I used to overshare everything bc I thought that’s what you do with family & friends. You share. Not until people show you their true colors and throw things back in your face. Truthfully keeping things to myself has been one of the best things I’ve done for myself. It does GROW you

Sometimes you overshare because you simply trust people but these people are twisted

I struggled throughout my 20's with oversharing. I did it because I was very insecure and I just wanted to be seen, heard, understood and validated. I was demonized as a child & was the black sheep of the family. Unfortunately, I overshared with people that did not have the best interest for me & I attracted narcissists that took advantage of me. I've been in therapy for 3 years now. I'm a lot better that I don't overshare the way I used to but I do find myself oversharing sometimes when I meet someone who's had a similar experience as me. Im working on forgiving myself for this ❤️

You don't have to always be relatable in conversations. Some people just wanna talk and try to see if you will tell your business like they do just be present and recognize that info and add to the conversation by not spilling your guts! People need to learn filler convo instead of oversharing 😊

I've become the silent person who will talk about everything but me and others. It's been a peaceful existence. My friends can't even figure me out at all 😂. Exiting my 20's wiser and certainly refined but very content within myself. I had to learn I owe no one nothing but i owe myself the best version of myself and the life I want.

The last points you touched on would make amazing videos. How to talk without "talking", how to be charismatic yet mysterious, how to give answers that are warm enough to create connection but vague enough that no one really knows what you said😂, how to be very okay with silence in conversations. Those would be really fun topics to explore, and would help everyone, but especially neurodivergent people who sometimes struggle with boundaries. Thanks again Lucy!

Me and over sharing 😭😭 I really really regret it. This is my sign to shut up

Omg I use to just tell ppl so much , till those ppl start copying and looking down on me. Now I don’t tell anyone anything! As a hairstylist it’s hard but I gotta do it!!!! 💜💜💜great video

Thank you for this. I’m learning “Guard your narrative; not every chapter is for everyone.”

I overshared because the other person was sharing his intimate experience so I thought that I know that person secret so I kinda could trust him and told about my secrets and then after telling him I regretted instantly

I have been trying to gain back my privacy. Your video came at the right time. I used to think i owed people an explanation until i realized i didn't.

I realize I overshare🤦🏽‍♀️

I am such a big mouth, and I don't know how to stop. I am glad i came across this brilliant woman's channel. I already made the mistake, but now I need to fix it. Thanks for the help. You are a miracle.

Some people are very silent, but when they have friends that they trust and are comfortable with they feel the need to share because they feel like their friends should know. They just say it all at this point both their past and present.

I was watching my videos back like girl they didn’t need to know that 😩😩😭😭😭 this was RIGHT on time! I got married a few months ago and something about that triggered something in me to stop telling people my business.

Hi Lucy, i stumbled on your videos and got really interested in the “being silent series” or something around that. You’re doing a good job. Here’s what I’ll like to say as this topic is a very sensitive one and almost everyone can relate with it or maybe more of over-thinkers like me. When it comes to oversharing, I think it could be relative or subjective. What you consider TMI sometimes may not be what I consider TMI. Also, the fact that there are different types of people and their ideologies of certain subject matter varies makes oversharing subjective. For example, some people who are not content creators or inclined to social media may think that having a KZfaq channel or being on social media means you’re an over sharer. Same way, some people may feel very comfortable sharing certain things with their very close friends or family (sister, brother, spouse, parent) which isn’t even bad. Even though I as a person always make that little provision for, in case anything happens. This is because, not everyone has that large capacity or threshold to keep certain things. If you get what I mean, and that’s where therapy could come in. (Btw, I’m not a therapist) but the question is, how many people can afford therapy? Therapy ain’t affordable for everyone, meanwhile, this topic cuts across so many people. So at end of the day, I’d say, seek therapy if you can, speak to someone you can trust, close friend or family and take responsibility for whatever happens thereafter. Taking so much in and not having someone to speak to has led to bad decisions for some or even depression for others. So, this topic isn’t one of those topic that has a one size fits all kind of remedy. This is not to say, continue oversharing but of course, ensure whoever you’re being vulnerable with, you can trust them to the extent of whatever you’re sharing with them. No one can do life alone, in the end, we need the right people.

I really like your content cause like I'm realizing more and more the mistakes i have made and I'm reminiscing conversations i have had with people and i see I'm in the people pleaser and personal boudaries category

You have really changed my life for the better ..I just want you to know this❤

With certain people i forget personal boundaries. Ur so right.

I use to do this and when I catch myself I just stop lol….thanks for sharing ❤

Completely off topic butttttt you are slaying with those braids 🥹😌🔥💅

The way you’ve been dropping relatable content back to back>>>>>

This came at the right time for real😩

The video ended so fast lol... It felt like you were talking to me personally. I'm guilty of having "No personal boundaries".

Places to stop oversharing 1. At work/other professional settings 2. When you first meet new people 3. On a first date 4. When you are making a major life change

Love your videos! Your channel is very underrated… I pray for your growth and success 🙌🏾✨ I tend to overshare when we’re about to have that awkward silence , so I just start telling my business 😭

So glad I found your channel. In so many ways I have been receiving this msg. You have broke this down in such a delicate but powerful way. Thank you! Also you are so beautiful and love that nail color. ❤

This video comes sooo on time! I was just thinking about it.... Thank you!

