Hi guys. Thanks for all the likes and comments! I just want to clarify few things based on the comments. My mom did NOT wish any ill will on our baby. She doesn’t even know about the pregnancy, as far as I know. She was saying be careful about food that I consume because some grocery stores sell meat that has been tainted with bacteria. I’ve been hearing that from my mom since I was 15, so it’s not related to my wife feeding me bad food, or anything like that. The decision to not give Korean middle name for a girl is a compromise between myself and my wife. Sarah wants our daughter to be "mini Sarah", and I want our son to be "mini Justin". Sarah never had Korean middle name, so she doesn’t envision mini version of Sarah having a Korean middle name. However, I can envision mini Justin having Korean middle name because I have Korean middle name. Sarah’s original choice for our daughter’s a middle name was a name that I think is a "stripper name", but Sarah thinks it’s a very girly and beautiful name. We eventually settled on a name that I don’t think is a stripper name, and Sarah also thinks it's a beautiful name for her "mini Sarah".

This couple is an exact representation of my life. I’m Asian who married a Latin girl. My parents did not approve, did not come to the wedding, did not come to the hospital for the birth of my son, did not come to my son’s first birthday party, and the list goes on and on. I feel for them. Move on with your life and cherish what you have with each other. I’ve wasted too much energy and time.

your father is truly an angel. he seemed so conflicted between wanting to support you but also making your mother happy. he is trying his best with the circumstance, give him props for talking to you like a father should!

Your dad is torn man, help him, heal him, he is drowned in sadness, you can just tell how hurt he is

His father said, “if the situation were different with your mom, I would have been there and enjoy the moment with you. But in the current situation I can’t do things like that.” This absolutely breaks my heart. Your father wants to be a part of you, your wife and your child’s lives but your mother is very, very bitter and mean. She abuses your father. PLEASE don’t hate your father or make him feel more guilty than he already feels. He feels absolutely terrible and understands his time is very short, especially with his age and possible sickness. Tell him you love him always; keep giving him photos of you and your beautiful family and pictures of his grandchild. I know he’ll appreciate it and they can possibly take some burden off of him. Just let him live in your lives secretly through pictures until he has enough strength to tell his bitter wife “enough is enough!”

His father tho.... His curiosity and interest in naming the child. My heart melted. Even in these situations... He still has the heart.

You should have your son's middle name be your father because that man is pushing through his fears of his own wife to try and be a father for you. Even though he can't do all he wants to, he sneaks away and does what he can to be there for his son in whatever small way he can behind his wife's back. That is a good father. Now he simply needs to be freed. He will die young due to the stress and drama otherwise... very sad...

i hope you guys have like 5 children. and they'd all be beautiful like the sun. raise them with the tolerance you show to your mother / parents. let us break the toxic cycle some of our parents exist in.

First, I would like to say that I truly admire the honor and respect you have for your parents. However, I don't think you all understand the depth of the problem you are facing. This is not about racism. This is about control. Your mother is used to controlling everyone around her. If you all don't understand the ROOT of the problem, you will keep trying to brainstorm solutions that will not fix the problem. Your mother will not give you approval until you stop seeking it. As long as she knows she is holding something you seem to need, she will keep withholding it. The day you begin to act like you would love her to be a grandparent, but don't need it to have a happy life with your new wife and family, will be the day that she begins to rethink whether she is right or wrong. She only believes she is right because everyone keeps tiptoeing around her reinforcing her rule. YOU HAVE DONE NOTHING WRONG! And if you count yourself as a Christian, the Word of God says that as a married man you are no longer under the authority of your parents. Love your new family, and pray for your parents. THEN, you will see a change. Lastly, keep reaching out to your dad. The BEST thing you can do for him is to keep visiting him, smile, and show him how happy you are, because he clearly is not. Let him live vicariously through you and your new family. That is the best way to show him that you made the right decision. I wish you all the God's absolute best!

How frustrating- it seems that his dad doesn't want to die with regret , but is not prepared to stand up to his wife.

"if you guys are enjoying yourself, then just knowing that makes me content." Heartbreaking. poor father.

