Ep. 245 | Overstuffed

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Ep. 245 | Overstuffed

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4 жыл бұрын

Joshua and Ryan talk about stuff and why many of us still have too much. Watch “Maximal” episodes of The Minimalists Private Podcast exclusively at / theminimalists
Questions answered in this episode:
How can pressure help me become a better minimalist? (01:51)
How do I manage children’s belongings? (03:22)
How do I help loved ones simplify their lives? (06:00)
How do I address my compulsion to build collections? (11:09)
What is the difference between joy and happiness? (11:58)
What creates true joy? (14:10)
How much is enough? (15:12)
How can friction help me on my minimalist journey? (16:51)
What is the value of ‘why’? (21:55)
How do I curate what’s appropriate for me to keep long-term when I’m constantly moving? (24:06)
How do I let go of the burden of cost? (26:45)
How do I remove the meaning I’ve given to things? (27:56)
What is the ‘price of admission’? (29:53)
How do I responsibly dispose of items that no longer serve their function? (33:21)
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@lorraineturton4485 4 жыл бұрын

Years ago I used to make hand made teddy bears, customized to my friends children's styles. The one key ingredient that could not be bulked up too much was the inner stuffing. If done right, the bear looked natural and became the child's favorite toy, but if "Overstuffed" it became a rupturing horror to look at. A house can only hold so many possessions, our minds can only process so many details at one time, and our life only lasts for so many days. Minimalism offers peace of mind, usefulness and practicality and it keeps us from being "overstuffed" with things rather than experiences.

@jeannewagner8133 4 жыл бұрын

YES! Wonderful observation.

@StreetFighterIIFeb 4 жыл бұрын

it's more than color. the fabric wears down and out too.

@SaraEFR74 4 жыл бұрын

When everything is precious, nothing is precious. Quote of the Day!!!!

@jenniferprovencio984 4 жыл бұрын

I worked for a storage company for a few months and I could never rap my head around the money people would waste on paying for a storage unit. For a temporary solution yes, it makes sense but, I've seen so many different situations that for most part are not good. I think people just don't do the math like you mentioned to realize the cost of storing something that can be replaced when needed.

@bikerslow2598 4 жыл бұрын

Advertisement suck. Amen. You guys however rock.

@travelpalz 3 жыл бұрын

Guys, after almost 3 years I got rid of so much stuff, just by selling them off. I got almost 4000 dollars on the way. I did have 52 Stephen King books on my shelf, i sold them all, they got new homes all over sweden. And I'm happy its a recycle friendly minimalism. Thank you all for the inspiration, hope to see you guys in US once the pandemic pass and things get a bit better.

@alice_rabbit8345 3 жыл бұрын

When I was a child my parents kept the heat very low because of the cost. Now I’m a blanket hoarder since I was always cold growing up and feel secure have extra blankets. Other items I have no problem letting go of.

@rhysalexander5697 4 жыл бұрын

You guys have helped change my life to be a more healthy, competent, and peaceful person. I feel more present. I'm unrecognisable compared to the person I was a year ago. Thank you :)

@stevenpace6782 4 жыл бұрын

I loved your comment! When you get rid of the stuff you don't want, what remains tells you who you really are.

@richardbrannan578 4 жыл бұрын

Isn’t a hoarder just the average consumer who keeps what they buy instead of donating to Goodwill or contributing to the land fill problem? I mean, I watched an episode of the Hoarders and I realiized that in the mounains of stuff were most of the items I have purchased in my life at one time or another. Minimalism should help the planet as well as our sanity. Maybe instead of donating to Goodwill, we should shop at Goodwill. I daily ask myself this question, “Can 7 billion people live the way I live without doing harm to the planet. So far the answer is no. But just asking the question helps me to focus on my purchases and my lifestyle. You guys are definatly part of the solution. Keep up the good work.

@rominagomez2585 4 жыл бұрын

actually thats a solution, I think, Me and my husband decided to just buy new whatever really really needs to be new. But if we can buy used, even if we have to make a little magic to make it work then we do. I just comment this to let you know guys that it is possible...we have 4 kids and that has never been an excuse for beeing careful with our planet and consumism. They indeed are the motivation for us to try to help this world.

@ArtyAntics 4 жыл бұрын

The most sustainable option is the item that already exists!

