Finally someone spoke about this issue.....I was wondering why no one raised this point in Rocky and Rani

I felt bad for Jaya Bachchan in Rocky and Rani and felt that her hate for her husband’s mistress’s granddaughter (Rani) was fully justified 😢😢😢😢😅😅

You should add Bajirao Mastani to this! The one that got it right! The one which made you fully empathize with the wronged party even while trying to glorify the cheating pair!

Cheating is a choice and leaves a deep impact on the partner, and the cheating partner is always aware of it. I don't think any Bollywood movie has ever sensibly depicted the trauma of the cheated partner😢

Don't know if this comes under "glorifying", but many movies (especially the comedies) do give the message that even if your partner cheats on you, you should try and get them back.

I think Dil Dhadakne Do shows a very realistic potrayal of cheating. Like how Anil Kapoor cheats on his wife but in the end his wife forgives him not because she loves him but that she has nowhere else to go. Likewise Priyanka's character is also seen cheating on her husband who is abusive, misogynist and controlling and she chooses the option of divorce because she can make that choice unlike her mother.

I hated KANK because they ended the movie with a happily-ever-after of the two cheaters and made it look like, "Oh, Dev and Maya finally found true love! How romantic!" People say it shows reality of society, but it doesn't at all.The movie does end with a slight note that cheating is bad, but it feels forced. The entire movie says otherwise. In my opinion, the movie should have focused on Preity and Abhishek's struggle instead of making it a Rani-Srk love story. They showed cheating in a positive light focusing on "true love, etc" instead of bringing light to the harm it caused to everyone else.

Ranveer and Alia can dance around destroying and making fun of Dhanlaxmi's marriage but when Dhanlaxmi is against their month old relationship, she is cruel. Such entitlement and no respect for others relationship is downright disrespectful and really common.

I felt the last season of Four More Shots Please also normalised cheating in an extremely weird manner when Damini cheated on Jeh, who was a total green flag, and then blamed him for her infidelity stating some obscure reason of coming on too strong/not giving her enough space, or something like that. That storyline left me disturbed and made me cringe.

Also worth including the story of Shilpa Shetty and KK Menon from Life in a metro. While Menon is sleeping around with his young employee Kangna, Shilpa is frustratingly resisting going intimate with Shiney Ahuja. Finally when Menon finds out about her and Shiney, he goes berserk to humiliate Shilpa.. but defends his own cheating as “purely physical nothing emotional”. Hypocrisy much?!

Silsila is literally a real life documentary...a lot of respect for Amitji...Jayaji and Rekhaji for actually working for YRF!!

For me, the infidelity shown in Masoom hits like a ton of bricks, because the affair is in the distant past but there's a byproduct of it infront of the wife's face. On one side she's shattered that her husband did this to her but the illicit child has a face that melts your heart.

It's freaking mind boggling how Bollywood showcases cheating and justifies it that you actually end up thinking, it's fine to have a fling when married or committed!!! Kudos to you Jammy for having the balls to address this issue.

Towards the end of KANK, when Maya & Rhea meet again (after 3 yrs), Rhea tells Maya how she (Rhea) & Rishi have moved on, while Maya & Dev are still stuck in the past. This is another scene that shows how KANK doesn't glorify the cheating.

Even Pati , Patni aur woh was also glorifying cheating...In the whole movie they justified Kartik's Character,compared him with PRABHU SRI RAM and at the end tried to balance it through a monologue of Bhumi..

Exactly. Exactly. Exactly. The fact cheating is being so glorified and justified so massively and easily in Bollywood nowadays was being so overlooked. Thank you for this video.

