This is not a nice guy. He is a doormat. You can be a kind man and not take abuse.

“I’m not the type of person to fight over money”. Got that right

By the tone of his voice I don't think he is going to do anything about this. Too nice of a guy.

So she basically threw away a precious gift from her parents. Lovely.

He sounds like McFly before he punched Biff in Back to the Future.

My marriage is strong! Also my wife lied to me to the tune of $100k in consumer debt causing us to mortgage a paid off home. She hasn't added me to the deed of the house even though we're married and live together in the marital home... This guy is one sentence "I'm not happy" away from losing everything if he pays off that mortgage without getting his name on the property also. Talk about no backbone...

He didn't think of the fact that he'd be paying off her house. 😑

this hits home. before being married i was a hoarder and a compulsive shopper. thanks to my husband's support i have changed my habits. this was extremely hard to do! there was a lot of fighting however it has been worth it!! i don't miss those days of a over cluttered apartment and having 0 money in my bank account. our life together is well on the way on the road of recovery getting out of debt and saving for a home! Freedom is on the horizon i don't want to stay a slave any longer!!

The simp factor is off the charts here.

this man is lost. he's so used to being a pushover that he thinks it's normal. the fact they had kids in their 40s, she didn't care to put his name on the deed, she spent $100k behind his back, and won't take accountability for her poor spending habits, shows the house is burning and he's just sitting there saying everything's okay. he's the type whose wife will divorce him outta nowhere, and he'll be there wondering why she left and took everything.

"I'm not the type of person to fight over money"...no kidding.

"she has always handled the money". So he knows a compulsive spender is in charge of the money?

That dude is clueless and ignorant. He needs to take responsibility.

Key words he didn’t just say $100,000 he said a few $100,000 in credit card debt

This is financial infidelity & a disaster on the horizon. The definition of a STRONG marriage isn’t having a spouse with a compulsive spending habit who hides spending hundreds of thousands of dollars of debt from their spouse.

You are TOO NICE MAN!

$100,000 IS CRAZY NUMBER TO LIE

At first I thought it was a simple question of just paying off the mortgage v's investing.

My wife and I were married for 16 years and I would have said our marriage was strong right up until the day that she told me she wanted a divorce. This came six months after we paid off the mortgage as well as her student loans and became debt free. Moral of the story: Don't get complacent, you never really know what's in someone else's heart.

So aggravating on how spouses dont even know their financial situation. Spouses running up over $100,000 in shopping and the take a mortgage out on a mortgage free home...plus its HER house. Sickening and stupid. Dont call in then not do anything about it

“When?!” 🤣

wife is gonna pull the zip cord on marriage and get the house lol

I'm in canada. Please listen. Put the money in a plan that is marked as funds from inheritance. She can't touch it. Ever.

Let's let the person who has a shopping addiction be in charge of the bills and handle all the spending. What could possibly go wrong?

He’s sounds like a super nice man, giving, loving. And, at least in this case, that is his downfall. As my late father said, “Sometimes it’s better to be pissed off than pissed on.”

Wife is 55 and Mom to 11 YEAR OLD twins??!! HOLY GERIATRIC MAMA, BATMAN!

Somebody get this guy a set...

The caller needs to consult with a lawyer.

Dude, get a backbone

He had a kid at 49? Jeeez

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How is this guy even finding the courage to phone this story in?

Peter is the first guy I’d ever tell to watch red pill videos to start evening him out.

I keep thinking "those poor kids"!

Where's John at on this one??? "Peter, do you feel safe?"

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1) do not put inheritance in house. Inheritance is not a joint asset. Consult a investment person to keep inheritance separate 2) you can not give up your right to matrimonial home. If your married doesn't matter who's name or who paid or gave the house. 3) don't just put it in your rrsp. Find a financial planner or lawyer I'm from Canada. My lawyer wasn't pleased when my husband put some inheritance on the matrimonial house.

This is so messed up. Does he think letting his wife do whatever she wants is a strong marriage? Is that the leader he wants to be?

Simps are there own worst enemy. Geez.

This guy is delulu 😂😂😂

She's an addict and needs to be treated as such! She needs help ... THEY NEED HELP!!

Im glad Dave was on this call. This dude needs some real brothers in his life to wake him up.

received a house as a gift, but has a mortgage on it, and has 11 year olds in his 60s? What a whirlwind of poor life choices for decades.

The Simp machine Lol

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"our marriage is strong" what is wrong with him? - also why does he allow her to handle the money? insanity!

I heard him say hundreds of thousands!

Pay the house Peter… if you wanna be homeless when she divorces you

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"We worked hard and had kids." Waaah waaah waaah. So did we. My wife and I had kids and we both worked fulltime. Now, we're both 65 and we still both work. And we have no debt and a paid-off house!! Stop being a wimp and fix this!!

100K????....heck no......she apparently wears the pants in the relationship. This guy probably gets walked over by her and everyone else everyday.

