Trauma Healing Step One: Leaving Toxic Relationships

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Dr. Anita Phillips

Күн бұрын

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@shericurtis1694 9 ай бұрын

I did 18 years with an addict. He was my children's father. I left 2 years ago and loving it!!!

@MaureenWHamblin 3 жыл бұрын

Don’t confuse honour with manipulation!!! 👌🏿👌🏿👌🏿!! Thanks Dr. Anita ❤️

@heart-2-heart-talks-with-tj 2 жыл бұрын

She’s so real and smart! Discovered her yesterday. I wish she was my therapist!!!

@konstanze3658 4 жыл бұрын

"If I use my mouth to interrupt my thoughts, I can bring my thoughts into alignment with what I am saying!" Thank you! No more fear about talking to myself!

@carolynzackery1796 3 жыл бұрын

Dr. Phillips, you don't know how much you've helped me. I ran across your video, which is a miracle to me. I know that this was nobody but the Lord. Thank you for allowing him to use you. And I say to you; be truly blessed...

@mosim9691 3 жыл бұрын

Luv Dr. Anita however, I am not a proponent of yoga for the following personal experience: The Lord kept me from exposing my spirit to that in yoga. While at the gym, I decided to participate in a yoga session as the instructor asked us to make a certain pose, something immediately rose up within me & I internally yet silently screamed "the only God I will bow down to is Jesus." I quietly got up & walked out of the class. I then asked God to show me what happened in that yoga class, within 2-days, I saw a news segment on tv wherein a yoga guru explained certain poses rever and pay respect to deities (i.e., Gods) of different religions. You can research this for yourself.

@Alphacentauri819 28 күн бұрын

When I did my mental health rotation, there was a hyper religious patient…who kept repeating she was waiting for her bridegroom Jesus. She had been found in a basement with feces smeared all over…her parents had her admitted to the psych ward, she was in her 30’s. I’d be oh so careful about the beliefs that inform you, that you think are of “god”. Often when a person has unmitigated anxiety issues, deep religious conditioning, and they don’t have the skills of introspection, metacognition…they can fall prey to their own cognitive distortions. God is way bigger than yoga, or whatever paranoid ideation you’re suggesting here. This type of thinking is a cognitive (neurological) issues, that borders on the mechanisms of things like OCD. To keep “certainty” and control…a person’s mind will create rigid structures, that are often not of god, and instead grasping and “meaning making”…that actually shrink god. Yoga calms the nervous system, allows for emotional regulation, which allows for a person to “be still and know I am god”…. So, your mental gymnastics are way more concerning than the practice of yoga. The meaning of yoga is “union”. That is the Union between mind/body/spirit….and allows us to be more connected to self, others and the divine. Your fear based worldview is sad and can easily devolve into mental illness

@Flexfreezone37 2 жыл бұрын

Life with alot of guilt, can be very dangerous and overwhelming. Amen

@angelamartin2336 4 жыл бұрын

Yes. Theology and mental health. Guilt, control, manipulation. Family is very challenging. Saw you at The Potter's House. Much healing. I am awoke. Let the Lord use you🙏🏽Many blessings

@joanfolds476 4 жыл бұрын

Dr. Phillips is phenomenal!!! This is an excellent teaching!!! She goes into a lot of detail regarding toxicity in relationships with ourselves as well as with other people.

@antoinetteporter 4 жыл бұрын

This lady is brilliant. I love her guidance

@NandyGabor 3 жыл бұрын

Totally agree

@MaureenWHamblin 3 жыл бұрын

Words are the active ingredient in a toxic relationship!! Spoken and unspoken!!

@theresabell2638 4 жыл бұрын

Please keep making these video they are helping people to heal.. we need people like you in the body of Christ to aid the healing process. May God continue to bless you and may his holy spirit inspire you on going as you continually seek his face and be lead by his spirit to share the message he places on your heart. Love from a listener in New Zealand.

@violetstephanie1 Жыл бұрын

Awesome, my ex husband was renowned for insulting me publicly or with his friends around, whilst pretending it was a joke. Relieved to be away from interacting with this person. You have the best description of this subtle behaviour and the impact it has on a person Dr Anita. I never felt able to use my voice and towards the end remained totally silent.

