7w6 starts at 14:00 7w8 starts at 23:50

Oh boy. I’m definitely 7w8. Thanks for the great breakdown!

Amazing! I'm a 7w6 and also an enfp and I appreciate this so much!

For me as a 7w8, I REALLY struggle with denial. I will deny everything to the point of it being unhealthy. I will also ignore physical and emotional pain. I will make myself busy and pack my schedule to the point of convincing myself I don’t have time to deal with this. But I definitely agree about the evading pain thing I specifically use denial and businesses as a tactic. I also reframe a lot of things from a negative to positive perspective. And I am painfully logical. I have like no emotions and the ones I do I run full force from. But I really struggle not to be brutally honest and I tend to be oblivious to or annoyed by sensitive and emotional people. I’m also just motivated by having fun. The only way I do anything productive is by finding something fun to look forward to as a goal or incorporating small things that I enjoy into things that I hate which are mundane.

You're confused about how to bring joy and don't realize that you do exactly that through these videos! You are changing lives. Making people smile. Helping people understand each other in their relationships. You're doing amazing things. Thanks for providing me with the knowledge to understand the people around me. -5w4

I am a blunt, bold, totally edgy 7w8 indeed! :D Although I am determined and persistent when I truly want something, I experience a different problem as a young adult. Namely, it is SO HARD to decide what I want; I like a lot of things and do not want to commit to a career because I am scared that I would not enjoy it as much or that I would not get paid enough to fulfill my other desires like traveling and trying out new things. The fear of missing out is oftentimes nerve-wracking. And as a true 7w8 I'll stop being all emotional and go out get myself a nice cold beer!

So accurate!! You described me perfectly. I’m a 7w6 and I always felt like the “party animal” description of the 7 didn’t really match. Now I realize it’s the wing 6 connection to my family is what keeps me rational :) even down to my very tiny tattoo of the number 4 representing my family of 4. Not the baby footprint per se, but still “family” related. Amazing video! Wish my husband the 1 would listen haha

Wow. This was extremely helpful. It was definitely difficult to listen to, but I persevered. I am a type 7w8 and I am currently dealing with something painful. My immediate reaction is to cut ties with the people who are bringing me pain. Listening to this helped me realize that I won’t be my best self unless I grow in this area instead of running from it and chasing happiness.

I’ve had the hardest time finding my number. I think I’m a 7, but I try to come across as kind, light hearted and caring, because if not people don’t always like me 😂

I am an ENFP, social 7w6!! You are teaching me so much! Can’t believe how much of this fits for me. Thank-you!!

My husband is a 7w6 and I am a 2! Your videos are so helpful especially when you talk about you and your wife, so relatable and helps me understand him better!

Dude. I love this video, your insights, your whole vibe. I personally am not religious, but overwhelmingly see the importance of spirituality, and I found your mentions of Christianity to be extremely clear-minded and pretty much universally applicable. I have had few self-contained experiences loaded with this much revelation and understanding, from a stranger no less! I really want to thank you and let you know that whoever is coming across your channel is bound to discover meaningful insights about themselves, how they interact with the world, and how holding themselves back is a self-fulfilling prophecy. You are helping people the world over. God bless you.

37:58 a couple of years ago my friend confronted me with the fact that I don’t feel my feelings, but I think my feelings. And that I need to learn to feel them because then I can not be so stuck when it came to all the bad stuff that has happened that I could not run away from. It’s been such a long journey but now I can sit with myself, and yes sometimes I have to have music in the background, but I can be in the moment in my feelings and cry it out, let it out and just feel. It has genuinely helped me reach happiness in a way that I never thought was possible. It’s still not my preferred thing to do but I can be present in the moment even when it sucks. I’m so much more confident in my ability to handle the bad stuff now and it speaks to the people around me. I’m no longer just a shallow optimistic person that I was before. But the hope I feel deep down in my bones is now a testimony to those around me of real joy and happiness. I finally feel like I’m tapping into my calling to be the joy.

