What Does It Mean To Project? A Psychological Defense Mechanism

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Today's video answers the question:
How do I stop projecting when the person is reinforcing some of my insecurities with insults? I give examples of projecting your own thoughts onto others. I define the unconscious vs subconscious. The answer is you have to identify your negative self-talk and work through it.
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@AeriaGl0ris 3 жыл бұрын

Yes, please talk more about defense mechanisms!

@LUrzidil-rn7nd 3 жыл бұрын

make them to get activated at people, with your vomiting of, attacking with lies :D :D :D

@alinathewarrior 3 жыл бұрын

The thing is without considering the genetics, no one is born with self hatred, negative self talk or mental illnesses. If someone keeps destroying how you perceive yourself verbally all the time, in time, it's easy to believe these words instead of what you knew was true. So it's all in her head but others were in the first place.

@hunnybadger442 3 жыл бұрын

Mental illnesses do have a genetic base... Im adopted and had a great childhood... But Im still bipolar and im pretty sure my bio mom was bipolar and im pretty sure my daughter's bipolar... There are mental illnesses you can gain through trauma... But some of the really difficult one's that are life long you're definitely born with... There's no triggering event... They just seek up one you... But they do drop hints if you can spot them.. But having creeps spout a bunch of b.s. at you does not help either... Especially if you're already vulnerable...

@alinathewarrior 3 жыл бұрын

@@hunnybadger442 That's so true. 👏🏻

@sekenamcmurren2217 3 жыл бұрын

@@hunnybadger442 Facts!🗣

@daniela9488 3 жыл бұрын

Elizabeth Moore yes! There’s even some hypothesis that even trauma can be inherited because of how it might affect gene expression.

@SarahDunlap 3 жыл бұрын

@@daniela9488 Agreed. If you've ever read or watched Sapolsky, he talks about (so many things) but the seconds, minutes, hours, days, and years before a decision is made and all that happens in the brain before that point. We come to find out very little is actually decided by "us" in that moment.

@Azure888 3 жыл бұрын

Thinking of projection as a defense mechanism was revolutionary for me, and really helped me deal with a family member that really does it A LOT.

@mainhanelima5544 Жыл бұрын

The key to healing from personality disorder is to be aware of the self unconscious thought that we all have. Meditation was a amazing tool to become self aware of these negative thoughts that make us trigger and go through another circle of paranoia episode.

@Hyderagean 3 жыл бұрын

I really hope the people in your life tell you every single day how much they love you, because you're a freakin blessing to the world. Thank you so much for working so hard and continuing to work hard both on and behind the scenes every single day. You're a real hero.

@wildewildestrawberries 3 жыл бұрын

She's brilliant. She takes huge ideas and makes it digestible to the rest of us.

@MaddesG1 3 жыл бұрын

People with mental illness can often psychologically project when they feel stuck or are suffering in their mental health and having a crisis. I've seen this happen a lot. I had took my own advice in the comments after ruminating about issues for years. I have decided to finally get real help for my neurological disorder.

@Sharon-sw7mr 3 жыл бұрын

People without mental illness project. It's an individual thing, not a mental illness thing.

@MaddesG1 3 жыл бұрын

@@Sharon-sw7mr You are right, anyone can really. I'm just saying from the perspective of someone who is mentally ill when it becomes unmanagible you can often project or blame others for stuff uk. It can be hard to be totally accountable for your actions anr faults when you deal with any sort of thing really not just from a mental illness. Its human nature when stressed to outright dismiss something if it pertains negatively to you or you make the negative association uk. Everyone can find themselvez projecting but few will actually call out their own bs to try and learn not to default to that uk.

