how could her dad see this guy treat her this way and just be "dumbfounded" and not get her out of there

Unbelievable that she didn't contact the British Embassy!

If you're pregnant in a foreign country, and it's at all possible, fly back to your home country to give birth.

You have to be careful when you "fall in love" with people in countries that are culturally different. Him becoming abusive and controlling out of nowhere is not an accident. And the biggest mistake she made was not having her son in England.

Her story is a perfect example of why its extremely important to get to truly know a person before being in and relationship with or worse a child with them. Her problem was she moved way to fast with him by being intimate, staying in Turkey, married and having a child way that mad man way to fast. Very important lesson to take from this story.

once an abuser, always an abuser, i cant believe this man is free.

WOW!!!!!! So touched how many people watched this.Thank you all. Im the man who played Fethi. 13 years ago...

A very similar case happened in Michigan, USA. The father took the mother and daughter to Iran to visit relatives for 2 weeks, but then refused to let them leave. After 18 months the mother escaped with the child back to the USA. A movie was made called, "Not Without My Daughter."

The problem started when the dad watched her daughter get dragged of by another man

How is her dad not reacting? If someone even looked at me the wrong way, my dad would have knocked his teeth out lmao

I looked Oliver up on Facebook, he now lives in London, so he went over to live with his mum❤️ pretty sure it’s him because it says that he used to live in Kemer.

I remember when my ex locked me in the house after we broke up. He didn't beat me. Just got angery and told me I was not leaving and foced me to stay. I called a womens shelter for help one day when he was at work and in less the two months I had safety left. It wasnt easy to leave. He had all my money and my stuff and my dog. He still stocks me to this day and its been over six years. But I have since rebuilt my life in many ways. I was blessed with a random stray dog that no one wanted right after leaving him. She is a German Shepard. Truns out she is fearsly protective of me and I am of her. She gave me a reason to live, get up in the morning, and she made me feel safe. Since leaving him every thing fell into place. I found love and now I am happy married. Just graduated school and have career! Ladies or Gentlemen you can leave them, you are worthy, and your do fine with out them !!!

Well I'm sorry but I love my life. I'm not going to go somewhere on vacay & fall in love with somebody who I don't know, stay just because he tell me stay. No sah. Too much evil lurking around the world

She calls him telling him i wont be back.. Dumb move. Just stay hidden and shut up.

Wtf, she still told him her second address after knowing what he was like..

As a mother I’m totally shocked that she gave up so easily! At least try to press charges at least she’ll know she tried!!

Can we please do some research before we go falling in love in a whole different country with a completely different culture 😒

So many UK women go on holiday and “fall in love” with the “handsome” man, they fall under his “spell” and as soon as they’re “hooked” the controlling and abuse happens. Then, it’s down to Interpol/government and other officials to “save” them and it’s worse if children are involved. This woman, whilst I appreciate her being young and naive, I cannot understand her leaving her son behind. There’s no way on this Earth I would leave my son. Moral of the story, don’t do a “Shirley Valentine.” It never works because each country has their own customs and beliefs.

Never marry someone in another country so fast. Then have a child, you're doomed!😢

I stayed in Turkey for 3 years. My sister was married to a man from Ankara, who at first seems to be broad minded gentlemen, two and half years passed and he became a typical rural Muslim husband. I am not going to generalize and say your boyfriends will become the same, but ladies out there with different cultures, take sometime and don't rush. I used to hang out with lots of man while i was there, and i realized why my sister thought it was fine to go ahead. They are aware that other cultures around the world don't like their way of treating women, and so they will never show you that part of them.

Wow that was easy to convince her "" don't go back just stay here " ..... OKAY THAN !

She’s brave for sharing her story. People always saying what they would and wouldn’t do 🙄 like well it isn’t you!

To all those judging her, you are not in her shoes. She did try to keep him. She did not just hand her son over and go, "Toodloo, have a nice life, Oliver." She took it all the way to the High Court. She also explained that she did not want to put Oliver through more than what he had gone through and understood that he was not going to be treated badly by his father and family.

She's so naive. It's so painful 😩

The actress playing her is gorgeous.

If that was my son I would fight to the end

Y’all are all attacking this women who’s been through such a traumatic experience and put in to a situation probably none of you could ever understand. Yes she told her story, but there’s always details you will never know that made her make the decisions she did. And I’ll leave it at that.

