Finding Your Why - The First Step to Dealing With Anxiety

Finding Your Why - The First Step to Dealing With Anxiety - Anxiety Course Day 1/30

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Many people just want their anxiety to go away. They just don’t want to feel it. They imagine that if they didn’t feel anxious, their lives would be so much better and so they set that as their goal. “My goal is to not feel so anxious”. But when your goal is to feel less of something, you essentially have to cut something out of your life, and the problem with that is that your world shrinks, it becomes more miserable, and then your anxiety actually grows.
The only way to make your anxiety go away completely is to avoid the things you care about in life. Just like those kids who decided to not audition, if your only goal is to “feel less” - to feel less sad, to feel less stress - then you’ll end up shrinking your life away.
Instead, in this course I’m going to teach you how to get better at feeling. Yes, your anxiety will most likely decrease. But way more importantly, the goal of this course is to make your life awesome again. To fill your life with the things you care about- the people and experiences that you’ve cut out, the dreams and accomplishments that you’re afraid to try, to bring richness and joy back to your day instead of worry and fear.
The difference between anxiety and an anxiety disorder is not severity, it’s how your response impacts your functioning.
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@marciejones3538 9 ай бұрын

Anxiety has robbed me of my life.

@Afrohairlicious 9 ай бұрын

Me too 😢

@sueg2658 9 ай бұрын

@@AfrohairliciousMe too.

@VictoriaMarch13 9 ай бұрын

Me too.

@sueg2658 9 ай бұрын

Me too. I’m 72 now and spent $$$$$$$ on therapy over the years.

@thatdutchguy89 9 ай бұрын

Yeah mine too but we can fight back .

@Cas.1964 9 ай бұрын

My goal is to accept I have anxiety and stop fighting it and live alongside it.

@terminator04201989 2 ай бұрын

I wish I could too

@neonice 10 күн бұрын

It sucks in social situations since it makes things unnecessarily harder but at the same time it's kind of idk cool to have it since nowadays mental health stuff is interesting. I'm not interested in well adjusted normal people, like no, I can't deal with it

@rubenmorante2757 3 күн бұрын

How are you now

@briannacastro8527 9 ай бұрын

My goals: To stop avoiding Stop letting my anxiety control my life To start living again

@ktcee803 8 ай бұрын

Ditto.

@terminator04201989 2 ай бұрын

Same

@hummingbird4934 Ай бұрын

I would but I avoided the situation with my fiancé so I lost him and the future we were building. I also lost a really good friend because I felt completely unable to communicate and apologise to her. I’ve been diagnosed with severe cptsd since but can it really cause all these problems?? I think I’ve always had problems with avoidance but never to this degree. The reality is I don’t have a life worth living anymore

@carriem3466 9 ай бұрын

My goal is to get my energy back. The anxiety wears me out.

@martuli99 9 ай бұрын

I really need this. I can’t take this anymore. It’s anxiety all day every day. I can’t sleep properly, i can’t eat properly. I don’t want to imagine a life where i continue to feel like this. I can’t do it.

@nickyginn9137 3 ай бұрын

You can. You have to. Keep fighting back every day ❤

@ashessmith8635 2 ай бұрын

How are you feeling now?

@JassiMoon Ай бұрын

Same here 😔

@Wieiejfncid8ej Ай бұрын

You can do It broo 😁😁

@landri2986 Ай бұрын

Same! I can't sleep, eat properly, and enjoy my life. Everyday is anxiety and trying to sleep

@tortillachips-nn8dj 9 ай бұрын

My goals: -self respect and firm boundaries with myself -develop self confidence and stop doubting myself -not feel like it's the end of the world with small normal things -accept the things i can't change and strive with the things I can -be comfortable with being uncomfortable -have more patience with myself and the people around me -develop good habits -survive this academic year Thursday Aug 10, 2023💕

@asmaalrifai 7 ай бұрын

how is it goin now, hope you doin well😊

@Lazy2332 7 ай бұрын

All of mine are the same except the fact that I’m not in college unfortunately.

@Lazy2332 7 ай бұрын

I hope you’re doing well with it!** (Forgot to say this on my last comment)

@ErraticNoob 4 ай бұрын

Happy new year! How did you do? I hope you've been succeeding 😊

@Maia82888 2 ай бұрын

Feel the same way , hope your doing ok

@sueg2658 9 ай бұрын

“The only people who don’t feel any anxiety are people who are dead” And in my opinion that is why the lure of suicide is so strong in some people.

@destinyschild5768 9 ай бұрын

I knew from 14 that I had anxiety but I had no idea years later (now 25) how much it would hinder my life. I thought I was just a shy, weak or depressed person but I realize that's not the case. I'm extremely capable of doing things it's just this underlying fear that holds me back. There are so many things that I've put on the back burner because of anxiety such as dating, travelling, freelancing, etc. At least I have more clarity now on why I behave the way I do and find solutions to help me with social situations.

