Sometimes bad family members can break and hurt you more than outsiders.

Hard truth: Just because you are a friend to them Doesn’t mean they are a friend to you.

"A lot of people who will party with you will not go into battle with you" something to keep in mind for certain

When you realize that your friend is really jealous envious and full of hate, please walk away! Toxicity is real posion!

I had a dream where the Lord showed me a friend talking behind my back to another woman. I heard every single word. Iwoke up and couldn't believe it.. she was always smiling complimenting me wanting to know all my business...I confronted her without revealing that I knew about it in the dream and she thought the other lady told me so she went on to argue with the other lady I saw in the dream...the lady was surprised as she never spoke with me...I just walked away thanking God for making me aware and protecting my life.... It's sad but this broadcast is very true and I am reminded again.

Were all GROWN adults here. If they lack maturity I don't bother. We have approximately 100 year to live on earth. I don't waste time anymore with dumb people.

Pastor Blake I have been to the point where I could not call on nobody but the name of Jesus®®®!!

I’ve said this for years... There’s nothing you can do to *MAKE* anyone be your friend. You don’t make friends, you *FIND* them ... you find out who you mutually connect with and who they are over time!!!

Unfortunately I learned this lesson the hard way after my husband passed away unexpectedly 4 years ago. My so called friends dropped me like a hot potato. Not to mention all the friends my husband had disappeared as well. It was extremely hurtful, but I thank God it happened. Turns out I am much better without those people!

Then you have those so-called friends, who will pretend to be happy for you and talk the talk and walk the walk to celebrate when something good happens in your life, but soon afterwards in sometimes subtle and covert ways, they show that they're really jealous by little things they say or do. Watch out for those too.

After watching this video, I realize that Jesus is my only friend. Please pray for me pastor R.C. because even though I have no friends I also realized that I haven't been the best friend myself at times, and friendship is a two way street

As soon as I institute boundaries they get offended. Very discouraging.

Let's not forget Jesus was even betrayed by those who broke bread with him and literally kissed him in the face. The power he displayed in forgiveness qnd his ability to remain strong is something I always keep in mind.

This spoke DIRECTLY to me. I am on a break from friendships for now. I got ghosted by a "friend" when I refused to cosign her toxicity. I loved her. Cared for her. Prayed for her. She checked out as a friend up until I started to have success in my marriage. As long as my husband and I were at odds, she was there when I was down. The moment my husband began to truly surrender his will to God and we moved to a different state, she began secretly competing with me, then eventually cut me off when the mirroring didn't work out. My first mistake was being there for her after she got divorced before she began her healing journey. I should have been way more protective of my space like you said Bishop. I got comfortable way too quickly because I've known her pretty much all my life... or so I thought. Now I'm in recovery. Even though she broke me, I am not shattered, and I still love her like she were a sister. I just can't turn it off. There are days I feel deep anger towards her, but then I have to re-forgive her all over again. Truth is anyone that was never really taught how to value another person has no idea how to be a true friend. All they know is trauma-bonding and discarding. This lesson was DEAD on point, but it triggered a space in me that God and I have to do more work in. I developed social anxiety due to this. Afraid to make friends because I don't trust my own ability to discern friend from foe, and now I don't trust others to reciprocate the level of loyalty I offer. It takes vulnerability to give and recieve. This will take me some time, but I know Yah will work this out in me. Until then, I will just claim my healing!

when i was down. i saw my real friends

Know them by their fruits

Friendemies= Smile in your face, when all the time they wanna take your place.

I'm so guilty of giving my all without taking the time to have boundaries.

Amen , I literally have no friends. When I was homeless and going through all I had was Jesus ! every body else who were so called around it was only for something they can get out of the little I had. smh. You are so on point God bless tremendously!!!

REAL friends are never lealous!!!!! never. #facts

I've recently taught a class on friendship. What I've found is that people psychologically make people their friends by force (LOL).... then get mad or are disappointed when the "love" or level of effort they're putting in isn't reciprocated. We often times blame the other person, when it's us with the problem. We can't make someone like us or want to be our friend.

You're blessed if you have 2-3 true friends in a lifetime.

Some folks think they are entitled to your time and energy without earning it.

I've had to learn that everybody is not your friend. I had learned once that a so call friend was really my enemy. She was as nutty as the movie character, the Talented Mr. Ripley.