@anaalves3658 4 жыл бұрын

I find that zero or low waste goes well with minimalism. The last time my husband needed to replace a pair of jeans, they tore in a rather tricky spot 😱🤦 he went to a second hand charity shop and found a great pair. It sometimes takes a bit longer to find what you want, but it's totally doable.

@simplesimply3753 4 жыл бұрын

Sadly we don't live in a world that makes quality items. As a poor child I grew up on second-hand items from a second-hand store but most of the time the items didn't last as long because they weren't made with quality and most people didn't take care of the item. There's nothing wrong with used or new. But I think it also depends on the item.

@Rafifi 4 жыл бұрын

Recently I got rid of some stuff that we had been keeping at our place for a longtime without using them. One of them is a treadmill that we didn’t use. We thought of taking it to Goodwill store. But before that we thought we will just keep it in front of our house and see if anyone takes it. We wrote “free” on a paper and taped it on the treadmill. After two days we saw that it was gone! I am really happy that someone took it!

@alicetrieu7733 4 жыл бұрын

My older son is entering high school, and it feels like we are entering a new phase, dumped out all 10 years of toddler, kid toys this week as we are creating his room. So liberating!

@MichelleNovalee 4 жыл бұрын

I follow A Small Wardrobe on KZfaq and I’ve learned from her that one of the keys to true minimalism is to stop bringing more things into your home in the first place that you’ll eventually have to declutter and minimize again. And one way to do this is to be more intentional with the “getting rid of stuff” process. Don’t just take all your belongings and drop them off at Salvation Army. That’s too easy. You’ll end up buying more stuff to just replace your empty closet. You should actually take the time to sell your old items or gift them to others meaningfully to people who actually want them. Don’t just drop your stuff off at the thrift store and make it someone else’s problem. Yes, it’s a lot more work to sell and regift you’re items. But it’s more intentional too and you’ll learn not to make the same mistakes of buying those unnecessary items again. And trust me, I’ve made this same mistake of going from minimalist to hoarder without even realizing it. Anyone else out there done the same? 🙋‍♀️

@MichelleNovalee 4 жыл бұрын

Dickie Angenson it’s not my philosophy. It’s “A Small Wardrobe’s” philosophy. Doesn’t mean you have to follow it. To each their own. Take what helps you and dismiss what insults your soul. For me personally, I needed this advice because I’ve had trouble **not** bringing things in. I think selling my things will help me be more mindful in the future to not make the same buying mistakes again. Of course, donate and throw out what you can’t sell. But it doesn’t hurt for some people to try and sell their stuff.

@ArtyAntics 4 жыл бұрын

Michelle Novalee knowing how much effort it is to let something go in a way that meets my requirements for disposal or gifting intentionally has definitely made me think a lot harder before buying. Something else that helped me not buy was researching sustainable materials, ethics like modern slavery issues etc... it’s so hard to buy things that meet my standards and I have to get very intentional about everything.

@minikorsi 4 жыл бұрын

This is such an important point you make!!! I was hit like a ton of bricks when during the pandemic I sorted through and decluttered a lot of clothes and shoes-perfectly good, just don’t fit anymore- then I found out that charity shops don’t take any donations due to the virus! Now I’m stuck with a carload of stuff. Maybe it would have better not to have these things in the first place.

@hcplsmf 3 жыл бұрын

I hear you. Nowadays I mostly stick to certain brands that carry pretty affordable quality basics. I look for companies that have fair wages & care about the environment. Having fewer pieces, but pieces I can feel good about all around pushed me to take care of my clothes more. By the time I’m ready to let them go I try to sell, donate, almost never straight to landfill. Oh and ForDays is one of those Eco friendly brands I shop from, they let you donate your clothes to them and they recycle it for you, they give you discounts for their items after.

@ArtyAntics 3 жыл бұрын

Daniela S nice! I will look them up 😊

@lomarie2324 4 жыл бұрын

Dudesssss. I needed this today. I feel like I’m drowning in toys! It’s so much easier to declutter my stuff than my kids’. I get super emotional about it. But yesterday I forced myself to fill up a garbage bag of toys for donation. Also... I have diagnosed OCD as well. );

@clairewillow6475 4 жыл бұрын

Ohhhh just got to the end and I really like the idea of asking for one flower from each person as a gift and having a bouquet 💐 at the end

@LoboLux 4 жыл бұрын

Hey! If you are still interested in finding a place to donate other than Goodwill, I encourage you to not go to thrift stores in the future. I learned that since thrift stores main goal is to resell, they will throw out (and often ship overseas to dispose) whatever they can't sell in a short period of time and it just adds to the waste stream. Did you know that the fashion industry is the 2nd biggest polluter in the world?! There are women's shelters and homeless shelters in every city that will give your stuff for free to people in genuine need. Let me know if you want me to help you find a few in your area. This is an important cause so I am happy to help, gratis!