I was really waiting for someone to talk about this topic. Why do directors or storywriters doesn't understand that a cheat is a cheat no matter what. Even when i watched kabhi alvida na kehna i never realized why no one talked abt this for these many yrs. Kudos to you bro❤️❤️❤️

I will never understand the mentality of cheating after promising loyalty to your partner

I don’t think so that cheating should be acceptable from any gender in a relationship even if it is a loveless relationship one should always be truthful to their feelings , also thank you for pointing out biwi no.1 , I absolutely hated the fact that despite the man being in the wrong Sushmita sen’s character becomes the villain (she does have some toxic traits) but nothing enough to label her as the vamp , but then again Salman Bhai k aage koi kuch Bol skta hai kyaa??😂

That was my only concern with Rocky and Rani. They literally gave no redemption to Dhanlaxmi. When Dharmendra kissed Shabana, her reaction felt more like a son brought home a girl she didn't like, rather than a wife who was betrayed. I loved Dharmendra and Shabanaz's chemistry. While she was justified because her husband was abusive, Dhanlaxmi and Kanwal's dynamic was monotone. That being said, I love an old people romance story.

Being cheated on by your partner is the most traumatising thing one has to go through. Imagine loving only one person with all your heart and sincerely, than all of a sudden wondering everytime if what wrong dud you do for this to happen.

I was thinking about it while watching Rocky and rani where jaya bacchan who made the whole empire was just disregarded and that point when mother of rocky yells at her husband after being obedient and suffering for so long and when he said sorry for all , she started shouting ..the reaction was over the top ....that sudden courage and his reaction to jaya ji...was like....wth !! Like one-sided story it felt

Chokher Bali is a film that needs to be discussed I feel . Based on Tagore's novel of the same name, the various pov's baffle thr viewers. This film was a masterpiece regarding male infidelity

Frankly the matter of cheating needs to be understood in the context of the times we live in. As a modern day woman, I believe its unacceptable. You should first separate from your partner in case of issues and then move on to someone else. But lets go back 30-40 years in a world where women weren't financially independent. Many women married to bollywood folks...Salma Khan, Raj babbar's wife, Mithun's wife, Dharmendra's wife etc gladly accepted their husbands simply coz they had kids with them. So a lot changes when you have a big family to support! I always feel that morals can be enforced only when you are comfortable with money.

I watched Rocky aur Rani very recently online, and this issue really stuck out for me. I went through some of its reviews and was so perplexed that no one was talking about it!

I was eagerly waiting for you to talk about this issue. KANK is personally one of my favourite SRK romantic movies along with KHNH and Veer Zaara. And those saying that is glorifies cheating, there's a closing dialogue by him in the movie where Dev says that although he and Maya found love in each other towards the end, he wished that it didn't have to come at a cost of breaking their respective partners' heart.

Oh finally like I understand that Rani’s grandfather was abusive but what was the justification behind Rocky’s grandfather cheating on the grandmother Also the fact that the grandkids are actually helping them and shipping them

As someone who doesn't watch nonsensical bollywood romcoms, I see this as an absolute win. Great content once again.❤️

Finally someone called out the weirdness of Mahesh Bhatt presenting his affair with Parveen Babi. Like, imagine being broke and mentally unwell while someone you haven't met for ages is earning from your name and making steamy romance films about your affair.

This stuck out as such a sore thumb for me throughout rarkpk, the way cheating was not even questioned, and everyone loved the movie somehow! Thank you for putting the problematic way bollywood handles infidelity in a video

Me and my mom literally gasped when we saw the kissing scene in rocky and Rani we were so shocked and my mom instantly said “this is too much Han” while people were clapping and hooting.....and we thought that this is wrong on so many levels!!

I believe the question boils down to “What consequence do the characters face?” KANK and Gehraiyaan show that Dev and Alisha face consequences due to their actions. This isn’t glorifying but the other movies? Not so much

Your research is commendable 👏 The way Bollywood has knowingly or unknowingly glorified cheating by men through comedic gags and chauvinistic portrayal is noteworthy. Of all the movies that you have mentioned here, I felt a sense of empathy towards Tabbu's character in Astitva, perhaps because of the way the film was narrated and how it ended.

