Don't Worry, No One Cares

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4 жыл бұрын

We're often held back by a crippling fear that we can't possibly do certain things because other people will judge us. But for those of us hemmed in by self-consciousness of this kind, there is very good news on the horizon. Amazingly, partly depressingly and partly redemptively, in reality, no one much cares...
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“We tend to begin our lives with a deeply unrepresentative experience: that of being surrounded by people who care to an extraordinary extent about us. We look up from the dreams and confusions of early infancy and may find a smiling face or two observing us with the utmost tenderness and concern. They watch us as a rivulet of saliva leaks slowly from the corner of our mouth and rush to wipe it away as if dabbing at a precious canvas, then indulgently stroke the fine soft hairs on our delicate scalps. They declare us close to supernatural when, at last, we succeed in pulling our first smile. The applause rings for days when we take our initial steps, giggle, totter, fall, and bravely try to resume our progress. There is astonishment and beatific praise when we arduously manage to form the letters of our own name. Throughout the early years, the big people intelligently coax us into eating broccoli or peas; they make sure we put on our rubber boots when it’s raining; they dance around with us to our favourite songs, they tuck us up and sing to us when we’re feeling sad or unwell. When we’re anxious, they try very sensitively to find out what might be the matter…”
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@theschooloflifetv 4 жыл бұрын

Are you held back by a fear of what other people may think? How do you cope? Let us know in the comments below and be sure to turn on notifications to ensure you don't miss our next film.

@cafezo87934 4 жыл бұрын

Prozac.

@alexanderlarsen5641 4 жыл бұрын

I used to worry deeply about what is going on in the people’s head about me, but I realized that you cannot achieve your dreams as long as you live in fear of people's opinions and trying to please everyone is stupidity and delusion,but that way of thinking doesn’t mean that you have to hate people and don’t always listen to their opinions.. but you should accept all people despite their differences and their backgrounds because being successful is something and being kind is something else,That was the most important lesson that i learned in 2019

@LuisSierra42 4 жыл бұрын

I cope by not caring

@PtolemyXVII 4 жыл бұрын

I prefer that people care about what I think than vice versa, except for those who earn my respect and trust. To the rest, I really couldn't give a damn.

@True38 4 жыл бұрын

Not caring what other people think is the ultimate freedom, but you have to at least control what you WANT other people to think of you and keep your businesses on the down low. As you are dependent on other people to get where you want to be in life, simply not caring what other people think, saying whatever is on your mind and acting a fool will get you no where. That's just reality.

@iabhi1 4 жыл бұрын

"We suffer more often in imagination than in reality" - Seneca

@OOOOOOOKKKKKKK69 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you Nietzsche, very cool.

@daithiocinnsealach3173 4 жыл бұрын

"There has been much tragedy in my life; at least half of it actually happened."-Mark Twain

@CameronBrtnik 4 жыл бұрын

@@daithiocinnsealach3173 just came up with a better version (by reading yours wrong): "There has been much tragedy in my life; at least half of it happened today."

@Prophezora 4 жыл бұрын

@Nikki Pettway having an imagination is bitch

@deanodog3667 4 жыл бұрын

Said the richest man in Rome!

@fresch4853 3 жыл бұрын

"People aren't against you, they are for themself." Helped me immensely.

@andrewcagle2210 3 жыл бұрын

If only we could consistently treat our lives as the living out of a miracle. For love is always a mirror, love is always honest. Sometimes, on rare occasion, love comes round and says nothing whilst intwined in this preconceived notion of self, And self is projected onto self completely, thoroughly, And solutions are born like plague. Lol

@JDWDMC 3 жыл бұрын

Not in all cases. You'd have to be a fool to rule out malicious intent.

@joshualogan2814 3 жыл бұрын

I've learned this goes for family as well

@Sagittarius-A-Star 2 жыл бұрын

It nevertheless disturbs me that most people are so indifferent (aka "are for themself").

@RtB68 2 жыл бұрын

@@JDWDMC ...a very valid point, sadly.

@DV-zv4ox 2 жыл бұрын

We spend our 20's and 30's worrying that people are talking about us, our 40's and 50's wondering why no one is talking about us, and the rest of our lives realizing that no one was talking about us in the first place.

@edensky5825 3 ай бұрын

😮

@Rnue 11 күн бұрын

Terrorizing.

@metalh4779 2 жыл бұрын

It really kicks in when you got no one to talk to at work, no one waiting at home and no one available on the weekends.

@musicmamma 2 жыл бұрын

Right there with yaa....

@papaoommowmow6985 2 жыл бұрын

Same here

@jeremyjemba 2 жыл бұрын

its lit

@allergictohumansnotanimals5671 2 жыл бұрын

how are you this fine day sir?

@ahha5252 2 жыл бұрын

im here if u want to talk about it😊

@donaldhbramwell 4 жыл бұрын

“The trick is to care about everyone, While not caring what they think”.

@donaldhbramwell 4 жыл бұрын

҉ A. Jen ҉ all truths are but half truths, all paradoxes may be reconciled.

@alexanderlarsen5641 4 жыл бұрын

Well said

@donaldhbramwell 4 жыл бұрын

Sam. PDI “a mind is like a parachute, it does not work if it is not open”. -Frank Zappa

@rheashree406 4 жыл бұрын

How??

@donaldhbramwell 4 жыл бұрын

Rhea Shree patience.

@duchi882 4 жыл бұрын

"Don't Worry, No one Cares" *Me:* _* worries *_

@Squadup2 4 жыл бұрын

What strangers think of you has no affect on your value, potential or capabilities. This video is partially true but entirely misguided. The nihilistic undertone encourages people like the asshole before me to respond as such. Psychological warfare to disconnect us from one another. Stay strong brother the world is run by psychopaths but people are still good natured. 🙏🏼 Be strong and u will attract the light

@user-mr8ns9vs5t 4 жыл бұрын

PSESSIONS people like you are rare✨ Wish you all the best in life.💕

@ahsanrahib9958 4 жыл бұрын

don't worry. worries about not being able to do it

@InnerRise 4 жыл бұрын

"Stop worrying. No one cares." Me: why do you care?

@davidho1258 4 жыл бұрын

me: *worries*

@blacknapalm2131 Жыл бұрын

One of my closest friends proudly announced at a party that his dental braces were finally off. That after spending 10 years embarrassed about his 'terrible teeth' he finally did something about it and spent tens of thousands of dollars on his dental work. In the awkward silence I had to tell him the truth...that *NO ONE HAD EVER NOTICED* hahaha

@casita4705 Жыл бұрын

You are a shitty friend

@tonyprost5575 Жыл бұрын

Yeah, I was walking around after surgery, with a catheter tube coming out of my shorts leg, and carrying the bag in a shopping bag, for about 10 days, and later, I found out no one noticed!

