What a Handshake Really Means

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What a Handshake Really Means

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A handshake is something we don't give much thought to - but it can speak volumes about who you are. Take your handshaking seriously! Brian Reynolds here:
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@darrelleddington7948 Ай бұрын

One thing you didn’t mention was that a firm handshake was, and still is, a signature of agreement when making a commitment. A man’s word and firm handshake used to mean something. For me, it still does.

@hotice8885 Ай бұрын

YES, Darrell. Could not agree more!!

@stephanuhu963 Ай бұрын

There is history to your observation. I lived for some years in the great Hanseatic city of Hamburg in North Germany. I learnt about the fascinating history of the Hanseatic League, in whose world handshake-sealed agreements were serious commitments, to the point that a broken word was often enforced with grave consequences.

@andyprairiedog4829 Ай бұрын

Yes, sir...the Handshake still goes well in my family.

@jlsage4059 Ай бұрын

You’re a dying breed.

@GregsWorkshopOregon Ай бұрын

I met Scott when he had the Open House at the Spec House a few years ago. We shook hands and the first thing he said was "Whoa, that's one heck of a handshake! You must work with your hands!" It was a high honor Scott, thank you.

@drhmufti Ай бұрын

Strong handshakes and warm bear hugs are the approach I want to go forth with!

@jameswolff2152 Ай бұрын

I’m all for a good handshake but I can do without the bro hug

@larkop6504 Ай бұрын

I dunno man I hadn't seen my father in a year, picked me up at the airport and went to shake his hand and he just grabbed me and gave me a bear hug. In that moment I realised how much I missed his character.

@chriswilson9230 Ай бұрын

Many of my fire service friends do a hand shake and hug.

@sevendeadlychins Ай бұрын

Your videos are like gas in my tank. God how I wish I had had family members with this much wisdom and leadership as a young person.

@heknows5418 Ай бұрын

You be the one that acquires the wisdom to pass on to next generation

@yevgeniysunny Ай бұрын

In county, where I grew up. Men always handshake when they see each other. ALWAYS when we see each other. And last 10 years I live in US, and this art is definitely lost. You said it’s bad to get a sloppy handshake, but way worse when a person doesn’t realize why you’re giving him his hand. I wish this message spreads 🙏🏻

@InspiredCraftsman Ай бұрын

I've grown to value the meaning that can be carried in a handshake. In my late teens a little over 20 years ago I was greeting people coming to church. One older gentleman's handshake changed how I see that interaction. It was firm without being overbearing and conveyed compassion or maybe empathy and attention to the interaction. It was the only time I ever saw that man, probably visiting family from out of town, but I'm grateful to him for what he taught a teen with a simple handshake.

@AlexisLK Ай бұрын

I just arrived to this channel and my dear lord, it feels like finally arriving home

@ClaytonSensiba Ай бұрын

The men I grew up around knew all this stuff but never taught me. I view this man as another dad. Always a pleasure to hear him talk

@Hoaxer51 Ай бұрын

Yes, Welcome friend, we all come here to learn and see how others do things, usually in the building craft.

@dcs5343 Ай бұрын

All of Scott's videos are like that. Very wholesome and educational. I've been watching them for years.

@ChrisLoganToronto Ай бұрын

Welcome In, pull up a chair, and get ready to learn. You are amongst friends

@inotaarto8719 Ай бұрын

@@ChrisLoganTorontoand brothers in Christ

@keithplacko6806 Ай бұрын

Essential Craftsman is the BEST content on KZfaq.

@TheCowboylogic 10 күн бұрын

Absolutely!

@MalusMons Ай бұрын

The guys who try to crush your hand are also as bad as the cod fish. Fragile egos

@SplashJohn Ай бұрын

Agreed. I've experienced both, and to mature men they are equally repellent for different reasons.

@RevPirateDan Ай бұрын

@@SplashJohn I disagree. Limp fish handshakers *should* know better, but they *might* not realize they're doing it wrong. The guys who really bear down on your hand intentionally, that's willfully jerktacular behaviour, and therefore worse. IMO. I just wrote a reply right before this, describing an encounter with one such jerk.

