Don’t Feel Harmed, And You Haven’t Been | The Philosophy of Marcus Aurelius
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Marcus Aurelius pointed out that regardless of the severity of circumstances, there’s always a choice in how we judge them. “Choose not to be harmed-and you won’t feel harmed. Don’t feel harmed-and you haven’t been,” he stated. Marcus’ instruction sounds easy, but it’s difficult to apply if we don’t understand what causes us to feel harmed and when we don’t have the wisdom to make a change. Luckily, the ancient Stoics provide this wisdom.
The work Meditations by Marcus Aurelius contains several ideas that shed another light on the experiences we usually consider harmful. His writings allow us to see our lives differently and change the way we think about the hardships we face, so we can be, as he wrote it, “like the rock that the waves keep crashing over.” This video expands upon several passages from the Meditations that could help us feel less harmed. Don’t feel harmed, and you haven’t been - The Philosophy of Marcus Aurelius
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00:00 - Intro
02:45 - The pain of judgment
06:33 - Are we asking the impossible?
09:56 - Seeing the beauty in adversity
12:57 - Focusing on ourselves
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@princessrojas3252 3 жыл бұрын
Your channel is one of the reasons why I'm still alive. Thank you.
@jepsen1977 3 жыл бұрын
Give yourself a little more credit than that, please.
@boritico25 3 жыл бұрын
God bless...
@boritico25 3 жыл бұрын
Princess Rojas, hang in there sister, One Love ❤
@spork4924 3 жыл бұрын
You are the reason why you're still alive. You're doing great :)
@monicawerner5762 3 жыл бұрын
I know what you mean.
@Dacademeca 3 жыл бұрын
*"The happiness of your life depends upon the quality of your thoughts."* - Marcus Aurelius
@licandres01 2 жыл бұрын
That's a misquotation actually
@alfaalfa9488 2 жыл бұрын
@@licandres01 would you honor us by pointing out your view ?
@pippipster6767 2 жыл бұрын
And the quality of your thoughts depends upon how your life is going.
@snape539 2 жыл бұрын
@a moron op?
@lgr6709 2 жыл бұрын
ABSOLUTELY CORRECT MARCUS AURELIUS.(in my humble opinion). I'll do a RETURNISHAN (PUN): *"The quality or satisfaction of your life depends essentially on the quality of your thoughts" *
@Dacademeca 3 жыл бұрын
*"Waste no more time arguing about what a good man should be. Be one."* - Marcus Aurelius
@markofsaltburn 3 жыл бұрын
“Quote” - Some Guy
@tanojiro 3 жыл бұрын
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@ishzsbxux 3 жыл бұрын
That's a good one
@pohfattpatrickchang4448 3 жыл бұрын
@@markofsaltburn 00qÀàa,Àà
@newuser689 3 жыл бұрын
- the guy who spent much of the meditations writing what characteristics make a good man
@Zed324 2 жыл бұрын
"It's not our problem when people hate or despise us. It's their problem". - Marcus Aurelius
@bennyheadofthechairmen8808 Жыл бұрын
Do you like Bulgaria?
@kerry1551 Жыл бұрын
Yes!!!
@bentobarreirinhas5702 11 ай бұрын
depends on what they are willing to do to us
@TKUA11 10 ай бұрын
Yes and no
@Dowlphin 8 ай бұрын
Was it not a quote by Adolf Hitler?
@sirlagsalot101 2 жыл бұрын
Stoicism has done more for my mental health than any drug or doctor ever could
@nativeamericancowboy5028 2 жыл бұрын
Agreed
@undrwatropium3724 Жыл бұрын
You haven't tried mushrooms 🍄
@spitfire3311 Жыл бұрын
@@undrwatropium3724 I’ve done both. No reason they can’t both be equally helpful, or one might be more helpful for you. I think they work well together though.
@Dowlphin 8 ай бұрын
What I don't like about stoicism is the slight smell of nihilism and selfishness. Stoicism seems like a prime candidate for tedtalkificated corruption. (If it would be corruption at all.)
@damondominique 3 жыл бұрын
Where has this therapist been my entire life
@pits7035 2 жыл бұрын
There is a channel called daily stoic. May u find ua Peace
@amirsajadi5694 2 жыл бұрын
Mood sis
@Drvm614 2 жыл бұрын
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@LierinES 2 жыл бұрын
My exact thoughts when I saw this in my recommended.
@anmolgandhi9835 2 жыл бұрын
Did not expect to find my favourite KZfaq in the comments section here - hmu if you’re in Vienna anytime soon :D
@nurulkarim6525 3 жыл бұрын
Loss is nothing but change, and change is nature's delight. - Marcus Aurelius.
@juddotto3660 3 жыл бұрын
“I’m living everyday like a hustle, another drug to juggle. Another day, another struggle.” - Biggie Smalls
@stardestroyer6272 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you, needed this.
@montacap 3 жыл бұрын
Ok ok . I was raped as a child by my brother he refuses to even say he is sorry . what change should i feel the world had in mind for me ?I am working at fixing his mess he left for me at now 43 .