This is EXCELLENT. My daughter seems to be a 7w6/ESFP.. we got divorced when she was 1 1/2. Shes the most thoughtful, emotionally volatile.. the fomo, boredom, always the experience shes JUST had or is _currently_ having she fears is not enough.. incontent, dissatisfied.. I cant GIVE her enough experiences, entertainment, joy.. She's always moving triple movement.. looking at what everyone else has/is doing and wants it/to do it too. Shes a freedom based creator, material-oriented, explorer. Loves nature.. Shes amazing. Brilliant mind.. shes amazingly natural, the least clumsy. Shes amazing at math, and has a flair for EVERYTHING 🤣 driven for friendship, and for sharing anything she has.. asked me to buy her friend this little stuffed animal bc she lost hers, and saw hers. 🤣 But I see that fear of pain right through it. The enneagram, ive just stumbled onto understanding recently.. the description of the 7, desires and fears totally sums up Im a 3w4?, ENTJ. Almost the worst compatibility.. but ive been studying and studying.. and im not natural at mothering her at all.. but I want to be. 😕 I can't believe how lucky i am to have finally found a 7w6/ESFP producing KZfaq videos. She's so hard to get words out of but the way you've described your thoughts and motivations perfectly matches her actions. Thank you so so so much for this video. I'm bouta binge your videos 😁 Side note.. 7w8s are super ESTPs 👌

I´m a ENTP and a 7w8. It helped me get to know myself more!

26:25 7w8 Gluttony + Lust/Intensity

I’m obsessed with your videos and sending them to all of my friends! Learning so much! Thank you so much for doing these 🙌🏼❤️🤩

Really glad I found your videos, thank you for making them. I was really into MBTI for about a year, but recently found that enneagram is a lot more dynamic. I am an ENFP and really enjoyed you talking about 7w6. You're right about being us being sensitive!

I have a 7 w 8 daughter. I call her Wednesday Adams. That's her level of emotion most times.😂 She's an extremely high achieving girl (very 3ish) with a need for adrenaline and tasty foods and snacks. You would think she was a 3 if you met her but she doesn't much care what people think, she has the worst time making choices and fun is really her core driver. She's sarcastic but viewed as nice by everyone. She's very physical and just unreal smart. Very dynamic person.

I love your videos! This video convinced me I am indeed a 7w6, and now it's super clear to me. I love how you describe the wings and it makes so much more sense now

Thank you Tom. I'm just starting out on my enniagram journey, I'm definitely a 7w6, this is really helping me learn about myself. Peace and love from Sydney!

This helped me become clear that I am a 7w6. I find it interesting that most of my "growing up" has come through integrating loss, grief,...breathing through, accepting and experiencing negative states. I feel strongly led to work with the dying at this time of my life. Up to this point though, I have taught dance out of a desire for people to experience well being. I think these high positive states are the best place to create from. I have experienced quite a few significant deaths since I was young. I feel that part of a gift of the 7 is knowing that life is precious. If I can experience that preciousness and share that with someone, I feel deeply connected to why we are here and all of what it is to be human.

I love your videos...I'm a 7 too and find myself laughing and nodding in agreement whenever I watch you. Thanks for all you share :)

Sometimes I feel like a 7w6 sometimes I feel like a 7w8....I’m an ENTP btw Sometimes I compromise in order not to offend someone but other times I’m ruthless and I’ve been dubbed the brutally honest friend and the class clown....also I feel like I will stand up for what I want even if others don’t see it my way. I hate being told what to do and I can come off as sweet but others know me as mean idk it really depends.

Thanks for this video: I am a 7w6 and you describe me so well. Glutony and fear. The collections. The thinking. Wow.

This was very helpful for myself! I’ve watched quite a few of your videos and really enjoy they! Thank you! I’m a 7w6 ENFP and related so much to all you’ve said!

