Family in Air Force Special Warfare: Is it Possible?

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This week, we hit on one of the most important decisions anyone has to face- what about my family? While you are dedicating all your time, energy, and focus- is it possible to have a family and be successful? Even MORE importantly, what can you do to make sure that you maintain happy and healthy relationships as an Air Force Special Warfare Operator?
We address all your questions- from the operational tempo, the strain it puts on relationships, how to deal with kids- even if you’re single right now, this one will help you prepare for when you are ready to make that journey with a partner.
Brian, Trent and Peaches dive deep on all things family in this edition of the Ones Ready Podcast!
00:03:05 First Time Seeing Your Family
00:09:49 Days Are We Gone
00:18:29 Mitigating Burn Out
00:25:20 Talking To Family While Deployed
00:29:42 Available Resources
00:33:56 Having Kids Overseas
00:38:21 Reality With A Family
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@kimberlygerner1681 4 жыл бұрын

If you could have your wives do a podcast on what it’s like to be a wife of special operations officer. That would be helpful to us women who have husbands going in. It’s hard to imagine on our end. Especially when we have kids already.

@OnesReady 4 жыл бұрын

We have batted that idea around a couple different times- maybe it's time to get these ladies on here!!!

@JoseMartinez-pr6qz 4 жыл бұрын

I definitely agree. I'm planning on making a switch from Army to Air Force (hopefully they're taking prior service for these career fields) however, my wife fears we won't be able to grow a family, which I know won't be the case but having other wives give out their point of view would definitely be awesome and probably help me get mine fully on board. Thanks a lot for the videos, very informative!

@OnesReady 4 жыл бұрын

@@JoseMartinez-pr6qz We've got you covered. My wife has agreed to come on the podcast to give candid and honest answers to many of the questions we have received.

@JoseMartinez-pr6qz 4 жыл бұрын

@@OnesReady that's awesome! Thanks!

@revolutionarypatriot8361 4 жыл бұрын

My wife would benefit greatly from this.

@paulsileo1050 4 жыл бұрын

Just an FYI on AF BMT - due to COVID - there's no "graduation" anymore. Hasn't been for months (Since March 13th). Everyone who has graduated can't see their families until after the DOD lifts the Quarantine and lockdown on base. So, if you're watching, and entering, don't expect to see your families after BMT. It'll be a long time until you can see any of them - this for majority of people who enter.

@tiffanydee1376 3 жыл бұрын

Graduation scheduled for August 5th has been open to 2 people for just the day visit.

@evananderson6019 4 жыл бұрын

Love it. Thanks for sharing, guys.

@jgl4494 3 жыл бұрын

How does someone get their wife to agree with being gone basically atleast 4 years? So the pipeline is 2-2.5 years than the first two years after that being gone 250-300 days a year?

@utnac10 4 жыл бұрын

Great information gentlemen. Thanks for making this podcast.

@Fl0wtrader77 8 ай бұрын

I want to give a huge thank you to you guys. I’ve been grinding on rock bottom this whole year, my gf left me, I lost a job and was in complete despair. Then I found the channel and you guys rekindled my passion for military that I had lost. Thank you 🙏

@stevejohnson9282 4 жыл бұрын

Great as always! Thank you

@OnesReady 4 жыл бұрын

Glad you enjoyed it!

@jhall3178 4 жыл бұрын

You guys should do a podcast where you just tell stories about your careers.

@marcostorres1736 4 жыл бұрын

Great vid just what i was looking for, got a pregnant wife and 10 month.

@jgl4494 3 жыл бұрын

Get it! In a similar position.

@kevinyanezmartinez6121 4 жыл бұрын

So this is what Brian Silva's been up to.

@vhjosh 4 жыл бұрын

Been waiting for this. I’m 29 with wife and baby.

@sethspitzer3404 4 жыл бұрын

Same here. I’m 27 with a wife and an 2 year old, already in the Air Force (maintenance) but wanting to cross training

@austinevans6176 4 жыл бұрын

Awesome podcast as always with tons of great info for myself and fiancé!! She fully supports me but is a little concerned about the amount of time gone. How can I stay hungry without necessarily being away for 300 days a year? Is that balance achievable??

@tiffanydee1376 3 жыл бұрын

Could your wife have gone with you during that 300 days?

@boogiehara8693 4 жыл бұрын

Always wanted to service in special operations, until I found out that being colorblind was a disqualification. Still bums me out every single day! Great hearing your guys stories. Keep up the good work guys🤙🏻

@austinlandgraf4884 4 жыл бұрын

There was a seal who got a waiver for it, so go for it.

@dukeelder6903 4 жыл бұрын

BH, That is unfortunate, color vision standards, especially the new color vision test (Rabin Cone Contrast Test) really identify color vision defects. There are new glasses and contact lenses on the market to improve color vision, but not authorized USAF SOF personnel.

@boogiehara8693 4 жыл бұрын

austin landgraf I think I have read that story in a forums sometime back. No one really confirmed it though. I was in my early 20’s when I spoke with an army recruiter and unfortunately I am now 30 yrs old.

