Absolutely ❤ I can relate to this. The crazy thing is you can't even successfully hide, might as well enjoy standing out ❤

I did the same but in a different( just internally I guess) way. I made my persona more distant and isolated. I don’t get as intimate with ppl as I use to. My personality has now just taken a hit with other major unfavorable life changes and stress. I hope I can glow again someday but it started after being bullied by those I once called best friends or sisters.

@@spearit3336 i completely understand. Its become harder for me to make girlfriends because of trust issues and the shell ive created around my personality!!

This!!! I definitely need to work on this.

I am in the same boat and getting back on my BS 💪🏽

That had to be jealousy. Glad you're smiling now. Julia Roberts has a great smile. And it is a best feature of many

My best feature are my eyes..... I had a uabw try so hard to recruit me for her lash extensions. I've learned by letting them touch my hair to stay far away. She probably wanted to blind me.

I love that type of smile❤

Did you go up to her and thank her for praying for your children 💀

@@mindingmybusiness3915 never 😂

@@Lovelyvashkha She really thought and hope you and twins are thriving 🤣🤣

@@mindingmybusiness3915 she definitely thought she ate 😂 and thank you so much hunni 🥰💖

Isn’t it amazing how old women feel they can say whatever they want to women younger than them about looks?! Ive dealt with this too many times. I bet she’s mad that the baby weight didn’t stick smh

Omg yes! The random people who “want to fight” you 😂 I’ve had those types of comments as well in CHURCH of all places smh !

I was once told by a Karen I was so beautiful it made her want to throw up I was 13 It was at beauty pageant finals It was one of the other pageant girl’s mom I think …

Wow😮 at least they were brave enough to verbalise their desire to harm beauty and admit their aversion to beauty instead of faking to be good people like many do only to backstab or sabotage

@maenad1231 that is disgusting behavior! I'm sorry that happen to you!

Beauty has to be combined with: covert violence, a dash of crazy and a large dose of dont-give-a-f@#kism lol... Your response should have been : "Do it and I'll poke holes in you🙂"

Yes ! Definitely beauty ptsd

Yes my experience word for word. That workplace jealousy is actual hell. I wouldn't wish that on anyone.

Z

you’re so gorgeous 💖 make the haters mad 🤭

I've been in a dark place behind workplace bullying due to beauty. It's traumatic

Yes I believe i made a video titled “you can’t be pretty and single” a while back

@Chocolatechocolate7224 I will check to see if it is on you tube. Thanks!

@@vwd3437 it’s on HBO max

@@vwd3437 it’s on HBO max

Oh girl, even worse are acid attacks. Jealous women will PAY a hit 🧍‍♂️ or sometimes do it themselves to douce your face with acid. The result is the skin on your face melting off in an irreparable way, robbing you of your beauty forever. These were happening frequently in the UK a few years ago. To me that’s even worse than murder.

And this is why when women notice the red flags they need to remove themselves or be very careful about them.

There’s nothing crazy about saying that. I’m white, and I’ve even heard other white people whining about people of other races being given extra scholarships or having an easier time getting into schools for being minority.

I'm just realizing this!

Yoo I’ve been saying this too

My mom is a libra so pretty and don’t do nothing because of jealousy… I’ve been doing most of the work for her just so she can atleast feel like on the othersidr till she stop caring about jealous ppl .. I’m making lil progress

💔❤ I feel for you!! May you continue to heal

my grandma was very protective (im sheltered) over me and made me wear turtle neck and baggy clothes and kept my hair in braids only when my body started to mature more at 18 (i became slim thick) that when the turtle neck didnt help or anything else but that when i was graduating highschool so i didnt get SA thank god by any of the boys. (im light skin) i now go to college only online just so i dont have to deal with any of the con of being pretty. sad.

I'm so sorry for your experience 😢 I'm glad you rose above it ❤

​@@Satin.Bthat's terrible 😢 Hopefully you can eventually afford to live in a safer neighbourhood❤

@@FoundSheep-AN What I mean by that is I see many videos of exoticals and my own experiences with this for me it was in my immediate family I’m the only “exotical” looking member of my immediate family so my grandmother and mom was the worst with this I used to be really thin (underweight not by choice just a fast metabolism and being active) and long unhealthy hair so what I notice is people who try to live vicariously through you they would kind of speak to you as if they were you for example my grandma started a hate train against me for gaining puberty weight bc what she used to do was show me off like I wasn’t a human but a doll to brag about and would always nit pick how I looked and what I did with myself being like “you don’t want to get big like me” or would treat me like she had ownership of me like when I cut my unhealthy but long hair (they only cared that it was long) she cursed me out and so did my mom and as punishment cut my hair even shorter and yelled at me saying “see you look ugly now” I feel like they were living vicariously through me in the sense they treated me like I was their “black girls can have long hair” representation and they would always try to compare me to them when it came to hair and weight bc my grandma is one of those type that use to be the “pretty girl” but always worshipped mixed and white features so since I had a mix of those (my grandma is a mgm lightskin green eyes brown/red hair but she is SUPER black identified) according to her I was her fav grandchild (even though she emotionally abused me the most) and it was because my features she would brag about and so will my mom (she is lightskin but with more unambiguous features) and take every positive compliment I get as a compliment to themselves and every insult a insult to me and me only Or when my brother who is unambiguous looking fetishized mixed latinas and kinda used me as bait to prove he was mixed Idk if that’s a good way of explaining it but I seen others in the mls space say the same or something similar

