Developing Boundaries in Healthy Relationships

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Dr. Dawn-Elise Snipes is a Licensed Professional Counselor and Qualified Clinical Supervisor. She received her PhD in Mental Health Counseling from the University of Florida in 2002. In addition to being a practicing clinician, she has provided training to counselors, social workers, nurses and case managers internationally since 2006 through AllCEUs.com Learn about boundaries signs of violations and how to maintain them. Summarize the characteristics of healthy relationships
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Developing Healthy Relationships
Dr. Dawn-Elise Snipes PhD, LPC-MHSP
Executive Director: AllCEUs Counselor Education
Objectives
 Describe the characteristics of healthy relationships
 Learn about boundaries signs of violations and how to maintain them
Boundaries
 Boundaries help people live authentically, respecting their feelings, needs and wants
 Boundaries are:
 Physical
 Affective
 Cognitive
 Environmental
 Relational
 To develop effective boundaries, you need to be clear with your partner who you are, what you want, your beliefs and values, and your limit
Healthy Vs. Unhealthy Boundaries: Physical
Healthy Vs. Unhealthy Boundaries: Affective
Healthy Vs. Unhealthy Boundaries: Cognitive
Healthy Vs. Unhealthy Boundaries: Environmental
Healthy Vs. Unhealthy Boundaries: Relational
Summary
 Characteristics of Healthy Relationships
 Trust
 Respect of the person and boundaries
 Honesty
 Independence
 Attention
 Awareness
 Understanding / Perspective Taking
 Self Confidence
 No jealousy of the other person
 Not using the person for your sole source of validation
 Personal responsibility for own happiness and behaviors
 Balance / Reciprocity
Summary
 Characteristics of Healthy Relationships
 Caring / Compassion
 Commitment
 Communication
 Assertiveness
 Conflict Management
 No mind reading
 Compromise / Flexibility
 Acceptance of individuality and differences
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TIMESTAMPS
00:00 Intro
01:05 What are personal boundaries 5 types of boundaries
42:35 Boundary Activity
55:05 Summary and Characteristics of Healthy Relationships

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@DocSnipes 10 ай бұрын

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@whitewitchqueen 2 жыл бұрын

There's a difference in respect and someone controlling everything in your life to where you have no choices

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching and commenting.

@Alphacentauri819 Жыл бұрын

Are you a child? If not, how can someone control everything on your life where you have no choices? Even Nelson Mandela had a choice, in prison....his thought choices. Unless you're in prison, you have a lot more choice than you think (and even then, see the aforementioned). Learned helplessness can keep us stuck in situations that we do feel powerless....and usually it's very self limiting beliefs that keep us there. We become co-conspirators to being controlled. When we develop empowerment, self efficacy, self advocacy, we can look back and see how we played a role. That is unless you are a child. Or, in some cases prison.

@anju8376 2 жыл бұрын

My dad died when I was 12 and left me with a narcissistic abusive single mother and a younger sister who would end up with BPD and become my abuser. I went no contact over pandemic. This channel reminds me of my dad, who was a social worker and left me with a solid moral compass and love of learning that I think helped me survive years after he died. This channel feels aligned with his philosophy and has been making me remember what’s important. I think that’s the difference between me and my sister. She forgot dad’s teachings about empathy, compromise, interpersonal skills, etc.

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.

@carriekeith2266 2 жыл бұрын

I'm so sorry you have dealt with so much in your life. Going no contact is the healthiest thing you could have done. It's never easy, but better than the alternative. Good luck to you and your future. Never let down your boundaries. 😇💖

@iawarenow658 2 жыл бұрын

yes sadly 'Going no contact' - detaching completely from the abuse is the only solution and Budism teaching is also sensible and comforting with regard to dealing with BPD relatives.. stay strong and don't give up what you know is right..