@adeo9293 9 ай бұрын

I’m 33 imagine if I started this at 25 very glad for you

@007NowOnline 9 ай бұрын

@@adeo9293I'm also 33. Almost 34. Sucks I'm only now trying to get back to fighting my anxiety off.

@spectrum910 9 ай бұрын

@@adeo9293 man I am 25 and just starting to recognize all the problems. Even I think it's late.

@maryireland2966 6 ай бұрын

I started with panic attacks at 15 and nobody could tell me what it was. I am 59 now and have major depression as well. I am still learning new tricks and it is NEVER too late to take your life back!

@hummingbird4934 Ай бұрын

Do you really believe that? My life has been completely ruined by anxiety. I really now it’s a normal part of life and you HAVE to face it when it comes up it’s crucial to getting the life you want. Why do we not discuss this in schools?? It’s so important in how you deal with it as to whether you’ll lead a good life or not

@r.w.4311 9 ай бұрын

Change my relationship to anxiety to one of compassion and acceptance rather than submission and resentment because I know it’s just a part of me that is trying to protect me and was once actually existentially necessary for my younger self’s survival when it first came along. And though I hear it and appreciate what is once did for me, I want it and am determined to make it understand that I’m an adult now, and I’m ready to take responsibility and to be in charge of my life from now on. I choose reasonable risk and unavoidable uncertainty, the limitless possibility of life and the dizziness of freedom over paralyzing fear and a false sense of safety and control.

@shahendarashwan5958 9 ай бұрын

Wow! Seems like you have been gathering good info about the topic and have some nice tools up your sleeve. May I ask you what resources you learned from ?

@r.w.4311 9 ай бұрын

@@shahendarashwan5958 This channel. Gabor Mate. Dick Schwartz and IFS. Bessel Van Der Kolk and the Body Keeps the Score. Thich Naht Han and mindfulness/meditation. Years of trial and error, setbacks and breakthroughs.

@stephaniesaucedo4800 8 ай бұрын

wow this made me tear up because I am in the same boat and trying to learn to be kinder to myself

@dwaynedelario 9 ай бұрын

My goal is to stop constantly fearing the fear. Hypersensitization to every little thing is robbing me of my joy and presence. I want to feel again but every time I try, I end up a shaky mess.

@notoriousosc1669 9 ай бұрын

I feel the same exact way, hopefully we figure this out.

@tristanchilders7615 9 ай бұрын

Mine started over a year ago, had panic attacks for 3 weeks straight multiple times a day every day. Lost 20 pounds. Went into hibernation basically, hardly worked, cut off relationships and barely left the house. Then I turned it around I started working at it, self care, meditation, eating clean, no caffeine. Actually stopping in the moment and explaining to myself there’s nothing to fear. I made myself go through my daily routine until it was normal again. It’s the most complicated/simple thing there is. It’s simple in theory and complicated in practice. But you can do it no problem

@benedictcumberbatch4944 9 ай бұрын

my goals: Stop dissociating Stop rushing through life and allow myself to be Stop overthinking

@felienmusic 9 ай бұрын

If I may ask you - what are the things you can add to help this proces? :) What gives you joy? I feel like I'm overthinking less when I have a clear structure of sports in my week and see my friends often, but also take enough time to rest! I add those things to kind of 'overpower' the bad stuff. It gets less and less because I feel better in my body.

@benedictcumberbatch4944 9 ай бұрын

@@felienmusic for me it would be when i’m living in the moment similar to you but i should definitely write and get a clear picture of what’s to come down and what my intentions are

@rainbowconnected 9 ай бұрын

It totally makes sense to want to stop all those things. Phrasing goals as things to avoid often doesn't work very well though. Could you phrase the goals as what you do want to be or do, as opposed to what you don't? It seems like a small thing, but I've found it makes a big difference for me when I set goals and therapists have told me the same thing. I hope you're able to feel more connected, present and how you want to be!

@Mpower31 9 ай бұрын

100%

@rose.florish 9 ай бұрын

Anxiety has ruined my life, after my friend group fell apart and the pandemic hit and I was neglected by my only parent, it stripped any social skills I had and confidence and made me sick and tired every day of my life, being young and not understanding I would continuously give into anxiety and I started self isolating till the outside world felt terrifying, i was in fight flight and freeze far more then I needed to be, now I'm trying to take my life back so I can be a successful adult and live a life that actually means something to me, that I'm able to make fantasies about but terrified to take action on. I was never taught these skills nor was I able to get help or have the proper funds to get therapy, so I'm here trying to teach myself how to live. I hope to make meaningful friendships, start a convo with a random person on my walk, and not worry about how I have to put on a show or look appealing to everyone around me cause that's simply unrealistic, it's caused me uncomfortable memory blocks and the lack of ability to focus, i want freedom!