This video deserves a part two. In Humpty Sharma ki Dulhaniya, the girl was already engaged, still she had an affair with Humpty. In Love Aaj Kal, Meera sort of cheats on her partner and dumps him just after getting married. In Tamasha, Tara spends time with Ved 'Don' while she already had a boyfriend in India. This is much more common in Imtiyaz Ali films.

1:53 - Correction: Kanwal is not having a hangover from his affair before getting married. He meets Jamini after getting married to Dhanlakshmi.

I remember watching Biwi no.1 as a kid and how difficult it was for me to watch the movie. I wonder how could Bollywood make a movie like that for a family watch and it was a huge hit that time... goodness!!!

Finallyyyyy, someone in our generation spoke about this issue. Otherwise, people especially in our generation not only in movies but in real life also have started normalizing such things. Thanks for highlighting this.

I think since the 80s and 90s cheating and polygamy is often glorified in Indian cinema across Industries in the name of comedies and romance, and it has made the audience quite immune to it, But the irony is in slapstick comedies people will often take it as a comedic gag but the moment this subject is dealt in a more serious film it becomes a taboo or trying to ruin society🙄 I find movies like Kaathuvaakula Rendu Kaadhal(2022) more disturbing than movies like Gehraiyaan coz unlike the former the latter isn't rewarded for it 😅But the amount of hate Gehraiyaan got shows the double standard of the audience😢

This is literally a question that's been in my mind for years. But nobody acknowledges it. Kudos to you Anmol to bring this up for discussion 👍

Hey Jammy, I know you did not include this particular scenario but do you remember the scene from Jab We Met where the Shahid tells her who he really is and then they talk about his mother’s cheating and Kareena justifies it by saying “woh pyaar mei thi”

Oh finallyyyyy . For years now I’ve seen movies which in the name of misunderstanding or comedy have glorified cheating and I would always wonder if the audience is expected to root for them . From movies like biwi number one in the 90s to RARKPK this was one thing that somehow didn’t change . I understand showing it in the movies that affairs are something that happen in real life but not giving it the explanation or conclusion it deserves and somehow we are expected to believe as if it is acceptable . Thank you for bringing it up

Finally someone spoke about it...i really feel very uncomfortable while watching thus kind of scenes where they shows cheating in a comic way 😢😢😢😢

It's also noticeable that some directors just keep showing cheating, betrayal of partners in form of love stories ....a glorified director like SLB has done this repeatedly, many of David Dhawan's movies presented this with comic angle, KJo had this as main theme in movies like KANK , even in Student of the year , cheating was the thing what ignited the fire ....personal choice or something else?

I did not like KANK as it had a happy ending for the cheaters. However Gehraiyan was more realistic in its ending, as so many such relations end in crimes. Rocky and Rani well I felt very bad for Dhanlaxmi as Bollywood always shows practical abd strong matriarchs as villians.

KANK was not only about Dev and Maya love story, it was also about how Rishi and Ria were strong enough to forgive them and move on.

I am so so glad you talked abt this! This is the content for which we follow you ♥

Amazingly put across the whole concept!

Haven’t watched other movies but in Rocky and Rani, speaking on behalf of Dharmendra it’s essential to reflect on compassion, empathy and care that are cornerstones of relationship. She kept him parched of his deep emotional needs. If you don’t love don’t expect loyalty. She literally denied him the love of his son.

I can't help but notice the irony in the casting of Rocky and Rani. Like Jaya is really the other woman in her own marriage even in real life. Dharmendra cheated on his first wife to marry Hema Malini and lastly Shabana Azmi had an affair with a married Javed Akhter until he eventually left his wife to marry her. It’s like they all have played that part in real life as well

Really glad you made this video Anmol. Been mulling over the romabticizing of cheating in bollywood/ott for a while. The best arc I've seen although is in the hotstar series 'out of love'. It shows every emotion in the cycle and is carried by amazing actors as well esp. Rasika Duggal.

