I got diagnosed with major depressive disorder, generalized anxiety, adhd, and ptsd. I climbed out of it by surrendering. Gave up hope things could ever get better, and decided to be happy anyway. It wasnt exactly that. Took 10 years of therapy and watching a lot of videos about mental health and a lot of journaling. But at the end of the day it came down to my life is shit and i am freaking awesome just because i am still standing.

Big time shit lifer here. Broken home life, SA, abusive parent, depression since I can remember. At 28 I was diagnosed with incurable cancer, I've been living with it since 2016, thanks to the better treatment options and immunotherapy, but I'm technically in palliative care. Naturally, I had some time to contemplate life and suffering, and what I've learned is that tragedy and the shittiness of life are only hell if you think on a great life-shit life axis. This is ultimately very subjective and difficult to measure, life always could be better, could have been better, others have it worse etc. The true hell is the idealism; 'This shouldn't have happened', 'No one should go through something like this'. But once you have to face the end of life, either yours or the people around you, the axis becomes life and non-life. Once I realised that the other end of the spectrum of my shitty life isn't the great life but non-existence, I was able to appreciate it more. It isn't necessarily happiness, or bliss, more like a radical acceptance. I know this is somewhat cliche, that death gives meaning to life, but I can't see any other tool to transcend the Shit Life Syndrome narrative. The great life, as opposed to the shit life, is a mirage; the only reality is life here and now. I wish you could somehow integrate this perspective without having to face a life-limiting illness.

*Intro & Disclaimer:* 04:40 *Trauma Guide Launch:* 07:13 *Sh-t Life Syndrome - Introduction & Defining the Term:* 10:41 *SLS vs. Mental Illness - A False Dichotomy:* 13:19 *Origins of the Term in Clinical Settings:* 19:56 *Can SLS be Overcome?* 23:20 *The Biopsychosocial Model & Adaptation:* 26:16 *Key Adaptations in SLS & Their Future Impact:* 28:30 *The 3 Steps of SLS & How to Break the Cycle:* 40:30 - Circumstances -> Adaptation -> Destiny: 40:43 *3 Major Adaptations to Overcome SLS:* 47:52 1. Self-Determination & Shaping Your Life: 48:06 2. Jumping to Conclusions: 48:59 3. Not Asking For Help: 58:48 *Additional Adaptations & the Role of Future Orientation:* 59:00 *Addressing the "Fairness" Argument:* 1:01:15 *The Impact of Internal Change on External Outcomes:* 1:05:31 *Addressing Criticisms & Depressive Realism:* 1:33:35 - Acceptance vs. Giving Up: 1:38:45 - The Accuracy of Depressed Individuals: 1:40:39 - The Adaptive Advantage of Bias: 1:43:18 - Depressive Realism & Self-Evaluation: 1:48:06 *The Importance of Internal Work:* 1:53:01 *Lottery Winners & Circumstances vs. Mindset:* 1:57:31 *Therapy's Role in Addressing SLS:* 2:06:39 *Mental Karma & The Power of Thoughts:* 2:16:49 *Discovering Joy After Abuse - Success Story:* 2:32:35 *Meditation for Emotional Relief:* 2:35:08 - Understanding Emotions as Physiological: 2:35:24 - Guided Practice: 2:40:10 *Closing Remarks & Trauma Guide Announcement:* 2:45:43

I started sobbing when you described having dreams and goals in the future as negatively reinforced. That is exactly what happened...

The first video where I’m like YES THIS IS ME. This is my brain. Planning for the future does NOT make any sense to me, does not seem attainable. It’s like I don’t know how to think ahead. I don’t desire anything except to be at peace.

1:57:00 my fucking heart exploded. So happy to see dads seeing and loving their kids, especially when trying to work and focus.

