Allah is the most merciful and forgiving sister. No matter what you’ve done, go back to Allah, repent and He will forgive you. We are all sinners, but the best of us are those that repent. Increase your good deeds. Volunteer in your community, give in charity, help/support your parents/family. Praying for you during this tough time 🙏🏼

You guys saying “comfort can lead to manipulation” was something I needed to hear ig

I truly appreciate you both's honesty and Islamic belief. You guys are making a better picture of Islam. Proving that it really is the right choice. Keep going guys

Damn...that boy is savage. The sad reality is that there are many little boys with the same mentality and somehow manage to find vulnerable girls. DO YOUR RESEARCH ladies! LOOK FOR RED FLAGS and TAKE YOUR TIME! No need to rush anything, take care of yourself first, forgive yourself and stay close to your faith.

I feel deeply sorry for the girl, who wrote that email. You are still worth everything and you deserve a good person at your side. It hurts me to hear, that you feel so embarrassed. You will learn from it and still find love and happiness. And please don’t ever let anyone make you feel guilty or judge you for what happened. Sending you big hugs

The biggest red flag in my opinion is the fact that he promised to get married to her and didn't follow it up with meeting her parents. If he was serious about her, the first thing he would have asked to do was meet up with her parents. Marriage isn't just about the two of you, but two families will be involved as well. Having her parents involved also creates safety and prevents her from being taken advantage of because now he has people that can hold him accountable. I would also strongly recommend that she should take an STD test considering the guy slept with multiple women.

Zinna is one of the biggest sins before marriage... Its becoming normal these days. May Allah save us all from such sin.

I was like “wow, Jasmine is like everyone’s big sister. So mature!” while listening their advice and thought, then I googled her age… she is one year younger than me🙂🥲 As a reverted Muslim, I really agree that Islam helps people to go to the right way. I had been through a lot of toxic stuff before I encountered Islam. May god bless Jasmine, Dawoud and Muslims💕

Honestly dawoood has the kindest soul seriously so sweet and jasmine is sooo smart and knowledgeable she’s so realistic and I appreciate you advice very honest and not beating around the bush love your videos

Yasmine is always advising like a big sister to her community.. i like how you apprehend subjects and talk openly and not judging at all

I'm Catholic and I'm grateful to have stumbled upon your channel. I love good people! :)

There should also be a lesson learned for the Muslim brothers. The fact that this man is GOING AROUND, and obviously should know better, just goes to show that there is a real problem in our community about how we teach our boys and keep them accountable for their actions, because he isn’t just adding to his own sins, he is literally effecting so many women and effecting them emotionally,mentally, and physically. To the girls, if a Muslim man is super comfortable with you- he’s super comfortable with all other girls. Period. It happens, but don’t dwell on whatever feeling Shaytan might make you feel, because he is clouding your HEAD with the temptation in your HEART. Inshallah you found this useful and Jazak Allahu Khayr ❤️

In Islam, they tell you that you never have to share your sins to others. If you did it, regret it and promised Allah you won't do it again, then Allah forgave you, and you have to forgive yourself and don't share it if you feel it's going to make your life more complicated. Islam is so easy. So to this girl, just try to forgive yourself and forget about this bad memory. It will just be a good lesson. May Allah forgive to all of us

A person that sleeps around with other people for fun is not a muslim. That type of person is muslim from the mouth ,but not in action. Indirectly a hypocrite. The girl which is believe to be a muslim should have ha a better judgment in that situation, but I do acknowledge those situation are tricky. At the end it's not about who did the mistake, but to learn about it for future upcoming life test. Allah test the people he likes the best. Inshallah the girl will find a better path and will be ready for the next time. (male opinion (not islamic): I would advise keeping it a secret)

The Islamic answer to your question is that: Allah is the greatest forgiver. It might take time, months or years, but according to personal experience (not the same but kinda) by doing efforts to make yourself forgiven by allah, you will simply KNOW that he did. Just do all your prayers at time, do Naffila, salat el Fajr and alot of Duaas etc... and promessing Allah that you will NEVER do the same thing again with feeling really guilty. And inshallah Allah will forgive all of us

My message to this girl: don’t let this one experience define yourself, meaning learn from it, don’t repeat it, repent properly. Allah is most forgiving and loving. Don’t think that just because you did this one act that it means that you’re not a Muslim anymore or you’re even less of one. Feeling that guilt means your relationship with Allah is still there. You have not strayed.