@dreamiedips8624 2 жыл бұрын

Signs of toxic people and functioning of an ongoing toxic relationship: 1. @2:00 Physically abusive 2. @5:53 Someone constantly belittling you 3. @7:22 Someone who has bad temper 4. @8:21 People overreact to thing and deflect 5. @11:11 Guilt inducer Recommendation: 💚@1:26 What's going on in the relationship 💚@9:24 Toxic doesn't kill at the spot it's actually constant poisoning to slow death 💚@12:32 not only focus on toxic people, focus on why this toxic relationship is working 💚@13:33 truly discern and pay attention to unspoken and spoken words and stop the flow of the negative words 💚@18:12 Stop toxic interaction with yourself 💚@19:58 Also allow God to reveal in you what in you that keeps you tied to toxic people 💚@21:00 Hardest to do with your family 💚@22:16 Become hyper-aware 🙌🏻✝️💖@23:13 Prayer Thanks Dr. Anita Philips for this incredible video. I'm blessed.❤️🌸

@0555pink Жыл бұрын

THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU soooo so Much for Doing these Time Stamps Honey…. ❤️‍🔥 Sending you Grateful Hugs from Australia

@newbiemaddie 8 ай бұрын

❤ thank you

@shawnjohnson5433 6 ай бұрын

Speechless about how timely this video is in my life. God knows when because when I saw this was recorded 4yrs ago, I was so disappointed that I’m just hearing about her. But today is better than never!!!! Thank you.

@tarvariskoonce1333 4 жыл бұрын

That was an excellent tip to shut down negative words that are spoken over us before they take root. I will use this technique to disrupt negative words being spoken into my life.

@susanabraham8893 Жыл бұрын

Absolutely true Dr Phillips I had an alcoholic father n now I’m dealing with an alcoholic husband n it’s so draining on a daily basis n I’ve sort some counselling now n I’m looking forward to getting the help I need as it’s been a long long time. You are amazing dear. God bless you ❤️✨🙏

@cloverallen4789 8 ай бұрын

Thank you thank you thank you.. Phillips I'm saying this 4 years in my journey being that clock time wow everything you talking about I've been trying to understand and you write with healing you can go to but when a lot of your understanding has something to do with the spirit that God the anointing the holy spirit that God has put on you will be need spiritual counselor that can let us really understand Us in the Walk of sometime we still deal with the human flesh not saying that everyone is on this level but I'm speaking from me how I can understand everything and thank you for being obedient for recording this message who would know I would have found this on KZfaq who would know .But God bless Jesus name 🙏🏼🙌🙌💜🤍💙💜🤍💙👏👏👏💚 My God

@jackkelly9690 3 жыл бұрын

This changed my entire perspective on toxicity... thank you sooo much Dr. Phillips! You’re a blessing more than you’ll ever realize

@amyr8343 4 жыл бұрын

Thank God for your ministry. Not only does it make me look at the people around me, but it forces me to confront myself and my own behavior and what I am doing to benefit or damage my relationships. I realized the dislike I had towards my son's behavior in certain situations, was parallel to my own behavior.

@SweetNellzyVibes 3 жыл бұрын

Lack of safety!!!!!! This is what’s missing

@sylviacrout5072 2 жыл бұрын

Yes and unfortunately THEY have to be willing to get help before YOU can help! Like you said…… IT TAKES 2! 2 = a couple! You can’t make someone change who they are or make them love you. If you do me wrong continuously, you don’t love me!!

@thankfulqueen4280 4 жыл бұрын

God bless you!! Bless you, BLESS YOU! Thank you for allowing the Lord to use you in this way!!

@Neethle-Cheryeth 3 жыл бұрын

This video was such a blessing and life changing. Thanks so much Dr. Anita Phillips for taking the time to do this video. God is using you to help heal so many people. 💕

@shelbysutton6475 3 жыл бұрын

WOW I NEEDED THIS!!!!

@teresafernandez508 4 жыл бұрын

You speak from the heart!

@karencox8699 4 жыл бұрын

God bless and ty! Beautiful right on message!

@yvgregor 3 жыл бұрын

This is so good!!

@pamelacaldwell4750 5 жыл бұрын

You hit the head on the nail. So very true!!!

@joyh.729 3 жыл бұрын

Powerful, God-given insight! Thank you Dr. Phillips. 🌟🌟

@patriciacartersashairstudi1806 4 жыл бұрын

You Helping Me!

@jonquia7 3 жыл бұрын

That you for your wisdom. I needed this today

@chasity4655 4 жыл бұрын

AMAZING WORD SISTER ❤️🙏🏽🔥

@sharondstern3385 3 жыл бұрын

This is so powerful!

@BH4H 4 жыл бұрын

This Blessed my SOUL! THANK YOU!