He is docile.

You have to be kidding me... you let the addict make all the spending choices and your just perfectly fine with how "awesome" your marriage is. I do like the equal say that ramsey preachs. I tend to think that there are some situations that doesn't work for. In this situation... if im him. We are 50/50 equal say or im out. And she goes to therapy a real therapist... and doest stop until she can demonstrate multiple years of control. Theres no way i would pt up with this. She can work nights and weekends and pay it off herself. Completely unacceptable. Dude. It is ultimatum time. Shes 55 years old. Shes an adult. Shes lived long enough to figure out handling her own problems. Your enabling her by believing these false statements of why she struggles. Ive been through my own stuff. Everything i did because of it... im responsible for. Its on me. Now sure my past may have set me up for some difficult times. But i made the decisions. It makes the behavior understandable. It NEVER excuses behavior. She needs to hear ine thing from you.. in a loving way. "I love you. But this stops today. If i need to be the money gatekeeper for awhile while you work on yourself.thats fine. But if you overspend and hide that from me again. I will immediately file for divorce. It will end our relationship and it will not be recoverable."

This was a difficult call to listen to. 🤦🏻‍♀️

Peter and his family live in Toronto. Toronto has the highest or second highest house prices in Canada.

He's calling from a Nordstrom cafe.

Tell me, you are doormat without telling me that 🙄.

55 and 60 and 11 year old twins! Wow.

No wonder he is a Canadian 😂 Regardless of the state of marriage, an American would have sounded aggressive.😅

Wheres Delony to ask if he safe? He's whispering.

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"My marriage is strong" is about as good an example of cognitive dissonance as you can find.

Dude didn’t “pay” any credit cards off, he just transferred the debt from one bucket to another.

People get a free house and will still be in debt when they should be retiring. With teenage kids.

The amount of red flags modern men ignore in order to be with someone is absolutely insane.

Dave is 100% right about how ebablers may be the nicest and kindness people in the world BUT they do more harm than good!! I see it most with parents and their children. Also, many parents who enable their children also tend to be very hypocritical as they hold others to standards that they do not hold their children to. I personally know many of these people and I've observed many more. Shame, shame, shame!

I inherited a 1979 El Camino and a mobile home from my dad. I decided to sell the mobile home because it was in Arizona and I live and work in Las Vegas. Plus the mobile home needed a lot of repairs and my dad still had a mortgage on it. I used the money from the sell of the mobile home to put a good chunk down to buy a townhome and I kept the El Camino because I didn't have a car prior to that.

Rachel is great.

The fact that he won't ask his wife to add his name to the deed when he's financially on the hook and married to her indictates some really deep problems. Unfortunately nice people are often easy for takers to take advantage of 😢

He’s a push over who married an addict. She’s doing her thing and he being who he is. Let them sink. He knows it’s wrong and does nothing but enable

YOU NEED A TOUGH COUNSELLOR

This guy isn’t safe and cannot breathe. His wife is clearly controlling and abusive

This man need to get his wife under control

im glad im single

No compulsive spender could sustain a healthy marriage.

“It got worser and worser”

“Pay check to pay-check but i want to invest.”

He should’ve handled all the money

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Wow … they managed to blame the guy by the end !!!!

Don't pay off her debt. Its her debt and her house. Keep your inheritance for you.

This is a heartbreaking call. I'm wondering when this family will loose their housing and become homeless. Are costs being put on credit cards because money is flowing to other things??? I wish this family and all of us the best.

You don't ever have to feel bad for protecting yourself! Money isn't everything but it's important. He needs to stop simping and cover his behind. Esp since his wife has a history of not being trustworthy.

He needs to grow a backbone and not give away his inheritance to someone who may or may not screw him over for life. his dad would spin in his grave.

Nice guy syndrome 😢

Dave, Racheal nice try, but this enabler is clueless!

Shit storm, 60 with a twin of 11 years old..... wtf Adjustable rate mortgage.. Why not refinance on a fix rate?

As a fellow Canadian, dude needs to get his name on the house title YESTERDAY

This guy is screwed 😂 decades of conditional simping is impossible to erase 😢

"Im not the one to fight over money" = complete doormat. He's in this position and perfectly fine with it.

He sounds like the kind of guy to be in this situation

After you hang up the phone, file the divorce paper work..

Sir there is NO WAY I would pay off a house that isn't mine I'm a woman on his side DON'T YOU DO IT !!!

Imagine this guy seeing a spider in his house. Probably runs out screaming.

Wow, she really found the perfect guy for her.

What did this guy want to hear?

This is what "nicer than God" looks like. Learn to say NO!

I'm favoured, $27K every week! I can now give back to the locals in my community and also support God's work and the church. God bless America.

Money aside, if the wife's name is the only name on the title to the house and something should happen to her, there could be probate issues in his future? His name should be on the house for that reason alone.

I'll agree to anything as long as there's a prenup