BPD isn't who you are, that's the hardest thing to grasp sometimes. It's a reaction to the environment and helped you survive and cope when you needed it. I think that while it's important to recognize and disentangle from it now that it's no longer necessary, it's also important to be grateful for it as it's all you had at the time. Think of yourself as a seed that never got the nurturance it needed and now it's safe to accept that nurturance and grow. Easier said but that's what it is.

the worst part about bpd is when people can’t understand it. that loneliness of feeling like you’re saying words but nobody really gets what you’re saying- especially in a society that tends to romanticize mental illness- your education on the disorder shows because you put my exact thoughts into words and your videos are the only thing i feel i can really turn to when i’m confused by myself

if i could simply "act opposite" when having a meltdown i hardly think i would be in this position

We aren't monsters. We are just scared. Thank you, this helped me a lot. I will try acting opposite with my partner and hopefully it will help him too.

As someone with bpd, this almost made me cry. You get it. We're not monsters like people think, we're just scared and need help to grow and manage our personality disorder and heal what caused it to develop.

How do I identify if my emotions are justified? There's usually always a big part of me that's telling me "You're just being dramatic and attention seeking" or "you have no right to ask for this in a relationship, this is inapropriately much" I know I am kinda gaslighting myself. But I genuinely never understand when my feelings are justified and I tend to just "swallow" them and back off and then I get angry at myself...

It honestly amazes me how someone can understand something this deeply. Thank you so much for what you do!

I had a massive meltdown yesterday, I am still weak and shaky today. I am finding your videos very helpful.

I think I have something to add to this discussion. I'm 77 years old ... "young." I had this diagnosis when I was 22 years old. I never knew that I had it until I saw a "counselor" in my sixties who told me. I had noticed that I had gotten "strange" treatment from some health care professionals and attorneys. I never knew why. I hate labels and think they should be done away with. The damage they do to a person's self-esteem and quality of life is never-ending. I would, at least, like to see this label re-worded. I, also, dislike the word "disorder." It is not a disorder. It is a normal reactive process to help people cope with trauma. I can think of a few labels I would like to slap on the guy who gave me this label which made my life much harder than it should have been. Hold your heads up high...you are a survivor and have great depth as a result. I have a heart of gold, and my life's calling has been humane work with animals....no doubt because they have no voice, just as I had no voice. It has been my way of making the world a kinder place.

You have a parent who tells you continually that you're not a good person. You pass those years thinking about the time when you'll be a grown up and things will be wonderful. You live on hope but by the time you reach adulthood you're hurting badly. You don't seem to fit in. You don't know how to act. But you learn over time how to put a good face on everything and how to be a responsible person and the opposite kind of person than that wrathful parent. For the most part the world couldn't even guess about the hurt you feel almost all the time. You watch the videos talking about different types of mental illness and when it comes to the BPD one you see yourself described there so perfectly that you find yourself weeping uncontrollably for a few minutes before you pull it all together again. Worse, the symptoms are described most of the time in such a painfully negative way that your heart screams out, Please God, don't let that be me. I don't want to be that person! Over decades you come to realize that you just don't know how to make good relationships and so you start to keep the opposite sex at arms length. You choose the sort of companion who won't form an attachment to you or anyone else for that matter. You think that'll make it manageable. But it doesn't. It just keeps reinforcing the hurt. You don't want to get attached to anyone because you might get too attached, like that fear of abandonment thing you've heard about. You've experienced it plenty even before you ran across it as a "symptom" by medical people that will never see you as anything more than just a diagnosis, this and that a mental illness spectrum of screwed up thinking. It's a lonely life. You end up still putting a good face on things and looking back and just wishing things could have been different. You feel a deep sense of loss because you know what you've missed. Yep, spend enough time doing that and you'll run out of time entirely. Ask me. I'm in my 70s - almost there.

I haven’t started therapy yet, but I sort of trained myself. Whenever I find myself having negative thoughts, whether it be my relationship or myself- I feel the urge to lash out. Instead of doing that, I make myself think about things that I enjoy. Like Halo, 40k, my dog, maybe what I want to cook for that night. I sort of psychologically drag myself away from emotional self-harm (and hurting others). If that makes sense.