@randalbuhler9042 3 жыл бұрын
Truth
@nurulkarim6525 3 жыл бұрын
@@montacap sorry to hear that
@robertcronin6603 3 жыл бұрын
"For the mind that expects too much, life is continually at fault" ... excellent 👌
@sterix_gg 2 жыл бұрын
So what classifies as too much then I think is the question? Obviously everyone would define that differently but how? How do we weigh an expectation to conclude whether it's too much or not? Somewhere I once heard that expectation equals desire+belief in the same place. If that is the case, then 90% of our expectations are actually just desires. Just us asking for things but not believing in the possibility of having them, hence the eventual disappointment. So I suppose the statement holds truth, sure - don't expect more than what you're able to believe in and you won't be disappointed. But how if not through aiming for more can we get more? How would one grow their faith if not by asking for more, although... we've already done plenty of asking... so I suppose it's time we focused on bolstering our faith, our ability to believe in the possibility of having what we want, whatever that may be. Because desire without belief is a contradicting state, one which feels anything but good.
@Dzanarika1 Жыл бұрын
Entitlement comes to mind.
@beadnix 11 ай бұрын
💥
@Dowlphin 8 ай бұрын
The mind that expects very little might be the cause for the cynicism we observe.
@she_wizzdom4410 2 жыл бұрын
Philosophy keeps me alive. It gives me perspective. It allows me to enjoy the worst days of my life. Philosophy is the food for spirit.
@ufoufo9182 3 жыл бұрын
"Dishonest, jealous and shameless people are part of this world... Is a world without shameless people possible?" I have to embrace this instead of being appalled or offended by it.
@meditationmusicvlogs7445 3 жыл бұрын
so true .
@True38 2 жыл бұрын
@@meditationmusicvlogs7445 so me indeed.
@True38 2 жыл бұрын
Lying and jealousy is definitely something I've always despised throughout my whole life but I don't think being shameless is bad. People who want you to feel ashamed are only using it as a power tool. When you let go of any shame that you have, your life will actually be much better and productive. It does not make you a bad person at all, yet everybody out there is trying to make you feel ashamed for everything like eating meat or whatnot. Fuck that shit! Live your life and do as you please. Feeling ashamed is good for noone.
@cellardoor199991 2 жыл бұрын
It's the Yin/Yang of Life. Embrace the Dark. Trust me, I know. Gonna get a Yin/Yang for my next tattoo.
@genkiferal7178 2 жыл бұрын
@@True38 shame is usually used against others to control them. being shameless might just make you a bad ass. Depends on what you are doing, though. Directly harming others doesn't make you a bad ass - just bad and an ass.
@Dacademeca 3 жыл бұрын
"The universe is change; our life is what our thoughts make it." - Marcus Aurelius
@montacap 3 жыл бұрын
Really so my thoughts at 8 years old made my brother rape me now my thoughts told me if you want to keep alive shut down all memories . then at 20 i got married and found a man that did not want to hurt me . That woke up the beast called flashbacks which came with rage blinding pain and decades of hate . But yes thoughts are what makes life happen . He was 17 I was 8 . When the flashbacks came I called him and told him he called me a liar mom told me she still loved her son . So I cut them all out . My rapist " brother " has found god and told him sorry but still has not told me sorry . My oldest brother is trying to get us together for a "family" reunion . Really ?
@georgebell9634 2 жыл бұрын
😂😂😂
@JZGreengo 2 жыл бұрын
@montacap I have a similar case of ptsd but we really did shape our memory loss by our thoughts and emotions by repressing them so we don’t hurt as much, there’s no drug out there can fix this kind of trauma, it’s time and better thoughts, the longer we spend hell bent on the event that caused us suffering the longer we continue to suffer, I’ve learned now to move on but I have little memory of life because I chose to let go of the past, at least I’m here to live and to improve and I live in the moment now, something I struggled with before
@sterix_gg 2 жыл бұрын
@@JZGreengo Actually there is something like a drug, it's called Ayahuasca. It's considered the most powerful psychedelic known to man. Personally I'll be on my way to having that experience in a few months cuz no matter what I do and how much I improve, some way somehow I always revert back to the shitty thoughts that make me wanna kms... And sure, it's about thoughts and shit but one can't deny there are things buried inside so deep we may not even remember them and yet these things still control us and hence our lives.
@JZGreengo 2 жыл бұрын
@@sterix_gg I get it but from my own experience, drugs do nothing, they just provide temporary relief
@dogsleddinginiowa Жыл бұрын
“Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.” - Marcus Aurelius
@favouritemusic8959 10 ай бұрын
I really wish. Unfortunately words do hurt us. But thanks for reminding us of these aspirational words.
@Dowlphin 8 ай бұрын
@@favouritemusic8959 _Sticks and stones are hard on bones._ _Aimed with angry art,_ _Words can sting like anything._ _But silence breaks the heart._ - Phyllis McGinley
@beatleme2 Жыл бұрын
Pain is a moment - suffering is a story
@Dowlphin 8 ай бұрын
You are applying different standards. Pain can span time as stories can. Pain over time is already a story. *Suffering is pain resisted.* - It doesn't need a time function. The moment you are experiencing pain, you can suffer through resistance in that moment.
