Matthew Hussey: The Secret To Building A Perfect Relationship

Matthew Hussey: The Secret To Building A Perfect Relationship | E142

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This episode is part of our USA series, over the coming weeks you will get to see some incredible conversations with guests the likes of which we’ve never seen before. Bringing more value, more incredible stories, and more world-beating expertise.
Matthew Hussey is one of the world’s most renowned experts on relationships and human connection. He’s not only helped thousands of people be more ready to meet the love of their life, but also how to have a meaningful relationship with them when you do.
Topics:
0:00 Intro
01:07 Your insecurities
09:55 How do we know when our ego is driving?
22:32 What makes people feel disconnected
27:49 The positive impact of personal responsibility
39:44 The value of lessons learnt from previous trauma
50:58 How to control emotions to bring yourself to a place of peace
00:55:30 Learning to show vulnerabilities
01:05:43 Why do partners try to change us?
01:12:39 Are you scared of being bored in your relationship?
01:18:29 Do we have to be in the right place personally for a successful relationship?
01:29:59 The last guest's question
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@TheDiaryOfACEO 2 жыл бұрын

Matthews deep understanding of human relationships and connection is astounding and there’s a LOT to take away from this conversation - a lot that really changed my perspective. Thank you all for being here! Do me and favour and hit the like and subscribe button if you haven’t already, it helps us to keep on bringing you these conversations 🙏🏽

@mykea1028 2 жыл бұрын

'Intention' is meant to be an 'action' of the interior; building intently is thus the key! Well done Steve!

@shaziasharif6207 2 жыл бұрын

Wow I love Matthew Hussey, however I sincerely feel I can help him with his journey.. It seems his searching for answers, he always helps us women in the millions but not himself & now needs the help & happy to help for free just out of love to help. :) we can always develop & grow & it's so positive and peaceful.

@shaziasharif6207 2 жыл бұрын

Ps Steven your brilliant as always, love you :) would love to have a conversation with you too one day when your free ,as your extremely busy as am I, but I'd love to serve you with a conversation too :)

@shaziasharif6207 2 жыл бұрын

😇🥰🙏🙏🙏

@shaziasharif6207 2 жыл бұрын

Pss Not fixing you lol... just honestly adding to your growth & development 🙌🤝😇🥰😎

@saraendestad4945 2 жыл бұрын

No joke. The diary of a CEO HAS to be the best podcast in the world. Feels like we get such a deep and different look into the people on the show. Literally, I have NO words.

@connorbennett5516 2 жыл бұрын

I agree💯

@Mrhaydentv 2 жыл бұрын

Definitely. Rogan should be worried.

@AnjuliMack 2 жыл бұрын

Incredible and open conversations, love it!

@genderl 2 жыл бұрын

OM you must have seen so little in your life if you think this is the best podcast 😂

@TheSnkrPimp 2 жыл бұрын

Literally. You have 30+ words before saying ‘I have NO words’

@savanniek Жыл бұрын

“Some trauma is a consequence of a lesson we had to learn” ……powerful…

@leab.2916 Жыл бұрын

Matthew Hussey is the reason why I am happily married even though I was single and absolutely immature a little more than 3 years ago.

@leendecanck4723 11 ай бұрын

That is so lovely to read. Absolutely. Thanks for sharing. Happy for you.

@he6153 Жыл бұрын

I had no idea Matthew was suffering from chronic pain. This was such a vulnerable thing to share. I pray you get the relief and comfort you need.

@constancewalsh3646 11 ай бұрын

I think he is in love now and feeling no pain!

@AshniDance 4 ай бұрын

@honestmomzone 2 жыл бұрын

The conversation about being bored in a relationship is really interesting. I’ve been with my husband 6 years and before I was with him I thought this. I thought wow I would be so bored being with someone for 10+ years but honestly I think once you find your person it’s different. Me and my husband still have dates, we have fun, we belly laugh all the time and even flirt with each other still 😂 it won’t feel boring if you’re with the right person

@LL-wu5ui 2 жыл бұрын

But you can't say you don't have bored periods lol

@honestmomzone 2 жыл бұрын

@@LL-wu5ui no I genuinely don’t 😂 I don’t ever think, I’m bored in this relationship or think I want to be out of it or want to be with someone else

