As a son, this makes me appreciate my mum even more.

As a future husband and Dad, this is a gem of information.

So glad you spoke on the psychosis... A friend of mine began to hear voices and experienced moments of random rage due to her sleep deprivation and its very sad to witness. I didn’t realize how common postpartum psychosis was. Moms need help!

Me: 🤔✍🏾✍🏾✍🏾 Also me: Caught between wanting marriage and babies, yet also appreciating the liberty that I have a a single!

Well done dear. It truly is not easy. In Nigeria (south eastern), the mom of the new mother and mother-in-law take turns to cater to the new mother at least for the first 6 months. At times you get other relatives rally round to help with cooking, cleaning and other chores. So the new mom just eats, sleeps and feeds her baby. Even baby care (bathing) is also done by the mom. They also guide you on latching and other things. For you to do all that alone, it can take a toll on you. I am glad you are better now.🌺🌸🌺🌸

I’m 38 1/2 weeks pregnant and this was SO hard to hear… I wanted to click out because some of it is terrifying. However, I’d rather be more aware of these things so I can self monitor and ask for more help before things get too overwhelming. Thank you for discussing these topics ❤

This was me. She's 11 months old now but I wish pple talked more about what it's really like. It's eye opening, shows u unhealed areas of ur childhood etc. But it also shows you how strong you really are

I have 6 children and can attest to how hard it is but how it’s totally worth it. And the more babies you have the more your love multiples. It’s amazing!❤

One of the best things I did after birth of my children was having a post-partum dula (my mom) to run the night shift for the first two weeks. My mom stayed up and held my babies while I slept. Then she would bring them to me every two hours to nurse. This allowed me to actually *sleep* at night so I had energy to care for my baby during the day. And also meal-trains 😅

Postpartum is brutal. I’m a pretty healthy woman but nothing could’ve prepared me for how much it would f*ck me up

I am incredibly grateful for this video, although I am not a mother yet. Thank you so much for being so transparent and sharing the unadulterated, truth of motherhood and your experience. The psychosis part is some thing that I empathize with, as I helped foster a newborn baby for a year, and it was such an experience. Motherhood really is 24/7.

My husband and I are planning to try for a baby this year. I am 1000% sending him this video, because you did an amazing job explaining everything that I simultaneously didn't know about and need him to understand. Congratulations Jasmyne, you're doing fantastic!

Even as a woman who’s not yet a mother, I really appreciated your candor and transparency in this video. I do think about being a mother one day, but you definitely brought to my attention some of the realities to expect, at least within the first six months of giving birth. I think a lot of women, and possibly men, idealize and fantasize about becoming parents and forget that there is a season of being in the trenches with your newborn until you find your rhythm and they eventually grow into a routine that matches yours as an adult. Anyway thank you again this was so enlightening and illuminating ❤

Thank you for sharing this video and being so raw and honest about your postpartum experience. I felt so much of what you were feeling but during my pregnancy. It was a terrible time between the changes in my body, the lack of support and emotional abuse from my sons father, and being far from my family. It was hell. I struggled so bad with depression and had those same thoughts of harming myself to stop the emotional pain. Thank God for bringing me through that. I think after all I went through it was by Gods grace alone that He allowed me to have a smooth transition into motherhood once my son was born. This video really helped me understand what most mothers go through and how hard the adjustment period and breastfeeding can be.

I'm a young girl, I'm excited to be married some day and have kids, and you make me trust that it's right even more, and also think of things to discuss with my future man before our baby comes. I appreciate you and this baby content sosososososo much, please please know that. I appreciate it to my soul and back at least four to a billion times. You make me want to be a mom even more, which is comforting, because I used to not want that as a little girl, and now it feels a bit strange every time I think that I DO want to have kids and stay at home, not have a career. You make me more sure of that descision than the literal science of the psychology of women wanting kids. I appreciate you and this content so much; thank you, Jasmyne.

