Fearful/Disorganized attachment

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In this video, I discuss the Fearful/Disorganized attachment style.
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@joed7185 Жыл бұрын

Took me up to this point in my life to realize this is who I am. Hurt the only woman who showed me nothing but love to me. Wish I found this out 3 years ago.

@Dr.SofyaVass Жыл бұрын

I am so sorry to hear that - you must be grieving the loss of that relationship - the good news is that we all live and learn and I am glad that you're working on yourself. Always practice self compassion and kindness to yourself - you're doing the best that you can. I am sure you had no malicious intent to hurt anyone and we all end up hurting others out of own wounds.

@joed7185 Жыл бұрын

@@Dr.SofyaVass "And when I have wounded the last one who loved me.God, help her forgive me; I don't understand." That's a line from a Kris Kristofferson song. I'll go through times where I'll be fine and then all of a sudden memories of her come back and haunt me fir my actions towards her. You forget what you want to remember, and you remember what you want to forget.Wish the universe can tell her how sorry I am for me. Thank you Dr.

@neftalitran3789 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing your knowledge. You make the world a better place.

@Dr.SofyaVass 2 жыл бұрын

Awe, thank you :), very kind words

@edu.campana Жыл бұрын

Very clear explanation. Continue doing these videos. Thanks from south Brazil

@Dr.SofyaVass Жыл бұрын

Glad you find it helpful

@solvitasperambulatorum8624 11 ай бұрын

I have diagnosed myself as Fearful/Disorganized. You are the first coach I've found whose explanation fits what I think happened to me: I think I was very afraid of my parents. Other coaches always mention abuse or alcoholism. There was none of that in my family, but there were many children, I was in the middle, and Mom and Dad were always very stressed, angry, and not demonstrative with love. I also found it interesting that you mentioned the Freeze response, which I did have as a child.

@Dr.SofyaVass 10 ай бұрын

I’m glad you found it helpful and it clicked

@jahray6300 10 ай бұрын

This is so good! I resonate

@Dr.SofyaVass 10 ай бұрын

I am so glad you find it helpful

@wendythiel2059 10 ай бұрын

Great info! This is so much info on the fearful avoidant. I agree so much with it. Thank you. Please more on this attachment style.much love ☺

@Dr.SofyaVass 10 ай бұрын

I am glad you found it helpful - I will try to make more videos on it. Any specific questions? Can help me formulate the next video :)

@daniellec4728 Жыл бұрын

This is me 100% and the hardest thing ever is trying to fix it bc of the hypervigilance and inability to control emotions

@Dr.SofyaVass Жыл бұрын

So hard, it's a whole body process as I am sure you're experiencing. You got this!

@welikelethabo 3 жыл бұрын

Please make another video on attachment style

@welikelethabo 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you

@jaredvaughan1665 2 жыл бұрын

Great video

@Dr.SofyaVass 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks! Glad you enjoyed :)

@giedirietveld7425 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you!

@Dr.SofyaVass 2 жыл бұрын

Glad you're finding this useful :)

@jaredvaughan1665 2 жыл бұрын

On April 25 I created a poll on each of the 16 MBTI type's main Facebook Group page asking each type to identify their attachment styles. Here are the % results with the order of anxious/avoidant/disorganized/secure. To the right is number of responses. INFP (41/29/26/3%) 324 INTP (23/36/30/11%) 61 INFJ (53/24/7/16%) 160 INTJ (18/62/5/15%) 65 ISFJ (41/17/19/23%) 70 ISFP (8/20/60/12%) 25 ISTP (16/48/13/22) 45 ISTJ (20/61/1/18%) 100 ENFP(65/12/19/22%) 129 ENTP(31/24/33/12%) 94 ENFJ(27/5/12/55%) 74 ENTJ (0/24/32/44%) 25 ESFJ (57/14/0/29%) 14 ESFP(44/15/21/18%) 34 ESTP(21/14/36/29%) 14 ESTJ(50/25/0/25%) 16

@Dr.SofyaVass 2 жыл бұрын

Wow! Jared, that's excellent research, how interesting, Also interesting to note that most people who responded are INFPs to a significant degree it seems like, what do you think about that?

@jaredvaughan1665 2 жыл бұрын

@@Dr.SofyaVass infps are big into mbti. And I put it on 2 infp pages. Only 1 for the rest