What was your most embarrassing speaking experience? Public speaking? Work presentation? Large crowd? Let me know in the comments below, I'd love to hear from you!

I notice when I am explaing something, I lose myself in finding the perfect word and in doing so, I lose my concentration.

Read continuously, habitually, constantly, frequently. Diversify your reading material. Bottom line. Read, read, read.

0:41 Secret#1 - Expand your vocabulary 1:42 Secret#2 - Practice improvising 2:53 Secret#3 - Pause 3:32 Secret#4 - Tone Accentuation 6:03 Secret#5 - Listen to yourself 6:52 Secret#6 - Confidence & Self-Assurance 7:25 Secret#7 - Variation 8:20 Secret#8 - Understand Yourself

I’m a lot more articulate in written form than verbal - if you were to compare the two, you would think there were two different people 😩

1. (0:40) Expand Your Vocabulary, 2. (1:42) Practice Improvising, 3. (2:53) Pause, 4. (3:32) Tone and Accentuation, 5. (6:02) Listen to Yourself, 6. (6:51) Portray Confidence & Self-Assurance, 7. (7:24) Use Variation, 8. (8:19) Understand Yourself.

Honestly it’s my anxiety that messes everything up...I’d be so articulate if I was confident

"People don`t see you through their eyes, they see you through your eyes."

I think the most important thing - in order to be able to speak well, convincingly and in an articulated way about something - is to actually know about the subject matter, having studied it well and having thought much about it.

my problem is that i always second guess what comes out of my mouth, then i end up fumbling.

1. Expand your vocabulary 2. practice improvising 3. Pause 4. Tone and accentuation 5. Listen to yourself 6. confidence and self assurance 7. Use variation 8. Understand yourself

I learned about the value of using silence instead of filler words. Also voice tone changes to accentuate certain parts of a sentence, which I do instinctively. But to be able to use tone change strategically without coming off sarcastic or mocking is a game changer in being more articulate.

“People don’t see you thru their eyes, they see you thru your eyes.” Very powerful statement.

Okay, this information, video and presenter are SO underrated. This needs to be shared with students and young adults all around the world.

I have to stop saying 'you know what I'm saying" lol

The idea that people see you through your eyes and not theirs is very insightful. Basically, you have yhe power and not them. Thank you.

When I am in high level meetings, I feel that I get flustered and super self conscious. So it’s not even about sounding more articulate but about speaking, period. It’s very frustrating because I’m very knowledgeable in my field, but cannot translate my knowledge into a conversation.

I belonged to a spiritual community for quite a few years and found speaking to a small group of people could be daunting. However as i practised it more and more it became easier to the point where i looked forward to speaking confidenly and with ease to the group, and others.Listening is also a very important communication skill and my friend once said " end a statement by asking the person, so what do you think " ? In Finland there is a saying often used with children which says " listen - or your tongue will make you deaf " !

Very good tips, thank you. I’m a Christian & what you said about people seeing you through your own eyes reminds me of a scripture in the Bible In proverbs 7 “as a man thinks in his heart so is he” What we project is definitely being seen & heard a lot more clearly than we may have thought. Thanks again

I appreciate this video. I've learned that I speak in a monotone. For the longest I've felt that no one REALLY wanted to hear what I had to say. I don't remember when it happened, but somewhere along the line, I began speaking very tentatively and timidly, and it became a self fulfilling prophecy... people stopped listening. So, then I started trying to speak quickly and as concisely as possible to get my point across before they lost interest or cut me off. I don't know how to turn this around. I would love to have others lend me THEIR ears every now and then.

I learned all pauses isn't awkward. And I know that my social anxiety can be worked on.

As a 17 year old bangladeshi, I find it very helpful. This is one of the best tutorials I have ever watched. Thank you very much for teaching us for free

The word "articulate" is a word i have been looking for all my life.

