Easy secrets to how to dress more creatively, feminine, and sensual over 40 (part 1/3)

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4 ай бұрын

Let's talk about the tricks for how to dress more creatively...feel more sensual... look more feminine... over 40! You may have fallen into a blah jeans and t shirt rut and getting back a fun, sensual style seems impossible over 40, but it's really just a few simple choices. I'll tell you what you should be looking for to add soft, feminine elements to your style and get your fun, feminine energy back.
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@Horsefaire 3 ай бұрын

The whole internet is a big fashion yawn- except for you my dear!!!!!!!!!!

@unblahyourself 3 ай бұрын

Thank you so much!!! 😘

@user-ux8nr2ej9e 3 ай бұрын

I agree ! She makes me feel so much less restricted in my choices.

@kimhanback1302 Ай бұрын

I agree. Most 'fashion' influencers limit what they think I should wear at my age, 59. I like what I like and I know what looks good on me and makes me happy. And that is the key, wear what makes me happy. Thank you for your videos and actually not telling me what I should wear. 😊

@unblahyourself Ай бұрын

@@kimhanback1302 😘

@unblahyourself Ай бұрын

@@user-ux8nr2ej9e I'm anti- restrictions... unless it comes to cheap clothes that look bad. I'm anti- that!

@kathleenschneider3498 7 күн бұрын

74 years old 🎉. Love dressing up ! Jewelry Jewelry -RAH RAH RAH !

@unblahyourself 6 күн бұрын

🥳

@marylhere 2 ай бұрын

I was thinking the exact thing….seeing little girls at ALDIs with their sparkly tutus and glitter sneakers….so jealous.

@unblahyourself 2 ай бұрын

💯!

@gwenj5419 2 ай бұрын

Just a couple years ago, my friend informed me that crop pants were "old lady" and only women our age wore them. Now they are in again. Trends are silly. Something scorned today, is embraced and chased after tomorrow. I wear what I like.

@unblahyourself 2 ай бұрын

Trends are very silly. They are only there to keep us spending!

@lisa_wistfulone7957 4 ай бұрын

“Feminine Energy comes when you’re feeling comfortable and playful.” THIS!!!💖💫✨ You eloquently put into words a feeling I’ve operated on for years!

@lisa_wistfulone7957 4 ай бұрын

PS- and shapewear absolutely inhibits me from either of those feelings!

@allisonweeks504 2 ай бұрын

“In a 3 year old, dressing like a princess, going to daycare kind of way.” 🥰 Love it! Not sure I’d be brave enough to wear the sparkle skirt to the market but you inspire me to embrace my inner 3 year old style guru! Thanks, from a 50 year old new subscriber in Texas.

@unblahyourself 2 ай бұрын

Thank you! Glad you're here! The thing about the sequined skirt is if it's sunny out, you turn your surroundings into a disco!!

@allisonweeks504 Ай бұрын

@@unblahyourself good point! 🪩🕺💃🏻

@brittany16950 14 күн бұрын

Seriously. WEAR THE SPARKLES!!! I dress in full EGL J fashion every day and I’m 39. I’m gonna dress like a freakin princess. And as a result: I *feel* like a Princess!

@valiaudet3415 8 күн бұрын

People don't know where you are coming from or going to next, so, where what you want 🎉🎉

@paoladigiulio2543 4 ай бұрын

Yes, please, more videos like this.

@unblahyourself 4 ай бұрын

You got it! 👍

@claudetteedwards4115 11 күн бұрын

You break the mold. I adore that you don't do everything in black & white (so many look awful in black and white! And I think it's detrimental to say "just get a crisp white tshirt and blah blah blah") No!! You wear colours that pop on you and you don't follow the boring rules (because they all look alike in those white tshirts and jeans with black sunglasses 🙄) ... You go girl ❤❤

@unblahyourself 11 күн бұрын

Thanks! 😊

@deniseyounger6004 Ай бұрын

Nothing old lady about you! I love your style and am binge watching your videos 🦋

@stephb1221 Ай бұрын

The burned velvet is very Stevie Nicks, and she is timeless. I wear it all the time especially in autumn, and have been known to self soothe by petting a patch of it when amongst uncomfortable situations/people.

@DMG64 Ай бұрын

I'm feeling more girlie lately. Turning 60 and finding my way. Thankyou for some great well thought ideas.❤

@unblahyourself Ай бұрын

Ooh I love girlie looks. Did you see this one on more romantic styles? kzfaq.info/get/bejne/o6eYf72fyZuVmZs.htmlsi=NytYtu7T2I7kx2DB

@frannygrace2191 2 ай бұрын

Oh, my goodness! I just discovered your videos and your style is exactly what I'm all about! I've watched French stylists and they just don't have that element of fun I'm into. Having fun is everything in dressing as far as I'm concerned.

