WHY? Are you a puppet?

Not as hard as dad's belt

Yes bro ❤

Nice view 👍

omg yes! Empathy sees through the masks we wear

@@humanii9037 empathy is also what got us here in the first efing place and last i checked and as every single psychiatrist or any other studier of mental issues will tell you you do NOT emphasis on NOT feed into another persons delusions as it only digs them in further into their OWN beliefs of the world around them you know the stupid asinine crap you libtards have been doing for 50 years and now we have the most intolerant community of people in the history of america we are literally reverting back to jim crow era disguising it as "tolerance" and "acceptance" sorry but the TRUTH is only .1% of the population ACTUALLY HAS gender disphoria the rest are low self esteem posers who use it as a click to fit in cause people keep telling them they are so protected and cant be criticized for their delusions while at the same time everyone else who doesnt fit this box is out casted as "intolerant" sorry but facts dont care about your feelings kiddos time to put your big boy pants on and accept reality telling someone they are a gender/race they arent does NOT help them it only further damages them and eventually is most cases leads to suicide not because some right winger told them they arent what they think they are but because no matter how much money they pump into surgeries to be what they see themselves as and only seeing a misshapen human staring them back in the mirror THAT is what causes their already low self esteem to spiral out of control until it ends with their own death by their own hands wonder why they are what they are and not what they THINK they are TL;DR stop feeding into everyones delusions its what got us here to begin with its a big part of what caused rome to fall and does NOT help the mentally ill it only further hurts them and their self esteem as proven by every single case study and psychiatrist worth there salt and based on REAL science not your libtard asinine "equality" like you libtard cult members love to believe

@@inuyasha989 first of all I think my comment was pretty vague and simple because thats all I wanted to add to that comment. This comes from my perspective. I study psychology and child development. I can see where youre coming from. But your comment lost its value when you made a choice to respond the way you did. Theres different ways of looking at things.

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This is a big part of adlerian psychology

@@Sh0n0 interesting. I’ll check it out thanks!

@@endebtedone a good summary of this is a book called ‘the courage to be disliked’

Yep I do what I want on my terms

Amazing take! In addition to that, I think the topic is quite counterintuitive because when you actually be yourself and not try to fit in the crowd or burden yourself with people's thoughts about you, that it when you actually fit in. It is our uniqueness that attracts others, and that uniqueness is completely masked when we try to please people in order to fit in. Being ourselves is what attracts people, which is evident from the video: just like a tree, you produce your fruits when you let go of your self-imposed restrictions and limitations.

You often need to fail to realize the advice would have worked in your situation.. When you are to close to the problem youre almost always blind to see the solution

@c4blec Same as any other, this age will end with blood and from the ashes something will rise from it. Will it be better? Sadly I doubt it

Hey, can you send me a link of this book, so I can download and read it. Thank you!

Little ever changes. Things remain the same across time and places. And so 2000 years from today - in consideration the human species is alive - the same will still apply.

I guess you are right

That's always like the stumbling block to truly being yourself man. I learnt from a family therapist Jerry Wise that to set yourself free from others, we have to prepare for the downsides to being true to you. For example, if being yourself means not getting financial support, you have to be willing to make your own money so that you are not a prisoner any longer.

@@segunjay4153 so if one's a complete asshole disliked by everyone, should they change or accept themselves? If they change - they'll get at least some social validation and live a life. If they continue to convince themselves that they're "beautiful the way they are", they'll probably end up alone, hanging on a rope. Great.

i loved this too.

@@dagmawithaileleul1801 best decision YOU can make

@@michaelsledge3904 does he say anything about trying to save people from themselves?

Here too

It hit hard. How hard? How would you compare that to say a bill in the mail?

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The ego i the me is only memory

If you are not impaired... in time ...

Spot on 👍

Except, you don‘t. You can‘t control your feelings and only partially control your thoughts. The solution lies in acceptance, not in control. The stoics are wrong.

2941oksirhC D You can control your feelings if you are aligned with your psyche, right thinking will align, wrong thinking distorts. The more we work on our morals the easier we will be to achieve mastery over our mind. The stoics were thinking ahead, as of yet we haven’t evolved that far.

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@@Chrisko1492 'you' can't countrol 'your' feelings the solution is in acceptance, yes, and thus in control ; you decide if you accept some events or not.

You might as well just stop because nobody is thinking about you.

That was been and for me, but i decided to be myself.

But still working on my self

What if it just because KZfaq's recommendation? 😂 But I do also felt it as Perfect Timing of what happened to me lately

Me too. Thanks

that sounds close to "To be yourself is all that you can do" from an Audioslave song

You are 100% right. Honestly, i'm still fighting to overcome this because of my upbringing.

Soooo true!

I have always been this way. Your opinion of me doesn't effect me because I don't care what you think.