Dr Tom I love your Enneagram Type series I have been listening to you for over a month now and I’ve learned so much. I love how realistic and humble your approach is and your adult kids are very knowledgeable and relatable tooThank you for doing this. Continue your great work Elizabeth Norqual

Thank you very much for making this video. I’ve been going through life trying to figure things out. And this just explains it all. 7w8 and now I understand why I do what I do.

As a 7, Im so glad I found your videos. Definitely learning a lot about myself and hoping to use this knowledge to focus on what I can do to live more in the moment

entj 7w8 here and i found this to be very useful! love the way you explain things, super dynamic and relatable :)

I'm an ESFP and a 7w8. Thankies!

7w8 right here. You're so right about my enneagram illustration haha. Im working on myself by caring more about what people might think about me, and I succeed to cool down my strong energy (which was too strong many many times haha).

“We are always thinking about what action we need to take to feel our happiness.” - Dr. Tom LaHue. So true! 7w6 here - it’s really hard to multitask and listen to these when I constantly have to skip ads...

Your such a 7 wing 6. Thank you Tom for your help. I feel like I couldn’t have gone through this Journey without you. Keep it going!!!

My husband and I went through the enneagram during Covid! It was tough to spend that much time together, when we had been apart during the days…before that! He was working and traveling, and that’s just how our life was. Our kids were also home, and this was a life that we just hadn’t been use to! I know lots of people experienced the same thing…we are not the only ones! We have been married for almost 22 years and we have two sons that are almost 21 and 18. My husband is a 7w6 and I am a 6w7. This video was so spot on, and these co tongue to help us navigate through life and understanding one another better! Thank you for putting these out there…they are truly helpful!

I don’t feel like I avoid emotion - I just have faith in God that he is in control and I’m an optimist. Just came out this way according to my Mom. Was the ‘youngest’ so wanted to be included.

Thankyou, that was helpful...You described my two sons....one is 7w6 social and the other is 7w8 sexual. Its been so interesting as a mother seeing their differences and similarities.

Thank you so much for that awesome video, Dr. Tom! I now know without a doubt that I’m a 7w6 and can start on the (very long) road to self-improvement. ❤️

Thanks dr! Humorous enneagram analysis, i am a 7w8 but an infp. I found myself laughing out loud when you described certain scenarios.. it rings so true.

I am a 7w8 and this video was very well made and brought loads of clarity, thank you sir

I'm a 7w6 and when you talked about tattoos.... I literally have SO MANY ideas for tattoos that are tributes to life and love. I got my first one in December, and it's daisies in front of a crescent moon, for my mom, because her name is Daisy and she always says "I love you to the moon and back". I'm also gonna get one for my dad, and one that's a tribute to all the pets I've loved and lost. What an interesting thing to identify with in a video!! I didn't even expect that!!

Omg, I’m totally a 7w8. I’ve been sooo many things in my life as career wise: worked in Resorts, worked as an international flight attendant for 5 years, I lived in the Caribbean (where I was born) and moved to Europe in my teen years and then moved again to the US many years later. I’m a real estate agent, but I just started studying Psychology, but I’m also an artist and I love to paint and… I’m about to start writing my first book… I mean, I’m all over the place!!! 😂 But I can now understand why I made the choices I did my entire life 😅 Thank you for such a wonderful explanation of the 7 type, you are truly talented and have a great vibe. 🙏😊

My partner is a 7w6 and I'm a 4w5 actually! I feel like we work together incredibly well, as my empath instincts help my partner feel things he may not want to while he becomes a person I can tell my feelings to and help learn that they don't have to control me. Sure, we still don't always face the problem, but that's an issue we still work out, little by little. We have each other to hold on to when the tide gets rough.

Yes I would appreciate if you didn’t throw the term bipolar around. My mom is bipolar and it’s a condition and it’s nothing like a 7. I know people like to use that phrase a lot and misuse it. But it’s not a personality thing, it’s a mental state thing.

