What was your most embarrassing speaking experience? Public speaking? Work presentation? Large crowd? Let me know in the comments below, I'd love to hear from you!
@patriciangotie69824 жыл бұрын
Thank you Dr. Grace Lee for helping me out in being articulate. My experience happened when I was in front of a large crowd and I noticed the mic wasnt working so I had to raise my voice so that it could be heard by the large crowd of people. I forgot my words and couldn't listen to what I was speaking I ended up just repeating myself and the shame of walking back to my seat was just really embarrassing. My speech affected me because my mentors left to other groups.
@nassermj76714 жыл бұрын
STAGE FRIGHT! This has ideas :-)
@ritanyarku1323 жыл бұрын
I really really need coaching Dr. Lee. This is affecting my work
@DrGraceLee3 жыл бұрын
@@ritanyarku132 Hi Rita, what kind of coaching are you looking for? I'm trying to understand what's going on that's affecting your work?
@leewahl25893 жыл бұрын
All three...
@renedperez4 жыл бұрын
I notice when I am explaing something, I lose myself in finding the perfect word and in doing so, I lose my concentration.
@keirankainth4 жыл бұрын
I do this. Trying to overcome it
@shashank43964 жыл бұрын
Did you overcome this? If yes then plz post it here as well. Bcuz I'm having the same problem.
@shashank43964 жыл бұрын
@@keirankainth Did you overcome this? If yes then plz post it here as well. Bcuz I'm having the same problem.
@DrGraceLee4 жыл бұрын
Hi Rene, you are losing your concentration because you are trying to find the perfect word. Don't seek for perfection. The purpose of speaking is to communicate. Say what you want to say and open some space for clarification
I’m a lot more articulate in written form than verbal - if you were to compare the two, you would think there were two different people 😩
@JDG-hq8gy3 жыл бұрын
As are most people. Written gives you plenty of time to plan what you’re going to say, it also obviates the risk of mispronunciation and muddling your words. Think about what you’re going to say, how it’ll start and how it’ll end. Do this one or two planned sentences at a time with a direction in mind. Avoid filler words and tautology, consider whether or not what you’re about to say has already been said. My Dad taught me this and it’s always stuck, the guy speaks so clearly sometimes like he is reading from some essay.
@NaturalMystic713 жыл бұрын
Same here lol!
@preciousjones3 жыл бұрын
when you’re terrible at both 😭 i’m struggling but imma be okay 😩
@ninjabreadgirl3 жыл бұрын
Exact same problem here
@Music-cj8de3 жыл бұрын
@@ninjabreadgirl key is to read aloud
@robertogerardi70404 жыл бұрын
1. (0:40) Expand Your Vocabulary, 2. (1:42) Practice Improvising, 3. (2:53) Pause, 4. (3:32) Tone and Accentuation, 5. (6:02) Listen to Yourself, 6. (6:51) Portray Confidence & Self-Assurance, 7. (7:24) Use Variation, 8. (8:19) Understand Yourself.
@theveefit4 жыл бұрын
Roberto Gerardi thanks friend 😍
@_zxzaliah39184 жыл бұрын
:P
@_zxzaliah39184 жыл бұрын
K thx
@siriusra4 жыл бұрын
Thank you
@ticketforlife21034 жыл бұрын
How to expand your vocabulary ?
@bagabones55803 жыл бұрын
Honestly it’s my anxiety that messes everything up...I’d be so articulate if I was confident
@jazminpineda11732 жыл бұрын
Same
@Spooky4762 жыл бұрын
When I drink I’m super articulate and confident 😅 Sober oh lord I can’t speak to save my life😂😂
@mygodisawesome61212 жыл бұрын
@@Spooky476 I thought I was the only one
@eminemarmy56562 жыл бұрын
Is that you will? 😂
@adrukova14072 жыл бұрын
@@mygodisawesome6121 haha, same. 😁 I always feel like the only one who can't speak.
@tanu56833 жыл бұрын
"People don`t see you through their eyes, they see you through your eyes."
@prix2053 жыл бұрын
Yes for me too
@greenlimabean3 жыл бұрын
I don't think so
@ghafoorhussain983 жыл бұрын
Trust, I had to pause and rewind to hear that again
@ortiz99963 жыл бұрын
@@ghafoorhussain98 it makes a lot of sense right. Had to put my drink down
@Njae20002 жыл бұрын
This isn't always true.
@thomasjohansson5748 Жыл бұрын
I think the most important thing - in order to be able to speak well, convincingly and in an articulated way about something - is to actually know about the subject matter, having studied it well and having thought much about it.
@ohyes966 Жыл бұрын
This goes with my idea of the more you know (about the subject) the less you fear (when speaking about it.) I always asked my paramedic instructor how he was so confident doing an assessment in front of 100 people and his answer was because he’s done more assessments than the whole room combined. Knew the material he was teaching so well to the point it was nearly impossible for him to get nervous or brain fart.
@kimberlyalexander7905 Жыл бұрын
That's exactly how I feel about it. The more I know about a subject the more confident I am speaking on it.