@@HALOSnHORNS But you cared enough to write a comment 😂

@@Teglamen because its a COMMENT SECTION, its for COMMENTS. you seem bothered. drink some water.

@@HALOSnHORNS You don't bother, I just found your comment funny

Do you not care what others think of you?

And Thank You so much for this comment. I have trouble with this very often. I need to sit on this for a while.

"People are dying for the water that only we can provide." Amen. Thank you for your words. That one's going to stick with me :)

What if you're stealing other peoples water bottles in the desert and resell it for your own gain? All because you do not care what people think of you? Complete carelessness can lead to lower empathy which is dehumanizing in nature and sometimes predatory.

Are you selling still or sparkling water? 😄

@@emonymph6911 the whole idea reminds me of the concept of dharma. Everybody has a dharma (a purpose) whether it be good or bad, it is yours. Eastern philosophies have always done a much better job at not distinguishing between "good" and "bad". They work together to create a balance and if we didn't have bad, we wouldn't know what good was. My favorite quote from the Tao Te Ching is "what is a good man but a bad man's teacher, what is a bad man but a good man's job." The Bhagavad Gita paints a better picture. A general is about to lead his army into war, when he looks at the opposing army and sees young men and honest looking people who he doesn't want to fight. Then Lord Krishna steps in and tells him that he must fulfill his dharma and that he shouldn't worry about it because everything will work out in the end, things will find a balance. With an emphasis of seeing yourself in the general nature of the universe Hinduism, Stoicism, and Taoism have done more for me than Catholicism ever did.

wow bro u start soon very nice

Good for you! Keep watching them ♥️

believe me, last time a bus hit me, I never walked the way same again

@@bhowmikranjan8841 was talking abt the Universal Serial Bus. 🚌🚌🚌

few years back I saw a movie that ended with a note "life was given to me after million years and now I know what to do with it" somehow that dialog stuck with me these years and I was lucky to understand it and take my decisions myself without caring about what others will think of me

@@viraj_singh the movie was lucy 2012, and what she said was “Life was given to us a billion years ago. Now you know what to do with it.”

Exactly. If you traded yourself and what you stand for, there is nothing left to secure.

So true smh

That's why I dont think about what they care.

I think that’s a huuuge problem that often goes unseen

That's the point... sometimes we despise who we are, and we have the right to adopted a different behavior in life. if you are not comfortable with you self

Yep, parents hammer that thought into our head and it's hard to get it out

You are, what you have always been, and thats, in control, able to change it at any point, life's a big full of wonders, dare to look within

@@Wassaabhithanks for sharing those words

Same, the thing is I kinna feel being detached from myself, maybe because recently I've really going hard, trying dopamine detox, etc, and so iam kinna feel brainwashed because of consuming too much self help which has lead me to overthink my every step of life especially, the way I act with other like did I acted well, did I responded correctly in the convo, could I have said something else bullshits like that, also I feel which way is morlly correct, like always overthinking about my life choices and acting in which way is appropriate

​​@@Futuremillioneire The stuff you discribe is familair to me. Don't know if it helps but last week I did a 'personality test' and it gave me some clearity about myself. Things I could have figured out by myself ofcourse. Reading about the personality i got 'boxed' into gave some peace of mind for me. Might help you aswell. Might help as a stepping stone for self understanding.

@@superzucht thanks brother

This is exactly it, I think it's all about achieving that right amount of balance - just like with all other things in life.

Very well put!

@Future Mindset Fantastic comment!

and chances are the more you be yourself and stop seeking validation, the more likeable you'll become, or more respected

At least it seems like a trade-off. For all we know it's even more secure on the other side.

So true

Ty

Yes, take YOUR time, because you want to be you

Caring with action? Or caring? Because caring is NOTHING. NOTHING.

Omg same, I wanna be untouchable NOW❤❤❤

Yes. You have to care to some degree, just not to the point where you lose yourself

Being yourself helps other people also because if you let yourself be yourself, you will let others too.

I’m glad you’re still here with us

you are doing a great job buddy.Keep on going.

Hope you get through your battles man!

Wishing you a quick recovery from depression! The tree that stands tall even amidst the storms and doesn't uproot is the one that's privileged to bask under the sunlight when it does come later, hope you too are capable of weathering the storms raging within and around you!

It can be useful to know what impacts your depression. But take it from someone who psychoanalyzes way too much myself, sometimes you have to focus more on the "how"s rather than the "why"s. "How" can I break free of this depression, what's my next step? Rather than "why" am I so depressed. I tend to get stuck in the "why" and dwell on it, which can worsen my depression. "If you talk enough sense, you'll lose your mind." Sometimes the best thing you can do for your depression is free your mind. I know it sounds like a "Thanks, I'm cured" mentality, but it's just one step amongst many that can help ease depression. Meditation works wonders in this aspect. I'm working really hard on this in my life right now, I thought I'd share my thoughts. Sorry if they're unwarranted.