@honestmomzone 2 жыл бұрын

@rumba rumba I’ll get back to you in another 6 years

@Dauerglotzer123 Жыл бұрын

Yo you got through 2 lock downs with nothing on the news but covid and there were no "what the hell do we do" moments 🤣 I still loved my partner but we were both bored out of our minds in the second lockdown. As it was a temp situation and not eachothers fault we rode the wave but yeah 😅

@honestmomzone Жыл бұрын

@@Dauerglotzer123 we both had to work throughout lockdowns/covid so luckily didn’t have to experience that haha

@braduveronikx884 2 жыл бұрын

"We have to dispense with the idea that the one exists, someone becomes the one by what we build with them... any commitment long term requires true effort" DAMN TRUE! Thanks for the podcast, always a pleasure to listen to Matthew's advices ✨👏

@noemiaferreira4121 2 жыл бұрын

If u go the distance with someone than they are the one " I love it because a relationship takes effort, one can't run off the minute there is a challenge . Actually I find that challenges in a relationship is a great barometer of character of an individual. I personally need someone who wants to work together through the solution not run off the minute there's conflict. I love Mathew's insight on relationship dynamics. He is amazing, I've been following him for over 1 year now .

@ivanai111 2 жыл бұрын

Please bring Matthew back again. There is so much more we could all learn from him. Thank you Steven

@yoginid672 2 жыл бұрын

Matt is the business. No matter how much he has already said or shared, he's always a delight to listen to. Real. Fresh. Rarity in the self-help/development world.

@galdevina1224 Жыл бұрын

so true!

@dovenailsbysharon Жыл бұрын

Absolutely true

@aloha2u639 8 ай бұрын

I've made THREE (3) REQUESTS of Matthew Hussey to cancel my subscription 3 months ago. My account was canceled so I can't log in, but I was just again charged ANOTHER $69.95!!! BUYER BEWARE!!

@tedtalksrock 4 ай бұрын

@@aloha2u639Contact your credit card issuing bank and file a complaint; they can remove the charge.

@solewestren3218 2 жыл бұрын

You do fall in love with them over and over again and deeper. You go through life challenges and stages that bring you closer. I was with my husband for 28 years and we looked forward to our future together. He passed away suddenly and miss him more and more as each day passes. Great podcast Steven.

@terrisolaroli4169 10 ай бұрын

Amen sister!

@thesetruths1404 8 ай бұрын

That's so sweet. Glad it happens for many. Peace

@tedtalksrock 4 ай бұрын

I’m so sorry for your loss. ❤

@IEVAKambarovaite 2 жыл бұрын

I like Matthew. I think his content has evolved so much through years. He's helped thousands of people with what he does. And still.. We have no idea what someone is going through behind all that shine.. Chronic pain, feeling empty.. The joys of living on this planet and being human.

@bundlewade Жыл бұрын

Exactly. Matthew has been on my radar for about 15 years (and I recently came back to his content again, after a while of not listening to him). But in this interview I learned more details about his life story and the chronic pain that I had never heard of before.

@pamelaconstantine170 Жыл бұрын

Ive dealt with chronic pain since I was 29. I was approved for full disability before my thirtieth birthday. Hearing what Mr. Hussey said about dealing with his physical ailments, was so inspiring. I’m now forty five years old and I have learned how to have good days again. For many years after I became disabled, my entire existence revolved around my pain, my limitations and my self image as a disabled person. It was not until hearing Mr. Hussey explain the emotional aspect of living with a chronic condition, that I understood why and how I have managed to move forward in a positive way. The last couple months my sister is experiencing something very similar to what I had at 29. Ive been trying to help her emotionally get through this. But, I hadn’t been sure how to explain to her how I got past the initial mental phase of constantly being miserable. I believe now I have a better understanding of how I got through it and how she can too. Thank you for this. Thank you so very much.

@celestecorona611 Жыл бұрын

Yes I literally thought the same thing!!! Also the idea of empathing and enmesh ent has really taken a toll on my physical health and cause chronic pain. We are not meant to live this way. Thanks Mathew!!