I really needed to hear this. I really need self control on 2024

This video came at the right time. Thank you big sister ❤

First time I'm seeing you on braids you are beautiful

Girl!! I just realized I don't keep my mouth shut chaiiii

Let me just be learning stuff here, because 2024 go hot well well. Its time for me to level up

Lucyyyyyy! Thank you! This came at the right time, more wisdom!🤲

Braid is braiding grand soeur ❤🎉 Thank you for sharing 😊

I was literally just talking about this lastnight , I’m happy you posted this !

Love the hair sis

I tend to over share I feel mostly I do it to help people by telling ‘my story’ but then I overstate for no reason 😂 Thanks Lucy x

I'm sorry Ma'am, can I call you Elder Sis? I feel like you're more than a teacher to me. Your lessons are top notch and have helped me so much in life. Thank you so much Ma'am.

Super insightful. ❤ Thank you. I knew a lot of these things, but hearing it from someone else who communicates it uniquely makes it clearer for me.

Glad this video came across my KZfaq time line, I will not be over sharing nothing else about my life, or my emotions, this was a video I needed to see💯💯💯

Haven’t been able to watch your videos in a long time cuz I’ve been busy. Watching you now just reminds me of why I subscribed to your channel in the first place. I just love watching your videos. I like certain topics you talk about that most people don’t even talk about on here. Keep being you❤

My reason is to vent but it has resulted in people judging me

Oh my gosh. Your video is spot on! And now I’ll not share anymore so I don’t overshare 😂

I love you because you Always bring out this topic it's my biggest problem ever

I'm so lucky I found your channel :) thank you this helped a lot !!! I'm going to watch your " silence " videos all.

5:49 now I guess my own Oversharing it’s quite different from this

I’m here for your hair!

This is so timely and helpful 🥺❤️...

After you've shared and how you know you've gained back that mystery & privacy is when people start poking and proding into your business by asking questions or making opened-ended comments to bait you to respond. I just laugh things off and make a relevant joke. Example: change in work schedule and people asking why I switched things up. Answer: it's to stalk you every other weekend.😅😂

Thank you Lucy. You just spoke to me ❤❤❤

I love the braids ❤😊

Thank you Lucy ❤️🙏🏾⭐️✅ i don’t share a lot but my mom and my dad will beg me to share to them im so over it. Thank you.

Part twooo pllsss on how to navigate through conversations 😭😭😭🙏🏾

Hi can you do one on why one is loud and wants to share everything that crosses their heads even unnecessary topics

This came at the right time. Thank you

My online big seester❤ Thanks for putting us through😊

This video came at the right time!!!

I really learnt a lot from you big sis 🔥🔥🔥🥰

Thanks a lot for your advices ❤

Thank you for this because I do this way too much!! I haven’t watched finished watching all the videos but one thing I’ve learned is that oversharing , especially with people who aren’t close to you, fosters a false sense of closeness/ security. If you have triggers like abandonment, fearful attachment styles etc you may overshare🥲

Needed this!!!!

Am grateful for you and your work ..Kindly please share about Someone can keep their life private but not a secret

I salute you for the wise words.

I am still learning not to over share😢

Thank you i really needed this especially in my work place

Hey Big sister Lucy, I need a little advice on this… As a content creator, I’m in a constant struggle on what to put out here and what not to share. On the other hand,as an individual I’m even considered very secretive because I hardly share. How do I navigate this or put a balance on the two?

Wow ,this video is the best video I have watched this week. Lucy thank you so much.

This must be my next step because I'm not sure why it even came up as suggested. I realize I over share. I know I need to stfu. I believe it's validation, self esteem, and lack. I struggle in these areas.

Thank you so much for this reminder ❤

Lucy.....Thank you so much....😘😚🙏 I hope to see you one day and give you a big hug for all this timely advice 🙏🙏🙏🙏God bless you 😃

Thank you for sharing Lucy, I also realised it’s very important to be kind to yourself as you grow on this journey and not be to hard on yourself, You are not the woman you were and now you know better and thank you for reminding us that mistakes happen 🤍 Also over sharing does put you in a position where you may start telling lies ladies!!😅

I want to stop obrsharing because it's become a big problem for me, a part of me feels like I've already reached somewhere i can't return from cus I've overstated too much ( I'm genuinely tired cause i keep betraying myself when i do it and now there's nothing personal$

Thanks love, this is impactful!..

You are right Lucy girl, love your content love u❤️💕💯

You really are beauty and brains

Lucy! I love your hair omg

Thank you for sharing this video !

You are beautiful Lucy 😊

How about coming from a family that overshares and being a person who doesn't know how to deal with silence

Thank you Lucy💕

Thank you ma'am... it came at the right time

2:45 yes a place of sadness actually And a place of I have no one to communicate When I’m angry I just have to rant tbh

First time commenting,you are good at what you do🎉

41k without subtitles?? Girl do that and earn MORE instantlyy

Makes a whole lot of sense

I don’t know why i over share 😢😢… I think self esteeem is where I’m lacking

Coming back to watch

Do you have a podcast on spotify?

God bless you Lucy

Why is writing in my journal on my phone considered oversharing…?

Lord have mercy. Thank you for this, haha!

Thanks ma'am

Thanks Lucy

12:17 - 12:28 facts 👌

I over share a lot😔i pray God helps me

This hit hard

You very right

Thought about this today

The final part 📌 is for me