Is Shani’s Autism a Deal-Breaker? 😬

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Is Shani’s Autism a Deal-Breaker? 😬 | First Dates New Zealand

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10 ай бұрын

Romeo likes strong-built women, so is wrestler Shani his match made in heaven?
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@stephanieh4466 5 ай бұрын

Lol I can't get over that she said, you don't do that in a restaurant! Lol then bangs on glasses, burns plastic eyelashes and licks the bill😂🤢

@harryvanderveen773 4 ай бұрын

@tizzlekizzle 3 ай бұрын

LOL!!!

@tizzlekizzle 2 ай бұрын

Lol

@user-sl4cd2sz5l 2 ай бұрын

😂😂😂😂

@flowergirl7260 10 ай бұрын

Two wonderfully un-usual people who were destined to meet and show us something about being authentically yourself. Thank you.

@rachelbailey-no2pp 7 ай бұрын

I thought what a romantic date 🌹 He picked up the bill like a true gentleman.

@Berighteousone 9 ай бұрын

He was great she seriously confused. He would have treated her like gold .

@laurynbrewitt9668 5 ай бұрын

There's nothing wrong with him, her or their interaction. They didn't have chemistry is all 😊

@linkcell 7 ай бұрын

Did she friend zone him? I was not expecting that.

@Ladybirdtaj 5 ай бұрын

Exactly the chemistry was 💯 percent there lol ' surprised at that 😮

@HopeandaPrairieFarm 3 ай бұрын

@@Ladybirdtaj - Just MHO, but it appears that she thinks fireworks = soulmate. Doesn't typically happen that way. He's a perfect match for her and she seems blinded by some romantic notion that doesn't exist. Even if it were to exist, it'd probably be short lived once the fireworks blew out. This guy's the real deal.

@TradingTheBias 10 ай бұрын

What a shame. They could have been a good couple.

@TheEcstaticFool 10 ай бұрын

This show does a magnificent job of matching people! I am always blown away. I love how unique and true to themselves they both are.

@colaboytje 10 ай бұрын

They seemed perfect for each other.

@citytrees1752 3 ай бұрын

She wasn't feeling the chemistry.

@kfitz192 10 ай бұрын

I thought they made a lovely couple. He may have pushed it too far when he picked her up but the rest of what was shown was unusually funny.

@bettyfuller6940 10 ай бұрын

Sweeping a girl of her feet literally on the first meeting...I don't think is a good idea 😂

@gillowens24 10 ай бұрын

I agree there

@Rico401Prov 10 ай бұрын

I personally wouldn’t try that but to each his own 😂

@manilkasheran2934 10 ай бұрын

Only figuratively not literally LMAO!

@mattmathematics3591 6 ай бұрын

😂 hes name is romeo

@christinamccarthy8683 5 ай бұрын

Agree

@BeautyBeauty-di8xq 10 ай бұрын

She’s learned over time to adapt to people’s behaviors even though it makes her uncomfortable My 15 year old autistic son does this She acted cool with him but really wanted to get away He was intense Which is fine he’s just being himself Both great unique individuals

@alexaf2744 7 ай бұрын

Yeah she looked trapped. No wonder so many autistic people suffer from claustrophobia. She was masking. But yeah I actually think he was sweet. Just not her thing. I love she did say no at the end 🤘

@dani-elle-au9935 4 ай бұрын

She's a wrestler...not like she's not used to being physical...she just hadn't given him permission as he's a stranger.

@citytrees1752 3 ай бұрын

yes, this.

@citytrees1752 3 ай бұрын

@@dani-elle-au9935 That would have turned me off him forever. Even though he got better through the date, I wouldn't have got over the alarm of it.

@markristin4307 6 күн бұрын

Exactly, yes, well said. It's called "masking." (I'm sure you already know that.) I'm autistic, and I act/react the way I know I'm "supposed to," but I'm pretty much always uncomfortable around other people. I'm so impressed with her for agreeing to a blind date. I couldn't have done that.