The problem with therapy is that those who need it the most are the least likely to be able to get it, and the least likely to properly benefit from it. I don't know how it is like around the world, but most therapists where I live charge about a third of a minimum wage per month, most people can't pay for it. There are psychologists who charge half of that, but really... this is still pricey. Then there's public health care which is virtually free, but there are usually few slots, and there are psychology students in training which are also virtually free, but not usually the best by the very nature they are still being trained (yet they get some of the hardest cases...)

1:55:20 "There was this really cool study that showed improving your life's circumstances also improved mental health" Truly groundbreaking research there. Im glad someone spent money to figure that out.

41:49 oh noooooo. Also probably why I kept getting pissed off at my last therapist. Therapist: "What do you want for yourself? For your life?" Me: "I don't know. I don't think I really want anything." Therapist: "It's a very simple question. Why can't you answer it? Why *won't* you answer it?" Cue internal rage. Me: "Because I can't fucking answer it. I really, truly, *cannot* think of anything that I want. When things pop up in life, I look at the options immediately available to me and just eliminate the ones I dislike most. It sounds completely asinine, but I don't think I know how to want something. As a kid it would piss off my adoptive dad's extended family that I could never produce a wishlist for birthdays or Christmas, while my cousins wanted literally everything. It was just a completely foreign concept."

As someone dealing with the long term effects of childhood trauma, depression, anxiety and CPTSD that have almost completely wrecked havoc on my life as an adult in just about every area (career, relationships, etc...) and have stalled out/ burned out from life this is a very much needed and helpful and insightful stream. Healing and fixing all of this is difficult but still possible.

DUDE. K. I'm not big on commenting usualy but this has got to be the most profound video you've made. For so many reasons. maybe just timing. either way you're awesome. thank you.

Diagnosis needs a lot of work, poverty and how it affects the human psyche. Medication and therapy probably improves mental health, but unless society provides the cure they relapse when the social networks fail.

Dr. K plz accept Kruti's praises. You and the HG team did an amazing job with the Trauma guide and its important to acknowledge it!!! 🎉🥳

57:52 made me cry. I don't know where or how I've learned this it feels so true to me. It so hard for me to ask for help, I always feel like a burden or a bother. trying to unlearn it but my body feels it to much to combat. regardless thank you for this

I find some of these topics quite triggering. I feel like I've been wronged in life many times by many people and who's there to fix it? Just me. Me me me, always me that has to bring the pieces back together. Then hear the news from the world, the sh** pipe is wide open. Yeah, sure , I'll go on for a bit longer but by now my spirit animal is anger.

Mom left when I was five (I'm 46 now). She had a serious opioid addiction although I didn't know it at the time. Dad was clearly depressed by the divorce and spent all of his time working. I guess this amounted to an adverse childhood experience. I've only had a few relationships (friends, not lovers) but they've all ended. No romantic relationships. I managed to find a good job and have bought a house. But I can't imagine ever having any kind of relationship again. A sexual relationship is impossible to conceive of. I'm incredibly lonely, and I hate myself absolutely. Years and years of therapy have been useless. Medications useless. I'm surprisingly not suicidal but it's definitely been a shit life that I would not wish on anybody. Interestingly, my sister is quite the opposite (reckless behavior, many bad sexual relationships, drug abuse). It's weird that we developed such different coping mechanisms. Me avoiding people - her jumping into terrible decisons and relationships.

Thank you Dr. K for the genuine effort you put in and concern you have to help others. Your spiritual gift shines bright. Thank you.

I was so screwed up with anxiety I had to be hospitalized. Having everyday the same and predictable, makes my life livable and survivable when before, that was in doubt. I am not thinking about the future, I may merely be surviving and not thriving, but I've found a way to survive and it's so much better than where I was before. I don't need anymore than this.

