I rebuke complaining spirit, settling spirit, pick Mesha spirits, toxic strong black woman spirits. I rebuke all things not vibing with our positive energy in 2024. Let’s go girlies ❤❤

I kinda understand why being the “understanding” partner can be bad but I feel like people tend to confuse being understanding with being a pushover. You can be an understanding person at times and still have boundaries.

Lol. I didn’t realize I used to do this until after watching this vlog, I’m always being the “independent” partner but also feel pained when I see other ladies receiving gifts in their relationships, also the part of wanting to control everything that’s just so accurate I didn’t realize I was doing all this things. Been watching your videos since the makeup artist review video😂 always been a silent viewer but I felt compelled to comment because I really loved this video, not like I don’t love your other work but this was spot on for me❤

You are very correct, most women make their relationship everything and forget about their friendships. They end up telling their spouse all their friends secrets

Inshort,stand on businesss in every situation..No gree for anybody

I realized I was a pick me a long time ago, and finally came to terms with it. I realize one of the main culprits; fantasy. Youre told that if youre good enough, giving enough and understanding enough that youll get the guy. Im just paraphrasing a big thing here. I always internalized my relationships failing as being my own fault. Up to now, I can honestly say I have been living in hell trying to improve myself for my future partner, so I can be perfect, so he never leaves me. It physically hurts my heart to fully realize that I needed their validation, their attention, their love and admiration. I always had to up the ante. I wish I loved myself more. I wish I knew what I wanted and what I liked, because I am so lost sometimes. I dont want my daughter to grow up needing the same things. I pray healing for every girl out there who has mother wounds, and felt like you need to be 'that other girl' I need some besties.

I wish I can love this multiple times namesake...it as if you were talking to me direct.. One of my key goal this year is to genuinely lean more to my feminine side and actually relax.... With the need to control everything I had the most mental stress last year 2023, but for 2024....it is soft life and nothing short 😊😊.....i genuinely love this tribe and you in particular Ms. Lucy. Happy new year, I pray this year favours you abundantly and grant you all your positive heart desires... Wish we can have a tribe hang out this year 😊😊😊....Wishing though 🤗😊🤗😄

"Let God lead" Amen sister💞💕💞😘

It's sad that ALL women have been raised to be a "pick me" and I blame Disney. I have done the work and I no longer want this for myself and my beautiful black babes.

Hi Lucy. Happy New Year. I have been anticipating on your next video. I was tremendously blessed by your videos last year. I downloaded everything and watched. Thank you so much. May God fill you with more wisdom. Plus I love the fact that most of your videos are from your personal experience. I tell myself that so far Lucy worked on herself to make changes, I can also work on my toxic traits. I love love you Lucy. I messaged you on IG last month but no response. God bless you and thanks for being a blessing and huge inspiration to me❤

That settling Line was in my prayer. I did myself dirty with that people pleasing attitude.

Girl you have no idea how much I needed this video 😩😩

Ohhhh what a way to start a year❤❤❤Let's get into it

Sooo helpful, especially the part on control. Thank you!

I can 100% relate to it. I'm done with that life.

Lucy, you open my eyes a lot with this video, showing me I have to make a lot of changes and thank you hunny, love all the way from Austria

This video came for me, its really really helpful...❤❤❤ Saving it for anytime I'm diverting

This is me right now and I am tired of it so bad that I can move heaven to change right now 😩 thank you Lucy 🙌🏾

You've grown, baby girl... you've grown. I love how you think. 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

Thank you for this video . I am at a place in my life that huge changes need to happen and this video came at a very right time .

This made so much sense especially about speaking up And also being in your feminine. Thank you for sharing

Right on timeeee

Mine is otherwise, I became too feminist and it became an issue in my relationship

Hi Lucy Happy new year. Thank you for teaching me so many things on your channel. Thank you dearie

Hi Lucy. Compliments of the season

Hello Lucy, Happy New Year, please I will love you to talk about how to travel solo on a low budget and app that could help please please please

Thank you so much for this video it was really helpful ❤

And the Church says Amen.

You hit the nail on the head 👏👏

You are gorgeous, Lucy!❤

Happy New Year Lucy🤎

Video came right on time.

Thank you always, for this your graceful channel, i can't explain how God have been using you for me. More wisdom in Jesus name.

Happy New Year Lucy 🎉❤

Everything said in this video is where I’m at right. Especially bring the pick me girl even with friendships. I’m so glad for growth! Thanks Lucy for always sharing gold. Cheers to 2024 😅🫶🏾

I've been waiting for a video for days 😂❤

Right on timeeeee...... Thank you Lucy 🥰❤️

After watching this video I just want to see you and hug you Thanks you so much ❤

PLEASEEE DO A TUTORIAL ON HOW YOU EDIT YOUR PHOTOS!

Loved the video ❤

Thank you Lucy .❤❤

Yesss I love that I came across this video

Yeah, she's back 😘

Love this 🔥😍

You're so pretty sis😘

I really enjoyed this video...

Wowzaaaaaa I loved this

God is so good❤

Thank you, i relate a 100%, never asking for anything, being taken forgranted..its kinda embarrassing, 2024 am embracing a new me

Looking gorgeous sis❤... Thank you

Blessed you sister ❤

Oh I love you Lucy,thank you..

Am struggling with control.

what you said in 18:23, can never be saidn't.

I love you Lucy ❤

I understand you but when you are listing all of these things hope you also reciprocate the energy? Because a lot of women nowadays just talk about what they want from someone and not what they give , love is to give and to recieve also, just asking

Sis I need skincare routine please

Girl everything you said I related to.

Omg thisss👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

Hmmm

A divorce and a bad breakup later I understand this

Yesss 🙌❤️

Unfortunately,it didn’t work out for you,you can work hard and still work smart.. Secondly,the having a life outside your relationship because what if my partner is also my best friend?

Buh Lucy isnt this contradicting your video on things that make relationship look transactional or sex worker? I stand to be corrected. I really like this video especially the part that says not accepting the bare minimum.

Girl you were just spitting factsssss 🙌🏾🙌🏾 preachhhh

hair details please

Can you please make a video on how you hold ur boobs together pls,am heavy in front and i can't wear dresses like dis,pls help

10:15 🤍

Most people I have met who do not accept bear minimum only give bear minimum😅

10:33❤

What of ladies that ask and don’t get😂

Hit it

Girl…. 💪🏾

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