@buhlehlazo3714 2 жыл бұрын

yea i i did she get it for

@buhlehlazo3714 2 жыл бұрын

yea i i did she get it for for you this

@MajinSayon 2 жыл бұрын

That's good to hear that engaging in/ expecting mind reading is a boundary violation. Growing up with narcissistic parents makes it difficult to recognize boundaries in the first place.

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching.

@thankyou--- 2 жыл бұрын

Yep! 😐

@rachelsparks1458 2 жыл бұрын

Mind reading is a boundary violation, was something I needed to hear & to be more clear on. As someone that was expected to interpret my parents growing up, & having had a past partner that was ineffective at communication, felt it was my job to become good at mind reading. I natively & lovingly tried my best. Not recognizing how unreal & unfair, that was. However, I've found a healthy partner that shared with me the importance of boundaries. But for a few hears I been still finding myself mindreading. I feel now I received the answer I was seeking, & can move forward effectively. Thank you, so much for this video.

@evadebruijn 2 жыл бұрын

The thing is when you have developed a fearful avoidant attachment style you are constantly tuning into others what they prefer/find pleasant and unpleasant. It comes natural from growing up with dysfunctional parents and staying safe. When this is not reciprocated, which of course it is not because it is a maladaptive trait (that once helped you!) it can grow resentment. So countering a person being guilty of such a way of relating with 'you're crossing my boundary' could be the non-constructive road to take for fearful avoidant people can be terrified of crossing peoples boundaries and could feel highly shamed. Not to defend any unhealthy behaviours, but there is context to be taken into account. These people have not asked to be raised/damaged by emotionally immature parents.

@alicerose9140 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you. This advice sunk in when I realised it doesn't have to be about an intimate relationship (espec if you don't have one) but can also apply to friends, siblings, work-mates, family friends etc.

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

Welcome

@yvonnealberts4977 2 жыл бұрын

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@angelahobbs1280 2 жыл бұрын

All of them

@Anonymous-yh4ol 2 жыл бұрын

Not just with people, but everything. You have a relationship with; your home and everyone, every life form,... everything in it.

@RitaLynn444 2 жыл бұрын

amen me too 🙏

@sharimanhas6083 2 жыл бұрын

Oh, gosh. I was loving this video so much. Then at about 48 minutes there was a reference to Borderlines not respecting boundaries. I have BPD & do my absolute best to respect other people's boundaries. The boundaries I need to work on are my own. I set them & then people get really mad at me. It's so challenging.

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing that and watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.

@FancyRavenmoon 2 жыл бұрын

I love that this is free to watch and help us grow together into a better human while we have life together on the planet!! This is golden!!!!!

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks 😊

@Lisa-nx5ci 2 жыл бұрын

I agree 💯 I appreciate the ability to listen and follow great and understandable explanations. I guess we all have pain we tend to hide, and internalizing just isn’t the path to feeling the peace we seek. I’m grateful (overjoyed,actually) able to follow now. Just found/ joined in by happenstance 🙏🏼. Have a blessed day everyone!

@montacap 2 жыл бұрын

I was raped at the age of 8 by my brother he was 17 . I learned that day to shut down anything that hurt . So I kept shutting down . I was raped many times after mom amd dad divorced when I was 14 until I married at 20 around 21. I had 2 kids the males both ran away . I met my husband which had also been abused . Around 1 or 2 years after our marriage I started getting flashbacks that took me to my knees . I tried to get my rapist to apologize but he told me I was a liar . Mom told me she still loved her son . So I got rid of them and felt ok as the years went by because the was across country from me and my kids . Well a few years ago my grown daughter let me know that he moved a few towns away from me . I feel unsafe even though he is fighting cancer for the second time . So with all of this and our kids being grown now my husband offered to move to the camper and gave me the main house and told me to make it as I wanted and for me to feel safe . I had never been given a space of my own . I slept in the living room as a kid there was no privacy . My husband is a hell of a man . We fight at times but we step back and most of the time see that its more of outside world issues then it is ours . I do not need permission for going anywhere . I will not be told ot is ok to go anywhere. I was in one of those relationships before getting married so when I met my husband I told him that is a rule of mine I will not be owned I will not beg EVER .