@oliviadance1 3 жыл бұрын

You are incredible 🙌 What a word!!! Amen

@wbb6136 3 жыл бұрын

This is so real to me! I needed to hear this to get the courage to end this toxic relationship.

@aliwalk5179 4 жыл бұрын

Praise God, I thank you sister for being used by God for his Glory. I just released my toxic son and he's been so awful towards me. It's not right but it's ok, cause him and his disrespectful girlfriend will have to deal with God. We use to have a beautiful relationship but what has happened is too painful for me to carry any longer. He must grow up and I'm not helping, I'm being codependent. I'm a cancer survivor and I need my peace and clean comfort to function and they continually challenge me. Thank you Dr Anita I Love you, God keep her!!!

@jeanetteector3243 4 жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing your gifts with me.

@rutendomahowa715 4 жыл бұрын

Uniting spirit, soul and body 💃🏾👏🏾

@denisejohnson1130 Жыл бұрын

You are truly Amazing

@virtuoussoulhealer3644 3 жыл бұрын

I like this Sistah.

@SandraMartinez-iz2gv 5 ай бұрын

Awesome message! Thank you ❤

@nedraford5461 Жыл бұрын

Sooooo good, Dr. Phillips

@theaansel8738 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for this holistic session very much needed with all the current trauma.

@allenderrylbrooks3488 4 жыл бұрын

Great Word Dr. Phillips. So clear.

@irenefinch7024 Жыл бұрын

Hi! 1st Time Listening & I Subscribed.

@kairifan12 2 жыл бұрын

One of the best videos on KZfaq

@36ozofgame Жыл бұрын

She’s smart and beautiful

@zaritamattox8842 4 жыл бұрын

Excellent! Thank you so much.

@garrikashelton3990 4 жыл бұрын

This has blessed me , and enlightened my perspective thank you 🥰

@AJCOOL357 2 жыл бұрын

When I tell you this helped allot IT DID. It’s like you knew my situation. Thank you so much.

@miraclelyna4277 3 жыл бұрын

Such an Amazing message & such an anointed woman of God!

@shannelnewton9236 7 ай бұрын

Yes and amen… boundaries. In families, friends, and workplaces. Thank you Lord for increasing my hyper awareness. So good…

@sherrieheartofgold9218 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you bless you I'm in recovery I needed this ty ty ty

@sherrieheartofgold9218 4 ай бұрын

@xDrAnitaphillips hi I received a message in my email you wanted me to get ahold you I'm here sister

@jacklinmiller1336 3 жыл бұрын

This is timely and very much needed. Thank you Dr Anita :)

@pamelarichards464 2 жыл бұрын

Absolutely Amazing ...

@jelisasanders9308 3 жыл бұрын

Soooo good!!!

@emmanueldansoabeam718 4 жыл бұрын

Wow thats a powerful speech , you are my Jordan Peterson ❣

@denisepalmer3732 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you father God for the teaching and prayers.

@feliciadhall9390 4 жыл бұрын

This was so awesome, I hear you woman God and this a teachings that's needed for all people, bless you God cover and bless her. For this is a enlighten word.

@fruitinspector8247 4 жыл бұрын

Dr Philips, you are definitely God sent. Thank God for this teaching. You break down such a complex topic and make it easy to comprehend. You are truly the bomb dot.com. God bless you.

@baldeagle77 4 жыл бұрын

Holy Spirit led, I had to delete my social media to see who really cared for me Insta, Facebook, Twitter EVERYTHING! I got so many realisations! Take it to the throne! If I can survive years of Narcissistic abuse caused by my physically & spiritually manipulative mother, via Christ help, anyone can! I've never been happier and I am leading a life of solitude! The JOY in Christ is like no other - God Speed saints! PRAY there is no PAIN Jesus cant heal!

@maryericksonjussah8743 Жыл бұрын

A new subscriber 💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕

@msherrean74 2 жыл бұрын

Very definitive message received

@CM-rr2uu 4 жыл бұрын

I Love ❤️ you Dr. Anita and the Powerful words you have shared during this lesson. Cannot wait until the next ..... God Bless you and your family!

@cheryl5667 3 жыл бұрын

I also can't believe you just freestyled/preached this proper essay.

@nehemiahbyndom3716 2 жыл бұрын

I believe you have a brilliant mind , that's huge to work with, Amen.