Tom, love, I REALLY enjoy your work. I just want to throw in that here you said, "If you're a Christian, pray." People pray who are not Christians. People pray who think they don't pray. And .. thanks for all you do.

Thanks for sharing Tom. Awesome input, full of richness & depth. This is so valuable. So in mbti terms, which I understand don't necesserily go hand in hand with the enneastyles, the (Ne-Fi) Doms are more likely 7s w6, & the (Se-Fi) Doms are more likely 7s w8. Both have a tertiary (Te), which makes total sense, because all types have a natural disposition towards their tertiary cognitive function & show that function in its most genuine & its rawest form. Nice concluding ending. My genuine appreciation. Tarik (INFJ 6w7)

"Through the eyes of the kids" those are words I’ve used too I love coming up with adventures for my children not only for them but for me too.

8w7 here, and this video was very helpful. thanks Tom!

7w8 here (and an ENFP too!)- any other 7w8s who thought they were type 1 or 3 before finding out they were a 7?? It took me really long to figure out which type I was because the tests are soo inaccurate!

So clearly explained!!! Thank you. I'd dare to say that we're one of the most misunderstood (and precisely difficult to understand) eneatypes.. bc usually our characterizations are so shallow, just like how the 7ven itself is considered to be.. But it takes a real 7ven to accurately convey the complexity of our type and not stay only with the always 'high, hyperactive, euphoric, soul-of-the-party, clownsy' definition of a 7. Here a twin (social) 7w6. Love your work, Dr Lahue!!!

I like that, just sit still and prayer. Great info. Exactly what God wants me to know.

Thank you Thank you! This has really helped. I never knew which Wing I was. I always knew I was a 7 but some aspects of it never really seemed to be who I am. Now that I know I have a 6 Wing I can totally get it. Thanks for explaining all of this to us in an easy-to-understand way! I am loving learning about the Enneagram and so are my two daughters. My husband not so much. I think he's a three or at 1. 🤷

7w8 makes really sense for me .. I got very stressed just watching a 5 sec add .. It’s ridiculous ! I’ve lost my positive attitude , but it starting to come back lately..almost forgotten who I really am.. thank you !

Very helpful information. You described my 7w6 sister perfectly. Many thanks!

I’m a 7w6! You totally nailed it. I’m struggling lately with depression (which of course has confused me because I feel like I’m such a “positive person”) and this really helped me work through some things.

Hi Dr Tom, Thanks for your great work. Been on a 2 year journey to discover that i'm a 7w8... to be honest i'v probably been in denial about it for a while haha. I appreciate your work.

Awesome 👏 So much thank you! 🙏I am listening as I am working out enneagram of myself and my hubby.... I got it- he is ISFP 9v8, 7v6, 4v3 or 2. Not definitive on it. Me- ENFJ 2v1, 5v4 and showing 9v1( this one I really think 9v8)... as I have strong 8 somewhere... this self discovery is so awesome and so informative for self growth... so thank you and all people with pure motives doing this... who knows?! Maybe one day I might join you☺️

37:29 you nailed it there, very precise and concise

Very Interesting. I’m an ENTP 7w8 Who Thought They Were a 7w6. I took the Cloverleaf Test and I Identify Completely With Your Observation of the 7w8.

This video really helped with my identification as a 7w6, so thank you for that! However, one small thing that still is causing me a bit of doubt with this is how I can get apathetic towards things when I am dissatisfied, or feel that the grass could be greener elsewhere... Does apathy as a response still fit with a 7w6 type?

Thank you Tom for these precious videos! I am a 4 and have a 7 in my life and I see that it could do SO good for him to learn to embrace the darker side of the life also, like we fours do (and yeah, we're damn good at it). But it's awesome to have a seven in your life, especially I think so as a four, otherwise I would be just there in the darkest pit weeping on my own all the time. 😂

Thank you so much for this video Dr tom Lahue, Im a 7w6 and i relate to you so much! I've always thought I'm a 2 but i was wrong, thank you so much for this video, i love the way you explain enneagram types, and btw, you reminds me of Phil dunphy from modern family!