@HighPriestess-mq5hc 2 жыл бұрын

Come to Allah he will love you and heal you forever

@montacap 2 жыл бұрын

@@HighPriestess-mq5hc I have divorced religion . So no thanks . I want to be okay with myself .

@aliana8483 2 жыл бұрын

Is your brother the person who got cancer now ?👀

@montacap 2 жыл бұрын

@@aliana8483 Yes . He is fighting his 2nd round of cancer . A part of me feels guilty for feeling glad he is fighting it which means he is slowing it down and making it take longer . Another part of me says he has created this for himself he is hurting like all the people he hurt including me . You get what you give they say . I have asked for forgiveness from the people I have hurt in life because I felt bad not to feel better . He did not look for that because he did not feel bad . I have had to face that fact . I also have to live with that truth .

@aliana8483 2 жыл бұрын

@@montacap im so sorry for what u‘ve been through And you would be a bhudda or Jesus if u weren’t glad about him going through that. U are a human and I absolutely understand u ! Especially because u were just a child when all that happend I hope he learns his lesson And yes that was why I asked I also think that he feels guilty in his subconscious mind But he feels not guilty in his concouis mind so that is why his body created that for him Some day he will regret it counciously Sorry for my English 👀🙏🏽

@DrLauraRPalmer 2 жыл бұрын

ALL THE CLASSES ON THIS CHANNEL ARE INCREDIBLE!!! AND SHOULD BE THE KINDS OF COURSES TAUGHT IN THE EDUCATION WORLD STARTING IN ELEMENTARY. These behavioral BASICS are FUNDAMENTAL!! The average human suffer from everything she's mentioned and there for mental health is at an all time LOW. Imagine how incredible societys emotional intelligence would be if we were taught these incredible coping and emotional awareness skills early on when we are learning ourselves. These kinds if courses should be mandatory at jobs. Forced behavioral remediation classes would find so many private sufferers resulting in many adult humans resolving allot of their own inner shadows in result. I'm truly enjoying these courses just as a brush up on laws of humanity. I'm so glad these are accessible to the FREE PUBLIC!

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

Wow, Thanks so much!

@shaneculbertson4055 2 жыл бұрын

I wish I could have seen this 17 yrs ago. This should be required to pass highschool.

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.

@FaithFashionFinances 2 жыл бұрын

Very helpful to have a list for a client to reference to compare the healthy boundaries versus unhealthy!

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching and commenting.

@lynnfildey4372 2 жыл бұрын

Dr. Dawn thank you for the talks to keep us informed. Boundaries quite good as we did not learn standing our ground and me even trying to get info or mind reading and the other just looks blank and does not offer an input still leaving you wondering. Relationship they are detached but tend to take advantage to get what they want or need. Bless you. Lynn

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness. Bless you as well. I also have another KZfaq Channel: Good Orderly Direction | Practical Bible Study kzfaq.info/love/YYJCD94NU3_qdbkSEyHLrg Please consider liking and subscribing.

@CynthiaSchoenbauer Жыл бұрын

Here I am looking deeper into the boundaries issue and finding this helpful with so many issues! This helps me even put narcissism into a context that I can understand better what has been going on with me and the narcs from my past. Very exciting for me.

@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын

That’s awesome, Kitty Kat! Thank you so much for watching the video and thank you for supporting the channel. I am so grateful to be of help and I am grateful for you. How will you start developing boundaries?

@roxannevlogs7329 2 жыл бұрын

I appreciate your videos Dr. Snipes, I can relate to all your subjects. I am getting good direction from you. Thank you.

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

Wonderful. Thanks for watching! Wishing you peace, health, and, happiness.