Not everyone is going to click! So true, I have that Going on as I get older. Thank you for sharing 🤗

Real friends aren't jealous of your success and don't thrive when your down,they help you back up . Real friends support you and are honest with you . Real friends take time to understand you when you going through something . Real friends don't disrespect you are your kids . Real friends don't manipulate you. Real friends are hard to come by today. I asked God to do inventory in my life and evidently even in friendships we aren't to be unequally yoked. God told me leave them alone cause they wasnt right for me and one was a person I hung with off and on for 34 years only to find out wasnt a true friend at all. If God say let them alone it's for a reason all I know.

Loan a so called friend some money and then just sit back, pop some Popcorn and watch the show.

I wish there was a love button for this video. So much truth in your words. I've learned this the hard way by being too trusting unfortunately.

I don't have to be friends with my co-workers I respect them . I was at a job where I had limits with my coworkers. I came to work and get paid . They started gossiping about me saying I was too silent and calling me autistic. Be nice but not allow to disrespect you!

I am going through the lowest time in my life and nobody shows up. I guess I don’t have real friends yet. I will appreciate your prayers for me to have them.

This is one of best messages about friends to many people use word friends to loosely. It to many fake gossiping hypocritical prideful judgmental people. I thank the Lord I have few friends the less the better. I love peaceful drama free life. Jesus is my first number one friend. I can talk to him about my anything knowing it will stay between us.

I am blessed I have 2 solid friends 🙏🏾🙏🏾thick and thin😍20 +still going strong 💪🏽 we raised our kids together and I pray we grow old together 😂🙏🏾🙏🏾my Daughter too but she’s my child 🧒🏻 So emotional watching 😋

Thank you Pastor Blakes you are my Confirmation, About so called Friends, the only Friend I have is in Jesus the people I thought were Friends Always Stabbed me in the Back, so now I'm a Loner which is fine The Lord got them out of Life☺🙌

Including caregivers, I mistaken employees as friends. Thank you for clarifying this.

I've found that the fakers are always there when you're not doing well so they can talk about you. Then they don't celebrate you when things are good :/ Just my experience #3 omgoodness

It could also be that certain people want to be close to steal ideas and thoughts etc to benefit themselves. Which is why the term friendemy is so interesting​ and revealing.

We need a love button on this message! Thank you Pastor for speaking to friendship. 👍

This is spot on. People assume that because someone is nice to them that they are a friend. A friend has to prove themselves to me and go the distance.

Every saint need to hear this. 🎯

Yes! True friends are those who will battle with you...not just party. Setting boundaries clarifies quickly!

Never be a BFF with your next door neighbor . Keep your business in your home . A neighbor knows your coming and going . I have discovered that it’s best to keep neighbors at a distance. Much like your coworkers .

Proximity does not = Friendship 🙌

I'm going through this right now! Long process but boy have it taught me a true lesson in life! Thank you pastor!!

Hmm...I needed to hear that part about jealousy. How are you my friend when you can't stand for me to progress in life?!

Fair weather friends are plentiful! They are only good friends when the weather is suitable for themselves!! You know those kind!!

There was a time when I had lots of people around me they seemed as if they cared about me but we're jealous of me and it wasn't all women there were men who were jealous of me so now I spend most of my time alone I just want to have a more intimate relationship with Jesus Christ cause I am tired of pleasing man it's to much of a disappointment

I want to bring up a certain type of person. The type that ONLY comes around when you are down. There are people that thrive on being around when you're at your worst. You will notice they are drawn to trauma and later leverage it so you feel you owe them. These are the people that will not be there to champion your advancements. Very very tricky. I had to learn it the hard way.

My so called friends are a bunch of Jezebels. I always come through but once I say no, they show their true colors. They even skip me when they are greeting people at church even if I'm standing by. I'm always apologizing for things I don't do.

I have a lot of fake friends and associates

Absolutely, people will show you who they really are through their ACTION(S).

I ended up letting someone into my life who was a true wolf dressed in sheep's clothing. I befriended a wonderful seeming woman online. Due to poor health, online friends or long distance friends by phone were all I had. We chatted everyday. I developed a strong connection to her. Once she realized I cared about her. Her behavior started to change. I noticed the odd critical remark. The odd lie. She seemed like a different person. The friendship ultimately deteriorated and she took advantage of my kindness. Acting aggressive, mocking me behind the scenes. Trying to chip away at my self-esteem. She was a covert narcissist. And she wreaked havoc in my life. She targets people online to take down like this.