Mom: “I gave birth to you and raised you, don’t you think you need my permission to marry!?” Dad: “Is your Hyundai running well?” 😂💀😭

hearing your dad speak was so heartbreaking... I don't to offend you, but your mom is so hateful and toxic, it's probably best your child not be in her life, fight for you father to be in YOUR family's life, he seems torn and really heartbroken

I'm going to have to agree with those saying that your mother is emotionally abusive and your poor father is abused and trapped. Some people are overlooking it because he's a man and also because they try to convince themselves that your mom's behavior is normal simply because of the culture. This is not normal or okay in ANY culture. It is complete racism and it's sad and disgusting. I wish there was a way to free your father and allow your mother and sister to stay alone, hateful a racist. But your dad wouldn't leave because he's a good man and feels he has a duty to be there for his wife. This is when I can't stand old traditions. I feel so bad for your Father.

"Free Justin's Dad" should be a cause.

How did your mum such find a nice guy like your father? she is ruining everyone's fun for her own selfish beliefs, if you have a kid you support them whatever there choices. And your gf is very pretty. Good luck with everything

Dude. I feel for you and your dad is torn but never let your mother disrespect your wife. I believe that in this situation where she accosted you at the car that you should have let her know that under no terms will you allow her to disrespect your wife or marriage. And if you have to get out of the car and stand up and look down at her when you say it firmly- she will respect you. If not she’ll know never to tread on you again.

At what point does a person say enough is enough? This is not a fling. This is not a jump off. This is your Wife, the mother of your unborn child. I get you want acceptance by your parents, but they have shown they are not ready or willing to give. Stop subjecting your wife & yourself to such negativity. It's not good for your child. When you stop trying to force a feeling, it will happen naturally. Leave your parents be; stop speaking of matters that involve YOUR immediate family (ie your wife & child) with them. Live your best life, stress free & happy, & let the chips fall where they may when it comes to your parents & sister.

I feel so bad for the father. He sounds so isolated and lonely. He's nursing a deep depression, its obvious.

"I'm trying to get you to marry a girl that I pick for you!" As an American, hearing this is just mind-blowing. It's like no one would ever tell their child that, it sounds medieval, bonkers, backwards, there's no appeal in it at all. She's not even being nice to you, why should her taste in women be this ultra exciting thing you should desperately want? Some of the other commentators are right: Thinking so highly of herself, her opinion, her own taste, her own feelings, and her own happiness, rating your life's value based on how happy it makes her, really does make her a classic narcissist.

Wow your mom's lecture sounds similar to my mom that i felt chills run down my spine. Whenever i did something my mom doesn't approve of, she would try to make me feel guilty by saying: "i raised you, and this is what you do to me? Do you want to embarass me? Do you want me out of your life, just say so!" It hurts to hear that, and i'm sorry you and your beautiful family have to go through that :(

That moment when your korean mom is starring in her own k drama.

When my mother-in-law knew that I was 18 weeks pregnant (in a family lunch - her ex-husband, sons, daughters, sons-in-law, and daughters-in-law) she screamed: "This child never will be my grandchild!". My situation was similar (she didn't accept my relationship with her son). When I knew about her reaction, I said: "Ok, I have my parents and they will be my son's grandparents". She asked her family how the pregnancy was, which name we had chosen for our baby... When the baby was born and her son called to break the news, she cried a lot. Two days later, she came to my mother and asked to meet her grandson (I agreed because my mother insisted). When she took my son in her arms for the first time, she only cried and hugged him tightly. One week before my son turned 6, she passed away. During all this time of coexistence between them, she never hid from anyone that he was her favorite grandson and he always repeated how much he loved her (my son will be 19 on October 10 and keeps reminding his favorite grandmother). I hope this grandmother's resistance breaks up when she realizes that your baby is the fruit of your love and continuation of her own story in this world.

Im black and my husband is korean. Very strong traditional values but one thing i have never experience from his side of the family is having disapproval from his parents. His mom was very accepting and loving, even to her grandchildren. Im the only daughter in law she likes. This video just saddens me so much though i know its old. But i will catch up on your channel.

She's so pretty, he is such a lucky guy. 😇

Your dad seems like a great man in a bad situation. I wish the best for you all.