I normally have 3 triggers so far: Injustice, ptsd kicking in the sense of total loss, seeing myself as a failure... I start to get flammable and a seething rage boils inside me, rage towards me and everything else... I start being passive aggressive and then I start to feel the urge to rage quit, to destroy it all, to burn it all down... it is intense, last for weeks... but I do my best to control the dragons, so that I don't hurt people I care about or take a reckless decision. This rage permeates my sleep and I can go to sleep and wake up with a lot of anger... a lot of energy bottled up.. I start feeling hate about everything that I like and tend to destroy it... delete books and notes out of anger, destroying any art piece that I have done by shredding it to pieces, etc. Any spark can cause an explosion. For me, loneliness is not a trigger but the feeling of loss (identity, material, personal...), that feeling of doom that all has been lost... it leaves my guts done for... stress tends to multiply the frequency of these triggers. But I hide it... it drains me... but it will start to be noticeable, specially the passive aggressive responses... the keen observation to every little thing that ppl do or say, etc...

Most of the time I think u are the only one that understands me, without making me like I'm a horrible person, wife and mother.

Here's my tip that might help (that has helped me): you don't have to immediately go all the way with the "act opposite" -thing. You can take it in steps. Like I used to eat really unhealthy if I felt stressed, so often now I ask myself: can you think of ANY food that would be tasty but not unhealthy? Usually when I take a moment and think, i can come up with something. Today I felt like eating those instant noodles, i was feeling a bit exhausted, but took a moment to think and chose whole-wheat noodles and shrimp. So ended up eating a warm meal that i cooked myself, that was tasty and not unhealthy. So you don't have to go from noodles to just eating salad, you can just start with changing up the noodles and go from fast food to cooking it yourself. :) Wow, I'm talking about these noodles a lot. My point is: when you make a change, take it easy, use your imagination and be gentle to yourself.

I was diagnosed with BPD recently. I finally can stop asking "What is wrong with me?". I can finally see why I am so NICE to the detriment of my own mental well being. I am too nice to people that treat me so terribly. I am too sensitive to people comments. I can now see why I would have outbursts only to follow with apologies... I am just coming out of a 4 day panic attack and I am hoping I can learn how to get some control back.

I recently introduced you, and the dbt workbook, to my son...who is facing legal consequences for a violent action. He hasn't been diagnosed with BPD, but can easily list off all the traits he has. I can't predict the future, but I can say that your vids draw him in, unlike other vids he has watched over the years, looking for answers. He is also really liking the workbook. It is also a great help that I, someone who loves someone with (maybe) BPD, also watches your vids. My son and I were talking the other day, and his body movements showed that he was becoming anxious. I said something like, "It looks like you may be feeling anxious. We should take a break. It can be three minutes, or a week, or a year...let's watch a funny vid". He just chuckled and relaxed pretty quickly. He had also watched that vid, lol. Thank you for helping those with mental conditions, and the ones who care about them.

I think a good way to lessen the damage of splits/the intensity of splits is when you start feeling that bubbling up sensation before splits, you usually dissociate, right? So try to use that to your advantage. If you were a person externally and sees this person who is filled with great frustration ,dissappointment and fear that's bubbling up into a fit of rage, wouldn't you want to step in and give that person some compassion? Then why wouldn't you deserve the same? Give yourself the compassion you want. You will most probably get the compassion externally too, later, but for now, for the moment you are in right now, give yourself that compassion, to get some bearing. Cause tbh if you aren't grounded enough, no external validation will be able to calm the storm, regardless of how much we wish it would, and hey I know it's hard but don't worry, it doesnt mean external validation will be close to ineffective, not at all! It will still be special and will still give you that warm feeling but in order for it to work you need to make sure you are more grounded and futher away from the split first. ❤ good luck, everyone!