@delurashawnbartels4978 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for this there are thing I see I need to change

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.

@healingwithcindyshaw 2 жыл бұрын

More people need to hear this

@barbibutton9619 2 жыл бұрын

Your videos are a godsend especially during Covid

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

It is a challenging time. Thanks for watching. :)

@VinceAscaino 2 жыл бұрын

I wish it was as simple as presented here and its good to have guidelines , and I thank you for sharing, but what's the point of healthy "rules" while everyone plays under a different set most times? (goalposts move , so does culture and life its dynamic) . Adding time, age, context , mood, health status, gender, socioeconomic status to this rule's equation and the complexity grows so much that universality, and safety of following this goes out the window. I've been in the situation where the more "mentally healthy" you become, the more crazy and negative the social environment's feedback becomes. People act in herd mode and herd mode its not always rational as this beautiful list of rules are .

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching and commenting.

@camirrahcharles2493 2 жыл бұрын

On point and that’s why I choose to just stay to myself. Don’t have to keep all of what’s mentioned in your memory bank. That’s enough within itself.

@arieller.3232 2 жыл бұрын

It is ok. You keep being healthy for yourself, and those you love ❤️. It is worthy!

@FollowmedowntheNumberWhole 2 жыл бұрын

It’s about deciding how you want to behave and committing to that and having integrity about it. You do that for you.

@VinceAscaino 2 жыл бұрын

@@FollowmedowntheNumberWhole I wish I could .. it has never been possible for me to decide behaviour for longer than a moment on logical grounds ( as deciding implies logic) . David Hume has written books arguing that "Reason is a slave of the passions". Thanks for your reply 🤗.

@rhazbiz4534 2 жыл бұрын

Very good 👍 lecture. The information you presented has given me some points to look at and start to develope healthier relationships. It's a start. Looking forward to the trek.

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.

@artt9252 2 жыл бұрын

I truly appreciate these videos

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching.

@marycook1975 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for this training

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching.

@kwadwoamponsah 2 жыл бұрын

This was much needed and appreciated.

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching.

@boostmobile9249 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks SO MUCH FOR YOUR KNOWLEDGE

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

So nice of you

@simonadobre7100 2 жыл бұрын

So really what you said here .Be blessed 🙌.

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching.

@genaroacol4552 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you. More power! Keep up the good work!

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you! Will do!

@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын

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@kirstinstrand6292 2 жыл бұрын

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@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

Ty so much.

@dee0731 2 жыл бұрын

Great information thank you Dr. Snipes 🙌🏻☀️

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

My pleasure!

@sheldajacques2562 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing! Very much!

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

My pleasure!

@Trying_very 2 жыл бұрын

I loved that Bewitched series as well. My daughter is called Tabitha, after the daughter who could do magic by twitching her nose!

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

@lindalock5065 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks so much for this excellent video. I am getting back to basics and all roads seem to point back to a wounded inner child. I am in the process of reparenting my traumatised IC.

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

Glad it was helpful! Thank you for watching :)

@montacap 2 жыл бұрын

I never had a inner child . I was mom as a kid taking care of my mentally crippled also abused mom . I do dump my truths out freely because I have no secrets . I have nothing to hide . I also have nothing to lose .

@the_mulattos 2 жыл бұрын

Wounded inner child is pseudoscience

@playsavedthechild.2848 2 жыл бұрын

@@the_mulattos Why would you say that?

@montacap 2 жыл бұрын

@@Hybrid_vigour Are you kidding me ?

@margaretalwanda4443 Жыл бұрын

It has not been as easy as today for me to understand this topic of boundaries. Thanks for making it easier to understand 😊

@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын

You're welcome 😊

@korenng5553 2 жыл бұрын

Helpful ! Sibling boundaries

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching and commenting.

@xander423 2 жыл бұрын

Love this channel , thankyou!

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

Our pleasure!