That Korean mother is abusive. Men can be abused by their wives. It happens more often than you think. Please, go get your father some help. You never know how bad it could actually be behind closed doors. My father was abused by my ex step mother. It is very possible. It doesn't mean the man is weak...its just the woman is abusive and...well...crazy. I'll pray for your dad. Also, keep her away from your baby. Once your baby comes things are bound to get even worse. Lots of emotions come up after a new person enters a family (marriage and birth). Also, keep an eye on your wife. Postpartum depression and anxiety can hit strong. I just had a baby less than a year ago...i know. 🙏🏽 family drama makes things worse. I'm just being real. You are married and have a baby on the way. You have left your parents and now need to cling to your wife. Don't put so much energy into your parents (your dad is attached to your mother)...put that loving energy into your little family. Don't continue that drama and have it be in your child's life. That isn't kind. Protect your family and keep anyone who has abusive tendencies AWAY!

Im so not crying, when your dad was talking about baby names 😭😭

Your mom is very controlling. To her you have to listen and do exactly what she says.. She should have stayed in Korea if she didn't want you marry a different race.. I hate when people come to a different country and expect things to be the same.. Live your life,and have a beautiful life with your new family.

I kinda feel bad for the dad for being married to that woman

Justin's dad is in a terrible place

You two are the most realist on KZfaq. Beautiful family. I’m glad I came across your channel! Stay strong.❤️

Omg I had tears in my eyes when your Dad was so pumped up to help with the name of your child. That was so great to watch!!! You can tell he really cares but is reluctant because of the prejudiced Mother

Please don’t guilt your dad more...it’s clear he wants to be a part of your lives and the baby’s, but he’s stuck in a toxic and abusive place...i don’t want to imagine the negativity that your dad has to endure at home behind closed doors. It was great to suggest ways he could take part in the baby’s life like helping with the name, definitely keep those things that allow him to participate that he can hide and not put himself at risk.

I'm still watching the video. But this is crazy that two adults who are married have to come up with a way to tell their parents they're pregnant. I wouldn't even tell them. I would wait till the baby is born and send a pic. The parents may never accept this union. No need to be stressed during your pregnancy.

Your dad is such good dad, I only wish to have such a humble dad

Plot twist. Dad leaves mom and moves with the two of you 🙃

Justin, your dad's health is declining because his negative emotions are eating him alive. Your mother has great influence over your dad. He wants happiness and joy for you and he wants to be apart of it, but your mother... my God, she is going to be eaten alive by her anger. She is causing your dad so much sorrow. My guess is divorce doesn't happen in Korean family's or else he would divorce her. Pray for her tourmented soul. Justin enjoy your beautiful life with your joyfully happy, kind and loving wife.

to wish birth defects on your baby is horrific please stay away from her

I completely understand! My mother in law dressed in black for our wedding. She disapproves of our relationship!! 😦 But our love is stronger than anything!

Bless your father. He wants to be there but also doesnt want to upset his wife. Hopefully one day you can all get along.

No surprise. Keep pushing forward. Best wishes to you.

It's so crazy how the installed racism of Asian parents can make them miss out on so much. My partner of 5 years is of Taiwanese decent. At first his mother was also like " I don't want you to marry a Black girl", but she got over that within a year of knowing me. His dad took some time to come around because he doesn't speak English, but now all is well. His mother's reasoning for finally letting go of that mind set was she didn't want to miss out on her son's life over something petty like that. She has to trust his decisions and move on. People continue to think that anti-blackness is something that's made up, but you never have to look too far to find a good example.

She’s beautiful, so patient, and wise. This dudes mother could really learn so much from her.

Bruh his mom acts like those psychopath mom's in Korean shows that ends up always hating their sons girlfriends 😂🤦

I feel so bad for your father, it's obvious that he loves you and will love the baby. Your mom is so prejudiced that I doubt she will ever change. Your mother was not born like that, she learned it from someone. If your father never gets to meet your child you should tell the child that he loved them in his heart, when they are old enough you can explain prejudice to them. I do not think I would want your mother around the child, she might harm it. Your wife appears to be all that anyone of any race should want in a daughter-in-law. Beautiful, intelligent, kind and she obviously loves you and wants what's best for you. I suppose we should feel sorry for your mother on some level. She is letting the hate she was taught harden her heart and pollute her brain and turn times that should bring her great joy into sadness for her. It sounds like she has passed her hateful beliefs on to your sister. I feel love for your father, he's in a bad situation. You should tell him you love him and that you will make sure the baby will see pictures of him and hear stories about him even if he can never see the baby. Your father's words made me worry for him, for his health.