@jasminaj3682 10 ай бұрын

She was so drunk by the end 😂Also she’s gorgeous!

@NK-oi2ni 10 ай бұрын

That and a combination of being on the spectrum probably.

@ascendwithemily 10 ай бұрын

FINALLY. AN ACTUAL REAL DATE WITH REAL PEOPLE . WHO ACTTTTUALLY GET ALONG❤

@Berighteousone 9 ай бұрын

So you have to have Autism to be real? I've seen hundreds of real dates

@kathleenmartin7498 10 ай бұрын

Sometimes couples don't start out with that "spark". Their friendshio might lead to something deeper.

@rimantasbuivydas2321 7 ай бұрын

I thought they matched so well strange she didn’t want him

@powerup9035 3 ай бұрын

She was much taller i think that was it

@rimantasbuivydas2321 3 ай бұрын

So it’s all about physical appearance doesn’t matter that they connect so well

@citytrees1752 3 ай бұрын

She wasn't feeling the chemistry.

@ThomasMitchell-uu6id 4 ай бұрын

at first i was like nah this guy is a tool, ended with me saying wow hes a top guy

@NecroMorrius 7 ай бұрын

Heh as the husband of an autistic wife I could tell from the moment she said hello! Lovely couple

@ralphlyda4545 10 ай бұрын

It could absolutely have been a great date if Romeo hadn’t picked Shani up without her permission! He really ruined his chances. One hopes he could recover after seeing her a few more times & being normal. They could be quite a good match.

@aron.gortman 10 ай бұрын

I thought it was dope.

@ProdavackaDivu 10 ай бұрын

@@aron.gortmanLet’s not touch people without consent especially in classy public places where it adds additional humiliation

@anne-mariezack 10 ай бұрын

They have sexual tension and that’s all we can gleam from this clip

@Berighteousone 9 ай бұрын

@@ProdavackaDivuLighten up KAREN

@ENFPerspectives 9 ай бұрын

@@ProdavackaDivu Agree, but dont touch people without consent in public or private.

@adamsawicki1221 10 ай бұрын

Her little reactionsounds were so funny 😅

@joshnanyabiz6668 6 ай бұрын

"Do you wanna lick it as I paid for the bill" A line I'm sure all men have wanted to say at least once, but he actually said it the mad man xDDDDD

@tdkj0k3r94 5 ай бұрын

Can’t believe this guy first action to he is picking her up she look terrified by it haha.

@targetedterry7660 5 ай бұрын

I feel like he may be on the spectrum too

@shoelacedonkey 5 ай бұрын

That's what I thought as well... ADHD perhaps. Nothing wrong with either btw ☺

@LeMerch 7 ай бұрын

What did I just watch.. That was brilliant 😂

@Sophie-cw7bf 7 ай бұрын

I hope they are together man this is too cute my gosh

@DanandJoely 10 ай бұрын

She has a terrific personality

@meredithr9824 10 ай бұрын

Yeah. Are we sure they're not both autistic?

@B_27 6 ай бұрын

That's what I was wondering.

@CompetitiveEllisy 4 ай бұрын

Thought it was both until I seen this comment

@robbhays8077 5 ай бұрын

I don't think she was saying she just wanted to be friends. She was saying she wanted to try again without all of the weirdness.

@VanessaAndrade-fw6vq 7 күн бұрын

She has an awesome personality. He seems like a happy guy. I thought they'd be perfect for each other lmao 😅😂

@NancyFoshee-cl1rl 4 күн бұрын

...agree

@ParadigmRabbit Күн бұрын

He is a really beautiful person. Seems like such a gentle soul. I like her too. They are both such interesting people!

@susiegross1853 10 ай бұрын

Licking a menu???? Ughhh 🤢🤮

@walkwithmeASMR 6 ай бұрын

They are perfect for each other. I hope he doesn't give up

@johanwitters Ай бұрын

Of course he gives up, so he should. There's no escaping the friend zone. And in the rare event it happens: it's a terrible idea. Besides... There's plenty of fish in the sea. No point chasing one that doesn't want you.