Truth: friendships caused a lot more damage in my life than romantic relationships. The world use the word “friends” too loosely

Right on!!! I try to tell the younger gals I work with they need to have healthy boundaries and stop telling everyone their personal business 😉

This true to friend's. I never had a true friend.

I hear ya....Esp in this era, Jesus says ppl's hearts will wax colder, and a lot of those that you think are close and have your back, are the very ones that bring you down at an opportune time, they can recognize a call/anointing on your life and are threatened by you, when they see you down, that is when they come in for the kill. I have learnt the hard way myself, over and over, I learnt some valuable lessons through it through, what doesn't kill you does shape and grow you, I'm none the wiser and have learnt to guard my heart and be more observant, still waiting on God to knit me to the right people in due season. But we all need to learn these lessons sometimes, that is when we truly know how to Guard our hearts and trust in Gods timing to bring us a true friend. Yahweh bless you

I keep falling for bad friends, this teaching me.

some friends are there when you're down so they can enjoy the show some people play very well that does not impress me

A friend is a person who always has your best interest in mind, they make you better because there in your life, and they stick around when things get tough. Real friends are not made they are discovered. Friendship is a natural resource that cannot be fabricated.

Proximity means nearness in space time and in relationship it does not mean unity it does not mean confidant it does not mean that they are on your team they are only just in your space for a time period in a certain designated relationship. we have to recognize our relationships and understand relationship purpose and deal with them accordingly to THAT purpose we are there in. I’m learning

You are telling the truth. I went through with people I trusted. Now, I observe and pay attention of someone's doing and saying. Before it get any worst, I cut the person off fast. I will go 👻. They always say, "What happened?"

AMEN!!!!! Exactly why I cut people out of my life no questions asked.

Wow you spoke so much truth. I have always had people back stabbing me all my life and I was always loyal to them. I Thank God for you Brother because you have help me with longtime struggle when it comes to friends. I would love to have a bunch of ride die friends but only have a few. had to cut off some longtime friendships it hurt but it was for the best. Thank you for sharing Peace And Love!

Real friends show up when u are down! 🙌🏾💕

True friendship kicks in when you're in warfare. 👌🏽

TRUE FRIEND'S ARE SENT BY GOD..

People are Who they are. People can not reach the divine level of a great friendship until their Soul & Spirit has been infused with God’s awesome Love. Friends 💕🎁💕What a friend we have IN Jesus all our Sins and Grief to bear. What a privilege to carry everything to God in Prayer. Hallelujah. 💕🎁💕

I’ve counted just TWO! I’ve only known both for 10 years. They are the kindest friends one could ask for. They have seen me at rock bottom and have been there for me. More so than family. This talk was awesome. Thanks RC Blakes 😇

I've always said this. I have one true friend. We just drifted into friendship. She's awesome. She's here for me when no one else (including family) isn't. I once tried to reconnect with a long lost "friend". That's when I found out she was never my friend. The things she said and did when I tried to reconnect were horrible. All because her life was in shambles and I am happy. I won't go into detail (too much to discuss). She destroyed her own happiness by bad decisions. I just walked away.

I been stop trusting in other people family who ever else....and that's💯💯💯®®®!!

Real friends are never jealous of you!🙋

preach... a friend will not steer you wrong,..thank you

“People don’t stab you in the back from a distance.” A word. 💯💯💯💯

An On Time Word! thank you Lord and Pastor Blakes

My friend shared with me your Facebook live message on soul ties. I am so glad she did. THANK YOU!

Yeah some people are so much like chameleons so you never pick up their ingrained traits of jealousy and feeding of bad times happening in your life. definitely, everyone is different so you can have a friend who is expressive but the trait is controlled with sensitivity and genuine care overriding their jealousy most of the time. But the ones who are deceitful and secretive in expressing how they feel to you but openly hating you to others that's time to watch like a hawk

This is so true Coworkers, whom you just met on the job is not a friend.

You are so right, everyone is not your friend. Frenemies is the correct answer.

Thanks for this video.... I really needed to watch this. I just recently cut off a friend of 17 years off. I often worry if I done the right thing, but this is confirmation that I've made the right decision . After that experience....... Now I'm at the point in my life where I don't seek New friendships nor the existing friends I do have I keep at a distance.

It took me many years to understand this ...many years but thank you Lord I understand it now ...

COME ON WITH THIS TOPIC!!! Across the board good topic!