@unblahyourself 2 ай бұрын

Yay for fun! Welcome Franny! ❤

@brendacrissman3074 Ай бұрын

I think the black trench makes the entire pink outfit ❤

@thestraightroad305 Ай бұрын

Lol! I was that quirky art teacher! For so many years! Playfulness was one of the “skills” I had to reteach to cautious students who were convinced they were “not artistic”! It’s a crucial life skill. I’m a new subscriber…and I find myself watching your explorations with fascinated…recognition. I love what you do! Most of my closet is thrifted and now, at 73, I volunteer at a local thrift store with three friends I love. The store benefits a beautiful organization that provides good life for children in trauma. I love textiles and the art of fashion. You are a little braver than I am! But I smile through every one of your episodes and it is just so fun. I want to open my scarf collection, dig through my closet and let the dress-up begin! Thank you, Diana, for being such a light!❤️🌺❤️ Edit p.s.-the wide blue trousers, which I love, might be Lagenlook.

@unblahyourself Ай бұрын

Thank you so much! Glad you're enjoying these! 😘

@thestraightroad305 Ай бұрын

@@unblahyourself ❤️So much!

@valiaudet3415 8 күн бұрын

When going to the grocery store or almost anywhere looking like you're going out after shopping or you've been out, it is a great way to play dressups. Especially if you're like many and don't go out to wear your great clothes. I'm know to throw a skirt or a dress on over muddy legs and shorts with a cover up for a quick shop. Note, when doing this I usually need to wear a boot or shoe to cover dirty feet. Don't tell, no one is any the wiser.

@jeannebee2935 4 ай бұрын

When I saw you layer the black lace over the black slip...you had a new subscriber. As a teenager, I always had a bit of lace on every dress I made. I've gotten away from that with age and I've missed it. Today's styles are very blah and depressing. However, I love your way of styling clothes and I'm looking forward to more. Thank you for sharing this video!

@unblahyourself 4 ай бұрын

Thank you Jeanne! I'm so happy you're here! I love lace for layering and I wish I could give you this Zara piece! I totally agree that today's chase towards elegance and class can end up being boring. We have two more of these videos to go... let's hang out! 😘

@suzangroves959 Ай бұрын

I just love the way you enjoy your toy box of clothes, I feel my mind opening up to new possibilities, thank you❤

@unblahyourself Ай бұрын

I'm so glad!

@beckycollett917 Ай бұрын

LOVE your style! I am all about not following whatever the current fashion looks are and pulling together what I have curated from my thrifting journeys! I am 72 yrs young!!!

@unblahyourself Ай бұрын

A true Queen Baddie! Love it!

@Donna.Walmsley101 4 ай бұрын

How refreshing to have found you! I love your feminine, creative and stunning style and looks as there’s too much on so many channels of trends and conformity at the expense of style and d actual fun in what we wear and how we present ourselves. Thank you so much for sharing, you’ve made my Sunday morning here in Australia. I’m a new subscriber and look forward to viewing your other videos! 🧚🏻‍♀️❤️🐝

@unblahyourself 4 ай бұрын

Thank you so much!! So nice to hear from you. I'm in Los Angeles. I'm glad you found me! 😘

@KrisztinaBoari 23 күн бұрын

Dear, I enjoy your outfits❤ the soft, silky and flowy clothes are my fauvorits from 30 years but as I'm getting older /56/ and my body is bigger ,I almost lost my brave to wear them. You are SO inspiring and beautiful. Thank you very much! Greetings from Hungary!❤

@unblahyourself 22 күн бұрын

Thanks for sharing!! 😘 hello from Los Angeles!

@jeanettekays1954 29 күн бұрын

That "jacket" you wear at 2.54 - OMG. I want that.

@catherinesee Ай бұрын

You have amazing personal style! Such an inspiration to other women 🎀

@unblahyourself Ай бұрын

Thank you☺

@jacquimg2469 Ай бұрын

Your style is so enlightening! I live the philosophy, I love the style , I love the creativity! Thank you so much for sharing your creative energy!!

@unblahyourself Ай бұрын

Thank you so much!!

@user-qk3oi6dl9n Ай бұрын

I love your looks, I think feminine and sensual is a look I also enjoy. But I'm 4' 10, so I have to be careful with all over flowy. Loved belting the burnt velvet shirt, that would work for petites by adding waist definition and not getting swallowed in fabric.

@fokelley911 Ай бұрын

I absolutely love your style. Your hair is wonderful!