@boogiehara8693 4 жыл бұрын

Duke Elder Very unfortunate. I’ve seen hit and miss stories online about color vision glasses but for the price I don’t want to take the chance.

@OnesReady 4 жыл бұрын

Sorry to hear that- but thank you for the support.

@andrewparker2906 4 жыл бұрын

Probably the wrong video to ask on but what is it like or have you met anyone who has cross trained from a complete unrelated AFSC Mx, Med, Ops etc like regular AF? What is the transition like for them especially if they have been in and made rank, what is the experience of a cross trained regular af or an NCO coming from a different career field. Love the podcasts I am coming up on the end of a regular AF life and looking to cross train.

@OnesReady 4 жыл бұрын

We get crosstrainees from all AFSCs and sister services all of the time. If you have a family, ensure you're being open and honest about what they can expect. Thinking about a 1.5-2.5 year pipeline where you're going to be gone (not the entire time) a lot. You're going to deploy and train your ass off once you're on team. Your quality of life will be fantastic!

@Flooozeee 4 жыл бұрын

I left someone that wasn't supporting me and my aspirations to go back in to the military. I can only hope that I'll look back on it someday and be glad I did.

@sergioflex5145 4 жыл бұрын

So when do you go back in?

@silverstream6063 3 жыл бұрын

Sorry to hear that. Hubby is working right now to join a branch. I don't know much about those things but I am supporting him to the fullest. Hope you find someone who supports you 100%

@riataylor 2 жыл бұрын

Is Ones Ready still in the works for a wife guest podcast? I would LOVE to hear it. Spouses are half of this journey! Selfishly, I would love to hear an SR wife’s perspective. What is it about SR and it’s mysterious career detail and work/life information?! I swear I’m in all the spouse support groups and NOBODY is SR 😂 Keep doing what you guys are doing! I’ve enjoyed most of the content. It’s helped me support my husband’s journey thus far!

@OnesReady 2 жыл бұрын

Yup!

@justinbranden5275 2 жыл бұрын

Spouse support group?? Definitely need to send that to my wife please.

@JadenDelRio 2 ай бұрын

I'm on the same boat as you! well you 2 yrs ago lol. My husband is wanting to cross train in Oct. to be SR and I've for the longest have been searching for other spouses but so far none. Would love info from you if you ever got around it!

@Tolook 4 жыл бұрын

Question. I can’t find any info on what SR’s really do. I mainly would like to know if any of the 4 AF spec ops groups are ever in true combat? Mainly (SR)

@andrewwest6560 4 жыл бұрын

Yes they see combat. Thats exactly what they all are trained for. Special WARFARE

@wyattcresswell2609 4 жыл бұрын

Would y’all do be able do one on prepping physically for SERE A&S? A1C trying to cross train. I’m a pretty good runner so I’ve been working a lot of pushups and pull-ups trying to far exceed the standard with strict form. My feet are already kind of accustomed to being in boots and standing all day due to my current job. And I have a weighted vest coming in soon that I’ll be wearing all the time. Aside from all the usual calisthenics, what can I be doing to physically prep? Should I try to show up as fat as I can while being able to exceed the standards? It’s very hard for me to put on body fat should I be drinking mass gainer shakes to put on a little bit of weight before I end up going?

@noahbyers8803 4 жыл бұрын

Check out beapj.com there are some good A&S prep workout programs

@OnesReady 4 жыл бұрын

We are definitely having a SERE Specialist on soon- stay tuned.

@marlenakeith6531 3 жыл бұрын

From experience, learn to sew with a sail needle and paracord inner fiber and go look up the knots they teach in ranger school. Those skills will save you a lot of trouble.

@carrots8510 2 жыл бұрын

My girlfriend is in tech school right now and I’m about about to join in less than a month for afsw. We are thinking about getting married and we’re wondering what would be easier, before I join and while she is in tech school or after she has her duty station and I’m in the pipeline. Also and if we do get married when will she get to join me, would it most likely be at hurlburt field?

@Irishman8404 2 жыл бұрын

I am a prior Navy Corpsman with 2 tours under my belt, I used to do triathlons and be in incredible shape. Got out in 2016 and went to college and got my bachelors. Been working as a Cloud Engineer for 3 years, sitting on my ass becoming a semi fat body. I am 34 and could get back in shape within a year. Do you think it’s realistic for me to pursue a STO career, I’d stay in until they make me leave. Working as a Cloud Engineer has shown me what my soul truly burns with desire to do. I’ve missed the military everyday ever since I got out. Thanks guys!!

@OnesReady 2 жыл бұрын

It’s realistic if you want it bad enough. -T

@Irishman8404 2 жыл бұрын

@@OnesReady awesome! My only concern is my age, but the Air Force seems to have higher age requirements and a better understanding of the value of having older experienced men join the ranks. Thanks for the reply!