@rimakaram1313 2 жыл бұрын

VERY WELL SAID THANK YOU

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching.

@shania964 2 жыл бұрын

I have BPD and it is hard for me to even set boundaries for my own self. However, I can be open to respecting other people’s boundaries until my anxiety kicks in and ruins it all. I’m trying to work on it though..

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.

@Peanuts76 2 жыл бұрын

i think BPD is always a victim of emotional enmeshment and boundary violations

@Carlosking-gh3ei 2 жыл бұрын

This is such great info I appreciate this so much very helpful

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks! Thanks for watching.

@marthej1364 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much!

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

You're welcome!

@michellebrown8495 2 жыл бұрын

This is what im learning more about

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching.

@es8117 2 жыл бұрын

Great channel. Thank you.

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

Welcome.

@rachellerockel Жыл бұрын

Thank you!

@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын

You’re so welcome. I am grateful to be of help and I appreciate you watching the video. What did you find most useful from it? If you’re interested in more videos on setting and maintaining boundaries, you can find them at: kzfaq.infosearch?query=boundaries

@mzbigbabydevelopment4057 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you from the Johnson family. 🥰💕

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching!

@KoffeeMom 2 жыл бұрын

I couldn’t begin to count how many ppl have opened up to me in the first 10min of ever meeting them, and about things they say they’ve never shared with anyone else. I always took that as a compliment, but I will admit it also felt like a burden.

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.

@shahana_style 2 жыл бұрын

It's crazy. People feel very comfortable with me and that happens a lot so like you I always took it as a compliment. But I also feel some sadness over it because it's extremely rare that I meet someone, even after a good amount of time, whom I feel comfortable spilling the beans to.

@robert6833 2 жыл бұрын

This is fannnnnntaastic!

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

Wow, Thanks so much!

@moatzelmalawany6993 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you much appreciated

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

You are very welcome

@lorelimoulton741 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you.

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

Welcome

@Artsea_Grace 2 жыл бұрын

I NEVER have heard a lesson like this!!! I enjoyed every moment and learned SO MUCH!

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

Wow, Thanks so much!

@thankyou--- 2 жыл бұрын

Yes, one of my favorites 😄 Horton

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

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@thankyou--- 2 жыл бұрын

When you said something about culture, once I said something I doubted that it was appropriate, but I said anyway. I said a comment online to someone and I found myself banned from the Facebook pages. I thought to myself that public figure = celebrity, and I let myself treat that person as though I'm a celebrity fan, and I thought that he wouldn't mind, like the TV shows, what I see people doing on TV, that it's welcome and desirable and cool to act in this way towards celebrities, I told myself it's okay to tell this person that, and they will smile at me and say thank you for the complement (that's online). I thought I was going to be rewarded (I feared it was inappropriate and I was hesitant and I talked myself over it and said public figure is like celebrity and this person is going to respond positively towards me and towards that), and I got banned, and I kept not knowing if it was the comment, I wanted to contact and say I doubted it was inappropriate and if confirmed, I would apologize, and be found innocent and regain my spot in the community and have access to the useful things that I liked and these pages, I couldn't have contact with person, and to this day I don't know if it was this or another reason explained by the kind moderator of the group, and I still doubt it may have been this, and I remember how it felt in my stomach and how I ignored it.

@AriD2385 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks!

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

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@Trying_very 2 жыл бұрын

I didn’t realise until I was in my late 40s that is wasn’t OK for my father to wander around naked in front of me when I was over a certain age. He would also come into the bathroom when I was a teenager and in the bath. I would cover myself as much as I could . He would come in because he wanted to replace the toilet roll and was too impatient to wait or to leave it outside the door.

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.