I love “people don’t see you through their eyes they see you through your eyes”

At 77 years of age I still struggle with talking too much. I’m confined to my own home now and find that I enjoy the silence. My soul is at peace when I’m alone...ALONE not lonely👵🏻

I can be articulate when talking to people I know but stutter when there are other people. :( . An introvert here.

Videos I research during quarantine. As a college graduate, I find myself not knowing how to be articulate when going to interviews. I like these tips, I'll practice during quarantine lol

I came to realize I stutter so much for two reasons. 1) I hated being interrupted because it would make me forget what I was saying and feel embarrassed. 2) because of that hatred of being interrupted, I would think of my words so fast my mouth couldn't catch up so I stuttered even more.

Introvert here and i really find it hard to speak in front of people. it's like everything i wanted to say will just dissapear because of anxiety😭

One of the best investments I made was a book called "Verbal advantage" The problem is most people speak at a 7th grade level. I noticed I speak much better when I speak slow in fact think first then speck.

Spanish was my first language . I do tend to stutter when I speak English . I did find reading out loud to help a lot !

" people don't see you through their eyes, they see you through YOUR eyes"- very insightful and brilliant. Many of these tips are applicable to the written word as well. Nicely done. I just subscribed.

You taught me that larger vocabulary doesn’t mean they will understand, rather choose descriptive words that express your emotions or paint a clearer picture of what you mean to convey. Great point thanks

#1: Expand your vocabulary (descriptive words) #2: Practice improvising (take an improv or acting class ) #3: Pause (before and after the points that you're trying to emphasize ) #4: Pay attention to your tone and accentuation #5: Listen to yourself #6: Portray confidence and self-assurance #7: Use variation (length of the sentences, speed, volume ) #8: Understand yourself

What an amazing video. Becoming more articulate in English is one of my goals for 2020 so I am very happy to stumble upon your channel. To memorize and summerize what you mentioned in the video here are the 8 tips: #1. Expand your vocabulary. #2. Practice improvising. #3. Pause instead of using filler words. #4. Pay attention to your tone & accentuation #5. Listen to yourself. Try to record yourself. #6. Portray confidence & self-assurance. #7. Use variation. Vary between long & short sentences or high and low volume. #8. Understand yourself. Find the true reason why you lack articulation.

Self Assurance and Confidence People don’t see you thru their eyes They see you through YOUR eyes Well said

For someone who gets anxious talking to people, this was really helpful!

Thank you so much! I feel I’ve had problems articulating my thoughts and I’ve told my friends how I’ve been feeling. I’m definitely going to try these. Thank you so much for taking the time to help me and others.

Improvising! I love this secret to being more articulate. This is something that I had to work on just like you did with auditioning for that musical. It was tough for me, but over many years of sales presentations or just pitching my friends where to go on the weekend get-away helped me get comfortable with thinking 'on the spot' Thank you for sharing.

I have such an issue articulating my speech daily! My son is 14 and he is so good at articulating how he’s feeling and what he’s thinking. These are good pointers. Thank you.

I was once working as a Lyft driver and the woman in the back seat was asking me questions about my goals and I said “more better” and she corrected me and said I could use some speech help and that she was a speech teacher something like that, I felt so embarrassed but she told me to listen to podcast with people who spoke well as I did Lyft. It still bugs me to this day and has made me self conscious but I know it something that I needed to hear. Where I want to go in life is going to require that I articulate my self in a certain manner in order to be taken seriously. So here I am... this is one of my goals for 2021.

You did a good job. Being articulate and making your points is extremely important. People in general find these qualities very likeable and will implement them in their own lives.

Thanks for the excellent tips, Grace. Please expand on these two questions. 1."Remembering to pause" is a struggle when I'm already anxious about communicating to a group of people, large or small, to feel all those people looking at me. 2.How do I practice reducing self consciousness?

This is so valuable. I struggle a lot with articulating my thoughts. It's funny and annoying because I write pretty well. When i write, the words just flow but when it comes to speaking, I mumble. I usually wonder if that's a thing; that a person can write very well but not eloquent in speech. Going through this comment section, I just discovered it's actually a thing. Thank you, Dr. I'll build on this secrets.