@dennischiapello3879 Жыл бұрын

@@tonyprost5575 Well, that just means your shopping bag worked brilliantly and that you're a genius (and that's what goes unnoticed.)

@Pugetwitch Жыл бұрын

On another note I remember when I was 14 years old and this skater boy at the skate park I was sitting at, he was an older one, he was like 18 or 19. Really cute, freckles with a massive white boy ginger afro. Basically one of the cool kids. He came up like "hey' what's your name", he was talking to me. His name was willie. He wasn't being a creep or anything, he saw i was kind of flirting with a guy who was more my age. When I told him my name, he looked at the guy I was talking to (Jeff, who later on became my boyfriend that year and we had sex to 9 inch nails up above it....lol let's just say he was having a lot of fun with that chorus), and he said right in front of me, horrifyingly "she's cute until she's opens up her mouth! Haaaaah!" Round of applause from all the cute skater boys surrounding including a huge chuckle from my buddy Jeff. To this day I'm still really devastated by that comment. This was before I got braces. I'm still struggling to determine if he meant open up my mouth so he could see my teeth and how crooked my smile is due to my asymmetrical facial features or until I start talking and he could hear my monotonous voice and didn't like it. I don't know. This happened in 1994 and I still stress out about it frequently. the irony is Willie became a hardcore meth junkie and he shoots up and he looks like shit. He is literally missing teeth and he's a shell of a human being. It's really sad. On the other hand, not to toot my own horn, I'm kind of like a swan or whatever. LOL yesterday this guy that I like said I have a butt that's going to keep on getting bigger until I'm an old lady and it made me laugh. my butt is like three times thicker than it was when I was 20 and I'm only 42. 🤣 I just replied well at least working out has been building something outta nothing over all these years!

@user-dc2gl3pc6e Жыл бұрын

@@Pugetwitch you sound fun I love you ❤

@maryfaqih9403 2 жыл бұрын

I realised this in 7th grade when my friend got her hair done and was very excited about it when she said "everyone's looking at me" I looked around and not ONE PERSON WAS LOOKING. Life lesson in small things.

@Chudan-lal-chunni Жыл бұрын

😜😂😂😂😂😂 what 😜😜

@tersiaraath799 7 ай бұрын

I know exactly what you are talking about, got a friend who sincerely believe that everyone is looking at her, because she is so beautiful, but nobody even look at her, and then she feels irritated because why do they look? I see it for what it is, but didn't have the heart to tell her that nobody cares. That is also an overblow of an ego and a narcissist behaviour. Sadly.

@jinmeraluteya8342 4 жыл бұрын

No one cares *anxiety has left the chat* *depression has entered*

@Musaaaa653 4 жыл бұрын

Lol its like anxiety taps out so depression can tap in.

@Maddy-sy1vj 4 жыл бұрын

Depression Is hell

@channelpolitica1364 4 жыл бұрын

Bluephoria Anxiety was originally a defense mechanism along with stress, to combat life dangers.

@Cwrigz 4 жыл бұрын

Depression is anxiety because anxiety makes it hard to socialize making you sad...so I’d rather just be depressed all the time.

@vverlaine 3 жыл бұрын

LOL

@storm4wizard165 4 жыл бұрын

There’s two type of people: No one cares :( No one cares :D

@NoahDaSlasher 4 жыл бұрын

and I’m both

@skromnyasha 4 жыл бұрын

@@NoahDaSlasher ha :) same :(

@Aethelhadas 4 жыл бұрын

this is so deep

@rolak5053 4 жыл бұрын

Millennials vs Gen Z

@newlyborncorn 4 жыл бұрын

There's actually a third type :o)

@williamramos3350 8 ай бұрын

I learned through years of experience that when you care about others you end up becoming their doormat. Most are not even worth it.

@Psych2go Жыл бұрын

A beautifully written video

@thatoxichildeater9597 Жыл бұрын

Damn you taking notes

@myyoutubeaccount4167 Жыл бұрын

Nice to see you here Psych

@ansumuth5626 5 ай бұрын

Waat...psych2go commented😮

@rmark1083 4 жыл бұрын

"It never ceases to amaze me: We all love ourselves more than other people, but care more about their opinion than our own." Marcus Aurelius

@user-uy4jc3zz5p 3 жыл бұрын

Exactly i have been wondering this this year alot how many things i wanted to in public or may be career wise i always think of society or people around me. We become so much anxious in the time of social media. We are so much influenced by fake social media influencers. And we only see the good part of them and our miseries then become more serious cause we think we are not good enough.. But actually nobody really cares. Do whatever you want to do. As long as you are not hurting anybody!

@woodsarecreepy3491 3 жыл бұрын

-hello-

@babington4394 3 жыл бұрын

@@woodsarecreepy3491 hi

@realjo733 3 жыл бұрын

ohhh!!!!

@lisadiconti 3 жыл бұрын

It's ego.

@Cocobird5 4 жыл бұрын

So true. It took me 50 years to learn this, and it was very freeing. After reaching 73, I just don't care what others think, because they aren't thinking about me anyway.

@funkXCIV 4 жыл бұрын

Are you really 73? What other advice you have for people in their 20's?

@Cocobird5 4 жыл бұрын

@@funkXCIV That's a good question. I think the most important thing is to accept yourself just the way you are, and never try to change to please other people.

@funkXCIV 4 жыл бұрын

@@Cocobird5 Thanks for the answer, I think that's really good advice. All the best to you from Romania!

@mjrussell414 4 жыл бұрын

Sue Anderson Very true. I think I've learned that finally at age 50. One friend's saying that I finally understood this past year is, "Your opinion of me is none of my business."

@mjrussell414 4 жыл бұрын

Wayne Green From someone who is 50 and learned things the hard way, I'd say: Don't get into debt; start saving early; if you find someone isn't respectful to you, realize they are not your friend, and it's ok to move away from them, don't waste your time and energy trying to change them; you can't change others, only yourself; say yes to new opportunities, don't be afraid, you can always walk away if it is not for you; take care of your health when you are young, exercise daily and eat as best as you can. Accept yourself for who you are, forgive yourself for any "bad" decisions you may have made and move on. Be honest and direct with people or some will take advantage. That's all I can think of for now. Hopefully you can avoid making unnecessary mistakes and spend more of your time living and enjoying your life. You'll still have your own lessons to learn - that can't and shouldn't be avoided.

@mirinah4719 2 жыл бұрын

This helped me get over my anxiety. I couldn't leave the house without getting a anxiety attack. Someone told me "you'll never be pretty enough, fit enough for everyone. So just live your life, we're all going to die anyway"

@t3chn0dr0n3 2 жыл бұрын

I'm a highly sympathetic person and as such I care a lot about other people, more so than about myself. So, using myself as an example, as the video advises, is not a good idea in my case. I've been struggling with loneliness, anxiety and depressive episodes ever since high school. I am now 30 and I'm slowly beginning to realize that most people are just so self-centered and so caught up in their own lives that it doesn't even cross their mind to think about me, including those I consider my friends. It's always me who writes first to check on people, always me who tries to organize meet-ups. I once decided to stop trying and see what would happen. For over two weeks the only living person who contacted me was my mother. The conclusion I reached: most humans are selfish and petty, and I shouldn't bother myself looking for their attention. Cynical and ironic, I know.