I've literally just overcome every element that you described my baby just started sleeping through the night at 12 months and just like that my hair is back, skin is back, libido is back, sense of humour, no more aches and pains. 😢😢😢 I'm not an emotional person but I literally burst in to tears watching this 😂😂😂

Nothing can prepare you for how much work a baby can be, I had an easy pregnancy/birth/breastfeeding experience but at around two weeks my daughter started crying all day unless we bounced her up and down or took her for walks in the sling - every time I sat down to rest she would start to scream! My son was the opposite and was a chill baby! They are now both teens and are a delight to be with and I don't regret a second of motherhood but it was so much harder than I ever imagined beforehand. The best thing I ever did but also the hardest

You described everything I have been feeling... Thank you, I now don't feel so alone.

This was so comforting to hear, reminders are so important sometimes 😅 I just had my first baby five weeks ago, and the sleep deprivation was real. The sleep-deprivation-induced tear-filled breakdowns were real too 😅😂 One of the most helpful things for me as far as getting adequate sleep has been is taking turns with my husband. No, we don’t really get to go to bed together, but getting a guaranteed 5+ hours of sleep a night while in survival mode is totally worth it. And even at the 5 week mark, I can confirm, it gets WAY easier. There’s hope, mamas! ❤️

I needed to hear this. I’m so excited for motherhood but I’m naturally very naive to the experience. Definitely mentally preparing myself. But I know it’s gonna be worth it.

*In India* when a lady is pragnent before one month to baby comes one person from the girl side of the family or maybe from the boy side of the family comes leaving all work just to help the women who is pregnant and usually the person is who has an experience with babies before . All the care of bady is done by the lady , just the brest feeding is mom's job's And in that .... She is told various remedies if there is any problem she is having is brest feeding. Later she is explained how to give a baby bath properly etc *like full baby course is given to the newly mother* And all this is must to be done Or is a tradition to help the mom

I appreciate my mother even more now after watching this. She was single (due to my bio father abandoning us). This is a really eye opening video.

Thank you so much for sharing your experience. I am so proud of you for making it through those hardest weeks! I 100% would have benefited from this video before having my baby, so to anyone who's having a baby soon -- take notes! My main takeaway here is that it all gets better. My son is 6 months old now, and I forgot how wild the first couple of weeks were until I watched this video!

This video has so many things a new mom goes through and doesn’t talk about most times. I wish I saw something like this before having my oldest daughter!

You summed up my experience with my first baby! I found it much easier the second and third time around knowing what to expect for postpartum!

Loved this video and all the honesty. We always hear about the magical parts of motherhood, but not the tough parts. Good job for you for going through all this (especially postpartum rage and psychosis,) and still being able to acknowledge the value of suffering. God bless you and thanks for your videos!

It was amazing but incredibly HARD being a mother the first time, it was EASY being a motherthe second time. Yes! It will get better. First time is so difficult. I had the same things you are describing. Lack of sleep makes anybody a sort of monster. It's scary. No, I don't miss the newborn stage. Haha. I loved everything about seeing my precious baby but would not want those first days back. Yes I carry my strech marks. They do get much better with time. My stomach was literally destroyed the first time, now it's almost decent. Yes, laughter is the best medicine. You are such a nice person. 😊 I can't even imagine you angry. Enjoy motherhood! ❤️

Welcome back moma❤ Edit: WOOWWW! This was deep and raw. Thanks for being so honest and open, I’ve never ever heard anybody describe motherhood like this. They often make it seem easy. I can tell you, I’m going to need help and I hope my mom will be alive when my time comes.

Jasmyne, thank you for the video! As a young mom who’s pregnant with baby number two, it’s refreshing to hear the experiences of another young mom.

Thank you for sharing your experience with us and being vulnerable 🤍🙏🏼🕊

Thank you, Jasmine, for sharing this! Mine is 6 years old now, and I'm still trying to integrate the trauma of my labor and post partum stages. I tell people all the time that "I never knew how someone could shake their baby to death, until I had her." I know that sounds terrible, but knowing what I went through, how long it too us took us to come out of it and the fact that I did it completely alone (before even knowing Jesus), I feel like it's a totally valid statement. Hearing this brings me to tears. It's a deep sadness/empathy knowing how dark and lonely that stage is and an overwhelming comfort knowing that my experience was not a totally isolated fluke and I'm just a wimp for not being able to handle it. Thank you for bringing the real trauma of labor and postpartum into the light! 🙏🙏🙏🙏 When we are prepared we heal much faster!