My aunts used to watch Astitva multiple times as it used to be telecasted on Doordarshan several times back in the day. As a kid I used to get bored and never understood the depth of the movie. Now as an grown up, I understand the complications involved in relationships, commitments, infidelity.

I had the same feeling when I was watching Rocky Rani. Thanks for making the video. Well researched and made.

This is so beautifully explained. I also felt similarly about many instances in Made in Heaven- it somehow seemed to be the norm. In some cases it was also glorified.

Astitva was a traumatic part of my early childhood film-watching experience, especially as a kid with the constant fear that would happen to my family.

Finally someone talking about the absurd and impactical ending of manmarziyaan...both agreeing to keeping in touch and discuss their problems would have made way more sense...it was a total matlab-kuchh-bhi moment.

Great video. This was needed to be called out. I also want to add another story which is rather forgotten or given not much thought. The characters of Shilpa Shetty and Kay Kay Menon in Life in a Metro. The ending of their story didn't sit well with me. Even of Shilpa realized that she needs to put effort in her loveless marriage, Kay Kay menon's character only "realized" when Kangana left him. It was more of a convenience rather than a realization. But it was showed as if he got the realization. This always irked me as how nobody really acknowledges Kay Kay's process of getting back together with Shilpa

Thxx god finally someone spoke on these issues Cheating is wrong whether done by male or female. Marriage is based on trust this betrayal will not be tolerated... Saala ye Bollywood wale kuch bhi dekha dete hai cheating kai naam par Boycott kardo inko😂

These were my thoughts when I watched bajirao mastani for the first time (because my friends were going Gaga over how great the movie was and love between bajirao mastani ) And after watching I said to them I didn't like the movie ( may be coz I was not able to digest Kashi Being treated that way and they were even justifying that with cringe worthy dialogues 🥴) I still remember all girls were climbing on me like " you don't understand how GREAT was the love of bajirao mastani " " they even secrifice their lives for each other " ... I was like chill girls I just didn't like you'll don't have to force me to like it. 😂 Seriously now I think of it Bollywood influencing so many adolescence specially girls... their ideas of love is so much in wrong direction 😪.

Wow, your insights are absolutely thought-provoking. Thanks, Top G.

This vid is too good. Very well narrated & described the portrayal of hindi cinema with regards to infidelity & the society stabdards & outlook of it. 👏🏼👏🏼 I agree to every word

Bollywood movies don't "glorify" cheating but they fail to show realistic consequences. It's never the act of the cheating that ruins a relationship, it's the betrayal. Regardless of the reason, if you shouldn't have to lie to your partner. There are valid reasons that may led someone to cheat but there is no justification for lying about it. Either leave or stop cheating, don't continue to lie. Once trust is broken, it's impossible to repair. A very nuanced example is The Lunchbox. You root for the couple because they aren't pursuing a relationship for selfish reasons. They have mutual respect for how their established lives will be affected.

Haseen Dilruba really can make any boy insecure about their bodybuilder cousin 👀👀

I absolutely love you Jammy for all the nuanced discussions about various themes in Indian cinema! I am a huge movie buff and your channel inspires me to do something of the kinds that you do yourself cos your videos make me fall more in love with cinema in general. Thank you!!

Nicely done video! Love ur voice 🙌

Anmol, how about a video on the villainous roles of SRK in his earlier films? His performances were iconic in them.

Just to correct you on your analysis of Kanwal and Dhanlaxmi. The affair between Kanwal and Jamini probably happened after their marriage ( As Shabana Azmi's character says to Rani, that "we were both married" and mentioned that they met in 1978, which I am assuming was after both were married according to everyone's age), so the disdain on Kanwal's face was not because he was hungover on Jamini

Great content and observations. Hats off 🎉❤

I don't think they're glorifying it, they are just showing us the reality of the society.