If this video brings u to justified tears; I love u. If it doesn’t I love u too. 🥰#growth

This was exceptional!! Just yesterday I allowed my urges to overpower me. I have been helping others in little random ways of kindness. I’ve also manage my BPD with prayer and bible study workbooks. And I collect American Girl dolls and so I make sure I play each day. I enjoy anything outside because for me it’s hard to be intensely upset when you’re under the sky or near trees. I do hold guilt and shame when I slip into old habits. And lately I’ve been suffering with nightmares and then that leads me into depressive states for the next day. I’m facing empty nest with my daughter leaving for college, so being a widow I dread the lonely life. I get so weary but my faith and motivation do kick in so I can enjoy my life in the here and now. Thank you Dr Fox. I would travel to Texas for your therapy!!! You are tops!!!!

I giggled with the “talk greasy”. Currently in an emotional state and listening to your videos is really helping me cope.

I don’t want to control anymore I just want to take meds to do it for me. I’m tired!

Watching Amber Heard and Johnny Depps case unfold has triggered me. Bringing up all the times I've acted out having no control. Knowing people probably think I'm a horrible person. I'm praying for you whoever you are. My name is Tonia please pray for me too.

I feel like you are an old friend to me. TY for everything you doing as usual.. it just help me alot to understand myself threw those crisis

A lot of my anxiety comes from being dependent upon someone else because I became unable to care for myself and I chased everyone away

I feel so ashamed to have BPD. I acted out wrong in the past in certain situations that I am not proud of. I never thought I would end up doing it. I would love to had someone to be able to hear me out than yelling at me for how I reacted. Listen to my thoughts and feelings during the time than shaming me. It would help me out to feel heard of. I keep telling myself that I'm no monster, because I said sorry after for my behavior. Although, I was talking to people who are toxic by being manipulative, gaslighting, etc. I found myself acting out like them. I keep telling myself that I'm no monster. I am caring and I said nice things to those people who I reacted poorly. It's sad how people think I'm like a crazy person, etc. without understanding my emotions. Those certain situations, I hate talking about it, I always find myself crying. I don't feel proud of it. I don't want people to hold that "mistake" against me. I want to be viewed as someone is not "mental". When people tell me "I need help", It's not the best to tell someone that. I want to be normal. While at times, people can be toxic and say things towards the victim to try to lower their self-esteem to make them feel like they are doing things wrong when the toxic person done stuff wrong but pushing the blame onto the victim. I'm proud of myself today. I learned better ways to communicate. I still have work to do. My folks never taught me it. It can be very hard when the people that you are living with, it can be very stressful when my feelings feel invalidate a lot / it can feel like abuse at times. Somethings are wrong. As much I said, "I would like a minute to cool down." , it was overwhelming when 2 parents yelling at me, so I wanted them to stop as well. They didn't respect it. They continued to yell at me. It was getting overwhelming for me to be around. I explained to them "I need a safe place to express myself" in a calm voice. My mom said, "No excuses" "You're a baby" , My dad continues to yell at me. I did not want to be around it. I didn't say anything but start getting dressed to go outside. As I head to the door to the garage, as I opened it, my dad slammed it. I started crying. I yelled, LEAVE ME ALONE. I didn't do anything wrong. I just was standing there crying. My dad mentioned about "If mom and I called the cops, we would WIN." I was confused. Or like when the cop come out here to do a wellness check, when he left, my mom started to yell at me. I was not doing anything wrong. I was hoping she would be calm and try to understand how I feel. I feel it isn't right for a parent to yell at their child when they are depressed. It's hard when my mom explodes very easy and yells a lot. It can be very hard to feel supported when she goes off like that. Then when I was standing there and crying, she talked about calling the cops on me. I was like, "Why?" with tears running down my face. I wasn't acting out of control. I wanted her to stop yelling at me and shaming me. I don't mean to dump all this emotional stuff out. It's hurtful memories.

The problem with that is that I'm not good at anything even tho I have a lot of interests and then I try do to things and every time it turns out awful and I'm more depressed than before

Not self attacking is one of the hardest parts of this.