@sanaatouzani308511 ай бұрын
Absolutely, understanding the subject will make things much easier and the articulation will be much easier to express.
@kevygranero9 ай бұрын
Fully agree. The more you read about the subject matter, the more you know it and deep dive into it, the easier it is to articulate. All knowledge accumulated will be spell out naturally if you really understood when studying it.
@Samantha-bc2uu3 жыл бұрын
my problem is that i always second guess what comes out of my mouth, then i end up fumbling.
@Carlygrrl3 жыл бұрын
I get that too! It helped me to start recording Facebook live sessions. Or maybe an improv class might help you?
@firsttimestorytelling50813 жыл бұрын
It's easy to change that if you are willing to put the effort into it.
@moname563 жыл бұрын
Join Toastmasters. Unfortunately most of it is on Zoom now but it’s a GREAT and INEXPENSIVE way to become a better speaker.
@maristella2873 жыл бұрын
That is what I did when I got anxious, as in the example I mentioned in my new post..
@hiddengemz9553 жыл бұрын
Yes , overthinking makes my stutter 😭
@chellanmusic97913 жыл бұрын
1. Expand your vocabulary 2. practice improvising 3. Pause 4. Tone and accentuation 5. Listen to yourself 6. confidence and self assurance 7. Use variation 8. Understand yourself
@CandaceLeAnne2 жыл бұрын
I learned about the value of using silence instead of filler words. Also voice tone changes to accentuate certain parts of a sentence, which I do instinctively. But to be able to use tone change strategically without coming off sarcastic or mocking is a game changer in being more articulate.
@carolweathersbee86273 жыл бұрын
“People don’t see you thru their eyes, they see you thru your eyes.” Very powerful statement.
@DrGraceLee3 жыл бұрын
Definitely! Powerful and empowering
@brownhairedgirl233 жыл бұрын
Okay, this information, video and presenter are SO underrated. This needs to be shared with students and young adults all around the world.
@DrGraceLee3 жыл бұрын
You are welcome to share with those you need to hear it. Sharing is caring, and I appreciate you!
@swarnapuri113 жыл бұрын
I agree, lot of useful tips and strategies! Dr. Grace got a new subscriber!
@adrukova14072 жыл бұрын
Not just students n young adults, but anyone who needs it.🤘
@ashbash17002 жыл бұрын
@@DrGraceLee you got a new subscriber over here 👋.
@catherinechu51110 ай бұрын
@@DrGraceLee0:01 0:01 0:01
@manifestmyreality20253 жыл бұрын
I have to stop saying 'you know what I'm saying" lol
@DrGraceLee3 жыл бұрын
The best way to do that is to have confidence that you have something important to say and that your listeners want to hear it.
@manifestmyreality20253 жыл бұрын
@Retta L I catch myself saying it now and stop myself now after reading what Dr. Grace told me about it. It's so true, I wasn't taking myself seriously when I spoke to others and now I am :)
@virtuosa693 жыл бұрын
Um is my painfully worn out pause word.. I was so surprised to listen to Annika Harris, who's so intelligent, use "um" constantly, like I do, as a pause word. I have dyslexia so I think my mind defaults to pause word mode to try and sort out my thoughts during those split seconds.
@saritadiaz66343 жыл бұрын
Me too
@firsttimestorytelling50813 жыл бұрын
I'm guilty of that too and I do a lot of videos, podcasts, and speaking engagements. We are constant works in progress!!
@elleshock45713 жыл бұрын
The idea that people see you through your eyes and not theirs is very insightful. Basically, you have yhe power and not them. Thank you.
@firsttimestorytelling50813 жыл бұрын
Through the power of storytelling you can ensure people enter your world/life. After a conversation, I don't want people to walk away with an opinion of me but rather an understanding of who I am!
@rebecastevens88923 жыл бұрын
When I am in high level meetings, I feel that I get flustered and super self conscious. So it’s not even about sounding more articulate but about speaking, period. It’s very frustrating because I’m very knowledgeable in my field, but cannot translate my knowledge into a conversation.
@firsttimestorytelling50813 жыл бұрын
Why do you think that is? Are you self-conscious about what you have to say? Do you fear judgment or people being critical? Do you work in a supportive environment?
@Rohitjaen3 жыл бұрын
I feel exactly the same. Self conscious gets the better of me, then i start to fumble, statter and what not 😢
@Tamarahope773 жыл бұрын
Turning your attention to the external is a skill everyone can get better at.
@DrGraceLee3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for your vulnerable share. I recently wrote an article about articulating your knowledge into a conversation. It might help. You can read it here: www.masteryinsights.com/how-to-articulate-thoughts-into-words
@blerinapsota24473 жыл бұрын
Do mock runs of your talk in front of a mirror. It helps tremendously and boost self confidence. Before the meeting, go to a secluded place take deep breaths, place your arms up (sounds weird but there’s a biological connection there), and say affirmative statements like: I will do great, I’m a great communicator, it will be a wonderful speech.
