You a homie, thank you

​@@-xj9cwNo problem! I'll be doing the whole video if you or anyone else just wants to check back later.

Thanks

A Hero Without Cape. Much Appreciated Brother for your hardwork and patience.

You're literally a saint

Older generation? How old are you?

@@Gamerpreneur_idageless

Yeah how lucky. Imagine 9yo are learning from him

Most of the older generations believe therapy is weak and useless. My father refuses to go despite the trauma he's been through, he says he doesn't need to talk about his emotions with people. I wish I could show him dr k's videos, but he would just scoff at me. I wish some of them would just give it a chance

I'm sure there's always been amazing and smart people in the world. Having the internet and ease of access of creating and sharing information is what's changed now.

it's a sad cycle

They went through the Great Depression and WW2 as kids, that made things so much worse. I'm worried about a possible WW3, it will just fuck everyone up worse than we already are.@@rfbite

I feel that hella, and It's really hard not to blame my parents for it too. Logically I understand that they were just products of their environment, and given how horrible their descriptions of childhood are they definitely turned out a hell of a lot better than they could've. Yet emotionally the hurt they still caused me is there, and my emotional brain wants nothing more than to lay all the blame at their feet. It's a very difficult thing for me to reconcile. In my day to day life as an adult I just do my best not to think about it tbh, or if I do, I try my best to remind myself that I'm not living in it anymore and they did the best they could, so theres no point worrying about it now. All that's left for me is to do my own best to fix what they broke, because it's not like I can go back and rewrite what's already happened.

This was so well articulated. ❤

this is beautiful

today i talked to my mom and some friends about setting up a new system for me to finally get a job and get out of my moms house (I moved back in due to some trauma events that messed me up but its been a couple years of me doing nothing but smoking weed and playing video games with the occasional try to get back out there) and honestly I'm starting with waking up at the same-ish time everyday, and making my bed, and as a reward I get to spend some time on social media or I can have a sweet treat. So im assuming chief keef is their little reward lmao

@@squishyushi I agree with everything but the reward of social media...

I did not understand this comment when I read it, but I get it and I love it ❤

Timestamp?

​@@squishyushiI'm in the same exact situation lmao just quit my vices and started waking up earlier , getting a job feels impossible lol

I guess the answer for this is Dharma related stuff

Me too! I was struck by some kind of realisation but I honestly can’t remember

I am currently on a weed break for the time being because I ran out but also because I want to start gaining more willpower and be smarter about the weed I end up smoking. I know for a fact that weed definitely is why I go into full hedonistic mode and drink sodas and play games all night, which I'm fine with myself doing as maybe a reward for like a week of sticking to my routine but i haven't gotten to that point yet and I'm scared of "relapsing" into being a lazy stoner again... But I think I'm gonna meditate on it over the next few weeks and maybe in a month or two ill reintroduce it and test the waters. edit: just to be clear I dont think smoking weed makes you a lazy stoner but the way I utilize the drug is by smoking 24/7 and drinking soda with every smoke session, so its a really unhealthy way of using weed and I'd rather it be something I only do maybe once a day at most and once a week at the very least, I just want it to be something i only use in the evening but maybe later in life I can try being a 24/7 stoner again, or maybe I wont have a reason to indulge in it at all at some point

​@squishyushi ex stoner here who would smoke and ounce every week and only ever played games/did lazy unproductive things when smoking. Obvious health effects aside (and definitely shouldn't be a stoner before you're an adult because it stunts brain growth) there isn't much wrong with smoking as long as you can still maintain your responsibilities and relationships. Now I smoke about once a day, some days I don't even smoke, but I make sure that whenever I DO smoke it's when I'm actively doing something; drawing or art, cleaning, work on the computer, even just taking a walk in the woods to get me up and out the house. The less you smoke the more you'll realize you don't even need it, which then in turn helps you smoke as something to just enhance what you're doing instead of smoking being a passive thing done while being a couch potato or watching TV. Plus tolerance breaks make bud more impactful which makes you want to smoke less, and it's easy for that to become an upward spiral

Me too!! Or Dr. K and Psychology in Seattle

yes please do flammmen og citronen.

The last part lmao

Glad to have you here

I hate the idea of "supposed to have fun" until a certain age. Its like, why not just quit my job and drink when I hit 21 if its all downhill for decades anyways?

@@raglock1433it is downhill and everyone knows that

@@raglock1433 if

maybe your brain functions different, or you may never feel down on yourself. What I have in my mind was the hatred for myself, like I don't like my body as I used to have fitter body, I don't like my shyness and feel so stupid because I used to be much more confident. It's like I have so many assumptions about how I should be, a also a bunch of fictions about if I am what I think I am, my life would be so different. That creates a condition where I always thinking about my model-self in my head and refused the reality that I have created for myself. And if someone treat me well or if I like someone during that period. I'd feel that I'm not deserved those people, because I hate my freaking self and I'm not the version in my head, the version that supposed to be loved and treated well. So I think the purpose of the question or maybe what I get from the question is that even if I am not yet the version in my head, maybe I'm still deserved to be loved or maybe she loves me in the current self, which I always think bad about. I don't really know the context you mention in your comment but overall the question just let me to reconcile my identity again, that I should accept and acknowledge that I am who I am, not the 'chad' version in my head. And understanding that leads me to your conclusion, too. That I am what I am whether I improve or not, and If I improve something it should be for the sake of my wants/interests

THANK YOU

I agree, I find some of the Dr.K tips aren't for Nero divergent minds. Like I need to have some kind of low stimulus to function and I feel like I have to work extra hard without something to keep me focused; ex: music, fidget toys, little dancing, physical touch.

!!!! How was it?

I’m disappointed That I laughed

Yes, because it helps your mind be okay with being bored. Youll desire less because your mind will start to realize what it REALLY desires since it will have less distractions to be lost in. It’s all about preserving your dopamine for things you actually need it for

I think the point was to lower the influence of the other 4 so we can do everything with very little amount of will power thus having greater control. And you can invest in the future and buy stuff and at the same time they are not mutually exclusive.

It's about choice. If you free yourself from your desire you can then choose what you do. It's about making a conscious, aware choice, rather than being driven and controlled by desires. If you then ask, "how do I choose", it's up to you. You call it nihilism? Why do you need to be controlled to feel you have purpose? Is slavery happiness for you? It's not nihilism, it's freedom. And you can make of it what you want.

@@ovidiusm7710actually, what you call slavery feels like freedom to me. When there are more options, the more difficult it is to choose. When choices are made for me, it brings me peace.

I dont get the point either, honestly. His explanation about willpower is not that much different to how you regulate should dopamine. What else are your decisions based off if not from a want?

​@@cunnyliciousYou can want to get into better shape, and you can also want to spend the evening eating pizza and playing video games. Which one do you think would give the most amount of dopamine release? Which one is easier? This is what he means, with less dopaminergic influenced choices, you can choose to go for that run instead out of pure willpower, and it won't be nearly as torturous for you compared to if you were controlled by dopamine.