@jillwklausen 9 ай бұрын

I am actually trying to get myself out in the world MORE, meet new people, try new things, etc., to make my anxiety go away. It's just hard, because there aren't enough things to keep me busy as much as I'd like. But I AM trying. In fact, I just got home from going on a walk at the beach with a woman I met on Monday when I went to the civic center to volunteer making blankets for shelter dogs. I feel WAY less anxious than I have all morning. But I know the anxiety will come back as soon as I have little or nothing to do with my time. I wish everyone here well! ❤

@janespond922 9 ай бұрын

Hi, I just wanted to say I think you did great! It's so easy to stay home and feel comfortable, but you went , did a good thing for someone else, and made a new contact. 😊 I wish you well too!❤

@jillwklausen 9 ай бұрын

Thank you, @@janespond922. I appreciate the affirmation. Have a great day!

@betho.3542 9 ай бұрын

I admire you so much for taking the risk and getting out to do the things you did. You are a great example for me, because I'm the same about having too much time on my hands.....and such anxiety about trying new things and meeting new people. Thank you for telling your story.

@jillwklausen 9 ай бұрын

That is so kind of you to say, @@betho.3542. Thank you. I started by just looking in my local newspaper for events happening in my area and picked a few to try. I also found the Center for Spiritual Living that way and now take a yoga class every Tuesday and just attended my first women's circle that meets monthly. Baby steps. You can do this, I promise. Wishing you peace and fulfillment. 🙏🏼

@lmc9972 9 ай бұрын

Goals: 1)Leave home to do errands w/o running home partway through because of my anxiety 2)Be ok with losing people instead of trying to control the result 3)Figure out how to bring good people into my life instead of being a hermit

@jennyfinnell7719 9 ай бұрын

Your 1 and 3 are great goals for me

@radhiyaify 9 ай бұрын

All your goals are good goals for me too

@emilyb5557 8 ай бұрын

Little suggestion - try now rewriting the same goals and use only positives of what you want how you want to feel. E.g. feel comfortable/confident leaving home to do errands and be able to complete my tasks.

@akashbart2765 5 ай бұрын

Goal Number 1... That's what brought me here. How are you doing now?

@tazyeensaquib138 9 ай бұрын

I am highly grateful to you Ma'am for such helping videos. You have made my life a lot better. I suffered from chronic stress and eventually with acute depression. Had to be on medication for almost 1 year. And I used to fear a lot that I will relapse again in that depression which makes one's life no less than a hell. But your emotion processing 30 videos on you tube and especially acceptance theory have completely changed my life. I am living now a happy and meaningful life and pursuing my dream with positivity. I will be thankful to you my entire life and I am in just early 20s. You are no less than angel for me. Lots of love and respect from India❤❤.

@yvonnedaniel1053 8 ай бұрын

Sending you strength and love 🌺

@AliciaKhan-ct1qi 5 ай бұрын

Yes everyday and night I'm getting worse n I can't sleep I jus wish I could go back to myself like how I used to feel

@steceymorgan814 6 ай бұрын

Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.

@APOLLINAIREBARTHOLOMIEU 6 ай бұрын

Does anyone know any good source to get them? I put so much on my plate and it definitely affects my stress and anxiety levels, would love to give shrooms a try.

@elizabethwilliams6651 6 ай бұрын

Yes, dr.sporesss

@patriaciasmith3499 6 ай бұрын

Dr.sporesss is the best, he's been my go to for anything psychedelics.

@APOLLINAIREBARTHOLOMIEU 6 ай бұрын

Is he on instagram?

@elizabethwilliams6651 6 ай бұрын

Yes he is. dr.sporesss

@gingercat 8 ай бұрын

1)Be confident to leave the house to do things by myself, including speaking Spanish 2)Get a full-time job & feel like an adult & buy things I want & feel more secure in my housing, relationship 3)Do fun things simply because I want to do them 4)Find people I vibe with and make them my friends 5)Stop being triggered by shame and feelings of unworthiness, unshakeable faith in myself 6)Finish projects solo 7)Feel more alive and joyful

@annikakoistinen451 6 ай бұрын

The first four for me too. Thanks for your list.

@YeeWhoEnterHere 9 ай бұрын

I want to regulate my emotions and get back to living my life. I want to avoid mal-adaptive behaviour like stuffing myself after I have just eaten. I want the best part of myself to be in control and guide the child part of myself, not the other way around.

@megamusicmessenger 9 ай бұрын

That Is exactly what happened to me . I was avoiding everything that made me anxious and ended up with depression . This was also in the middle of covid lockdowns which really just made everything worse .

@rhbmn 9 ай бұрын

when she mentioned how we convince ourselves that we're worthless as a way to cope with anxiety that really hit very close to home for me. thinking about what i have cut out of my life, there's a lot of things, family, relationships, friendships. i never ask people to meet up with me or ask to make plans with them because of my fear of rejection. i am terrified of public speaking or even speaking in front of a small group of friends. i get anxious about sharing my work online or even talking about things i like for fear of being mocked or being made fun of. i don't dress the way i want to so i don't attract attention. for my goals i want to counter all of these things. i want to be able to share things without feeling anxious or worry about what other people think of me. i want to be able to present myself the way i want to. i am always scared of speaking first and also scared of calling others on the phone and i wish to fix that. i hope i can one day be the person i have always wanted to be.