The part about assertiveness and appropriate responses to things really connected. My boss is a piece of work that I used to talk to my therapist about all the time. She used to make me so angry and want to quit and I felt miserable, but now suddenly I'm the only person that is calm and collected and assertive with her. It feels good to see this type of growth in myself. Once I gain confidence I'm my abilies and skills, I was able to view her behavior more objectively, and understand that her behavior was not a reflection of what I was doing wrong. I am able to look outside of myself so that I can advocate for myself.

Self reflection, self realization, self acceptance, self love, and self regulation are key components to becoming a truer self. Every human has room to grow, and the answers are within. Love u all

I got diagnosed 5 months ago after struggeling for almost 6 years. From 17 to 22 I used drugs to numb the pain I was feeling mentally. It was hard for me to just stay alive. I can say that after getting right medications and weekly visits to my psychiatrist I am finally feeling better. For the first time in forever I feel good about my life and future...

I hate having bpd, its like a tapeworm eating me from the inside and i just wish to bull it out of me and stomp it, it hurts so much to see your family and friends be happy and succed in life while you struggle to even get in a good mood before work, obviously im not jealous but i just wish i could be normal so i can be happy with them, so im not that one friend thats always depressed or that got smth bothering him because sure everyone is supportive at first but after a year people start questioning if youre even trying. Its humiliating to see how ppl around you take risks and struggle with real issues while you cant even get out of your house cause a small bad thing can lead to a whole breakdown. It feels like life is a videogame and everyone got a full functioning controller while you have to play it on a potato with wires. I just wish i could be normal so i can actually be there for people around be that need me but people stopped asking for help months ago because they realized i dont got the capacity to carry their burdens too. Meeting new people is awfull and scary because i have to be carefull that i dont make them into my favorite person or else i develop an unhealthy emotional dependency, its awfull. To have a person in front of you that you like, adore and feel save around but because i got BPD it have to restrain myself to not have too much fun with them its fucking absurd

I wish you could be my psychiatrist. I am having one of those terrifying BPD days and I always come here to get information, and you naturally give me comfort and sometimes a little side smile. Thank you for making your content, I truly believe you can save many lives - and already did.

Urges. Perfect word. I exercise every day to help stave off my urges to be self destructive.

What I hate the most is becoming 10000 percent interested in something and then, poof, not at all, feeling confident and insecure at the same time, assured and unassured at the same time, feeling like an emotional peacock, these are the things I hate the most. Oh, and I hate you, don't leave me, just like the book was called.

Nothing has given me more hope for recovery than you and your videos dr fox. Every time I have a wobble or am near relapse I watch your videos over again. I’ve just completed 2 years of DBT and ready to do it alone. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for all you do to dedicate yourself to helping us. I have your workbook too !

I don't have BPD, that I know, but I have issues with emotional reactivity, ego dystonia and rumination. I have gone through DBT and loved it. I tend to internalize direct and indirect criticism. I find that when I can view events from a detached (not disassociated) perspective, I can usually remain calm and controlled. Good quality sleep and reducing or diffusing conflicts are the best medicine for me. Staying calm and relaxed and short-circuiting self-doubt and rumination also helps. I know what it feels like to feel out of balance, but staying active and maintaining calmness and self-care work best for me. Walks in the park help too. Everything is an experience and an opportunity to learn. GL 🙏

My ex used to trigger me constantly.... If he wanted to set me fully off to self harm.. He would call me fat and mental. Its so hard to bite the tongue. I do love these videos.. So nice to not feel attacked for it. I know I've said some regretful things... Sorry is never enough. I will be watching and ordering the work book tomorrow. Day by day. I'm not this awful person.. I deserve some happiness.

Thank you so much for pointing out that you need to be assertive, and that BPD encourages maladaptive behavior. I feel like a lot of my outbursts come from not knowing how to assertively express my anger. The anger is not the problem (many times it is justified) the maladaptive behavior is, expressing that anger in unhealthy ways is.