@agenericboringhomosapien8108 17 күн бұрын

same omg. I have also come to terms with the fact that people dont care about me at all as compared to how much they care about their own life. People are never gonna put others needs above their owns like i do, that others are never gonna receprocate how i do with them. It's difficult when you can feel how others would be feeling and their sadness and happiness too. Its natural to compromise our own wellbeing for the sake of others when its more painful to see someone suffering than when we are suffering ourselves. It took 20 yrs of my life to learn this. I feel now that it was only me who got hurt in the process of caring too of others and rather should spend time on my own self, and its the only kind of reciprocation that i will ever get. Because at the end of the day i accepted the fact that people dont feel my feelings,the way i feel theirs.

@scrumtrellecent 4 жыл бұрын

My top 3 assumptions when the doorbell rings: 1. Murderer 2. Police telling me everyone is dead 3. That book I ordered about positive thinking

@sarahvand3628 4 жыл бұрын

@theguywhoknows4379 4 жыл бұрын

why soserious 😆😁

@NCC-0000 4 жыл бұрын

I'll replace 3 with "my packages from ebay" :v

@rafyramadhan8711 4 жыл бұрын

Nice one 😂

@markwhittaker6866 4 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂

@garyh.2487 3 жыл бұрын

It wasn't strangers who taught me that no one cares about me. It was my closest friends and family who taught me that. That's the freaky part!

@nextinstitute7824 3 жыл бұрын

Sorry to read that. Look for better friends... Yet, you often get back what you give... Do you care about others?

@herschelkirsck3960 3 жыл бұрын

Based

@aritradhabal6858 3 жыл бұрын

Yes that's why I searched this

@jord3000 3 жыл бұрын

People don’t care and that’s just the harsh reality we have to accept. I’ll be honest there has been times where idgaf about anyone but myself. If I get a gigantic amount of money, do u share that with other people? No, bc u only care about urself. It’s ok to be a little selfish, not everyone has time to look out for everyone. This is why u gotta be ur own person.

@HAHAHAHAHAHAHahHHA 2 жыл бұрын

same bud

@smallfaucet 2 жыл бұрын

The minute you stop caring about what's going on around you, that is when you become just like everyone else.

@D4NC3Rable 2 жыл бұрын

I appreciate this channel most of all for validating the nuance of experience: naming it, underlining it, & therefore bringing some balance back into my tendency to think in extremes.

@bananas.in.pyjamas 3 жыл бұрын

"We might die and no one will even notice.." Confidence boost 101🙂

@dielaughing73 3 жыл бұрын

I've been through this: if I died right now, would anyone care? Would it even register? Not a fun thing to ponder working the graveyard shift.

@silkegehtyoutubegarnichtsa892 3 жыл бұрын

Then again, that's actually most unlikely! Somebody will have to dispose of your dead body, and even if you happen to just rot in a ditch, some dog will eventually dig out a bone, the police will have to check out what happened, and first who/wtf that was. Hence, make sure you always have a neat FB-account. :D

@matyashansel438 2 жыл бұрын

But so true. Believe me, even if you died on Times Square, NO ONE would notice that. The Bystander Effect is really strong;) ..unless you seem to be rich - that changes your perception by others and creates more urgency to intervene.

@7CFlo 2 жыл бұрын

Hey, wasn't there a guy that used to....... ahhh never mind

@kyoshiro4042 2 жыл бұрын

@ghost mall they gonna mourn for you for at least a month and the world goes on. So yeah, no one care

@7CFlo 3 жыл бұрын

"Don't tell your problems to people. Eighty percent don't care, and twenty percent are glad you have them." -Lou Holtz

@locus831 3 жыл бұрын

I mean our problems are ultimately 'Our' problems not there. I realise how little I think about others. And most of the time I am engaged in Me, myself and I theory only. It sounds selfish, but after all self interest is all that matters.

@Mia-wy3tn 3 жыл бұрын

However, if you continue to bottle everything up, over time it can really affect you and others around you. So being open with friends and family would be the best thing to do, not struggle on your own. You can tell them your worries and etc, and they can tell you theirs. It can make people feel better they got something off their chest, and allow them to move on.

@jessicaaudate 2 жыл бұрын

Yep. I've learned that the hard way

@syazzz7487 2 жыл бұрын

You’re wrong, you just have to find the right person to tell your problems

@HAHAHAHAHAHAHahHHA 2 жыл бұрын

this^^

@georgekanyoni8029 2 жыл бұрын

This is very true. This became evident when I left all social media. I realized that no one really cares, except maybe your mother. But broadly speaking, people you pass by on the street or you work with couldn't care less. It's wise to reciprocate that indifference as its pointed out here on this video.

@JeanMarcSaintLaurent 2 жыл бұрын

Good to be reminded when visiting family. They’re always critical of my hair, clothes, style/life choices-but their critiques are just are an exaggerated (and unwelcome) sign of care…’Cuz in reality, no one else does.

@Paarthurnaxdova 4 жыл бұрын

This is why it’s so important to live a life YOU find fulfilling because no one cares or notices.

@AmbrosiaDreamWeaver 4 жыл бұрын

I seem to have this problem where people DO notice when I do what I want, and tell me I shouldn't.

@Paarthurnaxdova 4 жыл бұрын

Amber DreamWeaver that’s when you learn the power of “MEH” and do what you want anyways!

@AManofBalance 4 жыл бұрын

It’s called “survival.” You don’t do what you want because you’re afraid you might die.

@redditsource1972 4 жыл бұрын

Wisdom right here!

@sarcasm-83 3 жыл бұрын

@fynes leigh It's a fairly descriptive word, not really sure what'd be so pretentious about making use of it.

@Calm_wisdom 4 жыл бұрын

"We grow up and we are inducted into a horrific reality" sounds about right haha

@redditsource1972 4 жыл бұрын

prettyyyyyymuch

@crystalw8050 3 жыл бұрын

I thought I was the only one who felt this way!

@thebalticpower2301 3 жыл бұрын

This video is bullshit and i don't take it personally.

@Calm_wisdom 3 жыл бұрын

@@thebalticpower2301 You do that 👍

@snoozyq9576 2 жыл бұрын

How did you know I needed this today?! Was having one of those days where it feels like everyone hates me and is judging me!!

@RandomZ5 Жыл бұрын

I'm having those thoughts right now.