@saistrology 2 жыл бұрын
When the harm started in your childhood, the journey to stop perceiving/feeling harm is long and arduous.
@dougwhiley4028 Жыл бұрын
As an adult I looked forward to leaving that pain behind. But I ran into new pain.
@va_esiahvi Жыл бұрын
I am diagnosed with PTSD years ago, and I've stopped getting treatment because I don't feel any better and instead I tried walking and spending more time on nature. I stayed at a countryside in the Philippines for almost 6months, slowly and slowly I found my peace and I realized that the person inside this skull is different from the person outside of it; so slowly I tried controlling my thoughts by meditating and taking a long walks to the hill, and picking woods on my wayback, (I didn't just find peace I also have a wood to cook my meals and keep me warm 😂) that's how and what I did to get sane, to take control over my thoughts and mind.
@bennyheadofthechairmen8808 Жыл бұрын
Sounds tranquil
@dougwhiley4028 Жыл бұрын
I problem with therapy is that you are encouraged to re live trauma. That keeps the trauma fresh.
@urbanwolfep7195 10 ай бұрын
Nature walks help me as well.
@cmcn1434 3 жыл бұрын
When I was younger I accepted any treatment I received from anyone. The moment I believed I deserved to be treated better endless amounts of suffering entered my life. You can try to avoid some misfortune by surrounding yourself with people that will likely respect you but that isn’t a guarantee that they will and the general population will still treat you as they see fit. Now that I accept that how people treat me is their right and just a reflection of who they are not who I am I do feel more at ease.
@PersephoneRising333 3 жыл бұрын
🙏
@lindaschultz7900 3 жыл бұрын
But if we are attacked by someone, they still have to pay the price by going to jail. I guess the tutorial is just about how to accept the pain of what happened and not dwell on it.
@ruthshere9468 2 жыл бұрын
this is very interesting. if you look for your happiness from things ouside of you, you will not find it. my hope for you is you learn to build your world as you see fit.
@paige172 2 жыл бұрын
thanks, gonna apply this to my life. :)
@pikabiga 2 жыл бұрын
🙌🙌 going through this now, and came to the same conclusion. I deserve to be happy, and if anyone else has a problem with it, that’s their issue, not mine. No matter who they are to me, if they cannot respect my wishes, it is not my problem
@PsychedelicActualization 3 жыл бұрын
Anticipation of pleasure is, in itself, a very considerable pleasure. And anticipation of pain is, in itself, a very considerable suffering. 👀
@100ghillie 3 жыл бұрын
I understand this deeply, looking forward to the bowl at the end of the day is better than the actual bowl at the end of the day.
@silentrotation6541 3 жыл бұрын
Anticipation of pleasure leads to addiction because it sets in motion the expectation that the thing anticipated will automatically provide pleasure. Then we get the habit of thinking that pleasure absolutely depends on that external something.. and we give away our power to generate happiness by relaxing into the mind itself.
@100ghillie 3 жыл бұрын
@@silentrotation6541 yep I also understand intimately.
@elsquibbs 2 жыл бұрын
It took me forever to realize that regardless of how I wanted individual situations to work out, my wishes were irrelevant. Things happen as they should. It also took me forever to realize that all of those outcomes lead me to exactly where I am now, so I'm glad things happened as they did instead of how I wanted at the time.
@vicentecarneiro4985 3 жыл бұрын
#1 Your content is A+ #2 Your breakdowns are superb #3 The background music is a perfrct fit #4 Last but not the least, Your voice and the way you speak in these videos, bro it's like everything is right and blended just perfectly.
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you very much for your compliment!
@indiraghai7972 2 жыл бұрын
True
@creativelady7 2 жыл бұрын
Yes, you are so right. I hear it all the same way! I hope he keeps it going like this.
@kylelevasseur5789 Жыл бұрын
Well said
@Dowlphin 8 ай бұрын
@ Why are you getting so invested over a compliment? 😉 Shouldn't you be equally excited about hatred coming your way? 😉
@ReynaSingh 3 жыл бұрын
Relinquish expectations is necessary to avoid pain and suffering. We’ve become too attached to comfort anyhow
@jesse6029 3 жыл бұрын
Good point , my Punjabi sister
@Felipe-zl1rj 3 жыл бұрын
True, but so so so hard
@yahona3 3 жыл бұрын
How is that not "losing hope"?
@pohfattpatrickchang4448 3 жыл бұрын
@@jesse6029 qq
@mateor7302 3 жыл бұрын
So true!
@FutureMindset 3 жыл бұрын
The most insightful technique marcus aurelius taught is negative visualization. It's in your ability to imagine the worst possible scenario and accept it that we'll then be able to live as true stoics.
@southernsoul152 3 жыл бұрын
🙏🏽 I needed to read this just now. Thank you for sharing 🌻
@fujimuto4277 3 жыл бұрын
Would this be a kind of shadow work? I am just starting to really learn how to use spirituality not just for discovering the transcendent dimension within me but also use this capacity to help my poisonous or cancerous tendencies to evolve. So it seems like the concept of shadow work is that practical part that I was searching for in all the awakening teachings. I would really appreciate it if some of you guys could talk about this and their experience of embodying awakening and evolving.