The problem is that sometimes you objectively have 0 good choice, not because of circumstances, but because of ignorance. For the professor situation around 54:45 for example. What can happen is the professor may have no empathy/understanding of your situation and will actually not believe you if you say you had a family emergency (Maybe his family life is stable, and his wife can afford to stay at home). So the problem is not that he will think less of you, but that he will actually just flat out reject your excuse and completely prevent you from publishing. And how would he understand that publishing that paper is vital for your situation because if you fail your studies, you have nothing to fall back on ? What do you do when you actually want to better your situation, but you come from such a bad place that people just don't have any idea what you are going through because their life circumstances are too different from yours ? This kind of things give me decision paralysis, even when I am determined to change my circumstances, because most people don't have any idea : 1) how complicated my circumstances are and how difficult for me it is to work enough to be at their level 2) that most decision for me are incredibly important and my long-term survival depends on them The problem with "shit life syndrome" is that so many people don't believe this kind of lives exist or just want to ignore it altogether. What can you do when you have the energy and have the chance to better your situation, but people actively put you down and prevent you from accessing that chance because of a lack of empathy ?

Alok that meditation for tension in the chest just took away years of stress/tension just like that and you & the team were right there for me

When my spouse was dying of cancer, just living for the day was how we got by. Never booked vacations nothing.

Genuinely thank you for creating amazing content like this. Very helpful and insightful for a lot of us with these difficult and complex issues.

I used to call it Suthy syndrome. Stands for Somebody Up There Hates You

I have shit life syndrome ever since the day I was born. I have no more dreams and aspirations because I am a failure to everyone around me and I hate everything. All I want is for this shit to end.

From some other streams from Dr. K. I got the mindset that "it's not my fault" after I thought that I was responsible for my own suffering. Now again he made me realize I am in a way responsible for it myself. 😆 But not as in "this is my fault" but as in "actions lead to reactions and you have to become aware of it in order to fix your reactions" if that makes sense.

Oof, I didn't expect that. Cried my eyeballs out during the meditation. Apparently there are some emotions in here. Thank you. :)

I enjoyed the stream but missed the end. Happy to see it up on YT so quickly!

he's truly the right man in the wrong place, and it gives me hope to continue every day, like really. i don't know of anyone else who actually cares and understands like this, without devolving into jordan peterson levels of magical thinking and vaguery.

This video is a gold mine. Dang I wish I knew this stuff a long time ago. But I'm really happy and thankful that Dr. K is spelling it out for us in an easy to digest way.

I've been listening to HG's long- and short-form videos and VODs on KZfaq for many months now, and hearing this lecture is easily one of the best experiences I've had with the channel. Honestly, the disorderly start had me discouraged at first, but in an endearing sort of way. "It's been a long month for the HG team, and I'm sure Dr. K is mentally fatigued. I'll just take note of key points to think about on my own later." I usually have some sort of podcast/lecture/lore video playing in my pocket as I finish up work anyway, so I supposed this would do fine. But as the night went on, I couldn't help but become more and more attentive to the lecture. I could feel the development, the energy, as Dr. K was re-grounding himself and settling into the content. By the end I was all ears, and I very nearly forgot to do several things at work. The portion around 2:10:00 -ish was particularly meaningful to me; I literally stood in the middle of the floor for probably five minutes, just listening and thinking about everything. The video as a whole felt very organic. In fact, the audio issues, the random interruptions, and the slightly disheveled start only served to augment the authenticity of it all. It pulled back the curtain in the best of ways for me. It felt more similar to having a conversation than to being taught at, and I know that's one thing a lot of people love about this channel. I certainly do. To the HealthyGamer team: you all are doing amazing work! I don't even know the half of it, but I love what I'm seeing and learning about. Thank you all so much! And thank you, Dr. K! Your lectures have helped me discover so much about myself, and of the people in my ever-present past. Keep up the incredible work everyone, and get some well-deserved rest in June! 💚

Very insightful as always, we thank you Dr K 🙏 ❤

I used Ketamine to try and deal with my Anhedonia years ago, then I discovered I was probably better off without my emotions. Maybe one day when im not worried about simply having enough money to live and don't work at a toxic work place ill start treating myself again. But to be perfectly honest, I don't see that happening at all in my life time. I think things are only going to get worse, for me and the world.