Great video: I was in a beautiful marriage before my now ex wife left me, i still love her and most times I cant stop thinking about her, i am doing my very best to get rid of the thought of her, but i just cant, i love her so much, i don't know why i am bring this here for, i cant stop thinking about her.

Sometimes I wonder what mothers even discuss with their daughters. I’m saying this because whenever I watch one of these “I didn’t expect/know” videos regarding birth/postpartum it always consists of what my mom and I casually talk about over dinner😂 Nonetheless motherhood looks beautiful on you love❤️ keep pushing you got this🫶🏾

I am a new mom to a 5 months old and so many things you express Ed are so relatable. As mkthers we sacrifice so much but also the list of expectations we feel from society... Its sometimes just too much but I am going to take it more easy and thanks for all your advices 💕

Thank you so much for sharing, Jasmyne! I really appreciate your vulnerability and courage in sharing your experiences. I am not a mother, yet, but I hope to be one day and this video was very eye-opening and a great way to mentally prepare. Your story gives me ideas on how to better empathize with and support friends and loved ones who have or will have babies on day. God bless you and your growing family! Your baby girl is so blessed to have you as her mother.

Congratulations mommy, my son will be 9 in April and this video reminded me of everything i went through so vividly, i remember the aches in my body, i relate so much, and u right it gets better, i remember the 1st few years all i was looking forward to was uninterrupted sleep and for him start speaking so he can say what he wants or feel, and dont have play the guessing game while hes crying. To this day i still dont fully belong to myself, but experience them getting into the own is so so rewarding. Congratulations again and great video as always.

Was waiting for this one! Thanks so much. I'm due in late July, so this is very helpful! And yes, I would love to see a video about the things you've actually used/are using vs. those you didn't use for baby! I am dreading making this registry.... God bless you and your family, many years!

Thanks for your honesty. My children are grown now, but I experienced many of the discouraging things that you describe. The ripped sore nipples when b/feeding my first. My first was in ICU for awhile, he fought b/feeding after he had already been fed w bottle. No help from family/friends, we lived in a new place and knew no one. Husband extremely jealous of baby added to the problems. But . . . All worth it in the end! Such a privilege!!

Thank you for being so honest! Too many people sugar cost motherhood. Thank you for talking about the bad parts

Thank you for your honesty! I was so miserable after the birth and I wish I had seen a video like this at that time so I would have felt less lonely. Honest video's like this are so incredibly important if you are struggling and you have a great way of putting in words how overwhelming and complicated it is, even while you love your baby so much ❤

Thanks for the realistic perspective on postpartum. As a first time mom with a now one year old, everything you said resonated. It’s so much harder than you can imagine but also so so worth it!! Love the content!

Thank you so much for this video like I literally can not thank you enough. I really felt so awful about having rage and psychosis pp and I thought that I was doomed but now I truly see light at the end of the tunnel. It's so relieving to see I am not alone and you and so many other new moms feel exactly the same. It's relieving to see another person who thought they shouldn't ask for help that says ask for it when you need it. It popped up in perfect timing. Thank you ❤️

Thank you for making this and talking about this! My husband and I are starting to mentally prepare for having a baby; we've been talking about it for a number of months now, and we're starting to make changes like pre-conception health planning and making sure that our bodies (specifically mine, but his is important too) are in the best health we can be in. I'm going to share this with him, as hopefully it will help him to help me better in the months post baby.

Thanks for sharing the honest truth about your experience. It's so easy to feel isolated in the early days, I'm sure this video will help a lot of new mums to know they're not the only one in the world feeling like this. I know you said at times you felt like you weren't doing things out of love, but caring for your baby even when you don't feel like it is in some ways is a great example of a mother's love. Our feelings aren't always going to be what we want them to be at many stages in motherhood but caring for our kids despite it is what it's all about 😊

Thank you so much for being honest. And the first thing I thought when I saw you was, “she looks like a grown up woman now!” there’s an aura of maturity and wisdom that comes with motherhood. Glory to God! I wish the best for you and your family. 🥰

You just gave us the scoop! Thank you. I have been grieving my life honestly for awhile and I’m 34 weeks pregnant. I am a painter who is looking to start a business for help my household financially but because of the lack of space, i had to put all of my stuff in storage and don’t have room to work right now… this just really helped me to slow down even more because though I’ve been living a slower life now, I needed to remember I’m being life into the world and not to beat myself up if I’m not able to help as much as I care for our baby in the early stage.