@daniel-zh9nj6yn6y 3 жыл бұрын
Samurais did that too.
@tempesnyder6243 3 жыл бұрын
It sounds fascinating! I am going to look that up and learn how it is done! I am good at blaming and judging, perhaps this will help me get those things under control.
@FutureMindset 3 жыл бұрын
@@fujimuto4277 To be honest, I don't really think it's a spiritual thing. It's just a matter of imagining the worst possible fate so that you're prepared for it and aren't caught off guard.
@PsychedelicActualization 3 жыл бұрын
"Fear is pain arising from the anticipation of evil." ~ Aristotle 🙏🏽♥️
@naturesfinest2408 3 жыл бұрын
@Auhuhhuu being attacked or killed by a grizzly bear is an "evil". Your not giving the quote its fair due.
@kharatoh7638 2 жыл бұрын
@Auhuhhuu Would you call yourself getting mauled by a bear a good then? If not, then point proven. The act of the bear attacking you is evil/bad for you, the bear itself is not.
@thawnesrevenge5249 2 жыл бұрын
@Auhuhhuu in can be in relation to man. Aristotle was most likely smart enough to differentiate nature from the capability of evil. Your own example is keeping you from other perspectives of the words
@halaenahurisse7799 3 жыл бұрын
"Stoicism is a great practice because it helps us to accept everything that is happening around us and have an abundance mindset"
@yamum6498 2 жыл бұрын
it really isn't, it's self destructive as a growth philosophy. ( good idea, bad in practice in all aspects of daily life)
@Bobin10101 2 жыл бұрын
@@yamum6498 ok “Ya Mum” I’ll take your philosophical advice. What would you offer as an alternative?
@yamum6498 2 жыл бұрын
@@Bobin10101 Do drugs
@husseinmoussa2947 2 жыл бұрын
@@yamum6498 And why did it help marcus an emperor? And what alternative do you have?
@yamum6498 2 жыл бұрын
@@husseinmoussa2947 Alternative: make up your own mind.
@Diana-gt1rv 3 жыл бұрын
“Choose not to be harmed, and you won’t feel harmed.” I really like this stoic prospective.
@snorunge591 3 жыл бұрын
Bro i started watching ur "self hate" video to help my girlfriend and now i listen to you 24/7... even in class, lunch, on the bus.... ur voice is just so calm and it makes me calm
@spiritualanarchist8162 3 жыл бұрын
And let's not forget this in't about toothache or a mild depression. This was written by a soldier, in an age without modern medicine. Pain, sickness and loss were a daily part of life those days.
@georgebell9634 2 жыл бұрын
You can experience he did today with modern medicine
@paige172 2 жыл бұрын
you forgot to mention brutal forms of torture.
@spiritualanarchist8162 2 жыл бұрын
@@paige172 torture rape and death. Those good old times hey 😅
@yamum6498 2 жыл бұрын
it wasn't written at all, just a past presentation of an afterthought of a man just as special as you or i.
@spiritualanarchist8162 2 жыл бұрын
@@yamum6498 yep, a Roman emperor, with total power over everyone and everything, yet being able not letting that power corrupt him , but living the life of a stoic instead ..Just like you or i . Nothing special hey ?
@rebelpoxy 2 жыл бұрын
"Keep your expectations low and you'll never be disappointed" -Kratos
@lgr6709 2 жыл бұрын
* "You have to have high aspirations, moderate expectations and small needs" * -William Howard Stein.
@jenna2431 3 жыл бұрын
This is exactly what I've been saying for over a year especially: Stop believing everything dang thing you think.
@shaonic 3 жыл бұрын
You have made me realize the error of my ways... I tried to change the world and in turn let it change me....
@KlaxontheImpailr 3 жыл бұрын
Watching this, it felt like there was a giant wrench in my brain turning a rusty bolt and releasing some great tension in me. I actually feel at peace.
@she_wizzdom4410 2 жыл бұрын
Ah that was a deeply satisfying analogy
@aw7331 Жыл бұрын
Beautiful Eric
@KlaxontheImpailr Жыл бұрын
@@aw7331 thank you! 🥹❤️👍🏻 It’s always difficult for me to describe what’s going on in my head, especially since I’m on the spectrum. So whenever I do manage to express myself correctly it feels miraculous.
@normalman8447 3 жыл бұрын
I'm reading Stoicism for inner peace. It's a freaking masterpiece, man, congratulations 😋
@1jotun136 3 жыл бұрын
Finally fully embracing Buddhist non attachment has freed me from so much.
@MsGechi77 3 жыл бұрын
Same.
@Mugairyuiai 3 жыл бұрын
So now you are attached to non- attachment😬
@1jotun136 3 жыл бұрын
@@Mugairyuiai not really. I know that even at my age, I can still waver and give too much attention to things outside of my control.