@ellief4277 4 жыл бұрын

Commenting to get this higher up! Goodwill doesn’t have that great of intentions. Check out local shops and more!

@ed8329 3 жыл бұрын

Also Poshmark! So satisfying to know a piece of clothing is going to a person who wants it so bad they'll pay for it... If you want to keep in the giving spirit you could always donate your proceeds to charity. I always end up donating my proceeds to more clothes from Poshmark haha

@alice_rabbit8345 3 жыл бұрын

Lulu Dropo I sell on Poshmark and Mercari. I started a box for an LGBTQ group for homeless youth.

@CoreyMJones3 4 жыл бұрын

I’ve been documenting my journey of minimalism on my channel. From decluttering to just talking about starting. Thanks for the inspiration!

@kailebrogan447 4 жыл бұрын

I subscribed

@CoquetFleur 4 жыл бұрын

Just watched your most recent video

@laurapreston7025 4 жыл бұрын

You can dye faded clothing. Works really well for faded jeans, t-shirts, towels etc. Much cheaper as well and better for the environment.

@clovermark39 4 жыл бұрын

Depends what the dye is made off I suppose!

@laurapreston7025 4 жыл бұрын

@@clovermark39 yeah, I was thinking that. But in terms of water used to make an item of clothing in the first place and the other pollutants used during manufacture and then the shipping etc etc. I still feel that dyeing would be more environmentally friendly than purchasing an entirely new piece of clothing. Unless perhaps you made an item out of hemp grown in your back yard 😉 Would defo be interested to hear other peoples thoughts though, as it is by far my area of expertise...

@laurapreston7025 4 жыл бұрын

@@teacher_ps I use Dylon, I think it's very good. I know other people use Rit which isn't available in the UK. The dye lasts a long time. It will fade overtime but it doesn't wash out completely. So if you dyed a white item black it would remain black but it would lighten after time just like any item. I think you can also use colourfast products to make clothing keep their colour longer.

@laurapreston7025 4 жыл бұрын

@@user-jc6tj2xt1p Excellent comment, many thanks for your input.

@ArtyAntics 4 жыл бұрын

Laura Preston Dylon sell colour fix packets you can use for your dyed items. I’ve also read that 1/2 a cup of white vinegar and a table spoon of table salt added to the laundry when you wash out the excess dye also works but I’ve not tried it out yet.

@AmoreHk 4 жыл бұрын

My dad passed away this year and my garage is full of his stuff. I started my journey to minimalism and now have all his things I feel like I can’t let go of. I think I am going to try and start taking photos of his belongings

@michelesusanne1 4 жыл бұрын

This is really good article one of minimalist guys wrote. It helped me a lot. I lost my Dad, too. Hugs xx www.theminimalists.com/sentimental/

@LoungeLady 4 жыл бұрын

I’ve held both of my parents’ things for 3 years now (they passed back to back). I literally spent the past two days finally going through it. Honestly, it takes what it takes. Try not to pressure yourself too much- this is a time of reflection. Best of luck and I’m so sorry for your loss- totally impossible to comprehend until you experience it.

@AmoreHk 4 жыл бұрын

LJean thank you for this 💓

@paulaboynton8299 4 жыл бұрын

AmoreHk oh.....that is so tough. My mom died 14 years ago, and my siblings and I and our partners cleaned out her apartment. It was very emotional. We all took what we wanted, and donated the rest. It felt odd getting rid of it all, but it was a valuable lesson too. Nothing is permanent, and our belongings are just anchors. The more possessions we own, the more complicated our lives are. Our mom was a shopper. She had tons of stuff. I wish you strength and peace going through your dad’s belongings.