@IntrovertLeo22 6 ай бұрын

I wonder what is the update about him. So sad, he is friend-zoned. He deserves so much better.

@intallpines 9 ай бұрын

I hope he will continue to pursue her. They seem perfect for each other. It may take a few tries before something takes off.

@melinmove 6 ай бұрын

No he should not, No means no, and she obviously knows what she is looking for and it's not him. Being "perfect for each other" does not exist, it's only in fairy tales.

@melinmove 5 ай бұрын

@@degrotekoningwouter what

@Filippenzen413 4 ай бұрын

@@melinmove Ooh thats so sad. 😢

@gears244 10 ай бұрын

What was going through this guys mind that he thought it be a good idea to pick up this woman the very first encounter he has with her 😳🤔😆😂 That is something someone does typically when people are more comfortable with each other, that made me uncomfortable just to watch and her reaction was understandable 😅

@PROVOCATEURSK 10 ай бұрын

His parents are from two really weird cultures.

@albertvirgil4471 10 ай бұрын

I think it was the fear of rejection, which made him do that unexpected thing. I think he tried to separate him self from the pack in order to make her see him more unique than the others. In the end her judgment is the final the one which counts.

@stoicwarrior346 10 ай бұрын

@@PROVOCATEURSK And your culture would be?!

@leezlvontrapp 8 ай бұрын

I think the producers gave him a little whisper to do it because of the wrestling thing. These dates are mostly staged.

@sanaaakhtar 5 ай бұрын

That’s a real shame…they could have been such a great couple!

@Sophie-cw7bf 7 ай бұрын

I love this lady I pray my son grows to be as confident as her thank you ❤❤❤❤

@beatpirate8 10 ай бұрын

she reminds me of girl in clueless

@nutellajizz9459 6 ай бұрын

Lmao theyre both so funny and looney i quite like itttt

@charlottesaxon5634 10 ай бұрын

They are adorable 🥰🥰🥰

@imagegotbeats 5 ай бұрын

I know this fool did not just pick up this girl in a restaurant off the first meet up 🤦🏽‍♂️🤦🏽‍♂️🤦🏽‍♂️🤦🏽‍♂️🤦🏽‍♂️ My lord!!!! Creep vibes

@hebahamid884 5 ай бұрын

Ikr?

@djpamelamc 2 ай бұрын

I hope they both meet up again.

@kosmosavnordlys 10 ай бұрын

There is something so punk rock about them ❤️

@margkropf5541 7 ай бұрын

People fail to comment on The young man physically picking up a woman he has just met. Brazenly unacceptable!!!!

@Sandrocas Ай бұрын

i thought the same, disrespectful of personal boundaries

@devvyas8215 3 ай бұрын

I have been watch first dates episodes and just laughing and giggling at some of the episodes. It's fun to watch this show.

@user-sl4cd2sz5l 2 ай бұрын

He only drinks water cuz he's cheap ! And why on earth are you picking her up like that ? The music playing was funny lol

@believeinyourself7511 10 ай бұрын

I like his hair in the interview portion

@brokenwideopen 10 ай бұрын

I don’t know which part I liked the most…Romeo’s rogue too-soon stranger scoop, ripping off false eyelashes to then burn at the table candle or leave in the water glass for the restaurant staff to deal with , orally assaulting the check presenter that is likely teeming with germs, or the shameless flex and pec reveal. Then her calling it really weird when she contributed to half of the weirdness. You can be a little goofy on a date but this was just…unusual and bad mannered.