Your videos and workbook have been helping me out. Thank you for your non-judgmental nature. Nobody would ever think I have BPD because a lot of mine is internal, but that doesn't mean it's any easier.

I haven't been formally diagnosed, but after watching your videos, I can honestly say I have BPD. I've always felt that there was something wrong with me. My anxiety and insomnia has always been uncontrolled even as a child. Then the most horrific thing happened to me that could happen to a parent. I lost my 15 year old twin son in an accident July 2020 and my world is turned upside down. I have so many triggers, it's a wonder I'm still alive. I need help . There's only so much running and exercise I can do.

I'm having a really rough go of it right now, I'm 37, been dealing with this my entire life. Your videos and how you speak about us truly helps me and I am grateful for that 🙏

4 out of 5 times you speak I feel your words so hard.extemely. Im just recently at 27 seeking help. I feel like you are saving me from suicide. I have an appointment with a psychiatrist soon. Your words help me understand I need this and am not just being silly.

I’d love to see a video about the positives of bpd especially for those who are pursuing treatment and DBT. I personally when am doing well with my mental health find that my bpd is something that helps me stay motivated, it rules my passion for the work that I do and my goals to help people in the end. I think with treatment bpd is my superpower. Sometimes people with bpd need hope that its not just an illness, that you can live with it and not just be ill.

Thank you for the tip about doing the opposite, but I would think I will have hard time with it because I tend to seek validation for my sadness or anger. It is like in that moment, validation is more important than control if that makes any sense.

You show such a refreshing compassion. It inspires me to have compassion for those diagnosed and/or exhibit traits (so…compassion for myself, too). If you ever feel like sharing-and if sharing doesn’t compromise boundaries-it’d be interesting to hear what inspires you to be generous to folks who go through this. Thank you for this helpful vid! :)

I don’t know if I have BPD? Or if I have quiet BPD ?? I never ever go into a rage, I’m never erratic. I cry sometimes and find it difficult to hold back my tears if something sets me off. My sister labeled me to have BPD, she believes I do. But I’m not sure? Wish someone would say yes you do or no you don’t! I want to be diagnosed. Then I would know for sure. I sometimes struggle with my sense of self. I experienced a volatile household growing up, where I learned to make myself small. Also I was in an emotionally abusive relationship. So I don’t know if it’s Complex PTSD? My sister said she thinks I have BPD because I recently started setting boundaries and started to stick up for myself before I would just go along with what people wanted to do, her included. I started cutting people out of my life that were toxic and I chose to live alone. Which really doesn’t go with the separation anxiety of BPD. I think I may have had that when I was younger in relationships, but not now also possibly codependency. I’ve read the list of 8/9 traits and I have 4 possibly 5. Maybe I am on the spectrum?? I am pretty hard on myself, very self critical sometimes, I occasionally go into depressive states and fall in to bad eating habits. I’ve never self harmed but I have had thoughts of suicide before (suicidal ideation’!) I think a lot of people experience that at some point in their life.

Doc Focs I always feel amazing after watching your videos. But then reality kicks in, I ruin my relationships, I end up alone, in trouble with the law for things I didn't do or people's misperception of me, and then become recluse and waste my youth and talent. I really feel like a lost case but I keep trying. If one day I end myself, at least you prolonged it for a day. And that's saying a lot, as nothing else helps. I despise myself, and I despise myself more when my own loved ones betray me. But it wouldn't be betrayal if it wasn't from loved ones. So if everyone's my enemy, there are no betrayals.

I so deeply appreciate this comment. I finally read something that I can say "took the words right out of my mouth." I also believe that the label made my life harder and seemed to make myself and others feel as to my behavior was justified. I wish I would have never gotten "diagnosed" .... Pretty sure it has made me worse. The fact that there is absolute no help videos that I can find is completely ridiculous because apparently they are extremely well educated on the triggers etc... I obviously already know my trigger seeing as how I searched for "help videos to deal with a BPD anger episode" .... Thanks for taking the time to comment!