@ColinMcCormack Ай бұрын

As a kid, I used to use maximum force. I learned better over time

@Yugemos Ай бұрын

@@ColinMcCormack Sounds like my sex life.

@MrFunkinPure Ай бұрын

Absolutely that. Pathetic idiots.

@donfrank4429 Ай бұрын

I learned that from my dad and when I was in the boy scouts about hand shake and looking at the person in their eye, with a strong hand shake

@BlueAce79 Ай бұрын

Men like you are far and few between now days. You are the father figure most men never had. Please keep doing what you do! Respect!

@jesseshort8 Ай бұрын

There's nothing worse than when you dont get your hand all the way in there and the other guy grabs your fingers prematurely. I've never thought to ask for another go around, it just sits in the back of my mind for the rest of the conversation. Thank you Scott, for everything I've learned from you over the years!

@dcs5343 Ай бұрын

I always tell them to shake again when they grab my fingers. Otherwise, it feels like an awkward interaction. It's slightly awkward even still but I personally am not bothered by awkwardness😁

@SplashJohn Ай бұрын

Yep, I experience that from time to time, and I ALWAYS say something like, "Whoa, let's try that again" with a smile, even though sometimes I know it was done on purpose as a power move.

@jwbeck21 Ай бұрын

Fantastic lesson! Met a very professional, intelligent and intentional business professional yesterday. I’m a bigger gent. She was a petite lady. She reached out, gave me the best handshake of the business conference and within minutes we were exchanging biz ideas, marketing, politics and solutions. The best conversations start with a great handshake!

@codymason4447 Ай бұрын

Definitely matters to me. I’ve rejected contractor bids when they won’t give a handshake.

@JOHN-fx3xo Ай бұрын

A good handshake is a great sign of intent. Thank you. Please let us loose the bumps.

@dean9498 Ай бұрын

Not sure why the algorithm put this in my feed,but you remind me so much of my father. He passed on New Years Day this year at 94. It's refreshing to to watch and listen to you. I'm binge watching your videos. Definitely going to subscribe.

@chrismullin8304 Ай бұрын

It happened because he loves you! (Your Father);-)

@user-uh8vw4yu6g Ай бұрын

That is how a lot of deals were finalized in my grandpas day and me also I am 76 years old and have seen it first hand! Great show

@TimEggersHighwheelWoodworks Ай бұрын

This handshake video is the first of your productions that I have viewed. If it is at all reflective of the majority of your content, I will greatly look forward to viewing all of your work. Thank you for sharing such an important tradition.

@Chumly409 Ай бұрын

Always nice to be greeted with a Laurel, and hardy handshake!

@paulcasterlin8825 Ай бұрын

The sheriff is near!

@psidvicious Ай бұрын

Just as important as a good firm handshake, is looking the person directly in the eye at that moment. The level of other facial expressions at the moment, depends on the situation. Sometimes a big smile is right, sometimes just a faint smile is more appropriate. Sometimes if it’s a coming together to settle a dispute type of situation, just a stern, serious look is the appropriate face to put on. A firm handshake and direct eye contact are the givens. The rest is up to you.

@SplashJohn Ай бұрын

Agreed. The inability to establish or maintain eye contact gives an impression similar to a weak handshake.

@sawdustadikt979 Ай бұрын

Some folks are resistant to hearing about how important this is. It’s ok to ask to do it again if there was a miss grip. What a great video Scott. If you only read one part of “The Encyclopedia Of Body Language “ is the chapter on hand shakes. I’m a middle aged, self employed carpenter. Being able to meet people where they are at while being welded to your integrity is everything. I meet people everyday. Every job opportunity depends on my ability to listen and observe.

@Yugemos Ай бұрын

I never know how hard to squeeze so I feel it out. One time a cabinet shop foreman was interviewing me though, and that guy squeezed my hand like he was dead-lifting 400lbs, so I gave it right back.

@PaulMikna Ай бұрын

It's so good to hear about these "old school" values on your channel. I had a great father, much like you, who taught me all of these things.... and I am a better man because of him (and my mother too)!

