You really made me realize shit with this. I had cheated on my baby daddy one time when I was on drugs, because I was in withdrawal super bad and had no money. I explained it had nothing to do with him, I was happy with our relationship, I loved him so much, it was a one time mistake that I would never make again. He had every right to be upset and I had told him after we had broken up and I went to rehab. It started looking like we were gonna get back together and I didn’t want him to make that choice without having all the information on hand. He responded by going out and fucking my best friend while rehab. We still ended up back together and I thought ‘ok this is the end of it’. Nope. Verbally abused for it all the time, walking on eggshells, constantly apologizing. And then I found out he was sleeping with his best friends girlfriend. I realized then and there he was never going to let it go and would just keep punishing me for it so I left. After we broke up I found out he had cheated on me multiple times with his ex of ten years who had just broken up with him 6 months before we got back together because they worked together they could go sneak off. This was wayyyy before I ever even cheated on him. I learned he’s just a fucking asshole no matter what and I was way better off.

I suspect she brought those issues to the relationship. She has all the classic earmarks of being the adult child of an alcoholic.

Love this comment so much! You hit the nail on the head!

She caused the gambling though

@alanmccarthy4004 well it's a good thing Gail actually noticed that and confronted Allison about it as well as confronting chris about him being a doormat

Totally agree. He keeps lying.

Uncertain if gambling is his only addiction. I wish them well.

Two sides to this, he does have a problem but so does she with her attitude and it doesn't just stem from his addiction. She couldn't stand even Gail's constructive feedback.

Amen! Research, maybe, but she should be booted out of the clinical track.

Wish I could like this a million times

She chose him for a reason. I hope she explores that in therapy. She gave him a lot of power he misused, and she seems a bit too comfortable playing the victim. Something is there....

She has zero business being in the psych field. She's effing nuts herself. Hope they nade her shift to a research -only area.

She definitely made a huge mistake of giving all of her financial stress to someone who has a known gambling addiction, just to get upset with him for having a gambling addiction. One might call that enabling his addiction.

@@theknittinkitten2954 maybe she's "experimenting" on him . Tripping the other partner let's her come out on top over everything.

She should walk away, he is a joke

I thought I would have to really pay attention for this... I did not... this was CLEAR lol

it was worth some rewinds for sure

Because she hasn’t done any work on herself!

Agreed. Both are very dysfunctional.

nooooooooo! I didn't think it would last.. well I hoped it wouldn't ..she is such a bully and seems to relish looking down on him. Interesting though.. better than an update, a live sighting out in the wilds!!

Looks like she got what she wanted. Total Control.

Dang I thought they would be separated already

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😂😂

She needs to work on her own anger issues before she tries to help patients deal with theirs.

Some toxic relationships are really long term. Because they need each other to continue toxic behaviours

She’s going to be a psychologist, not a psychiatrist (who is an MD). I can’t imagine her student debt and going into a job that pays okay but nothing spectacular. Main difference is she can prescribe meds but she could do that as a physician’s assistant or a nurse practitioner. Still a lot of tuition but more doable than a PhD.

@@MrsEJV I'm thinking she wants the title doctor for the power it will give her. I'd be surprised if they stayed together. She's just too strong a personality and bless his heart sweet as he is he's a mess. If she continues to lean on him and fight him every step of the way even a little at a time, it's not going to help matters at all. He'll eventually cave to whatever she wants.

@@MrsEJV psychologists in Canada do not prescribe medications.

Not to mention she wants to be a psychologist, so most likely provide therapy for people. With that kind of attitude, she'd lose her licensing REAL FAST.

She’s in a doctoral program and is lucky to be making the $12,000. The job she has is through her program and furthers her degree experience. Being a doctoral candidate takes up your entire life. Her program will drop her if she takes on another job-and even if she could, her studies would suffer and she would fail out of the program. When she gets her degree, she will start making a good salary.

@@katiebellejohnson2688 …….assuming she gets her dissertation accepted (many candidates don’t) then passes her boards. She’s a long way from a decent salary.

@@MrsEJV Yes! Exactly.

Yep, they used to weed out the nutbars.

Therapists have their own therapists. Our own problems and faults are the most difficult for us to see. It's a blind spot.