@patdennis2586 4 жыл бұрын

Glad to know I’m not the only person to have a visceral reaction whilst watching the “Hoarders” series and then hopped up to declutter. Also started the 30 day Mins game to help bring myself back into balance 🥳

@HananBenNafa 4 жыл бұрын

Some of my very favourite episodes are those where you too chat and answer questions :) I also enjoy the ones where you have a guest but the ones with just the two of you are special. Love & respect

@clairewillow6475 4 жыл бұрын

Last night I got rid of (donated) a garbage bag full of toys that my four year old doesn’t play with much anymore, if at all. He didn’t even notice

@rhettaseeger248 4 жыл бұрын

That's the problem. Being home, you're starting to see so much of your stuff. We are replacing our carpet and to move 3 rooms of "stuff" out - you really see how much stuff you're storing. I call it inventory. I have way too much inventory. The process will begin to remove the items before I put the rooms back together. Love you guys!!~

@Lumpy_Peter 4 жыл бұрын

I don't know. All I see on the social media is people complaining about how much useless stuff they bought on internet during lock down to pacify themselves. I am probably following wrong people, nevertheless I don't think one can generalise that pandemic had a positive impact on this en mass.

@rhettaseeger248 4 жыл бұрын

@@Lumpy_Peter That's the problem - attempting to pacify ourselves instead of finding true meaning in all this craziness. Finding joy - finding peace within ourselves. I'm finally attempting to get there. I've been overweight for too many years and all of a sudden, it just clicked. I heard Joshua talking about eating too many ice cream sandwiches and yes, i've done that too. I'm ready for joy - for peace. I am thrilled to be part of this movement of minimalism.

@Lumpy_Peter 4 жыл бұрын

@@rhettaseeger248 All the power to you! I kind of envy people who got the opportunity to stop, re-evaluate their life and set a new course. For me, who had to combine home office with entertaining two kids and preventing the dynamic in the family from driving everyone crazy, it was pretty hectic.

@annieheath986 4 жыл бұрын

I am currently in the middle of an interesting experience. I have spent the last five years slowly downsizing our family household. A year ago we bought a much smaller home in another state. We had to have some duplicates during this year as we visited this house every weekend until we finally moved in. We have everything from both homes PLUS our son and his family moved in with us. Not only do I feel like I am starting over, I feel crowded, messy and discombobulated. It's exhausting. I never realized degree of the emotional connections to the space I live in until I took this huge step backwards. No worries though. We are making lots of progress and will find our peaceful spaces again.

@kaitlinobrien243 3 жыл бұрын

Kathy I love pretty things, beautiful colours, textures, etc. I adopted shopping with my eyes. I treat it like going to be art gallery. The pleasure is in looking. And touching, post Covid19 😂. I love craft fairs. I will often take photos and enjoying revisiting them when I get home. I have done a no shopping year. It suprisingly gave me mentally a lot of freedom. Best wishes!

@lovinglife3954 3 жыл бұрын

A good way to repurpose stuff is a local Facebook Buy Nothing group. (It’s amazing what people can use. For example, I know someone who is moving and someone posted the very large box from a child’s car seat. Multiple people asked for it, I got it. Plus it is great getting to know people in the local community. I have connected with new people and reconnected with some people I’ve lost touch with. I usually post in the Buy Nothing group prior to donating elsewhere. Since you post single items, so you can create a steady flow of items going out of your home. You can also ask for things. For example, recently I asked for boxes to use for moving, a certain kind of empty bottle for bottling kombucha (my new skill), an empty five gallon paint bucket to use as a disaster potty.

@shalom6380 4 жыл бұрын

I think an experience can bring joy and that you do not need other people to experience joy.

@bessiebrown825 4 жыл бұрын

I agree!

@clairewillow6475 4 жыл бұрын

Ya sometimes I experience joy while in solitude but the “level” of joy is usually higher when it’s a shared experience

@shalom6380 4 жыл бұрын

Claire Willow have you experienced the other side also? Where you are doing something that would bring you joy and another’s participation reduced your joy.

@clairewillow6475 4 жыл бұрын

Shalom Wicks good point, ya, I’ve experienced that too. But not as often as the other way around.

@Lumpy_Peter 4 жыл бұрын

I found myself disagreeing with that statement by Joshua too.

@lindabradbeer9567 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you from Toronto. Love your Monday Morning Minimal Maxims. With all this home-time, we are still go through our stuff to donate or recycle. Thank you for the regular reminder that we are not our things.

@monjaa.2531 4 жыл бұрын

Instead of things as gifts, I always ask people to donate money (adequate amount to what they would spend on me) to the animal shelter in my hometown in my name (or theirs, however they prefer). Has been working out fine so far. I’m in Germany, we do not put animals down when nobody wants them (thank goodness), sometimes they spend their entire life in shelters, and that costs a lot

@StaleyTraining 4 жыл бұрын

Part of the issue with having"stuff" is that we tend to only be aware of the benefits (which are obvious) but less aware of the costs, which are less obvious. Much of this is about doing a cost/benefit analysis when considering new acquisitions.