@dorismahoney1440 2 жыл бұрын

That's not why

@going-Easy 2 жыл бұрын

I am sorry. Totally inappropriate behavior of your "father". There's a "raised by Borderlines" forum (RBB) on reddit where I've found many, many stories about naked parents walking around, getting into the bathroom. So creepy but validating to read in my fourties as well, as I have experienced something similar with my mother. She even threw away the key to lock the bathroom. Besides being naked a lot, she would come into the bathroom poop while I was in the bathtub, or she couldn't even close the door while peeing. She thought it was funny. No boundaries to personal space at all.

@belindatolley 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

Welcome!

@JN-0peny0ureye5 2 жыл бұрын

❤️Acceptance and Understanding others differences❤️

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching.

@playsavedthechild.2848 2 жыл бұрын

Normally on your talks i just learn. This one has more room for discussion... Discussion of values and ideas that people need to fiscuss growing up, tho hold, share and have values and boundaries and... Growing up rurally we had and needed less boundaries... we were a people, a family, a community. And you would devge your being. In cities or towns you need more boundaries... because there is too much going on... you'll never keep track of who-what-to-who-why... It is a different culture within a culture. Sadly I now understand town/citydwellers and their...ways a bit more. And i miss the freedom of being yourself with people you are enmeshed with ... with enough time of being... it felt more healthy. And thst is one of a few points that might be used for discusson... Otherwise enjoyed the talk. Thanks again, like always...

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching.

@iawarenow658 2 жыл бұрын

thank you and just to add with regard to culture in some cultures there is so much 'social' pressure to not go places on your own it seems as though some cultures as a society are 'unhealthy' and controlling.. how to change these cultures..?

@mitchnidey2453 2 жыл бұрын

God is love

@Venus.actor.singer 2 жыл бұрын

I wish there's psychology class in high school to prevent having single moms and broken families. If i knew about boundaries and the 4 different personalinaties then i could have married the same personalty like mine/compatible and i could have avoided abuse from him if i knew boundaries. I wasted 30 years of my life and ended divorced after learning personalities and boundaries. I thought love is enough to change him but now i finally gave up changing him learning now we cannot change anyone especially we have opposite personalities.

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching.

@Venus.actor.singer 2 жыл бұрын

@@DocSnipes thank you very much for these awesome videos. You set me free and learned to live heaven on earth. May God bless you more. I love you. Im a subscriber, i liked and shared your videos.

@joyjones7745 2 жыл бұрын

But what about for people I want to possess. Boundaries definitely get in way when it comes to guys I would like to possess.

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

I am not sure what you are saying? You can't really "possess" othere. Thanks for watching.

@smily6781 2 жыл бұрын

Respect each other boundaries a.cognitive - toughts,needs, opinions. Be ware of toughts and assertively communicated with them b.emotional c.physical d.Environmental e.Relationship f.Cultural 5 qualities ppl remember about u respect ur feelings, feel that' s ok ..be responsible for ur feeling compassion ,feel how they feel be honest willingness to help Encourage the ppl with independence rehersal before speaking journaling everyday ,monitoring ur boundaries be Assertive in setting boundaries Apologize violating other ppl boundaries ask urself how healthy boundaries affect in health, how happy i am self confidence be willing to compramise and respect individual needs

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching.

@angelacoleman6580 2 жыл бұрын

how about people overstepping boundaries 🤔 and speading COVID19 with no concern for those who catch it suffer or die.?

@mmmsunshine5367 2 жыл бұрын

Probably an antivaxxer...both extremes too much...

@visualjottings5626 2 жыл бұрын

Even if it's not completely healthy, is it not Ok to tell his or her partner that, he or she is going to go outside alone or about to do something without having in the involvement of their partner or their significant other? Is it not a gesture of affection and love and validation? Thanks for the lecture!

@boostmobile9249 2 жыл бұрын

Physical boundaries?

@DarilynJoyAz 2 жыл бұрын

how can peolpe read your mind? because i feel like people are reading my mind and i hear voices?

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching.