My whole life I've had problems articulating my thoughts and feelings I've tried many things I'm so glad I came across this video I believe this is what I've been missing thank you so much I will try these things! 🤗

I liked this so much that i watched it twice. Im a stutterer and ive always avoided speaking throughout my teenage life and im 20 now. I really tried reading a book out loud and realized how awful i sound. Everything was messed up and stumbled over my words and didn't know how to bring my words out. But im glad i found you.. thank you.

1. Expand Your Vocabulary 0:40 2. Practice Improvising 1:42 3. Pause 2:53 4. Tone and Accentuation 3:32 5. Listen to Yourself 6:02 6. Portray Confidence & Self-Assurance 6:51 7. Use Variation 7:24 8. Understand Yourself 8:19

"People don't see you through THEIR eyes... they see you through YOUR eyes..." This is profound, it's why people disregard, disrespect and otherwise pick on me! I do it to myself, so inadvertently I was giving them the signal to do the same! 😩

I learnt 1. Less is more, keep sentences short 2. Be confident while speaking, as if you're an expert in the subject you are speaking 3. While speaking consider your listener to be 10 feet away and project your voice in that same way Thank you👍

I totally agree that articulation is so essential. In my past I was a wedding disc jockey so I learn how to speak in the public. I also dove into Toastmasters to hone my skills as speaking. Now as a musician it helps me to captivate my audience by being able to communicate effectively. It’s quite funny when I meet people and they tell me how I communicate so well. I feel even though somebody does not speak in public it is essential to be able to speak properly. Not only shows your intelligence but adds to ones confidence. Thanks

I am a confident speaker! I have social anxiety and get red, sweaty palms, ligh headed, my thick accent comes out (nothing wrong w an accent but I just don’t like how I don’t have control) when I speak in large groups. I hope to be able to express myself clear and confident one day :)

Video recording yourself provides some BRUTAL insights on how others see you and then you can practice and improve.

Honestly, thank you for including that little slip up in the end, I sometimes think that I should be perfect, so I think about saying the perfect thing, and then I slip up. I realize that I'm usually the most nervous in front of my mom but when I'm in front of a large group of strangers I dont really care anymore..

What I learned is to take deep breathes and time when speaking

I find that my need to use filler words stems from how it seems that if I allow a moment of not speaking, the people or person I’m talking to will instantly interject and then I lose focus!

I have anxiety. I consider myself an Ambivert, because I am shy and quiet around new ppl, and jolly and non-akward around those I know won't judge me. I started a new job, as an HR Generalist, and boy oh boy I am being pushed out of my comfort zone. Whenever I speak in public my hands become so cold that I tend to wear pants with pockets to keep them inside. Some days I arrive to work and my boss goes "hey btw, you are taking over today's meeting." I spent like 1/2 an hour in the bathroom throwing cold water on my face and practicing breathing exercises and then I turned to KZfaq for some pointers such as "Pause" and "confident" which I learned from this video.. My point? I am thankful for these videos; we have to push ourselves. We can all be better. Have a blessed day everyone!

I"m from Indonesia, everyday I always watching your video dr Grace Lee. I get much knowledge from you. Thank"s a lot dr. Lee.

"Being articulate means expressing your perspectives clearly. So it's not about expanding your vocabulary to words that are harder, but more to focus on words that express your emotions. So focus on descriptive words, especially words that help express how you feel." .... Yes =) Thank you =)

I've always struggled to express myself and how I feel verbally. Communication and language is important for someone like me who's an artist and entrepreneur. I want to seek support within my industry and support from others and I feel how I articulate my words would help people understand exactly how I feel especially when I would be speaking at their level. I get so discouraged when I feel something and I practice saying it in my mind, and the second I rely on this feeling and express it, it always come out wrong. Which leaves me in a position where I'm always wrong, or I'm speaking something that no one can understand so they walk away, and I'm left unsatisfied, or unheard. 😢 I'm not as educated as everyone else, but my prior knowledge on certain topics are superb. But I guess, at my age, I still have yet to find the right crew, to thoroughly and confidently speak my mind, and getting that understanding in return. I look forward to growing and lifting my voice, and becoming more confident.