He speaks on mental health subjects the best I have ever heard. He mentions emotions and details them more in-depth than most people

I have BPD and I would rate this questions in totally different ways depending on the day or even time of the day. In this moment, I'd rate 5 to all fuckinf symptoms were described. But, for example, 2 days ago I was feeling thrilled by little things and loving myself. Those moments I always ask myself "where were this person right here right now on that certain moment? Where did this self-love and positivity went blank and I just can't seem to find the files of my brain to remember all the good things, actually, any good thing ...

So much appreciation for yr videos, I score so highly and I'm really a mess but understanding myself and my maladaptive behaviours s is such a relief

I had to quit Facebook for a couple years due to impulse to spam extremely emotional and inappropriate things on my wall. I eventually recently made a new account and everything went well for a couple months. Now everybody has abandoned me again due to me going back to the old ways. When I feel suicidal I will go on a careless posting spree saying anything I possibly can to get attention without the police being called. But it only makes me feel more abandoned because nobody says anything. I'm glad to see that nobody interacts with the posts when I wake up because I usually don't feel the same the next day. But in the midst of it, I'm literally imagining committing suicide, ruminating and savoring the idea.

I rated everything a hard 10. Thank you for this video, I've been watching a lot of your stuff and learning more than I ever have about my BPD. I was told to my face that now that I'm becoming more self aware that I can control my emotions and impulsiveness and I'm pretty much healed. That stuff still happens all the time in my head and I don't always recognize it, ya know? They don't get that I have to be able to see it before I can deal with it. You're giving me the tools to learn how to and I thank you from the bottom of my heart. PS, I don't see a link to your community, I'd like to check it out.

I have BPD ( or I believe I do) and I have MS. So I have a lot of these feelings, because I physically can't do what I used to. But I learned to do somethings that I thought were too simple before. I learned that they aren't as simple as I thought. I learned to feel proud of myself for completing these task.

Thank you so much for making this video, Dr Daniel. I'm a teenager who has been working on my BPD for three years now, and one of the biggest challenges to my growth has been to overcome emotional instability because it has been interfering with my ability to stick to the healthy responses that I've been trying to implement for myself. Yesterday came a point where I was so hopeless towards my progress that I considered giving up. Your video helped me remember how to break down the complex states and make it mentally and emotionally manage my bpd. I'm really thankful for this video, it truly makes me feel understood as a person and gives hope for growth!

I just stumbled upon this channel today, after searching for an answer to the devastation and confusion from the recent end of a 2 year relationship with a Lady I love more than anything... I've been on this channel now for hours because it's finally given me a starting point and some explanation to what I'm enduring lately. Thank you!

Thank you. Much needed! So tired of being everyone's scapegoat because I have this diagnoise. The past 3 weeks I have been indated with insightful moments which are allowing me to build for the first time an authentic picture of my life. For me I have found that historically I was the one who has been manipulated by others. I truly belief that if I had had my diagnoise say in my twenties my whole life journey, experiences would be totally different. I have also learn that self compassion and the ability to put myself first now as really helped with my personal growth and understanding.

I'll be the one with the " this could not come at a better time" type of comment on this video. Thank you!

Still on a waiting list for BPD therapy, it's been a struggle as long as I can remember and I'm 43 now. Soaking in all information like a sponge but the execution still feels so far out of reach as I'm still not in control. The only thing different now, since my mother's passing, is that physically I've become more active, still depressed "hug my bed" days but got my home decluttered and making goals for a social life. Giving up is not an option anymore, life is too short and for the first time sometimes I actually give a damn about my life. Thank you!

you are literally saving so many people's lives with your video's. i'm in the middle of a deep spiral, and i've passively watched your video's before to validate my feelings of "i'm 30 and i haven't done anything, but look at all i've overcome" but right now i've gotten to a really good point in my life - but here i am, super depressed during a medication change and i'm feeling completely unhinged and psychosis is kicking in. Watching your video's during my medical leave is incredibly helpful. I've got a LITERAL team of doctors who work with me on my multiple co-mobid mental illnesses, and their not always around to answer the phone at 10pm when i'm feeling that surge of self-preservation! Thank you Dr Fox, you're invaluable to the community you've built on youtube, there are many like me who appreciate your breakdowns and make it feel like there's light at the end of the very very long dark, dank tunnel. x

I'm so thankful for your videos. I was diagnosed fairly young and its been hard to accept my diagnosis because of the stigma. Your videos have helped me understand why I react in the ways I do, and now work to better them.