@benmcreynolds8581 2 жыл бұрын
This is the art form I am trying to practice the most. To be in a chaotic room, filled with people, but internally being at peace. Contentment is true happiness 🤘 heaven isn't something someone else can give, it's all inside of you
@rob4631 3 жыл бұрын
"Can't touch this" - MC Hammer
@rebeccagoldi6565 2 жыл бұрын
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@YOSOYAKBAL 2 жыл бұрын
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@robyndawn 3 жыл бұрын
You can feel that way and tell yourself that but if the trauma is serious it may build into a breakdown and become worse later than it originally would have been. In my experience processing it healthier than choosing to not be harmed.
@jepsen1977 3 жыл бұрын
That's the paradox isn't it?
@robyndawn 3 жыл бұрын
@@jepsen1977 hmm, I'm not sure. That's just my experience in "choosing to not be harmed".
@incanthatus8182 3 жыл бұрын
Yeah, it's a kinda fine line between acceptance and victim blaming. If people who went through certain circumstances experience the same kind of problems afterwards, is it really a problem of those people's minds? I think it's good to work on both, getting more resilient, but also changing the circumstances when possible
@robyndawn 3 жыл бұрын
@@incanthatus8182 good point. I use to feel really ashamed from victim blaming from Christianity and even new ageism or secular people with no experience of what I deal with that its just mind over matter. This would have had the same affect but I'm numb to it now and keep those people at a distance. I just accept health issues and being an hsp isn't always a choice. Perhaps that's the best I can do not to be harmed. Interesting topic.
@dockcom 3 жыл бұрын
Sometimes to got ta scream and shout let it all out
@gareget 3 жыл бұрын
"The object of life is not to be on the side of the majority, but to escape finding oneself in the ranks of the insane." - Marcus Aurelius
@Esmeralda-gt6uf 2 жыл бұрын
If governments were sincere in wanting to save money, they would build asylums for the sane rather than for the demented.
@she_wizzdom4410 2 жыл бұрын
@@Esmeralda-gt6uf everyone is demented. Most demented are those who appear the most ‘normal’.
@pits7035 Жыл бұрын
That's for sure
@ronprice1819 2 жыл бұрын
In some degree this goes for aging, sickness, diet, lifestyles... If you worry about something it will grow. Of you forget or give no attention to something it will usually shrink. I have been thinking of this in terms of how some people can live as drug addicted , homeless, thieves. Yet seem to live such a destructive life for years without much visible effect. I have come to feel that atleast a good portion of these people exist in this way because they do not have shame of it. And in alot of ways actually enjoy what they do. But the addicts who hate themselves and feel ashamed, alot of this type will deteriorate quickly.
@ShogunOrta 2 жыл бұрын
It is not that you are harmed and feel nothing, that would be psychotic. Its the level to which you let that harm dictate things upon receiving it. Rememeber, you are still capable of so much, no matter what happens. Imagination is alwats what frees us.
@froggo7215 2 жыл бұрын
Exactly at one of the toughest days in my life this channel was recommended to me and saved my life. You are a blessing to the world for making these videos
@annabellacrewe8858 2 жыл бұрын
Accepting the unacceptable is a very difficult task, because we are human beeings ! Thank You Marcus and Einzelg - as gold to ones soul !
@neo6657 3 жыл бұрын
Can't tell you how good the timing of this video was. You are doing an amazing work, sir. Keep this up!
@magicalsimmy 4 ай бұрын
There are times in my life where I have consciously made myself upset about something that I felt, for a brief moment, that I could have chosen to not be upset about. There are times I have been genuinely upset (lack of sleep, an already bag day and other factors play roles), but I can remember a few occasions where being upset was a choice, or being upset later upon ruminating about it became a choice. It’s easy now, in the late hours of night when I am relaxed, to tell myself I can choose differently in the future, and sometimes on good days, I do, and it does get easier the more I do it. I cherish the days I am able to choose not to be upset over injustices, unfairness and entitled people trying to take advantage of me, and with practice, I look forward to being able to say “No” and eventually not be bothered when someone starts yelling at me because they refuse to hear my “No” and to just calmly repeat myself until they either give up trying to manipulate me or I choose to walk away from the conflict without trying to explain myself or people please. I eventually want to be able to say “no” to someone without leaving things open to negotiation or explaining myself, and if they get mad about that, to see it as their problem, not mine.
@Dan_Ben_Michael 2 жыл бұрын
I try to be a stoic and it does help me in times of crisis. I come from a family of perennial worriers and that would also explain the predisposition towards heart disease and suicide which also runs in my family. Reading philosophy and meditation has helped me get through things which would’ve broken me before. I guess you just have to learn to let go and be as least resistant to things and go with the flow.
@OYOKO 2 жыл бұрын
Love the phrase “the mind is the ruler of the soul” and how suffering is optional. I guess the question is, how we can control our minds instead of the other way round. I enjoy watching your videos!
@Esmeralda-gt6uf 2 жыл бұрын
We may do this by thinking and by thinking about our thoughts.