@kristidarby2017 4 жыл бұрын

This was a fantastic episode. I love the chemistry between the two of you!

@SocPro 4 жыл бұрын

Once again, A gem of a podcast

@debk6161 3 жыл бұрын

In most communities (even rural ones) it is easy to get rid of unwanted items. If residents aren’t desperate for money, unwanted but still usable items can be either advertised in the FREE section of a free online site or set at the curb with a cardboard sign saying FREE on a day when the trash is not being picked up. Like magic, the stuff will disappear in mere minutes. Donating to charities that actually benefit society (not all do “good” works,) is also a nice idea, but takes more time and effort to accomplish. I donate large items such as furniture and working appliances to reputable charities and donate unexpired unopened foods to local soup kitchens and food banks, both of which need donations all year long.

@mariaelena3016 4 жыл бұрын

Its better don't have too much stuffs at home. If something brings value keep it if doesn't bring value, just let it go. 😊 Thanks you guys for bringing us value to our lives.

@jkfroghouse13 4 жыл бұрын

We ARE malnourished in many departments in life in the RICHEST country in the World!

@amara560 3 жыл бұрын

Saudi Arabia?

@amara560 3 жыл бұрын

Or a Scandinavian country?

@rachelsilva1510 4 жыл бұрын

I really like the limits of collecting items.

@ktrudy1 4 жыл бұрын

I love the minimalism game. Love y'all. Watching from Kentucky. 😀

@sallychail4208 4 жыл бұрын

Just an fyi- Hoarding was changed to its own disorder in the last DSM, it's no longer related to OCD. I wouldn't be surprised if there was high comorbidity between the two, but I would want to research that more myself and encourage others to do their own research before I could confirm that. Always enjoy the podcast, thank you for it.

@jillc1910 Жыл бұрын

You can use Woolite dark laundry detergent to keep your shirts dark and or you can use black RIT dye to darken them again.

@nbibot40 4 жыл бұрын

Hello guys Really interesting May be you should consider visiting as here in the Middle East !! Introducing your lifestyle People needs to change Here !!!

@regdesousa9763 4 жыл бұрын

So I am walking and getting my exercise on ..and I am listening to your KZfaq channel ...and someone named Katia chimes in ...and it like divine intervention...because I have been half assing it for awhile now but also wanting to move ...my husband finally agreed that we can move but I don’t think he really believes that I will get rid of a bunch of stuff so I am starting to get moving seriously today ...whomever put the message out there I hear it clearly ..and thank you the Minimalist for delivering it !!!

@sarahlockridge7879 2 жыл бұрын

Recently our goodwill had the same situation, a line to donate and a lock on the big shed to put donations into. Well, our local recycle center has a place to recycle clothes and shoes and books! So now I am using that instead!

@EBadventure21 4 жыл бұрын

Please make a very short video on how the pandemic is a perfect chance to be a minimalist so I can share on social media. Thank you for the videos🙏

@Rafifi 4 жыл бұрын

smallhouseinthemeadow Unfortunately, most things people are thinking they are donating actually are “trash.” In reality they are just discarding their “trash.” So the solution actually is to buy less “stuff” so that we don’t need to discard them so often.

@Rafifi 4 жыл бұрын

Last time I went to Goodwill to discard some stuff I saw most people are just dumping their trash over there. It’s time we need to stop calling it “donation.” We should only donate something that is in good condition, something that someone will like to use!

@ChickenDuckish 4 жыл бұрын

Re Katia's question about buying multiples in different colours, I've struggled with this too. Two things have helped me. The first is reminding myself that it's that kid in the candy shop situation - and having more makes each less special just like the ice cream analogy. I also remind myself not to be the spoilt brat that gets everything. Choosing two favourites is indulgent enough. Second reminder is that fashion changes and there'll be future options to look forward to and love - I won't be stuck living in the past with 4 of a slightly outdated item. The two that I chose will have been worn, loved, and ready for replacement 🙂

@kathleenking9777 4 жыл бұрын

Ohhh... tough one the tactile thing. The feel of my great aunt’s vintage ‘carpet bag’ made of trimmed velvet... lush, plush, tactile beauty that is... so... tough one regarding the value of that tactile things!!