@briandillow6767 Жыл бұрын

Hey please get back to me on how you got disability, I’ve dealt with it horribly since 24 years old I woke up one day on couch couldn’t move remember rolling off couch into bathtub trying to see if warm water would loosen me up it got tad better but from that day till today has been night mare, have had to see Rhumatologist since 24 trying to pinpoint what I have they come up with 3 things one being chronic pain which I agree with more than the other 2 but my doc put me on numerous inflammation pills & pain pills which for me go hand & hand I can’t live without each & im sure your aware the battle to get the pain pills since so many people abusing have ruined it for the some that really rely on it, we’ll it’s brutal to get but in my case I found a pill indomethacin an inflammation pill SR sustained release which is key & the other is pain pill darvocet which due to my commercial drivers license has even downgraded to tramadol much weaker pill but it’s law, so basically in order to survive I’ve been on those for 35 years now & it’s destroying my stomach & soon I’m gonna have to stop but if I stop I basically go back to practically paralyzed so I will have to get disability I’ve been soldering on so far but the day will end, so how were you able to convince them you need disability?? Thanks

@etcwhatever Ай бұрын

@@briandillow6767if you have an auto immune disease that is inflamatory you might be eligible to get imunossupressants like metrotrexate and humira. Thats what i take as shots every week for ankylosing spondilitis. The anti inflamatory pills messed up my stomach too. In my country they dont mind to prescribe opioids for people like us. But the opioids didnt help my neuropatic pain. I take pregabalin for that plus a muscular relaxant and valium as the night meds. This way i can sleep without waking up randomly with pain. Hope you get better

@kasiah3452 2 жыл бұрын

I'm deeply impressed by Matthew - how can it be that such a young man can be so mature and wise! Congatulations and best wishes for Him and his Family!

@Moh.ali.lifetips 11 ай бұрын

I also wonder how he knows this stuff.

@terrisolaroli4169 10 ай бұрын

He searched God, you can bet on that!

@terrisolaroli4169 10 ай бұрын

Same way I was, if someone I was attracted to, I was paralyzed.🤷‍♀️

@ellie5901 10 ай бұрын

Old soul.@@Moh.ali.lifetips

@Nah-ah 2 жыл бұрын

I find it interesting that Matthew Hussey went from coaching men, to coaching women to now attracting men to his content. I’m glad he’s bringing both sides together and actually reaching out to men to share their stories with him so he can share with the women! Always dropping gems in EVERY interview! 🧡

@udontevenwannaknowbruv 7 ай бұрын

He is such a breath of fresh air in the rise of these women-hating red pill men. I do remember that Matthew was already trending years ago on youtube, around 2016 I believe. I’m so glad to see he hasn’t fallen off and is still doing so well with his content, not a lot of KZfaqrs can achieve that.

@SelfPursuer Жыл бұрын

"When we start to think that we are no longer choosing; even though we are doing the exact same thing we decided we wanted to do; it becomes stressful. Sometimes we just need to reconnect with a project or dream in a different way." - Mathew Hussey I needed to here this.

@ShiftDrift-kh6wb 8 ай бұрын

I've been going through a breakup for the past two months. I've never experienced pain like this in my life. Matthew's videos saved me

@shuppslife5140 8 ай бұрын

I wish you Healing..you will get through this - believe me 🙏

@MeghamDraws Жыл бұрын

I've had carpal tunnel for the last going on 3 years, I've trained as an Animator / Artist so that is a death sentence creatively and commercially. The way Matthew describes living for other people, not being able to conquer it with your personality / skills and waking up in the morning with a few brief seconds of not remembering you have anything wrong with you hit so hard. I've never heard someone articulate exactly how overpowering it feels. That was a really incredible moment. And the whole 'don't remove your trauma because of what you gain from it' is incredible because if I had the choice I don't think I'd remove the lesson or experience because of the lessons it taught me about myself and life. I'm now medicated with steroids for it and I'm able to work again and live mainly comfortably while the steroids work so there is a light at the end of the tunnel but the way he describes the mid point of learning to adapt and living in pain thresholds is insanely accurate. Thanks so much for that talk it was incredible to hear someone describe exactly how I've felt the last three years and seeing someone get past it.

@Carmen_Lee_Co 11 ай бұрын

One of my favourite things about Matthew is his skill of using relatable analogies to drive home his theories in a digestible manner for the listener. Great episode 👏🏽

@leticiaferreiravaz 2 жыл бұрын

This has to be my favourite podcast. Read the title and expected him to mainly talk about relationships but ended up hearing everything I needed to in terms of taking responsibility for my own life. Thank you, these podcasts are really helping me to build the woman I know I can and will be ❤️

@riaali6665 2 жыл бұрын

Loved this conversation. Two authentic men having an open, vulnerable, informative conversation.