God bless you 💜💜💜 I am so grateful for your honesty and candor! Very helpful as someone who wants to be a wife and mother in future

Wow!! Your honesty is so refreshing!! Will be praying for you and your beautiful family!!

Thank you so much for talking about these things so honestly. I can’t express how much this helped to hear.

Thank you for this beautiful message As a mother of four beautiful angels from 0- 10 years you spoke the ABSOLUTE TRUTH. You covered everything I went through and so much more. You are such an amazing and beautiful soul. This message has to go viral because this is the absolute truth young woman need to hear the message. The beauty of motherhood covers every emotion Blessings my love

Thank you for your honesty. Personally I appreciate that, i don't know why the previous generations didn't talk more about this. I feel more comfortable knowing the possibilities of motherhood.

I felt exactly the same what you were describing in this video 🎉 Thank you for your honesty 🙏🏼 I also had to take ibuprofen for breast feeding 🤱 while I was exhausted not being able to sleep due to my son was crying hourly 24/7…. I do feel you ❤

Oh my goodness. Beautiful testimony. Thank you for being so honest and vulnerable about your journey. I'm not even a mother and have no plans to, but I've always felt that women's mental health would be so much better if they could just share honestly about what to expect about motherhood and the journey to get there. "Get ready to push"-Its funny you mentioned that! I had a childhood friend who said the same thing, that she didn't actually expect to be a mother until it was time to push 😅 It was like, all of a sudden, this weird 9 month journey she was on suddenly became very real to her. And I agree, I think pregnant women may spend too much time preparing for the birth, and NOT THE POSTPARTUM PERIOD. This is dangerous as it can lead to depression, anxiety, and even suicide if new moms are not sure what to expect after childbirth. Feeling of guilt/anxiety-Oh, my heart broke for you hearing that! Women already place way too much pressure on themselves to be perfect for everyone, all the time. New motherhood is like that times 1000 from what I've seen. My same friend from earlier, the first time I took her to lunch 3 months after her baby was born, she had a complete meltdown in my car because she felt like a 'bad mom" for being away from the baby for 30 minutes. I had to explain to her that, taking care of yourself is JUST AS IMPORTANT AS CARING FOR YOUR BABY. She had literally just been in her house with the baby for 3 solid months, she didn't even go to the mailbox. So yes, time away from your baby is needed! Breastfeeding-That all sounds so horrible! Especially if you want to do things as natural as possible and you find yourself struggling with it. I knew from my friend about mastitis, but I didn't realize how painful breastfeeding can sometimes be. Some women make it seem so easy! Thanks again for your honest portrayal of new motherhood. Content like this is why I love your channel! Blessings to you and your daughter 💕🙏🏽

Thanks for your honesty on this topic it is truly refreshing! Motherhood is unique in a sense where it's probably the most difficult yet the most rewarding. It brings strong emotions on both negative and positive. As a mom of 5, for me, motherhood is one of those things that although it comes with many challenges....its something I would never not want to have....they are blessings I would never want to have.

This video was so clear and easy to emphasize with! Thank you so much. As someone who always feels baby fever, my fever began to temporarily subside after watching this. Really enjoying my life now… knowing that it won’t always be here.

This video is gonna blow up. I love this! Your honesty only makes me more grateful for my mother and all the mothers around me. Women need to hear this! Especially in the feminine / traditional community. We can be honest about these things and still be pro mamma pro family etc.

im only half way through the video and i had to stop to comment. this video is NECESSARY!! OMG! i really wish i saw this before i had my son (7years ago). everything you said thus far is 100% accurate and i remember the anxiety and exhaustion and just hopeless feeling of being a new mother. it was the best and worst feeling at the same time. i can honestly say its something you never expect or anticipate when you decide to have children. im looking forward to having my next child and just taking the knowledge that i have and hoping that it comforts me when the time comes that i experience all these emotions again. but Thank you so much for sharing this.❤

Thank you for sharing your story! You are inspiring.

