They are always there to discourage and compare me, more than they cheering me up.

To have a family that neither supports you nor understands you is painful. Whenever they try to pull me down and attack me with mean words I just start right away in the same moment talking to myself in a loving way. Cheering up myself, believing in me and forgiving them for their weaknesses. It‘s also important for me to keep distance what is sad but necrssary for the soul to flourish. Never allow anyone to pull you down. Not even your family has the right to do that. Love and believe in yourself unconditionally

Tears rolled down my cheeks when she said "you have me, I'm proud of you"

"you need to become the parent that you needed" this hurts so much I'm just here crying now, I wish had the emotional support that people who came from good families have, now crying online and alone with nothing, despite always treating other people right

Mel: "it's just incredible to know that you have someone who's always in your corner" Me: It's the first time in my life that i realize how alone i am .... that hit me hard

This one got to me...so much so that I'm actually commenting! I'm in my 40's and my parents have never told me they were proud of me. I do wonder what my life would have been like had they cheered me on? I'm incredibly luckily that I have a husband that does and I make sure I tell my children that I'm proud of them. I want them to always feel that I have their backs. I just need to work on cheering myself on...that's a tough one! Thank you Mel for your lovely words.

I ran away from home when I was 18. I just couldn’t take the abuse anymore been on my own ever since. Had my first kickboxing match last year and even though I won I couldn’t help but notice the kid had family cheering him on and a coach who supported him giving him advice every step of the way while I was alone with everyone booing me. I wish I had that kind of love and support. couldn’t help but sit in my car and cry once it was over.

Legitimately just hear my mom shitting all over the work I've finally found, and am starting tomorrow. Acting like I'm stupid for taking work where i can get it like my failures haven't already made me feel like enough of a waste. Apparently even when I'm doing my best to have some kind of worth, it's just stupidity. I feel like shit right now, but i know if i cry I'll only feel worse. Thank you for this video. Truly. Thank you.

I never had a parent who cheered for me. Like most other Asian parents, I had a single mom who would always criticize and constantly put me down while telling me how disappointed she is, as a way to 'motivate'' me LOL. Now, that NEVER worked. I am 37 years old, and I still don't feel comfortable around my mom although I do care for her, and I have never emotionally relied on her, ever. I have 2 daughters and I want to educate myself on being a great mom because I never had that type of role model, so I appreciate watching your videos as a great learning tool.

I legit woke up today thinking I need to adopt some parents.... and this just nailed the box for me! Haven't had a mum or dad my whole life... I have a mad cheer squad... and cheer for myself but sometimes... I just need an adult!

Sometimes i see people have fun and laugh with their parents, and still at 21 I just want to know what that's like. I've become everything I've wanted to become and I'm proud of who I am now but still, I just want a hug.

I'm really trying my best to succeed and become who really I aim to be. My parents didn't discourage me but neither support, they're like indifferent and I'don't talk with them very much. It's been almost like 2 years that I try to educate and motivate myself to be better every day but sometimes it's hard beacuse it's like a solitary route between you and yourself. But I guess life it's also this, thank you for this video ❤ Ps: sorry for my english, I'm not a native speaker

You are very blessed to have that unconditional cheer squad Mel My parents of course love me but they have never been capable of supporting me! They have never understood my goals.. I ran a fitness studio for 5 years; my mum bless her told me it’s great I had a hobby! I told my dad I would write a book one day! He told me I did not have the vocabulary to write a book! That shattered my soul! But funnily as my life has rolled on, it’s through my writing and now my candid pep talks or I like to call them “morale boosts” on here, It’s in fact my words that are now beginning to touch others! Of course I could only hope one day to have even a percentage of the impact you have! But I will write that book! Actually I will write a series of books one day because I haven’t come this far through the storms of my life to go no further! Thank you! Your wisdom resonates always 💕

You're very lucky mel! I started crying when I read what they wrote. Many of us do not have what you have. What a gift