She so positive. I really admire that about her

I'm Korean and it broke my heart when I heard his dad say "if only the situation with your mom was different.." You can tell his dad wants to be in his life and his grandchild's life, but his wife isn't allowing him to. He's so torn because he loves his son, and it hurts so much to listen :( As for his mom, arranged marriages are very common in the Korean culture, and it's somewhat tradition in South Korea. I can tell his mom is very traditional, but that's just the way she was raised and there's nothing no one can really do about it, especially if she came from South Korea.

I cannot believe his mom said: if you want a divorce that'll make me so happy.... that is so heartbreaking and twisted. I understand where Justin is coming from, feeling the need to pick between parents and spouse is the hardest thing ever and so unfair !

Your father will have better health without having a wife controlling every decision he makes in his life and holding him hostage. The stress kills more than anything and is the cause of his aging.

Its ok to to shut toxic people out of your lives even if they are family.

Dude i feel so sorry for you. There are literally so many people that support you❤️. I hope everything gets better for you and you have so many more lovely kids💚

Reading what your dad Said made me cry. All that love in heart and not being able/brave enough to give it/live it 😭💔💔💔

I pray for your mother; her bitterness and anger is going to affect her health. If I were the wife I would not push myself on the mom,hopefully she won't drive her health down with such hateful behavior.

What I have learned in my old age- if there is no support (family included), they don't need to know, which is unfortunate. I wouldn't push the issue and just continue with your amazing lives

Trials and tribulation.. You guys are awesome. Stay together and love one another. Love is stronger than the body and eternal. Remember that we are spiritual beings - within a physical universe, having a physical experience. You're strong and brave and you have all the correct qualities of good human beings. Be spiritual in your awareness of other's ignorance irregardless. Kurt and family in Thailand 😌

2:14 aww the way he looked at his baby picture melted my heart. Mom's and Dad's are the biggest blessing 💜

They should not have to sneak around to tell his parents that they’re having a baby...

This is painful to watch. I can't imagine having a mother like that. I'm happy that Sarah's mother is much more supportive.

Everybody saying his dad is nice, sweet and all, but pay attention: sometimes, sweetness can hurt too! The father doing nothing and not standing for what's right is the same of agreeing with the mother's behaviour, but only in a much more passive way. "Poor guy", "It's hard for him", "She's toxic and abusive". Sure it's far from easy and she's being abusive, but allowing that to be happening and getting "the good guy" card in this situation, causes as much damage! She's disrespectful and radical, but authentic, at least. In my opinion, there's the racism issue, of course, but the mother has much power about the family decisions, and is upset that she realized her son has power over his life too, and not necessarily to please her, as his dad seems to do. You guys are a beautiful couple. Always together and making decisions together. This is real love and respect. Good luck!

This is legit a korean drama lol and I feel so bad for him bcos he does want his family there to support him and all but his mother is so toxic

For the dad to need to have a reason to leave the house shows how abusive the mom is

I feel like if the mom was being controlled by the dad this way everyone would be calling domestic violence, it should be the same when the roles are reversed. The dad obviously fears the mother and she is clearly an aggressive controlling person. I wish for the dad he is able to escape this horrible situation I feel so bad for him.

I feel Justin's mom is killing his dad with her viciousness

Is your father married to the devil? I mean damn! 😕

These Korean moms...I have no words... just like the k-drama. I am going to pray for your family, seriously. I want you guys to have the healthiest, cutest baby ever!