@toothpastehombre 3 жыл бұрын

I can't say enough how helpful your clear, concise and compassionate content has been in (our) lives, esp lately. Learning how elements of mental health work and interact inside of ourselves, and in the world/relationships around us, gives incredibly valuable perspective. Sometimes a shift in perspective can be not only inspiring or healing, but life saving. Thank you

@curlsgalore5521 3 жыл бұрын

I told this to my mother last week & since she won't listen to me she should go see a professional that way she can speak with out feeling judged. It won't happen and I'm done trying to get a 61yr old to grow up. Thanks for helping in my mental growth. 💖💖

@badandboujeee Жыл бұрын

The internal dialogue, the drama, the twist at the end where you find out real motivations. These fictional scenarios are so gripping!

@pearlvader 3 жыл бұрын

Doctor Marks, your knowledge and willingness to share this knowledge is appreciated. For a future topic, can you explain why people live in the "past" instead of the " here and now"? Is there a condition for this? Thanks

@lenebrantley221 3 жыл бұрын

That's one I will like to watch. I don't understand people that are just stuck on the past.

@InfinityCalling 3 жыл бұрын

Most don't know they are stuck in the past, repeating the same patterns, until they become conscious they get re-cycled. Some people call it karmic loops.

@jaybyrd3240 3 жыл бұрын

I think if there was some sort of trauma its likely to repeat or replay the situation ( usually PTSD). When my best friend died at a very young age his Mother was never ever the same. Some things I dont think people get over. Maybe your asking about people that constantly dwell in the past. That would be an interesting talk. I would love something on re-training the brain to truly let go ( then sometimes I think we could almost get into a religious/God discussion.....sorry for the ramble!!

@DrTraceyMarks 3 жыл бұрын

Thanks @Maria D for the suggestion. I’ve saved it to my list

@echase416 3 жыл бұрын

Being ‘stuck in the past’ is called trauma.

@cw3086 3 жыл бұрын

Developing a string sense if self is really hard to be able to stop projecting and to protect yourself when someone is projecting on to you.

@lorirees4248 3 жыл бұрын

Yes to hearing more about defense mechanisms. One thing I do is clam up or reveal very little to those I feel are judgmental or self-righteous. I feel very uncomfortable talking about my life - small or large details.

@mnamna9039 3 жыл бұрын

You are one reason why I’m doing psychology as a degree because the way you explain these makes me hopeful for helping other people as well thank you!

@austriaperez497 3 жыл бұрын

Hi, I'm new discovering you, but im very glad i did...Love your videos...They are very educational and awesome

@DrTraceyMarks 3 жыл бұрын

Thanks so much Austria!

@Ron-SA 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you Dr Marks. This video was like it was made just for Me. I took a lot away from this. I did not see the connection regarding my own self hate. And knowing that that I need to bring my own self acceptance and love up to a place where I no longer allow people's criticisms to pierce my soul. Thank you so much.

@wanjikuwainaina3091 3 жыл бұрын

That was exactly my takeaway!

@DrTraceyMarks 3 жыл бұрын

Excellent takeaways. Best wishes to both of you 👍🏽

@Ron-SA 3 жыл бұрын

@@DrTraceyMarks Thank you so much Doctor.

@Ron-SA 3 жыл бұрын

@@wanjikuwainaina3091 I appreciate you saying this . knowing that it isn't something exclusive to me is very comforting. Often the mind and thoughts can be so convincing that it's an issue unique to myself and brings about even more shame and self condemnation because you feel like you're the cause of all life's problems. These videos and the cognitive behavioural therapy Dr Marks mentioned do help in recognising that it isn't normal and that these thoughts aren't always true. And I've learnt that often I catastrophize a situation. There's much work to do, but you're not alone. And neither am I. As the Bible so correctly says As well that we must "take every thought captive to Christ. " Grace, peace and best wishes

@wanjikuwainaina3091 3 жыл бұрын

@@Ron-SA Amen! And it says that you have the power to take every thought captive. And that there is NOW (not tomorrow) NO CONDEMNATION for those who are in Christ Jesus. He is where our help comes from. We need to know these things to be absolutely true, because they are. PS: my first name is Grace ☺️

@ninawilliams9759 3 жыл бұрын

As a therapist I appreciate your psychoed videos. I've shared them with my clients and find them to be a great tool for my own learning as well as theirs. Thank you for making this video, I would love to learn more about defense mechanisms!