@RhodaStone 3 жыл бұрын

I cleared my kitchen Countertops-the kitchen looks much better🌴

@trailertrish 4 жыл бұрын

I needed this one today. Thanks as always! U guys are the best motivation!

@lindaw140 4 жыл бұрын

Thanks for the video! Get rid of books I don’t read feels so better

@bluetrain8756 3 жыл бұрын

Trying to avoid the glug of people at Good Will or Salvos, try looking up a local area Pass it Forward group on Facebook, it's brought me joy to help others by helping them get items that they needed or would enjoy. Also, if playing the 30-Day Minimalism Game, these types of sites are awesome!

@newday7504 4 жыл бұрын

Great episode. Im drowning on stuff so hard to get started again

@DoBeLove 4 жыл бұрын

Tactile stuff. A stuffed animal from childhood, absolutely can't replace that feeling. My dog's paw cast and paw print.

@Patricia-yt3ip 3 жыл бұрын

I think the question to be asked in the “joy” situation should be different. Because this whole concept of joy can become fallacious in many different scenarios. So, instead of “will buying this bring me joy?” (focus on the act of acquiring something per se) it’s more accurate and productive to ask “will keeping this after buying it contribute to or be in the way of my joy, sense of peace, self image and life flow?” (Focus on what that ownership means past the dopamine rush). Internalizing this distinction has brought so much clarity to my own journey and, more importantly, completely changed my perspective towards impulse buying. The other thing that helps is to think about the quote “if it costs your peace, it’s too expensive”. Because then, even items on sale can lose their appeal - sure, the financial cost of acquiring it is low, but the cost to your peace and life flow, having to manage these items down the line, adds a cost that really doesn’t make a lot of sense. This mentality has completely changed my purchasing habits and I no longer buy things on impulse. Yes, I used to get things in different colors too.

@Naztalgic 4 жыл бұрын

Hi guys rally enjoyed this episode while making some art! Thank you for your constant Wisdom and recommendations

@shess1640 4 жыл бұрын

I’m so enjoying this podcast. I’d like to hear more about how you found your way to health from where you were so overweight. Which podcast would I find that story in, please?

@joannemorris1689 4 жыл бұрын

Hi from the UK. I took loads of stuff to the Salvation Army homeless shelter

@gina9684 4 жыл бұрын

I decided to do the 30 Day Challenge. My start date is Saturday August 1. I'm kind of looking forward to it.

@bigb853 4 жыл бұрын

I love, love the suggestions about bringing flowers/ a kind note---- gorgeous!!! Xxox

@SaraEFR74 4 жыл бұрын

I ask for donations to my favourite charity x

@janetfuller1900 3 жыл бұрын

I am in Vermont and the Goodwill lines are loooong.

@soogit0416 4 жыл бұрын

Wow, you guys read my mind. I was about to start Minsgame starting August 1st!!!

@jocelynems5 4 жыл бұрын

YES..... thrift stores in our area also are not taking donations.... even our local Women's Shelter is not taking donations. Makes it hard to get rid of the excess. By the way... I love you guys!

@irishcladdagh3 3 жыл бұрын

Wow....a line at a GW....in AZ we have GW in every corner....you can just walk in and right by the door there is a bin where you put ur donations....if its a big item you go to another area where an attendant will assist you.

@dkbegue 4 жыл бұрын

Yes I had to wait 30 minutes in the car line to donate. As only 2 donation centers available for drop offs. 3 separate trips scheduled for half price books

@cozzy8910 4 жыл бұрын

Hi Ryan&Joshua, would it be possible to bring your partner to the podcast? Im curious about how your partner or family reacts to this lifestyle of minimalism.

@TheMinimalists 4 жыл бұрын

Bex was on the podcast a few weeks back! Listen to episode 241 on HORMONES.

