Τhere is nothing more refreshing and liberating than hearing a woman sayimg she doesn't care how she looks. You are my idol, honestly. My highest aspirsrion in life is to be like you, as I suffer from EXTREME self image issues and obsession over looks.

Finding the confidence to accept yourself without needing validation from others is important to living a happy life. I know a lot of people in my life that worry too much about how others feel they look or what others think about how they live their life.

Yes. I embrace my white hairs because I went through intense suicidality and never thought I’d live long enough to get white hair. I love my wrinkles because they are my body’s way of keeping a journal of my smiles and frowns. I remember finding my grandmother - in her 80’s, bald, wrinkled, and mottled skin - so very beautiful because her heart was so kind. Thank you for this video reminding me of all this.

totally. There are so many more interesting things about a person than what they look like

You are a very wise young woman, Lia, for one so young and you look lovely. I am 75 years old and living on my own for the first time in many decades. It is so freeing to just do what feels right for yourself and not have to please others. I am cutting down in many areas - plastic, clothes, possessions, people too, actually - and your vlogs have been so interesting. I just still can't stop straightening my very frizzy hair. Perhaps I should shave it off like you! Thank you and best wishes for your channel.

This reminds me of an experiment that I did after I had my son. I spent quite a few months without looking at myself in a large mirror. (I did use a small one to tame my eyebrows) but that was all. I was tired of obsessing with my body and my face and my hair. After this time period I found that I was forced to focus more on doing things and eating healthy. I was forced to stop thinking on a daily basis about my looks and over analyzing features that others really "don't see". Once I did start using a larger mirror again I was happier with my appearance but mostly because I started making better choices for my health wich then reflected in my appearance rather than trying to find a quick fix, like clothes and makeup and hairstyles. These practices actually took time from me taking better care of myself. Since this experiment I have learned balance. I can have the best of both worlds. Sometimes we have to take ourselves completely out of something to see whats actually going on. I think this is all she is saying. Rather than feeling the need for a quick beauty fix, she has let that mentality go. And in return she is blessed with a healthy physic and clear skin. 😊😊

I’m so so glad you made this video. In a world of perfection portrayed on social media - it’s very rare to find someone who’s truly happy in their appearance. Which is so so sad. At one point I could never leave the house without wearing makeup - again so sad. After years it’s only recently where I’ve felt comfortable (and lazy 😂) enough to not be bothered about it. I feel like videos like these and people like you who are so real and true, will help people much more than you know. I think we’ll all always have something we’re not happy with but like they say - if it’s not broke don’t fix it. Unfortunately the dark side of social media makes you feel like everything is broken and you can’t be complete until you fix it. Not true. Such a valuable video. I hope someone watching this, that’s struggling, learn to love themselves in the skin they’re in ✨

Your eyes speak so much! I like looking at your videos because you are one of the few people on KZfaq that seems to be “normal and real” very honest as well.

I find it sad, how many people do surgery just to 'look better'. I think your views are very sensible. Love that you post so often nowadays, feels like talking to a good friend☺️

People are always shocked when I say I don't care about my hair. I'll cut and dye my own hair, I always just think "oh well if it goes wrong it's just hair" 🤷‍♀️

Thank you for this video. In the past, I couldn't imagine going out without makeup. This is the norm for me now. I started to feel good about myself with no camouflage on my body. I don't wear jewelry, I dress comfortably, and I've finally achieved happiness in minimalism. You are wonderful the way you are ❤️

I had quite a bad accident a yesr ago which meant that I couldn't colour or style my hair or apply makeup and I found it difficult to dress myself. The result of all that means that my survival was more important than my image. With that, my vanity was gone! I look at my self in a whole new way now.

Totally iconic intro, Lia. 😂 Okay, I feel like I have to share this tidbit to anyone who feels like they have an asymmetrical face - 1) asymmetry is SUPER common, even movie stars have this 2) Asymmetry is more evident when you look in photos and YES even in the mirror, because it’s 2-dimensional. It seems like a 3-D image, but that’s just our brain interpreting the data that is reflecting back. I learned this when I was worried about my son‘s flat head and why his facial asymmetry looks worse in a mirror. So THERE YA GO, the more you know right? 😌

LOVEDDDD that intro, it genuinely made me grin. the square space intro was sooo smooth haha

Confidence allows you not to care, and confidence you have in buckets. Also, at your tender age, I sometimes envy your clarity. Everyone's face is assymetrical. Now, I'm going to make some delicious soup. Be well !