@agenericboringhomosapien8108 17 күн бұрын

google is always listening hehe

@7110paula 2 жыл бұрын

I believe this, to some degree is our fear of being misunderstood and gossiped about. If it’s not love, it’s always fear

@yko7299 4 жыл бұрын

Me: Did something embarrassing My notification: Don't worry, no one cares.

@pretendinnocent3548 4 жыл бұрын

Yes absolutely

@UndeadAlv 4 жыл бұрын

Me: thinking about talking with my crush about how she hurt my feelings Notification: Don’t worry, no one cares Me: Ok I get it

@tschickel27 4 жыл бұрын

KIM DAHYUN I just remember that everyone does something embarrassing. Learn to laugh at yourself. Make a joke of it and move on. This worked for me.

@RyanT_1524 4 жыл бұрын

Did something stupid today. This channel is monitoring my brain.

@yogi30303 4 жыл бұрын

@@RyanT_1524 don't we do stupid things almost everyday?

@PracticalInspiration 4 жыл бұрын

Care about the welfare of others, but don't worry about what they think of you. It can help you feel a genuine sense of happiness.

@Squadup2 4 жыл бұрын

Precisely. Be a living example of positivity and love, it's contagious.

@BaverIy 4 жыл бұрын

Now how not to worry?

@maneonanewplanenigga5162 4 жыл бұрын

maybe thats how politicians do it, but if a care about someone i care about what they think. as my welfare is often determined by what/how i think

@MKCarol-ms7lg 4 жыл бұрын

Veronika A. Worry is a choice as is happiness. We decide where we allow our thoughts to travel. Mental stop signs worked for me. Along with a mental 'switch', reminding me to change/reverse the idea plaguing my brain.

@MKCarol-ms7lg 4 жыл бұрын

Mane on a new plane nigga Because your welfare can depend on your thought processes it is extremely important to not concern yourself with what others are thinking. Since you generally cant guess what they think or change it anyway, it is a waste of your energy.

@ariana3185 3 жыл бұрын

I suffer from main character syndrome and literally think everyone is always thinking about me/judging me/laughing at me/talking about me etc. 100% of my actions and words and thoughts are to please other people so I get compliments and validation. It's holding me back in life because I'm constantly scared of looking stupid or disappointing others or being talked about 😩😩😩

@ariana3185 3 жыл бұрын

@@nhgdd4961 any tips??? 😩

@aftab277 Жыл бұрын

That getting concious of your voice when you buy something in crowd is so on point! This vid is relatable on so many levels.

@1chaplain 4 жыл бұрын

School of life: No one cares Me: Cool Anxiety: *_Or do they?_* ‎🤔

@dread9030 4 жыл бұрын

Same

@ROSE6450 4 жыл бұрын

Lol

@piyushvasnani197 4 жыл бұрын

enter VSauce

@samantha8178 4 жыл бұрын

I feel this so deeply.....

@diegovidal9862 4 жыл бұрын

Kyle Matthews no I and they don’t care

@Trancecend 4 жыл бұрын

So I heard this saying: "In your twenties and thirties, you worry what other people think of you; in your forties and fifties, you stop caring about that; and in your sixties and seventies, you discover that they never thought about you in the first place". Guess this video can help speed that up a bit :-)

@SM-gt9vg 3 жыл бұрын

Honestly I stopped thinking and caring about this stuff when I was in my early 20's. I'm almost 30 now.

@queencooljewel2433 3 жыл бұрын

I’m in my teens and I don’t care what people think and just do what makes me happy :)

@geddoe316 3 жыл бұрын

i definitely stopped caring as i have gotten older, but to be fair, i have pretty bad depression. I just realized that in the end i'm on my own, and no one will truly be there for me in the end.

@sebando 3 жыл бұрын

@@queencooljewel2433 Im exactly the same. So all I do everyday now is give stray dogs dead legs with my fist and shout obscenities at OAP's crossing the road such as, 'Hurry up grandpa', or 'Old lady you should hurry up'. I know some people might think I'm completely out of my mind loco, but it makes me happy, so I just do it anyway. Screw the haters nah mean.

@floofydoofy5524 3 жыл бұрын

@@sebando 😂

@MarilynFinland 2 жыл бұрын

A friend of mine said she felt embarrassed remembering some things she said and did in junior high or something. I told her, sweetheart, no one other than yourself remembers those things. Your ex-peers are much more likely to remember something embarrassing they said or did. My friend is going through some stuff mentally at the moment and honestly I think she is making matters way worse for herself by thinking that other people care that much. One of the most liberating realizations in life is when you realize that, actually, nobody cares. We're all way too self-involved to care.

@evanraz4568 Жыл бұрын

That's correct. Nothing we do will be remembered 3 years from now just as no one remembers things that other people did 3 years ago. Everything fades away into oblivion.

@PlanetYokoshima 3 жыл бұрын

In my story, I'm the protagonist and everybody else are side characters, but in yours I'm just a side character and the world doesn't revolve about me. This is proof that life is about all, not just me or you.

@nehalkamal2677 3 жыл бұрын

I love this one

@woodsarecreepy3491 3 жыл бұрын

hello

@Yeesh69 3 жыл бұрын

Hey at the end of the day, life is just the perspective of one's mind. So enjoy what we have, share the joy of life with others.

@electricjellyfish375 3 жыл бұрын

"Life is about all, not just me or you." I like that.

@anoukpatterton400 3 жыл бұрын

I taught this for myself now im seeing this and its cool how we thought the same thought

@sashagarval276 4 жыл бұрын

"The more you know who you are and what you want, the less you let things upset you"

@69LOLIN 4 жыл бұрын

That is a good one! 😊

@sashagarval276 4 жыл бұрын

@ It's a quote from the movie "Lost In Translation" edit: This quote also appears in the last part of the song "rock & roll" by EDEN, you should check it out, it's a beautiful song.

@AManofBalance 4 жыл бұрын

So true

@milkflash3491 2 жыл бұрын

I'm glad and kinda proud that this enlightenment suddenly came to my mind when I was 14.

@tangerine4665 Жыл бұрын

I kind of had this same realization a few years back. It really blew my mind and it helps with anxiety. I have a few people arround me that care (husband, children, best friend) other then that - no one cares enogh to be bothered with you, for real, they don’t. It’s amazing once you embrace that.

@caterine4604 4 жыл бұрын

Well, I always wanted invisibility as a super power anyway.

@marypatton1122 3 жыл бұрын

Exactly what I was thinking.

@Solbashio 3 жыл бұрын

I'd prefer the ability to merge with any matter

@MissAnson7777 3 жыл бұрын

Best comment EVER on KZfaq

@Jepse89 3 жыл бұрын

Lol

@abdullahtariq2032 3 жыл бұрын

Me too.

@shebnem 3 жыл бұрын

i'm a firm believer that if you worry about what other people think, it's actually because YOU yourself think that way about other people, one way or another. if you let your judgement of other people go, and just care less, and focus on yourself, it'll reveal reality in a different perspective.