@Q269 3 жыл бұрын

6:30 I remember being told, excessively, that "People don't really hate their family; they're just saying that." It takes on a twisted meaning after awhile.

@chinookvalley 3 жыл бұрын

Mom would tell us kids, "Your dad loves you, he just doesn't know how to show it". We knew Dad was running around on Mom, and we knew he did not love us. So what kind of projections and fear was my mom living with? Sad when your family lies to protect their own feelings, while gaslighting everyone else.

@Q269 3 жыл бұрын

@@chinookvalley It's not common for people to realize what kids pick up on... Life is buried in the fog. Oh man, I remember walking 3 whole blocks from home to the school play at like 8pm, and the teachers in charge asking where my Mom was; me telling them she was working... and then hearing them "whisper" to each other about how she's probably too drunk to show up... I learned A LOT about the difference between what is said to you, and what is said about you.

@jamesduke5373 3 жыл бұрын

How in the world do your videos not have +1 mill views each?! This content is very underrated. Your videos are amazing resources and the presentation is spot on.

@emilywindle7973 Жыл бұрын

You explained projection and examples head on! I have enjoyed recently discovering you, and understanding the Psychological approach as to why we do things. I look forward to more videos!

@intentionallyqueen.478 3 жыл бұрын

🙃 I bet Dr. Marks is contributing to a better understanding of ourselves and others.

@brianarbenz7206 3 жыл бұрын

I like her work.

@eboogieex18x 3 жыл бұрын

GIVE US MORE ON THE DEFENSE MECHANISMS!!!! You’re incredible, thank you! ♥️

@JustDr.S 3 жыл бұрын

I'd like to hear about all the different types of defense mechanisms people use. As insecure as I am, this one did not apply to me. I feel better when a loved one, or a friend accomplishes something that makes them happy or proud. I could be using a different defense mechanism that I'm not aware of. Thank you, I love your channel and this was quite interesting. ❤

@evian. 3 жыл бұрын

Yes, please ! More of defence mechanisms:) thank you

@DrTraceyMarks 3 жыл бұрын

Thanks. Will do

@irisrowanmoon 3 жыл бұрын

This has helped me so much. I've been aware of my actions but never knew the correct term and what goes into projecting. Not to mention the fact that I've always needed deeper explanations to things in order to grasp a concept. Definitely is very helpful to me

@ebunni5862 3 жыл бұрын

I was trying to tell my brother that he was being a jerk and he accused me of projecting. No, brother, you're being emotionally abusive and manipulative.

@Kaybye555 3 жыл бұрын

This! I hate people saying that everytime we lash out it's projecting. Or that everytime you don't like something about another person is because you hate that about you 🙄

@ebunni5862 3 жыл бұрын

@@Kaybye555 would that be them projecting that you're projecting? Projecting inception?

@Kaybye555 3 жыл бұрын

@@ebunni5862 right 😂 never ending loop of projection

@monaebreak561 3 жыл бұрын

After experience the horrors of depression I project it on my loved ones, always asking if they're feeling down as soon as they are a bit quiet or tired. 🤔

@bigrplayer4070 3 жыл бұрын

Dr. Marks, I cannot thank you enough for tackling the viewer's question and this topic - this has been eye-opening. I appreciate you and all you do!

@SweetyShanice996 3 жыл бұрын

You explain things so easily and articulately! I love your videos.

@aneteadiene9918 3 жыл бұрын

This was a great explanation, Dr. Marks. Thank you very much for all your work.

@chinemazing 3 жыл бұрын

I’ve literally been talking about projection a lot lately and then I see you just posted this, wow.