@aprillsmith1567 3 жыл бұрын

Never too late to learn 💙 people can really take you on a Trip 😳😱

@ntuthudlamini5489 2 жыл бұрын

THIS IS AMAZING. THANK YOU DR. ANITA🙏🏽💕💐. THANK YOU LORD 🙏🏽🙌🏽💐💕❤️

@JRice-be1my 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you !!!! Amen 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

@thisizdub Жыл бұрын

Love what you do. Picture perfect ❤❤ You don't have to challenge a man's love if he beats her. NOBODY believes this in their heart.

@nihaimamoniquestamper7670 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for this massage amen. 👌💯✍🙏

@slbllc 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you!

@naturalnikki8675 3 жыл бұрын

Very helpful! Thank you.

@beverlyglass1077 4 жыл бұрын

Keep up the GOD work ❗

@PrettyBr0wn Жыл бұрын

Yes mam this is on point thank you❤

@Nikster1805 2 жыл бұрын

I just said this to myself, if I talk crazy, but my thoughts are of good things I begin to tell my mouth to hush. My toxic interactions with myself ends now...

@shelliandouce9841 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you Dr phillip god bless you

@erinwalsh6803 Жыл бұрын

All I can say is AMEN!

@HARRISMELISSA 4 жыл бұрын

Dr. Phillips - can you address narcissistic abuse.

@ayandatholwana528 4 жыл бұрын

RC blakes preaches so good about it check him out.

@WLNS4Life 4 жыл бұрын

Doesn't all abuse come from a narcissistic place?

@clearascrystal08 2 жыл бұрын

great explanation...!

@everythangcosha4614 4 жыл бұрын

🙏Thank You Lord For Dr. Anita❣

@4_hisglory42 3 жыл бұрын

My marriage is all of these My husband is an addict, physically abusive, anger problems, deflects, and he doesn't belive in God! Lord, please help him. I know we have to be apart but i ask you to show him who you are.

@gloribyflores5 10 ай бұрын

Thank you ❤️

@ashleighsefaidiga9209 4 жыл бұрын

I relate to what she said about taking 3 steps in the healing direction but because im stuck in an abusive family situation i take 2 or more steps back there aint no progress at all. If i decide that im gona work on my healing i find a small thing triggering anger and frustration in me so its so hard and difficult although i am believing God for my healing

@nappyscribe1987 Ай бұрын

My daughter’s father was in prison most of her life. She resorted to drugs. She was able to get off them. He was released from prison. Moved in her home with her. Got her back on drugs and more chaos. I put him in jail which lasted all but a second. He’s married but seems to want a “clean” relationship with daughter who’s now 50. But she has to visit Him. He sells drugs. Suspected using them too.

@smileyperlishia 4 жыл бұрын

Awesome message

@chosenpureheart5018 4 жыл бұрын

OH MY!!! That reflective behavior. Let's be GROWN and take responsibility for our actions. 🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️

@williambatts7909 5 жыл бұрын

Powerful live Dr. Anita!!! Very responsible and professional way of packing this sensitive content. #welldone

@DrAnitaPhillips 5 жыл бұрын

Thank you!

@mtimm001 4 жыл бұрын

Dr Anita...how amazing your messages are !!! Do you ever come to Jacksonville, Fl..??? I'm getting my MSN in psych and would loooiove to learn more from you...🌸

@caenterprisellc6922 2 жыл бұрын

And I want to point something else out. It's not that I don't need a man. Not only does it have to be the right man, what I can't tolerate is when a man who has or is trying to force a woman in a vulnerable position so that she will need him. And men will try to enter a relationship with that mindset.

@dushaynemitchell3730 4 жыл бұрын

Thanks for prayer. . .

@thepowerofshe5124 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you:)

@leratoboya7890 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you.

@gracemackinza3316 2 жыл бұрын

It's Dr Phillips for you 💅🏾

@angelalbryant68 7 ай бұрын

Preach!

@chazayahpitt9473 4 жыл бұрын

Praise You Jesus! So very helpful! Is there a Trauma Healing Step two presentation??

@beautymagudu1104 4 ай бұрын

Thank you Dr Anita..u r a blessing. I am currently reading yr book i am soo blessed. I salute you WOG. Pst. Beauty from South Africa

@beautymagudu1104 4 ай бұрын

@xDrAnitaphillips reading your book listen to every KZfaq video help me so much. My husband passed on last year May and it was so sudden. Your programs have helped me in dealing with the trauma. Everytime I watch I get an answer. May you continue doing what God has called you to do. I appreciate you. You might never fully understand the impact you have done in my life. I manage to write a book and launching it in May this year. Thank you soo much. Blessing WOG.