@unblahyourself Ай бұрын

Thank you so much!

@Gevedon 15 күн бұрын

You have showed us so much and I am going to be using your wise counsel! J'adore scarves!

@mjmaddocks1132 4 ай бұрын

This video was very interesting! Love the sensual - senses idea!

@unblahyourself 4 ай бұрын

Thank you! I feel that "sensual" is the essence of feeling feminine and great.

@sarahdee374 2 ай бұрын

Hey, I'm a 70 year old lady intending to be comfortable yet attractive. I'm single and not ready to give up with orthopedic shoes and embroidered baggy t-shirts (you know the look). So I really appreciate you refusing to use us still sexy, sensual older women as scapegoats for all things bad in fashion. I have a top similar to the first one you showed, velvetish with fringe and in beautiful fall colors. EVERY time I wear it I get several compliments. I loved the lace tank, is that a recent purchase? I'd love a few of those in different colors.

@unblahyourself 2 ай бұрын

Hi Sarah! I'm working on being able to provide links to things people love, but right now everything is thrifted. I would like to do a video on some basics like that tank and be able to point people in a direction to get it if they want it. I'm getting there! ❤ I think we can stay sexy for as long as we want to. There's no limit to this! I do love a good comfy shoe though! 😄

@allegrosotto2126 Ай бұрын

Great explanation of sensual 👍 I’m not generally into frilly things, and my lifestyle is very practically based- for instance my vehicle/home is a bus and long skirts too cumbersome when climbing into drivers seat, as much as I love the swish😊 Winter is arriving here in Australia, so I’d love ideas on how to translate these ideas while still staying warm 🇦🇺

@unblahyourself Ай бұрын

If you love swish, try a large silk scarf this winter instead of wool or acrylic. It bunches up nicely and feels amazing. Also layering dresses over pants creates a lot of nice swishy-ness.

@allegrosotto2126 Ай бұрын

@@unblahyourself years ago I did some folk dancing. One cold night I wore trousers instead of a skirt, and it really affected my movements. After that it was always a skirt.

@Justme-qn2qw Ай бұрын

When you had those two pinks, I thought, no, no, but when you put the black trench coat on with it, WOW! You pulled all those outfits together so cute. Agree on the shapewear, too.

@lucindamoran8686 Ай бұрын

Love❤you lacy camisole s! And lacey cover ups! Just beautiful 🎉! Thanks again! Have a great day!😊

@unblahyourself Ай бұрын

😘

@tripL7 2 ай бұрын

Just found your channel and I really APPRECIATED your honest down to earth presentation! Awesome fashion looks✨✨

@unblahyourself 2 ай бұрын

Thank you so much!! Welcome!

@eliausi9696 28 күн бұрын

Your hair is just wonderful

@unblahyourself 27 күн бұрын

Thank you!

@judithjohnsonnigh5757 26 күн бұрын

Love the ‘hair grow out’ today. Noticed the ‘sensual’ look of it right away. You go girl.

@unblahyourself 26 күн бұрын

❤

@purpleflower121 4 ай бұрын

Just found you - through your very thorough french girl style video! I'm a decade away from 40 but love your tips and ideas on style :)

@unblahyourself 4 ай бұрын

Welcome!! I'm so glad you're here! 😘

@adriannealvord9023 Ай бұрын

Thank you so much, my pet sitting job has me in target T shirts and shorts everyday and I really need your help to look more feminine.

@unblahyourself Ай бұрын

Happy to help!

@Di-eq7wn Ай бұрын

Love your chatty videos. You’re fun. You’d be great to shop with. X

@unblahyourself Ай бұрын

Glad you like these! 😘

@user-ux8nr2ej9e 3 ай бұрын

Love the pinks and black coat combo ! ❤

@user-cs1xz 4 ай бұрын

totally agree on your take on "french girl style"!! great video love your perspective!!

@unblahyourself 4 ай бұрын

Thank you!! Glad you're here and hanging out with us! 😘

@nicolabrookes9138 2 ай бұрын

I love swishy fabric too ❤

@jeanettekays1954 2 ай бұрын

Your ideas are super fun. Very fab.

@unblahyourself 2 ай бұрын

Glad you like them! Thanks for being here!

@kp74952 2 ай бұрын

Loved these styles...hope to see more!

@barbiec4312 2 ай бұрын

Loving this.❤

@CalopsitaVanderbilt1911 Ай бұрын

Such a cute presentation ❤

@joywhitley3141 Ай бұрын

Sooo fun! Love your style.❤

@bonzobonzi7485 2 ай бұрын

Sensual made easy in that black slip dress!

