living alone is still better than living with wrong people.

living alone is HEAVEN!

I am 73 and so grateful to be living without a man criticizing everything I do and telling me how fat I am and how terrible I look the way my father did when I was young. Life is good now; it was awful then.

74 here. Healthy and alone. Privacy, solitude and independence in abundance. The BEST years of my life !!!!!

I am a 77 year old single, sound of body and mind. I'm a blue guy in a red town so I no longer have friends, but retirement has given me the opportunity to study anything I want, so I have a rich inner life that keeps me very satisfied indeed.

He is still healthy, doing things for himself at 84. That is good.

I am 82 years old, healthy, have family and friends and activities. I have my own condo and love living alone. I cook, entertain, work part-time, and do most of the things I did when I was younger. My little dog passed away a couple years ago. I will get another one if the rescue will take her/him back if something happens to me. (Most will). Most of my older friends like living alone, also. It depends on the individual and what they like and are used to.

I will be 68 next month. Love 😍 living alone. Never married. No kids. Happy 😊. Love my freedom. No nieces or nephews. Fine with me. My sister and brother and most of my friends have no kids. We like it that way 😊😊😊😊

l am destined to be alone, too lazy to keep in touch with people l knew, not keen in making new ones. And worse of not being interested in anyone's stories. I have no problem staying home for days and spending time in my dim apartment with curtains drawn most of the time. Absolutely, love being left alone and finding peace in my own solitude.

Living alone and loneliness are two different things. People can enjoy life even living alone. Have a blessed life!

I know a lot of seniors who are very active . They go on trips , live in beautiful homes , no money worries , awesome loving family , etc . But they say when they come back home to an empty place , they feel so alone and depressed. But nobody would think that about them ! I was shocked when they told me . Being alone is fine for some people. ( or so they say ) The saying goes , dont let the green grass fool you . And you can be in a house full of people and still feel alone . Pray much for one another . 🤗😇🙏

It's a beautiful apartment. I would not complain a word if I can afford to live like that ! We can be happier when we know to adjust our sense of contentment.

It is great that he didn't abandoned his cat. Some people abandon family members, children. Cat is fortunate to have loving father. Best wishes to the senior person.

He is a rich retiree.thats makes a whole lot of difference.

I know of two friends in their early 70s , alone and bedridden. It is when you lose your independence that you regret being alone with no one close enough to rely on. As long as one is independent, being solo is great! However be prepared for the loss of one's independence and the beginning of loneliness.

So incredibly sweet for him to care about his cat - what a beautiful soul!

It's impossible to stay alone if one is having chronic diseases...so most senior living alone means they are healthy, which is really a bless. Health is so precious.

Im widowed five years ...kids married...living slone for two years kept busy with house maintaining and the hobbies now my disabled brother stays with me since 2021. Lifestyle changed a bid but happy to have him living with me . I still miss my hubby and treasure the good well learned lessons of him...he was very intellectual stimulating sporty and my handyman.....missing even his complexities 😂.....but life goes on.....im dont live in a lonely habit stage but love my private headspace and treasure my independence dearly.🎉

It doesn't matter whether a senior is alone by choice or by circumstances, it is difficult and lonely. But getting old doesn't have to be like that. We can come together and help each other. This is the season to relax, now that we are free from responsibilities. Let's celebrate together.

I understand it well. I feel for him. I live alone as well. My wife had MS for 26 years. We were married 51 years. I cared for her at home for all of that time except the last few years when she went into a nursing home because she needed more care than I could give her at home. She wasn't able to stand or walk for the last 15 years. She passed away in June 2022. I am Coeliac and I cook sometimes. But mostly my main meals I buy from Gourmet Meals and they are delivered to my home. It is a good way to control the portion size. I keep well and walk about 11,000 steps a day. But I do get lonely sometimes. Occasionally I go on Seniors trips. I will not get married again.

I really appreciate that your Daddy take care of that cute kitty. He is such a kind-hearted person. 😻😻😻😻😻😻😻😻

He’s doing great. God bless him!! ❤

He looks very good for his and still lots of things for himself I am 66 yes lives alone do everything for myself but sometimes you feel lonely you children and they don't even look for you or call I am thankful that I am still able to do everything there are younger people who can't even do things for themselves due to illnesses I thank God every day🙏

I have lived alone for decades-no kids, two dogs, and a full life. I have failed retirement too many times to mention, because there is always something to do, a need to fill, a purpose to accept. My home is designed for accessibility as I age, and I plan to remain here. The key is to establish social interests when we are younger, so that we have them as we grow old.

My father passed on 6 months ago and I still feel so sad n cry everyday. Looking at Mr Kenneth, I miss my Papa so much.

I understand him very much Older people still likes their privacy ,but it's still Very pleasing to know that his children are willing to have him come and live with them

Daddy has a loving caring family ❤ maybe he could write a little cookbook or journal/memoir about his life with mom and family that he could pass down to his children.

You are so sweet to respect his independence while caring for him from the heart!

Loneliness is the most feared factor of any widow or widower. Some cope better than others but there is no escape of the feeling of loneliness regardless of how active you are socially when ur partners passed away. There is always a moment of loneliness and sadness in the hours, days, weeks, years and holidays.