@leezlvontrapp 8 ай бұрын

I felt secondhand embarrassment whilst watching this. Eep! No thank youuuuu. Goodness gracious. I think your recap was so perfect and you gave me a chuckle. 😂😂 Thanks! 😊😂

@user-pd3el7yt7s 7 ай бұрын

Rogue too soon stranger scoop 😂

@truth_hunter 6 ай бұрын

Yeah, I think both of them did weird things. It wasn’t only him she was part of it. Either she was doing those crazing things to feel connected to him or she’s just like him. So if she was faking her crazy stuff then she isn’t comfortable with herself. Also, I notice he is a very deep thinker and in touch with his emotions and others. Maybe, his feelings were too strong for her.

@irina383 9 ай бұрын

It is as if I just saw a scene from a romantic comedy. I thought they were totally for each other. I guess she was masking and mirroring his behavior, not really vibing with him.

@JasmineDev 6 ай бұрын

These two are awesome together!!

@leigh7507 10 ай бұрын

I think men are more forgiving of autism in women than women are of dating an autistic man. Likely because women with autism are better at masking and men are quite visual so if she's autistic they will look past the social shortcomings

@LeMerch 7 ай бұрын

My wife has autism and she’s literally the best thing that’s ever happened to me. ❤ Everyone has something.

@mercifulmermaidtarot2630 5 ай бұрын

Knowing a man has autism wouldn’t put me off of giving him a chance. I think people sometimes assume that if they’ve met a few autistic people, they’ve met them all. Like anyone else, they are all unique individuals.

@user-hx7ud4xe1n 3 ай бұрын

I think that might be due to the fact that women are naturally more clingy, affectionate and like to be close while people on the spectrum really appreciate their independence and naturally express the same things differently while men are ok with being naturally more distant. I don`t know if I worded this correctly but that was my initial thought.

@linkcell 7 ай бұрын

now that's how you seal the deal: licking the tab. 😅

@albertvirgil4471 10 ай бұрын

I got second hand embarrassment from watching that. It was unique and unexpected, but if that floats her boat I don't judge. Sometimes opposites attract each other very well.

@CanMoose 6 ай бұрын

I've been married 49 years to my opposite. Yes, it can work out well.

@lackerbitandersson6241 9 ай бұрын

Both rather wild and lovely 😂

@daniellerichard1385 10 ай бұрын

What an incredible young woman.

@Sophie-cw7bf 7 ай бұрын

This is so bloody cute I’m in ore with the both of them 🤩🤩🤩🤩🤩

@jolineackerley6289 5 ай бұрын

This was so sweet ❤

@lucillebalinska5868 5 ай бұрын

He is a nice guy but I would also be freaked out by being physically picked up by someone I just met. Save that for the second date bro 😅

@user-js5iz6yj3u 10 ай бұрын

quite a nice match !!

@Lizbeth36961 5 ай бұрын

It grossed me out when she licked the checkbook 🤢

@islandyyt 23 күн бұрын

I think they were an excellent match!!

@victoriagolston7514 8 ай бұрын

This is awesome

@TheIntunecatu 10 ай бұрын

This was v hard to watch. Cringe.

@simondo451 3 ай бұрын

There are red flags all over this guy!

@asalu0000 Ай бұрын

He’s perfect

@samantha0lee 6 ай бұрын

Less pressure these guys are smitten. I love them!

@richlikeg3722 6 ай бұрын

Good match, both weird but still compelling

@ashleys1220 5 ай бұрын

The ending was a shocker for me 😂 i thought it was a match. It definitely was a weird date. I don’t think she got over him lifting her up at first sight lol

@joannenix8497 2 ай бұрын

Update?

@Sunny_Banani 5 ай бұрын

Why just not give it a go he is a realy good match for her understanding ect

@TheLHacademy 10 ай бұрын

UMMM ok?

@mistyvance4544 10 ай бұрын

I knew they played the goofy music for a reason.