@cloudcat0 3 жыл бұрын

I love that you talk about the nuances here. There is so much going on under the surface in our thoughts and core beleifs that we have to look at and work on gradually. A therapist can really help us see what's underlying that we may not be aware of, and help us work through it and track progress.

@bribaxterherrick9599 3 жыл бұрын

Good morning Dr Marks! Thank you for another awesome, engaging video

@DrTraceyMarks 3 жыл бұрын

My pleasure and thank you!

@chadwiley6917 3 жыл бұрын

I do appreciate the clarity of your explanations on each topic. Thanks

@user-ln9cv5xe6l 4 ай бұрын

I've been binging on your videos today. You explain things so well! Thank you!

@aswanghalimaw 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you dr for inspiring videos like this!

@DrTraceyMarks 3 жыл бұрын

You're welcome Hunk!

3 жыл бұрын

this is gold. so glad to have found you on here. i love psychology as it helps me stay self aware and grow

@DrTraceyMarks 3 жыл бұрын

I’m so glad you found me to

@Sangeetha96Sarma 3 жыл бұрын

You are truly incredible. How well do you explain everything?! Thanks for making this video.

@DrTraceyMarks 3 жыл бұрын

Thanks so much SangeetaSarma!

@kppk1396 3 жыл бұрын

Please please please make more videos like this Dr. Mark's. I just became aware that I do a lot of projecting. I would love to have more information and tips on this subject. Your videos have made a phenomenal impact in my life my health and my mental health. Thank you!

@athab8256 3 жыл бұрын

I always enjoy and am impressed by your presentations, and I really enjoy how you enunciate difficult medical terms; words I would find hard to say. Thanks!

@DrTraceyMarks 3 жыл бұрын

So glad it’s helpful AthaB!

@annamarie3886 Жыл бұрын

@@DrTraceyMarks hello. what are the common questions you ask to make unconscious behaviors conscious? and how would you know that you overusing defense mechanism? as stated, overuse of defense mechanisms will lead you to psychological dysfunction. please enlighten me on this part. thank you so much.

@maryampharmd 3 жыл бұрын

Love Love Love this video! Thank you so much for sharing! I've seen my own fair share of projection in the workplace and I've wanted to understand why for a while now. I realize that I cannot help heal this person's own issues. I've debated pointing them out, but it seems like it may just upset them more. I'm starting to think that maybe just privately letting them know about the resources available to them may help them the most.

@beccabooer 3 жыл бұрын

Wow! That was extremely helpful! Thank you! I do this a lot and didn’t even realize it! 💖 Your videos are very helpful!

@DrTraceyMarks 3 жыл бұрын

You're so welcome!

@EnjoyingYourLifeWithJesus 3 жыл бұрын

Excellent Dr. Tracey! Yes please can you speak more on this. Thank you for your knowledge & expertise, thank you for sharing. God bless you, you are helping so many!

@troyscott4410 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for your videos. Each one I’ve watched is so clear and easily taken in which only makes applying these concepts that much easier. You’re are truly helping so many people!! Happily a new subscriber today! 😀

@philly111 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for this video, much appreciated!

@VladaldTrumptin 3 жыл бұрын

Yes please I would like to hear more. In my case specifically as a child who’s mother didn’t know where I ended and she began. As an example, she would often tell me I looked like a “streetwalker” when I left the house if it wasn’t in clothes she would approve of. It was almost like it was an affront to her own personal reputation.

@lisatuckett6386 3 жыл бұрын

This was really great. I’d love to hear more about other defense mechanisms. It’s also interesting to see how different therapy approaches handle the same subject, like you did on CBT and psychotherapy. Thanks!

@theseigemeister 3 жыл бұрын

I love your videos Tracy. Awesome content, ~Thank you!

@fudgii3690 19 күн бұрын

Thanks for this, I learned a lot!