@R_B62 Ай бұрын

I was a area salesman for a time selling post frame building. My territory covered over the third of my home state. So I had a lot of rural customers and the first thing when I met the farmer, orchard owner... Was a warm greating and a firm handshake. I could tell most of the time by the hand shake if we were going to do business or not. If the person returned my hearty greating and firm hand shake, I was halfway to closing that sale.

@ja8898 Ай бұрын

I can't wait to teach my son some of these things. He's just a bit too young now, but in a few years he's going to know the meaning of hard work and a firm handshake.

@hard2getitrightagain314 Ай бұрын

He's not too young. Start from his infancy to reach for his right hand with yours as you make eye contact when first coming together after any separation. Say "Good morning" or "Hello, Son" as you do this. Be cheerful, but do not use baby talk when you do it. Lay him down or walk away from him in his mother's arms with the same treatment. Call him "Sir" or "Young Sir" or "Good Young Man" frequently. Remember he's just a boy, but NEVER forget that he will soon be a man. Set the expectations lovingly high and be the pattern.

@jphickory522 Ай бұрын

Love this

@jimkomola787 Ай бұрын

There was an old timer up here in Maine who, after a terrible accident servicing an old split rim, lost most of the use of his left arm. After many years of operating all aspects of his life with his right hand, he became known as "Gripper". One of his favorite games to play with the newcomers at the bar was to shake their hand and see if they could take it. Rest in Peace Grip.

@julianj7d374 Ай бұрын

Brilliant! Thank you. This video should be watched by everyone. We need this attitude in our current world. God bless America!

@mbran17 Ай бұрын

My daughter gets complements from people at work when she gives a handshake. My grandfather taught me the importance of a good handshake. I have shared it with all of my children and all of the young guys at work.

@user-oj3ik1tw2k Ай бұрын

This is awesome! The handshake, no matter what statue they have, will determine my perception of them.

@StableColonel Ай бұрын

A vital part of the American Tradition. You never disappoint, Mr. Reynolds.

@SplashJohn Ай бұрын

Wadsworth, not Reynolds.

@StableColonel Ай бұрын

@@SplashJohn Mr. Wadsworth. My bad.

@SplashJohn Ай бұрын

@@StableColonel No worries. I get things wrong also.

@lorddeez1385 Ай бұрын

These are the types of videos I subscribed for, the craftsman stuff is just a bonus! "Old man" life advice like this is the best. My grandpa was the same with handshakes, and thought me from a young age how important it is. Whenever I meet someone new or see someone I have not seen for a long time, it's a handshake. I have had many people tell me how good it is, so it definitely still means something to some of us younger folk!

@bobainsworth5057 Ай бұрын

My mother taught me to shake hands just a bit stronger than the other person, not in competition, just so they don't get the feeling they are shaking a fish. Best video ever .

@RobC1999 Ай бұрын

A firm handshake for me communicates agreement along with I’m solid, capable, and competent in an unspoken way.

@heknows5418 Ай бұрын

My father was a farmer when we moved to the city ( he had heart issues) my dad went to a local bank and the banker asked my dad to sign for it, from that day forward it seemed my dad was never the same, mom said it took something away from him because he never signed a note in his life , a handshake and his word was all that was required

@janderson8401 Ай бұрын

My old boss’s father ran a mason contracting business until he was 65. Part of the reason he retired ( he was still in good health and lived another 30 years) was that customers waned a signed contract.

@saracinosalvage6062 Ай бұрын

Together with intentional eye contact is also mission critical.

@crustycurmudgeon2182 Ай бұрын

Much to my dismay, many times I've gone in for a handshake with a seemingly burly dude-- masculine-- and been met with either the Cod fish or, equally bad, the partially cupped hand that makes a firm grip impossible. It's awkward to the extreme. When I was much younger (pre- and early teens), many fathers of my friends would commend my firm grip (even as young as i was), and they'd remark that a good, firm handshake defined good character. My father taught me that when I was so young I barely remembered it even then. Ever since, I've never really trusted a man who couldn't shake hands like a man.