@boostmobile9249 2 жыл бұрын

Self-REGARDS, SELF-CARE SELF-ESTEEM SELF-RESPECTING IS ESSENTIAL FOR BALANCE & HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS. CORRECT??

@boostmobile9249 2 жыл бұрын

Teachings PRIVACY RIGHT TO HAVE.

@djjustice3244 2 жыл бұрын

Can YOUHELP ME UNDERSTAND HOW TO DEAL WITH HER...WITHOUT GETTING FRUSTRATED , ANGRY ,& IM HURT I (** CAUGHT HER IN A LIE **) ABOUT HAVING SEX WITH SOMEONE..WHICH WAS A RED ...FLAG..... THEN SHE TELLS ME SHE HAS TROUBLE TRUSTING ME??? WTF??? SHE'S THE ONE I CAN'T OR SHOULDN'T OF TRUSTED..RIGHT?? I GAVE HER A CHANCE?? AND NOW I FEEL BETRAYED TOO BY HER CONFUSING BEHAVIORS...??? DR.SNIPES... THESE VIDEOS TRUELY HELP THIIS..DJ..... SO ALSO THERE IS THE CONSTANT NEEDING REASSURANCE I 💘 LOVE HER??? IS SHE INSECURE TOO?? LORD ... I TELL YOU RELATIONSHIPS / FRIENDS REQUIRE A LOT OF WORK.... XOXO

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

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@rokiahassan1220 2 жыл бұрын

@2:25

@danielraypickrel4316 Жыл бұрын

I would love to receive hugs again.

@solaceguy4225 2 жыл бұрын

This is labeling everything and taking all the genuine spontaneity out of life some of the stuff might be valid

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.

@hanyen1292 2 жыл бұрын

0:10

@HighPriestess-mq5hc 2 жыл бұрын

I wanna be me .

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching.

@djjustice3244 2 жыл бұрын

Games SUCK BIG TIME..I Have NO TIME FOR GAMES...LIFE IS TOO SHORT.... So is RESCUING A FORM OF CODEPENDENCY?? Some PEOPLE THINK I CAN READ THEIR MIND....WTF???

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

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@mitchnidey2453 2 жыл бұрын

God bless you and your family and friends forever in Jesus name

@Iexilebadsoulselliot 2 жыл бұрын

Right. Neglect. The. Unholy. Psychics. Omg. I. Been. Mental. Hospital. Already

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching.

@boostmobile9249 2 жыл бұрын

Prepaid phones. ??

@Angels_surround_me747 2 жыл бұрын

👋👍❤

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

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@antoniosciara7322 2 жыл бұрын

I don't agree that many of these microaggressions are boundary violations. If someone looks at you in what you think is in a sexual way, from a safe distance, that is not an offense. If the other person is bothered by it, it is internal boundary failure. Because it is a projection first of all, and even if they are thinking sexually about you while they look at you, it is still your internal boundary failure rather than the other person being an offender. In my view at least. A person's gaze cannot penetrate me when my internal boundary is strong.

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

And another person's gaze may mean something totally different than what you are assuming it means or interpreting it to mean.

@antoniosciara7322 2 жыл бұрын

@@DocSnipes Exactly. That's why I'm not big on this microaggression thing. Our internal boundaries should be strong enough to not even notice microaggressions

@chrisnamaste3572 2 жыл бұрын

@@antoniosciara7322 Notice as a possibility but do not emotionally react. In a crowded city environment it would be overwhelming to notice all possible "microaggressions."

@antoniosciara7322 2 жыл бұрын

@@chrisnamaste3572 Exactly.

@itz_nathael3977 2 жыл бұрын

Me , I said that about natacha but went I see that she take all my stuff from my home I say to my self: no natacha is good and then she talk bad thing about me 😲😏😏😅😁😂

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching.

@maryjanerx Жыл бұрын

No one can consent to abuse

@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын

I appreciate you watching. How are you planning to start developing boundaries?

@evadebruijn 2 жыл бұрын

🙏❣️✌️

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching.