@madt7131 4 жыл бұрын

Hey one's ready, if I go special warfare. Do deployments go longer than specified if there is a need for you or the team you are on? Do Air Force operators get to take advantage of those dieticians, fitness coach, etc... During a deployment? Or are those only for when you are in the states at your station?

@g-rocks6548 3 жыл бұрын

It really depends on the deployment and where you're at. If your at a more developed AB, then those resources should be available to you. In not so developed AB, where it's just the bare minimum, then you'll likely have individuals playing more then one role to try to keep the welfare of it's personnel in check. Deployments are usually a set amount, but don't be surprised to stay a month or months lo German than what actually on your orders. It really depends on the situation, and the dynamics between the US and whatever mission your MAJCOM has set for your unit.

@pghmoore 4 жыл бұрын

Could you guys make a video on Security Forces DAGRE?

@fishking16 3 жыл бұрын

Do you know how it works being married mil-mil if I were to cross train into specwar? For instance, if I retrained into SR and make it through the pipeline, would my wife be able to join me at my first permanent station, even if her specific AFSC isn't supported there?

@OnesReady 3 жыл бұрын

Mil-Mil and Join Spouse is never a guarantee and something that can be tricky. If you can get Join Spouse, it will be at Hurlburt Field during AST.

@revolutionarypatriot8361 4 жыл бұрын

👍

@TheRealTAKO 2 жыл бұрын

What’s the living situation look like for single guys after dive school? On base barracks type or do you have the option to get off base housing once at a permanent duty station?

@OnesReady 2 жыл бұрын

On base barracks through the pipeline- whatever you’d like after you graduate the pipeline and hit your first assignment.

@tiffanydee1376 3 жыл бұрын

Did your wife get to go with you to England(your first PJ deployment (sorry new to the channel))

@williamborin4300 4 жыл бұрын

Can y'all bring on a SERE specialist?

@Murphator 3 жыл бұрын

check out some of the other episodes. they do have one that comes on sometimes

@slsh106 4 жыл бұрын

🤙🏽🤙🏽🤙🏽

@ctrovato4888 3 жыл бұрын

Wait so if I'm finishing basic and go to the pipeline, will my Wife(and kid) get BHA to live back in SD? Because I'm obviously going to be housed during the pipeline, what happens to her living situation until she's able to be with me in kirtland?

@g-rocks6548 3 жыл бұрын

You should've been getting BAH from your HOR(Home of Record)while in BMT. After BMT, your BAH will be from where you are stationed at. Your housing will be free, as if you were on a short tour overseas and live in the dorms, and the BAH will be Dependant rate BAH. If you are going TDY for your training, then you will continue to get the BAH from you HOR, but if you are PCSing then you will get BAH off of where you are currently stationed. Hope this helps, feel free to ask more questions, and good luck to you, stay motivated!

@fdeconsulting203 2 жыл бұрын

For a CCT I got a list of potential locations you can be stationed from my recruiter who sent me a link (foreverwingman) and it only lists Cannon, NM Hurlburt, FL Joint base Lewis McChord, WA and Pope, NC. Does this change once you are done with the pipeline?

@OnesReady 2 жыл бұрын

That list *is* when you’re done with the pipeline. You can also be stationed in England, at RAF Mildenhall, or in Japan, at Okinawa.

@22drtbiker Жыл бұрын

@@OnesReadydo you have a choice in being stationed overseas

@CavemanDan54 2 жыл бұрын

Man I need this but for sere

@OnesReady 2 жыл бұрын

So, what do you mean? Do you think SERE is so different that you can’t take the lessons learned here and apply them? 🤔 what video would we have to make to convince you that you’ll be ok?

@CavemanDan54 2 жыл бұрын

That comment was actually premature. Just finished the vid and the advice here is absolutely great. I've just been trying to find info for what post beret life is like for SERE so I have some talking points with the woman, yknow?

@ReinkeDankyDoo Жыл бұрын

I know this is an older video but I do have a question if one of you could answer? I am thinking about cross training from security forces to pararescue I am married with a four month old and I’m curious with all the TDY‘s if my family could come with me? Security doesn’t let family come with them on TDY‘s, just curious.

@OnesReady Жыл бұрын

Families are not included in TDY’s.

@justelynnnjoelle 4 жыл бұрын

LET'S GOOOOOOOOOO

@vhjosh 4 жыл бұрын

I don’t think we got a solid number on when our wives can come on base. After a few schools, how many months is that?

@OnesReady 4 жыл бұрын

It's tough to give you a no kidding amount of time because your length of time in the pipeline depends on a few things. Your class start dates as an example because many of the courses are joint schools and they don't line up perfectly from school to school. Also if you get recycled or injured, this could also delay that time. So best case, 12 months, worst case 24 months. This does not mean you cannot take leave between schools because you can. Also your spouse could come and visit you at some schools or even between schools. Sorry we can't give you a definitive answer on it, but there are a lot of variables to this. (Peaches)

@vhjosh 4 жыл бұрын

Ones Ready thank you!!

@tiffanydee1376 3 жыл бұрын

9 months is what it’s at now.