I had my second child just 2 weeks after you had your baby and the hardest for me is the exhaustion of managing a two year old and a little baby. They never sleep at the same time so I get zero minute of proper rest per day, my brain is always on and I experience this rage you mentioned, I don't recognize myself anymore. I also eat way too much because of stress and of the need for comfort, which means I'm gaining weight postpartum... and the worst of all is that I resent my oldest for just being here. It's like I don't know how to love her anymore because I'm too exhausted and she's too demanding. Really, it's hard.

I’ve been waiting for this moment and I’m so very happy That you’ve started posting again and I’m so very happy for you and your baby ❤ God Bless you ❤

Your candor and vulnerability is much appreciated

I look up to you so much & to hear transparency means so much🤍Love this video!

You are so courageous to speak about postpartum (depression, psychosis and rage) So many new mothers are afraid to ask for help because they worry that their child may be taken from them because they’re seen as unfit mothers. You speak for so many! I’ve watched my sisters suffer with postcard depression etc and I wish it was something that wasn’t so misunderstood by society. Congrats on being a mother!!

I’m not a parent yet but I’ve been an in-home childcare professional for dozens of families + I have such a love for motherhood + supporting mamas + parents (studying to become a postpartum doula). so, I just want to say “sis, girl, mama, queen, you are doing a good job 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽!!” I hope you remember that 🫶🏽. your transparency is so beautiful + necessary-thank you for sharing with us. your vulnerability is helping other women be honest, feel seen, + advocate for themselves during the 4th trimester + the world is better because of that-because of you. so happy the journey is enjoyable for you now!! keeping you + rest of the mamas out there + your precious babies lifted up in prayer 🙏🏽.

this was a good lesson, I never knew it would be like this, the honesty is very appreciated

This is all so true. Thank you for sharing your experience. I wish I would have had someone tell me it all was normal when I had my first

U gave a lot in this video, i love u for your transparency (Being REALLL) and I hope u continue to enjoy motherhood now that the hardest days are a thing of the past 😍❤ US WOMEN ARE SO STRONGGG!!!!

This is the most helpful and honest video I’ve seen on postpartum. Thank you for this

Thank you for talking about this. Motherhood was really hard for me especially because we didn’t have any family in our city & my child would not wean off of my breast for 18 months! Whenever I would say how I missed my old life people would try to guilt me into being a bad mother, but I love my child I just did not like the version of motherhood I was experiencing. She’s almost 2 now & we are in a much better place! It does get better 💜

Thank you for being so open an honest! I have never heard any woman say these things and I am very grateful that you are sharing your advice and insights. Me and my husband are trying for a baby and I am researching and learning. I praise God for Christian women like you, who are sharing their story and letting God use them to encourage and educate other women 🙏🤍

Thank you for Sharing! God willing I will be a wife and mother of healthy happy children soon ❤

You literally put into words so well everything I was feeling in the post partum phase with my son. I remember as we developed routines and he started sleeping longer and then I started sleeping longer, I remember him being about 4 months old when I truly felt like me, I had energy and love to give and that's when his babyhood really felt so fun and joyful. I always loved him but how you put it, being truly tapped out was so overwhelming at times. Now he is a sweet 3 year old and we have so much fun together and he regularly reminds me to have patience and grace! I think your video was such a gift to new and future mama's out there! You definitely have a gift for being well spoken and clarifying your thoughts!

What precious information and what a thoughtful and caring way of passing it on! Thank u so much for sharing your experiences in such a true and at the same time sweet and caring way. All the best to you, many hugs from Brazil!

Such invaluable information. God bless you and your family. ❤

I found postpartum after my first to be traumatic. I was not prepared and eventually broke down. Thank God I had lots of people around me so I had emotional support. I just had a second baby and it was HARD but my husband stayed home with me for a month to help me, then my mom for true next month. Thank God!

This was such an excellent video!!! God bless you so much!!!

Thank you for sharing this. So true! Everything you said is exactly what I went through. I wish someone would have shared this with me.

Thank you for making this video. It's so comforting to hear that everything I went through was normal. It is not easy, but my baby makes it worth it! ❤ God bless!😊

I watched this at 40 weeks and thought I heard you, but tomorrow I am 6 weeks postpartum and I really HEAR you. Rewatching this video now was so cathartic, I was sobbing the whole time. Thank you for sharing your experience with the world ❤

expecting mom. needed this transparency!! thank you!