True

Thanks for your perspective.

Agreed~ Be yourself without harming anyone :3

thats subjective...ive come across sober people whos hearts and minds more evil than the one that drinks....it comes down to the individual

If i can also add something, drinking problems as any addiction are often caused by psychological problems and used to ease the pain. I‘d imagine if you lived a life free of judgment that you wouldnt feel that urge so much, if that is what you‘re struggling with at least

Exactly!!!

Like the 'Woke Culture' for instance

💯💯💯 ego kills

It's literally an evolved, biological trait. Not societies fault.

That's because you actually do have to care but you can keep it under conscious control and not let it get to you. The most important thing is just to stay cool and calm no matter the circumstances and don't go off on the Internet and social media writing stupid negative stuff that will just put people off. In other words, just have normal social intelligence and you'll be fine. The less you say and the less you do, the better you are off. Let other people stress, worry, and lose their heads while you keep yours. If you worry too much about other people, then it's easy to lose your head. Rather, it is what YOU think about other people that REALLY matters. And that's how most people think, as they all have their own perspective of the world and the people around them. In that sense, there's no point in taking anything personal from anyone around you. You will not be bothered, and they will be annoyed and frustrated. Suffer fools gladly then ;D

I agree, accepting that you’re a work in progress is empowering.

Nothing in this said to wipe away what people think of you, it is to be entirely yourself. If being a social being and deducing meaning from relationships means acting like something you're not, this is advice you need. Its a bit ignorant to assume that doing these people pleasing social hacks dont take away from your own integrity. We are huge beings, we can chose to move away or above anyone or anything that makes us need to change or put on a front, its not easy but its what Marcus was talking about, which I feel is the point of the whole video.

Well said

@@TrustedSiren well put❤

I don’t think we should care what others think of us. Just be the best person you can be and always be empathetic to other peoples well being and strive towards goodness in general. If you are doing that and others still don’t like you than don’t waste your time caring about what they think.

I dont really get that line, would you mind explaining it further?

@@Majso11 see if we really do act which helps people , or I would say act which we believed is useful to the world we won’t mind what people think of us, our soul knows that we have done what we could have and rather in this case people will get benefit

Me too after a conversation with my mother ! I swear didn’t search for this in google haha

Smartphones nowadays hear everything 👀👀

Seeing this comment did the same for me. Thanks for sharing. Much love and best of luck in your adventures!

@@DeKnight95 it’s done the same for me as well! Thank both of you for commenting and a special thank you to our video author!

Read Marcus Aurelius. Reread it often. There is treasure in his words.

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J. Krishnamurti watch him

It's too bad that shows try too hard to depict him as some unempathetic cold hearted general.

That's very difficult when you are shy and sensitive and scared for people

@@heinmolenaar6750 this is why you should never give a damn about what people think about you

@@heinmolenaar6750 dont be shy or scare my friend,be yourself is better than be the person what toxic people want you to be

-Donald J Trump

Study Law. You are in delusion.

wasn't it Gary Vee?

It's a quote from Fight Club, not Will Smith

Dat why Williamson Smith slapped the daylights out of Chris rock

- whoever wrote will's script

That quote truly slaps Pun may or may not be intended.

also trying to get back to that time when we didn’t know better and lived naturally.

Guess what? You can look androgynous and gave varied interest while still being male or female. The fact that you had a whole identity crisis is just ridiculous. My advice is to take a break from social media.

@@cutiepiebb damn wasn’t the point of this video not to care what others think? Thanks for pointing that out Lol I’ll be sure to instantly snap you out of it next time you go through psychological torment that isn’t aligned with your biology.

@@oakley3272 get therapy and take a break from teenage social media

Bro the only thing I’ll need therapy for is laughing too hard like you really think you’re doing a service by pointing that out

@@cutiepiebb This person literally just watched a video on how to not care on other people’s opinion. You really think they’re going to listen to you? Like cmon

To stop thinking about what people think about you just turn your lense towards yourself.. How long do you think about others faults or achievements..and does it even move them if we are... The truth is everybody is all worried about what others think or when they messed up that they don't leave any mentalspace to think of us let alone care.

Yeah this video hit me too, I also grew up in a conservative environment. I don’t know to what extent it affected me, though. I do know that I have struggled with worrying about what other people think of me for years. I’m much better now than I used to be but hope to continue improving on it.

I’m sorry your going through what your going through! Have compassion for yourself, you deserve it! You don’t deserve to feel that pressure. I wish you the best!

@@michelles2644 Thanks sweet soul❤️

I am so sorry that sounds so totalitarian

Here too

We have propoganda in the west but you’re not inclined to believe it as long as you follow the law ;)

Itz hard to overcome that problem but not impossible.

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cool, you thought of that too