I'm so glad to hear that the kids will take him in when he needs them.But ,right now he's trying to enjoy his independence.But yet he needs to find something to do because he still feels lonely

I am 76 and live with an adult daughter but she's very busy. I am alone but not lonely most of the time. I am in good health and finally could get into creative writing which has taken me to develop my writing skills. I am always busy and I am also thankful that i am active and doing what is best for me, and my mental health. It was a process but i made it!

What a sweet video!! Thanks for sharing.

He should plan a family dinner party at least once a week - a day to plan - shop - a day to cook - a day to party - a day to recover- a then time for a friend to entertain or a cause

I am 62.Staying alone from 1992.I do Yoga & meditation. My hobby is street photography. I teach English to poor kids. Motivating single women is my first priority. Like to be bystander & learn medicine. I am a student till death. God bless you all, siblings.

People are different. Some would enjoy being alone and do things they enjoyed like watching movies and playing games. While others would like company.

Hi Melinda! I am your new subscriber from San Francisco, California, USA. I can relate with your Dad. I choose to live independently as well because I do not want to rely on anyone on things that I can still do. Also, I am very active, strong, healthy and have a very good support system from my family. I wish all seniors watching this vlog, a healthier, stronger, and meaningful life!

It was so good to find your post. I'm in a similar situation. I'm a 70 yo widower content to live alone. I do what I want, when I want. Any problems, I deal with them. Great content.

He may be alone, but not lonely. 👍

Maybe consider starting a KZfaq channel for your dad to share his cooking. I’m sure many of us will be happy to watch!

Your dad still looks healthy and active for an 83 person.

He’s much better than lots of ppl , I am totally a lone , no wife no family whatsoever, at least he have a daughters and cat come over

I love living alone. Its a great blessing.

From my experience, quality and meaningful time spend with him is invaluable. U will hv no regrets later but only sweet memories.One day we will all walk the same path.

When one is content, happiness is easy to find. I treasure the peace and the sound of silence in my own home and garden. It s a good setting for meditation. I can meet friends for lunch or travel whenever I choose to. Among my personal interests and hobbies are reading, painting, gardening, bird watching, and cooking.

He looks like he is in his sixties! Edit: if you have elderly parents, make sure they have all the heavy items that they need, like a bag of rice or a box of detergent. Even showing up with a big watermelon is priceless. True, food delivery is a life saver.

So lovely ... allowing one's parent to live on their own is never an easy decision. Ultimately as long as he/she is happy and prefer doing that (for whatever reasons that are meaningful to them) then we have to relent and support the in their decision and visit them as frequently as possible. Everyone finds their own happiness and security in their own way. Love is always the top priority..... whether near or afar.

Alone by Choice: He is NOT alone. He chooses to be. He just doesn't want to burden his children. He is still healthy and has family when he wants them. It's really a good situation. He has a CAT too. So it's a lonely situation trying to recapture the past.

Bless you and your siblings at least you all still care and check on your elderly father who chose to live alone. There are many elderly who are abandoned by their children especially those who migrated overseas and don't come back to visit often.

He is so cute ! Glad he can move around...

I am 65 now and when I am actually elderly, I will not be living by myself. I'm going to find a senior company housing situation or roommate situation. I have no interest in aging alone.

Melinda, you are doing a great job! Daddy treasures his privacy and space, values you and his wider family. The Chong cookbook is a great idea! If he can eat quite a lot, he has a great appetite! Healthy too. ❤

Thanks Melinda . Getting old is not a new gig . Lots of people are coping with it as we speak .

we are lucky if we have a culture that cares for our elderly, we consider it a blessing to care for our parents but probably one day he might change his mind and come home, in the meantime he is enjoying his peace and quiet!

It would be great to see your Dad cooking on his own YT channel. It will keep him busy and we learn from his talent, win-win ❤

You’re so sweet to your dad. He’s lucky to have you

Your parents must be really nice. I appreciate your freedom and independence.

🎉wow beautiful healthy and happy pet 😺.

I understand. I'm alone too, it's hard but I just try to stay a little bit busy. The loneliness is not any fun. 74 now, lost my wife of 53 years. It's not any fun. Just doing the best I can. Ready to go to Heaven any time.

Hey Melinda… Your dad seems like a sweetheart! Not everyone has great parents like I’m sure you did so please… Give them all the love , respect and care you can While they are still here.

Great video Melinda. Appreciate your love for ur dad, & it's so good to show it in video - tat's very assuring for daddy Kenneth. Keep up ur love for him. I'm sure the other siblings do too. 👌👍

living alone is great. there are two absolute necessities though - financial security and good health.

I just love alone after the 50th birthday.i feel blessed.