@funwithbudgies2601 2 ай бұрын

Love your videos!

@unblahyourself 2 ай бұрын

Glad you like them! Thanks for being here!

@greeneyedmimibostian3013 3 ай бұрын

Thank you ❤

@unblahyourself 3 ай бұрын

You're always welcome! ❤

@17witchie Ай бұрын

❤ Particularly that black slip dress and black lace dress. 🙂

@szim5551 2 ай бұрын

Love your style, got so many good ideas

@unblahyourself 2 ай бұрын

Glad you liked it!!

@luisanaguti Ай бұрын

I just found you and love your style!! I’m looking to change my style and your inspo is so out of the box! Love it, will try to apply your tips

@Emefur1 Ай бұрын

Exactly!

@Mlydon888 3 ай бұрын

Just discovered your channel via another KZfaq video that popped up on my feed. Love your personality and presentation of your videos! ❤️ Thanks so much and looking forward to more!

@unblahyourself 3 ай бұрын

I'm so glad you're here! Welcome! 😘

@maryl.8417 Ай бұрын

Tulip leg pant Love the cover up!

@4Renee9 Ай бұрын

I really enjoy your channel! I have liked, subscribed and am looking forward to your video! I love your sense of humor peppered with fun sarcasm. I will be back! 🌹🌷🌸

@unblahyourself Ай бұрын

Awesome! Thank you! Glad you're here.

@catiemyers3429 Ай бұрын

I love your chanel! I'm so glad the algorithm introduced me to you ❤

@unblahyourself Ай бұрын

Me too! So glad you're here!

@barbaradefaria5604 4 ай бұрын

Shape wear is awesome but in summer I find it can make me feel too hot...not in a good way 😅. I really appreciate it though if I'm wearing something that's a little bit more fitted. Nice tips...thanx Diana

@unblahyourself 4 ай бұрын

Hi Barbara! I agree shapewear has its place for sure! 😅 I really just love to hate on silly ideals that have been placed upon women. I'm sure that eventually in one of these videos I'll talk about shape wear and have to backtrack! Lol

@barbaradefaria5604 4 ай бұрын

@@unblahyourself To each their own I suppose. We're nearing autumn here, but the temperatures can still reach pretty high. I like to wear shorter dresses but sometimes find I feel to exposed as you often allude to in your videos. Then I chose to wear a kind of cycling shorts underneath my dress... usually black. Probably sounds weird but works for me. Good luck with your channel. ❤️

@ritagoedecke6574 Ай бұрын

Love it all, I can’t find a decent thrift store in my area. I love everything out of the ordinary with a little twist. Thanks for your video,s and the work you put in it.

@unblahyourself Ай бұрын

Glad you like these videos! Thank you!

@maryeverett-patriquin1376 4 ай бұрын

YES!!!

@unblahyourself 4 ай бұрын

🙌

@FrenchTwist Ай бұрын

The silver chain bib style necklace you modeled in a recent video is at Walmart

@lydzphens 2 ай бұрын

I love this but I need more ideas for home in jeans please!! I am 54 and can not seem to find my way out of jeans. My everyday life is home wearing jeans. I feel most comfortable in jeans. I love jeans. I am fortunate to still have an athletic and feminine shape at this age and would like to feel and look more feminine and sensual. Honestly, my favorite target T, no matter how fittied it is, it just makes me feel ready to clean the house. 😂

@freshmanenglishhelp 2 ай бұрын

Casual skirts and casual dresses. Keyword casual, if it feels uncomfortable at first. Good luck!

@unblahyourself 2 ай бұрын

@lydzphens Hi! You might like this one about jeans and tank outfits! kzfaq.info/get/bejne/ptJdeMarx8XNg40.htmlsi=4xDRsw6TrwdzuwMu

@lydzphens Ай бұрын

@@unblahyourself thank you for referring this video. Many ideas are coming! ❤️❤️❤️

@latinaalma1947 2 ай бұрын

I love to wear bolero sweaters and jackets over revealing deep v camis I bought four at one vintage shop inexpensive they really look soft and sensual I wear mine over my boho skirts .So many women are too timid to look feminine amd sensual, I also wear them with pants and jeans.

@unblahyourself 2 ай бұрын

Sounds awesome!