I'm so so far away from this way of thinking, but I understand your point of view and I wish I could be more like you. I think I would be happier...

I want to thank you for this video. I used to be very upset and obsessed with my appearance, i train myself to let go of it. But the part which really touched me, is when you said your body doesn't hurt all the time. It's true, we forget that our body make us able to do a lot of things. For the past year I have some chronic pain which invalidade me, and i have to chose what i do everyday and prioritize. It's hard.

Human anatomy is so beatiful and fine but we are still looking at the mirror all day , everyday and say " How my hair looks ? Is my nose looking fine ? Is outfit of the day good enough ? I don't think my jewerly match my outfit " etc. I don't want to waste my time with these things. I want to cook , take care of my plants more , spending time with my cats and don't thinking these unneceserry stuffs ! 🌱🌿

This is probably the first time I have heard a woman say she doesn't care about her looks. It's uncomfortable for me to hear it because that's exactly the way I feel yet I'm ashamed to say out loud in a time where your external beauty is all that matters. Being 18 and having this belief also doesn't quite help. The lives of the people around me practically revolve around the way they look, and it feels scary sometimes when you are amongst the few who find it odd and concerning. Thank you for having the courage to talk about ideas like this. You are a breath of fresh air.

True beauty shines from within 🌿✨💚💎

Lia, you have a light around you . Thank you for sharing your insight.

"I want to get away of trying to look different" ❤

This video boosted my self love 1000%💞

We are all our own biggest critics! The most beautiful and important thing is that we are as happy and healthy as we can be in our own bodies! After that, if someone wants to wear makeup or jewelry or whatnot, that's great and they should definitely express themselves however they want but they should NEVER feel that those things are requirments! Thank you for another great and thought-provoking video!❤

This video is beautiful and thoughtful! Deep stuff! I agree with you, I like to focus on how my body feels too, and work from that space. I feel like that is a healthy place to work from! What I notice about others when I meet them, is their soul. Who they are. Things like old shoes or new shoes or such, I really don't pay attention to. Thoughtfulness, warmth and light decorate a human being. The rest is icing!!! One of my close friends looks like a model, and dresses to the nines. Me, I wear yoga pants and a sweater, hair in a ponytail. We have so much fun when we are together, we could be sitting in a chair drinking tea, doing nothing else and have a great time!💖

Love the intro and love this video!!! It’s all about appreciating what you do have.

I am so grateful to you for this video. I really appreciate your disclaimers ad well. I've always had a difficult relationship with my appearance but at this point a lot of it does stem from skin issues and physical health issues. I think we often forget how many things outside our control directly affect our sense of self.

I love this video ❤️ My favourite part was when you said you want to explore finding yourself and the beauty in feeling like yourself 🙏🏼 I feel like we’re on a similar journey, all the best ❤️

I appreciate your messages and really love your simple beauty!

I have been following you for almost 1.5 years and also proudly following you become more successful day by day! Congrats and thank you for this amazing channel❣️❣️

You're awesome and I love your enthusiasm in your videos!😃

Thank you for this. I feel the same. My heart recognizes that you are beautiful. 🌼

You are strong and beautiful and such an inspiration! Your videos have helped me rethink so much of my life recently! ❤️

Thank you so much for posting this, I agree with all of this.

100% this! You nailed it Lia!

I feel there is nothing more powerful than you being fully and unapologetically you because that, whether we're aware of it or not, gives me permission to be fully myself, too. And hopefully this goes vice versa. I always find that people look their best if they dare to be themselves ❤️

I enjoyed this video thank u n ur one of the very few minimalists that are genuinely content n have real joy in their life💕

you are the truest reflection of how all society will look starting with women in the west. you are at the end point of political wokeness. you have achieved the finish point and are ahead of the pack. all western women will ultimately follow your footsteps. more power to you. bravo on you!

