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As Gabor Mate and Peter Levine says: trauma is not only what happens to you but how you experience it in absence of an empathic witness and also what did NOT happen to you. This field is so deep and rich and, thank God, is now really being understood and seen in more and more true light, wisdom and understanding.

I grew up poor and in the “hood”. I experienced many traumas and so did the people around me. By the grace of God, many of us are still here and out of poverty. I find it interesting that some of us want to stay connected to those awful, traumatic roots and others (like me), never want to see reminders of this ever again. It’s cool to joke about welfare cheese and remember the crazy things that happened, but I close the book and put it back on the shelf. I don’t feel some need to keep an attachment to a place that could’ve killed me. I don’t watch “hood” shows because I had my fill of the real thing. But I’m guessing some people self soothe with familiarity.

I've experienced every type of trauma and have complex PTSD. I was abused for years as a child and had no control over my dysfunctional home environment. I made a poor career choice and went into the mental health care field to help other traumatized people like me and am trying to figure out something less intense to do for a career because it exacerbates my complex PTSD.

Sometimes the little slights may not be noticed consciously, but still have an influence; that’s why I believe it is better to be consciously aware of it and deal with it in the moment.

CEN - Childhood Emotional Neglect and Covert Narcissistic Emotional Abuse cause CPTSD as well.

Steven ... Fantastic guests 👏 😊 I learn something new each time. Thanking you.

Amazing episode… recommend to anyone very interested ❤

How do you repair and recover once those changes in the brain have taken place?

interesting thoughts. Thanks.

The trouble with this kind of thinking, astute thought it may be to what is, is that it hampers peoples ability to focus more or what can/could be (good). I spent many years in therapy some of it with people who really were good at their job. But, spending too much time with this mentality causes us simply to further tune and fine tune our radar when it’s already hyper vigilant to the point of being faulty and over-active. Indeed to some degree, therapists simply train people to be more aware and more traumatised - often because they themselves are. It’s not deliberate. It’s just human. So. People have a tendency to prefer their victimhood. Especially if it worked for them. It’s understandable and it’s a strategy. Good short term for the individual but disastrous long term for groups of people especially countries. Becoming an expert in things you don’t want doesn’t get you less of those things. We magnetise to what we analyse. Once you can see, and know what it’s like to be seen, look past what you are to what you could do.

Despite saying over and over again that it’s not a “soft” definition, the current definition of trauma seems to be a fairly soft definition. Overwhelm+Brain Changes=Trauma How do you operationalize “overwhelm of coping skills”?

Every trauma can be much faster healed, if we would stop listening the ego Ego is called - False self Ego is also called - past self (ego always lives in the past, and takes information from past) even though there is no answer in past, because our memories often are not even true 50 percent, the mind makes things up. Ego always gives some self-limited and self-doubt answer. If you believe every word or thought from the ego, Sometimes the trauma isn´t so big as you think, because often people say things they didn´t mean (they apologize) or you realise they are so fragile that they dont know how to apologize. and then you realize later that the people change for better as well. But of course there can be a real trauma, or abuse from people. like abandonment or bullying. But it seems another form of silent trauma can be if parent doesnt give the child a freedom of choice, and is trying to manage every choice. It creates conflict.

Is it just me or this guy looks like Jordan Peter

Traumas are generational punishments. Be good have morals ethics and principle and your future generations will benefit from you. Thats how you affect the world. People think they can do bad and dont harm or hurt other but little do they know that their choices will be paid by their descendants and vice versa, the good you do is rewarded to your future generations. I figured that out from life G-ds wisdom and I aint a Dr.

Is he more than 1 time close to crying??? I love his advice and how he explains the things, but it seems that he is a kind of overreacting maybe cause it looks for me that he is close to start crying for a few seconds but got it fixed. (It's okay if he would cry, don't get me wrong. I am just confused in my empathic feeling why he is so close to crying. This is different.)

Trauma is cumulative. everyone has a lifetime limit of how much of it they can withstand.

And included in 'racism' is the trauma of being told everyone in your race is born racist

Trauma is the work of the devil Empathy is the work of Christ

Brain changes constantly. Therefore, just because a change has happened due to one or more events, it shouldn't be called a trauma. The definition needs to be more complex.

Racial relations got worse in last 20 years, that’s why your experience was worse then older siblings

Steven stop dropping the F%$# bomb please!!!!! Its discredits you and keeps us from sharing your good material with our kids. PRESS LIKE SO HIS TEAM READS THIS😊