@twiglet22143 жыл бұрын
I belonged to a spiritual community for quite a few years and found speaking to a small group of people could be daunting. However as i practised it more and more it became easier to the point where i looked forward to speaking confidenly and with ease to the group, and others.Listening is also a very important communication skill and my friend once said " end a statement by asking the person, so what do you think " ? In Finland there is a saying often used with children which says " listen - or your tongue will make you deaf " !
@kellycotterell10 ай бұрын
Very good tips, thank you. I’m a Christian & what you said about people seeing you through your own eyes reminds me of a scripture in the Bible In proverbs 7 “as a man thinks in his heart so is he” What we project is definitely being seen & heard a lot more clearly than we may have thought. Thanks again
@npursuit3 жыл бұрын
I appreciate this video. I've learned that I speak in a monotone. For the longest I've felt that no one REALLY wanted to hear what I had to say. I don't remember when it happened, but somewhere along the line, I began speaking very tentatively and timidly, and it became a self fulfilling prophecy... people stopped listening. So, then I started trying to speak quickly and as concisely as possible to get my point across before they lost interest or cut me off. I don't know how to turn this around. I would love to have others lend me THEIR ears every now and then.
@sophienelson16802 жыл бұрын
So I don't know much, still learning on being articulate but I'll share what I've learned so far. So first you have to be interested in what YOU have to say. The speaker here says people see you as you see yourself. So you need to hold space for yourself to speak. Listen to yourself talk, like literally pay attention to yourself. I'm and empath and I'm usually centred around the other person's reaction to my words and this gives me more anxiety so Instead of focusing on the other person and their receptiveness, let's pay that attention to ourselves like with your ears listen to your voice, feel the words coming out of your mouth. Be with your self instead of the other person. Believe in your self, change this narrative you have right now. If you keep believing no one pays attention to you, no one will. Change your self limiting beliefs. Affirmations works wonders for this, you can affirm "I speak eloquenly", "I am being paid attention to". Personalize it
@tamershanklin44623 жыл бұрын
I learned all pauses isn't awkward. And I know that my social anxiety can be worked on.
@artstartswar9803 жыл бұрын
Jordan Peterson is the king of making those pauses work lol
@thiswasmytumblr3 жыл бұрын
This suit is black pause not
@Raccon_Detective.2 жыл бұрын
I know how to beat social anxiety.
@mygodisawesome61212 жыл бұрын
@@Raccon_Detective. How?
@EndlessTravels2 жыл бұрын
I use pausing heavily in seduction and work meetings all the time
@hamedshah23634 жыл бұрын
As a 17 year old bangladeshi, I find it very helpful. This is one of the best tutorials I have ever watched. Thank you very much for teaching us for free
@DrGraceLee4 жыл бұрын
You're welcome and thank you for your honest feedback
@peacesamuel76983 жыл бұрын
The word "articulate" is a word i have been looking for all my life.
@Jackgritty283 жыл бұрын
Did you marry articulate,I blame her parent for naming her that way⏳
@Jackgritty283 жыл бұрын
Your wife should have been called articulate,it shouldn't have taken all your life💥
@amyalexandria4443 жыл бұрын
I love “people don’t see you through their eyes they see you through your eyes”
@sharonbyars89103 жыл бұрын
At 77 years of age I still struggle with talking too much. I’m confined to my own home now and find that I enjoy the silence. My soul is at peace when I’m alone...ALONE not lonely👵🏻
@DrGraceLee3 жыл бұрын
I'm grateful that you can find enjoyment in silence. Great distinction between alone and lonely.
@donnatate63272 жыл бұрын
Amen Sharon!
@evelynedwin2472 Жыл бұрын
❤️🙏
@teamworkmakesthedreamwork_62114 жыл бұрын
I can be articulate when talking to people I know but stutter when there are other people. :( . An introvert here.
@gideonfillag15754 жыл бұрын
Hehe.. I feel you.. Me either.. 😕
@jennvares90984 жыл бұрын
Me too, its like my brain goes blank:l
@slavgugu15414 жыл бұрын
Same problem here
@shanshan66534 жыл бұрын
Same
@emkwame89744 жыл бұрын
Tori Smith hahah mine is just the opposite 😂
@sheddspeaks93284 жыл бұрын
Videos I research during quarantine. As a college graduate, I find myself not knowing how to be articulate when going to interviews. I like these tips, I'll practice during quarantine lol
@DrGraceLee4 жыл бұрын
Awesome and I am cheering you on!
@youarebeautiful27804 жыл бұрын
Me too😊
@SUNNYLEO243 жыл бұрын
Still practicing 6 months after QUARANTINE
@rayparker593 жыл бұрын
I came to realize I stutter so much for two reasons. 1) I hated being interrupted because it would make me forget what I was saying and feel embarrassed. 2) because of that hatred of being interrupted, I would think of my words so fast my mouth couldn't catch up so I stuttered even more.
@oompalompai23 жыл бұрын
You and I both!
@glamourisbest3 жыл бұрын
This is my life in a nutshell!
@aeiou94233 жыл бұрын
Introvert here and i really find it hard to speak in front of people. it's like everything i wanted to say will just dissapear because of anxiety😭
@lisaharris83423 жыл бұрын
I feel you on that one.