No. 1: read!!! Reading builds vocabulary, but more importantly (and often overseen by many), reading helps our brains to learn the logic in thinking. If you can think clearly and logically (in a way that other people understand and/or follows), your vocal cord usually follows without any resistance or doubt.

So much value on every point. Perfectly presented. Perfect example of “practice what you preach.”

My biggest problem is a physical one: When it's my turn to speak in a meeting in front of a good number of people, my throat starts to choke up to the point where I feel I have to push my voice through my throat; I feel my heart pumping hard in my chest and my head starts to turn red prior to even uttering a word. The most annoying part is that the words I do manage to say out loud do make sense, I just can't present them right.

I enjoyed this video. In 2019 I went to Guatemala on a Medical Mission. After I returned a ladies club I was a member of ask me to share my experiences. With organized notes I messed up so bad and a friend that had gone on the same trip finished the presentation. I vowed then I was overcoming this drama. Since I have moved to an area where I am “unknown “ I’ve found I’ve become more comfortable speaking in public. Thanks for sharing this information.

I found this to be, quite useful, Dr Lee and would humbly like to add, that it really helps to be comfortable in our own skin, so to speak. I have always been a shy speaker, however, one can never know their true potential, until they get out of their comfort zone and take a risk, and as you said about your experience, this can really boost a persons confidence, when speaking in general. Not everyone's a pedant and I don't feel they need to be, it's just knowing your audience and harnessing the passion you have for any topic and the rest will flow. We all have this ability and once we release to the world, our personal gifts and talents, we all shine. This comes down to self-worth, in a world, where we are told, that we are not smart enough to speak our truth, comparing ourselves to other people. I will incorporate your tips to better convey what I mean in a more concise manner. Grateful for your wisdom on this topic.

8:31 that clip is wild I appreciate the information laid out in this video, but I really appreciate the more holistic feel and presentation of it. Anyone can be articulate. It's a skill that's within our power to change and improve upon. I'm going to look for ways to practice these tips with self-compassion and self-acceptance of the fact that I'm always learning and growing.

This was very insightful. Thank you for presenting this information in a practical manner. 😊

As an english speaker, you explanation on tone, just taught me the importance of tone and accentuation, but also the challenge of an ESL speaker,

‘Becoming more articulate’ or ‘Acquiring an incredible Comprehensive capacity’. Because in expanding one’s vocabulary one gets a great facility for grasping a hefty proportion of anyone’s conversation (unless it diverges into technical paths).

Solid video.

I'm the type of person who will re record the voicemails that I leave... over and over. It's got to be just right. 😌🤭

I loved this video. I once thought to be more articulate I should look into buying a vocabulary book or a dictionary. After watching this I realize that’s not the case. I found that recording myself while I speak made me more aware of my tone and fluctuations, and honestly the lack of confidence. I will definitely be working on my projection, expression when it comes to my tone, emphasis in words, and pauses instead of “um” and “like”. Thank you for the great video!

It's impressive how well you've learnt the finer details of English, especially being your second language. I feel so uneducated but I'm grateful you uploaded this.

Excellent, Thank You! It is an ongoing process. We should view this regularly.

This was amazing. I always had trouble figuring out how to articulate properly where people feel engaged in what I say, and I think these tips may be the solutions to most of the problems I have. Subscribed to you Dr. Grace Lee, I am excited to see more of your content! Thank you and cheers!

Very helpful tips. I appreciate that you waste no time in getting straight to the subject matter. Thank you.