@lauriciasedits 2 жыл бұрын

A metaphor for my life: "Look what I did with kelp jerky!!" Hahaha. Not even halfway through this but so encouraged and uplifted by hearing Matthew's beautiful perspective. Dating advice is great, but this guy just talking about life and the ups and downs is EVERYTHING.

@Anna-qb9km Жыл бұрын

Girl, I wrote the same comment! 😂 So much meaning packed in that one short line. You just can’t unlearn it, once you listen to this podcast.

@TheeeDannyD Жыл бұрын

The bit about fixing your traits when they already know what you are like and the idea of compromise turning into resentment is gold. Thank you!

@HappyHarvestHomestead Жыл бұрын

I related EXACTLY to Matthew's chronic pain. I felt like he was describing my exact life, accept it's my stomach and intestines that are messed up, not my ear and head. It's so good to know others are going through my same problems and are overcoming them!

@acs2735 Жыл бұрын

“When you arrive, and it doesn’t work, hope goes away.” The biggest fall imaginable. Catalyst for change though. Well said MH.

@shelleypearceLMFT Жыл бұрын

Matthew's sharing of his personal history-the real vulnerabilities-is a model for all teachers, guides and counselors who want to connect with their audience. Kudos Matthew for being an excellent model of transparency, humility and truthtelling. 🙏🏽

@vexatiously9984 Жыл бұрын

😅 of o

@Magani79 Жыл бұрын

I freaking love Matthew, his really comes through as a genuine person

@terrisolaroli4169 10 ай бұрын

He does come across as genuine

@Varmint111 Жыл бұрын

I'm maybe one of the few who does relate to everything he said about chronic pain. The suicidal thoughts, the pain of the emotions with being in pain, the humility it gave. Everything. I don't have anything to add because he said it all.

@etcwhatever Ай бұрын

Same here. Chronic pain really makes one stop and change. Theres nothing else that can be done. I think stress triggered my autoimmune disease despite it having a genetic component.

@motivationalquotesshorts 2 жыл бұрын

Only 39mins in and can say this is one of the best interviews ever. Matthew Hussey, simply incredible. The answers he gave were delivered beautifully and powerfully. Thank you Steve and Matthew for this podcast

@audreyoreilly4055 3 ай бұрын

Crikey, you really never know what someone might be going through. I've always really liked Matthew Hussey, but now I admire him so much.

@shikastormcrow6224 2 жыл бұрын

*"You can't choose the cards you're dealt, but you can choose how to play them."* Hearing Matt speak about the ingredients food analogy reminded me of that. Thank you for sharing this Matt and Steve

@AnjuliMack 2 жыл бұрын

Accountability, self awareness and reflection is SO important - in ALL areas of life.

@pinktink77vp 9 ай бұрын

"Vulnerability has been the thing that happens before all the good things in my life." -Steve Bartlett Those words can change the world. They changed mine. I was just telling my therapist that to me vulnerability = pain, but it doesn't does it? Vulnerability is where the magic happens. It's where we are our most authentic and allowing ourselves to be seen. Thank you❣

@papillona2008 2 жыл бұрын

Just love how he explain his awareness on what makes him happy, connected , fullfilled and how he stops. Few really share their formula like he did here 🥰💫 Thank you !!🙏🏻

@janelupo6023 Жыл бұрын

This is 5 months old already, and I wish you could have had this interview, with Matthew's insights, YEARS AGO!!! My deceased husband dealt with chronic pain. While I wish things had gone differently for him, I felt a need to reach out to you both, because of the courage you shared. Thank you!!!! I wish you all the best in your endeavors, both of you!

@donatahaneborg7488 Жыл бұрын

This is worth to listen at least 2 times to process it all. Amazing and beautiful to tears. Well done Steve and Matthew 💕

@siamavimbela Жыл бұрын

This is honestly the best podcasts, no greater progress in a relationship than the willingness to be open and vulnerable.

@lonewolfheart1697 Жыл бұрын

Speaking to the relationship element. I've literally just had the experience of being blocked by someone I recently started dating... it was developing into a relationship. He showed up, we went on dates, his communication was consistent and affectionate, we were making plans for immediate future and we seemingly wanted a long termrelationship... then BAM... very late last night, I checked my phone... he's gone, blocked me on absolutely everything. I have absolutely NO IDEA why this happened... I do have an abusive childhood, breakdown in previous marriage BUT I've had decades of therapy to help me. I have done everything in my power to get myself straight, making myself feel better and yet this has happened. I'll get over it but the pain right now is excruciating. Long term relationships is what makes me happy. I wish I knew how the hell I get it right. I'm glad that videos like this exist because I want to heal from this.