@Graymanone3 жыл бұрын
One of the best investments I made was a book called "Verbal advantage" The problem is most people speak at a 7th grade level. I noticed I speak much better when I speak slow in fact think first then speck.
@justinocastillo58083 жыл бұрын
I slow it down a bit and express myself just fine..
@keithpressley16423 жыл бұрын
Kind of like how you did here?
@amyleerue71313 жыл бұрын
Know your audience. An average easy conversation in public may be 7th grade (the research I have seen was 8th) but if you are speaking to professionals that level is probably higher. Listen to your audience; how do they speak do they use a lot of tech lingo or do they speak plain English, your goal is to communicate to them. Even a group of academics will speak at a lower level than they write. Why? Because the goal is to ensure that they are understood.
@salvadorayala38604 жыл бұрын
Spanish was my first language . I do tend to stutter when I speak English . I did find reading out loud to help a lot !
@nassermj76714 жыл бұрын
Muy bien idea amigo.
@DrGraceLee4 жыл бұрын
I hear you. Be persistent in pursuing your desired outcomes for speaking. Once something works for you, double down on that while trying to make tweaks to improve upon your process. It is absolutely possible to speak a non native language as fluently as your native language.
@renedperez4 жыл бұрын
What helps me, is speaking a little slower to understand the next word I'm going to use.
@oooladiesfirst3 жыл бұрын
I always enjoy listening to articulate people. I listen to talk radio to help me learn and incorporate descriptive words in my vocabulary.
@hollandgem23 жыл бұрын
Don’t worry about it because those of us who can only speak English and on some days we don’t even do that very well! Did you ever consider the fact that you’re doing better than most people on most days! Be gentle with yourself and patience will pay off! 😁
@garybraches99363 жыл бұрын
" people don't see you through their eyes, they see you through YOUR eyes"- very insightful and brilliant. Many of these tips are applicable to the written word as well. Nicely done. I just subscribed.
@fabianmoreno3030 Жыл бұрын
You taught me that larger vocabulary doesn’t mean they will understand, rather choose descriptive words that express your emotions or paint a clearer picture of what you mean to convey. Great point thanks
@DrGraceLee Жыл бұрын
Awesome takeaway! Thanks for sharing, Fabian.
@mohaghighat4 жыл бұрын
#1: Expand your vocabulary (descriptive words) #2: Practice improvising (take an improv or acting class ) #3: Pause (before and after the points that you're trying to emphasize ) #4: Pay attention to your tone and accentuation #5: Listen to yourself #6: Portray confidence and self-assurance #7: Use variation (length of the sentences, speed, volume ) #8: Understand yourself
@DrGraceLee4 жыл бұрын
Awesome summary, Mohammad!
@nassermj76714 жыл бұрын
Thanks Brother - you put it best.
@kcchhan45583 жыл бұрын
Thanks for the synopsis, Mohammad!
@paulflaubert73553 жыл бұрын
9. Buy a parrot from oxford, england
@paulflaubert73553 жыл бұрын
Smoke a joint and wear sunglasses
@linaemam81114 жыл бұрын
What an amazing video. Becoming more articulate in English is one of my goals for 2020 so I am very happy to stumble upon your channel. To memorize and summerize what you mentioned in the video here are the 8 tips: #1. Expand your vocabulary. #2. Practice improvising. #3. Pause instead of using filler words. #4. Pay attention to your tone & accentuation #5. Listen to yourself. Try to record yourself. #6. Portray confidence & self-assurance. #7. Use variation. Vary between long & short sentences or high and low volume. #8. Understand yourself. Find the true reason why you lack articulation.
@DrGraceLee4 жыл бұрын
That's a great summary, Lina! Glad to have you here!
@nosheenkhan58092 жыл бұрын
Thank you for the summary. I am taking a screenshot to go over it again
@tomatlanta2665 Жыл бұрын
Self Assurance and Confidence People don’t see you thru their eyes They see you through YOUR eyes Well said
@Hello-Stoiko Жыл бұрын
For someone who gets anxious talking to people, this was really helpful!
@chrismaxx85285 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much! I feel I’ve had problems articulating my thoughts and I’ve told my friends how I’ve been feeling. I’m definitely going to try these. Thank you so much for taking the time to help me and others.
@DrGraceLee5 жыл бұрын
Awesome, Chris, and thank you for your comments. I'm sending you positive vibes!
@andrewizumi36764 жыл бұрын
Improvising! I love this secret to being more articulate. This is something that I had to work on just like you did with auditioning for that musical. It was tough for me, but over many years of sales presentations or just pitching my friends where to go on the weekend get-away helped me get comfortable with thinking 'on the spot' Thank you for sharing.
@tamijxo3 жыл бұрын
I have such an issue articulating my speech daily! My son is 14 and he is so good at articulating how he’s feeling and what he’s thinking. These are good pointers. Thank you.