I've been working on this recently as well! I have depression that seems to worsen occasionally, for now example. I've not been exercising and eating well like I used to and I've put on a bit of weight/lost muscle. I'm trying to be okay with the changes and love my body for what it is. It has a lot to do with comfortable clothing like you said! I've changed up my wardrobe a lot and it helps so much. Also, I've always thought that your nose and face as a whole are so darling 💕 hehe

Watching this I think self-actualization....and of Abraham Maslow. It is good not to be wrapped up so tight in belief that I have to look like someone or something other than what I truly am and oh so wonderful not to care what others think. I just found your channel earlier this week and find it truly helpful and calming to watch. Thank you!

Great message! I don't do my makeup or fix my hair into a formal hairstyle. I bye used clothes and few new clothes I feel comfortable in. It can make me wonder if people judge me for not having new outfits or hairstyles, makeup or nails. I think that relates to marketing or social expectations of women. I am comfortable with how I am and I am glad to hear your message.

I'm so glad you made this video. Excellent content. "Find beauty in feeling like myself." Such great advice.

You are an interesting, beautiful, powerful human. And you have a great sense of humour! Thank you for this video that is a good reminder of why we are so much more than someone else's definition of us.

I totally agree with you on “do not care about your appearance to the others”. This way we remember to maintain our body and appearance to our self appreciation☺️ If we are happy with our own body it doesn’t matter what the others think😊

Great video :) so much of self love and self acceptance 💕 thank you ❤️

thank you sooo much! 💓

I dont care how I look either. Or other people. While I do sometimes find people really interesting to look at due to their personal style it isn't a factor in how I feel about them

Thank you for this video. I love what you say ☺️

I never noticed your "big" nose. I think it's a normal size. Also didn't find your face asymmetrical tbh what about shaving ? would be killer if there were more natural bodies, means bodies with body hair, on KZfaq and social media because shaved bodies are not natural and we all manipulate ourselves into believing that it's the normal state, but it's not and this bothers me accepting natural body hair especially on women should also be a thing it's sadly also a "beauty standard" would love to hear what you think, Lia

What a lovely video, thanks 💗

I have always been a natural-look girl and liked it, but I have struggled a lot with accepting my body 100%. I got sensitive as a child to people's opinions about my appearance because I grew up early. I got so many comments about my size that I didn't want to tell people my age because I knew how the conversation was going to end. They would also compare me with my sister and my cousins, which were a bit older. I also got comments at school and I felt that this was a very important topic for people around me. Then, puberty came and I didn't know how to feel about the changes in my body. I got curves, stretch marks, acne and started to feel sexualized. It was so strange. I didn't feel really bad about my body but I felt bad about getting comments again on my appearance and my style. Later on, even if I felt good in my body, I had this idea of fixing my flaws in order to feel better. I focused on my skin and weight and how to make them look right. But luckily I eventually got fed up with fighting my perfectly functional and beautiful body and giving in to people's opinion. It took me years and I am somehow still in the process. But I started loving my body for what it is and now I have even decided to grow my firsts grays in my thirties because it feels right and liberating and beautiful to me. I do also love creativity, beauty and aesthetics and I think that is partly why I care about my look. But now I can finally see how subjective beauty is and how beautiful is the diversity of bodies and appearances in this world. I am also trying to experiment with not caring that much when I don't feel like it and this encourages me a lot. Thanks for this video, because this is a very important message. I urge you all: please, love your body, honor your own beauty and don't be afraid of expressing your uniqueness, whichever style you like!

I find women with short hair and/or no makeup to be very attractive! I realize that your video is more about the philosophy, but I want to post this for other women to see that many people find the natural "not made up" look to be gorgeous!