1:23:50 Really appreciate this moment in this video because I feel like it describes so many of my experiences in my relationship with my partner. I think sometimes I’m so clearly able to describe the human experience of discomfort in such a way and I’m often times just stating it, but my partner will react as if I am overly affected by it and he’ll feel the need to comfort me, but at the same time, his reaction is making me feel worse about my statement even though my statement was meant to alleviate the discomfort I felt in the moment, I don’t know if that made sense.

Your technical skill in getting to the details of mental health is excellent! Hope you well.

Really great video here. I used to suffer from this. My situation isnt much better yet. But im taking all the steps within my power to change that. My bucket list may be short, but i do have one.

My ears cried with the volume spikes from ADs, but the content is so worth. Still, please get the mic settings up for next session. Ty for the great content!!!

"the concept that I can accomplish goals in my life is foreign to me". - Dr K, who just released a trama module, which I presume is a goal, that he pursued during his life-hours. (If you can pursue things with non-life hours, I want to know)

" A revolution in your life is made from tiny, little things." Pure truth. A house is built brick by brick, nail by nail.

What I have been officialy diagnosed with: Autism, OCD, Depression and General Anxiety Disorder. I used to have social phobia(not diagnosed) but that I have overcome with time but general anxiety is still an on going issue. I don't know the criteria for this "shit life syndrome" but there have for sure been times in my life where I feel like I have too many damn issues to juggle and it's extremely draining at times. It was for sure way worse though back when I didn't even know what was wrong with me. Me having a word for what's wrong with me has literally saved me from suicide. It was terrifying back when I was 18 and I tried to suicide because I did not know I was autistic, or about the OCD or anything. I felt like the biggest freak in the world, because I knew I was a loner depressed misfit but I didn't know how or why. Sometimes I feel scared when I remember I had to suicide attempt to finally get proper help.

Thank you for another great video. Dr K I enjoy watching and listening to what you have to say. Having been the target of a narcissistic mother, from a very early age, trauma and survival habits have been my life. I married someone who also turned out to be a narcissist. ( I am with someone else now) Yes I have been suicidal, I talked my way out of it. I knew there had to be more to life than just surviving and walking on egg shells constantly. There is help out there, you just need to find the right help, but you have to do a lot of work for yourself. No-one can tell me they have experienced everything life has to offer by the age of 20. If you do not know what to do with life...experiment. Just try a job, a craft, volunteer, get off your butt and do something. I am not completely healed by any means (and may never be). I turned 58 today and have been living with depression since I was 8yo. I have two beautiful daughters and two grandchildren. I may not be able to travel or have a fully independent life, thanks to arthritis in the spine, but it doesn't' stop me from trying things. I craft, garden, do housework and am passionate about nature, the environment and especially learning. I still need to learn how to heal parts of myself, but I will keep trying till the day I leave this planet. NEVER GIVE UP!!!

I really appreciated learning about the diathesis-stress model. Very insightful

2:04:30 i’ve heard this as well, “what’s the difference between courage and stupidity, none, and thats why life is hard” In my summation this results in “history is written by the victors”

I recently got into a healthy relationship - likely the healthiest one I've ever been in, in my whole life, and I've started to dare to dream / plan for future things like trips for the future. I've had to remove the toxicity of my family from my life in order to make my life better. But all the same, the shitty life syndrome fits me to a T. I've lived in Sweden for 5 years and have been struggling with things the whole time (money, relationships, school, language, lack of job). This follows the trend of what my life was in the US before I moved here ; I was even homeless before moving here. I've often thought that it was silly to have multiple diagnosis rather than one overarching thing wrong with me.

1:07:28 I got this on the first time, but I was also 7 and didn't create the proper rational. So I stayed right between being suicidal and deciding to see what things look like at the next bend for the next 20 years. A lot of it was logical, I'm rather impressed by little me looking back on it, from what I knew of the world it was probably the best way, but it took 20 years to dig up that perspective and figure out the bits that were keeping me there. I'm still learning to live without it, and relapse occasionally, but there is a safety to it, an awareness that I'll feel differently than I do in the moment. I think it's about the equivalent of solving the core. I'm so so close to being able to say I fully conquered my depression. This video is quite insightful particularly as it's exactly what I've left to work out.