@KLB1218 Жыл бұрын
I feel you! I have such a hard time articulating. I think it’s a perfection thing. Rather just saying exactly how you’re feeling
@kimace78543 жыл бұрын
I was once working as a Lyft driver and the woman in the back seat was asking me questions about my goals and I said “more better” and she corrected me and said I could use some speech help and that she was a speech teacher something like that, I felt so embarrassed but she told me to listen to podcast with people who spoke well as I did Lyft. It still bugs me to this day and has made me self conscious but I know it something that I needed to hear. Where I want to go in life is going to require that I articulate my self in a certain manner in order to be taken seriously. So here I am... this is one of my goals for 2021.
@spyddar3 жыл бұрын
Same here! Speaking well is such a challenge for some of us. But I think you’re in good company! Ha!
@jimkline7465 жыл бұрын
You did a good job. Being articulate and making your points is extremely important. People in general find these qualities very likeable and will implement them in their own lives.
@AdaKhinTHorn4 жыл бұрын
Thanks for the excellent tips, Grace. Please expand on these two questions. 1."Remembering to pause" is a struggle when I'm already anxious about communicating to a group of people, large or small, to feel all those people looking at me. 2.How do I practice reducing self consciousness?
@DrGraceLee4 жыл бұрын
Thanks for watching. For your first, if you're already anxious, don't worry too much about whether or not you're pausing. Instead get to the root of why you're anxious. Anxiety is the feeling that comes from doubt. When we doubt, we are believing in the outcomes we don't desire. Hence doubt is a belief. For your second question, focus on THEM. When we are self conscious, we are making it about us. Make it about them instead, remembering that you gave something important to say that will change them in a positive way. Then deliver your message with an intent to bring about the outcomes they want.
@esthellaejimchukwu66643 жыл бұрын
This is so valuable. I struggle a lot with articulating my thoughts. It's funny and annoying because I write pretty well. When i write, the words just flow but when it comes to speaking, I mumble. I usually wonder if that's a thing; that a person can write very well but not eloquent in speech. Going through this comment section, I just discovered it's actually a thing. Thank you, Dr. I'll build on this secrets.
@bblaam273 жыл бұрын
My whole life I've had problems articulating my thoughts and feelings I've tried many things I'm so glad I came across this video I believe this is what I've been missing thank you so much I will try these things! 🤗
@nitanui73023 жыл бұрын
I liked this so much that i watched it twice. Im a stutterer and ive always avoided speaking throughout my teenage life and im 20 now. I really tried reading a book out loud and realized how awful i sound. Everything was messed up and stumbled over my words and didn't know how to bring my words out. But im glad i found you.. thank you.
@DrGraceLee3 жыл бұрын
I'm so grateful that you appreciated my content. I hope that my words here and in my other videos continue to speak volumes to you, inspire you, and help you to get to where you want to be.
@rico.rebenga3 жыл бұрын
1. Expand Your Vocabulary 0:40 2. Practice Improvising 1:42 3. Pause 2:53 4. Tone and Accentuation 3:32 5. Listen to Yourself 6:02 6. Portray Confidence & Self-Assurance 6:51 7. Use Variation 7:24 8. Understand Yourself 8:19
@pragooutube2 жыл бұрын
"People don't see you through THEIR eyes... they see you through YOUR eyes..." This is profound, it's why people disregard, disrespect and otherwise pick on me! I do it to myself, so inadvertently I was giving them the signal to do the same! 😩
@chelseadavid40983 жыл бұрын
I learnt 1. Less is more, keep sentences short 2. Be confident while speaking, as if you're an expert in the subject you are speaking 3. While speaking consider your listener to be 10 feet away and project your voice in that same way Thank you👍
@mrmartinez4188 Жыл бұрын
I totally agree that articulation is so essential. In my past I was a wedding disc jockey so I learn how to speak in the public. I also dove into Toastmasters to hone my skills as speaking. Now as a musician it helps me to captivate my audience by being able to communicate effectively. It’s quite funny when I meet people and they tell me how I communicate so well. I feel even though somebody does not speak in public it is essential to be able to speak properly. Not only shows your intelligence but adds to ones confidence. Thanks
@kimtran6143 Жыл бұрын
I’m learning to be more articulate with my words, slow down when I speak, pause when necessary, and be more expressive. Most of my life, I’ve spoken in monotone unless I am interested in a certain topic. I feel awkward looking into people’s eyes because one of my eyes had started to become weaker, a bit lazy.
@zahavasantos9023 жыл бұрын
I am a confident speaker! I have social anxiety and get red, sweaty palms, ligh headed, my thick accent comes out (nothing wrong w an accent but I just don’t like how I don’t have control) when I speak in large groups. I hope to be able to express myself clear and confident one day :)
@1rocknroy3 жыл бұрын
I recommend finding every opportunity you can to give talks in public. Practice makes perfect. Dale Carnegie has immortal suggestions for public speakers such as "earn the right to speak on your topic" and "know 30 times as much as you plan to say."
@debnelson81273 жыл бұрын
Video recording yourself provides some BRUTAL insights on how others see you and then you can practice and improve.
@kamilbanks88953 жыл бұрын
Honestly, thank you for including that little slip up in the end, I sometimes think that I should be perfect, so I think about saying the perfect thing, and then I slip up. I realize that I'm usually the most nervous in front of my mom but when I'm in front of a large group of strangers I dont really care anymore..