@bakareolatunde5895 10 ай бұрын

l love dem both

@bosnian8487 6 ай бұрын

they are so cute and unique😊

@ProfessorJay-sc6vd 7 ай бұрын

The ending was the weirdest part about the 😮😅

@rachelwong3474 6 ай бұрын

This is beautiful date

@danielaw7720 7 ай бұрын

All of that and bro ended up in the friend zone 🥲

@darkerbinding6933 10 ай бұрын

She friend zoned him. 🫤

@Winterflowers1 2 ай бұрын

They're gorgeous especially him👀

@manilkasheran2934 10 ай бұрын

They definitely have the best friends vibe but since the guy is interested in more....it's better to part ways!

@frankmeyer1433 7 ай бұрын

I thought sharing the fact that she was diagnosed with autism (On the first date) this was not necessary as it was not evident in any shape or form at that stage, coupled with her licking the menu and then pulling off her lashes, were all signs that she was not going to take this relationship any further, I am convinced that if she was smitten with her date, these behaviours would not have materialised. She is a bit too goofy and at times talks too much without listening to her partner.

@fatcatontario 10 ай бұрын

The menu licking was a bit grotesque for me😅

@victoriaa.m956 2 ай бұрын

My fav couple

@Phraeyah 4 ай бұрын

What a pair of cuties 🥰

@markristin4307 6 күн бұрын

I do find it a little odd that she didn't want another date. However, I'm autistic, and I know how difficult/uncomfortable dating is with a neuro-divergence. If I like a guy, the idea of having to see him/impress him a second time causes me so much anxiety, I just can't do it. They seemed to have great chemistry, so I almost wonder if she said no to another date because she did like him a lot. Too much pressure.

@JamesCraigWhoop 10 ай бұрын

I have two boys on the spectrum. My oldest 16 yr old acts so much like her minus the alcohol

@fakamatalamai69 9 ай бұрын

OMG so much funny one 😂😂😂😂🎉🎉🎉❤

@tinaroberts5858 5 ай бұрын

She does look better without the false lashes!

@cameronx8711 4 ай бұрын

This was the weirdest date I’ve ever seen , hands down 😊

@embisonjones4996 7 ай бұрын

"alot of girls can't put up with reality" 😂😂😂😂😂 Tell em

@Lizbeth36961 5 ай бұрын

He struggles with depression and anxiety then goes to talk about “reality” as if he’s superior. YIKES

@degrotekoningwouter 5 ай бұрын

@@Lizbeth36961Classic PUA vibes, including the weird dress style.

@ppumpkin3282 3 ай бұрын

@@Lizbeth36961 It's an odd thing to say, and probably true, most women are looking for the perfect guy, but that doesn't mean he thinks he's superior. Maybe to direct and honest.

@deerheart87 7 ай бұрын

He's Italian ?

@joannenix8497 2 ай бұрын

Half Russian half Italian.

@AnonymousTruthTeller Ай бұрын

He's hot af with the most beautiful eyes I've ever seen. Seems like a good guy really. Just that he needs to brush his teeth, look a bit yellow 😅

@chloeclo8958 7 ай бұрын

two cool people Xx

@Jonty161 3 ай бұрын

I think theres room for growth there.

@parametr 9 ай бұрын

Tbh, pretty sure they are both in the autistic spectrum. Both cool, though. Thumbs-up for both.

@bethfreschi9171 9 ай бұрын

I think she was judging him for his weirdness. 😅 ...but shes the same. Lol

@burak_aviator487 7 ай бұрын

She speaks like Kat Dennings from 2 Broke Girls 🤔

@joannenix8497 2 ай бұрын

I agree , I was thinking the same thing.

@robertgelblum5154 10 ай бұрын

This was one of the oddest First Dates I've ever watched! They're both oddballs in their own way. He is way too cocky - his picking her up right upon meeting was bizarre. I have to admit that I was entertained, and maybe that's all First Dates is about. I thought that she was warming up to him and was actually going to say Yes to a second date. (He obviously was into her.) But I was caught off guard when she just wanted to be "friends" - a smart choice by her but I thought that seeing all his big muscles was clouding her good judgement.