I’ve been wanting to get pregnant and this was a very eye opening video. Ty for being so real and gentle at the same time ❤

Hi again beautiful, I hear you on how you felt in postpartum but letting your body rest and surrender to postpartum is key one you surrender to it it feels beautiful in a way - 😊

Thank you very much for talking so honestly about this subject 💓💓💓💓

So helpful to hear the bit about preparing mentally emotionally for when the baby is HERE, and not just the labor. Needed to hear that. June 23rd is our due date :) thank you for this.

I’m 4 weeks postpartum. simply, thank you.

This is so relatable. We didn't have the same exact issues, but I can barely remember my first month post partum after my eldest son because that month was seriously just a haze.

Our babies are the same age! I related so much with this video. Postpartum is rough, definitely wished I prepared more.

Thank you for your video! It has so much valuable information. I am currently 5 weeks pregnant after a long 4 year journey of TTC and one miscarriage. I look forward to the day I can meet my baby 🥰 thank you again!

Girl! This. To the T. I love my baby boy more than anything and I would do it again without hesitation, but our first month of breastfeeding was awful. I got mastitis and my nipples were so messed up, scabs and all. I would scream out every time he latched. We had latching issues, too. A nipple shield saved our breastfeeding journey until he was bigger and his latch was wider. He is 13 months old now and still breastfeeds (without the shield). I felt so discouraged during those first 6 weeks because I thought the hard part was labor, but here I was suffering further and I had no idea if it would get better. Thankfully it did. I watched so many latching videos but honestly the nipple shield is what did it. I tried pumping and it just wasn't working for us at all because I couldn't pump while he was awake so I would have to stay awake longer to pump and it was just awful 😱

I'm praying for my own future family and am looking forward to joining the Mama Tribe! Much love and congratulations!

Lovely comprehensive open and vulnerable video. Good job.

This video needs to go viral because of how TRUE and she explains how motherhood REALLY is. ❤️❤️❤️

I admire your honesty. You're doing well! Bless you. It gets better... it does.

This video is so important. Thankyou for informing women about this.

I was really lucky because I decided to have my baby at a birthing center. That allowed me to have a doula and a midwife so after the birth it was constant help. Even if it was just a text message or video call they were there to assist me. And this was during the pandemic. Because that is something they never really speak on. After you bring my baby home is when stuff gets REAL. Congratulations on your baby!!

This video is a gem. Thank you so much for sharing ❤

I wish I knew a lot of this! So many women I knew were telling me how wonderful it would be and even after I had my son they would say "isn't it just great don't you love your baby so much?". I felt like I was doing something wrong because nobody was treating me like a person who was only getting one hour of sleep a day and struggling to feed my baby. My son was also in the NICU and came home on oxygen after a super traumatic birth and all anyone could say to me was "thank God it wasn't worse!" I felt like such a failure and I had such bad postpartum depression. I was able to get progesterone shots for my depression, I stopped breastfeeding at 15 months, and my son now sleeps through the night (sort of 😅). He is now 18 months and he has tons of words and motherhood is still challenging but it is so much more fun now. I would do it all over again but I wish that somebody had been honest with me about how hard it was going to be. I know that in more traditional communities like my Catholic Church, people and women go out of their way to glorify the experience of giving birth and having children in part to counter the broader culture which tells women that they shouldn't be having children and that children are a burden. While I understand that perspective and I think it is needed in some ways It really did make me feel like I was doing everything wrong when I had mothers with 8+ kids around me acting like I should be in heaven while taking care of a newborn. Great video as always!

‘Love lived here’. I’m sat listening to you whilst holding my 7 week old baby and this phrase brought tears to my eyes! What a beautiful phrase, I’ll be reminding myself of this.

I appreciate the raw honesty, thank you 💛

I feel this in my soul. The best and worst at the same time, that is the just of it. I switched to mostly pumping too but at like 5 months we figured it out and went back to breastfeeding! Honestly saved my sanity. Best wishes for you and your little one! Mine is nearly a year now,, and it is wild, it just gets better! (and more challenging, in different ways)