feeling anymore as it implies it's just a simple state of mind but I believe I get what you're saying

I’m so happy to hear that… 🥰 Thank you for sharing this with me.

Lol I luv that! ❤️

@@love518salon I'm also a foster and adoptive mother. We've closed our home now, because we have 7 kids and my cancer is back, but I still do outreach with teenagers. The change you made in this child is so palpable. People see these kids and think they are no good because they don't have a "good" family, their clothes may not be great, or their behavior is not great. They are just kids though. You broke through some real walls in her emotional barriers. I'm crying just typing this. Thank you so much.

Wow

@@MSANTHR0P3 I am sorry to hear you have had cancer and that it has returned. I hope you are surrounded with love and support. I always ask if it is ok to pray for someone. If you would like me to, just let me know.

Well, you can't brush your hair when you are 11 or what? Why have to so depend on mom, even on brushing? When im at 11, i even know to cook for myself because my mom is working so hard to earn some money to feed and pay the bills. Stop blame everything but not yourself.

@@adw6894 calm down my man it's not that serious

​@@UlalaGo I mean they have a good point. You don't need your mom to brush your hair for you at 11 years old. If she stopped taking care of you, why would she have spent the money to go to a stylist? It more often than not is pretty expensive, especially spending hours of work like they did on this girl's hair.

@@adw6894 Sometimes parents don't teach their children basic skills. I had a cousin whose mom would still bathe him well into his teens. My boyfriend had no idea how to take care of his curly hair and his parents refused to teach him because they wanted him bald. I ended up teaching him even though I don't have curly hair. It just happens.

@@shutup6731 she took me to the stylist to avoid having CPS called on her ass lol but go off

This is such an important message that she's receiving by someone taking the time to help her.

U don't even think about it .that mother figure is so m.i.a ur just dealing through life and consistent mental stressers. These types abuse lead to bad adult choices . I hope she stays humble and true to her energy. These women have probably thought her so much in this scenario especially now she's puberty age. I know embarrassingly this happened to me from very toxic alcohol mom..gives me tears to see this ❤

But no one else around her couldn't do it? She had to pee during the day..she couldn't run a brush thru during?

It's pretty profound, when you think about it. Instead of cutting her hair off and making her start from zero, they salvaged it through patience, kindness, and gentleness. When bad things happen, you don't always have to lose everything.

@@leilanilogan40 have you ever been so depressed and lonely and hurting you stop caring for yourself? this poor child is probably struggling, she isnt thinking oh i should just run a brush through my hair. and we never know, its possible she went a few days and the damage was already done so she just didnt bother anymore.

@@leilanilogan40 We don't know the conditions in her home. When your self esteem slips so low you feel there is no point brushing your hair, nobody loves you, you're ugly anyway so why bother? And then it slips further because you haven't been looking after yourself. It's similar to overeating. Both are consequences and emotional protection from trauma. It didn't sound like she had any responsible adults in her life, nor any close friends outside school. It may be hard for you to understand how a 13 year old would end up like that, but that's lucky for you that you've not been in a similar place.

not everything is stimming yk, I'm neurotypical but have habits and behaviours that look similar to stimming

@renthemen. hey! Neurotypicals also stim, it's short for "self-stimulating behaviours," and it's an umbrella term for anything that falls under a repetitive motion or sound. So think knee bouncing and pen clicking, those are also stims. So yes, she is stimming. She is excited and expresses that excitement through the hand shaking as a means to self regulate. (This is coming from an autistic individual, I have a very dense relationship with stimming, and I also have tourettes, which can present similarly in some cases. So yes, I do know that not everything is stimming.)

@@renthemen. you can be neurotypical and stim lmao. its not a neurodivergent only thing, it's just more prevalent with them.

That’s what i was thinking.

Being in a group home means she's in the foster care system. I know if you're fostering children you're not allowed to show their faces on social media. I don't even think they're allowed to have their own accounts. I guess that carries to this situation too. Or maybe she was just being considerate, but I don't think most people would think that in depth. The girl probably knew she wasn't supposed to be on social media and told the hairdresser if I had to guess.

@@mirrors8913 owhno! This person always respects people their privacy and does it all anonymously.

@@mirrors8913 as a former foster child and someone who was in a group home and still talks to ppl working at said group homes, thEy are allowed to have their own fb accounts and whatever. And the group homes actually have picture albums of old kids who lived there. Foster parents aren’t allowed to show pics of kids under the age of 12/14 dependent on the child, then they can with their consent.

Yes!! This👆🏽👆🏽👆🏽💕💕

So many young girls need the warm loving environment that you created for her. You could take charge of a group home.