Yep... I have one those non-supporters. I try my best not to let it affect me. Thanks for all that you do.

literally started crying watching this, ilysm

I needed this today I felt down made me smile x thank you

im cryingggggg. thank you so much for this video and your kind words, i needed this so much, you beautiful soul! ❤🌺🌈

Appreciate this reminder, my parents aren't openly supportive but finding myself and being able to cheer myself on, and feeling good of what I'm doing, and how I'm doing things I never even imagined 🥰

Thank you, I really needed this today

I'm literally bawling my eyes out right now. Thank you for making this

Dear Mel, i'm so glad i've clicked on your video ! i'm one of too many people with a unsupportive parent, while having special needs, my world was based on their competition rules, i was never enough, and having a facial deformity i've been overprotected, and gaslighted all my life, now i'm 43 and my mom is getting really vicious, and she is now in the process to try to hurt me... i've been neglected from a lot in my life, so trying my best to heal from also waay to much stuff i would like to thank you for this super video !

My daughter and I live by the motto: Friends are the family that you choose for yourself. People like you have cheered and supported us through some very hard times. The fact that your parents rooted for you made it possible for you to encourage others. And then we lift up coworkers and neighbors, and so on...

Noone has to support you! It is your journey! Be in love with it and don't be bothered of anyone's reaction to it!

Mel, I always liked watching ur videos...today u have touched my heart...thank u...im 47 and crying like a baby

Both of my parents are gone. I watched a movie yesterday where a mother was expressing her appreciation and pride in her daughter's life choices. I started bawling my eyes out as I do not remember my mother ever telling me these things. I'm 62 years old!! I've been through a lot. I got sober 25 years ago and raised my son on my own without support from anyone. I try to remember to say this to my staff regularly. It means so much to them.

Thanks a lot, Mel for the beautiful message ❤️! I’d also like to add: surround yourself with supportive people and limit your interactions with people you have no meaningul connection with. Both in person and online. You’ll notice a great difference in your balance and emotions👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽. Much love!

You also need to surround yourself only with those who love you for who you are and accept you with all of your humanness!

I love this and I love you. I can't believe they had the nerve to cancel your show. You are such an inspiration.

Thank you MeL. I needed this. I love you.

Took me a while to watch this as I knew I'd find it emotional! I love my folks but, for whatever reason they are not really ableto be supportive of me or my sisters and never have been. It is hard but I know how important it is to support myself. Mel, wise and caring as always, thanks for being there xxx

THANK YOU SO MUCH MEL. As well as you are, I am an attorney but from Cuba . I decided to come to US and recently graduated law school again. Unfortunately, I did not have my parent's support to any of these decisions and resonate to this videos in so many ways. You're right, I had to be my own parent and step up, push myself in a diferente county, in a different language, and overcome everything. It is extremely tough, but ... Your videos are awesome. You're like my auntie :) ...

Wow, Mel Thank you for this! I needed this because my mother- (who I love so much) has been abusive physically, mentally and emotionally to me for years... seeing Happy Mothers Day cards and messages always breaks my heart. However I GOT ME! I got my back and I had to get myself back up and dust myself off. To see a woman like you, so genuine and so understanding I just wanted to say I heard this message and it resonated with me. Love Xx

Thank you so much, I do not have any parents, this made me cry...

Im in your corner and cheering for you too your AWESOME Mel !! I cheer for my self every day. I love you too.

Thank you Mel ❤ I got this

My parent find ways to show how much they enjoy my pain. Disapproving of me is the family glue that holds everything together.

Your parents raised such a beautiful daughter. You are such a lovely person.

Thank you and I am so grateful to have see this. More kisses and hugs to my parents 🥰🥰🥰

Thank you Mel. That's exactly what I needed to hear today.

Few words but yet so powerful! Thanks Mel!!!