@teresasines1524 Ай бұрын

Moo-moo gives me Molly Ringwald vibes. 🥰

@chrisgreek4285 Ай бұрын

Ok, I DO have some strong thoughts…. Shapewear is the work of the devil. I bought some to wear to my daughter’s and then subsequently one of my sons’ weddings. I have realized that when you are a “fluffier diva” (to borrow the Jamaican term), it’s just going to make you look like a slightly thinner overweight woman and you are going to SUFFER for that. My last child is getting married in two weeks and shapewear will be nowhere in sight! Lastly, you mentioned with the last outfit that you could throw a jean jacket over it. Right after you said that I heard the cartoon brakes screeching in my head! I was always told to stay away from the “Canadian Tuxedo” of denim on top and bottom. Has something changed, or is it just coming to the point that we don’t care about the “fashion rules” and make our own rules up to make ourselves happy? Hugs from Canada’s Arctic❣️❣️🇨🇦

@unblahyourself Ай бұрын

I use fashion rules as a last resort. Most of the time I just play around until I'm comfortable with it, but if I can't get it to work, I'll go to some basic rules. I think simply enjoying your outfit is most important!

@georgiak3344 Ай бұрын

Evening is feminine when a woman is slim and sweet like you my dear , curvy like me is not very simple….

@cynthiaforsythe8989 2 ай бұрын

Wondering how tall are you ? Love your lipsticks. Can you share the brand and colors. I’m loving your philosophy !

@unblahyourself 2 ай бұрын

Thank you so much for hanging out with me Cynthia! I'm 5'9". I keep forgetting to mention this in my newer videos, and I think it's important so people know how or why something hangs like it does. I think I need to do a separate video on lipsticks because I keep getting asked about it! This is probably a combo of two MAC lipsticks, Mocha and Russian Red.

@alekcahdra5559 Ай бұрын

Never say never...! 😉

@Lyndell239 2 ай бұрын

I sweat too much now for some of those materials. I've been having to wear blk to circumvent

@gerry4281 Ай бұрын

Can you show us your hair cut?

@unblahyourself Ай бұрын

It's always changing! A lot of people ask me to show the back so maybe I'll do that soon because I purposely don't show the back ( I cut it mostly myself!)

@danab172 19 күн бұрын

I'm 48. I have severe arthritis. My shoes are now rocking sneakers or old lady velcro shoes. I kind of lost my style for necessary comfort. :(. Also, I made all these bead chokers in my 30s. Now I have a double chin and stuff. Is it true that you should not wear chokers when you are older? Thanks

@unblahyourself 17 күн бұрын

I have never heard that. I think that you should wear whatever makes you happy and not worry what is flattering or sexy. Only wear what brings you joy. Yours is the only opinion that matters!

@StefanieZoe 4 ай бұрын

Algorithm

@rondawiebe1505 Ай бұрын

I'm older than you... by a fair bit, and heavier than I ever expected to be. My hair is almost all white and very curly. How do I look younger and more relevant?

@unblahyourself Ай бұрын

I think "younger" is something you don't try for because we should always enjoy being our current age, but I get what you're asking. So if not younger, what can we aim for? Aim for beautiful fabrics, interesting shapes, well fitting clothes in beautiful colors that look best on you. Enlist the help of a hairstylist to find a modern haircut that you'll love. Being heavier than you expect can definitely make one feel not so great so I'd say if you're not actively working on getting fit, it could be great fun to join some dance classes. Or if you can't get your weight to where you want it, just enjoy really fun and great clothes at any size. Now being more "relevant" is a different question and I think the answer has more to do with helping people/volunteering/ being a great friend/ and keep learning things. This is probably way too much advice for a comment box but thank you for asking and thank you for being here!

@rondawiebe1505 Ай бұрын

@unblahyourself actually I have a neurological disease that won't let me exercise and losing weight just isn't working even with assorted programs/helpers. I need to dress what I have. I think my hairstyle is working as I get compliments on it almost every time I go out. It's the clothes. I can't wear most of what you show, which just bugs me because I love your looks and support your philosophy wholeheartedly. Thank you for your time. I'll continue to choose the fun stuff and fine fabrics. You do inspire me to try.

@rosebudmelissa Ай бұрын

@@rondawiebe1505 Have you looked at body shape and color analysis? Body shape helps with choosing flattering clothing styles and color analysis helps with knowing whether you look best in warm vs cool, dark vs light, and clear vs muted colors. You can then determine which colors are most flattering, wearable, and unflattering for you. Patterns, some fabrics, accessories, and makeup can all be affected by this. The individual clothing pieces worn in this video will not be universally flattering, but the principle of dressing in a fun and feminine manner can be used by anyone.

@unblahyourself Ай бұрын

Thanks @rosebudmelissa! Very helpful!

@rondawiebe1505 Ай бұрын

@rosebudmelissa I've taught classes on colour and I'm a decent stylist most of the time. The problem is strictly size and a medical inability to lose weight. Forget I asked. There's nothing new to help me.