Best wishes ❤️

I'm a dog groomer & KNOW what matted hair is like to work with. So hard on the hands & body but these ladies did the most incredible work 👏 her hair is thick & beautiful 🥰

as a disabled adult, i used to have an incredibly hard time brushing my hair thoroughly as a kid. as i grew older i realized it would be easier to keep i shorter, and so i got it cut short. best decision of my life. i now keep it buzzed down most of the time

@@partyinthecloudkingdom different reason but my autism makes hair touching my face a real sensory issue, so i buzzed mine too!! much love

One time when I was 13 I had really baaaaad tangled hair. Maybe not as bad as this but really close to it. My hair was starting to be matted. I was staying with my dad for an extended period of time when I was used to my mom brushing my hair all the time. It was during Christmas vacation. Everyone kept making fun of me for it when I was just going through a tough time and I didn’t feel like brushing my hair. I finally untangled everything by myself. Spent at least an hour conditioning my hair in the shower. I finally did it, but it wasn’t an easy feat. It hurts and it is so frustrating when you try to detangle hair like this!! Amazing work

A volunteer organization would love to have your help.

I refused to take mine off for the longest time.

I am really happy to hear that you have a loving foster mom and are two years clean- an extremely difficult feat! I’m sure it doesn’t mean much to hear from a stranger on the internet but I am really proud of you

So glad you're clean!!!

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Well done on getting clean!! I got in H at 15, now in my 30's. In methadone. I can't believe I lost 20+ years to that drug.

you and your foster mom sound so sweet, proud of you for staying clean, mate

when I was a kid my mum would come and check if I brushed my hair... I didn't I just did what you kid did. She threatened to cut it all of since I don't deserves having long hair. I started brushing after that

My nine year old does brush but has trouble getting every spot. She gets this massive tangle at the back of her head under the top layer of hair if I don’t brush her hair for her at least once a week. She wants it long and it’s just so thick and wavy. I don’t mind helping her out but sometimes life gets busy and I forget to check on her hidden knots! Then it can take a long time but we have fun with it and pick a movie to watch sometimes while I work.

@@lindsaymoore5852 you're a good mum bless you ❤️🌞❤️

@Lindsay Moore This was my problem as a child! My hair is the exact same way and the brush wouldn't always go through enough and I'd have the same. They took me to a salon to get hair cut and they ended up having to shampoo my hair to get the knot out and my parents were embarrassed and mad at me, but I couldn't get it out on my own. I didn't want to go get my hair cut ever after that, not because of the person but my parents. Once they knew the problem though, my mom had to do the same and help me with my hair. Eventually they realized my brush bristles we're too short. So thank you for helping her brush that out and avoid the situation I went through.

I used to get the "nape knot" too, and my hair wasn't long either. I remember my mother basically tearing it out with a brush and comb..it hurt.

Kokichi kokichi kokichi

Why were our moms like this

my mom was the same way, but with doing my laundry.

@@daniiiakasha4711 a lot of moms have internal issues they have never worked through. They may have gone through the same thing growing up, learned to address a problems by yelling, and passed it on. There is a crisis in society with toxic femininity (yes I believe it is a more common problem than toxic masculinity but doesn’t show physical scars so isn’t talked about). I grew up with and am still surrounded by female bullies as a woman in my 30’s due to this issue. Ladies, we are more than how our mothers and women have treated us. It is possible for us to learn to be loving and nurturing even to ourselves!

My mom doesn’t yell.

I'm so sorry that you suffered that. Women should not be targets for men.

@@mellie4174 Nobody should be targets of anyone.

@@Teuwufel Yes, but please understand people are allowed to talk about one thing in particular at a time, without invalidating others.

@@ARGhostie It goes both ways.

@@Teuwufel Alm supoorters be like

I am so sorry that happened to you and no one was there to show you your value. You are loved and a valuable person.

@@vickyCA1643 thank you so much ❤️🥺

I have also struggled with depression. Chronic & acute to be specific, with anxiety as a side dish that noone asked for. Although I haven't had mats like this, my hair was the last thing I cared about. I can understand how this can happen. I sure hope that this young lady can come back and visit the Beautiful Soul that was able to give her this gift. Shout out to the other person that assisted her & the group home. Sending Love from Mo.

Same 😔

I'm clinically depressed and have bad anxiety issues. My hair got like this, so I just shaved it off. Nothin' wrong with it.

It's all in the body language. That little girl was *giddy.*

My 11 yr old (au) child struggles with hairdresser, she dislikes that they talk and she doesn't want to talk. During lock down I started cutting the hair myself, and they much prefer it. But I can't style to save myself 😐. Do you have any tips for trips to the hairdresser to ease my childs stress so they can have the haircut they want?