Hey Mel! I wanted to say I love this video... I just watched it and it literally made me cry, which I never really do... I want my parents to be there for me so so bad. And I am practicing accepting that they give what they can. Sometimes I slip and wish and expect them to be there to love and support me normally, but I can come back around, no matter how hurt I am from what they say or do to me, and I can remind myself .. it is their problem... Not mine! It's hard to do that, I'm barely learning but mainly I really wanted to say... Thank you for saying this. I have so little support no one will tell me they are proud of me esp my parents when I am a single mom in my own apt maintaining housing and foodstamps etc and home schooling making appts to better myself and my kid, the maintaining resources like housing, food stamps, etc. Is a job in itself. Then a single mama? That's a full-time job esp when I wasn't taught the right way to be a mama. So you saying just focus on being the parent I needed, it makes me cry because I never had the parent I needed my whole life. They can't be that person and if I can totally let that go, I can be the parent I'm supposed to be. I had my kid tell me today that when she grows up and has a kid... She is going to do things better than me. That shows me I am repeating patterns of my parents, even with the appts I go to to avoid that... The appts are now messed up and the ppl aren't helping much anymore, but anyways .. thank you for the video. It was the nicest thing anyone has said to me. I try so hard to get things done and all the places I deal w, housing, foodstamps, etc., They treat me horribly bcuz they don't wanna help anyone right now... It's so hard and I'm trying and now will start finding your videos more... I haven't seen. Lot of new ones I think bcuz you started a class?? I couldn't afford it but hopefully soon you can post a lot more this saved me at this point I'm not even kidding. Thank you with everything. Your the best and nicest person I know. You have accomplished so much I am very proud of you too!! 🙂 Thank you!

You have the courage to take control of your life. You got this. Thanks for your inspiring everyone in the world. Love you.

I really needed to hear this today. Thank you, Mel.

Thank you for sharing this. I’ve never experienced something like this from my parents and for a second there I was able to imaging how it would be like.

Thanks a lot Mel, your good wishes and care are very conforting. Unfortunatelly not every parent deserves to be, so people Who are reading this and have loving and caring parents please LOVE them back a lot and appreciate them for being like that. Don't take them for granted.

So close to my heart. This video has changed my perspective. Thank you Mel Robbins. Grateful for getting this video... If anyone else need friends or family support, remember "I am here for you"

You r amazing Mel . No bullshit just great content ! . I wish to meet you one day because im big fun of you Mel 😇5,4,3,2,1!

Thank you Mel, Needed to hear this !!!

Thank you for the video. I have been in a bad moment with my mom but, hopefully, I will get out of this and show her that I was right to believe in myself. Thank you for the words saying that you're here with me and many others...

I’m so lucky that my parents are super supportive. I love my parents so much.

Your words really brought tears in my eyes. I had been watching you for long but this video touched my heart.

I’m so touched with 😭 tears Grateful for letting me recall my parents’ support.❤️

I want to be a professional footballer one day, at first my dad was giggling and then he found out about the improvements, My mom still isn’t supportive, she wants me to be a doctor or an engineer. Im not into that kind of stuff because I like sports more, and Football is a world sport. For a whole 2-3 months I’ve been playing football a lot, I was one of the worst in my class, after a month, Im the best in the class, a few more months and Im better than people that are older/more experienced than me. But I can see my mom slowly getting more and more supportive, In a few months I’ll have tryouts, Send prayers!

You have really been there for me when I needed you and I appreciate your clear practical posts on issues we all struggle with. My parents didn’t know they weren’t supporting me. They were working a lot and I spent most of my only child life between grandparents or a tv. I reacted badly and rebelled for attention. Later I entertained for attention eventually my codependency morphed into alcoholism and compulsive addiction. Finally when I gave up doing life on my own I used therapy and aa to connect for help. Learning to love me and be there for me has been a lifetime job. After 30 years of recovery and 3 failed alcoholic marriages I am finally putting the bat down and allowing myself to see life thru grateful eyes. I still need help not to hide from myself and to celebrate me so keep posting please.