Oh I just cried so hard! I knew I was a 7 but was struggling with my wing. Then the very detailed description of a wing 6! Holy cow! Thanks buddy! Yes I’m so fricken sensitive and I hate it but I am😭🤣 oh crap!

I love your videos!!! Thank you so much 😊

Interesting. Can relate with so much you say. I am a 7w6 and an ENFP. I am turning 67 next month which I bring up because it's hard having so many years to consider for reference. I feel my feelings constantly and escape is fleeting although I do try of course. ;) Gratitude and contentment, (I've been there before) eludes me right now. I am in the place we fear most. But something my years have also given me is the knowing things get better. Just wish I could find the fast-forward button on the remote!

ENFP type 7 here (+ADHD) 🙋‍♂️ I type dual wing 6/8….a lot here made *a lot* of sense LOL. I do go through the best and worst of both worlds. I’d say that I most often speak “7w8 things” with a “7w6 filter” so it’s less blunt and I just search for a more cordial way to convey it…unless my goal is to shock and get your attention or if I’m feeling spicy 🌶 As if my brain is mostly an 8 and my mouth is mostly 6. 😆 The two of them talk a lot - it’s often like the 6 is sitting on my left shoulder 😇 and 8 sits on my right 😈.

I flow between both wings. I tap into 8 when I have to defend or cuss someone out. Watch out! It's shocking how tough I can become. I use the 5 arrow in how I solve problems. When I'm solving problems and finding solutions I totally look like a 5. I use the 1 arrow to get things done that have to be done and also to cut someone down to there flaws and faults when I feel threatened or crossed. That 7 sunny demeanor goes to the background if I feel threatened, disrespected or mistaken for weak. Otherwise I'm really pleasant and fun most of the time.😂 I'm a 7 w 6.

You being ENFP- 7... boy, respect you even more🌹🌹🌹

I had my backpack ready to go out and buy something and Thank you. 🥰 to your video I have changed my mind. I guess i was chasing happiness. I really do have enough right now, for some odd reason I seem to be shopping to escape emptiness. Would you pray for me?

I love these and they are so informative. I'm not sure the designation of 7 subtypes as "child", "adolescent", & "adult" work to well as metaphors. While I get the gist of them (you discussed them in a different video on 7s...), there's also a kind of pejorative connotation to all of them except the adult. I do think they could be a useful way of understanding the evolution of a 7 from younger to older and growing towards health. Also, I (I'm laughing at myself right now...) I have found myself go back and forth from the so-called innocent or naive "child" type to more of the "adult" type. I've never really got into the "adolescent" type, though. Anyway, just throwing that out there. I am learning so much listening to your in depth analysis on 7s and look forward to learning about the other types too!

I'm laughing... I'm a 7, and I was diagnosed bipolar after having my son. He was in the NICU and I had a manic episode. My husband is a 9... So while I was in the hospital he went and played Pokemon go, and I was in the NICU going "oh everything is great!" We've learned more about our selves in watching your videos than 6 years of therapy! So thank you!

I also use my six wing to access sobriety through work. I use my 8 wing to get off my butt and get started. I like how 8 helps me get over that 6 wing fear of other people's opinions. It protects my freedom. By learning how to attend to the needs of the 6 i have shifted my attachment style from avoidant withholding toward healthy confident. I find that in studying the enneagram i keep gaining more and more freedom to access the strengths of the different strategies 7w8-joe rogan, danny devito, rhea perlman, bill burr, all mediterrenean cultures.