As a Korean I feel very embarrassed when Korean adults are ignorant enough to blame birth defects on race. 어머님이나 누님이나 댓글 읽고 정신 차리셨으면 좋겠어요. 어떤 골빈 여자들이 아드님에게 환장 할지 모르겠지만 그렇다 해도 어머님 수준/집안수준 보고 도망 갈거 같아요. The fact that Justin's dad has to lie so he can have private time with his own son is just alarming and shows how controlling his mom is. Sarah, you are so beautiful and smart and Justin is so lucky to have you. Please dont feel discouraged and don't get hurt from his family. I wish I can apologize on behalf of his ignorant racist uneducated family. I wish you all the best. 그리고 남편님 지금 노력하고 계신거 알지만 가족 앞에서 조금더 세게 나가셔야 할거 같아요. 중간역할 잘 하세요.

😞 I'm sorry you have to go through that. That's hard and you two are both so much more accepting and calm than I could imagine. Proud of you two. Stay strong, you have a beautiful family together. 💖

Wow this is way better than a soap opera! Glad I found this cute couple. Shows that true love can change the world! Two people can come together from far away places. God bless you both.

It broke my heart hearing that Justin's dad wanted to be there for his son and future child and Sarah's family but because of his relationship with his wife...being Rocky I assume .... He can't support his son because it will cause a huge problem at home. I'm glad that just knowing that his son is happy who make him content but it's also sad ending because he can't experience meeting his grandchild and witnessing beautiful miracle that his son wants to share with him.

This was an interesting video. My question is would your parents have been ok with you marrying another ethnic woman such as white or other asian woman or hispanic?

My heart goes out to you both. I wish you both so much happiness. My mom told me she didn't want to know if I moved, got married, had kids... She made every process of our (my husband and I) life so much work. I get anxiety attacks just thinking about the pain she has caused. I pray your families come around.

Your story is one of pure love. And God bless you both. That you still push thru with love.

Please keep the relationship with your father. Is important!!🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿

My God. I cried the whole way through your conversation with your Dad, for your Dad. Your poor father. He comes from a generation that has been conditioned and brainwashed to do the “ right thing”. My parents were similar. My Dad was a beautiful person, my mother a controlling, manipulative awful woman. My Dad died young. It was his way out. Be careful. Sounds like your Dad is choosing the same path. It’s so sad. He could leave her and have a good life. But he’d feel too guilty with the programming he has had. Maybe you can help and support him. All the best!

I can't help but feel so much frustration/anger/sadness when watching this. Your parents are missing out on SO MUCH important and beautiful life experiences. AND FOR WHAT?? Truly unbelievable. But love you guys, definitely subbing! looking forward to your videos

Korean American here. I fully support you and your baby and your brave choice to live YOUR life. Love your dad. And I respectfully say. your mom is WACK. So selfish. but as a korean I totally understand and although I’m so proud of being korean. I’m so ashamed of how close minded some of our parents and grandparents are. Stay positive. Love you both. Married father of three here.

It’s very important, in my opinion, to tell the truth to your children. Nothing hateful, but to the point. “Grandma and grandpa did not like your mom and I getting married, so they chose not to talk to us anymore” Depending on what’s age appropriate. I know it might seem like you’re throwing them under the bus, but *you* know you’ve tried to remedy it, and they’ve made their choices.

You two are beautiful!! Keep proving the power LOVE has.

Your wife is so sweet. She’s such an angel, so kind and thoughtful :))) and loving

I am married and currently living in Korea. I too have a Korean mother in law. She is very chill and accepting though. She is constantly teaching me about her culture and korean. Her silliness always manages to put a smile on my face. ❤😂 I hope and pray that someday Sarah's mother in law will come to her senses and appreciate the warmth of this family. If she doesn't, it's okay and your family will do just great. Just focus on raising your future with love, care and knowledge. ✌🏽❤

Stop living for everyone else's approval. If they bring you guys upset, just focus forward and live your best lives. You can't change people you can only change yourselves. Don't force the issue keep it moving. This is your family now, that's where the focus needs to be. xxxxxxx

This is so heartbreaking. Everyone is hurt. The mom, the dad, the son, the wife. The mom loves her son so much but refuses to see that he is happy. :sigh: Going through something similar. It is all very heartbreaking. Continue to live your life with love. Wishing you all the best.

I cried! I'm so sorry! Your Dad is a very kind hearted man. He is trying so hard to please everyone. He's hurting too but, he's trying! Hopefully one day he will work up enough courage.... one day.