This brings up tears to me. Healing tears. Thank you for remembering me cheer up myself more often and less to judge. good luck to you and your work!

Thank you so much, Mel , for sharing this motivational video with us. Gob bless you.

Thank you so much Mel beyond description😍🤩... For always being there & spreading such a great hope for millions of people who in need of that support... God bless you forever 🙏❤️

Omg thank you so much for this video. I really needed to hear that today. Hugs

Thank you Mel! I really needed to hear this message.

This made me cry! Health and all the best to your parents and your family!!!

❤️🙏❤️ Thank You Mel

Hearing this filled me with calm, thank you so much for giving me what I have been searching for from people who have shown they cannot give it to me x

my mom is the least supportive of the two. i’ve been working really hard to pass an exam for my career. i’ve taken it several times and my mom doesn’t make me feel good on the way to the exams and afterwards. my dad is very supportive. my mom on the other hand… i’ll try my hardest, do my best, and do what’s best for me … and she’ll still find something to criticize and critique… thank you for this video ❤️

Thank you so much for this, Mel. I love you!

Thank you Mel, I need this. Thank you for making me feel loved and cared

Love you so much Mel...... You are such a blessing....... Thank you so much for existing 💜💜🌈🌈✨✨

this video saved my life. thank you for what you do. and I hope to be half the woman you are and to inspire, love, and help so many struggling children/adults one day.

After my experience with my parents i will always support my child and i will know how he feels

thank you ❤ I feel terribly alone since i hit my 40.. its seem that i was numb and didnt realize i was sooo alone. im 44 now and going to hit 45 soon.. im trying my best to be strong.. but its seem my memory or headspace can heal from it.. matter im trying to think like you, be positive, cheer myslef up seem to not be enough to heal from having no familly.. maybe im doing things wrong because i feel more and more sad everyday.. and im doing my best!!!!!!!!!❤ thank you for your videos, I will try to make it better and not give up.

Hi Mel I love ❤️ you, you made me cry 😢

Thanks Mel...for your kind words...wish you were my big sis! I feel very alone..just thinking about how more mentally stable I would be if I had support from my parents...but I dont...I get that we need to be our own parents...but sometimes you just need to be the kid and have someone tell you..it will all be ok...

Thank you for inspiring and motivating me I also had some problems with my family and in the internet but you're here for us thank you Mel

Watching this right now, made me feel way more better than before, but also its kinda sad that u can get good Energie, positive vibes, from someone on yt, but meanwhile get the opposite kind of feelings from your parents, wich I find really sad, thank you so much for this video it really cheared me up

Thank you so much! I receive this message. 🖤

if this girl ever dies my life will be no meaning without her , shes like a mum or a big sister to me , when ever i watch this video when im down i feel alot more better my dream is to be a hip hop dancer i have my own dance seasons in my room when ever im sad or happy or just feeling nothing i dance i dance alot and i love it i started dancing ever since i was about 3 and im 15 now hoping to be a fame dancer when i group up dancing is a hoobie and my talent thank u for being an amazing person i love your videos so much they inspire me to work harder on my dreams i have unsupportive parents they dont want me to be a dancer they want me to become something that im not and its just not my thing so thank u so much .

Mel, this is so sweet. I didn't feel your talkshow showcased you, but here you shine. Just what I needed to hear, so appreciative. Continue on! x ❤️

You are blessed you are loved ....Thank God for life breath and being. I did not ask to be born but here I am I'm here for purpose so God help me b who you want me to be

Tears

thank you so much mel, you are absolutely awesome..i am glad i found you,this msg was so much needed as i do not have supportive parents

I'm sobbing. Thank you

This one touched me deeply. Thanks for sharing this amazing and lovely thought, and thanks for sharing this precious piece of your life. It means a lot. I felt better with these words. And inspired me to do the same to others. Thank you 🙏

My parents told me, "Shame on you" 3x in the same conversation (same sentence) as discouraging my ultimate plans and dreams. (Among hundreds of others) I've been cheering myself double time since then, and I will conquer! :)

I feel like they’re so distant that it hurts but I know I was the one to pull back first, I wonder why.