@@FoundSheep-AN sorry my response is so long I went on a mini rant 😂😂 but I do think it’s a interesting read

@@FoundSheep-AN You’re welcome :D I love these type of convos too which is why I tend to ramble 😂😂 And about the closest relatives thing it’s alright :) I learned some people are just stuck in their ways and yes I do think it’s a generational deference because my gen family member which would be gen z (I was born in 2005) and I see some millennial pov’s and it’s more about respecting people in these ways especially when it comes to weight for the most part and not speaking on it while the older gen is more vocal about it And you take care as well :D 👋

If we lived near each other, I would do your braids for freeeee! I am not a pro but do my own braids once every few years, lol. It is my dream to do natural box braids or braids in non-straight hair one day.

@@yahainHotPink you’re so sweet 🥺 I’m working on getting better at doing braids. But gripping braiding hair is really a talent lol

@@SupernaturalLove100 exactlyyyyy. Like i just don’t wanna spend a ton on my hair lol i know girls who spend $400 a month on their hair and all i can imagine is how much i could invest instead 😂😂

Yep! Same here! I just got a kinky straight wig (I usually wear my hair pulled back in a bun) and the sloppy body old BW and frumpy WW at work kept smirking at me, I guess I was supposed to get a silky straight wig that looks nothing like my natural hair texture 😩

@@fireinthesky_71 a lot of them in my city don’t do braids

@fireinthesky_71 I appreciate you're insight. 💜💫

Oh I believe it

same thing happened to my sister, my family would always call her fat when she was actually really slim and now that she's gained a lot of weight to the point her health is act risk my family are concerned when they caused this

Me too… I now realize that their bullying and abuse of me caused me a severe adrenal and autonomic nervous system problem, and a bunch of other problems.

Ughh me tooo😭😭

I know right 😂😂😂

@maenad1231 Too funny!! lol

It’s hilarious. When I was totally clueless about makeup , my first point of call was the MAC counter. Lo and behold, I was given the ubiquitous NC45. For about a year, I walked around with a tanned, orange looking face. My mother insisted that I get a new one because it was too dark for me. After much trial and error, I came to realise that my correct shade was actually NC42.

I'm a monoracial light skinned African too and it's true they treat us the same here too. We relate

@@user-ip7ph9vn5r I’m glad I don’t have to gaslight myself anymore.

YES!!!! Being objectified or being placed on a beauty pedestal by the malefolk is deeply traumatic for women who do not like male attention. It can even be frightening at times.

Got bullied out of my job by uadsbw. First thing I did was call this Light skinned girl I meet weeks prior. She got me on at her job right away. I told her what happened. I actually cried. Her boyfriend is mls he took us out to eat and treated us that day. We bonded over our experience. Her BF say he wouldn't date uabw because of how he seen his girl get treated, I really turned him off to them.

Sorry for this 💔 you story is so relatable. Sending you lots of love ❤

@fireinthesky_71 Its the "in two episodes" 😭 but they're so right! I woke up this morning super proud of me being able to keep my weight under control but it's taken me 20 years in total. I was thinking "But I did it!". I needed to see this comment this morning 🙏🏾✨️🥹

Wow ! 😮 So sorry ! Were you able to regrow your hair?

@dearbrave4183 Yes, it eventually grew back! It was so devastating to know this person messed me up on purpose! That same person had a hard life due to her mean-spirited nature! I wasn’t the only one she tortured.

🙀🙀🙀🙀🙀

My sister over relaxed my hair too. She let it sit on my hair for over 30 minutes!!! I told her it was burning and she just kept talking on the phone!!! It was coming out in handfuls. Thank God it grew back. I never home relaxed after that.

@@c4tmh133 Oh my God! That is horrible.

@sunshinegirl1655 Lol Me personally, I gave up on MAC and Fenty Beauty!

@vwd3437 same here. I was matched with a perfect shade by Dior. They have 1/2 shades if you fall between colors 1, 1.5... It is expensive, but after getting a perfect match from Dior and Channel, I have found a few drugstore foundations that are similar.

I second this. I was recommended NC45 when I’m really NC42. Dior 4WO is the best match I’ve ever found

I still wear my makeup too dark but mostly because I struggle to find my shade and rather go too dark than too light. I also just suck at makeup lol

She does have the nair story in another video. An HBCU story or hair video. Forget which but definitely heard it. 😭

@@yahainHotPink thanks

Omg yes I had to tell them NOT to mix my shades, so they settled with NC45!

@@ExoticalsUnited Lol our mishaps were the foundation that Fenty was built on. Gonna check out a few brands mentioned in the comments and try again thanks to your chats 💅🏾

Thanks for watching !

Right . A lot of people actually hold themselves back because they don’t wanna be seen as “validation seeking.” Then later they complain that they’re invisible or being replaced by others .