I wish if you could have included Tara from Made in heaven. I think she lost it all when her mother in law accepted her son's gf coz she was pregnant and also had a room getting ready for baby. Tara was negative but she was faithful in her marriage and was betrayed not only by her husband but also her mother in law who was ready to accept her son instead of dumping him and supporting Tara but that's Indian mind set coz beta to beta hota hai and bahu wahi jo bacha de.

In Life in a Metro, the plot between Shipla Shetty and Kay Kay Menon also suggests cheating. Even though they both cheat on their partners, I could totally relate to Shipa's yearning for a happy and fulfilling life. Particularly when "Hai tujhe bhi ijaajath karle tu bhi Mohobath." was playing. Although we are all aware that Kay Kay Meonon's actions were very unacceptable, I can't blame Shipla for wanting to be loved and respected given the circumstances she was in. For me, the movie's conclusion was really shocking. I was quite let down to see that Shilpa simply chose her loveless marriage for her daughter's sake. Although I didn't mind that she didn't end up with her love interest, it was completely unacceptible that she didn't get divorce. Considering Shilapa's background, I'm not sure if the movie romanticized infidelity or not.

Thank you for making this video Jammy and a big thanks to all the people who have commented condemning adultery. Lately I had become upset thinking that I am the only one who finds infidelity a deal breaker and I cringed through all the movies which tried to normalise it. For me what is worse than Bollywood's glorification of adultery is the expectation that a woman should readily accept and love her husband's child outside of marriage. Such a situation is beyond heart breaking for a woman but bollywood expects women to just get over it. It can be seen in movies like Main Hoon Na, Masoom and every other tv serial. The ONLY movie to show the reverse was Kya Kehna.

THAAAAAANK YOU for finally being someone talking about this

Thank you for finding a way to discuss cheating despite reviewing forthcoming films and other things. Well, over the past few days, I've seen a variety of posts and articles on Instagram as well where the public is split over the Rocky and Rani plot. For some people, it was justified; for others, it wasn't. In my opinion, Bollywood tries to take this subject in some way every time, whether as the main plot or just a side plot, but they never manage to pull it off. It was Jaya Ji's character in the film Rocky and Rani, which may have been scripted to make us blame her.Bollywood films have somehow failed to do these serious and delicate subjects justice. If the film has a popular hero, the storyline will present him as a decent guy; if the film has a medical cast, the plot will simply leave the matter left to the viewers' decision. Cheating in any form is never justifiable, but if we look to Bollywood movies for a lesson in it, we will be disappointed. Kabhi Alvida Na Kehna was slightly better in this situation, but the background supplied to the characters was not up to par, but they managed to improve it in the end.

kank is a masterpiece for me. the way srk played the anti rahul role to the tee and can't even forget the movie album

Thank u ... Just thank u for atleast raising this topic

Good that you've shared this topic !!!

That was my biggest point against rocky weds rani. I was surprised none of the critics found it as bad messaging in a movie which was otherwise full of preachy messaging!!

It's also interesting to see what the makers' perspectives are in real life. For example, we've seen Karan Johar on multiple occasions approve of infidelity in interviews, shows, etc., so it makes me think his movies incorporating infidelity may just justify the act of it as well, simply because he agrees with it in real life. I believe art is an extension of who you are, so in that sense, I believe many of these makers incorporate infidelity in a way that they agree with, which is problematic to say the least.

I was just wondering about this aspect in the movies. And glad you pointed this out.

Hii jammy nice to see you after a long time my feed showed your video..

Kabhi Alvida na Kehna is more nuanced, that's true. Yeah that scene from the movie wherein, Rani asks Srk, 'if they'd ever be together..' from the movie is simply heart-piercing 🙂

Finally heard what I have felt to be cringe since having watched KANK. I had felt the portrayal of extra marital relationship to be so romanticized and fulfilling as if what they was the only way and absolutely right. Still feel this kind of films to be bizarre. Thank you for telling me that I am not the only one repulsed by this theme in the movies.