Thank you Mel! I love and believe in you too! 💕💕🌹🌹😘😘

Its great to have supportive parents 🙂 I've been lucky enough to have parents who always stand by my side whenever storm hits me!! They always give me hope and I end up not giving up easily 😇

Amen to that Sister ❤🙏 I can't say the sane. But, that's okay. I can honestly say I am sooo #grateful to God above that you had parents that #empowered & encouraged you. I'm afraid to think had that #not been the case...we would never have had the chance & the honor to know you #MelRobbins ❤❌

My parents are abolutely unable to understand me and my life choices and it really makes me sad. If I didn't believe in myself, my parents would make me so depressed. Sometimes it really feels like living with strangers. No matter what I say they will never understand, so it's better not to say anything at all.

Thanks, Mel!

Thanks Mel, truly grateful for you.

Thank you for posting this. I just now found it via yt search and I needed to hear this. ❤

Dear Mel, such love, so inspiring, beautifulll, thank you, love you😊🌷❤❤❤

Thank you so much for the confidence my parents have never said that to me and never have told me that they believe in me. 😢😢❤

I seek so desperately my mom’s support but I never get it and it hurts so bad. I get it from everyone else but her the person I crave it from. When I share with her or my sister good things that happen or what I’m working towards or my dreams my mom indirectly tells me how others have fail basically telling me I shouldn’t try! I have even confronted her about this telling her how much it hurts me and asked her why she does this. Her face was priceless a long silence fallowed and she came up with I say that to motive you! I told her it didn’t and it hurts me deeply and she just continues on with her so called hurtful motivation. I feel like this with my sister too she’s not as bad but close she completely dismisses me or brings up all the negative points. It has never stoped me and I do reach my dreams but with zero support from them and obviously no recognition once I do it!!! I am a huge dreamer but I act on them so it’s not like it’s just dreaming and I don’t at the very least try to go for it! It hurts, it sucks but I trek on. On top of this they are the first ones I want to share things with! I know it won’t change but I always hope it will. This time it’s huge and it requires me to move away . I even considered not doing it because I love them so much but after our last few interactions that feeling of guilt of leaving just vanished in thin air. It’s actually making it easier but it still sucks

Watching this video, I realized I've never done anything I have wanted to do. It's always just been my dad, molding me into some kind of perfect angel that wasn't anything like me. I'm 16 (a Junior) and my dad does anything but support me. He's narcissistic, toxic, and manipulative. He's controlled too much of my life, and I do not care anymore. I am going to do what I want, and I'm not letting him dictate my future anymore. I recently told my parents that I am going to become a firefighter and start that process as soon as I finish high school. My mom is supportive but a little worried, but my dad doesn't want that for me at all. He says it's too dangerous and he doesn't want me to be in any line of duty in my life, but lol. I am not listening to him. Firefighting has always been in the back of my mind since I was nine and watched my first 9/11 documentary in school. I've already planned out step-by-step and when I get my driver's license this summer I'm going to start volunteering at my local department, just to make sure this is what I really want. In the end though, I'm very positive that this is what I want to do in my life. I've had firefighters in my family and I haven't necessarily been surrounded by it my whole life, but I want to save people and be brave for once. I feel a calling for it and if my parents don't ever support me, that will be THEIR problem, not mine. It is my life and when I turn 18, I will follow my dreams, no matter what they say.

Video made me tar up Mel 😢😢 I am grateful for you, your content etc! Thank you, Mel😔❤️💡

Mel, thank you for this video and for cheering on all of your fans. I have so much love in my heart for you, and really appreciate the time you take to make videos for all of us. Keep doing amazing things! ❤️

Thank you so much Mel. God bless you. I love you

Stay safe and stay blessed always those who reading this. Amen

Oh my goodness! This is so awesome! Thanks Mel!