@user-vk9zm8bc5b 9 ай бұрын

1 stop rushing life 2 more self-confidence 3 more ways to deal with anxiety

@muskbakeshindi 9 ай бұрын

My goals: •Set my boundaries firm for good •Be consistent with things related to my career and make progress •be more present and less disassociated

@Acavinash 9 ай бұрын

Hello muskan .. r u from india ?

@Gaby-cq8pr 9 ай бұрын

It is true i have been trying to get rid of anything that trigers my anxiety by avoiding everything and everyone and my world basically reduced to nothing i spent months in my room by myself and ended up feeling empty now even talking to my husband even to argue feels better than the chronic loneliness i experienced being by myself for so long 😂 that is my motivation right there remembering than being completely lonely feels way worse than anxiety 😂

@hummingbird4934 Ай бұрын

I’m just discovering that now. Feel ridiculous for letting my life reduce to this

@mochimo93 9 ай бұрын

My goals: To learn about anxiety To stop anxiety taking control of my life To stop overthinking To start making decision based on what i want, not based on what i feel less anxious about To be a calm and assertive person

@mochimo93 9 ай бұрын

i revisit this note after i watch this video and the message is: we need to focus on what we want, not on what we want to avoid. Ok so let me rephrase some of my goals: To stop anxiety taking control of my life -> to start having a good relationship with my anxiety to stop overthinking -> - to start judge and think on a situation wisely and calmly - to start to differentiate a fact and opinion on a situation without having anxiety blurring my judgment

@Encaris 9 ай бұрын

Little late but my anxiety doesnt come from me worrying about myself, it comes from me worrying about the suffering of EVERYTHING else. Yaaaa so my anxiety comes from not having control usually. Goals: - to accept the things i cant change - learn to trust in others to do the right thing - to trust in the way of the world and let it be

@soniasamivillin743 6 ай бұрын

I've been anxious since my teenage years. And it got completely out of control during and after lockdown. So, I'll remind myself: I won't avoid people, places and situations anymore. I'm not scared, anymore.

@tanu5401 9 ай бұрын

1. Emotional regulation. Being able to continue with life and work even if there's a stressful situation going on 2. Stop overthinking 3. Have some goals in life and work towards them

@ishnualah 9 ай бұрын

Anxiety has caused me to to avoid social activity and going out to places like malls and restaurants. I used to be a cheerful and outgoing person. The work that I'm in right now, my boss is causing me anxiety. Due to my family conditions and tonnes of commitment I'm unable to look for another job at this moment. I just need to at least get back to my previous happy state where I can enjoy travelling, enjoy the crowd, enjoy dining out, enjoy the movie.

@lynettemcmechan4207 9 ай бұрын

My goal is to be able to live a good life even with my anxiety because I think it is a part of me.

@StargazerBudgets 9 ай бұрын

Anxiety has robbed me of having a good quality of life. After my mom passed 6 years ago, my anxiety got BAD. I stopped working out, and I stopped hanging out with friends and with parents of my kids' friends. I isolated myself so much that I think really poorly about myself. I recently found out that I have Avoidance Personality Disorder, which is 💯 everything you describe! Then I tried getting back into working out, and even just going into a gym parking lot freaked me out because I've gained 120 lbs over a 6 year period. When my mom passed, I practically shut down. Now I have this false belief that people at gyms will look at me like I dont belong or murmur things about me. It's also why I dont go to social gatherings because I'm always worried about what others are thinking about me. No, I dont think the world revolves around me, but the worry has been there from the time I was 9 or so. I have a great therapist, though, and she's working with acceptance and commitment therapy to help me get out of my comfort zone.

@SS-qg9jk 9 ай бұрын

I understand you. I have been feeling like this but girl, just go to the gym. I know how you feel i was thinking exactly the same things, that omg I am fat and they are not and they will look when I exercise when what they think of me BUT we go to the gym to lose weight and not look like models. So that thought has stayed with me and helped me to be confident and just go there and do my thing. And if they wanna look, just look at them back. Embrace who you are fuck if people are looking at you.

@sherithacornell7427 9 ай бұрын

I just want this Anxiety to go away.. God blessed me with a amazing JOB and this stress & Anxiety is about to make me walk away 😢

@janethansen9612 9 ай бұрын

Goals - reduce panic, return to social engagement, engage in self compassion.

@hekernoham6646 Ай бұрын

My goals; -to understanding my anxiety -to have more tools to not let it control my actions -a new perspective

@Kirbeast 9 ай бұрын

my goals; reduce overthinking, stop dissociating, be more accepting of uncertainty

@fairygodmother6603 9 ай бұрын

I've worked as an interpretor for 4 days with different groups. I have an immense fear of public speaking and I've been avoiding it for years but decided to face my fear (because I need the money to survive honestly). The sad thing is , after doing that my anxiety is still here, and although I am somehow proud of myself for finally facing my fear I don't feel better about myself, I feel slightly dissapointed, because whenever I go to sleep I think of all the times when I was awkward and made mistakes in front of groups of people and I don't ever want to go through that again. If you read this please send your good vibes or pray for me if you are a believer so that I can find a job that doesn't require public speaking🙏

@LucaAnamaria 9 ай бұрын

Sounds like you could use some self-compassion. 😊 Everyone says awkward things--some more than others--but it's a very human thing!