@DrGraceLee3 жыл бұрын
I'm glad that my video has given you some realization. Nobody "should" be perfect. Perfect is an unrealistic expectation of what is achievable. Instead, aim for progress.
@QUEZQUEZQUEZ3 жыл бұрын
What I learned is to take deep breathes and time when speaking
@RachelOaktree3 жыл бұрын
I find that my need to use filler words stems from how it seems that if I allow a moment of not speaking, the people or person I’m talking to will instantly interject and then I lose focus!
@latinalopez23852 жыл бұрын
I have anxiety. I consider myself an Ambivert, because I am shy and quiet around new ppl, and jolly and non-akward around those I know won't judge me. I started a new job, as an HR Generalist, and boy oh boy I am being pushed out of my comfort zone. Whenever I speak in public my hands become so cold that I tend to wear pants with pockets to keep them inside. Some days I arrive to work and my boss goes "hey btw, you are taking over today's meeting." I spent like 1/2 an hour in the bathroom throwing cold water on my face and practicing breathing exercises and then I turned to KZfaq for some pointers such as "Pause" and "confident" which I learned from this video.. My point? I am thankful for these videos; we have to push ourselves. We can all be better. Have a blessed day everyone!
@TIGABE3B9 ай бұрын
I"m from Indonesia, everyday I always watching your video dr Grace Lee. I get much knowledge from you. Thank"s a lot dr. Lee.
@curiosity19 Жыл бұрын
"Being articulate means expressing your perspectives clearly. So it's not about expanding your vocabulary to words that are harder, but more to focus on words that express your emotions. So focus on descriptive words, especially words that help express how you feel." .... Yes =) Thank you =)
@charlii9956 Жыл бұрын
I've always struggled to express myself and how I feel verbally. Communication and language is important for someone like me who's an artist and entrepreneur. I want to seek support within my industry and support from others and I feel how I articulate my words would help people understand exactly how I feel especially when I would be speaking at their level. I get so discouraged when I feel something and I practice saying it in my mind, and the second I rely on this feeling and express it, it always come out wrong. Which leaves me in a position where I'm always wrong, or I'm speaking something that no one can understand so they walk away, and I'm left unsatisfied, or unheard. 😢 I'm not as educated as everyone else, but my prior knowledge on certain topics are superb. But I guess, at my age, I still have yet to find the right crew, to thoroughly and confidently speak my mind, and getting that understanding in return. I look forward to growing and lifting my voice, and becoming more confident.
@juliek.2400 Жыл бұрын
No. 1: read!!! Reading builds vocabulary, but more importantly (and often overseen by many), reading helps our brains to learn the logic in thinking. If you can think clearly and logically (in a way that other people understand and/or follows), your vocal cord usually follows without any resistance or doubt.
@yolandapadilla78203 жыл бұрын
So much value on every point. Perfectly presented. Perfect example of “practice what you preach.”
@Shouzeegestof3 жыл бұрын
My biggest problem is a physical one: When it's my turn to speak in a meeting in front of a good number of people, my throat starts to choke up to the point where I feel I have to push my voice through my throat; I feel my heart pumping hard in my chest and my head starts to turn red prior to even uttering a word. The most annoying part is that the words I do manage to say out loud do make sense, I just can't present them right.
@sarangnagbhidkar49563 жыл бұрын
I feel same everytime
@peggybaggenstoss3817 Жыл бұрын
I enjoyed this video. In 2019 I went to Guatemala on a Medical Mission. After I returned a ladies club I was a member of ask me to share my experiences. With organized notes I messed up so bad and a friend that had gone on the same trip finished the presentation. I vowed then I was overcoming this drama. Since I have moved to an area where I am “unknown “ I’ve found I’ve become more comfortable speaking in public. Thanks for sharing this information.
@TheEmotionalArcheologist3 жыл бұрын
I found this to be, quite useful, Dr Lee and would humbly like to add, that it really helps to be comfortable in our own skin, so to speak. I have always been a shy speaker, however, one can never know their true potential, until they get out of their comfort zone and take a risk, and as you said about your experience, this can really boost a persons confidence, when speaking in general. Not everyone's a pedant and I don't feel they need to be, it's just knowing your audience and harnessing the passion you have for any topic and the rest will flow. We all have this ability and once we release to the world, our personal gifts and talents, we all shine. This comes down to self-worth, in a world, where we are told, that we are not smart enough to speak our truth, comparing ourselves to other people. I will incorporate your tips to better convey what I mean in a more concise manner. Grateful for your wisdom on this topic.
@chai_lattes3 жыл бұрын
8:31 that clip is wild I appreciate the information laid out in this video, but I really appreciate the more holistic feel and presentation of it. Anyone can be articulate. It's a skill that's within our power to change and improve upon. I'm going to look for ways to practice these tips with self-compassion and self-acceptance of the fact that I'm always learning and growing.
