Elizabeth Day Opens Up About Heartbreak, Miscarriage & Failure

Elizabeth Day Opens Up About Heartbreak, Miscarriage & Failure | E77

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This weeks episode entitled 'Elizabeth Day Opens Up About Heartbreak, Miscarriage & Failure' topics:
0:00 intro
1:56 How have social expectations made you feel like a failure?
10:00 Criticism
20:53 People pleasing
25:54 Business communication vs relationship communication
35:16 I was scared of being lonely
37:53 Confidence & self-worth
44:35 Interrogating our thoughts
50:29 Failure
56:04 Having to be careful about what you say online
01:07:27 “Almost everyone feels they've failed in their 20s
01:10:12 Heartbreak
01:16:11 Vulnerabilities
01:23:32 Infertility and miscarriage
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@TheDiaryOfACEO 3 жыл бұрын

super vulnerable episode this week, thank you Elizabeth for your honesty 🙏🏽 Don't forget to like and subscribe with the chance to watch how we put these together

@sarahk.6115 2 жыл бұрын

please invite Mo Gawdat, chief business office of Google X - that story of his son passing away and how he coped finding happiness is really moving

@nolusizodlalisa5573 3 жыл бұрын

Maaaaaaan vulnerability is suuuch a difficult thing simply because we live in such a weird society that expects us to be super human......and yet she wears it so beautifully

@louisebreslin4430 3 жыл бұрын

This was so good, like a double interview.. Interesting to listen to both your opinions 👏🏻👏🏻

@TheDiaryOfACEO 3 жыл бұрын

Glad you enjoyed it, as always Louise thanks for watching

@lisabahho2007 3 жыл бұрын

‘A form of imprisonment is the inability to think for yourself’. Lots of great quotes in this episode. You should totally bring on Jacinda 🙌

@TheDiaryOfACEO 3 жыл бұрын

I would love to have her on! Maybe once things reopen 👀

@mrcourtneywalters 3 жыл бұрын

This is my second one I've watched and I think the way you present yourself which allows your guests to present themselves is a true talent. I'm hooked.

@ruthwilliamson796 3 жыл бұрын

Started watching this the other day & ordered both of your books! Arrived last night & can’t wait to read them both. I love the way you both think about things. The journey I have been on has been hard & painful but I’m so glad I went through it as the person I have become is stronger. You are both so inspiring!

@boludwig8277 Жыл бұрын

Just found this podcast and I think this episode is one of the most beautifully insightful conversations I've ever heard. I mean it had everything! It had talking about silly questions society wants you to ask yourself, dealing with failure, and how to express yourself in relationships. These kind of conversations are so important ❤️ thank you guys 10/10

@Jules.H Жыл бұрын

This was a stunningly beautiful interview. Thank you to you both for your willingness to talk about difficult things with so much wisdom and grace.

@laurenblake520 3 жыл бұрын

Steve I found your podcast fairly recently via the recommended page on KZfaq (having never followed you in the past so had no preconceived ideas) and I am totally HOOKED! Firstly I loved this episode with Elizabeth and how honest and vulnerable she was about so many topics, but also I just wanted to say I think you are the most incredible interviewer! You have such an amazing balance of being able to ask difficult questions and gently push guests to explore answers in more depth, but whilst also holding such a safe space for them to be able to do so. I also love that you are able to discuss and relate your own experiences to the topic without overpowering the guest and their story! 👏🏼 I look out for a new episode every time I open KZfaq ☺️

@TheDiaryOfACEO 3 жыл бұрын

Awww thank you lauren that’s so kind! Appreciate you x

@itskerrianne4194 3 жыл бұрын

I watched this whole episode last night during the midst of a panic attack and i was so calmed and humbled by the conversation. I resonated with many of the topics that where unpacked and it really helped me to calm down during a scary time. Thank you Steven & Elizabeth 🙂 can’t wait for the next ep!

@TheDiaryOfACEO 3 жыл бұрын

aww that so good to hear, I'm SO glad it helped you 🙏🏽

@sharonsephton4066 2 жыл бұрын

I love how articulate and clearly she communicates. I can relate to her and this is one of my favourite podcasts.

@winickp 3 жыл бұрын

Another fantastic podcast. Thank you Elizabeth and Steven!