Just pray 5 times a day, control ur thoughts, behave modestly, don't repeat same mistake again

Regarding the “telling” part: If one actually repented, they shouldn’t tell their future partner about the past sin, or anyone actually. The reason is that Allah has covered on you, so why would you expose yourself. I think your sins should be between you and Allah and as long as you repented, no one has the right to judge you.

I advice the sister not to Expose your sin to your future partner, god forbid if you two get in an argument or divorce, he’ll use that against you.

Well done both of you . U guys just stepped up another level .Maturity, empathy and kindness wow

We all sin. We all make mistakes. The biggest mistake we could make is to lose hope and dwell on our sins. Do not lose hope in Allah’s mercy, for Allah certainly forgives all sins. He is indeed the All-Forgiving, Most Merciful. ― Quran 39:53 “Every son of Adam commits sin, and the best of those who commit sin are those who repent.” ―Prophet Muhammad (ﷺ)

Let me say this to Muslim and Non Muslim women/men alike. If sex were the thing keeping someone then all sexworkers would be married. It's always genuine affection and connection that keeps two together.

You guys are going to make the best parents 😍

I am stuck with making a huge decision about my life.. I am so thankful for god for making me watch this just on time.. I needed this .. May allah bless you both!!

I dated my husband for 3 months before we got married and...I completely agree! Alhumdulilah things have turned out fine (married for 3 years) but I definitely think we rushed into it, and there was a lot of struggle and pain with getting to know each other while married. For all of you brothers and sisters reading this, please spend more time getting to know each other! It might not work out as well as it did for me...and let me tell you, it's been HARD. But things are looking bright now!

Not a Muslim, but am a fan of your channel. That is very sound and religiously grounded advice. Although I only recently discovered your channel, I appreciate your lighthearted, and often candid videos. Keep up the great work and much success to you both.

I think you said it perfectly, every time I was thinking something you mentioned it and I’m so glad we have this open space to discuss various conversations.

Can you guys please do more of these questions more often, and like long videos like this one. You dont know how helpful these videos and general advice can be for so many in the community. As you’re aware its still super taboo and hard for girls and boys to speak to people they know to get advice or help, including me, so these are super helpful. I also like that you both have different opinions that you share, and ask “what if” questions during the video which are things some of us are thinking but can’t say behind the screen. Please make this a consistent and long term thing if you can. Like 1-2 a week or fortnight because they are beneficial more than you think. Its like having that older sister, or brother giving the advice that we need but can’t get otherways. ❤️🥺

For the girl who might read the comment 🤗 Just want to say to forgive yourself, make repentance and rise your head up high. You acknowledging your mistake is already a step in repentance ♥️♥️ Muslim guys mostly promise marriage and later not fulfill their promise by just saying that as a mouth service to get what they want. Just because a guy is "Muslim" doesn't make him Muslim 😁 if you get what I meant, and there is that one person out there for you . may Allah make your path cross when it's a blessed time for both of you ♥️♥️