Your guide helped me at my lowest. Thank you for that. I'll consider purchasing the trauma module. To be fair it's an amazing value. And thank you for not putting it into subscription-based model.

hey doc how can i shape my life when my economic viability is determined by 3rd parties (i.e. businesses). ive had 4 interviews a week for the last 3 months and no body has hired me, put out hundreds of resumes. now im looking at homelessness at the end of the month,. on top of having a new huge debt amount of 62k because i almost died earlier this year and thats the hospital cost. how do i make people give me resource when businesses are the gate keepers of resource? i have no money, finance or ability to get credit to start my own business; how do i generate resource and income in a vacuum?

Dr. K, Chrome tip: After a tab or window is closed you can press CTRL+Shift+T to reopen it even after the computer is restarted.

This video gave me a lot to think about. On the last part, I think sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't. I kind of feel like the process keeps putting me into burn out and disappointment. Ive been doing that for about 2 years, and the same pattern kinda pops out. I think I can see a way that might get me to a place where I can feel more in control and better overall. I don't really know if it will but i can see the possibility so I throw myself into it. I'm not happy, I'm not passionate in the true sense of the word, but I do everything I can to see if I can get there. Then another thing happens that throws a wrench into the plan or my overall situation and then the amount of "I don't want to do this but I'll do it anyway because it's important" gets to a point of burnout and overwhelming. Or the thing just fully doesn't work out and I'm disappointed I failed another thing, or the thing failed, I put my energy and hopes into and I'm back to square one. I end up just going back to freeze functioning, I still tell myself something like "ok you can't do X right now but at least you can do xyz (eat better, clean, exercise, talk to friends, do laundry etc.) so I keep resisting fully giving in. But it feels like every time it's harder to get up and try again. I'm currently going through this where I was again feeling a bit more stable and working on things to get me to a better place, and in a week a series of unfortunate events happened that I need to deal with to continue and I'm just frozen. A lot of these things also depend on others which makes me dread it even more and feel even more useless. I don't feel I'm capable of much else but the basics, take decent food, sleep, hygiene, walk, don't self isolate, do chores, do the minimum of what you have to and then distract. The issue I think is that in the end I don't want to do anything or really enjoy much of anything. I'm just doing things out of understanding I'll feel even worse if I don't and out of hope I'll feel better or different eventually. And the "I don't want to" just pilles on until I reach burnout/overwhelm, usually by getting new things added to my seemingly endless I don't want to list.

This has to be one of the best streams by Dr K.

Most people have lives that are either nasty, brutish, and short, or else lead lives of quiet desparation. Many dont have the basic requirements to lead a decent life.

I found one of my eye’s blind spot for the first time that I can remember and I’m blown away.

I SO relate to this first question about SLS. Yes, things are objectively bad... Dr. K articulates the issue so well. 🤯

I am surprised that you do not discuss ACEs more as a primary factor leading to SLS, many of us were never taught how to function at a basic level in society and predispose us to poverty and lifelong physical/ mental health issues.

I'd give anything to not feel terrible everyday.

Such an incredible video, so helpful! Thank you!

Hey man thanks. This really helped right now

starts @4:41, wait ... @11:52

Move in with your parents, don’t have kids, so many people regret having kids and the planet doesn’t need anymore people. Make your life about connecting with others. Work in a bar for instant social connections. Live simply and enjoy the planet while it is still here. Save money and see the world, there are so many different ways to live. They are not saving the planet so don’t engage with whats destroying the planet

100% one of the best videos so far.