@dr.kathrinebejanyan3197 3 жыл бұрын

When you're a people pleaser, the burden of responsibility for your needs falls on the other person to carry. They become your emotional caretaker, instead of just your partner or friend

@Mustapha94__ 3 жыл бұрын

That’s a very good point

@gleymmereistyrktarfelag Жыл бұрын

Thank you for the last words. Thank you for speaking to a large community that needs to hear about child loss during/shortly after pregnancy. We hear you. Sending warm hugs from the Land of Fire and Ice (Iceland)

@GirlPeasTheSingleLife 3 жыл бұрын

Super refreshing to see you both be so open and vulnerable here. Another great episode. Thank you! Don't know if it's you or your team that reads these, but your pod has helped me stay focussed and consistent in pursuit of my goals - I am already seeing incredible results. I only started listening a couple months ago and am making my way through old eps - just finished listening to Part 1 and 2 of your 2020 reflections and I was screaming 'YES!!' out loud in public like a crazy person lol. It's like you were reading from MY journal. I feel so strongly about the points you raised and i'm so glad someone with an audience as large as yours is speaking about these things. Your impact is considerably more far reaching than you'll ever realise. Thank you so much ❤️

@meg27mm 2 жыл бұрын

Tested positive for covid a week ago and have been quarantining, had to cancel my flight back home for Xmas and NYE on top of what has already been a really hideous 3 months for me - and discovering this podcast has been such a highlight during this time. So grateful for these brilliant conversations with brilliant people. Thank you, Steven!

@Holly1998 2 жыл бұрын

Loved what Elizabeth had to say and really liked how your conversations bounced back and forth between the two of you. A great conversation 👏💖

@georgia_writes 3 жыл бұрын

Really enjoyed this chat, especially the stuff on confidence and the importance of how questions are worded.

@TheDiaryOfACEO 3 жыл бұрын

So good to hear thanks again Georgia x

@vinitaapte7563 3 жыл бұрын

what an awesome interview. She is so open and honest and literally talked about my life. I could identify with her a lot. Thanks for this beautiful interview Steven

@julieparker9581 3 жыл бұрын

Loved this episode. Adore Elizabeth Day and this was such an interesting and informative discussion.

@JoJo_GSD 3 жыл бұрын

What a wonderful podcast & what a charming, personable & lovable spirit Elizabeth is. Thank you so much 🤗

@Shelyn 8 ай бұрын

Honest and humble from both sides. profound perspectives that may seem somewhat obvious but somehow escape us. Great interview!

@conniekerali2882 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you Elizabeth & Steven for making this episode. It was like you got together and said “Let’s make an episode for Connie” which I’m sure never happened but thank you!! With regards to what happens to your brain when you’re in the gym, shower, etc it’s related to your brainwaves. When your mind is deeply relaxed you’re in the theta brainwave state - the conscious mind is much less active in this state and you’re more connected to your subconscious mind and so have increased problem solving ability, creativity and intuition. I say that as a GP who is training to become a hypnotherapist. Hypnosis makes use of this theta brainwave state.

@constructenglish1 2 жыл бұрын

Elizabeth Day is so delightful! Loved this, so interesting!

@KimberleyMungra 3 жыл бұрын

OMG! Elizabeth Day what an amazing woman..at times it was like I had a conversation with myself..So refreshing to hear her say all these things.."Rejection is Protection!".. Preach!!!

@Mush4Christ 6 ай бұрын

Such an incredible conversation - true vulnerability- thank you so much Steven and Elizabeth for sharing your hearts :) God bless you both

@becjoinerlloyd Жыл бұрын

Such a GREAT conversation between you two, resonated with every single part. Thank you :)

@socialneva3434 3 жыл бұрын

Ohhhhh Steven, I loved this episode with Elizabeth Day. What a wonderful conversation you had together. I truly enjoyed the laughter you shared and so many great gems to pocket. I especially felt the Oprah reference which Elizabeth made, "create the space for the new thing to come which means leaving something behind." Thank you as always Steven. Your wisdom is incredible, as Elizabeth said. Hope she finds a young 85 year old match for you! ; )

@sammiew1226 9 ай бұрын

Such an underated DOAC episode. What a lovely conversation.

@kerwinblackburn4867 3 жыл бұрын

Great episode. Really refreshing perspective on one's 20s in there too!