You both are really talking directly and I like that! Thank you

I have a few things to say to Jasmine, Dawoud, the girl in the email and the guy. After watching this, as a 19 year old, I would never trust a guy just like that. You never know what that pretty face has behind it. Some guys just can't keep their thing in it's place. My parents would never force me to marry anyone so idealy they let me choose but rules are I'm not allowed to go out with him until he is approved by my parents. So basically at uni or work is fine. I was always like why don't my parents let me go out there and meet guys in hopes of me meeting the perfect one. Now I understand that they want to keep me safe from predators like the guy mentioned in the email. Jasmine, I've been watching ur videos for about a year now and it's changed me so much. You basically are like my second older sister who tells me everything life is holding for me in the future and you inspire me to become a cool, down-to-earth, honest and funny person and most importantly, a good muslim. Dawoud, I wish there were more guys out there like you. Maybe then our parents wouldn't be so worried about us girls going out with guys. I'm gonna be honest, u looked like a total f-boy to me when I first starting watching ur videos 🤣🤣🤣. But now I wish all guys out there were as inspirational as you. BOYS!!!! TAKE NOTES FROM THE MAN!!!!!!!!!!!! The girl in the email: Honey, it's all ok. I feel you. I know what it's like to be totally charmed by someone and then have your heart broken by them. Although my experience in high school was not as bad, I had a similar experience with a guy. I was 17, he was 18. We were both palestinian except he was American and I'm Canadian. He charmed me and he was always so nice and generous to me until I expressed that I liked him. That day lets just say that I was friend zoned 😁. Then I find out that he was talking shit about me behind my back and his friends told me. He basically said that he's embarrassed to be around me even tho I didn't do anything to embarrass him. I was so heartbroken because of the way he lied to me and wasn't honest about how he really felt and that I had to hear his honest feelings from his friends. It makes you feel less worthy and like a loser. But pleaseeeeee take care of yourself, don't put yourself in difficult situation like being alone with him and don't ever trust a guy that says I promise to marry you unless he does something to follow on his promise. YOU ARE WORTH LOVING!!!!!!!!!!! And also please do get tested for STD and STIs and take a pregnancy test. Also, be honest with your parents. At this point its very important that they are in the loop, at least include your mom or an older sister if you are nervous about including a male relative. Guy in the email: Keep things where the belong, your thing doesn't belong inside her unless there is a marriage contract. YOU ARE THE REASON WHY PARENTS ARE SO WORRIED ABOUT THEIR DAUGHTERS!!!!!!!!!!!!! 👿👊👊👊

I have my own love story which wasnt the best decision, probably. I was in relationship with muslim guy for 11 months, im christian and not muslim. We loved each other, and we had really good relationship. We only held hands, nothing more than that thankfully. But after 11 months he realised that he doesnt want to be with me anymore because of the religion and that really hurt me. I understand that, and at least we separated on time. I dont mean anything bad to him, we actually talked recently after 4 years lol, but thats because we cared about each other. Dont rush people, and think through it!

So nice advice especially for young youths like us thank you guys

Jasmine definitely smashed it with the advice. On point, my advice would be to just follow everything that Jasmine said. That’s all. In sha Allah good times will be coming who know this call might be the call that is bringing you to Allah swt.

The energy , positivity and amount of knowledge and education you guys transfer through these fun humorous vedios is hugge . May God bless you guys ❤ I have been getting inspired and learning so much from you , thank u so much.

If he asks you to do zina or to kiss, etc, those are red flags to his piety, so if you want a pious spouse, run from the one who asks you to do those sins. And think about this experience as a lesson, you know now how high you should be aiming, you know you won’t settle for someone who is not practicing as much. It’s a good thing that you know all this now, while in the past you may have been like ‘so long as he is a Muslim’. But no, make sure he is a pious and righteous Muslim, as marriage influences people so it’s very important who you marry. So taking this as a lesson from this situation, and accepting this lesson can save you from so much wrong in the future (and from marrying wrong people). Bc one may marry someone who is kind to them but doesn’t remind them of the deen, and they marry and not see anything wrong with it until they are so far from the deen that they don’t even realize. So if a not so practicing person is rude to you and repels you from themselves, that is better for you than if they were kind to you and it goes further. So aim at marrying the practicing, pious and righteous ones now.