@singhking3585 7 ай бұрын

You ll do great

@emilylewis7642 7 ай бұрын

I hope you DO say awkward things from time to time, because that is what makes people relate to you and love you. It will be ok.

@annikakoistinen451 6 ай бұрын

What if you remember the truth that most likely no one from your audience probably care. It is just human. Could it help?

@_Paul_N 6 ай бұрын

You’re an awesome strong person and I believe in you. Keep contributing your awesomeness to this miserable/narcissistic planet that makes people lose focus of who they truly are inside

@user-yk6ys3tu1d 9 ай бұрын

Anxiety has definitely had its toll on me. In my senior year of high school, I didn't apply to a few of my dream schools because I was scared of being rejected. I also stopped talking to a lot of my friends and started avoiding social events. I continued to shut out many people and things that were meaningful to me thinking that would make the anxiety go away, but I realize now that it only made it worse because now I'm lonely.

@hummingbird4934 Ай бұрын

My goals: communicate my needs Find peace in being alone Find true connection

@landri2986 Ай бұрын

I think i know where my anxiety came from. It's my inability to work properly in my new job. But because of the work getting harder, the more my anxiety grows and the more my anxiety grows, it's harder to do my work. It's an endless cycle

@cindymora6714 Ай бұрын

the first months on a job are hard really hard, but with time you do the things faster, start to feel confident in what you do, i hope everyting gets better for you!

@reternity777 9 ай бұрын

Somebody out there needs to give Emma a huge hug from all of us!

@user-tu2mz3nh5b 9 ай бұрын

Goals- 1. Making peace with the past and not feeling excessively guilty 2. being able to be okay with being alone 3. Realising my self-worth 4. becoming confident 5. stop dissociating 6. stop self-pitying and actually start working on myself 7. Having the will to persevere 8. Get healthy

@heatherallingham7120 7 ай бұрын

I didn't know I had anxiety. I'm a senior and I thought I had a medical problem for most of my life. Doctors would ask if I was depressed or anxious, but I'd say truthfully "Not that I'm aware of". I would ask for tests to be run; most came back normal or at least not serious, so I DID push on, I DID "tolerate it" and face it all like you say. And now it's gotten SO unbearable over the past couple of weeks that I have physically collapsed and in trying to describe the pain I realize damn, this IS anxiety. I can't relax, I can't unwind, I have the jitters all the time, even when I go to bed, and have to strictly ration my energy. At this point I'm not entirely sure that "getting out and living my best life" is a good idea as I feel like I am in the final stages of a progressive disease.

@pixiedixie7317 7 ай бұрын

I started crying when she said the more we try to fight the more it backfires

@rizzagader9287 6 ай бұрын

Goals: - To be able to accept criticisms, failures, and mistakes and learning from it instead of beating myself up for it - To be able to let go of my regrets and feelings of guilt and shame and move forward - To stop aiming for perfection and comparing myself to others - To be able to learn how to cope and manage with the anxious feelings especially when I am outside - To be able to do things on my own like going outside, doing errands, and etc. without constantly thinking that I might panic and faint - To learn how to manage my time and setting time to take breaks instead of doings things all at once or procrastinating - To be healthy - To be able to live life with all its ups and downs and with all its beauty and not letting the anxiety to hold myself back from it

@kryokin9771 9 ай бұрын

My goals for this course are to learn how to manage anxiety in a healthy way so that it doesn’t disrupt my ability to function anymore, to trust my friends at their word more instead of reading into the small details of their word choices and behaviors so that I can feel more comfortable connecting with them on a more meaningful level, and to act in spite of my anxiety without my actions causing me to overthink even more so that I can connect with more people and learn how to be more authentic.

@pamelabondskinfitness 9 ай бұрын

When the student is ready the teacher will appear. YOU are a lifesaver. I am ready for life!!! and to feel what needs to be felt in order to live the life i want. I cant wait to dive into your course. I feel i have just won the billion dollar lotto. My life back!!

@chuckienunyobiz1882 8 ай бұрын

To have healthy, honest relationships with myself and others. Self empowerment, self respect, self acceptance. To escape my doom. To LIVE before I die.