I'm a hardcore dissociator and this kind of meditation needs some adapting to make it work for me. Commenting in case it helps somebody else, too. My mind will often not let me be aware of physical or emotional discomfort, even when I am trying to focus on it. I get around this by first getting into a stretch that feels uncomfortable but not painful, such as sitting with feet together and knees apart. Then I lean into the stretch while breathing deeply. It often feels like I am forcing the breath, while every fibre of my body and mind is screaming at me to stop - I think of this as the dissociation "fighting back". I keep coming back to the stretch and the deep breathing until the dissociation "breaks": my mind accepts awareness of discomfort, and I have access to my emotions and physical sensations. It feels very raw and vulnerable afterwards, but the benefits are so much worth it.

Hello everyone, Did anyone also had the problem of wanting to share this amazing content to a friend that does not speak English? If this anytime comes into Doctor’s K hands, please consider the idea of localizing your content to other languages!! I always talk about your videos to my mom, but she is Brazilian and never spoke a single word in English!!

30:46 this is wild!! My 8 yo bday my parents arranged to have it at Chuck E. Cheese. I was super excited. I’m not sure if I knew beforehand that it was a joint bday party with my neighbor’s kid Herbert, (who I didn’t know very well) but I remember getting there and this long table with Herbert and a ton of his friends and only my best friend from across the street was there. I was very sad seeing Herbert and all his friends and presents and my parents, Chris and I at the end of the table like tagalongs. Idk if a Desi thing or unique to my parents but it wasn’t the first time they missed the ball and the answer was always the same “we’re not from here so we don’t know how these things work” (in retrospect it’s literally the worst excuse as both of them are highly educated). This is really interesting and what a cluster eff to have accomplished what I have only to be a target of systemic racism, passive F responses and CPTSD and thereby excelling at my work but my ignorance and ineffective assertiveness (& poor judge of character leaning too far into “good enough” denying when people are being malicious and giving room but mini betrayals will culminate in a massive betrayal. ) so now it’s like fuck it. 42:46 lol when I finally was able to fly business class I would always board at the end as idk I don’t like classism/inequality and oddly feel pretentious sitting there as the majority truck into the economy seats :(

So if someone has SLS and then their circumstances change to overall neutral... how does one adjust accordingly? Like the old coping methods and survival mechanics no longer apply and usually cause more harm than good.

"Racial bonus of tech support" got me dead lmao.

"Waiting on the world to change" is a terrible song that I hope no one thinks is real advice.

Every discipline thinks that their discipline contains all the answers to life. If you're a scientist, it's easy to believe that science contains all the answers to life. If you're an artist, it's easy to think that art contains all the answers to life. If you're a gamer, it's easy to think that games contain all the answers to life. None of them have ever been right. I'm not saying that we can't use games as a useful metaphor, or that we can't apply their lessons to life at all, I'm just warning against the hubris of believing that all the answers are in one place.

29:30. Ur brain makes u forget positive experiences and amplifies negative experiences 39:13

Tic disorder/severe anxiety/Agoraphobia/ED/ASD/Crohn's/C-PTSD/ADHD/Ehler's Danlos/Bipolar III - my diagnoses and the order in which they arrived.... I also got an objectively shit life, but the undiagnosed neuro-divergence drove a huge amount of this stuff.

Hey HealthyGamer team! Could you please include the list of all the references used in the video🙏

I think I've for a long time had a cognitive dissonance with how I view help in this context, and help in a game. Of course I go to guides for build paths in a game because I'm curious, but for this guide to try and improve my psychological state? A kind of sense of failure. I'm a noob, not a failure. I'm bad at the game, of course I need to read the guide from people in higher elos. I'm trying to climb from the bronze bracket, and thinking somehow that asking someone in diamond is like this big deal, when if anything its something that they've gotten asked so much its in the FAQ.

Have you considered having Dr Kirk Honda from Psychology in Seattle ? He's a psychologist who reacts to media (mainly realty TV and shows) and uses it as a jumping off point to explain a lot of concepts and situations, and he talks often about attachment theory. I think it could be an awesome collaboration !