This is excellent content. So accurate. 7/6 … my desired tattoo is the old school Fisher Price dog (although my 6 keeps me from actually getting it and is never sure where I’d put it) & my license plate is “GIVJOY”! :-)))

With the devine plan you're making a great point 🌟

Hi, Dr. Tom - just want to say thank you for helping me clarify that I'm a 7w6. I was pretty sure that was the case, but it can be tricky, right? I'm Riso-Hudson certified and have studied the Enneagram almost 20 years, but the wing information always seems either scant or confusing, since I definitely see some 8 influence in me. But what you said about edginess and sentimentality sealed the deal for me! Also, love it that you're a Christian, too. Thanks again!

Can’t wait for 9w1 and 9w8 episode!!!

Thanks so mutch for your help!!

Thanks for the description, I am an ISFP 7w6

Thanks for another insightful video, Dr. Tom. I have a few 7 friends, and I'm pleased to find out that they are actually 7w6s instead of 7w8s. This info means a lot to me, since I am a 6w7. Keep up the excellent work!

Thanks again. Got a 2 fer on my time as my daughter is 6 wing 7 and my son is 7 wing 6 .

Ive always called it "glust" :D

I am a 9w8 and I’ve been told that your not supposed to know what your kids are and I’m not tested any of mine they are all really little. I’m pretty sure that my middle daughter is a 7w6. She’s the funniest child I’ve ever met but so hard to get onto her she just doesn’t care. Honestly though just knowing she might be a 7 helps so much.

Haha man the way you described 7w6 and then said your were an ENFP and THEN described your kids I was like “the ship has landed” 😂

Lol the “we don’t have…” and “I don’t care” convo is tooo real 🤣🤣🤣🤣

Man. I feel attacked! 😂 I’m definitely a 7w8.

Tattoos are too much of a commitment 🤣 I’d regret it!

As a 7, when you said that 7s need to learn to accept pain and not need any stimulus, all of my brain cells and my toes curled. I don't know how you do it but you always find the right trigger words, I'm undone 🤯 😅

Im an ENTP and i suspect im a 7w8 but i could also be a 4w3. I have a streak some would call perfectionistic, but i consider myself to be an optimalist. Nothing fills me up with a greater sense of freedom than to discover a new approach to a standard situation. I am HIGHLY competitive and hard on myself. But also am a firm believer in discovery and anti conventiality. When i need to escape i try to imagine the life i always wanted to earn. Realistically, i just got fired after grinding for 4 years to find a job. They didnt even want to fire me. I had a bad day and made a mistake that got me fired. The past 5 days have been VERY Turbulent. Because it was a good job, i had made some big plans really quick.

I am a 7w8 and an ENFP.

My youngest son is 7 w 6, my sister who joined the army at 18 and married special forces types twice I think is a 7 w8.

My wife is definitely a 6 wing. 8w7 here, these nuances are a lot broader then originally thought.

I am 7w8 nd my best friend is 7w6 I miss him so much. Seeing you reminded me of him I just texted him :((

I wonder if there are enneagram types who are NOT good for 7s, like 1s, for relationships?

interesting. i'm a 9w8 with 974 tritype, but for so long i had this doubt of being a 6w7 fix instead of a 7w6. yeah after watching this video i finally understood their difference and can definitely feel this connection with 7w6 personality, even if it's more introverted and calmer since it's blending with the 9 xD

@Dr. Tom LaHue What does a social 7w8 with anxiety (disorder) look like?

Omg 30 sec ad with no skip. KZfaq is going crazy

hi, Tom I am ENTP, 7w8, do you think emotional resilience habits (cold showers, gym, mediation) can help us to get more balance since we generate so much positivity anyways. Bdw if you have some other habits which you find helpfull pls share, tx :)

"Money is like a ticket to get on another ride" Thanks for that-it brought some clarity to my feelings about money. Now....what do I do with this clarity?

I am definitely a 7w6 wow so accurate! Definitely sensitive, people oriented, playful, goofy, a little fearful sometimes. I am also an enfp and 729 tritype.

i am the type five, but i have connect to the 7. i am scared of limitation and so greedy to collect anything.