@itz_nathael3977 2 жыл бұрын

To think you hurt me ? 😂😁😅😁😂😁😅😂😁😅

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching.

@briangoredc 2 жыл бұрын

It could mean your partner is a liar and cheat. The phone thing is a bullshit place. I want and trust my partner completely. Biut, her secret netires is causing me a larger amount of distress. I would carry all 17 bags. Yet my gut tells me something totally different.

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching.

@mitchnidey2453 2 жыл бұрын

Jesus Christ is my Master. The word of God is pure, as silver tried in a furnace of earth, purified seven times.

@boostmobile9249 2 жыл бұрын

The Bible Scriptures teach Interdependence in families. & Obedience is a BIG DEAL. PROPER WAY OF LIFE. Doesn't ALWAYS WORK OUT , WELL. Because of the WORLDLY THINKING & PRACTICES of different CULTURES. LIKE PURSUING a job, or a CAREER is restrictive. Can not WORK FOR ANY CORPORATION that makes WEAPONS TO KILL PEOPLE in Wars around this EARTH. INTERDEPENDENCE happens in TRADE. BARTERING, EVERYONE IS TRADING MONEY FOR ITEMS, PRODUCTS, THINGS, PEOPLE SERVE PEOPLE TO MAKE MONEY 🤑💰. To pay monthly expenses. Etc. Honest Trading. We NEED TO PRACTICE INTERDEPENDENCE. Think SERIOUSLY, True. Correct???

@kahlodiego5299 2 жыл бұрын

Sounds good. Not possible for the poverty stricken.

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching.

@ninifire4282 2 жыл бұрын

Can you elaborate?

@boostmobile9249 2 жыл бұрын

Not taught skills to ask for ASSURANCE. OR REASSURANCE to feel better. To get attention & Cared for during challenging situations scenario, up & coming events without backing support from anybody. You are all ALONE in a Very difficult position. Fears. Bewildered minded, Holding one's BREATH until the other party GIVES OR ROBS STEALS TAKES your daily COMFORTS. NUMB. Internally physically UPTIGHT, Resentful sensations. Want tell em OFF! 👎👎😠☹️😓🤕🤕

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.

@maryjanerx Жыл бұрын

Dominant submissive dynamics are always harmful

@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын

I appreciate you watching

@Iexilebadsoulselliot 2 жыл бұрын

Fools. Are. 2. Sided

@maryjanerx Жыл бұрын

BDSM serves no purpose, it is always abuse

@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын

I appreciate you watching

@maryjanerx Жыл бұрын

@@DocSnipes i appreciate you making videos that are 99% helpful

@catsaresocute650 2 жыл бұрын

Yeah no I am a Terf actually

@catsaresocute650 2 жыл бұрын

Let me re-phrase, if behavior is inacceptable because it is anyone being sick that means they have to be protected even from themselves if they do it to themselves then it doesn't become healthy because men enjoy ut

@catsaresocute650 2 жыл бұрын

It's the best illustation of men 'care' about woman in a property rationship, wether they recognice it or not tho.

@catsaresocute650 2 жыл бұрын

It's bad if it's self-injurice because that's simply deminishing value, but it's fine if it's wear and tear of personal enjoymend to put in the most postiv sounding way

@catsaresocute650 2 жыл бұрын

It leaves no concept of people being sick, caring for people or wanting them to develop because it is unnatural to them anyway.

@catsaresocute650 2 жыл бұрын

It leaves no place for critising culture or men, so it can't be explained that they are the problem. The problem to men is singularly to keep the domestic servants helathy enogh.

@marywilsonvocalist2181 2 жыл бұрын

I really am disappointed that COVID is even mentioned in here..ruins it...bits are very good till then...maybe prewarn in title...not EVERYONE wants to be pulled into covid

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching. I certainly do not try to focus on COVID. Best Wishes to you.