@johnpoore474 Ай бұрын

You're absolutely right. I taught my kids from an early age to shake hands and look a person in the eye. I also taught them to look at the name tag on the store clerk, cashier or waiter/waitress and thank them by name.

@austin6946 Ай бұрын

Love that there’s someone on KZfaq who still shows the importance in these things. I’d love to see one of these sit down style videos talking about health in the trades. It’s clear you know a thing or two about it after all these years and still being more active and healthy than most of my relatives.

@DKWalser Ай бұрын

I endorse everything Scott said in this video. Allow me to add one thing: many of us have arthritis in our hands. In such a case, a too firm handshake can cause unintentional pain to the recipient. With practice, it is possible to give a handshake that neither causes pain to the infirm nor is it like a dead fish. All we're looking for is firm. Anything more than that can be as bad, if not worse, than a limp handshake.

@troykitchens9924 Ай бұрын

It's all RESPECT!!! Whether it's given or recieved!!

@markb.1259 Ай бұрын

"Dead cod fish".... Love It... haha A+++ video Scott!!!

@leemyers6428 Ай бұрын

Also, look the other person in the eyes when you shake their hand. Respect.

@JayCWhiteCloud 27 күн бұрын

I truly enjoyed watching this video and listening to your insights. As a traditional artisan, (stone, timber, etc.) wilderness guide and rock climber, have acquired over my life a healthy grip. Being an "inactive" Marine, I also have developed an enjoyment of a "good handshake," but like your friend have broken a few bones (regrettably) of those that offer up a "dead fish" when they stick out their paw. A "good handshake" speaks volumes about an individual, their demeanor, and general constitution. Thank you for a wonderful video...

@gtdoering4630 Ай бұрын

Scott, Thanks for the reminder on an often forgotten, but extremely important topic.

@totherarf Ай бұрын

You can get (and give) the measure of a man by shaking his hand as you look him in the eye!

@joyworthen Ай бұрын

I was raised in the LDS church, and though I have mixed feelings about the Church as an organized religion, I am forever grateful for the handshake greeting I exchanged with the Elder greeters outside of the chapel entry (back when meetings were separated am/pm) - it was extended to all - children and adults. The confidence it gave me to reach my hand out in both social and professional contexts is profound. It’s a tell-all - all is revealed in this very simple social exchange. Weak handshakers are called out or simply dismissed.

@ChrisLoganToronto Ай бұрын

Great video, this should be a PSA. It seems today that a lot of younger people are less familiar with the formality of a handshake. Grab the other person's hand, look them in the eye and smile. It starts all negotiations off on the right foot. Be engaged!

@jaymzx0 Ай бұрын

The physical side of a firm handshake is exactly what it sounds like. Firm. You're not out to squeeze the life out of the other person's hand, but when the hands engage and you get that sweet spot where the web of the thumbs meet, it's a mild squeeze but more importantly, unyielding. It should be like presenting a hand made of wood that yields slightly, but is strong underneath. It gives the impression that my word and my presence is as strong as this wooden hand I present to you. I suppose that's the best way I can describe it. Like anything, it takes practice, so shake hands and make deals often. Make every one count, too.

@markwallace1251 Ай бұрын

Bless you brother 🗡️

@Bob816tip Ай бұрын

It all starts with eye contact. Ya gotta look em in the eye. You may notice the weak hand also doesn’t make eye contact

@martindavidson7386 5 күн бұрын

Great video! I work in construction over here in Scotland and recently met for the first time a new aftersales manager in our company. His handshake was indeed a cod fish handshake and I was surprised to say the least until discussing it with a colleague one day he pointed out that the new guy was a well known figure in Masonic circles and this is how they shake hands! I still prefer a firm grip and eye contact!😂

@Homerbub Ай бұрын

Well said! My Dad taught me the same thing. Look a man in the eye, and give him a firm handshake. And do it without a glove. Also, an agreement is binding, when gentleman shake on it! It’s always a blessing to see you on KZfaq. I like your work ethic. Blessings to you and your family!