@pyamju7419 3 жыл бұрын
Just a little share: I feel like I've been summoned to watch this SKKSKS I was abt to sleep, exhausted from crying, feeling very much unarmed of knowledge and skills which made me felt I could be harmed and intimidated anytime. I thank you very much for this! Such a big help! 😭❤️❤️
@anthonyhoward4743 3 жыл бұрын
stay strong.
@pyamju7419 3 жыл бұрын
@@anthonyhoward4743 thank u so much ლ !!
@pyamju7419 3 жыл бұрын
@Ali It's Nishiki from Donten ni Warau series! :)
@anthonyhoward4743 3 жыл бұрын
@@pyamju7419 and never forget you are not alone. last year I was at the end of my rope and I got talking to someone online She really helped me and I think I helped Her when Her partner was away. If you ever need someone to talk with, at etc just get in touch.
@arongardner4689 2 жыл бұрын
I feel exactly the same way. Tonigh I learned I am not alone. Thanks to everyone here for sharing your feelings.
@malcolmajayi2073 3 жыл бұрын
"Can't hurt me " said David Goggins 😂
@MindVersusMisery 3 жыл бұрын
I don't know if Goggins have read stoic philosophy. But if he hasn't - and he has come to the same conclusion as people like Marcus Aurelius through introspection - that makes stoic philosophy ever more solid; like a more universal Truth. When a perspective survives over time and over cultural space, then - to me - it seems much more legit.
@nomorediets 3 жыл бұрын
Exactly. 👍💪
@moenibus 2 жыл бұрын
a con man, a fraud. don't bring him here.
@mayankagrawal4648 2 ай бұрын
"pain is inevitable, suffering is optional" really brings a different perspective
@marshaalison1569 2 жыл бұрын
I need to watch this every day! I can accept some things that I can’t control, but my mind is still bothered when people close to me, like family, intentionally cause harm. If a stranger insults me, it’s easy to shrug it off. But when a family member rips me off financially, for example, it gets to me. I have to accept that some people are shameless, and sometimes those people will be family members.
@ICEcoldJT 3 жыл бұрын
“Can’t Hurt Me” - David Goggins
@Donecece Жыл бұрын
Your videos helps me move forward after a heartbreak, almost a breakdown
@newuser689 3 жыл бұрын
Writing an essay on Marcus Aurelius meditations, this came out at the perfect time!
@she_wizzdom4410 2 жыл бұрын
Would love to read it
@violet156 3 жыл бұрын
Your best video yet! Listened to it on repeat 6-7x! so much here, don’t expect the impossible, it’s not possible to only have good fortune. You are doing a great service by making these videos!
@MichaelTMoore 3 жыл бұрын
"Meditations" of Marcus Aurelius is one of few books that I'd feel lost in my life without..
@skyhigh2118 8 ай бұрын
I think the "choice" of being harmed or not gets predecided during our childhood. The need for love and acceptance can be so overwhelming if one did not receive those things as a child. As we grow older we are told to repress those feelings and emotions and that makes us angry and bitter deep down. Everytime someone insults us, those angry emotions instantly tell us "not this time", and we lash out, or worse, we supress it further and get even more resentful. Trying to not feel that way can not be a solution because at the end one is still not feeling loved and accepted and therefore ignoring their need for those things will only spiral one into a vicious cycle of hate and resentment towards the world. I don't have the answer to what we must do, all I know is that we will not stop untill we get what we want 😔
@crashmer 2 жыл бұрын
No one chooses suffering it's a reaction of a complex set of circumstances. You do the best you can to understand it, the learning is the freedom.
@yetidodger6650 2 жыл бұрын
Subconsciously people choose to suffer.
@matthewsanchez4047 3 жыл бұрын
🎶 Ain't never gonna break my stride, Ain't ever gonna Hold Me Down Oh No🎶 I gotta keep on grooving🤟🏼
@michaeldetroit.8125 2 жыл бұрын
“Resisting adversity and pain, but it’s part of the game of life” yes, indeed. How dare I expect no significant pain, anguish and adversity. It hurts man, real bad. Enduring and moving on, with inner strength and conviction, let us endure. As John Lennon sang, play the game of existence to the end…
@dgexpressllc7450 Жыл бұрын
My life experience with "good" and "bad" pain is especially true for pregnancy. I noticed that women who treat their pregnancy as an illness have the hardest pregnancy while those women who understand that pregnancy is a natural process that comes with discomfort and extreme pain in labor but for the best outcome (beautiful blessing baby), have the best pregnancy.
@MathewsNunes Жыл бұрын
Very good video. It has a long time that I don't feel so unanxious and relaxed as I'm now, after watching this video... Releasing my back from the load of "feeling harmed by other people's insult" really made me feel at ease.
@metamorphosis_77 3 жыл бұрын
Individuals can act in any way they find plausible, and this allows them to accrue benefits or suffer costs, depending on the circumstances. The responsibility that our actions necessitate is the only true weapon we can exploit in order to antagonize the nefariousness of the world around us. Marcus Aurelius realized the power of that weapon and that helped him become an exemplary emperor despite adversity and despite his weaknesses. That is what makes him a respectful example for all of us.