I think your nose is super cute :-) Noses sharpen the profiles of our faces, Literally and figuratively. They make us unique. So wear yours with pride! :-)

Hi Lia, I admire you so much! I love too see someone who looks peaceful with is body. I've always thought at my self as a cute girl but when I was 20 I started to have an obsession for my face. I had a compulsive behavior consisting in: spending hours at looking my face in the mirror or in a photography trying to repeat tons of I time what I liked about it; I started to count how many times my friends, my mum or others told me I was pretty; also I spended lot of time seeing the other the girls on social media to make paragon with me. I was anxious to meet the mirror, cried almost every time I looked my face through it. I thought only surgery could have made me happy. I am 25 now and I am not obsessed anymore but I have to do much for my mental health 🙃

This needs to reach out to more people ♥️

Your videos are so deep! When I was a teenager I got a few negative comments on aspects of my appearance (I suspect most girls do) and that stuck with me. When I was pregnant, and suddenly less physically able, was the first time I realised I should focus on being grateful for what I can do with my body rather than worrying about how I look. I can't say I don't worry how I look now but I'm on the journey. I'm also thinking about how to teach my young daughters to have a healthy relationship with their appearance.

Great message. I think many people get pressured by society to look a certain way but it’s important to focus on the inside rather than the outside. And congrats on the sponsorship! 👏🏻

This was a really inspiring video. Women are bombard with so many airbrushed and photoshoped images from models who don't even eat and have historically had so much of their worth tied to their looks that it severely damages so many women mentally. There's literally billions of dollars invested from beauty companies into making women feel awful about themselves and solving it with some new product. Even worse for anyone who doesn't have the marketing-decided current beauty standard. And, unfortunately, men are increasingly starting to get pressured the same way with how visual everything is becoming. As you said, I have no issue with anyone who genuinely enjoys makeup or any of that, but what I hate is the pressure from society that women and an increasingly larger number of men feel like that HAVE to do this or that to get accepted or start losing their self-worth/confidence because of these things. Seeing someone just satisfied with how they look is so refreshing. I think you're really pretty too!

I really like the way you think!

I am so inspired by you Your amazing 💚

I don't care how I look either. There's so much more life!

You look great, who cares what others think, besides, most women admire the bravery of wearing a buzz cut, some would love the freedom from messing with their hair…no bad hair days, included!

Only over lockdown I've came to the same conclusion. I realised how much effort and mental energy I was giving to look good to other people , To look pleasing to people I pass on the street and never see again. I now dress for me and myself only :o)

You are awesome !

Wichtiges Thema, und schön, dass du es aufgegriffen hast. Ich habe eine ganz ähnliche Einstellung zu meinem Körper, aber dafür musste ich deutlich älter werden. Ich lebe diese Einstellung aber anders aus, ich liebe z.B. Mode und setze mich viel damit auseinander. Ich glaube, wenn man erwachsen wird, tanzt man immer auf einem Seil und muss das Gleichgewicht finden zwischen Akzeptanz durch Anpassung/Ähnlichkeit auf der einen Seite und Individualität auf der anderen. Wir leben ja alle in einem sozialen Kontext, und da gibt es immer beide Kräfte. Und klar muss man alle akzeptieren... dennoch ertappe ich mich leider immer wieder dabei, wie ich die offensichtlich operierten innerlich verurteile und nicht mehr ernst nehmen kann. Für mich sagen sie damit aus: Ich komme nicht klar mit mir und kann nicht in Würde älter werden. Und das ist für mich das Gegenteil von Attraktivität und Schönheit. Das Gegenteil von Selbstliebe. Schade finde ich das. Kontroverses Thema, ich weiß. 😂 Mach weiter so! 🙋‍♀️

This was a great video.

"perfect" faces are so boring. people who have features that is bigger or smaller is much more interesting to look at. I think you have a lovely face.

Good perspective on appearances! I've felt pressure to look good and my best for six decades and it's just way too much to think about how I look so much of the time. It's good to examine why that is. Also, is that the tank top you re-engineered? nice work!

WOW that was a smooth intro I love it hahahhahahahh

But you look really beautiful sister👍

👏👏👏👏 You are brilliant 👌👌😍😍😍😍😍😍

you are beautiful the way you look and besides i think anyone is good enough how they look

Totally agree ! 😃👏

Es ist viel leichter gut auszusehen als ein guter und aufrichtiger Mensch zu sein. Darauf sollten wir uns etwas mehr besinnen. 💚

I actually really like your nose. I’m not white and bigger noses are normal to me. I’ve always thought white girls look so cool and beautiful when they have noses that don’t fit eurocentric beauty standards. I like strong noses.