@@aquaenigma6285 Autistic adult here! The problem is probably a combination of being unsure what's happening, and sensory issues. Ask the hairdresser to tell your child what they are doing to the hair and what the next step will be, if your child wants that to happen, of course. If your child doesn't want any talk at all, maybe just ask the hairdresser to stay quiet. If the hairdresser dislikes the silence, maybe let them agree on some music? If you're usually at a bigger place, maybe switch to a smaller salon with less people. Also ask your child if there are any other parts of the process that are worse for the senses and see with your hairdresser if you can skip or adapt some steps. For example my hairdresser used to use hair dryers on me at the end, but I hated the heat and the noise, so I asked her to just let me leave with half wet hair and let it air dry. Talk things through with your child BEFORE leaving the house so that you know the two of you are in agreement on what will happen. (Also sorry to Kathleen for derailing your lovely comment)

@@martaj7614 thank you for your response, I appreciate it. I know my child just hates anything to with their hair, its definitely sensory and the same as you, the noise of the hairdryer is too much for them. I wonder if a home appointment might be less stressful? I can maybe get the hairdresser to visit first to talk things through 🤔. Your comment has definitey helped me think more outside the box, thank you 😊

Can I ask what helps you when you go to the salon to handle all the stimulation and noise?

@@aquaenigma6285 So sorry I missed this! (Please note, I know you have a lil' girl so the next few mention hims and he's are generic, speaking broadly about an autistic kid) . Tips I would recommend is conditioning them to be comfortable with earbuds (noise cancelling or swimming also cancels noise) maybe if you can play music through them, do it at a soft level or one good for stimmin' (every kid has a preference and the earbuds in ear won't stop the hairdresser's job). Then, kitted with my earbuds, I bring something to squeeze or work my hands with. The worst part is the hairdresser trying to make conversation, so maybe controlling the conversation so it's the adult and the hairdresser talking and not the person in the seat. Thinking I have to mask my rocking, or trying to act right when also having the vibrations of very sharp scissors near my ears and skin is very difficult... But these things help. If your kid needs to rock, suggest that the hairdresser leaves the footway open for nervous foot wiggling and teach the kid how high he's allowed to wiggle for safety. My foot bounce thing drives people up a wall but keeps me sane LOL (Speaking of earbuds, you might be able to find tracks online that tell him a story that's just long enough for a hair appointment, and you can gamify it by saying "I want you to tell me the 3 names of the main characters" or tell him "Can you tell me what color shirt?" And he'll focus on listening for that- that's another way you can make the appointment fun. If they have a haircut they want to go for, you can take breaks every 1/4th of the way through to do Grounding techniques such as Patty cake or some other hand to hand stim that doesn't rely on words. Check in with the lad or lass, let them know how far along they are, and reassure them that it's looking good so far! For grounding techniques in summer, small cracked ice cubes are great for holding onto and letting melt to keep focused on the task at hand. Plus, it's water and doesn't make a mess. We do really well with knowing times, so if you make a game out of waiting (IE: Alright, the first break he gets a sticker, second break he gets to look at ice cream flavors and pick it out ahead of time? Maybe helping relieve some pressure of making a decision at the ice cream parlor.. The third and second to last break could be another tactile game and hyping up "We're almost done! Last part to go!" Then the last time can be whatever jubilation or maybe offering a new play toy from his favorite franchise. Although this can't happen every time, from that moment on you can do the 1/4 method or a 1/2 and 1/2 method to check in, and he can have a way to measure his comfort zones and expectations. By normalizing the breaks, if needed, you can help ease the anxiety of not knowing how long to wait. I think for your lil' girl, the earbuds might do the trick. I would talk to her about the scissors, see if it's how the hairdressers might move too fast and poke. It could also be due to extrasensory sensations for the hair and head, sometimes getting the hairdresser to give a head massage with no shampoo can help re-callibrate the sensitivity of the head. When we think something bad might happen, just like soldiers, we get super sensitive to tactile. By dumbing down the sensory via tapping, massages, ect prior to a stimulating activity, we can calibrate and knock off the over reaction to pressure in some cases by not feeling it as pain but instead as pressure. Your girl might be super sensitive to her head and hair, I am too! Letting the hairdresser know "She's tender headed" can give them a protocol that makes it clear just as if they were working with an adult. *thumbs up*

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I'm sorry. I hope your life is happier now

Get out of group home. Group home is not good.

@@catladynikki2024 I mean at that point why not just say "don't be an orphan" most people don't want to be in group homes you sound very ignorant

I was in a group home and we weren’t allowed to have seconds ….

Same. And I'm so happy it did. These ladies are angels

How did you not notice she wasn't brushing her hair

@@romanaa7070 hats and other coverings possibly, but you also can't force someone dealing with executive functioning issues to deal with things like this, even a child. They have to do it in their own time, and there's a reason for it