One of the best ways to protect urself is to get married early. It’s looked down upon in western society but if u look deeper into the thought of it it’s a beautiful concept to grow with ur spouse and at the same time be protected. Allah mentions in the Quran that those who marry to be protected for allahs sake. Allah Will provide for them. So don’t worry about the money or anything like that. Sister Allah will forgive u. He is the most forgiving. May Allah have mercy on us all, ameen

You're really good at those advices! Mashaallah ♥️ love you guys!

I needed this video so much. Thank you and Baraka Allahu fikom for your advices. I hope you can make more videos like that

Salaam Dawoud, I noticed you said that you cannot keep your eyes open in the sunlight. PLEASE get your eyes checked with a doctor. I have light sensitivity and ended up having an eye disease and had to get surgery. Please pray for my recovery guys.

Hey guys I really enjoy and love your videos keep up the great work!

You are amazing! Can you please discuss more than only one email in a video so we'll see and listen to more problems and discuss them to learn from these mistakes

well done, this was well explained. loved every bit x

Amazing general advice!❤️

This video was really helpful thank youuu!

Hooray to 2 vids this wk, n to another of your advice videos!! N also, hiii! 😁😁

know that it is totally okay to like someone. it is becoming increasingly easy to tempted these days so stay strong and surround yourself with good company that you can open up to about your feelings and that will give you good advice and drag to the right path if they have to. and remember why you make the decisions you make. that will keep you strong. oh and be gentle to yourself 💕

10:28 another thing to add to that is "Guys please keep things where they belong". You're thing doesn't belong inside our thing. It stays in ur pants and waits for the right person. BE PATIENT!

Love these videos guys - keep it up

Great advice you guys👍

Lol me and my husband got married after knowing each other for 2.5 months 😂😂 Alhamdulilah we’ve been happily married for 4 years with 3 babies. I would say I definitely didn’t know him 100% and I’ve learned much over the years, but I had a good idea of who he was and that he was honest and truthful in his words and actions. You have to look at people’s actions and stories from other people about them, not their talk. You can’t know if someone’s words are empty, only their actions and time will tell.

I’m a lot older than you but I so respect your answers to this young girl. Allah help us all to remember our religion in all circumstances. Great video. Great explanation

May Allah SWT protect us all. Ameen

I pray one day to find a good man like you ☺️

🧡🧡 loved your advice. Ma sha Allah

“Let’s dissect this” loooooool major nakshawani vibes 🤣

Inshallah this hard experience will bring her to the right path and closer to god.

Exactly... i love you guys and ur advice...

Well counseled guys 👏❤

You both are sooo precious I have no words every time you make me feel like good people are still here in this world like you two I really pray every guy and girl should have a relationship and bonding with each other just like you two have.. MASHAALLAH MASHAALLAH I adore you two so much always be like that❤️❤️🥺

داوود وياسمين ماشاء الله عليكم ، الوعي اللي انتم فيه واسلوبكم كتير حلو. الله يحميكم موفقين دايما

I’ve been enjoying all of your videos! Although we are very different in faith. As a Christian I truly think your advice as Islam is the best you can give to younger couples contemplating marriage! There is a reason God says to keep the marriage bed without defilement! Jasmine & Dawoud you both are an amazing couple! Love you guys! ❤️

Aww The part at the end “You’ll be okay” Was so kind and sincere MashAllah

Hey, I was the greeter in winners😂 love this channel #teamjasmine

Love your videos

Thank you both ,it helps me in my current 8 mths relationship,i havent met him yet....the muslim guy asking me to do the same and asking money as well,...i felt it not right and against religion....but suddenly i watched ur you tube,... i am not alone in the doubts....Luckyly,i am realized before going into dark end and it the correct path...Alhamdullilah... Thanks a lot-,now i am thinking wanted to dump him.Keep it up both....of U....it helps mostly in this situation...