Diagnosed five years ago with multiple myeloma, which causes your immune system to become highly compromised. I'm 66 but in a lot of pain from old injuries and the cancer...have one son but we rarely interact much, and as he doesn't drive, and I can't drive out of town, I don't know when I will see him again. I have to stay in isolation so cannot go out, even to eat. I love my home and yard, but money is very tight as I am on disability, which is a very limited income. Widowed 13 years ago, and only one brother still alive. Fell in love after my darling husband died, but that gentle man also died, only four years after my husband. Just to say, loneliness is very hard, and heartbreaking, for those of us with no one to turn to, and unable to go out or even do what we used to be able to do. My dog died suddenly at only eight years old three months ago...and I can't afford another. Nor a cat. So it goes. So it goes. I read a lot, and listen to books on tape. Used to be able to do much more yard work than I can now. So, that is just another elder's story. Mine. I feel for this older gentleman...his loss is obviously still very tender to him...I feel he tries to put on a brave face for his daughter. Saw him wiping tears away as she was talking about how independent and contented he is. I know I pretend to be better than I am, for my son. And hold back from reaching out to him, too often. Just some reflections.

Thank you, I love your Daddy for not giving up his independence in order to keep his cat happy too. It is important to care for our animals and I am sure Cathy is good company for him. Living alone is how I see my future self and I look forward to it.

I saw many poor old lonely man in the street This man is so lucky

There is a difference between living alone and being lonely. Also, health does come into play as if you have physical, mental health it does mean you can manage to look after yourself. I do speak from experience as my mother became alone due to bereavement and managed very well all things considered, had an active social life, hobbies and volunteered plus the company of her dog. Then we noticed changes, low moods, anxiety, lack of self care, the gradual giving up of activities and friends. Sadly she was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s and Dementia but luckily very slow developing but enough to have to move to a care home. She’s doing well and happy now she is not living alone and has lost that feeling of loneliness and isolation.

What a sweet video and two sweet people. ❤

Ken , you are truly blessed !!!!!!!

I been alone for few yrs and loving it love my privacy 💕

Very heartwarming and relevant in our present day context!!

I am lucky to have a seniors centre nearby. Here I’ve made new friends and taken part in art programs, watch opera movies, popular films..every Thursday there is a soup lunch for $4.00, a weekly food bank, help with taxes or filling forms,,,this program has been going on for 30 years.Every community should have a government sponsored club especially when we are hearing of loneliness among the elderly.

You are a great daughter ❤️ 😊 😊

Being alone and being lonely are 2 different things. Sometimes surrounded by people can also make you feel lonely. In my experience,I have seen elderly people who are either lonely or not lonely. I wonder when millennials or gen z someday live alone, will we become lonely as well considering these generations are more aware of resources and support out there.

And if you could possibly afford it… Bring your dad into your own home till the end of his days… That’s what would truly make him happy.

I’m 74, live alone with my cat, have health issues. I live way back, very remote. It’s ok now, but winter is so very tough

Godbless you love from Australia I have prayed for you I am alone to it’s so hard I’m glad your daughter is in your life ❤❤❤

Im 50 years old simgle never got married no children..took care of my parents who died and my sister children..now Im alone at home .i see sister or brother sometimes.....maybe i will age alone..

I can see myself like him.😢 Theres nothing we can do, this is the reality

Hey Melinda, most elderly parents like their independence rather than living with their children or relatives

This was an adorable video.❤

I can see that you really love your dad. It is definitely lonely staying all by himself . Passing time is difficult. Maybe you guys can spend weekends with him. That would be great. Take care of your dad n love him. God bless you guys.

Living alone is the most peaceful life

In Singapore, it is not usually apparent when you meet a baba or nonya that they are one. But i find that there are aspects of their culture that are different from that of modern day non Peranakan Singaporean Chinese. They tend to be very close knitted as a family. They have a especially strong family food culture. They are more expressive with their love. These are just my personal observations.

Peace and quiet is a lot better than chaos and arguments. Living with other people is not easy. I've lived with some really loud, obnoxious, inconsiderate, destructive people. I was very glad to get away from them. If you have money you won't be lonely because you can go and interact with people and travel. If you don't have money then it can be a major problem

I love your lovely Daddy ❤

Tq Melinda for sharing this. Yr dad is still healthy, he just doesn't want to impose on anyone. I can understand that. May God bless him & u with good health always.

yes, i video down my mom cooking too. i only wish when i am 80+ and walk downstair to buy food

We will love to see you cook your recipe one day. It looks very good.

Your father looks amazing. I looking forward to see his cooking show. 😊

I ve been alone for years, I'm ok with it I have apt, 2 dogs, I would leave my pets for anything, either seems like a nice gentleman. 😊

At least he has choices, some of us are not that lucky.

Keep the cat for your dad..is keeping him company❤❤❤❤❤

Your dad is a doll Melinda ❤.thank you so much for sharing him with us.please give him a hug for me.can you kiss Cathy for me , my cat is in the vet and I think she will die .i love cats and am broken hearted about my cat .please hug Cathy

Very sweet man.

I’m in the same boat. We solo folks need to get together.💔💔💔

Very good quality filming, high clarity. Would like to see the series on yr dad' culinary skills. Maybe can also do a series on yr religious faith and share yr insights

Why can't Cathy go as well?

Seniors should have their own gated community

Melinda you are a very good daughter. Not all parents have thoughtful children. Suggest getting him a personal alarm like a necklace then should he require help he just presses a button.

I know what he said a feeling; I’m in the same situation.!!