@JasonNewsted420 2 ай бұрын
For all my dudes out there, stay strong and live to see another day. Silent struggle connects us ❤ we're gonna make it
@maddmaxxx37 2 жыл бұрын
Easier said than done. Most people have emotions and heart. It doesn't go away because of an idea. You can try to be "stoic" all you want but eventually you will snap.
@Dzanarika1 Жыл бұрын
I think, it helps if we are aware of this concept. However, we have to choose our battles, daily. We cannot let everything bothers us as it is not good for our own sanity and well-being.
@abdiabdi1990 2 жыл бұрын
How I’ve been thinking lately is I don’t deserve to feel hurt so I just choose not to be.
@MrGreen-oi5ey 3 жыл бұрын
"The less baggage you carry, the more you realize this present moment has everything you need. So if living in the past brings you comfort then you are surely in the way of the Living." -My Understanding
@CT--jv2ur 3 жыл бұрын
Good words, good words.
@Esmeralda-gt6uf 2 жыл бұрын
*Here and now is all there is.*
@kerry1551 Жыл бұрын
"End Quote" is just fantastic 👌 when you say.
@c.s.hayden3022 2 жыл бұрын
Ever notice how the people that like to talk about their problems always get sick? The mindset fulfills it.
@PraiseAra Жыл бұрын
Your content is changing my outlook on life for the better. Thank you
@bhoomikachaudhari1784 3 жыл бұрын
So thankful for this channel! Always publishes time-worthy and knowledgeable content 💯🌟
@nancyhanscom1374 11 ай бұрын
2023...so blessed these are being brought 🙏 to us again. They never get old.
@user-xy8qk9gz7g 2 ай бұрын
Very good advice. Sometimes we understand, but when facing adversity, we become weak. I like the quote: Choose not to be harm and you won’t feel harmed. Don’t feel harmed - and you haven’t been.
@Fair-to-Middling 3 жыл бұрын
2:10 Unfortunately, crashing waves eventually wear away the rock.
@yusufmurat150 3 жыл бұрын
Take it as it is haha
@100ghillie 3 жыл бұрын
And the rock goes from a roughness, void of uniformity and beauty (meaning),, to a smooth ideal only through the beating of waves (life)
@orionlleyessa1306 2 жыл бұрын
But the rock doesnt get upset about it.
@BigAnt123456 3 жыл бұрын
Amazing! Just finished your book Stoicism for Inner Peace.... such a great read! Thank you
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you, and that’s great to hear.
@ajithsidhu7183 2 жыл бұрын
@ please do one on how we can be like colour sergeant bourne in zulu please
@ajithsidhu7183 2 жыл бұрын
@ please on how to build his traits ,character and stoicism
@Victor_Andrei Жыл бұрын
The fact that at some point in history this was the most powerful man in the world just boggles the mind.
@eririe1451 Жыл бұрын
Have just had a mental breakdown last night, honestly thought im just going to stop trying anymore. But in actuality, morning still comes and life do goes on.
@GamerSix66 3 жыл бұрын
Once again man, knocking it out of the park with these videos. You truly deserve recognition my friend
@musicbeyondwithboushra 3 жыл бұрын
"The only real power we have is choosing our response. We can't choose what happens to us" _(Leila Janah)
@maddie8415 8 ай бұрын
Nothing has made me more content in life than just changing/lowering my expectations for the world and my life experience. When I say this people usually try to demonize me for it, or twist my meaning by implying that I'm willing to accept poor treatment from others. Quite the opposite, I realize that other people can be problematic and expect to run into people who are counterproductive to my purpose. This makes it less painful when I have negative interactions. It helps me to react to them in a healthier way, so toxic people can't truly access me or my feelings. But this is less about people, and more about the times when things simply don't work out as planned or as they "should". It's accepting things as they are so I can find some joy and purpose in reality.
@TimeWizard727 2 жыл бұрын
Guys, I had a stroke at 24 and put my entire brain back together without rehab because the nurse at the hospital said "youre too young to have a stroke" and sent me home that night. Physical pain and its suffering isn't the end all be all. I made a full recovery, even after having a 15%, and I'm actually doing better than before said stroke. The human body and mind can endure way more than we think, and yet is a duality of being so fragile. I found the scar on my brain, the byproduct of a life worth of extreme stress, a beautiful gift as it brought me enlightenment and every day gratitude. Take care of yourselves. Value your lives. 💓
@nativeamericancowboy5028 2 жыл бұрын
I like your idea, however, repeated attacks in the same spot breaks most people down though. Example: Thankfully you only had one stroke. However, if you had one stroke everyday for 1 year, Your Conclusion about pain maybe a bit different.
@nativeamericancowboy5028 2 жыл бұрын
On second thought🤔 .... I suppose if you suffer the same event over and over you’ll become numb to it. Maybe you’re right 🤷🏽♂️
@damianwong7503 2 жыл бұрын
Thanks for your work. Your content is life-changing and brings much needed comfort and perspective into people’s lives.