@johncarty1939 3 жыл бұрын

So what about a narcissistic parent projecting all of their attitudes onto their children and the children growing up with a shame. Or siblings projecting their inner core being onto each other by which the narcissistic parent or parents projected onto their children

@jaybyrd3240 3 жыл бұрын

I was going to say the same thing. When your brain is developing and that is all you hear your whole life, how do you get out of that mindset? I had a Mother like that. Best thing I did was cut her out of my life, yet I can still hear her saying her hate daily. Even in therapy its very difficult to conquere

@kellymoi7959 3 жыл бұрын

@@jaybyrd3240 affirmation videos are literally replacing cruel words spoken to me. They make me remember who I Know I am!! Loved and a very precious gift to my loved ones and this cold world. Fight fire with 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

@lauragadille3384 3 жыл бұрын

Good question. All I got was how disappointing I am to the family.

@jaybyrd3240 3 жыл бұрын

@@kellymoi7959 wish you a thousand thank you's ....and if I knew how to make a heart signal I would. Guess I'm too old for that. ...but thank you

@lesliecas2695 3 жыл бұрын

@@jaybyrd3240 emojis!💙❤️💜💛🧡💚

@jchase5158 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for your help.🙏🏼🙏🏼

@DrTraceyMarks 3 жыл бұрын

You’re welcome

@dlppl3407 3 жыл бұрын

I would love to hear more about that content. The example of using food as a weapon against someone was incredible!!!!!! More of that!!! You are the best!

@johngarrity6687 4 ай бұрын

Clear and v informative. Great job. Thx!!

@g0d5m15t4k3 2 жыл бұрын

Dr. Marks! Your video is so good! I love the deep dive. To stop Projecting: "Work through your own negative self talk".

@lenebrantley221 3 жыл бұрын

Dr. Mark, you are an amazing person and doctor. Thank you for sharing your expertise. I really appreciate you. ❤❤❤

@Ikigai747 7 ай бұрын

SPOT ON ! GREAT EXPLANATION, THANK YOU FOR POSTING!!!

@Sam-le1nl 3 жыл бұрын

Hi Dr. Marks! Your channel has been enormously helpful for me and I wanted to thank you for creating this content🙏🙏 and yes, I would love to hear about other psychological defense mechanisms such as self-defeating which I've noticed exists in my own behaviour.

@DrTraceyMarks 3 жыл бұрын

Thanks Sam for your vote. I’m glad the content helps you

@ritamaldonado9761 3 жыл бұрын

I enjoyed this information, and I look forward to more videos explaining terms such as projection. Thanks 🙏🏻

@sweetlaughter78 2 жыл бұрын

Your videos have helped me realize even more about myself and the relationships I keep. Thank you!

@kirkrichardson2795 3 жыл бұрын

Thank You, Dr. Marks you help so many people with your videos Hope many blessings come your way, kirk

@MaddesG1 3 жыл бұрын

Thank You Dr. Tracy Marks for making me realize some of my issues. Your chanel is a god send to those troubled and who need to know the real signs of when to seek real help. Thank you again, so much.

@noorahmed6193 3 жыл бұрын

You are awesooooooooooooooooooooooooooome...... You even don't know how much we are benefitted from you and your videos...... Dr. Thanks thanks thanks thanks thanks thanks

@RE-hw4tt 6 ай бұрын

I've just found your channel. Thank you for the "real life" examples you give , it make more easier to understand and relate to another experiences.

@stevenw373 3 жыл бұрын

Wow this is a really good breakdown thx

@TravelingPhilosopher 3 жыл бұрын

Yes please I would like to learn more about self-defense mechanisms! Keep up the incredible work! :)

@Linda2 3 жыл бұрын

I would very like to hear and learn about these things. It resonates in me strongly Thankyou Dr. Tracey for your help.

@UmSureWhatever 3 жыл бұрын

This is extremely helpful for the ones being projected onto... A special thank you for this one.