@aileenmac1 10 ай бұрын

You gave up your heart too quickly. We have all been there. Just remember there is a man out there who would never block you.

@TuesdaysTarot 4 күн бұрын

40:14 Timestamp 38:00 47:47 * 52:10 Criteria - Check these boxes each day - Learn, move, appreciate, create, connect, contribute. I am so impressed how much valuable & applicable wisdom MH shares in this interview 🙌❤

@TakeBackYourMind997 2 жыл бұрын

Viewing the bad things that have happened to you through the lens of the growth they've brought you, or are going to bring you, is one of the hardest yet best things you can do for your mental state. That choice is always yours.

@sunbeem4467 Жыл бұрын

No Such Thing As A Perfect Relationship In every moment, you can choose to focus on what's working about your relationship and what you love about your partner or what's not working and what annoys you. If you're a glass half-empty type of person prone to negative thinking, this will be a challenge for you and you'll need to commit to a conscious and daily practice of orienting toward the positive. But the first step is to shift your belief that perfection is possible and allow the fantasy of the fairy tale prince or princess to shatter. It's not easy to allow the fantasy to shatter. Many people have unconsciously carried and embellished this fantasy since childhood, and we live in a culture that encourages the belief that perfection exists. So when you start to let it go, there's a grieving process that often needs to occur before you can accept a realistic model of healthy love.

@germanlanguageworkshop1542 Жыл бұрын

I love when people live what they preach. And Matthew is one of them.

@jessicamerced9116 3 ай бұрын

Both of you are so gifted, and listening to this podcasts reminds me why I have NOT ever given into the idea that all men are trash. You both are the true definition of “gentlemen”. Thank you for doing what you do!

@andreadiotallevi5780 Жыл бұрын

I love the way Matthew articulates his thoughts. His strong logical way of explaining complex dynamics was eye opening to me.

@MsJems1981 Жыл бұрын

This resonates so much with me! I am 41 years old and recently graduated my business degree after a long 7 years of part-time study and I dont feel the sense of elation that i thought i would, its really weird!

@sharisehay3927 Жыл бұрын

I know this is late but, congratulations!! That's incredible and such an achievement!!

@shashankberry 2 жыл бұрын

Been listening to podcasts for the last 4 years. This is by far the best podcast episode that I have ever heard. Matthew is like older version of me speaking to the younger me right now. Deeply resonated with him and his ideas. Thank you for this episode 🙂

@aaroncecil5381 Жыл бұрын

i have always watched your videos for help, i have been in a very rocky marriage and all i tried to make sure the marriage worked, never worked tried everything but to no avail, we got seperated last year,sadly i still love her and i dont know what to do.

@anthonyszymon3032 Жыл бұрын

same here, i have been in such a situation and i love my wife and unfortunately we divorced about two years ago but i couldnt just let anything make us get seperated so i had to do all i could to get her back, now we have been back together for over a year now,and i must say i am enjoying every moment of it, i couldnt let the love of my life go.

@aaroncecil5381 Жыл бұрын

@@anthonyszymon3032 Wow, i would love to get my ex back, please can you tell me how yours worked out?

@anthonyszymon3032 Жыл бұрын

@@aaroncecil5381 well i couldnt let her go and a friend of mine introduced me to a spiritual adviser who helped me out by bringing her back, she is a caster and i can say she is very good at what she does,i am a living testimony.

@aaroncecil5381 Жыл бұрын

@@anthonyszymon3032 oh well i havent really given that a try, how would i go about it?

@anthonyszymon3032 Жыл бұрын

@@aaroncecil5381 she is really good at what she do, her name is MIRIAM CHAMANI DIETRICH.

@hollyberry86 4 ай бұрын

Am interview can’t be more valuable than the quality of the interviewee. This is fabulous …

@angelgregzion Жыл бұрын

Everything in this interview was exactly what I needed to hear. Every podcast episode from you I think is the best I've ever heard and this one has to top them all. They are all so amazing!

@TheeeDannyD Жыл бұрын

After being stuck in debt for half a century where I had to work my arse off to get out of it, I started hating the job and life I love. It's taking me a long time to find my enthusiasm for it again. But it is coming back after I made sure my needs and what I want to do in life come first.