@mare2723 7 ай бұрын

Anxiety is literally hell. I’m 66 years old now and disabled due to violence. I had to go into hiding to protect my friends and family. Now all are gone. I get trauma sweats with anxiety I feel like my body is so hot it’s going to burst into flames and this is at its very worst each time I wake up from sleeping. I would sure appreciate you doing a video on this or addressing me here in the comments. Thank you❤

@emilylewis7642 7 ай бұрын

That is a horrible feeling when you first wake up. I went through that for years myself but for a different reason. It helped me to rock myself back and forth on my side in bed. And if I really couldn't stand it, I would get up and pace. Movement helped. Even though I was really exhausted, like my soul was so tired, but movement still helped. It will get better with time, gradually, not all of a sudden one day, but a little bit better day after day. God Bless.

@onearthbean5023 5 ай бұрын

How about if the underlying cause of the night sweats and resulting anxiety is hormonal (menopause?)

@jemstar7592 9 ай бұрын

THANK YOU soo much for doing this for us. My goals are: - to decrease the anticipatory anxiety I feel before social events

@--rheu2345 9 ай бұрын

goals: reduce overthinking. get better at feeling.

@user-bz2oi1ft4f 3 ай бұрын

My goals: -getting married and be happy in my relationship confidently -develop self confidence and stop doubting myself and others -not feeling like it's the end of the world with small stuff -develop good habits -build your own business -have good relationships with family and friends -stop obsessing over every thought that comes

@SueLyons1 4 күн бұрын

That's such a helpful phrase and idea: 'Dead People Goals' It sums up the idea of avoidance and 'not feeling' Thank you

@tammymcintee9762 9 ай бұрын

My goals: Calm my anxiety and panic I was living in a state of constant panic daily for months, slowly I am getting better but anxiety and panic still comes alot. I need to learn how to calm myself and get my life back

@viktoriiababii5844 9 ай бұрын

Thank you so much for doing this! My goals: - become calmer, happier - be kind to myself - slow down in life and feel good about it

@happytreesasmr5765 9 ай бұрын

It’s made me miss out on certain opportunities, 😮not excel in positions, doubting myself and decreasing my self esteem. Avoid places.

@JP-ve7or 9 ай бұрын

Anxiety is making me waste time and possibly opportunities. I don't want to be ruled by fear (anymore.) I want a more meaningful, even creative, job; more social interaction and friends; and to check out new places. Making things makes me feel alive, which is probably why art classes are the only social thing I do these days! Without anxiety....I don't know! I could share more with people, maybe really connect and be a more useful person.

@susankibbey400 9 ай бұрын

I enjoy listening to you. You make sense. Dealing with the physical symptoms that come with anxiety makes it hard to change. I've learned to perceive by telling myself I'm okay, I'm safe. God says be courageous and strong for I'm with you. Thanks for your videos.

@emilylewis7642 7 ай бұрын

That's good. I like that last part. I think that will help me too so thank you for sharing.

@lisapfau6289 9 ай бұрын

This video is so succinct and helpful. It's really helping me to understand and accept my anxiety. I think my anxiety exists most in romantic relationships.

@erinanderson844 9 ай бұрын

I avoid telling people no, setting limits, because I don't want to feel guilt. My dream life: spending a day of variety, studying/learning new information, teaching people what I've learned, helping people love and accept themselves; spending some time with family and friends; traveling to new places

@ganjjabarsmedium2347 Ай бұрын

I have chronic anxiety on an hourly basis. The only thing that has helped is literally constantly taking deep breathes. I have to constantly redirect and remind myself to take deep breathes. But it is helping

@user-ow9ld3gw1r 9 ай бұрын

I can’t begin to tell you how important your videos have been in my life. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

@stilllaqueen 7 ай бұрын

My goals- 1) I want to feel alive again. 2) I want to feel that I'm not worthless. 3) I want to be more confident of my self. 4) at last I want to love myself.

@DivineJacob- 2 ай бұрын

If anxiety didn’t control me, I’d wake up everyday feeling over the moon. I’d have a nice shower with some music and make a lovely breakfast for myself. I’d make my life centered around so much positivity and prioritize my wellbeing. I’d be around all of those who I love, being unapologetically me.

@richardwilsonavena 9 ай бұрын

My goal would be how to learn to move past the "stuck" feeling I have caused by anxiety. I can read all the mental health books in the world, consistently work with the various skills, strategies, but in the end I always find myself at the end of "the swimming pool ladder 25 feel in the air" and I turn around and walk back down the ladder.

@purrsephone2904 9 ай бұрын

I experienced anxiety in my early teens that I cannot describe as ordinary anxiety. It was intense and I believe it was part of mental illness triggered by environment. I couldn't think myself out of it.

@hummingbird4934 Ай бұрын

I’ve experienced this. Did it get better when you left?

@purrsephone2904 Ай бұрын

@@hummingbird4934 I was too young to leave home, so I had short-term treatment at the time which improved my anxiety.

@3dayis2derful 9 ай бұрын

My anxiety cycle often involves chronic pain that flares up when I’m stressed. I did PRT (pain reprocessing therapy) a couple years ago, and it was absolutely life-changing. This seems like the same kind of approach to anxiety in general & I love it! What you’re saying about changing how we interact with anxiety rather than shrinking our lives to avoid it really resonates. Thank you for the work you do to make this information accessible ❤

@niebieskimotyl3308 9 ай бұрын

Wow thank you so much! I experience chronic pain when stressed as well, migraines, joint pains and stomach pains, I'm looking for the solution for those. Decreasing anxiety helps, but shrinks my life. I put myself out there as much as I can, taking some calming meds and processing feelings. But still there's some missing part about the pain afterwards.