She says "I was pretty fearless in those days" - which translates to "I was an absolute idiot" LOL

" I was pretty fearless in those days" = "I was pretty ignorant" :-D

Why the hell would you ring up and say you weren't coming back?? Just go no contact. What a fool

It still amazes me how ppl STILL dont lock their doors when they are home!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Most surprising thing was her dads lack of a reaction when his daughter was being abused!

So sad, so weak. But look at her example. Her own father didn't stand up for her when her husband abused her at the bar in front of him. That should've been enough reason for any parent to risk their life for the survival of their offspring.

After being beaten by her "husband" then she pulled a knife on him..."I still thought this was normal family life".......seriously??

I've been in a lot of really bad relationships and after many years the greatest lesson I've learned is always be skeptical, step back and don't let love blind you from what's real and seeing who someone really is. Red flags will fly right over your head and you'll brush off anything cause you don't wanna believe what you're seeing or feeling. If something is wrong, don't ignore it regardless of how much you like them.

She should have listened to her girl friend, she seen that he wasn't a good man...

Very sad story in every way I only hope Oliver is having a nice life of his own.

I feel for her but I would never ever ever leave my child behind

Even in the chat rooms you can get a sense that middle eastern men have an entitled attitude when speaking to women . Her friend wasn't happy about her relationship with this man . Maybe she should have taken more notice of her friend.

Watching this makes my blood boils how a person can be so naive, to the point of stupidity.

4:25, the point where the friend realizes she's the third wheel

I really hope that the dad took good care of his son. And that he didnt learned the habits of the father...

The woman was very young and naive. She didn't know this man very long, and he showed her his representative at first, not the kind of guy he really was. He ran a tourist hotel, so charming the ladies was part of his business, and he knew how to do it very well. Actually it's a known fact that many abusive men can appear confident and quite charming when people are meeting them the first time. That's why it pays to really get to know someone over time before hooking up with them. It can happen in any country. There are abusive men and women all over the world, but sure the numbers are higher when it comes to abusive men, although part of that may be because men are going to be too humiliated to say if they have an abusive wife, but even if they did come forward the number of abused women will be higher no matter what simply because most men are quite physically stronger, and know they can overpower most women. It's extremely important though to study up first about a country before you go there, even for holiday, and mandatory really if you don't speak the language. There are very strict laws in Islamic countries regarding women. Public displays of affection I know are not acceptable in these type of strict countries, and even if it's a country that doesn't forbid you to dress in clothes that show a little more skin, it's also not something they actually encourage either, and can put you more at risk of being targeted by locals living there as it's often seen as a disrespect. When you travel you are on their grounds not your own. That applies to anywhere in the world.

This chick is the best kidnap victim of all time. You don't have to worry about her outing you at any of the checkpoints or anything.

When are they going to understand that these guys aren’t for them?!

My Dad would have beat the s#*& out of that guy! Wow! And always ask for a lawyer! No matter what!

I’m so confused. Why wouldn’t they have been extradited back to the UK. He should have had to answer for his crimes there. That makes no freaking sense!

If you fall in love with a man with a different culture remember you must face the culture too

If she really wanted to have her son in his child years then she would have fought for him by pressing charges.

It confuses me that a man can be nice and romantic for over a year and then just turn weird like that; feels like you never know if or when you know a man, it's scary.

What kind of man sits there and watches someone treat there daughter like that

When your on vacation anywhere everything feels and sounds perfect.

She picked an abusive guy over her friend. I bet her friend tried to warn her but she wanted an exotic man.

Omg.i cant leave my son anywhere.over my dead body

My dad will stop giving a damn about husband, culture and tradition, immediately after seeing a dude do any one of those things, just one. But he wouldn’t have to because I use my common sense. Won’t even date til both kids are grown.

Middle Eastern values are in stark contrast to western, where the freedom of women are concerned. Abuse and control of women is totally normal in their culture

Lol wat kind of father stands there while her daughter is being dragged away by a man 😂😂

I can't stand Joanne. She abandoned her son and allowed his father to shape him. Respect for women and their free choice will be foreign to a young man raised by such a father.

This should be made into a movie. Imagine being thrown in jail after getting violently kidnapped and to top it all off be placed in a cell with your kidnapper then asked if your son would prefer staying with him over you😱.. I honestly couldn't. this is the stuff of night mares... OMG she didn't press charges?! that is CRAZY but I know truma, abuse and relationships cloud ones judgement and mindset but my heart breaks for her and this family I'm just glad everyone is alive and well grateful her and Oliver have a relationship. 🙏

Totally agree with the last post. These countries are drenched in patriarchal culture, values, etc.... The people in some of these middle eastern and African countries are dependent on families, neighbors, and co-workers for their personal self-esteem. Their definition of 'shame' needs its own dictionary. It's draconian.

