I love that a yes day or mom daughter spa day

I also was thinking to say something like that. Go on a mommy daughter date.

Agreed, she is saying quality time is her love language... I've told my mom this for years now as an adult and with my own kids

Or find where and who, and ask her to plan it and help save?

This is a great idea!!!!

Definitely a coupon book with outings for Quality Time as a busy working mom!!!

She has videos on all of those things. 😊

Terrific idea !

Agree. Doing a great job momma! Remember - life is not fair or equal. So, you keep doing what God shows you for each and with Him as their center- they will be best equipped to adjust and flex as normal “stuff” of life happens. Also- good learning for hard to buy pp- likely thoughtful or time related memory gifts will be special in hindsight. Very well done mom and dad.

It's Christmas! From what I've seen kids usually get many presents and stocking stuffers. Unless you're in a serious finacial hole, Christmas is a time of plenty, a time for splurging which is why it's traditionally associated with feasts, decadent treats, desserts and celebrations, (a small reprieve from the cold, isolation and darkness that is winter). Our entire family, and friends were in no way wealthy, but us kids always got 10-12 presents a year, plus stocking stuffers. In fact, in my household growing up if our birthday list got a little excessive, my parents would ask us to scale it down a bit because: "It's not Christmas", (i.e: it's not splurging time). Budgeting and frugality is not the same thing as poverty. Budgeting is a way of not wasting money so you have it to spend on the things you personally consider important and valuable, like splurging on your children once a year at Christmas, so you can enjoy the experience of watching the joy and excitement on their faces as they open their presents on Christmas morning. Your experience may have been different and that's completely fine, but there is absolutely nothing wrong or abnormal with parents showering their kids with presents and goodies at Christmas. All the best to you and yours in the New Year.

I've seen people spend hundreds if not thousands, these people earn good money, don't rely on the state to pay for their many kids, and most of the gifts are small after their main two. You just sound jealous and judgemental

Use your budgeting skills and remember fair but not equal as kids grow. Also- they don’t buy at will through the year “just cuz” gifts like some. But everyone’s kids and appreciation levels are different too. Keep everything in perspective. If you hear at the end- she explains it’s NOT every year. They do a family thing one year - gifts the next. Point is- find out your children’s INTERESTS and help develop w/fun and educational as well as shareable gifts.

10 is a normal amount of gifts for each child. One year I did a join Christmas with a friend. She had 2 young girl, I had 2 older boys. I did about 10 gifts - 2 nice sweatshirts, 4 themed items from their favorite show, new headphones, pajamas, robe, candy treats, $25 gift card. My friend? Each kid must have had 30 gifts.... took up half the living room! My kids felt some type of way about it, but we just can't really afford it - Thanksgiving, birthdays, traveling, entertaining, that takes most of the budget. 🤷‍♀️ they get whatever they need in the year too, like the rule that if a game is on-sale on the Xbox, they don't have to ask, if it's under $20 and worth more than $29, they can just order it and if the card goes through, its fine! I also pay their subscriptions through the year like for my son's anime, roadblocks, etc. Versus a lot of parents don't allow those subscriptions, and we traveled anywhere from twice a month to every 3 months for at least a weekend, sometimes longer during covid when we homeschooled, and many families only take a trip once every 2 or 3 years! So for me, I gave less gifts for Christmas and usually no gifts for birthdays once child is 9 - they got a meal out, cake, balloons, family time, and a new shirt or outfit for that day 🤷‍♀️ I was a single mom. Their dad would buy them 1 large thing they needed. I'm now remarried and trying desperately to conceive with my wife - this baby will have 2 incomes instead of 1, and 2 different people buying gifts! So I'm sure even as an older child, it'll be more gifts, but we live In sort of a small house, the rooms are small but we have 3 bedrooms for what will be 1 child - so I think my spouse will keep that in mind when purchasing items! A lot of times we will get things for outside. That, too, when I did have kids (my older boys moved out somewhat recently to get to know their dad) we went more overboard for Easter (outdoor toys, usually a trip, out to eat if not, new outfit, egg hunt, lots of "gifts" in basket that were not just candy or a stuffy) because it's around tax time - it made more sense that way. Easter was a bigger celebration because it was just more financially responsible and most people feel the burn most around Christmas.

Or like an art class, I did a 4 week pottery making class with my mom was an awesome gift I got my mom who’s hard to get things for!

They get 3 gifts every year that ends in an even number along with a family vacation. This year ends in an odd number so they stay home and get 8-10 gifts.....that's the gist of what she's says at the end of the video.