Don't Expect Emotional Maturity From A Narcissist

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Don't Expect Emotional Maturity From A Narcissist - Here's Why!

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Dr. Rhoberta Shaler - Help for Toxic Relationships

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SOOO frustrating! You hoped for a partner, parent, sibling, or adult child with whom you could communicate, collaborate, and co-operate, but no. You live most of the time with q tiresome toddler or miserable middle schooler, right?
Learn more about recognizing the patterns and altering your expectations now.
HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE:
- #Hijackals are emotionally immature.
- Check your expectations when you approach a narcissist. Expecting equality? Oops!
- Often feel you're talking to a tiresome toddler or demanding teenager when you try to reason with a Hijackal?
- Why you need to do your own work to make good decisions about what to do about the Hijackal
00:00 Recognize unrealistic expectations and self-reflection.
06:49 Dealing with emotional immaturity in relationships is crucial.
09:18 Healthy adult relationships require equality, reciprocity, mutuality.
20:00 Endure being controlled or demand better treatment.
21:17 Reconstruct yourself, set boundaries, make changes.
27:18 Lack of empathy, a common thread of narcissistic tendencies.
34:49 Hijackals expect ongoing favors. Are you caught in patterns?
37:53 Being too nice, vulnerability.
41:21 Realize and remove toxic relationships, choose wisely.
42:26 Build equal, reciprocal, and mutual relationships; identify toxic behaviors.
* * Remember, narcissists and other toxic people come in all genders and ages * *
and toxic relationships can be at home, at work, at play... with your parent, boss, spouse, sibling, friend, co-worker.
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I am Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor.
Are you in relationship with a Hijackal? That's someone who consistently puts you down, love-bombs and gaslights you, creates confusion and chaos, and causes you to second-guess yourself? I can help you recognize, understand, and make decisions about those kinds of narcissistic behavior…and especially, how to keep yourself (and your children) safe and sane.
No worries about where in the world you live. I work through private, secure video conferencing. So, we can certainly work together to figure a few things out.
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@taiskitchen6152 5 ай бұрын

This woman is literally fighting till her last breath to save our lives. Thank you Ma’am. I’ve seen many people teach us ; but none that are so dedicated to this fight against evil . Your love and compassionate spirit doesn’t go unnoticed . May God Bless you 🤎🙏

@lemostjoyousrenegade 5 ай бұрын

Well said. I truly appreciate her efforts to enlighten those whose lives have been negatively impacted by extremely miserable people and to continue to make efforts to facilitate healing, even as she’s experiencing health challenges. I also appreciate you for acknowledging how dedicated she is. May you enjoy a more peaceful and fulfilling life, Tai. Much love to you from San Francisco. ♥️ 🌉 💫

@taiskitchen6152 5 ай бұрын

@@lemostjoyousrenegade oh thank you very much and may we all have a more joyful and peaceful life after abuse.🤎🦋🙏

@lemostjoyousrenegade 5 ай бұрын

My pleasure! @@taiskitchen6152 And yes, indeed, Love...may we all! ♥🙏😘

@amandaball353 5 ай бұрын

Oh Roberta- it’s so difficult for me to hear how challenging it is for you to speak. I pray for you that you regain your strength and endurance. It breaks my heart to hear & see you in this state. Sending love, prayers and my well wishes to you today and everyday Roberta!!🙏🏻😘🙏🏻😘

@iwantmycalmback1778 5 ай бұрын

Insecure and volatile is a great way to summarize my entire marriage. My main focus right now is doing everything I can to help my teenagers mature more than their dad.

@juliehill1703 5 ай бұрын

I know that I have to get out of this vicious cycle of putting myself in the position to be hurt and let down by my ex boyfriend. He has Asperger's and every single thing you mentioned about being unemotionally available. He moved out a year ago but he is building a house next to me, against my wishes and renting from me a building on my property. I let him convince me that he held more cards than he did and his false beliefs. I know that I can't do anything about him living beside me unless I sell and move. I do know that I need to get out of business with him even if he has threatened to take me to court if he can't use the building he built on my land. We have a rental agreement that he rents my lot and it is up in 6 months. That is the only signed papers I have with him and his name is on nothing . Until then I have to stop interacting with him and putting myself in the place to be spoken to in a tone I don't want or deserve and treated unfairly. I have to stop listening to his empty promises. I agree I'm too forgiving, nice and think I should be able to talk about things besides business or rely on him to help me but I just can't learn he's not capable. I know there's a good guy in there but on his terms. I think I should be able to interact with him because he can be nice as long as nothing is asked of him that he feels is a demand, not show emotions or be in his way. He has PDA, mind blindness, lacks theory of mind and Asperger's. All at which are undiagnosed and closely resemble a Narcissist but with different motives. He has denied it and won't look into it but I have had two years since my discovery to read about it, study him and I know it all fits. For 9 years I boiled it all down to something else and made excuses or blamed myself until I uncovered he has Asperger's two years ago, which he was unaware of. I then switched over that I needed him to get him to grasp it. I developed CADD, Cassandra Affective Deprivation Disorder. How can I stop shooting myself in the foot wanting the guy I thought he was, he should be, wanting to be treated fairly and help him ? I need help flipping the switch within me and getting away from the thought that there is something that I need to do, he will just get it and be more approachable.

@Schquirl 5 ай бұрын

Thank you so much for your awesome advice and years of wisdom! So needed in my life right now ❤

@jenniferconroy4517 5 ай бұрын

Best wishes, thank you very much for your great videos...

@katherineg401 5 ай бұрын

Thank you so much. You speak true wisdom. ❤

@PaulinaChills 5 ай бұрын

I appreciate you. Thank you for sharing this wisdom.

@divine.1.Z 5 ай бұрын

Thank you so much for teaching the world about these beings. Wish I had known this information much earlier in life. Would have saved me a lot of heartache and pain. I now at least have an understanding and know how to spot hijackels! Your kind teaching is appreciated so very much.❤

@lunaluna5815 5 ай бұрын

Thank you Dr. Roberta. Thank you so much

@TeeBreaksDown 5 ай бұрын

You still showing us how to be strong. We appreciate you.

@cartermusic2020 Ай бұрын

This sweet beautiful woman. Who can barely talk and stuck with us every step of the way. God bless her beautiful, sweet soul. Thank you, ma’am, for your service.

@ChildoftheLIGHT 5 ай бұрын

Prayers for you, dear Rhoberta.🙏🏻 Will you please post a link to episode 115? I cannot find it.

@verohamer8245 5 ай бұрын

Thank you 😘 wish you well much love ❤️

@amypope7933 5 ай бұрын

Your channel has provided me with so much information, and comfort in these last couple years. Thank you for all you continue to do to teach us and empower us ❤

@sheilablanton4894 14 күн бұрын

Yess I been listening to her for some time now..AN its so heartbreaking to see this 💔 we love you an what your doing for us ..GOD BLESS YOU..SENDING HEALING PRAYERS 🙏 🙏 🙏 💖 ✨️