@greghardig9523 Ай бұрын

I love the channel. I too agree the hand shake is defining. After 60 + years in the trades, not to mention 2 bouts with cancer leaving me with ostio arthritis, I am still working the trades and still believe in the commitment of the hand shake. But with the trials in life leaving me week in the grip of the hand...I still grab and grip, but I look into the eye with the look of sincere commitment and complete the engagement. Still working, still getting it done. Just today Lord, just today! Thank you for your commitment to TRUE VALUES! Well done Brother!

@jamesferris68 Ай бұрын

Definitely not silly! Also, a firm handshake tells the other person that you are coming to them as an equal, not as someone superior (crushing handshake) nor as an inferior (dead fish). It says, "Respect me as I respect you".

@bartosullivan8050 Ай бұрын

Great timing Scott! A handshake is a sign of friendship, trust and welcome. Im sixty nine in a few weeks and was taught that by my father at a very early age. I don't understand this fist bump that appears to be be replacing the hand to hand touch called the handshake. Anyway, its 4:44am in NC and I'm here because I've been a long admirer of your common sense and integrity and I always feel better about our world after spending time listening and still learning. God Bless.

@BrittCHelmsSr Ай бұрын

This reminds me of a dear freind from my church when I was growing up. She was an elderly lady named MaryKay Wills. Every Sunday she would extend her hand for a handshake. The first time, being afraid of hurting her frail little hand, I gave her the "ole dead fish" handshake. She pulled her hand back and instructed me on how a young man should be shaking hands and that he should also be aware as to whether he is causing discomfort to the one that he is shaking the hand of. Valuable information that has served me well throughout my lifetime, and that I have passed along. I am always pleased at the end of every Board of Review for a Boy Scout rank in Troop 108 in Fort Mill, SC, that the scout is always presented the hand of the adults in the room that just completed his review for rank. Often, for the new scouts who are in for their first review, the "ole dead fish" makes an appearance, but it gives us an opportunity to provide feedback and explain why a firm, but controlled handshake is so important.

@chriswilson9230 Ай бұрын

And stand up if you’re sitting down to shake hands. I admit though I am loosing some of my firmness in my grip, but I still offer a hand to shake.

@alumidiaz4873 Ай бұрын

One of the things i teach my high school students (at the earliest opportunity) is how to shake hands and why its important. Its fascinating to see that most boys, in particular, respond with great interest, excitement, and enthusiasm, to learn how such a simple act can speak volumes about the character you are or are meeting.

@Yugemos Ай бұрын

How did your lesson plans go during covid?

@JB-171 Ай бұрын

Couldn’t agree more and well said; from someone of your vintage. My father always preached this too, however, he’s 87 now and the combination of age/arthritis has robbed him of some of his strength and handshakes have become somewhat painful for him. So now he asks those he greets to take it easy on the handshake but I know he laments not being able to engage in a firm handshake anymore. Keep up the good work!

@jochenmayer Ай бұрын

That was a good one. Really had a smile in my eyes the whole video. Great guy, teaching the youngsters!

@wfjenterprises--billjohnso8701 Ай бұрын

Bravo, Scott! Couldn’t agree more. My father taught me that there are 2 important elements of a handshake. First is the firm grip, which you covered well. Second, you look the person in the eye and smile. You can actually smile with your eyes and that’s just as good. I also clearly remember him saying never to give a man a limp handshake, which he said, in his colorful way, was “like shaking a sneaker full of sh**”

@aja738 Ай бұрын

Absolutely correct, it does really matter, Thankyou for your wise commentary.

@kylefleming2171 Ай бұрын

Totally agree Also carry a rag in your pocket If you’re working at something a quick wipe followed by a firm handshake tells someone you respect and are listening Weak handshake = this/you are not important Too strong/painful = nervous or lacking confidence (if a first or business meeting)

@hotice8885 Ай бұрын

I remember seeing oldtimers do that!!! I had forgotten about it, though. Gonna start doing that; Thanks for mentioning that. The great old fashioned stuff needs to be kept alive and thriving!!

@psidvicious Ай бұрын

My dad always carried a “hanky”.

@SplashJohn Ай бұрын

A 'too strong' grip can also indicate an immature display of dominance.