@bastidface 2 жыл бұрын

Well said.

@salmantahir6361 2 жыл бұрын

Truest comment.

@itsme0acryingcookie 2 жыл бұрын

I hate it when someone says that "no one cares" or that "other people don't think about you anyway". They do. What's wrong with admitting that we are being judged daily for all kinds of things? It's not about "realising" something about reality, it is, like you said, about changing ourselves and our own perspective.

@sarina5352 2 жыл бұрын

👏👏👏👏👏👏

@chokzholics 2 жыл бұрын

@@itsme0acryingcookie cause that's how your brain works

@queenofthebutterflies5212 2 жыл бұрын

Thankyou. I have been abused by a narcissistic family for yrs. I am unwell from it and disabled so have to live w/ one. So, I always have someone telling me what a piece of shit I am and how useless I am. This is very heartening. I'm going to copy and paste this link. You have really helped me bc I always think people dislike me.

@nrgdigital-garywilkie3997 Жыл бұрын

Keep the faith Queen of the Butterflies

@Jammaye Жыл бұрын

I suffer from Avoidant Personality Disorder and this video helped me immensely. Thank you.

@TiredWallaby29 4 жыл бұрын

"Don't worry; no one cares." Walks out in underwear.. Police: "Hey you!"

@lifewithdan8054 4 жыл бұрын

😂

@rafyramadhan8711 4 жыл бұрын

Walks out with an RPG Police: "This ain't GTA you moron"

@AManofBalance 4 жыл бұрын

“No one cares” is a half truth .

@silkegehtyoutubegarnichtsa892 4 жыл бұрын

Me muttering while you're close, "Dude has lost control over his life. Nice facial mask though. :)"

@edgregory1 4 жыл бұрын

Why are bikini bottoms legal and underwear isn't?

@ToddBVick 3 жыл бұрын

“You will become way less concerned with what other people think of you when you realize how seldom they do.” ― David Foster Wallace, Infinite Jest

@YoutubeKeyboardIssueSucks 2 жыл бұрын

in a way - those who mind dont matter, those who matter dont mind

@wenilynpastolero2348 2 жыл бұрын

I'm 20, still discovering and practicing this everyday to get used to it. I still have a long way to go.

@Movies_n_More 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for being and existing. I would be far worse off if it weren’t for you M Alain De Botton, I don’t think I would still be here in this life. Thank you the work you do and for everyone at SOL. You are my lifesavers. ❤️

@dante8999 4 жыл бұрын

This truth actually changed my life. I was highly anxious and introverted all the way through to high school "about 17 years old" always worried about what others think. This lead me to never approach anyone for anything. I never joined in on conversations had any girlfriends or even friends. But after realising that no one cared about anything. That I would be just a footnote in a memorie they were bound to forget. That nothing I do in casual day to day life would be remembered or written down. I realised that my issues talking, always thinking I would make a fool of myself, just disappeared and now I can talk freely to anyone anytime with a senserity I don't see often. I've flipped from a hopeless stressed introvert into an extroverted outgoing carefree guy. Honestly I'm happier than I have been my whole life thanks to this change. But I like to pair this with another philosophy. That is, don't attribute to malice what can be explained through ignorance and indifference. Always believe that everyone isn't actively trying to spite you. Give them the benefit of the doubt and because nothing matters just let it go. When you believe that no one cares about you you can realise that no one is targeting you and just accept that when someone does something bad or gets upset with you its not because of you its them dealing with there own issues and you should just let it go

@noticias6111 4 жыл бұрын

Sir Dante the Dank hmm

@khadija6755 4 жыл бұрын

Sir Dante the Dank I’m actually happy for you 💙, and I wish u be a successful person Can I ask u something ; how old are you now? I don’t know this question just came to me !

@igbuduchinenye9611 4 жыл бұрын

This is an amazing point of view!

@mithu2cool 4 жыл бұрын

That last sentence.. I did the wrong thing and kinda changed myself because of the other person feeling annoyed about me... Entered into a relationship.. My originality, I cudnt express because I suppressed it, thinking that I was doing the right thing for the person and changing my views becoming emotional and caring about small things... When problems came up, I was very weak that I person started losing respect on me and that hurt a lot. Now we broke up and I'm recovering from all my shifts in my belief and opinion.. I think I'm very weak..

@dante8999 4 жыл бұрын

@@khadija6755 I'm turning 23 in 2 months

@perripie 3 жыл бұрын

I had severe anxiety for most of my life but once I realized people mostly just care about themselves and aren’t really concerned with what others are doing my anxiety got infinitely better.

@hivaladeen4892 2 жыл бұрын

That’s very true:) it’s hard to remember sometimes but go through the things you’ve thought about something and see how relevant it stays in your mind when times past and you’ve got your own issues like bills, family, etc. The last thing you or anyone is thinking is about what someone did at say a party 6 or 12 months earlier. Yet the one who did said things are probably busy dwelling over this idea that everyone still has it fresh in their minds or something.

@ahha5252 2 жыл бұрын

@@hivaladeen4892 i have a memory where i had to give a speech on a big stage infront of my whole school and as soon as i got on stage i got stage freight and started crying infront of the school that was 5 years ago but i still remeber it like yesterday

@hivaladeen4892 2 жыл бұрын

@@ahha5252 That happens and you’re not alone:) it’s embarrassing to you there and then but so what? Everyone’s got their embarrassing moment equivalent to what you described, and the problem is, people often worry about if the people they see/talk to will think of that as soon as you are brought up, but they’re just like you. Everyone’s too fixated on their own problems. No one will remember that moment now unless brought up, and even if they do, it doesn’t hold anywhere near the same value/embarrassment as you may have thought back 5 years ago. Thank you for sharing

@spindriftdrinker Жыл бұрын

Sadly, there are many other kinds of anxiety besides social anxiety - but at least in your case this was helpful for you.

@afternoondelight1240 Жыл бұрын

I realized my Anxiety came from my mom not taking accountability and would make me feel self doubt in my perception and ability to make judgements and invalidated my feelings and would do things that were hurtful and disrespectful and disregard my feelings and this generated anxiety. How you can tell if you have anxiety of this type is are you afraid of things you can’t see like a noise in the bushes but then fearless to a scary situation so long as you can see and identify something worthy of being feared by a typical person.

@jadek5822 2 жыл бұрын

“I am not who you think I am; I am not who I think I am; I am who I think you think I am.” ~Cooley

@patrickconnolly2654 2 жыл бұрын

Yeah it takes too long to wrap my mind around how simple I am.

@fortythreenorth2518 2 жыл бұрын

So true! The world doesn't care if we succeed or fail. Nobody is going to show us the way through life not even the closest people to us.