2:27:04 i just recognised my mental karma yesterday while watching stream…even tho my body denied it i ended up overeating and could not resist the urge to eat then it lead me to going to sleep (instead of completing a task which i had) then i woke up with 2 tasks.. i caught up with one fortunately but the second one got delayed.. my cycle was i just over ate which led me to sleepiness which led me to pending work.. My brain tricked me into thinking “Just a bit of extra eating nothing will happen” “Its ok if you feel tired you can sleep for 10 to 15 mins” which in reality became 6 hours

That’s not a syndrome life is objectively poop

People who need room to grow the most are the ones that don't deserve it. And so they get stuck in their situation because no person would endure and tolerate a person who is greatly faulted.

Thanks for the lecture, Guru 😉

I’m pretty sure I had shit life syndrome but the only way I got out of it was by finding God, literally. Hate to sound annoying to people with the attitude I used to have and know very well, but knowing Jesus truly is the only thing that saved me. I had a neglectful childhood, bullied relentlessly from the moment I began school, dated several very abusive people, had abusive friends, was sexually assaulted, was given wrong sexual information from my parents, my intimacy boundaries were crossed by family. I’ve been diagnosed with ADHD which I think I did have and caused my parents to be more neglectful than maybe they otherwise would have been (not understanding what to do about my problems, not getting me any help, not assisting me with school), and then people have thought I had BPD, I have OCD symptoms, etc. It’s not that being a Christian has made my life perfect, definitely not, but the hope and reason for going on and knowing I’m loved makes a world of difference. Even if it’s not religion for you, whoever is reading this, I hope you know you’re loved and you have a purpose. Even if you think you’re too old and should have found it by now, you have a purpose and you are loved.

You mentioned chronic disorders like CFS and fibromyalgia; can you heal from it by healing your trauma?

I love the "absolute cinema" pose on the preview.

that’s me. I have a shit ton of diagnoses (ADHD, fibromyalgia, autism, depression, cptsd and pre menstrual dysphoric disorder). The only way I can live my life without trying to end me is gaming and procrastinating without shame. and I accept what I have, cause if I didn’t I would be trying to end myself. But in the end even tho I’m no rich I know it’s something not everyone can do, because of money 🥺

My life isn't objectively bad. It's objectively the best it's ever been. I'm motivated and productive and usually happy. I have close relationships with friends and family and a reasonable amount of money. But I still don't understand the purpose of survival for its own sake. It seems stupid to me. I never understood the obsession people had with prolonging life, even when it causes obvious pain, with very little hope of full recovery. I can understand tolerating huge amounts of pain for a higher purpose. Like a freedom fighter enduring torture for his country. Or a mother enduring pain and suffering to give her children a better life. In that case you're taking the pain for a brighter future, if not for yourself then for someone you care about. I can also understand tolerating some pain if your life is happy and pleasurable in general. Nothing is perfect after all. But the idea of keeping myself alive in the absence of pleasure or purpose is just ridiculous to me. Why'd anyone put in the effort?

Hey, so this was a really great video and I am excited for the incredible looking guide. I was wondering if there should however be a 'pay what you can' option? Much like the housing first initiative, I know people who are struggling to put food on the table and would likely find it impossible to justify paying for an online guide. So I just worry that some of the people who could have the greatest impact from it, are the ones out of reach.

Thank you so much for educating me on how to live, feeling less lost when I listen to you

1:43:56 you can also look at this as the body saying “we survived this time, but we might not next time, so let’s not do that again.” The response of not wanting to risk a 10% chance a food poisoning makes much more sense in this light (assuming that on some chemical or neurological level this is indeed what is going on)

As someone who watches almost all of the HG videos, please hear me when I say the prices for things like the anxiety guides, etc, are far too expensive for people like me who desperately wants to learn from them, impossible to do so. I am also in the *no amount of therapy can fix all my diagnoses* category. (I have been diagnosed with SEVERAL mental illnesses). Let me say I am humbly and proudly now studying psychology at a Christian University. I have came a far way. I also have six kids, and stay home with them and do school online while my boyfriend works. There is no way I can buy these packages. Mabey you guys can consider lowering the prices?