@dviousone393 9 ай бұрын

I have chronic vertigo as well as pain from herniated discs. Needless to say, I "worry" about driving while vertigo is raging or I have numbness in my legs or pains in my legs/chest/arms I'd love to be able to commute, travel with my kids, or even just take a trip to the store without having to plan in case of emergency stops or outright avoid things

@supermusicmaniac123 7 ай бұрын

My anxiety is from chronic pain too from trigeminal neuralgia and MS. I was hoping someone in this thread would say their anxiety was from pain. I am just starting PRT. I am so hoping this will help and I am so glad to hear it worked for you it gives me hope

@maryireland2966 6 ай бұрын

You CAN overcome

@cigdemaydn9637 Ай бұрын

Social anxiety ruined my childhood, my adolescence, my university life, actually my whole life, but I'll overcome it (I hope😢) 💪🏻

@sherithacornell7427 9 ай бұрын

Anxiety truly has impacted my life 😢

@Goldiloxandthe3bears 9 ай бұрын

This video is super encouraging. I have not let anxiety stop me from doing anything. What bothers me is the anxiousness I feel anyway. In somethings I have definitely conquered anxiety such as with horses. I have overcome that. I accepted the position in my church to teach the women and have been doing that for over a year and each time it got more comfortable but I still really don’t enjoy it but I do it. Knowing that it’s okay to feel anxious and pushing through it is not letting it control me. I watched my mother stop living until she eventually passed away. I don’t want to do that! I want to live even if it is scary!!

@speedypete3725 9 ай бұрын

Excellent keep it up your doing great.

@Comfy-Heart 2 ай бұрын

My goals: - Separate myself from my emotions and thoughts, not be controlled by them - Rewire my thought process to more constructive and positive, not overthinking - Improve my emotional stability so that I can have better and stronger relationships - Be able to trust and support myself more 03/01/2024 ❤

@ashleylydiagilmour1141 9 ай бұрын

Simply... to be truly happy 🎉

@ktcee803 8 ай бұрын

My goal - +Quit trying to escape anxiety +Quit allowing anxiety to overtake my decisions +Allow myself to live again.

@mistyviolet3825 8 ай бұрын

😊👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻✔️✔️✔️

@froppy4794 9 ай бұрын

goals: - be more secure in my relationships (friendships, family, partner) - learn better coping mechanisms - to be happy/happier

@littlesquirrels8659 9 ай бұрын

I fall down , but I get up again ...I only need to get up again to keep winning :)

@aurora-88 9 ай бұрын

Thank you very much Emma!! It's really useful to be reminded of our gains and losses of allowing anxiety to control our life and our reactions to it

@nikolamuncan5843 9 ай бұрын

Emma thank you for the work you are putting in and for the information and knowledge you are exposing us to, it means a world to us. Please keep up the good work

@RenaRena01 9 ай бұрын

Thank you so much for making this course! This is just the first video and I already feel like I have a little better understanding of how my anxiety is affecting me and that there’s still hope to live the life I want.

@Lino75 9 ай бұрын

My goals are: To live a life worth living To be much more concentrated To be free of negative and catasthofic thoughts

@jandastroy 9 ай бұрын

Anxiety is brutal left unchecked. Thanks for sharing this, I just so happen to be happy to explore more active options for dealing with anxiety.

@notoriousosc1669 9 ай бұрын

I think at this point I’ve had so much anxiety that it’s spiraled me into depression. It’s hard to get excited for anything but I know that I need to push forward. I need to gain my life back. I used to be so filled with joy and hope and now it’s hard to get excited for anything.

@scountry6635 9 ай бұрын

Emma, you get the wonderful person of the decade award!!!!! Thank you for everything you do to help others.

@kittycuddler5973 9 ай бұрын

Thank you Emma. You feel like the kindly neighbour or friend I need. 💞

@Surfsup448 9 ай бұрын

Thank goodness for content that doesn’t cost a fortune. This is the issue with majority of people not getting help. In a perfect world we would all be warm and welcoming to strangers and people. You should be able to talk to anyone, anywhere.

@louisehorsfall9400 8 ай бұрын

This is so well written. You made such an important point that others can miss.