@PhonePhone-fh9zq 3 жыл бұрын

Thanks for this. I just have an issue with Goodwill. We’re not really donating. We are giving our stuff to a store for profit. I honestly try to first give to friends, then donate to a charity, then free cycle, then thrift stores that are local, then last resort Goodwill. This is my biggest hang up is just tossing good stuff to Goodwill. I really want a place that helps the poor. Any suggestions or ideas ☺️

@joymae 4 жыл бұрын

People need to stop attaching themselves to their stuff

@debk6161 3 жыл бұрын

For over half a century I’ve tried every way I can think of to get my husband to get rid of literally thousands of items from his childhood. He has never parted with a single one. My oft repeated example of purging my own items (even things I loved and was very sad to give up) prior to our many moves has only made him happy - because he knew there would soon be even more room for everything he has kept plus the probability of adding more to his hoard. He has never sacrificed anything of his own. Because the majority of his deteriorating items are books (which are “sacred” to many people,) I am hoping to outlive him so I can arrange for a traditional Viking funeral. Those crumbling yellowed pages should burn very well. 😏

@susiehollams3218 4 жыл бұрын

What a brilliant podcast. This was the only one that I have listened to all the way through! I enjoyed it so much that I went to your website and subscribed to your email list. Thanks, Susie Hollams, Perth, Australia💜

@TheMinimalists 4 жыл бұрын

Glad you enjoyed it!

@ArtyAntics 4 жыл бұрын

One thing I thought you would mention more of is that he has the idea of a home after retirement. I don’t mean to be glum but if he is active military and doesn’t come home he is leaving that for his family. Also he might end up injured or even just a normal situation of having to go to a retirement home. Those are normally small apartments. I had to stop working because of health. I thought I would take a year out and go back so I kept all my suits. 5 years on I still can’t go back to work and it’s looking like if I did it wouldn’t be to a job that requires suits daily. My point is I’ve learned to keep things for my life right now because tomorrow might be completely different to how I imagined it.

@2legit2Kwit 3 жыл бұрын

I have a problem with hoarding and amassing makeup, and body care products. I have three body washes, 5 different shampoos, 2 conditioners, three face washes, 5 different types of concealers, 4-5 make up foundations.... I decided to use all the products before I buy one more!!!! That’s my goal for the rest of 2020 and heading in to 2021. Not stepping my foot in a rite aid until I’m running out of the last one.

@queenofjensylvania 3 жыл бұрын

So, how did it go? Did you use up your body care products?

@jopsmangulabnan 4 жыл бұрын

Hellooooo from the Philippines!

@JohnnyD5 4 жыл бұрын

My wife and I do the same thing with our 8 year old daughter but I wonder if this will have the opposite effect later on in life and she or any other child experiencing this will become a hoarder because "my parents made me give my stuff away". What's the best way to approach this possible situation?

@svetlasvet5909 4 жыл бұрын

I had the same questions. Check the series of The Minimal Mom about kids toys. It made amazing difference for my boys. Now from time to time they just come to me with a toy and say "Let's give this to another child"

@meganday4408 4 жыл бұрын

When my kids were young (1-5yrs) I would declutter for them but later started to include them in the process. Now my kids will ask for help to clean out their rooms when they feel overwhelmed with their things. Kids, just like adults, enjoy a sense of order and control in their lives. Let them see you model decluttering and they will likely jump in.

@amara560 3 жыл бұрын

My mum discarded things and I bawled my eyes out. It definitely led to some hoarding tendencies in early adulthood. I would say don't force it. Some things to keep in mind might be the 'container rule'. They're allowed to keep what fits into a certain space.

@alinasimon1965 4 жыл бұрын

(29:51) I have one thing which I kept, because as a picture it wouldn't make sense☝️:) . I have a bunch of small caricaures, which I have glued in a book. There is just something magical about flipping through it 😄. As a picture it is just not the same feeling.

@kaitlinobrien243 3 жыл бұрын

Relationships with people, more precious than any item, room to share your home with friends and family, a well ordered kitchen to cook for loved ones. Create memories in great times of being together, not STUFF!

@karenstough8708 4 жыл бұрын

That's good analogy, Joshua, "malnourished by our stuff."

@lh1053 4 жыл бұрын

The price we pay to hold on to things is truly not worth it. It’s your time you are paying with. How many hours’ worth? Your money is your time!

@DiscipleSteven 4 жыл бұрын

lol literally one summer brothers went to camp and my mom "cleaned" their rooms!

@DarcieGlam 4 жыл бұрын

I just can't believe how endless it is. I am not shopping except for food and have been decluttering. it's taking forever. But I live in a condo otherwise I would have a dumpster outside my window and would just toss lol.

@amara560 3 жыл бұрын

I've been at it for 6 years :/ chronic illness makes it really tough but I have finally staunched most of the influx and that helps a lot!