@rebeccaswinney3899 3 жыл бұрын

Absolutely loved this podcast, such a brave lady.

@HayleyTobbell 3 жыл бұрын

I’m loving your interviews. Steven you’re definitely an old soul, so much wisdom for such a young man.

@TheDiaryOfACEO 3 жыл бұрын

Aww thank you Hayley

@HayleyTobbell 3 жыл бұрын

That was a compliment by the way! Not saying you act like an old man 😂🤦🏻‍♀️

@clarejennings9633 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for your honesty on your feelings around miscarriage. I am pretty sure many many women who voiced their stress about lockdown home schooling would also understand your pain and longing. Many people suffer miscarriage and infertility in silence and that adds to a collective pain. I'm glad I found this podcast as it has given me 2 new people to listen to, a very enjoyable conversation. Thank you.

@brigittebloom9207 3 жыл бұрын

I can relate to the "enough" bit however i think in the subconscious our inner dialogue can be so deep to past trauma (often that we suppress), past lives (if you believe in that) that sometimes EVEN when our thoughts in the conscious present mind are positive we still get triggered by the ego ( deep healing that comes through). Essentially the things that come up that we have to work on( triggers- reactions of anger, passive aggressive behavior, validation) are threads that lead us to our subconscious mind and belief system. This belief system is often created at a very young age, We can rewrite these programs and beliefs once we bring them into the conscious mind; which i believe is when we heal. But that takes time and more importantly AWARENESS of patterns - big fan of your work my podcast is called Upon Reflection with Brigitte

@takeoffyourcolours0 2 жыл бұрын

This was so refreshing Steven. Also just to make you feel better - there are many women who are also fine with less contact time and understand that partners have different priorities. Like Elizabeth said, it’s all about communication and being transparent about who you are and how much you can commit. You’ll find the right person! X

@veronikadrobnakova564 Жыл бұрын

Very good podcast, one of those you need to hear ❤️

@Debbie261061 Жыл бұрын

Listening to this, I bought Failosophy, then watched video of Johnny Benjamin and Neil layburn - a random act of kindness. Brought me to tears. Thank you.

@Gladyscakekitchen 3 жыл бұрын

I can so relate to the differences in communication professionally and in personal life.. I guess the reason is that when one is invested emotionally, it involves a certain commitment that tugs on a part of us where the likelihood of pain has to be avoided at all cost. I tend to communicate better when I'm not emotionally invested than when I am invested emotionally.. it's like I become a tale of two persons, I'm Learning to change that... this podcast like many is very insightful!

@xMaiaMalikx 2 жыл бұрын

This was one of the best episodes!

@artfulaaron 3 жыл бұрын

I always pre-plan my insta posts and my post I had planned today was so in line with this conversation that I couldn't stop watching and almost forgot to post

@AliceDickinsonx 2 жыл бұрын

Absolutely applaud what you said at 1 hour 2 mins about fitting into camps and putting bullshit online to fit in with a certain way of thinking!! It’s something I’ve been thinking about a lot recently z

@margoneame7822 Жыл бұрын

This was a pleasure to listen to, excellent podcast!!

@georgieatkinson5424 2 жыл бұрын

One of my favourite episodes 👏🏼

@nebehsns5451 3 жыл бұрын

I cannot wait to get to the studio and watch this live!! Not all the way through it yet... my full thoughts soon!

@TheDiaryOfACEO 3 жыл бұрын

Looking forward to hearing it 🙌🏽

@timallenphotogram 2 жыл бұрын

Brilliant stuff from both of you.

@essbee5882 3 жыл бұрын

Absolutely loved this and could resonate with so many of the topics discussed. Thankyou x

@TheDiaryOfACEO 3 жыл бұрын

Dope, thank you 🙏🏽

@samvanrex2780 3 жыл бұрын

STEVE YOU’RE A LEGEND

@TheDiaryOfACEO 3 жыл бұрын

Thanks Samuel 🙏🏽 so are you

@LL-vd4gx Жыл бұрын

Such a good conversation ❤️

@angelareina2555 Жыл бұрын

I love this two :) and i loved the intro.

@audreyoreilly126 Жыл бұрын

Massive chemistry. Great talk.

