+Tania Fewster maybe you don't know what is existencial analysis

The relationship is the demonstration. It is being demonstrated simply by doing it.

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The work around loneliness is an important feature of existential work I feel

deep. what is the source of motion ?

@@anhumblemessengerofthelawo3858 maybe in an effort to self soothe? if he’s dealing with traumatic feelings coming to the surface, he could very well be being thrown back into that child-like state of fear/anxiety and he’s shaking with fear. I think the motion is a reflection of his anxiety but part of me wonders if it’s also in an attempt to self-soothe. I’m not 100% sure tho.

It isn't about making the client understand. The client has to come to the answer on their own. That's why it takes so long, because tossing out solutions just ends up with the counselor sounding like every friend or family member telling them what to do to 'fix' it, and the solution doesnt register. I will say this is very long term as a therapy though, I'd say if you were interested in something more short term maybe CBT or Choice Theory might make more sense for you.

Yes, I understand your question ! I'll gladly try to give a couple of hints to help you understand Existential Therapy and this particular situation. It is very likely that it will actually take years, actually. It often does. This is just one small demonstration of one seance (for the purpose of allowing people to actually get a sense of the therapeutic process) after many totally private prior ones and many afterwards. This isn't about understanding anything new really, or working through reframing a maladaptive behavior or belief for example like with Cognitive Behavioral Therapy; the patient has perfectly analyzed his experience long ago. This is soul work. The therapist here is CONNECTING deeply with him by his body posture and soft spoken words to allow the patient to FEEL INTIMACY and TRUST, the very things he has desperately longed for from his mother, in vain, and that he has never been able to feel later in his life either. He apparently sought soothing through alcohol and drug addiction for a long time, as it frequently is the case. By his demeanor, the therapist shows him very simply that during this encounter, he is all that matters, and he matters a great deal. Dr Längle only has eyes for his patient -- he shows by each question, and personal feedback ("I would feel like I am dying") that he hears how deep his pain is and has been and can imagine how he would have felt in his place; he shows that he sees him, gets him and cares about him. Of course, this is HUGE for such a patient who understands intellectually that he should have been loved but suffers from deep disconnection from his body and his deep sense of not being lovable, embedded since he was little. Existential therapy is deep, life-changing work conducted very slowly, step by step by step. Trust builds up as one discovers, time after time, that our therapist actually cares and understands perfectly what we are going through. Dr Längle's very successful method stems from a lifetime of practice, genuine love for humanity and desire to help people to heal. His knowledge of human psychology, life drive and emotional needs are absolutely amazing. Near the end, the patient expresses that he feels relieved, so relaxed, much better than at the beginning when he was really tense and filled with dread. He says it felt it was "just the two of them" : he successfully experiences the therapist as the mother he never had, which provides him with a feeling of safety and of not feeling dreadfully alone like he did at home and that makes him feel like he exists and he belongs : he is now learning and memorizing what being cared for feels like, and that this can happen to him. Traumas such as this will upset your whole life and require a lot of work and effort from both the therapist and the patient. This is a deeply healing process, invisible but very profound. It takes time as his nervous system, which has learned from early childhood on to react only through dread, freeze, or fight responses like anger and agression, must learn new ways to react as "it" is faced with feeling loved. The patient will go through many ups and downs as he is allowed to transfer and project all his feelings onto his therapist. He will feel what it's like to be with someone who connects with you with deep empathy and this must be constantly tested with the therapist who gives him a safe space in which he can safely ask for intimacy or refuse it, and safely express whatever he needs to. You'll notice that he looks very intently at the therapist, never lowering his gaze, inhaling the energy coming towards him. He has agreed to do this seance in front of people to help them see and experience a bit of the process but this, of course, is a bit different from the norm : he is not saying anything that he wouldn't want to expose in front of a crowd, like all of us watching on KZfaq ! In real life settings, seances can be very long, very short, frequent and they can run for years. Hope it helps! Cheers from Paris, France.

@@jcm5171 such a wonderful and thorough response. Thank you.

hengrave5 Protesting too much...envy?

hengrave5, Greeting's from co down Ireland, Your absolutely correct.

10 min. in and I don't notice it. Be specific please? I just hear empathy, summarizing, and probing.

What I notice is that the therapist helps the client to try and express his inner thoughts and desires and emotions into words...and in.the course of the client doing this , he gets some relief because he gets some answers

Yes agree he made first time use of words such as fake brutal and loneliness

You mean "dreadful"?

Existential therapy is an approach towards therapy like CBT or Psychoanalysis, Existential analysis is a tool within that therapy like free association in psychoanalysis and worksheets in CBT

@@Jabranalibabry thank you

Emotional neglect is emotional abuse, and it can cause more damage than anyone knows.....it is present in other types of abuse that are direct, there is emotional neglect during physical abuse. Emotional neglect gives the unspoken message, your having feelings is irrelevant and not worth time and space