@jasonwilcox2661 Ай бұрын

Scott, I have to say a man pays attention to the value of a hand shake (no matter how small it might seem) must pay great attention to things that have way greater gravity. This is my take away. Thank you for being a good a thoughtful mentor!!

@stephanuhu963 Ай бұрын

Thank you for this candid, frank and so appropriate presentation. A handshake tells so much about a man and his self-image. You mention the limp-handed floppy shake, but there's the insecure guy who grabs your hand in a kind of strike, threatening to take off your thumb. Or the vice-grip knuckle-cruncher. Then there's the arm wrestler who starts his handshake from the shoulder and biceps. Or the guy who grabs and jerks your arm to unbalance you. Like I said, they all speak of the personality of the man.

@pmchamlee Ай бұрын

Long time follower, Scott. I am 78 yrs old and when I get to view your videos, I go into my 'get all of it you can' mode. I greatly admire you and have learned much from you over the years. Blessings and Joy to you and yours! 🤠

@tonyn3123 Ай бұрын

I grew up being taught that a handshake is also to be considered a binding contract between individuals. If the contract is not executed as agreed verbally and shook on, then you are someone who becomes known to not do business with. Word gets around. Thanks.

@Kleinschmiede Ай бұрын

I like watching your videos. Especially the ones in which you talk about humanity, about fairness, about trust. This is another one of them. And you're right: We all need more of it, we should all take a step slower and respect those around us. Thanks!

@kg4lzc Ай бұрын

Had a Career Marine (His job was to assign second duty stations to first time PCSing Marines such as myself) give me exactly what I wanted even though I didn't rate a particular duty station because I had a firm, strong handshake. I would never have known except he called me just as I was leaving our meeting and explained that to me.

@Andrea-bw8xm Ай бұрын

Im a woman working in a traditionally male dominated industry. Forty years in. My Dad taught his daughters the value of a good handshake. I like a good firm grip shared equally upon introduction and often at the conclusion of a meeting up. But...being a woman, the responses to my extended hand have been everything from ignored to nice and firm and everything in-between. I'll tell you...when it's good and strong with eye contact...there's nothing better to get a glimpse into the character of the person and the tone of the interaction to follow. Keep up the good work!

@chocol8milkman750 Ай бұрын

More people need to understand this video in this day/age. Your word is your bond, your sense of self-worth, consummated by a handshake.

@dandsliger Ай бұрын

As the father of two daughters I have made this a matter of importance. When you shake someone’s hand, be firm and look them in the eye. It makes such a good first impression.

@johncamp7679 Ай бұрын

I subscribe to you years ago, and I use your videos in our yearly training. Apparently I got unsubscribed, I didn’t realize it until a video from 5 years ago showed up in my feed. I subscribed again

@DanBrown-rw2kk Ай бұрын

Amazing! I wish more people could hear this wisdom.

@paulcasterlin8825 Ай бұрын

Thanks for reinforcing what is being lost on a lot of the younger generation. I lost my Dad when i was young but my Uncle stepped up and taught me the value of a good firm handshake. Thanks again!

@bobmartin6055 Ай бұрын

Same as a salute in the military, as warriors approached each other it was customary to show an open hand and respect.

@Sakiesetakuntie Ай бұрын

Not silly at all, an affirmation that just gave me what I and so many of us deeply, deeply miss. Hi Scott, I'm so glad I watched the video.

@hankepanky9478 Ай бұрын

I was in high school and met my buddy’s uncle. I shook his hand and he immediately offered me a job. He was a higher up of some sort at the Huntsville prison here in Texas. I felt pretty damn good about that.

@thepercepter Ай бұрын

Pretty neat to see this! I would like to say in support to your presentation. Shaking hands is a physical touch that is safe for human beings when greeted and displays trust.

@pwkeely Ай бұрын

It's a lost art.

@mbran17 Ай бұрын

Awesome shout out to ASP! It is a great channel.