Aren't you sick of acting like a babysitter to someone who refuses to be responsible ?

Shrinks need shrinks themselves 😆

She'll make a mess of it, get sued, and lose her license before she's done.

She can & will blame him for everything.

No offense, but a psychology degree is one of the easier degrees to get.

This isn’t true at all… but ok

@Truth love, undergrad, that's tr u e, but she's in a doctoral program. That's nit easy at all.

'You can be good at being a student but have very low social and emotional intelligence. I have worked with waitresses who are geniuses with people compared to this woman. I have met very few clinical psychologists who do not have emotional and psychological issues. She said openly she wanted a knight in shining armour to take care of her, even though he told her he was bad with money. That is insane. She chose to put her credit rating at risk, she was not forced to. He knows he is messed up but she does not.

that was a pretty fabulous comment, I applaud you.

She was a doctoral candidate (PhD)in psychology.

Perhaps you should change your name too…

Are you for real ? Clearly you’re not married to an addict who lies to you day in and day out.

I agree. I think if he wasn't trying to get help it would be different but he's trying his best! He went to rehab and even agreed to be on the show / possibly asked her if she wanted to be on the show to get their life together.

Even before Gail called her a bully, I was thinking (based off the edit, of course) that she knew he had problems and bad credit, gave him all the responsibility for the finances, then was harping on him for ruining her credit? I was wondering if she deliberately gave him rope to hang himself with so that she had something to hold over him.

Girl. He is a full-blown gambling addict who constantly lies to his wife about their finances. How are you blaming this on the wife?

@@haute03My take is based purely on the edit and on some messed up relationships I have seen. I don't know these people IRL, but it came across like a person who's in a messed up relationship because they get some weird emotional satisfaction out of feeling superior to the person they've tied themselves to and blaming them and lording their faults over them. It would be different if she didn't know about his gambling addiction and though he was taking care of business. She knew about them, put him in charge and then went on and on about it.

she sees someone to look down on.

and control! Smh

She knew he was a gambler and bad with money and then put him in a position where he was the only one handling the finances. That obviously wasn't going to end well and she needs to take responsibility for that.

Yeah, I noticed the hair right away.

She's working. Graduate assistants earn very little.

She’s working! She’s a research assistant.

your son in this video??

Exactly. He’s so desperate to please, and so afraid of her high standards that he even said he was gambling to try to avoid having to discuss money with her.

His face when Gail called her a bully was an absolute picture!

Gail tells it like it is.

Interest, compounded. Some people are paying more interest than principle.

She is a graduate student and gets a small salary or stipend for doing part time work, usually teaching or research assistant to a prof. It is part of a financial aid package.

What a vile thing to say.

She works part-time as a research/teaching assistant and makes $12,000 a year. While I'm not in her field nor in Canada, I did a Masters in clinical work while also being a part-time teaching assistant, did full-time classes, and full-day clinical practicums three days a week (unpaid work that I _paid_ to do) in order to get enough clinical hours which are a requirement for graduation and licensure. I don't know whether she needs clinical hours/practicums at the doctoral level but it's likely there is no additional time for her to make more money in her schedule between her part-time work, her classes/dissertation, and possible clinical hours. I'm not a fan of how she interacts with her husband but I can attest that it's a lot of work to do all at the same.

Unhappy with where they're at in life is my guess and the reason I have ever gained weight myself so yea. I cook for millionaires and every entrepreneur husband has a huge belly and the wives are very thin. Sometimes straight up anorexic. What's obvious about all of the relationships is that both partners are very unhappy. One couple divorced actually. Guy is still fat, has new skinny gf. 🤷‍♀️

Most couples have a few kids. Tough on the body.

@@MrsEJV That’s just an excuse. I know a lot of women, including myself that didn’t let ourselves go just because we gave birth 🤦🏼‍♀️ What’s the mens excuse then when they let themselves go? Giving birth ? 😂

@@cjhoward409 there are all kinds of reasons for being fat, such as polycystic ovarian syndrome, that doesn't always respond to treatment. As for 'letting themselves go', that's an incredibly narrow and hostile way to view someone's body and its changes.

@dreamland you have no idea whether or not she has a food addiction. She could have steroidal medication, or PCOS, or be fat for any number of reasons.