This is mostly just the result of unchecked capitalism…poor begets poor mental health, and poor mental health begets poor. It’s a cycle. And the working class is treated like trash, must eat trash, and rarely make it out…but there’s no “point” of treating them in capitalism, because a) there’s no profit in it b) the problems are systemic and will continue within capitalism

Damn I needed this.....makes so much sense..

I still have goals. I just got more CEUs last week and I'm preparing a speech for a conference for behavioral health conference on the false dichotomy of providers and clients being different communities.

Can you please turn up your microphone volume? Past weeks its been really low, I need to turn up my iphone to max volume while having headphones on..

This "shit life disorder" is truly the most seen I've ever felt. What's blowing my mind is that, never- not once in my life- have I ever considered a certain level of "divorce from reality" as an advantageous evolutionary feature. Wow. Like. This has me thinking and questioning A LOT of things, in a positive way I think? I'm autistic, with major depressive disorder, GAD, OCD, and I highly suspect ADHD (before even getting into the sob story of LifeLong Trauma™️). But the main reason I bring it up has to do with the "depressive realism" piece of it: in addition to this, as an autistic person I'm also highly perceptive to pattern recognition. To me, this has always been an advantageous feature. When the pandemic first began and ppl were like "this will last 3 weeks to 3 months", I was like "Pandemics/epidemics historically have been a regular occurrence among populations that lasted years each time, this isn't going to be a micro-blip in time"- I was correct. And to me, that seemed advantageous because I was prepared for the reality for it. But in hindsight, I think it was an impairment because I saw other people mentally & emotionally deal with it in a "healthier" way by having some level of suspended reality. It never occurred to me that it's healthy or normal to have a certain disconnect from reality... even now having the awareness of it, it seems morally and ethically wrong. I guess because it's a ultimately a denial of truth and/or a denial of nuance. Humans apparently not being calibrated to the nature of reality is the biggest mindfuck I think I've ever had. Like. I don't know what to make of that. That is my default as a lifelong autistic depressive. It doesn't compute AT ALL to me. I will be thinking about this long and hard to try to make it compute, because I think there's a lot of good in that perspective, but I'm also partially skeptical in my autistic brain's ability to suspend reality, even if my depressive brain may be eventually able to. Idk if that makes sense

I'm not inactive. I'm not apathetic. I'm angry. I spent 15 years in recovery. Getting CEUs in behavioral health because I'm a peer support specialist, and it lead to shyte.

Wow, I have many of these diagnosis Asperger’s antisocial ADHD. I was diagnosed with bipolar at one point, but I don’t think I have it in comparison to people. I know who’ve had it major depression. I thought I had a beautiful life, beautiful life. Maybe my bus is just short enough that I can’t tell the difference between beautiful and 💩?

does anyone know what song is playing at the start I'm really loving it XD

Might be a dumb question, but what do I do about the really bad feelings the meditation brings to my awareness? Breath into them too? Do I have to like face them? I'm not distracting myself for fun you know...

Always happy when I see Dr. K out with another video about why our brains our biggest enemy. (Or i assume...)

It took 15 years of therapy to believe I could determine my future. I was on SSDI for most of it.

40:32 I kept looking at my phone trying to figure out what notification I was getting, then backing up the video because I'd missed some information, then looking at my phone trying to figure out what notification I was getting, then backing up the video because I'd missed something... Finally figured it out.

Skip to 10:45, doesn't start until then

Im just gonna say it, if inflation and over regulation wasnt ruining our economy we probably wouldn't have as depressing of an outlook on our future as a society. No point to save and plan for the future if you know its just going to suck and your savings will lose value faster than you can save up.

Leaving a timestamp 2:17:54 for myself as an example of how to "Play the tape through the end."

1:43:51 That's because the tenth time could actually be 1/50% and the 9 prior times could be 9/50% times where the food is actually good (though, the restaurant would probably have already closed if that was the case)