@mambaduhh Ай бұрын

Was taught as a young kid that a good firm handshake goes a long way, now as I get older you can really tell just from a handshake what type of person you're dealing with

@michaelpercle8163 Ай бұрын

I love this episode. I’m constantly coaching youngsters on the importance of a firm handshake, making them redo it. My wife rolls her eyes but coming from a construction background it is really important. It says I’m here and I’m formidable. Keep up the good episodes

@jphickory522 Ай бұрын

Here and formidable…. Great observation

@williamtilletts6636 Ай бұрын

Not silly at all, desperately important, concisely put and key to almost all our interactions, thank you! I would only add there is a key moment matching where you don’t seek to dominate but you seek to meet as an equal as a foundation Stone of your future interactions

@Dennis-uc2gm Ай бұрын

Years ago I had to get a roof replaced and got a bunch of quotes. A lot of them had all kinds of legalized paper work that I would have to fill out had I gone with that particular outfit. I ran across a guy that worked in the area on neighbors stuff and wanted the work and came at a fair price but his paper work was a hand shake. I went with him and never regretted it.

@clydedecker765 Ай бұрын

I'm 81 and have always expected to shake hands and do not appreciate a dead fish handshake either.. These days I seldom shake hands because I don't often meet new people and only a few of those I do meet offer a handshake. I always try to force the handshake or even a hug with family members and its always easily returned. My SIL has a great and firm handshake. I really like that man. The other is more prone to hug but his handshake is good too. I have to admit that many people these days do not really know what a handshake is or what it offers to a greeting.. If they are younger than fifty, I seldom get the handshake offer any more. A sorry affair in my book. Meeting new people is more an undesirable act than it should be due this loss in real communication efforts on the part of the younger generations. Nothing starts a new friendship better than a good solid handshake IMHO.

@traveleractual Ай бұрын

100% agreed, I also always make a point to look directly into the eyes of the person I've shaken hands with and have begun a conversation with. I've always felt it's disrespectful to not look directly st the person I'm speaking to.

@kevinrenwick1772 Ай бұрын

My handshake is my word the way it is supposed to be Better than any contract

@21theslayers Ай бұрын

Finding out that you watch ASP just brought my two worlds together 😂

@hazelhazelton1346 Ай бұрын

I've always strived to have a firm handshake. Unfortunately I have small hands, so getting a good grip is tricky.

@pafr6096 Ай бұрын

IT's not about the force applied but the firmness and engagement. Much like shaking a child's hand it can be firm but not terribly strong.

@LogicalThinker. 12 күн бұрын

I recall 3 separate times where I’ve gotten an early grip or viceversa and have insisted on a do over, it goes exactly how you described

@donfrank4429 Ай бұрын

Thanks!

@NikonFM2n Ай бұрын

I hug everybody at the Kingdom Hall. They're all my brothers and feel like family since we're all working hard to explain the Gospel and Kingdom hope to all people before it's too late.

@kiwigrunt330 Ай бұрын

Les Mis. Best musical ever. Saw it twice in Auckland (10 years apart) and once in London.

@kyleree6757 Ай бұрын

I've been watching ASP longer than I've been watching you. Its my daily required viewing

@JerryMraz. Ай бұрын

One thing to add, a lot of folks have carpal tunnel or multiple scaphoid bone breaks or really bad arthritis. Well i got all that, but i also have this thing called a dyna flex powerball. It’s like a gyroscope that wants to fly out of your hand and it has helped me immensely. I have regained my death grip and you need that with a trowel or a chainsaw. Look it up, hope that helps somebody. Thanks for the video Scott, you rule

@rshangrila Ай бұрын

Make handshakes great again!

@krenwregget7667 Ай бұрын

There really is nothing worse than a bad handshake but I prefer not to if I can avoid it especially after Covid. I try not to shake hands with people I don't know. Fun fact, handshakes were originally forearm shakes to make sure the other person wasn't hiding a weapon un their sleeve.

@jd-k7bpm Ай бұрын

I've noticed the cod-fish grip from some elderly folks - I've always interpreted it as kind of a "how do you do, I have nothing to prove to you" kind of gesture. I myself like to give a firm one with solid eye contact. ha

@losapriscos7258 Ай бұрын

When I met my now wife, I taught her 9-y.o boy to shake hands every time I came in or left. He's now 24 and I still hear comments about him shaking hands and looking in the eye.