@chefbryanjacobs5867 2 жыл бұрын

The part about ingredients is so amazing… I train homeless veterans to be chefs… We teach them as young chefs to look at ingredients not for what they are but for what they could become, We teach them that same realism in life for them not to look at their lives for what they are but for what they can become, they are a dish to be served to the world, and they can always source better ingredients. Learn the techniques and you can create anything in the world.

@Aleeya_Haq 2 жыл бұрын

What a beautiful analogy ✨

@dennisitsme 4 ай бұрын

Truly one of the best episodes i ever watched! Please bring him back!

@christinewest2684 Жыл бұрын

Thank you, such a revealing and helpful interview. Matthew revealing his dark side, in response to the last question, was a light bulb moment for me. I realised that from a very young child I have been doing exactly as Matthew describes. I too always think people who I allow beyond my outer protective shield have an agenda of some sort, whether it’s to ridicule, control, manipulate, receive my love to soothe their ego and take pleasure in throwing it away in time, I just cannot trust that they are genuine. And I understand why now. Thank you for your openness Matthew.

@HisBelovedQueen Жыл бұрын

Lots of things clicked watching this. I love that Matthew talked not just about relationships with others, which he is known for, but the relationship we should have with ourselves. Super impactful and took away so much. Easily my favourite video, thank you!

@2000nc 2 жыл бұрын

he’s incredible so much wisdom in one episode🙏🏽🙏🏽

@jennir7873 2 жыл бұрын

One of the best interviews I've watched about vulnerability. So much respect for both Steve and Matthew, two people I have followed /listened to for a while. So important to be having these conversations. Loved it.

@terrisolaroli4169 10 ай бұрын

His vulnerability is moving

@terrisolaroli4169 10 ай бұрын

He too, has endured trauma!

@terrisolaroli4169 10 ай бұрын

Lewis is me. I’m blessed to be alive. Come to me with a solution. Everyone has a problem.

@terrisolaroli4169 10 ай бұрын

Amen!!!!!

@switchpathbyamypreston5428 2 жыл бұрын

Doing what you can, as best you can, with what you have is called resilience. Acceptance if your own successes with that brings contentment. Contentment brings peace. Peace in life is very attractive!

@dooshimastone Жыл бұрын

1yr after this podcast and here I am listening to this with my husband and we are both in awe. Thank you so much Matthew and Steven ❤

@krisangelique29 2 жыл бұрын

He’s so incredibly thoughtful and articulate. I enjoyed this podcast thoroughly!

@tanyasimleit9324 Жыл бұрын

I can relate to the chronic physical pain and how deeply it affects my mood and emotions.. thank you this was really helpful

@stephanieotoole9151 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you Matthew. This meant so much to me hearing you talk about the trauma and pain, I can relate so much to all of that.

@constancewalsh3646 11 ай бұрын

Just discovered Matthew. His brilliant, honest mind is matched by a deep, honest and humble heart. I am so glad he's found his love, and eager to hear what new wisdom will be shared with us. I can feel Stephen quieter than usual as the words sink in, the words of a man who has discovered exactly how not to be a victim.

@karenthompson2597 2 жыл бұрын

Been following Mathew Hussey for a year now. So happy you got to interview him.. Amazing

@haleemasherkhan3545 Жыл бұрын

Omg! I have learned so much listening to Matthew in this podcast and I’ve been following him for years and watched every bit of content he’s put out there. Seeing this side of him has made him human, just like the rest of us. Oppose to the the guy that makes comical KZfaq videos that are so perfectly rehearsed. Absolutely love the question Steven is asking. What an intelligent guy who has really mastered his speaking skills.

@dreadsndogs4406 Жыл бұрын

I've been struggling to find meaning with my life recently, for a lot of reasons, but this is exactly what I needed to hear. Love the conversation in its entirety but the part about finding those core things, such as creativity and connection, to feel like today mattered really resonated with me. It inspired me to find my own. Thank you so much for sharing this🙏

@triptirathore9027 2 жыл бұрын

Matthew seems to be very honest guy that’s what I love about him

@tetsi89 2 жыл бұрын

chronic disease victim here. Highly relate to Hussey about chronic pain and the procedure of having hopes for treatments that at the end didn't work. Likewise I learn to live with it and even though I have pain I just don't think about it. I learn to separate myself from it and not let it consume my life. At the same time, because of this i found my life job and I discovered so much about myself and life it self... It transformed me. Even though it was and it is ruthless. the need to feel the day was worth it and i did something is what makes me happy.