I like the tip on improvising - that the purpose is NOT the exact words but simply to express the meaning

tone is amazing

For me, when I'm talking, I try to find the right word, then I can't figure out the word to use, which makes me self-conscious and therefore worse off than I was prior.

Thank you so much Dr.Grace Lee for your content, I just found it randomly! Im an English teacher in Latinamerica and this kind of info is just priceless!

What has helped me the most is reading more often. When I read, I come across words that I know, but don't often use, but once they are in front of me again, I find myself using them in my speech. Mostly they are words that others know, but if not, it's an opportunity for them to learn.

Thank you! This really helped out a lot! As a bilingual person myself, it has been challenging to express myself through another language besides my native tongue, but will do my best to follow what you mentioned in this video & hopefully it turns out great. ✨️

Great video! I never imagined I would need lessons on articulation. However as I have expanded my knowledge through becoming an Expert in Mixed Research and Analysis, speaking is far different than writing. In writing to inform and provide, the context must be exact, which requires exact words which most people have no clue about their proper use. So when I go to speak on a pod cast like the other day, I can't find the most commonly used words and maintain my emotion. It just doesnt work because as I flip through the mental dictionary, that in itself requires in most cases. A more matter of fact and serious frame or mind, then you have to juggle that and what is suppose to be a simple reply becomes a politicians answer if not answering in regards to then verbally trying navigate into the proper context and expression. It is very embarrassing. So I'm glad people have made these videos. Thanks again.

This is one of my biggest struggle, being articulate amd Eloquent. Thank you for this video, wow! Super helpful!

Hello, my name is Diamond, I just want to say, thank you for making this video, I been having trouble articulating my words, and when I did a google search you happened to pop up, so I watch 9:25 of the video and I feel I have a better understanding on how to become more articulate when it comes to talking to people. Thank u again, and have a great night.

Definitely appreciate your thoughts and advice! I'll be using these tips, especially pausing before and after making key points!👍🏾

I used the Word Power/Smart books!!! Its simple to use works🤗🤗🤗

What i learn 1. Expand your vocab 2. Use Variation of tonality 3. Use good body language 4. Understand yourself 5. Practice outside of your comfort zone

There is no quick solution to becoming articulate. You would have to read more, write more, speak more, and talk more with other people over a period of years. If you had parents who read to you every night and bought you lots of books, that's already a huge headstart.

I felt like I took a tour of her neighborhood.

I noticed I feel more comfortable reading in front of an audience rather than speaking off the cuff. I'm a person of few words and can find it hard to explain myself. However, I find it easier for me to write Thank than speak it's like the words get stick in my head when I'm trying to articulate to some one, but I can write it... Go figure. Thank you for saying we don't have to learn hard words, just descriptive ones, this is going to help me a lot.

Great tips! Especially love the quote - "people don't see you through their eyes, people see you through your eyes"

Articulate : Able to fluently express your thoughts and ideas in a distinct, pronounced with clarity, organized and presented effectively in a well constructed, meaningful and coherent way so that people can understand exactly what you are trying to say . Or, as she puts it, its 'nothing more than accurate communication'.

I am terrible at being articulate. I am never able to explain, that is put into words what I'm thinking. In fact, I am even struggling to write this comment.

This video has been an I opener. I lost my voice as a child due to abuse. I find that to be the root. I was assaulted, court was extended, However that day at the stand I became very fearful Without words. I will definitely use the skills that you have taught in your video. I am in tears. You don’t know how much this means to me. Thank you. 🙏🏽

6:11 "Chances are if you feel a certain way about yourself then other people feel the same way too." I love the locus of control which is internal and self defined!

I cringe at my own speaking voice sometimes 😖

Perhaps more helpful than expressing emotions would be the ability to express coherent thoughts and ideas.

Great , great video!!

YOU ABSOLUTELY ROCK and I am so impressed that I have to listen to your video at least an couple of times from Kentucky

Thank you for the video. That was cute seeing you stand on the play structure at the end.