@practisingthelawofnature2705 3 жыл бұрын
Health is the greatest gift, contentment the greatest wealth, faithfulness the best relationship. -Buddha (morningfame)
@meditationmusicvlogs7445 3 жыл бұрын
how to practice the law of nature on my daughter who lost her job.
@hunterluxton5976 Жыл бұрын
There is a succinct beauty to your choice of words. No inane waffle or silly American accent. Great video.
@SenseiTeachingOfficial 2 жыл бұрын
Your videos are a light in the darkness of caothic human existent. Thank you so much for your work.
@rodka2334 2 жыл бұрын
This change my life's perspective as a whole. I'm still wondering why you still haven't got 1 million subs, cause you're so really really good at doing these kinds of stuff and it's inspiring at the same time life changing. Much loveee.
@kraemo8473 3 жыл бұрын
Einzelgänger gives such great insight in his videos on life. It's stuff like this that inspires me to create videos on self growth as well. I wanted to say you are appreciated!
@beggu6795 3 жыл бұрын
When one conquers oneself, oneself conquers the world.
@brahmadasbyron180 2 жыл бұрын
@ 6:40 That poor fellow watching the good the bad & the ugly shouldn’t complain. That’s a great movie!
@taylormemes8394 3 жыл бұрын
this kinda has a "if you feel depressed just stop feeling depressed" vibe to it
@Ellis_B Жыл бұрын
Lol pretty straightforward isn't it my friend
@princesscrybaby9992 2 жыл бұрын
Damn!!! I love your videos!! So inspiring and motivating. So much you can learn.
@hitendrasingh01 Жыл бұрын
Your channel is giving me hope .
@myouounoanjii 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you, Einzel. Always appreciated.
@reallyaznokidding 3 жыл бұрын
When your circumstances as a young child have any of your parents hurt you.... Yeah, you'll feel hurt.
@anntrope491 3 жыл бұрын
I had a lot of trauma in my childhood....I recite the "DESIDERATE"..."YOU ARE A CHILD OF THE UNIVERSE, NO LESS THAN THE TREES & THE STARS, YOU HAVE A RIGHT TO BE HERE"..ALSO MY MANTRA..."THE EARTH IS MY MOTHER"...ALSO I CAME ACROSS DR. LES CARTER, (KZfaq), "SURVIVING NARCISSISM ", FOUND OUT MY MOTHER HAS A "COVERT, NARCISSISTIC PERSONALITY DISORDER ", I'M OK, SHE'S NOT OK...ALSO THE BUDDHIST THOUGHT HELPS, KZfaq UNDER "BUDDHIST ENLIGHTENMENT?"...HOPE THIS HELPS, & THE STOICISM. FOUND OUT I'M A LONER, & IT'S O.K., I HAVE A DOG THAT GIVES ME MORE UNCONDITIONAL LOVE THAN MY "MOTHER"(? sic.) Ever could.. love yourself, validate yourself, encourage yourself...these are things every kid needs, yet we didn't get. Therapy can help, takes a while...just don't be hard on yourself...whatever happened to you...you didn't deserve...some people say forgiveness, but sometimes that is difficult to do...I give it up to GOD TO FORGIVE THEM...HOPE YOU FIND JOY IN YOUR LIFE...LOVE YOUR SELF
@NevillesRightHand1905 2 жыл бұрын
@@anntrope491 Never mind the cap locks on, as someone pointed out, but I want to rather thank you for taking your precious time and sharing this valuable information with us. 🙏🏽💖✨.
@Esmeralda-gt6uf 2 жыл бұрын
@@anntrope491 💝💝💝💝
@shirokazama 3 жыл бұрын
Following your channel for a long time. In the lockdown period I gained inspiration and rational insights. The studies you have done and the way you lay the different philosophies out, makes them easily understood and absorbed by the individual. I appreciate what you do, and I’m sure I am not the only one with this opinion. Just ordered your book mentioned here. Thanks! Cheers!
@renethomsen7425 2 жыл бұрын
This is gold! Thank you🙏
@FluffyBunny9002 2 жыл бұрын
This is it. I truly feel like I'm at the edge, and this time I need to find my inner peace or it's just not happening.
@tonijohnson09 3 жыл бұрын
You have presented this idea in more ways than one and from different philosopher's perspective. It's not that I don't understand it or agree with it but when people rub me wrong I can't help but want to 🤬🤬🤬
@berbudy 3 жыл бұрын
That part about seeing beauty in the jaw of beast, maybe living on earth is just to learn the undeniable role of "evil" without being evil ourselves, like yin need yang to teach each others role. Doesn't mean we can't imagine a better world for human to minimize unnecessary suffering though.
@malargrosis 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for making this video!
@916wetcustoms 3 жыл бұрын
Thanks brother , I needed this one today
@canadianrocker93 3 жыл бұрын
It's basically like being a Warrior in a garden instead of a gardener in a war. Prepare for the worst so when the worst happens you know what to do.
@cheesepuffs180love4 Жыл бұрын
Hey. I just wanted to thank you so much for creating the things you do! Marcus Arelius Meditations is the best I’m going to buy a copy right now. Thank you❤️
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