@itsmymy_xo 3 жыл бұрын

Definitely one of my favorite episodes. I really appreciate the emotional vulnerability. The world needs more of that forsure. I will say, Steven, I’m surprised I’ve never heard you mention anything about your attachment style. Considering what you’ve shared about your relationship struggles, that would be an interesting discussion to tune into👏🏽

@TheDiaryOfACEO 3 жыл бұрын

We all need more people like Elizabeth. Thanks maya, been keeping that one a secret 👀

@iman8715 3 жыл бұрын

Really enjoyed this!!!

@TheDiaryOfACEO 3 жыл бұрын

Amazing 🙏🏽

@colourful.foodie 3 жыл бұрын

What a great podcast! Well done👏 fully resonated with alot of things discussed in this episode. Loveeee the fact the 5 love languages was mentioned😁 Gary Chapmans book completely changed my outlook on relationships, highly recommend❣️

@kirstieheneghan 2 жыл бұрын

Oh my she's so right. Wow!

@aqua2752 10 ай бұрын

A wonderful podcast, Elizabeth Day is a beautiful talent, a beautiful English rose 🌹

@georgiacritchley3042 3 жыл бұрын

Great interview 😊

@tanialopez2892 8 ай бұрын

1:13:17 how beautifully said

@Mrhaydentv 3 жыл бұрын

On a side not, 90% of my diet is now Huel because of you Steven 😅 loving it, feel great

@bhiveliveglobal 3 жыл бұрын

22 mins in, STOP talking about me (Aaaaarrrrrhhhhhh). What a great mask we can wear. We are so good at pleasing we should be on stage and screen. Elizabeth turned so many of your questions on you, this was a double interview and was GREAT as always, so open, many feelings (not talking about). Can you drop a link to 'THE' quiz/test?

@TheDiaryOfACEO 3 жыл бұрын

glad you enjoyed it 🙏🏽 This is the quiz we were referring to - www.5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/

@bhiveliveglobal 3 жыл бұрын

@@TheDiaryOfACEO thank you

@Lucy-ql7tt 2 жыл бұрын

Brilliant!!

@daniellemeredith9292 3 жыл бұрын

Well I bought my first Heul! Nice and worked well for my body to function but so expensive to have everyday X

@TheDiaryOfACEO 3 жыл бұрын

dope, are you on the powder? I use the bottles for convenience for the powder works out at about £1.32 a meal

@Hirsi4566 3 жыл бұрын

I’m convinced these episodes are another form of therapy for Steven 😂😂

@AlisonWonderland999 Жыл бұрын

Oooohhhh, what a lovely woman. My new best friend I've never met. 😍

@Fitness_yogalife 2 жыл бұрын

She’s great 😀👍

@abilityextra6250 4 ай бұрын

“i hope nobody's listening but if you are then please keep this yourself” 1:59 😂

@ehte1982 3 жыл бұрын

Get these two on first dates!

@DandyLandyUK 3 жыл бұрын

I absolutely fell in love with this wholesome woman! Why isn’t she on KZfaq? Or is she? Both of you spoke directly to my soul/mind/being. Wow, I honestly loved it so much. Keep doing your thing Steve, the work you’re doing gives people the balls to fuck off social norms and respect their internal beliefs. It’s powerful and i’m here for it! Mad respect to you and your team for creating such an essential podcast 🔥

@TheDiaryOfACEO 3 жыл бұрын

thank you becky means a lot 🙏🏽 I don't believe Elizabeth is on KZfaq but heres here own podcast - podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/how-to-fail-with-elizabeth-day/id1407451189

@DandyLandyUK 3 жыл бұрын

@@TheDiaryOfACEO You’re more than welcome and thank you for taking the time to send me this link ☺️

@Shilly 3 жыл бұрын

I think Steven needs a practise run when it comes to marriage 😂

@TheDiaryOfACEO 3 жыл бұрын

😂 I think you might be right

@mageaunaturel Ай бұрын

Act of service love language, too. And I'm a women. A tough cookie 🤪

@meganbotterill Жыл бұрын

Yeah but sometimes standing up for yourself finally as a people pleaser you can end up without a job and hate yourself for years

@nicolamatthews2993 Жыл бұрын

😂❤

@lizanegerber3098 11 ай бұрын

What a cool chick ❤

@sarahk.6115 2 жыл бұрын

I totally love this podcast. Elizabeth Day is really good at communicating ideas. I want to see Mo Gawdat whose story she mentioned to be invited please