@LornaLens Жыл бұрын

I love this guy, he is a wonderful soul, and I too suffer from chronic pain, and it is hard sometimes to accept it is part of life yourself. I appreciate this podcast, and "the criteria" are now going to be a printout on my fridge because I so needed that.

@jenniferrivers8683 9 ай бұрын

Wow. This is one of the most profound, real, and genuine conversations I have ever heard. This video is making me tear up. This is tearing all the crap down to the basics. What is real, what really matters in life.

@Debbie261061 2 жыл бұрын

I love this. I used to follow Matthew as he's fascinating but felt there was something he was hiding, it was so refreshing to see the real him.

@petejones5016 10 ай бұрын

What a BEAUTIFUL analogy-don’t wish for better ingredients-aspire to be the best chef you can be. GOLD!! “EVERYTHING CHANGED FOR ME WHEN I GAVE UP HOPE OF A BETTER PAST.” 🙌🔥🙏

@leahswenson7776 2 жыл бұрын

I'm glad I clicked on this. I really really needed to hear this. I wish I could say thank you to him. I am having a new rock-bottom and I really needed this.

@zhennilin5794 Жыл бұрын

The chef and the ingredients analogy was gold, thanks for having Matt on, what an amazing conversation

@ThePosingPro 2 жыл бұрын

Matthew is incredible I've been listening to his content for the past 3 years 👏🏼

@themichelleegan 7 ай бұрын

Responsibility is cultural. Differences in what responsibility means is one of the hardest things about living in other cultures.

@sonyacurti Жыл бұрын

Your story was so moving on so many levels. I was in a freak accident and suffered greatly and still do and that's exactly 💯 how I felt. I can fix everything but I can't fix the head and ear pain that I suffer daily. I even thought I would have to start writing my will. I loved your speech!!!!

@carolapellicer6322 8 ай бұрын

I am watching this episode and I am crying... I follow both of you... I feel so related... with the analogy of the chef and the ingredients... My first daugther was born with a brain injury, now she is 12... and those are the ingredients of my life... she is like a little baby, she doesn't walk, talk, but she smiles a lot... I felt so related with what he said about the pain, and the things we just can't change... and the pain of not knowing how to make things better, I certanly have become stronger, and I can relate so much about that... I am doing the best dish I can with my ingredients... Thanks for sharing... Thanks to both of you! You are awesome! Sending LOVE to you guys! ❤❤❤

@zazu3006 9 ай бұрын

Matthews short appeared on my fy last year n changed my life. i sooo needed to hear and understand that. it was: it’s not how you feel about them, it’s how they make you feel. BAM

@GeorginaHnatiuk Жыл бұрын

"Mood follows action". I will adopt that phrase to motivate me, too. Love it.

@louisagraham8957 Жыл бұрын

I loved this talk learned sooo much. I've been following Matthew for years I never knew about his ear pain. Say thank you to Matthew to be so open & vulnerable

@huda111 Жыл бұрын

I can't describe how helpful this episode is. The last question was brilliant and i loved how Mathew explained the difference between settle for and settle on . I've always thought negatively about the word settling. Thank you❤

@Richard-talks-sense 2 жыл бұрын

Love that he spoke about someone you can build. I've been with my partner for 22 years and married for 6yrs now and that brought it to that ingredients part of the talk were if just made me think of the ingredients we've used to maintain such a long loving relationship. Sometimes 5 star meals... Sometimes chicken & chips 😂 as long as we're enjoying the meals together we both win. Another great episode as I'm on my way backwards through all your interviews. Great content.

@justineking7253 Жыл бұрын

I cannot thank you for starting these podcasts……. This one in particular made me stop in my tracks( literally) massively inspirational 🙏

@meg27mm 11 ай бұрын

Knew of Matthew's work and had this one saved for ages to watch. Clicked on it today thinking I would get insight on love and relationships. But this has turned out to be one of the best conversations I've heard so far on DOAC. Every word was so brilliant and insightful, not just because it was exactly what I needed to hear right now and because I've gone through such similar things in my life but because Matthew is such a brilliant mind and Steven and his podcast continue to be unmatched. Thank you again and again!

@eslee2001 8 ай бұрын

I have been married to the love of my life for the last 23 years, yet I still learned something from this podcast. It is all about keeping it real and yet still having fun. The fun changes with our physical abilities. We are both approaching being 50 and it is still interesting. You're totally right Matthew - it's not just about what feels good.