@rodolfovillareal715 3 жыл бұрын

“They gon’ judge me anyway, so, whatever.” - Kid Cudi

@aloneinthisbigcruelworld5197 3 жыл бұрын

Its better to die being called weird crazy than to be completely ignored unknown and forgotten

@yxsser77 2 жыл бұрын

@@aloneinthisbigcruelworld5197 facts

@marouu_x 2 жыл бұрын

I smoke dope like kid cudi

@ahmedsafi1767 4 жыл бұрын

as a naturally anxious man, this the best video title ever.

@Squadup2 4 жыл бұрын

ahmed safi We all feel anxious at times. Our society today is now based on fear and material worship, you are not crazy. Stay strong love yourself and others 🙏🏼 U will attract the light. God bless

@lukeporter6503 4 жыл бұрын

PSESSIONS your a good person

@ahmedsafi1767 4 жыл бұрын

thanks a lot for the kind words, God bless you.

@mjrussell414 4 жыл бұрын

ahmed safi Have you thought about why you are anxious? I only started experiencing anxiety in the last couple years, and I really think it has to do with feeling a lack of control over our own lives. There are also herbal and nutritional supplements that can help reduce anxious feelings, and promote better sleep which helps your whole self, mind and body. I found ashwaghanda and magnesium helped me quite a bit. Plus also getting regular exercise and eating better. Take care of yourself.

@tnix80 4 жыл бұрын

I didn't even need to watch, the title helps a lot

@thomaslai5303 Жыл бұрын

This is so good. I was very much bothered that not too many people was paying attention to me as I was trying to make more connections with others and felt no really getting responses, this might comprise of many different factors and one being people are indifferent in daily life. But this video revealed that this indifference could also be a reassuring point that people are just that care if you screwed up or not getting along with them. We are all busy following the flow of life, it is just life.

@cyclops1092 2 жыл бұрын

Helped me immensely. I always used to panic at what my father would do if he found out my childhood secrets. That I smoked pot, I slept with girls, I cut school etc. I wasn't a great kid, but I wasn't all that bad either. However holding that in with extreme embarrassment eventually turned to shame and it gave me nervous disorder really bad at a young age. I never let him see the real me up until he died. I still do that with certain people and it triggers a lingering thing with me. This is a nice reminder that they don't really care all that much and most of the horrific details that worry me don't really matter.

@kingslave021 4 жыл бұрын

The School of Life: Don't Worry, No one Cares No one: I got you fam

@LuisSierra42 4 жыл бұрын

I don't care

@ifrazali3052 4 жыл бұрын

@@davebuelvas898 you didn't get the joke

@muhammadaryawicaksono4232 4 жыл бұрын

Polyphemus : *happines noises*

@michaelmcconnell7302 4 жыл бұрын

no one, here. I got you.

@istankpopsoicanhaveamotive6278 4 жыл бұрын

Took me about a second lmao

@blackmarketstarlight2983 4 жыл бұрын

Me: *sees the title* Depression: that's what i've been saying

@birichinaxox9937 4 жыл бұрын

Yer this

@juliepeterson4905 4 жыл бұрын

Learn to care about and for yourself and your life.

@mrssmurf55 4 жыл бұрын

This is not true even if you don't think people care about you they do people do care even if it's just a stranger you pass every day they may notice you and think doesn't he/she have lovely hair a lovely smile and if you suddenly disappear they think where's that person with the lovely hair, smile and they wonder where you are we all touch each others lives even if we don't realize it! We are all important to others!

@thatlampsouce6136 4 жыл бұрын

Anxiety:NO ITS THE OPPOSITE OF WHAT I WAS SAYING

@Aethelhadas 4 жыл бұрын

@@thatlampsouce6136 shit i just realized that :o

@lindasherman3998 Жыл бұрын

the trick is to care about ourselves and be glad we are alive.

@aj_us 2 жыл бұрын

That was my lesson in 2021. You really are the main character and no one actually cares as much as you think.

@sm4259 4 жыл бұрын

People care enough when they're trying to bring you down or destroy you.. They pay attention to every single thing about you. Just ask all the people tormented by bullies-

@gobnaitaine2791 4 жыл бұрын

Cut them off, be brutal. Move away if you can. Just run, run far away from them as you can because they won't stop, I know it sounds dramatic but it's the truth. These people get enjoyment on bringing others down. You just have to get them out of your life. Do it as soon as you can before they destroy you. Much love to you. ❤️

@vaimast 4 жыл бұрын

That’s make sense, some friends pay attention to what I do and later they talk in a indirect way with bullie actitude, always trying put me down, his texts in groups chats, say what they really think, just pay attention, all it’s just for his ego, I don’t want theses friends.

@vaimast 4 жыл бұрын

Satin Perfume In my chat group, a few weeks ago, I started to put in my photos the finger of ok, my emoticons and gifts too, so a friend went on vacation, she put her photos having fun, a friend text in the group “its must put down her finger ”, “she thinks she is up”, our friend never came out in her photos with her finger on ok. So where that thought come from? I confirm what I was thinking, the guy thinks of me and his instincts are to put me down, he made a mistake, what a person writes are his thought, it is difficult to falsify.

@kathy259 4 жыл бұрын

It's because it gives them a sense of power for a moment. They Feel surperiour. But that feeling don't last for long. And then they have to repeat the bullying. All you who bully people Out there- you are rotten inside - and you know it.

@youtubestyle293 4 жыл бұрын

Please watch “constantly criticizing - giving advice narcissist” on youtube. This sounds like narcissistic tendencies. They criticize and give unsolicited ADVICE all the time (because they are superior). And when you tell them anything they will say “I am saying this for your own good”. HERE IS THE LINK kzfaq.info/get/bejne/j9t4odx0qMjaZYE.html

@delasoul2875 4 жыл бұрын

10 years ago, I use to worry every second when someone stared at me but eventually I let it go and realized no one cares because everyone is worried about their own problems.

@ThePossumone 2 жыл бұрын

Depends completely - on your morality and your compassion and your understanding that we are all connected Smile at the person on the street you don’t know or compliment someone on their lovely dress - keep connected to others - and you WILL care

@Cassismithxoxo 2 жыл бұрын

The beginning of the video reminded me of a poem I wrote about 2 years ago, thought I’d share :) ~Only when we are born~ Only when we are born are we praised for failure Attempting to stand is a noble feat Speech is an adorable acquisition Shapes are mountains to be conquered bravely In these moments laughter is more than a past time To pass time is merely a question to be answered for later Only when we are born can we fully bathe in the light of the world Only when we are born, are we truly happy

@yourmommy5551 2 жыл бұрын

Very beautiful

@Justin-sf6ty 2 жыл бұрын

Lovely poem 💖

@OnlyForFree13 2 жыл бұрын

This one hit me differently. Hits deep. Beautiful!

@madhavdua1246 2 жыл бұрын

This poem touch my heart

@mrbranson73 2 жыл бұрын

That sucks

@kathleensmith644 3 жыл бұрын

Children should be taught to value themselves more. Not all this do this, do that, do as I say. Children should be taught to love themselves not spend their time thinking that they have to keep on pleasing others. That is how you get mixed up children and adults. Love yourself first the rest comes later.