Judging by how fast this girl from the email fell for the guy, he is clearly handsome, cute, hot and whatever. Please, whoever is reading this, don't look only for looks and appearance, look for good soul, respectful behaviour and nice attitude. In this way you will never be hurt.🥰

Jasmine, Dawood YALL ARE AMAZING MAY ALLAH BLESS YOU GUYS AND PROTECT YALL ,ALSO JASMINE YOU GOT THE BRAINSSS 🧠🧠🧠 NICE ADVICE MASHALLOAH TABARAKALLAH , LOVE YOUUUU 💛💛

For the muslims watching this, Jasmine's point of "don't put yourself in those situations" hits the nail on the head. As with other sins in islam the sin itself is forbidden, but with regards to sex outside of marriage, as well as the act itself being forbidden there is clear and strong instruction to also avoid the steps leading up to the sin. For any muslims interested im not sure of the exact part of the quran where its mentioned, and im paraphrasing, but it states to not follow the footsteps of shaitaan.

Best KZfaqrs ever 😌❤️

Random but I love the way Jasmine says "comfortable" 😭😭😭

What a man/woman says and how he/she behaves are 2 different things. Make decisions on behavior not words

"comfort can lead to a lotta bad things"

I love ur channel!

I agree with Dawoud. There are two reasons to keep your secret within. First, don't expect others to keep it if you can't. Second, others will judge you whatever your excuses. Finally, reach directly to Allah and ask for guidance, forgiveness, and determine not to do it again.

Such a wonderful video...you both gave very good answers. You are doing a great job for young muslims. 👏👏👏

Asalaam mualaikum Dawoud and Jasmine all i will say is Maa Shaa ALLAH what a beautiful way of giving advice and guidance to your Muslim sister may ALLAAH SWT reward you both very well ameen Yaa RABBI ❣💫👌❣💫👌

This is your best vedio for me. Lots of love from Philippines.

I loved everything you guys said but tbh, I would want to know if my partner had done something like this. It isnt fair to me when I've kept myself pure and waiting for my one guy, but he has done it before. Sure, he may have repented and gotten over it, but I would want to know, and choose if I want to be with someone who has a past and repented, or never had a past. That choice is mine to make, and I think that information becomes my right to know. I'm not sure what the actual Islamic view on this is though. I also would love to say that what Jasmin said about never put yourself in a situation like that really stuck to me. In the moment, it's hard to make good decisions and it's why it's so important to never put yourself in a moment like that. Islam is truly beautiful and its rules are for our benefit

But about the last thing you guys said it's the guys right to know that shes been through such a thing but her mentality and emotions must be stable to really standup with what she have done and take all the responsibility of it to find a better way of life and a good guy to overlook of her mistake . hope she find inner peace with Allah 🙏

I agree with every point that is said here and i appreciate the honesty in this video. You guys are amazing and well educated Mashsallah.

Omggg I love u guy’s today I saw u at ghadir restaurant w ur family but I was too embarrassed to come and say hi😍😍😍I love u smmmm I literally screamed when I saw u

😅😅jasmine so talkative 18:21

beautifullly answered! May Allah bless you both

The only thing I really disagree with here is that 3 months is too little time. I think that’s something a lot of us in this modern time say, myself included in the past. I don’t think the time is the issue. Like Jasmine said, what we should be looking for in addition to words are the actions. You can usually tell when somebody is serious and mature and our religion al 7amdulillah, helps guide us to what we should be looking for, expecting and doing. Nowadays though we have this belief that you can’t meet the parents too early, stay distant early in the relationship, don’t pressure each other and ask serious questions etc., In “relationships,” we should be going into it with a more serious outlook. Nikah is encouraged to happen as soon as possible so discussing marriage and planning it that early is not something that is ridiculous or not right. May Allah guide us all, ameen.