@shardescott64063 жыл бұрын
This was very insightful. Thank you for presenting this information in a practical manner. 😊
@soxpuff Жыл бұрын
As an english speaker, you explanation on tone, just taught me the importance of tone and accentuation, but also the challenge of an ESL speaker,
@karinberryman2009 Жыл бұрын
‘Becoming more articulate’ or ‘Acquiring an incredible Comprehensive capacity’. Because in expanding one’s vocabulary one gets a great facility for grasping a hefty proportion of anyone’s conversation (unless it diverges into technical paths).
@EliteStudio Жыл бұрын
Solid video.
@DrGraceLee Жыл бұрын
I appreciate the comment!
@amorenita47683 жыл бұрын
I'm the type of person who will re record the voicemails that I leave... over and over. It's got to be just right. 😌🤭
@amorenita47683 жыл бұрын
@Galaxia X maybe I will. Thanks. ☺️
@cheleche Жыл бұрын
I loved this video. I once thought to be more articulate I should look into buying a vocabulary book or a dictionary. After watching this I realize that’s not the case. I found that recording myself while I speak made me more aware of my tone and fluctuations, and honestly the lack of confidence. I will definitely be working on my projection, expression when it comes to my tone, emphasis in words, and pauses instead of “um” and “like”. Thank you for the great video!
@hassanchop36223 жыл бұрын
It's impressive how well you've learnt the finer details of English, especially being your second language. I feel so uneducated but I'm grateful you uploaded this.
@brendameadowswallaceAEIU3 жыл бұрын
Excellent, Thank You! It is an ongoing process. We should view this regularly.
@andrewyang19933 жыл бұрын
This was amazing. I always had trouble figuring out how to articulate properly where people feel engaged in what I say, and I think these tips may be the solutions to most of the problems I have. Subscribed to you Dr. Grace Lee, I am excited to see more of your content! Thank you and cheers!
@forceforgood46693 жыл бұрын
Very helpful tips. I appreciate that you waste no time in getting straight to the subject matter. Thank you.
@shynessbreakthroughcommuni8263 жыл бұрын
I like the tip on improvising - that the purpose is NOT the exact words but simply to express the meaning
@DrGraceLee3 жыл бұрын
You got it! :)
@peterharris62233 жыл бұрын
tone is amazing
@djbioxic40234 жыл бұрын
For me, when I'm talking, I try to find the right word, then I can't figure out the word to use, which makes me self-conscious and therefore worse off than I was prior.
@Enceladus...3 жыл бұрын
It might be nerdy, but reading a thesaurus and writing down the words that intrigue you could possibly help.
@Driveright6983 жыл бұрын
Same here.
@djbioxic40233 жыл бұрын
@@Enceladus... Reading more in general will help too. I don't read that much. I'm getting better though, trying to find books that interest me and that aren't textbooks (I like reading books that teach me something). The issue with textbooks is it's not really "enjoyable" compared to reading a casual book.
@buyimncube25883 жыл бұрын
Me too I too suffer from that I forget the words I want to use
@claudiacarrillo98139 ай бұрын
Thank you so much Dr.Grace Lee for your content, I just found it randomly! Im an English teacher in Latinamerica and this kind of info is just priceless!
@shaunasea60723 жыл бұрын
What has helped me the most is reading more often. When I read, I come across words that I know, but don't often use, but once they are in front of me again, I find myself using them in my speech. Mostly they are words that others know, but if not, it's an opportunity for them to learn.
@micah112296 Жыл бұрын
Thank you! This really helped out a lot! As a bilingual person myself, it has been challenging to express myself through another language besides my native tongue, but will do my best to follow what you mentioned in this video & hopefully it turns out great. ✨️
@DrGraceLee Жыл бұрын
You're welcome, Micah! I'm happy to have you here on my channel. Love your motivation!
@beatricehsu7915 Жыл бұрын
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@Chadilacn4 жыл бұрын
Great video! I never imagined I would need lessons on articulation. However as I have expanded my knowledge through becoming an Expert in Mixed Research and Analysis, speaking is far different than writing. In writing to inform and provide, the context must be exact, which requires exact words which most people have no clue about their proper use. So when I go to speak on a pod cast like the other day, I can't find the most commonly used words and maintain my emotion. It just doesnt work because as I flip through the mental dictionary, that in itself requires in most cases. A more matter of fact and serious frame or mind, then you have to juggle that and what is suppose to be a simple reply becomes a politicians answer if not answering in regards to then verbally trying navigate into the proper context and expression. It is very embarrassing. So I'm glad people have made these videos. Thanks again.
@lovelyana40033 жыл бұрын
This is one of my biggest struggle, being articulate amd Eloquent. Thank you for this video, wow! Super helpful!
@Diamondcjireh4Rever Жыл бұрын
Hello, my name is Diamond, I just want to say, thank you for making this video, I been having trouble articulating my words, and when I did a google search you happened to pop up, so I watch 9:25 of the video and I feel I have a better understanding on how to become more articulate when it comes to talking to people. Thank u again, and have a great night.