Are they blind? How can they not see the beauty radiating from her? She is beautiful inside out. You are both very lucky to have found each other and I hope that life blesses you with happiness and success. Hopefully, your parents can be part of it too. One day.

I'm not surprised...the reason my ex boyfriend(he is korean) and I(I'm black) broke up was because of his mother smh. His dad and sister were fine but his mother was soo childish. My family treated him like he was already apart of our family. We were suppose to get married...three years of my time wasted smh. My ex boyfriend was not strong mentally as Justin is...

I love that you both still reach to you’re parents. And it’s okay it will take time. Sooner or later they will realize how they miss out on every special moments. I can already sense it from you’re father.

The conversations you had with your father made me so teary eyed

You can see how much Justin is looking forward to being a Dad 💕 its so sweet. You two will be amazing parents. So happy your Dads reaction wasn’t bad, Im sure he will come around.

You need to be more empathic towards your dad. That's a good man right there. He's probably heartbroken, but he still wants you to be happy. Even if it means he probably has to put up with endless anger from your mum. Speaking of your mum though... And as a mum myself... You need to draw some very clear lines. Your priorities change drastically when you become a parent and the last thing you need when taking care of a baby is your mother's toxic attitude.

😭😭😭😭 When she said, "even though i yell at you, I will always come to your rescue", that made me cry. That clip gave me PTSD with my relationship with my mom. She said the almost exact words. Except she was open to interracial relationships but it was more about religion and her pride. Despite some shady things she would do, she said, "Despite everything, you are my daughter and I love you, I will always be here, there is always a place for you at home here with me." Our mothers can be the most toxic people, but I think in their own way, they love us. In our culture, the mother expects you to grow and walk the way SHE intends. You have to stand up for yourself and break away and there is usually alot of bitterness from her side. I had to stand up to my mom and threaten to never talk to her again. I am her only daughter, so we reconciled, sort of. I will never fully trust her though. Your Umma loves you very much. She's dogmatic in her thinking and she was raised that way, albeit out of ignorance, but she loves you.

bro you're lucky to have that beautiful wife of yours. Your wife is actually strong woman to put up with your difficult parents.

So heartbreaking to see Justin's dad trapped to where he can't enjoy these joyous moments due to his wife. The fact that Justin's dad still talks to him shows that he cares for his son. I can see the cultural reasons why he follows his wife's lead, etc. Justin and his wife just need to live there lives; be happy; give love and joy to their son/daughter AND keep in contact with Justin's dad as much as they can. As long as you make an effort than that's what counts. As long as you can show your child that you tried to have your family involved (on either side) then that's what matters cause you will show him/her that love comes in various colors and you don't give up on those around you. Stay strong.........and Congrats on the baby!!!!!!!!

Lol your mom's rant at the car sounds exactly like my mom. They ruin you and tell you they hate everything you do, then they say they will always be there for you and help you. It's so emotionally draining and I completely feel for you man.

Omg you guys are so cute!!!🤗🤗 you're going to have a safe and beautiful pregnancy and your babies going to be healthy and beautiful!

Hello Justin & Sarah, thank you for sharing your life, trials, and struggles, I admire your courage and strength. You two are just too cute!! I'm routing for you. Justin just continue to keep a open relationship with your dad, he'll come around eventually, and hopefully your mom too! Sarah hopefully your dad will figure it out as well. Much love for you too, keep us posted. James

Hearing your father there is alot of fear...emotional and mental abuse. He shouldnt be living his life like this. He needs to get out. Even if he is old. He shouldn't be living like this at all. My heart breaks for him..he has no will no strength. And im 34 fled 13yrs of domestic abuse. If my dad even raises his voice at my mom i tell him off. He knows i got her back. And it stops anyone from mistreating her. We have to become the parent of our parents at some point. There are lines even wife shouldn't cross with her spouse and versa and they cannot cross boundaries. How your dad is and how mom was shouting etc is a huge red flag. Just beware.

I want to cry for your dad. I feel so bad that he is kept away from you guys and the future baby just because your mom and sister are unreasonable people with no hearts. I wish him a lot of health so he can come visit baby some time.

Your love is so beautiful to watch! May you be blessed with a long, happy life together.

I pray for good health for your dad. Your conversation with your dad made me cry.