What i know is that the guilt is there for refraining you from the same mistakes again. It drives you for repent and being closer to Allah. Don’t spiral down into the hole that Allah will not forgive you because He is God and do not think of Him as a human being. He’ll forgive you as long as we do our responsibilities as a sinner to repent. This must be so tough for you girl, sending you support! I agree with Jasmine, be honest in your next relationship (when you guys are serious about getting married) because if he turns you down then he’s not for you. Kudos to Jasmine and Dawoud :)

Disagree with hiding the "sin" from a potential partner. If you'll are getting to know each other and he/she asks you this question and you lie, you will be held accountable for it on the day of Qiyamah. It can also cause problems in the future, relationship-wise. The reference to hiding the sin means that your sins should not be boasted to other people (as in without shame). It does not mean conceal it from your potential spouse. If he/she chooses to accept you than alhamdudillah. If he/she doesn't, than that's it. Some Muslims try their hardest. Guard their chastity for the sake of Allah. Is it not only fair that they are at least given the right to know about your past relationships? By the way, this does NOT mean elaborate on every detail. It merely means at least telling your spouse if it did or didn't happen. With reference to the above case: Their is no judgement as we all make mistakes and should repent to Allah. If she finds another spouse and if he does ask this question, she should be honest with him. Imagine your spouse had a kid, and he only tells you all this after you are married or perhaps you never find out about it. Imagine how painful that would be and how unfair it would be to you. InshAllah sister you find someone who will love you anyway. Take care!

Mashallah you guys are wise😌

Please 🙏 , do a video about OCD and give some advice to recover from it (OCD) 🥲🥲🥲

Allah Almighty says in The Holy Quran "And come not near to unlawful sexual intercourse. Verily, it is a faahishah (a great sin) and an evil way." (Sura Al-Israa # 17 ayah # 32)

May Allah rewards both of you🤍

Jasmine and dawood advice is very nice MashaAllah Alhamdulilah. Sister who wrote the email please inform your mother or your big sister or your aunty whom you feel you can tell so that you can get help from your closed ones maybe the guy can be hold responsible for his misdeeds and also pay in jail for what he did to you and others by manipulating so many young innocent girls only God knows how many more his intentions are bad so to help others not to be in this situation better to report his case to your parents so that they can give you support and see what they can do to him if it's forgiveness is better in islam or sent to jail

I really like you guys❤️

I wish for her the best

10:11 11:45 also don't be too comfortable (unless all the points/ values/expectations have been discussed honestly and the nikah and wedding is done and his your husband and passed all the morals, deen taqwaa, morals ,respect, understanding, safe space etc then you can become comfortable to YOUR HUSBAND lifetime with him and beyond in Jannah inshallah that's who and when you can let yourself be comfortable, "too comfortable" would be best to leave I to yourself and Allah, but never to someone who isn't committed through actions etc, save an protect yourself till the end until all is clear safe and official)

Just perfect 🥰 💞 👌 😍 ❤ ♥

I miss uuuu ❤

The first thing we need to understand is that what happened in the past cannot be reversed, the only good thing we can do with this experience is learn from it and use it to our advantage let that be your motivation and drive to become a better Muslim, also remember that we are all human we make mistakes it’s okay to make mistakes (unintentionally ofcourse) as long as we learn from them, another thing is that this is an ongoing test meaning that experience is still affecting you learn why it happened and how to prevent it then again this can all be a test to make you better from Allah , hang in there praying for you 💛💛

The girl is scared if she will ever trust someone again but not even once said she feels embarrassed and scared of Allah now…. She says in “general” I feel this that… Have Allah as your priority, never disclose the sin to anyone. Never! Leave it between you and Allah, Allah is merciful. He is forgiving, just turn to Him and He will give you someone who also fears Him and would never approach to you in some inappropriate way. Allow yourself a time to heal-truly repent and stay connected to Allah.

Thankyou jasmine and dawod for pos❤ 👍when ever you guys post a video it makes our day Please do more sort daily vlogging it would be really fun though 😅