@jacobyengland88663 жыл бұрын
Definitely appreciate your thoughts and advice! I'll be using these tips, especially pausing before and after making key points!👍🏾
@joyanderson86463 жыл бұрын
I used the Word Power/Smart books!!! Its simple to use works🤗🤗🤗
@skyfall30711 ай бұрын
What i learn 1. Expand your vocab 2. Use Variation of tonality 3. Use good body language 4. Understand yourself 5. Practice outside of your comfort zone
@denisegesilva3082 Жыл бұрын
There is no quick solution to becoming articulate. You would have to read more, write more, speak more, and talk more with other people over a period of years. If you had parents who read to you every night and bought you lots of books, that's already a huge headstart.
@AnnShiArt3 жыл бұрын
I felt like I took a tour of her neighborhood.
@nene.portier40343 жыл бұрын
😂
@DeGoya3 жыл бұрын
@@nene.portier4034 Looks like Vancouver
@007lluvia3 жыл бұрын
😂
@lifewitholga_3 жыл бұрын
😂
@jannetteperson85343 жыл бұрын
I noticed I feel more comfortable reading in front of an audience rather than speaking off the cuff. I'm a person of few words and can find it hard to explain myself. However, I find it easier for me to write Thank than speak it's like the words get stick in my head when I'm trying to articulate to some one, but I can write it... Go figure. Thank you for saying we don't have to learn hard words, just descriptive ones, this is going to help me a lot.
@mosarkar20973 жыл бұрын
You have just described me.
@CecePiwo Жыл бұрын
Great tips! Especially love the quote - "people don't see you through their eyes, people see you through your eyes"
@joltorongo86994 жыл бұрын
Articulate : Able to fluently express your thoughts and ideas in a distinct, pronounced with clarity, organized and presented effectively in a well constructed, meaningful and coherent way so that people can understand exactly what you are trying to say . Or, as she puts it, its 'nothing more than accurate communication'.
@DrGraceLee4 жыл бұрын
Well said! I appreciate you!
@joltorongo86994 жыл бұрын
@@DrGraceLee Thank you. Those are excellent tips. I enjoyed it very much. Its funny to think how much more there is really to it than simply utter a sentence.
@voldy35654 жыл бұрын
I am terrible at being articulate. I am never able to explain, that is put into words what I'm thinking. In fact, I am even struggling to write this comment.
@DrGraceLee3 жыл бұрын
Be careful when you say "I am terrible at....". Word are very powerful. Instead, figure out who you want to be and take consistent action to get there. Learn what you need to learn, work with a coach or mentor, empower your expectations.
@skyeseas3 жыл бұрын
you are your harshest critic. the word never is powerful- I don’t know you but surely at LEAST sometimes you succeed in expressing yourself. I highly recommend Michael Sealey’s youtube channel. Dr. Grace, you’re a blessing!! first time here; new subscriber.
@tonia74673 жыл бұрын
@Voldy356, I think you did a good job here. You are better than you think 👍😊
@blissofsolitude93923 жыл бұрын
Oh same here even i face this fear.
@rrn32633 жыл бұрын
I understand ! I tend to find myself stumble when feeling insecure knowing the other person is more worldly, educated & I pick up on their facial expressions /body language. I thought about all this energy I put into thinking how foolish I sounded and of course the insecurity is painful. So, I find myself becoming more silent and listen rather than respond. It has improved my listening skills & improved my responses specifically to the subject matter.
@giana64323 жыл бұрын
This video has been an I opener. I lost my voice as a child due to abuse. I find that to be the root. I was assaulted, court was extended, However that day at the stand I became very fearful Without words. I will definitely use the skills that you have taught in your video. I am in tears. You don’t know how much this means to me. Thank you. 🙏🏽
@DrGraceLee3 жыл бұрын
Here's sending you my best wishes that you may discover your true voice, and that your voice will change the lives of all those who come across your path. May words never cause you fear, but instead give you power, courage, and influence. Thank you for your thoughtful comment
@coppersense9993 жыл бұрын
6:11 "Chances are if you feel a certain way about yourself then other people feel the same way too." I love the locus of control which is internal and self defined!
@DrGraceLee3 жыл бұрын
Having a definite internal locus of control is where it's at for building confidence through certainty
@bellefairydust3 жыл бұрын
I cringe at my own speaking voice sometimes 😖
@hlumelomajali91033 жыл бұрын
I was about to say this.
@anamariacusguen70813 жыл бұрын
Me too!!
@firsttimestorytelling50813 жыл бұрын
It sounds different to you than it does to others! And we are way more critical of ourselves.
@lisse163 жыл бұрын
Ugh same here!
@aveywilliams77613 жыл бұрын
Read out loud, when your alone.
@onerider8083 жыл бұрын
Perhaps more helpful than expressing emotions would be the ability to express coherent thoughts and ideas.
@jomcenroe75383 жыл бұрын
Great , great video!!
@robertcaldwell791810 ай бұрын
YOU ABSOLUTELY ROCK and I am so impressed that I have to listen to your video at least an couple of times from Kentucky
@drjackiesteel4 жыл бұрын
Thank you for the video. That was cute seeing you stand on the play structure at the end.
@DrGraceLee4 жыл бұрын
Thank you for your comment, I guess I like to keep it interesting as much as possible!