I really appreciate your videos, unlike some others ive seen. I feel adequately informed and you really provide me with hope and a sense of understanding. Thank you so much 💜 We arent lost causes, we just have more room for emotional growth and self awareness than some other people.

I’m 25 years old and I got diagnosed just over a year ago. It has been extremely difficult and painful and like a lot of people have commented: the worst part is not being understood by anyone. This video really helped me. Also, reading other people’s comments made me feel like I’m not the only one in the world with this illness.

Dissociation has been my biggest problem. Strong desire to check out - inability to stop it.

Excited for this video, could really use it right now

Oh man, the meltdowns. They tend to kick off a pretty bad shame spiral. So, I see now, how these can be like dominoes that cascade.

I love his speech pattern. It makes it user friendly for the lay person.

No one ever in my life understood me as well as you did right now, thank you sooo much ❤❤❤

you do not understand how grateful i am for this human.

Thank you Dr. Fox. I really have loved your videos this far & it is so hard when people define me as my disorder rather than seeing me for me.

Dr. Fox, Ive learned an incredible new coping skill. It’s nearly impossible to be sad while you’re yodeling, and it’s a great way to release pent up energy. I highly recommend this to others Thank you, your videos also help me cope so much ❤️

wonderful explanation that gives us the power of understanding ourselves!

You're the only person on youtube that i feel actually gets it, the rest are monopolising off the unfortunate trendiness of bpd, so thank you 😁

Thank you so much. You are doing a great service to the BPD community

I've been kinda binging these videos the last few days, preparing for an upcoming therapy session. (I haven't been to therapy for a little while because of an issue we've been having but I can finally go back.). Anyway, this one is quite insightful. I approached the assessment from a past lens and a current one. There has been a marked improvement over the last five or six years. This gives me hope for facing whatever it is bubbling below the surface right now, giving me a bit of anxiety. Thank you again for all these videos. It's helping a lot.

Thank you for your channel! I’m in recovery and I appreciate your educational tools and kindness.

I really appreciate your videos. I thought I was Bi-Polar for the longest time before I ever heard of BPD. I unfortunately have some covert narcissistic behavior that overlaps but I thought I could change on my own until my recent relationship and life fell apart. I really do appreciate that you offer up this information and the de-stigmatization of those dealing with these disorders.

Thank you. Your content has been helping me so much and today gave me the courage to reach out to my therapist and request more information on distress tolerance. I want to make changes for the good and start living outside of my mind for once.

I don’t know man … but i had an awful experience the past 30 mins and a crisis and felt like everything was falling apart , but i just watched this video and it went away. Your channel is really the best (for bpd) and i think the way you explain everything makes it that way. It just resonates with me. Great stuff :D

Thank you so much for making all of these videos Dr. Fox. The correct words to express the amount of gratitude I have for you haven't been invented yet that I'm aware of. You give me hope when it's been in seriously short supply for awhile. You're saving lives and relationships, Sir. Lots of them.

Dr. Fox, it's nice and informative. Kindly make a video on building skills to control interpersonal hypersensitivity. Thanks❤😊

Thank you so much for devoting your career to helping bpd people. Your videos have helped me so much. I’ve sent several videos to my counselor. Im trying to work through your workbook. Thank you again Dr. Fox. I pray that God blesses you.

I'm just starting to manage my BPD in a way but haven't come across where it's a big trigger. The thing I hate about it is that I now realized how self-sabotaging it is even when it comes to little things. I forgot who I was before I was told I had BPD and now I focus on it so much that it isn't healthy. I have a long journey ahead of me but video like this shows me that I am NOT my BPD and that it cannot control me unless I let it.