@missannaventure 9 ай бұрын

My goal: Getting better at identifying and feeling my feelings, accepting them and living with them in balance. Getting better at having enough distance to the situation and letting the story behind the triggers proceed through me, as opposed to me focussing on it. And as you said so well: I want to make my life wonderful, awesome, in its truest sense. I want to bring richness and joy back into my day instead of worry and fear. ❤❤❤

@JohannaVeerenhuis 9 ай бұрын

Dear Emma, I’ve been following your channel for a long time now and I’ve learned so much from you!! The best thing I’ve done for myself in the process is picking up tapdancing… it’s a FUN activity that has really helped me a LOT with my overall balance… Thank you! ❤

@kellygibson7299 3 күн бұрын

I’m happy to find this series. I’ve struggled with so many things related to OCD, depression, and anxiety. The lines seem so blurred in situations; I’ve made myself travel to places for differing experiences and opportunities, always feeling so out of place. It has been so difficult to get further ahead when I’m always thinking about what happened in the past and why. And, just like you described in the beginning, my world shrinks because I stay away from people. Thanks for what you do on this channel ❤

@curiousOrk11 9 ай бұрын

My goals: stop dissociating get my life on track be close to my family and friends

@janespond922 9 ай бұрын

Hi Emma. you clarify the thinking behind the feeling and focus on the consequences of giving in to it. I found it really useful to have a task to do that concentrates on positive goals .I'm really looking forward to the rest of this course. Thankyou! ❤

@ETHBlade1 9 ай бұрын

Goals: Allow myself to think/do/say the things I want to regardless of the fear of judgement Heal my past wounds that spring my anxious sensations/thoughts Live life in an open capacity Pursue my authentic dreams and goals Live my life with optimism for the future instead of fear/regret from the past

@Seasideboy1 7 ай бұрын

I have indeed struck more than just gold after finding your sincerely presented methods and ways to cope with anxiety and panic attacks!!! Seriously!!!❤❤❤

@ashleydaniels2717 8 ай бұрын

Whew, girl!! This was spot on. Thank you for the clarity.

@VandMStenzel 9 ай бұрын

You have a wonderful way of addressing anxiety and all that goes with it in simple, thought provoking ways. Thank you for these wonderful videos.

@geoffmarshall4778 9 ай бұрын

My goals: To gain confidence to be able to go to interviews and get back to work and be happy again

@JayRickard 9 ай бұрын

Wow. That moment you hear exactly what you need to hear exactly when you need to hear it, in exactly the right way. Just, wow. ... and thank you.

@Xottic22 2 ай бұрын

My Goals: Find out what’s causing my anxiety . Stop constantly thinking about anxiety 24/7. Stop getting in my head. Accept the past and move on. Stop doubting myself and putting myself down. Build confidence. Start working again.

@khyatisinha2589 8 ай бұрын

Goals- 1)Stop overthinking and hurting my close ones because of it, not trusting anyone cause there's always a fear that people r gonna leave 2)Stop worrying about speaking my mind, thinking maybe my friends don't like me now, cause i gave an opinion which is different from their opinion 3)Don't feel overwhelmed after and before a task, it robs it of joy 4)self love

@kathygreen6043 8 ай бұрын

I have illness anxiety. Have had Menierre's vertigo for 33 years. Got sick last summer with virus and immune system won't be quiet.Covered in first time Psoriasis at age 70. I am health anxious every day all day. Hard to live dizzy. Having anxiety is like getting up and going to war every day. It's tough. I feel for those who suffer this in any way. Hard to trust the body. The videos help. I have shared your site with many people. Thanks so much God bless you.

@ak.4016 6 ай бұрын

What makes you feel alive ? What lights up.. (If anxiety doesn't have to play a role) Meeting people and having good conversations and funn with them

@nicolas_-_-_ 9 ай бұрын

Hello! Thank you very much! No matter how hard it is, I guess some people will never feel depressed. But even if they're not depressed, it's hard anyway. But I believe someday I'll see the end of the tunnel 🙂 I'm still full of hope, even after all those years. Those students you talked about were anxious but they didn't have panic attacks, right? They didn't have panic disorder. And maybe some did it because they were scared of their parents and the others were not 😄 And we don't know if some of those young people had a low self esteem or not. I think it would have been interesting to know that.

@cammichristensen6705 9 ай бұрын

I can personally say that anxiety disorder is treatable. I used to struggle with being anxious about feeling anxious, and I still feel anxious sometimes but I don't feel bothered by that anymore because I have learned how to be kind to my anxiety and purposefully try to feel it as strongly as possible instead of treating it like an enemy. That is literally the antidote to feeling anxious about feeling anxious. Anxiety only feels like a big scary monster because you treat it like it is, but in reality it's not, it's on your side, and as soon as you realize that it turns into a little kitten. Stop abusing your anxiety, it's a part of you that cares about you and wants to keep you safe. It only escalates when you treat it like your enemy (at least with anxiety about anxiety). So whenever you notice the feeling of anxiety suddenly come up, do what feels paradoxical, instead of avoiding it, face it head on; close your eyes and purposefully try to feel it as much as possible, try to enhance the feeling, like you like it and you want to feel more alive. When you keep practicing this overtime your anxiety will no longer feel like a big deal and you will feel more okay with it when it does occasionally show up, because now you know what to do with it and the right way to react to it.

@nicolas_-_-_ 9 ай бұрын

Hello! Thank you very much!