These have the best actors.Amazing talent

That ending was sad and unfulfilling

Nothing's better then sitting on you couch sipping on a coffee and watching some wonder survivor

The boy continues to chose the dad over the mom and the dad is also awarded custody 🤔. most kids never want to leave moms side and feel safe with the mom.

Most people in the comments section are being HIGHLY critical of a victim of domestic abuse.

What the hell did she expect marrying that guy?!

This happened to my mother with her first child, minus the abuse from what I’m aware. Almost 35 years later, it still affects her.

She valued her freedom more than her son. I’ve seen parents fight for custody for years, yet this woman seems pretty content with her choices.

She didn’t came from normal and loving family for sure

Wait.. let me get this straight: she let her husband take her son back to Turkey, and then started an new life on her own? She didn’t consider calling authorities in the U.K. to report kidnapping?

She threw her happy life away to live with an extremist. What a horrible nightmare.

This is an extremely sad story. How sad that this little boy didn't get to know his mom.

I feel bad for her, I do...but as a mum I would never leave my son TWICE!

He offered his hand to every other girl too, how can you fall for this trick

Why turkish men so insecure? I hear such storys daily.

Men from middle East are wired differently, their level of chauvinism is in another league...two minutes into this I felt happy for our queen Rihana breaking up with Hassan

I will NEVER understand how a mother can walk away from her child. I will can NEVER understand how a mother cant or wouldnt fight for her kids.

Clearly either she’s still clueless or too scared to understand why this played out the way it did.

Brave lady ,no man has the right to treat a women like this. Well done

I've had several similar instances with male Turkish hotel owners as a solo female traveler. Never relationship, but just the obscured way they would treat me when I worked for their hotel. Insane, some of those men.

Very sad for oliver to see his mum and dad like this!!

thanks for showing Turkey as a forgotten sahara country..

I'm just so sorry for this woman! Nobody deserves to go through such a thing! What I want everybody to remember is that men CAN'T HIT women and women CAN'T HIT men. That's never ok and it shouldn't be justified under any circumstances. PERIOD.

How in the world do you start afresh without your child???? And then just go ahead and find a new man🤔 I would commit a criminal offense before I let someone take my son.

Ladies, Choose well❤ I am so glad she saved herself!

Reminds me a bit of the movie “Not Without My Daughter”.

Why does this kind of give me "not without my daughter" vibes 😂

When you go on holiday/vacation to a different country, you have to be aware of how different it is culturally. To be honest, her ignorance cost her. She can't expect people to adapt to her culturally when she is in their country & chose to stay & marry with a local.

when a person suffers a crisis in his life, there is a tendency to break the status que and search for alternative. people make the worst decisions at such time.

There is no way in hell I would be leaving my son!!!!!

If any man treated my daughter like that? Enjoy being six feet under. Dad failed her. Big time.

I went to Greece with 2 female friends, I ended up going for a romantic walk with a georgious Greek man, he wanted to have sex but I totally refused , he had no problem with that , in fact we got really well, and he seemed genuine, and he walked me back to the town and he paid for my taxi back to my apartment, I never saw him again and am so glad I had the sense not to sleep with him, could have ended up pregnant and I could have ended up in a situation like this woman!! Ladies?? Here is my advice!.... Just stay with your family r friends when on holiday, have fun, do the things you planned on doing, and go home!!! With your happy memories! Stay away from the locals and don't get involved in a relationship, !!!

what a cold woman (mother) and her family, she could'nt hide in another town with her family's help?

What kind of person are you? Leaving your little boy just to move on with your life. Pure selfish.

I love visiting Turkey but much too smart to fall for the local men’s charms.... overall very nice people and a beautiful country!

See if that was my dad they would’ve found Fheti floating in the river.

Lol don't make grandmas in scarfs look scary cmon thats rude

What a naive, stupid woman!!! How many chances did she have to press charges????

I don't know why anyone is saying this is a cultural thing. I've had a similar incident in the US by an American "man". Maybe just don't be an abusive pos and treat your so called loved ones with kindness and they don't need to flee from you. We need to be very careful regardless of country of origin.

I would have ever be able to live without my son and probably would have keep fighting for him till the end of my days or have made a smarter plan to keep my son. This woman is just a reflection of the kind of parents she grow up with, just looking the way her father acted when this guy abuse her in front of him and do nothing for her tells what kind of values and mentality she grow up and she just did the same to her son just by walking away.