@777ntjp 2 жыл бұрын

I had horrible pains in the same parts as Matthew has had. It took a long time to find where the pains came from and the pains affected my works, private, the process how I think and concentration level. When pain was too sharp , I wanted to die literally. I got CT scan X ray whole my body and met many doctors. After 1 year suffering from pains, one dentist found very small crack on back teeth and it seemed the pain came from it. I had the teeth pulled out and got an implant and my pain became 1/100, the nerve remembers pains so a little pains is still left but I got back my life. You have to find a really good dentist btw. Many other dentists and doctors tried a lot of wrong treatments to me and implant needs high skills. I can refer if you need, Matthew! Hope you could find the reason and will be released from your pains Btw, I have been a huge fun of Matthew. I'm always talking about him to my female and male friends. Thank you very much for saving our souls Matthew and thank you Steve to have such an amazing guest and a fantastic interview!

@GraceVJohnson 2 жыл бұрын

This is so strange!!! I was thinking last week that you should interview Matthew Hussy! I’ve followed him for nearly a decade now and he really helped me, so Matthew if you’re reading this- thank you! Now to get stuck into the episode :) x

@NathalieLazo 2 жыл бұрын

The more we work on our own selves, the better we attract, in this case, a better partner and a phenomenal relationship. There’s no such thing as the “right person” (to an extend) we have to become the right person first! You got this, I believe in you and invest into YOU! Best investment you can ever do is in yourself for your family, others, future and lives overall! 💯% back guarantee return on your investment! Have a great day! 🚀🎉❤️

@boitumelokeoagile3283 Жыл бұрын

Absolutely

@TransylvaniaGirl 2 жыл бұрын

I loved it ...every bit of it. Matthew has such a soothing voice

@brittney3156 Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for talking about chronic pain. I'm a self-help junkie, but I also suffer from multiple chronic illnesses and I've had to learn a whole separate set of skills to cope as well. It's such a balancing act.

@RiverstoneSHC 11 ай бұрын

To Stephen's question 'do you worry you'll get bored of the other in a relationship?' ... I would ask do you worry you'll get bored of you? Because that's the longest relationship you'll ever have. If you're both committed to evolving and growing as individuals, then you have the honour of witnessing and partaking in not just your own journey, but the journeys of those you love too, however much you share of it and for however long ❤️

@celine2131 Жыл бұрын

I really enjoyed listening to Matthew a few years ago, I'm happy to see him again on this pod cast. I also have chronic pain and I understand very well. Thanks for this interview.

@reekachristina4288 8 ай бұрын

Oh, I love how Matthew was talking about "settling" in LA and how he and his fiance bought more things for the house because they made the agreement to stay 🤝 I had that same feeling in my current city for many years, until I bought my apartment and got my daughter into a really good school. Before I was all over the place with my thoughts and if I should stay or go, but once I made the decision to stay....my feelings about living here have changed immensely and I can truly call this place home. Much love from Tbilisi, Georgia 🇬🇪. Matthew helped me so much during the pandemic and when I was going through a break up. 💔 He is truly the best 👌

@munimuni1385 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for your great heart and vulnerability Matthew. Thank you for being an example of masculinity that I can really show my sun and hope he will follow. Thank you for showing everyone how beautiful and noble is to be kind and true.

@AnjuliMack 2 жыл бұрын

This is incredible, thank you for sharing this guys! The part about disconnection is relatable 🙌

@lornasalvatore182 8 ай бұрын

That trauma was definitely what I needed to learn ALOT about myself, to be better, and to grow - so true

@kayblossom8505 Жыл бұрын

Really appreciated this episode and the section surrounding chronic pain/illness and how stress has a serious effect/causes flare ups. Constantly dealing with this and trying to manage my stress in all areas because the consequences of me not doing that are pretty bad.

@beinggreen24 Жыл бұрын

I live in chronic pain. I appreciate to hear others speak on this.

@guitarsz 8 ай бұрын

Gosh Steven, this is the best interview with Matthew Hussey I've ever seen. You REALLY bring out the BEST in your guests, and what I mean by best, is the most truth. it's really incredible but your guests are different on your show then they are in other interviews and I think it's because they really feel as though you only bring a loving curiosity, no judgement, no superficiality...but genuine LOVING curiosity. And it allows people to open up in an almost therapeutic way. There is alchemy in your presence and it produces interview gold. Appreciate your show so much.