@joseAlvarado-xe8ss 3 жыл бұрын

Today I was thinking about this video lol I watched your old video (Stop Projecting) and I keep thinking about it . It’s so relatable I am the King of Projecting 😅 I read everyone’s mind it’s insane .

@intellectualesemv 3 жыл бұрын

Thanks for this Dr Tracey

@chillgaming650 3 жыл бұрын

This was very helpful, thank you. I understand this a lot better and I can change this behavior.

@selimawad2375 3 жыл бұрын

Excellent presentation as always!!

@michaelineshadman844 3 жыл бұрын

You are such a gift to the global community. Your professional insight inspires change and understanding to so many of us.

@seymorepencilart 3 жыл бұрын

Great video! Thank you. Your explanation of the difference between subconscious and unconscious was the only explanation I’ve heard of the difference between those two words.

@rhyswong8976 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you. You have such great and informative videos.

@sockpuppet2415 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you Dr. Marks for your explanations. Thank you for handing me insights.

@peaceful5159 2 жыл бұрын

Really useful, informative and clear video😊🙌

@deenaelieff396 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you, this insight is helpful!💐

@Happy23913 Жыл бұрын

Clear, concise, and precise. Not emotional, but very easy to understand and identify with. Thank you. Be blessed.

@Vic-jw7vb 9 ай бұрын

Asking questions to understand the unconscious mind - that is why journaling and writing your thoughts out to put language to thoughts that can be processed and worked on .... thanks Tracey

@romaineperry1144 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you 🙏 I enjoyed it.

@DivaonaDollar 11 ай бұрын

Thank you for your videos. I love how you explain things and provide examples in a way that I can understand

@deerkeeper 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you doctor. I learn more from your videos than I have in 3 years of grad school for my masters.

@Jordan-pf9ws 3 жыл бұрын

I'd like to see more videos like this. I find them very useful for self reflection.

@mrorange159 3 жыл бұрын

Wow your videos are so rich with useful advice and information. Thanks again.

@nicolelouiselucas3996 Жыл бұрын

I really got alot from this thank you so much

@yvetteblalock 3 жыл бұрын

Dr. Marks, I ABSOLUTELY LOVE how you tell stories to explain mental health topics. It captures my attention (because I love a good story lol) and it makes it feel less like an abstract concept and more like something that I can apply. Thank you for such phenomenal teaching! See you next Wednesday! 😀

@DrTraceyMarks 3 жыл бұрын

Thanks a lot Yvette. I like to help people “see” things. I love stores and examples too. 😊

@andreasluxbr 3 жыл бұрын

Please, do talk more about defense mechanisms!! And thanks for your work, we appreciate it!

@DrTraceyMarks 3 жыл бұрын

You’re welcome Andreas! 😊👍🏽

@artvikeu 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for keeping me sane.

@elzabethdasgracasluchesi5278 3 жыл бұрын

The best. Thank you.

@jamyllemendes8588 Ай бұрын

Omg I'm so tired now after Journaling, praying, crying watching your videos. I need to heal and get better. 3 years and from time my traumas came back to hunt me😬

@andrewdrewandy Ай бұрын

mine never leave they just hide for a little bit to tease me into thinking im fine all of a sudden

@SarahLinberg 3 жыл бұрын

This was super interesting! Thanks!

@mimiWatch185 Жыл бұрын

Wow that was great video, thank you

@JAE1324 2 жыл бұрын

YESSSSS MY QUEEN ALSO GAVE A VOCABULARY LESSON!!! BLESS YOU DR MARKS

@LStarlyc 3 жыл бұрын

This was an incredibly interesting video. I would love more like this.

@kaitlinbeste328 3 жыл бұрын

She's the best!

@camellia8625 Жыл бұрын

You explain things incredibly well.

@Thenbafan45 17 күн бұрын

Can I tell you something? I did a search for what is neurosis to educate myself and found your video. Now I’m hooked! Your voice tone and cadence are splendid. I can listen to you talk for days. Please tell me you’re single.