🙏 thank you

What was it like having cancer as a child? If you feel comfortable talking about it I would be interested watching a video on the topic 💕

We should not care how we look, we should not care how others look. There is a series named “See” it’s about a pandemic that made everyone blind and how they live after it. In The series they make a statement that is truly crazy to me they talk about how vision is a blessing but The humans made it a curse, its a great view in my oppinion and it makes 100% sense

Another thing... I understand you talked about how your hair gets really oily naturally but one thing I've been doing is only mechanically cleaning my hair. I have hard water too and when I tried to use it it made not using shampoo impossible. Did you ever try using a boar bristle brush? Sorry for commenting this on this specific video but I thought of it since you mentioned growing your hair out again.

Oh my - this couldn't have come at a more interesting time to be honest. I have your hair and I actually live in Austria but am from Los Angeles and am visiting here for a few months. I found that in Europe, it's not such an issue. Here, it's like whut. People think you're either angry, gay, or just weird. Or edgy...depending on how you're dressing and presenting yourself. I have realized the huge importance of how hair plays a factor in how people respond to you (depending on where you live) and it's been quite jarring to get so stared at here. It's quite uncomfortable. But will I grow it out? Oh hell no. xoxo

To me it isn't an be-all end-all, but I do find it quite important how I look and how others present themselves (looks and what/how they say things. Just because it usually says something about the person.

Hello! Im a 17 girl who is trying to accept her body and not depeding from others thoughts …I suffered from an eating disorder 2 years ago and Im still fighting agaist some of bad concepts that are stuck in my head about my body and the way I present to others …thank you so much for sharing this video,I needed it❤️ (also sorry If my english isnt perfect)

The older I get the less I care about every single small detail. When I was younger I was thinking about it all the time what other people think and if they notice small imperfections etc. I had a really unrealistic image of myself. I was wearing clothes and makeup I didn’t even like just to fit in and look a certain way. When I was in my twenties I had therapy and it really changed the way I think. Two years ago I had a nose job and decided to try lip fillers because those two things genuinely bothered me for 15 years. I do not regret anything. I feel so much better, I wear less makeup, I’m more confident and now at 31 I feel like I’ve accepted myself and I’m not bothered by looking in the mirror. The difference is that before I was doing everything for other people’s sake and now I’m doing it for myself. It’s a huge difference.

You are beautiful inside and out:)

You are inspiring!

It's great that you aknowledge your privileges. But some people can be overweight, have coloured skin, have seen their body changed after giving birth (things that are considered as beeing less lucky) and be super grateful for that ! I love what i call my "mommy belly" because it reminds me of what my body has done. And i love that i'm plump becaus it's part of my identity.

You are beautiful 😘💜💜💜💜

Hi Miss Beauty create pleasure for you and others,,,, So its formal if you are feeling beauty in yours all kind of work. Keep life like this in Natural way..

Lea, consider this, that you are young and thin. Your nose is good too, it is stright and symertical to your face. By the way, I think, that your face is symertical too- and it was my first thought, before you said that your face isn't symmertical. What's my point, is that you are a beautiful young woman. So it is easy for you accepting your body. But think about the people, who are really big problems with their anatomy, their faces ( sometimes, because of the illneses, obesity or just really asymmetical type of face). In such cases, it can be really difficult to accept it. Everyone prefers to have nice face, and thin healthy body, even without expensive fancy clothes, and jewellery 🙂

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There are people who have an imaginary Y axis, they just look at others & put them either above them & suffer from inferiority complex or below them & suffer from superiority complex. I have a X axis where everybody looks the same.

We are not our body.

You make me want go shave my hair

We are living in the ‘Age of Feelings’.

long hair isn‘t necessarily feminine. just think of native american men, do they look any feminine to you?😂 not to me, at least! some people don‘t think of gender at all when thinking about the length of their hair. some instead think of being natural and being in tune with what nature is trying to equip u with

i have a strong feeling that this is a lowkey response to gatis previous video about you.

But all is relative 😉

Why do you have a gallbladder if you aren't going to use it often?

The word privileged is arrogant, conceded.

You people are forgeting that caring about the way you look matters, because your body IS YOU! (And by body I mean inside and out)