I was waiting for this video to be made! Can never digest why they glorify cheating in movies!

Thank you so much for talking about the rocky aur rani ki prem kahini, it really bothered me, glad someone sees it too

You know the best case of affair outside marriage I've seen? Guide. Waheeda ji's character is in a loveless marriage with a walking red flag and when she discovers him red handed on his escapade, she leaves him and falls in love with Raju Guide, who cares for her at her lowest and sympathises with her. While her archaeologist husband tried to stifle her interests and personality to maintain an image in the society, Raju fights against the society to let her be herself after years. So ironic that such a great portrayal of love outside marriage came at a time when it was looked so negatively at, while the movies in this woke era are glorifying cheating for absurd reasons.

If we talk about KANK, the whole idea was to say if you are unhappy in marriage, it's ok to end it and don't have to push it till old age. Shahrukh said this in an interview with komal nahta at the time of Don's release which was few months after KANK.

You spoke my heart off! I was with Jaya’s character in the beginning she was happy bride and turned bitter as she did not get love from her husband. Then you brought her husbands love in fornt of her kissing her husband who would never have shown any such gesture towards her. I fell sick and my heart aced only for her character in the movie and the fact that everyone was okay with the story and enjoyed it made me sad. Thanks for speaking on this. I feel heard.

Irugapattru . Watch it Jammy , soo worth it . Takeaways for everyone. Beautifully written . Sad it is not getting the box office run it deserves.

Hey Jammy, big fan of your videoss.

Thank you for talking about jaya's character. I personally don't think kjo can do complicated arcs like these at all.

What a wonderful analysis. Bravo dude 👏👏👏👏. I feel like you called out this sometimes-hideous-sometimes-explicit feminist rant "my body my choice". It's is finally being called out. Yes, Indian films had been glorifying cheating over the decades and making audiences confused by these so-called choices made by the leads. Basically they're saying that cheating is OK but breaking the marital bond ( Divorce ) is not OK, because if you get divorced " what are people gonna say"? I feel like these filmmakers have their own agendas where they wanna come out clean on their messy past on the lead's morality and confusi g the audience. Even though men are equally wrong but I am seeing this hidden agenda where men are exploited the same way like women were exploited a few decades ago. That's exactly why I had a problem with Barbie. Why woman's freedom needs to come at a cost of a man's salvation? Men from the very beginning are pressurized about being a "man" . Maybe it's still not that prevalent in the Asian countries, but men are subjected to so much emotional torture in the Western countries just in the name of "women rights". I am sorry it's a long debate and I don't know how to comprehend it into one comment

Great topic, brother! Our Manmarziyaan's POV is so similar. 😭 Recently I watched Majili, man it's irritating to watch and problematic to have such kinda movies in society.

While I agree with your thoughts in RRKPK because Jaya's character was almost always shown in a negative light... But but but, in half of the other movies we should be looking at these characters who cheat as characters, not the ideal beings. Its a movie theatre not a judge's court. It's high time we stop expecting films to portray ideal case scenarios or Karma coming the full circle by the end of the movie, because that isn't how life is.

I don't remember last time when was the last time Bollywood preached good values

Amazing point👌 and i totally agree to every point.

After a long time, I agree with your views wholeheartedly, Anmol. Well done on this video.

Bollywood does glorify infidelity. And I think the kind of world that we live in is a testament to the trend and glorification of infidelity, with relationships classified as open, friends with benefits, etc. The result? People find long-term committed relationships boring and put the relationship label on the means that justify their cheating.

Jammy any thoughts on hua main ? I personally think the song wasn’t long enough to hit the chords, however the beats seem to grow on you , at this point I don’t think so anyone can predict what the story is going to be about !

Glad you called out these type of topics. I wondered the same thing watching these films. dunno what msg they want to give to the society?😷

Love your perspective towards Kabhi Alvida Na Kehna!