@jodihouts6032 3 жыл бұрын

Our culture promotes concentrating on weeding out weaknesses rather than promoting strengths. Easy to fix on personal levels.

@RtB68 2 жыл бұрын

@Zorba Apollo I certainly lead by example. My child is slapped at every opportunity.

@capassoluigi7387 2 жыл бұрын

So there is nothing only emptiness and loneliness

@darbyheavey406 2 жыл бұрын

Obsessive Self love is the root of narcissism.

@marekgiedyk512 2 жыл бұрын

You will quickly realize that there is actually pretty always someone to please sometimes you want to do that : for example - your partner other times you have clients And your boss who might also operate the same scheme And pleases his boss. So welcome to the reality

@elysianemily 4 жыл бұрын

I am reminded of a little thing that happened in high school. When I was in elementary school, I used to cry and throw a fit at least every week (I had undiagnosed and unmedicated anxiety disorder at the time.) Throughout middle school and high school, I was shy, suffered from low self-esteem, and believed everyone hated me because of these embarrassing tantrums. It was either in junior or senior year of high school that I asked a girl with whom I went to elementary school if she remembered me crying all the time. She said no. Huh.

@nibbax7772 3 жыл бұрын

Let’s go that’s good

@etttie1 3 жыл бұрын

,👌👌

@caughtcrjfever2107 3 жыл бұрын

Samee. I realized this when I was 16. In school I would constantly worry what others might think of me to the point that everything was centered around to please others and it took alot of energy As in I wanted to feel superior. I had a fake persona. Then at 16 i realized that whatever you do ppl might barely think of you for 1 second which is not worth the effort.

@michaelguillen1655 2 жыл бұрын

@stickyschannel8497 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you

@Canyouactuallynot 2 жыл бұрын

I have social anxiety, and I really needed to hear this

@barbaralachance5836 2 жыл бұрын

Taking on board that very few people really care, has brought me so much freedom. The liberty to wear the clothes I really love wear makeup the way I like it, deciding what my career should be... I'm happy they don't care! :)

@alexanderlarsen5641 4 жыл бұрын

This channel is the only thing left that understand us

@kagomemihata6299 4 жыл бұрын

@mic mccoy dude wtf? The person said that this channel is the only thing that understands us and here you go crying about politics and trying to separate people.. Just watch the video and go Jezus.

@Squadup2 4 жыл бұрын

This video is partially true but entirely misguided. Divisive and nihilistic propaganda used to stoke the pilot flames of America’s hopelessness and despair, while disconnecting us further from one another. And it ain’t by accident folks. 🧐

@extriolol 4 жыл бұрын

@@Squadup2 What is wrong with you? Nobody give a shit about the USA.

@Stoney-Jacksman 4 жыл бұрын

Always speak for yourself Sam. Also your comment is so intensely dramatic it could become a new high school musical. These vids are super basic and generic in my view.

@scottyd1812 4 жыл бұрын

I recommend the channel Exurb1a

@Rhea303 4 жыл бұрын

That is all so true .. I'm 74 years old now and learned it the hard way .. (almost) no one cares.

@dkdc2402 4 жыл бұрын

That is d real learning. Thank u for sharing wid age

@chop2093 4 жыл бұрын

Agree 100%. I’ll be 40 this year and I’d say over the last 10 years I’ve also realized that for the most part you’re on your own in life and very few , if any people truly care about you. Sad but true

@swayp5715 4 жыл бұрын

Bless you sir

@redditsource1972 4 жыл бұрын

Good point with age comes wisdom

@DowSimmons23 Жыл бұрын

Such a simple concept but so difficult to harness. Needs to be realised and comprehended in real time, when we’re feeling self conscious

@AANTHHONYY 2 жыл бұрын

What is this gem of a channel? Thank god for school of life.

@jacksnotty2318 3 жыл бұрын

Old saying: “You wouldn’t worry about what people thought about you if you knew how little they did.”

@mermaidinamanhole5796 3 жыл бұрын

"In my life, why do I find valuable time from people who don't care if I live or die?"

@joaokmo 3 жыл бұрын

The Smiths! xD

@jalexseva4190 3 жыл бұрын

Oh heaven knows

@chelseapoet3664 3 жыл бұрын

*give valuable time to people.... ;)

@Solbashio 3 жыл бұрын

@@chelseapoet3664 doumo

@jimminycricket3384 3 жыл бұрын

@@jalexseva4190 I'm miserable now...

@Whaddif_ Жыл бұрын

It dawned on me that I never worry about others, because I’m always worrying about myself. And that goes for everyone, including every single one of those around you :)

@KatrinaDancer Жыл бұрын

I'm constantly thinking about how my pets feel.

@kotsosleve 4 жыл бұрын

Unless you live in a village or a small town. There, everybody "cares" about everyone... Beware!

@egeniojaramillo9048 4 жыл бұрын

Ren terrible environment? It’s literally how humans have lived for countless millennia. It’s only a VERY recent invention, of how we live today. I’m sure they’d look at you and think you live in a terrible environment where no one cares about you, and you’re alone most of the time. Your environment is always what you make of it.

@PP-qv4if 4 жыл бұрын

everyone KNOWS everything. literally....

@nomanabdullah8406 4 жыл бұрын

True

@robertoj4032 3 жыл бұрын

No, even in small villages they don't care. They are just bored with gloomy views out of their houses, so they are looking for attention and trying to harm you in the most cunning and kind way by saying good morning my dear neighbor

@user-vj9hb3gy6d 2 жыл бұрын

Yes, they love gossips lol...

@ennuiblue4295 4 жыл бұрын

Have a good day everyone ☀️

@FreyadeCastelbajac 4 жыл бұрын

Same to you.

@rheashree406 4 жыл бұрын

You too😊😊

@JCW7100 4 жыл бұрын

You too!

@makaila2646 4 жыл бұрын

💛

@lbjcb5 4 жыл бұрын

Thanks you too!

@is0latedplays453 Жыл бұрын

Once you truly realize that nobody really cares and accept the loneliness that comes with it, life hits differently. There's this calm element that comes with it where you don't really care about other stuff either rather you just want to focus on yourself, do well and then go home and relax. But then again when you relax a bit too much, the thoughts of how lonely you are starts hitting you again. The thought of how nobody is really waiting for you at night nor is there anybody to hangout with during weekends and stuff. Life truly is strange. 90 percent of the time I don't think about it but when I do it hurts I guess.

@Erik-Vadee-Veechee 2 жыл бұрын

Strangely I am always studying and consciously dissecting others. I feel like I might be alone in this now that I watch this video. Atleast I hear that overall nobody cares. Now I really feel like I care too much about others and all I can think about is how sad it is that none of them do.