What a blessing from GOD, wow wow Pastor Blake. Your teachings are so personal & real. You will never know just how much GOD has used your experiences & your studying of his word to truly help me in these areas. Be BLESSED always MAN OF GOD. Tracy Thurman.

Wish I heard this when I was 20! Wow Pastor Blake is so full of wisdom like he's 100 lol! Great man of God who teaches with wisdom and truth. 💜

Dont give too much and be that giving friend to those that would never give to you . Even in terms of just being there for you.. they'd never match your efforts.

I've noticed Im guilty befriending a lot of energy drainers. People who only want you to be there for them but not willing to be there for you. I'm a loner & not by choice because people do not realize friendship is a 2 way street. I only have probably 1 or 2, 3 at the most real friends. Good friends are hard to come by these days.

I am grateful that Jesus has a real life Disciple of Jesus Christ in this time and age!!! I started to think the "real" disciples of Jesus were extinct ... but u my friend are the perfect example of the salt of the Earth!! I thank God for you!(for you negative folks that will say I'm making him God let it be not confused that I am not praising him but I praise The father Jesus Christ who's given him wisdom and a spirit of humbleness) we need people like this to help us in our walk with Christ!! As I told your wife Bishop y'all give me hope n Christ and my faith increases!!! Love y'all -Lekeitha

I really enjoyed this video. ...intentions to watch the others

Thank you, the word ‘friend’ has been dishonoured and badly used, especially in marketing. It is so sad and tiring, to see. Years ago, when I was volunteering to teach English, to refugees and migrants, something happened, which caused me to think, further. A man in class asked about friendship. He found this attitude of friendliness, so prominent, yet not so real, very confusing, in his new environment. He came from a war wrecked country, in Africa. For my own story, then unfolding, I listened with care, I well understood his dilemma. As the teacher explained more, I listened to both her, and listened harder, to his confusion. Thank you for this, as I have listened to the very many truths, of which you speak, and feel far less, alone. Powerful teaching, and much needed, I am so pleased you are here, and I ‘stumbled’ upon this. Not so, also understanding better, ‘there are no accidents’... so refreshing, making some much sense. How this, is needed. Thank you once more...🌷💕🌷

Pastor RC Blakes Jr, You're saying a mouthful! Good Lord!! Thank you!

friend--a person that has best intrest for you at heart Real friends are discovered. REAL FRIENDS 1.occupies intimate place IN your heart NB#Your workmates/churchmates are not your friends.🤯 2.SHOW UP when you are DOWN!! 3.NEVER JEALOUS OF YOU🙌🙌 *what is their response to your blessing 4.LOVE YOU at your WORSE

HINDSIGHT , YOUR INSIGHT GIVES SO MUCH FORWARDSIGHT.

I just randomly discovered this gem of a message! It's chock full of "Blakes-isms," so much truth! A message so real! Needs to be heard by many. "REAL FRIENDS ARE NOT MADE...THEY ARE DISCOVERED!" Bless you Bishop and Lady Blakes!

Im catholic and this was a great video! Thank you!

I have lost friends after my accomplishments. It is all beginning to make sense in my life now. All of it. It is so important to not be involved with Judas! Thank you. I hate jealousy in people toward me! Those people are gone!!! I am going to listen to this again!!! I am serious!

seriously whoever wrote the theme song is genius! it's so catchy !!

@12:29 THIS is what I want to learn. I've always been like, go to level 10 with me or get out of my life. But there ARE levels and I want to learn how to establish these levels rather than just cutting everyone off and being perpetually solo unnecessarily.

Exactly that's why she let a lot of them go.... TRANSLATION...FRIENDAMIES.... AWESOME...GOD BLESS YOU ALL.... SIMPLY SHE KNEW SHE IS DIFFERENT

YESSSSS sooo veryyyyyyy true about jealousy you suppose to be happy for people... UNFORTUNATELY IT'S NOT ALWAYS LIKE THAT®🙏®

I think it’s safe to say I invested 20 years on a friendship. For then to be stabbed in the back all I got of that was my heart torn and not trusting in friendship. I am a better person but automatically have my guards up.

My friends only come to me when they are down or need someone , once they are ok I don’t even get an invite out anywhere nor included , I feel used and discarded and just put on hold as to go to person that fixes and helps and then left behind to nurse my own wounds whenever I need anyone theirs nobody around xx

I really needed this! thank you.☺