@BibiRamos 4 жыл бұрын

I always laugh out loud when I hear "Bob Dylan may he rest in peace"

@sweetsfranco5794 2 жыл бұрын

facebook, nextdoor, freecycle to publicize to your neighbors the stuff you don't need and maybe they do!

@ginabove1701 4 жыл бұрын

When my son moves out...tackling the attic..again.

@corrieandjassie 4 жыл бұрын

For young children, it’s actually good to not have them go through their things every time you thin out. They have a different level of understanding and sometimes it’s actually very stressful for them. They actually have a foggy sense of reality and will often create a personality for a toy that doesn’t turn off when the game is over. I have my son help me thin out every other time and don’t usually tell him if I throw away a broken one.

@rjwagz 4 жыл бұрын

As a guitarist, I'm having a REALLY hard time with this episode 🤣

@anthonylangford8575 4 жыл бұрын

I became a minimalist a couple of years ago. I could pack my stuff in a couple of boxes but my wife is the opposite and a hoarder and drives me crazy.

@RhodaStone 3 жыл бұрын

Pots & pans-I put a lot by the dumpster & someone took them-I was going to dump them the next day❤️

@2legit2Kwit 3 жыл бұрын

Because of the long lines at goodwill, I have witnessed people throwing away great items at the dump.

@DenisePendleton Күн бұрын

Can you add a tour date in Sacramento as love to go.

@Iquey 4 жыл бұрын

To the story about Goodwiil and the Lines, I think it's not only decluttering but people are moving out of california (or at least trying/preparing to) sell their house and go, en masse and want to lighten the load once they can buy a place somewhere different. My guess is they are going to Arizona, nevada, montana, idaho and rural washington / oregon. And for the really hardcore, Texas. 😂

@kimberlymitchell7630 4 жыл бұрын

I am in Brisbane, Australia and tried to take some items to donate but they are not taking a lot of different items during the virus. One I went to wouldn't take clothing or kitchen items.

@Emma.E.Emerson 4 жыл бұрын

I had to buy more clothes, because it is more time saving to wash laundry only once or twice a month. I needed to minimalize my time, too. 🌻 I live in exercise clothes due to the pandemic now. 🦋

@KeerthanaR22 4 жыл бұрын

Thanks so much.....

@sarahlockridge7879 2 жыл бұрын

Idk who to buy my t-shirts from. I'm slowly going to a capsule wardrobe and have no idea who to get from as my current clothes retire.

@trackerrrr 4 жыл бұрын

I have a bad habit of trying to save and reuse every tool and part I have in my garage even though I have tools that haven't been used in years. "I might need it one day"...

@alohaeverafter6886 4 жыл бұрын

I’m late to the party, but you can have donations picked up by Disabled American Veterans. DonateDAV.org. I live in So Cal and they picked up recently.

@skevaschris1 4 жыл бұрын

I am the first to like this video!! yeahh!!!

@user-uz5lj2ni4y 3 жыл бұрын

We must stop shopping people! We were brainwashed to go shopping! But enough is enough!

@mlt202 4 жыл бұрын

How did Ryan get his t-shirts to last 2 years?

@mohammadazizkhani6362 4 жыл бұрын

Buy quality. I have been wearing few Tshirts every week for 3 years now! Check out Bjorn borg, helly hansen and of course marino wool. cheers

@queeniebaggins3732 4 жыл бұрын

Delicate wash. Line dry inside out.

@rominagomez2585 4 жыл бұрын

"If I'm ever gonna paint" hahahahahaha that's totally me sometimes and then I just virtually slap.myself like batman meme hahahaha

@Lumpy_Peter 4 жыл бұрын

You say that things only add value when they either serve a purpose or bring joy. So far so good. Then Joshua goes on saying that a thing can only bring joy when shared with others. Me, as a person who, if I am being honest with myself and look at my actions, finds it hard to place relationships on my values list, I found myself disagreeing with this statement. I do get a lot of joy from spending time in outdoors on my own, so I immediately I thought about my gear. On the second thought, it does not bring me joi in itself, it is a tool and serves a purpose. I am having hard time to come up with a thing that brings me joy, because when I think about it, at the end of the day it only serves some purpose. Can you give me an example on a thing that just brings you joy without it serving a purpose?

@Lumpy_Peter 4 жыл бұрын

@Heather OToole Fair enough. I think one can definitely get joy from a painting or a music album on his/hers own without sharing it with others. Or is there something I don't get? Just trying to figure out why I was so triggered by this statement. :-)