@Infoseek777 4 жыл бұрын

Reminds me of one of my favourite quotes...... “You wouldn’t worry about what other people think of you, if you knew how Little they do....

@alannothnagle 4 жыл бұрын

@BWM Well, I don't know anything about your own experience, but isn't it conceivable they think a lot less about you than you may suspect?

@NdnUrbanCat 4 жыл бұрын

I like, "It's none of your business what other people think."

@kimberlysulit220 3 жыл бұрын

"Don't worry, no one cares." The title is so savage🤣

@onlyhuman5669 3 жыл бұрын

It's just the truth🤷

@aloneinthisbigcruelworld5197 3 жыл бұрын

@@onlyhuman5669 they care if youre theyre friends if youre just a stranger then they wont care cuz they dont have to deal with any of the stupidity espicially weebs i wouldnt want to have a friend that carries a pillow with a 2d animation girl on it id be called crazy

@ellar880 2 жыл бұрын

It felt like a relief to see tbh

@Ndily 2 жыл бұрын

So “straight to the point”

@lotushead_music Жыл бұрын

I randomly hit this video...this is exactly what I've been going thru....exactly.....thank you so much for this content...wow

@c.galindo9639 8 ай бұрын

An elegant summary of words but overall it is all about coexisting amongst others we may not know or be accustomed to or even notice. It doesn’t mean we don’t care about one another but that we each have our own roles to play in the lives we live and that our purpose is what should drive us, not what someone else is doing with their life

@marypatton1122 3 жыл бұрын

I find comfort in realizing how little my life matters. I can do as I damn well please as long as I don't hurt others. No one cares if I die...that is comforting to me. Like being blessed at birth with the superpower of invisibility. Invisible people can do amazing things. I like it.

@pervertality9184 2 жыл бұрын

Amen.

@loveisthething 2 жыл бұрын

@Ralvin me too so your not alone anymore

@tristanmules7995 2 жыл бұрын

i feel that too, but it makes me immensely sad. I think my reaction is more common.

@lucianwong420 2 жыл бұрын

I feel the same way. I’m pretty anonymous where i’m from, I don’t even have anything to lose. Even though I’m only minding my own business people usually avoid me like the plague, but I don’t care. It’s peaceful.

@scundoorsup5342 2 жыл бұрын

Well I cried when John Denver died because I wasn’t able to attend any of his concerts . Is I listen to his music more then ever. So we do care and remember those that die . YOU ARE WRONG

@Inerize 4 жыл бұрын

The only thing people care about is themselves. And that gives us the possibility to live however we want, since others will be too preoccupied about themselves to give a damn about you.

@charmedprince 4 жыл бұрын

Somebody from TSoL pin this!

@chereo1888 4 жыл бұрын

And that's a good thing.

@louisazraels7072 4 жыл бұрын

If only that was true. While not caring on a deeper level, many people do care about what you do, because it clashes with how they view the world, basically making how you live your life their problem. They dont care about your well being but they care about what you project.

@andrejansen3281 4 жыл бұрын

louis Lauzet. Yeah, it depends on worldview to an extent, and how 'loose' or 'tight' your society is.

@southernkatrina8161 4 жыл бұрын

I rely on that. I have a great life being ever so slightly outrageous, in a kindly fashion.

@tallicafan85 Жыл бұрын

yes so true. i do so much for people and most of the time no one cares. do what you want and what makes you happy will make you happier and not care what someone thinks.

@southlondonlad9144 Жыл бұрын

Good video. To be honest, I've always known that most people don't really care for me or other people and to be blunt, I don't really care about them. Especially in this day and age where so many people seem so indifferent. They won't even look you in the face and are far too busy walking down the streets constantly looking at they're phones and bring oblivious to they're surroundings.

@alexchatman3655 3 жыл бұрын

I do notice things about people and sometimes judge them and I feel like a lot of other people do too. I think a more accurate approach is to stop worrying exactly because someone is still gonna judge you anyway, no matter what you do. There will always be people who just don't like you and it's kind of okay.

@imzjik 2 жыл бұрын

exactly

@akshithugar7335 2 жыл бұрын

No one cares about your opinion on this video

@Chickaqee Жыл бұрын

Yeah I think it's like, of course people are going to dislike and disagree with me, we have such different upbringings and perspectives. So 80% of people don't judge me, and the rest that do, they haven't walked in my shoes.

@wordsfromtheheart-bethsumm6897 4 жыл бұрын

Not everyone has had the childhood experience of devoted and loving parents. Some of us start off being disliked, criticised and unacknowledged. It takes a lifetime to heal, if it ever does.

@adosmusichalloffame 11 күн бұрын

Thank You So Much Professor Alain. ❤

@minashah9933 2 жыл бұрын

scary but relieving at the same time. Discomforting yet comforting

@Sameoldfitup 4 жыл бұрын

“I don't know what's worse: to not know what you are and be happy, or to become what you've always wanted to be, and feel alone.”

@AleMaia 4 жыл бұрын

Sameoldfitup how can you be happy if you don’t know “what you are”?

@richardstuefer6688 4 жыл бұрын

@@AleMaia If you don't know who you are, contentment is an ongoing illusion; check Zen.

@AleMaia 4 жыл бұрын

Richard Stuefer yeah, that’s what I’m saying. You can’t be happy (and happiness is a very wide concept anyway) if you don’t know who you are.

@jacqueline6807 4 жыл бұрын

School of Life: "Don't Worry, Nobody cares" Me: Worries that nobody cares

@agstinacueva1673 4 жыл бұрын

The beauty in nobody caring, is you don't care about nobody caring. Imagine how many ppl you took for granted in your life, not bc you are bad or wtv but because that is life, my friend, we cannot care about every single person on the planet :)

@SleazyRoseWalker 4 жыл бұрын

It's because everyone have their own shits and worries going on in their lives. Your close ones care.

@chereo1888 4 жыл бұрын

@@SleazyRoseWalker I thrive on reminding myself that.

@Ranius125 Жыл бұрын

My arts teacher taught me this when i was young and it changed my life.

@milliondolargirl Жыл бұрын

Thank you. You know, I needed this. :)

@thereaIitsybitsyspider 4 жыл бұрын

Such an important lesson lol. The universe does not revolve around us. Over-empathizing is dangerous.

@starletd6819 3 жыл бұрын

Over-empathizing?

@gabrieljordan8015 4 жыл бұрын

Turned 37 today But just wanted to say this reality gets easier to deal with psychologically as you get older. But you have to accept your reality as is and learn to come to peace with your inner demons that will probably never leave. We are all in this reality together. Let's make the best of it. And strong 💪 fellow viewers.

@asmrjudie Жыл бұрын

Nicely said hon

@deadtoy5360 Жыл бұрын

It feels liberating that no one cares about you. It means you can do your own thing without being judged as long as it does not affect another person.