I feel so exposed while watching your videos. I need to accept this. It's hard to accept that I all my behaviors came from something I was completely unaware of.

It's easy! Just be different than you are! Just be happy! That's what this explanation sounds like to my brain.

Dr. Fox I can’t tell you how grateful I am for your channel. I was diagnosed with BPD over a year ago and it’s given me so much clarity for the different struggles I’ve had throughout my life. Your videos have helped me understand so much about myself. I purchased your BPD workbook on Amazon and it’s been an amazing tool for me. Thank you 💙

Thank you for your compassion ♥️

Thank you for your great videos, I' am an arabic person suffering from a border line person very close to me and I'am member in many borderline groupe the members usually ask for a professional source of information about the disorder I usally suggest your channel and if you please allow arabic caption for you videos this may help thousads of arabic people suffering from the disorder

This popped on my feed at a time I needed it. I have BPD in remission. I’ve been off of antidepressants for over a year now, and I have no regrets. I have comorbid ADHD and have been trying to wean off those meds too, but without the meds I reach burnout a lot faster which triggers my BPD. Still, I’ve had fewer episodes and they are less intense than before. I only take the ADHD meds when I really need to, so I don’t reach that burnout. Thank you for this video. I like learning more about myself so I can find ways to effectively deal with these problems. During an episode, I would think the opposite and just want to tear myself apart. It’s a fight between those two parts of my brain. In the spiritual sense, my consciousness and my ego.

You are incredibly inspirational!! i had decided owning that i am broken & helpless in my efforts for change, regardless of my endless hours of self searching & affirmations for change & countless hours of anger management, i gave up & adopted self isolation as a means to keep myself from having opportunities to hurt myself & others. Then..,TAH-DAH i stumbled onto your channel. NO WORDS no words adequately describe my gratitude for your work. Thank You is too generic for what i feel. ✨🧙‍♂️✨

This video couldn't have surfaced at a better time for me-I've been wrestling with some stuff lately, and stumbling upon this feels like fate. Massive thanks for putting this out there, even if I know it's an older upload.

This channel, and your book should be used by all therapist who treat BPD. So many seem to know so little and your techniques work as does your acceptance of individuals who suffer from it and who crave understanding and acceptance.

I think you've done more for me in this 15 minute video than various therapist have been able to over the course of several years. (And I'm not even diagnosed with bpd, but maybe I should've been?) My Score: 3-4, 5, 4, 4 and 3, 5, 3-4, 4

I love you! I just received your workbook on Bpd and Today I finished the first two chapters. I feel so excited to learn more about how my brain works! Thank you 😊

By the end of this video Dr. Fox helped me feel better. My partner was having a BPD episode and today i just wasn’t feeling as strong as I usually do, work has stressed me out recently and i wasn’t my best self to help my partner work through an episode. I always try my best to be there for her but if im being honest there will be somedays where I myself just am not feeling like my best self, i will fall short of being there for her in the way that she needs me.

I was feeling really anxious so i started to watch this video and now I feel calm thanks

Your like a bestie for us with personality disorders or the person we needed . I can’t tell you how to w much your work book helped /helps much Respect ❤

I love your videos. I appreciate all you do. You make it clear and understandable. You describe exactly how I feel and I use these to help give clarity to those closest to me.

Your videos have helped me very much, understand myself and my BPD. Good mental health is not readily available here and I have to depend on my own research majority of them time which my therapist dismisses. Thank you for giving me hope, that it won't always be this bad, it does get better

Thank you for your videos. At age 70 and after 5 long term relationships that failed due to the BPD relationship cycle your videos help me feel that even at this late stage in life I might be able to quit beating myself up and achieve control over my crazy reactions to my emotions. I was misdiagnosed as manic or bipolar for 40 years and all the meds they gave me never helped me with my issues. Learning my correct diagnosis has freed me from my confusion, but left me feeling hopeless as to what to do about it. Your videos give me hope. You take this personality disorder seriously and I certainly understand and appreciate all the thought and energy you put into helping us with this life destroying condition.