Exxxxactly! Beats the Hell out of an abortion!

@@jennybee8757 I'm going to say that next time someone raises an eyebrow at me for having an elective c-section!

@@laurencrouch764 Good for you sister! You chose LIFE!

Hell I had to have one with my little girl cause she was breeched and my little boy I have to have one since they are not a year and a half apart

@@jennybee8757 abortion beats the hell out of unwanted kids and a ruined body!

Painful after surgery??

I went to my doctor yesterday and she said the baby is big and I am really small down there apparently so she said we should plan a c section. I am sad and relieved at the same time. So Idk

Stiches pain after surgery

How did you manage after the surgery, from what i have heard it's really painful..you are in constant excruciating pain, can't move , can't sleep because of the stitches. Your body swells up , you vomit initially for few hours. Is there a way to avoid or limit such side effects ?

I Myself Prefer C- section Over Vaginal birth I Had 3 C-section .

Kelsweet wow you are strong!

without epidural? i almost died from pain contraction pain. i was saking very hard from pain and sreaming

C section is the best choice , good for both baby and mama.

As a mom who has had a natural (no drugs) birth and a c-section... a natural birth is WAY harder!!!

@@laurenalmeyda6916 I think it's an unfair comparison to make because it differs so much woman to woman, baby to baby. I had a girlfriend who gave birth naturally about two months ago and she literally used the hashtag #whatlabour after she'd given birth because things went so smoothly and her recovery was so easy. I went for a natural birth and laboured for 28 hours ending in an emergency c-section and the recovery was rough and was in hospital for a week. Some women have exhausting, long and terribly painful natural labours and others have quick and smooth naturals. Others have chill c-sections where everything goes fine and the recovery isn't too bad and other times it can be a lot harder. You just never know what you're going to get. I'm having my second in ten weeks and I'm getting a bit nervous!

Congrats! When is your due date!

Meredith Floyd my c section is in two weeks

Hope it all went well for u! How much gap did u have between ur two c section?

You do you girly! I had a vaginal birth with my first and ended up tearing so bad they were stitching me up for 40 minutes. The pain the I endured for weeks after is unlike anything I've ever gone through before. I'm in my second pregnancy now and because of issues that I have going on (possibly due to what happened in the last birth) my doctor recommended a C-section and I've been considering my options. Child birth is terrifying. Anything you can do to help yourself be calm and collected? Do it! Who cares what anyone else thinks?

Regardless of your decision, people will always judge. I chose natural for my first two, and got judged for not wanting an epidural. My aunt told me to "stop trying to be superwoman and just take the drugs". I said no, and stuck with my decision. Now my circumstances are different and I'm opting for an elective C-section for my 3rd. The options are there for a reason and you have to decide what's best for you and your health/the health of your baby.

Tonie Dobson God gracious, that is so sad. My condolences, no one should have to go through this. :(

So sorry for your loss ❤❤❤

I’m so sorry that takes a level of strength I can not imagine. Thank you for sharing.

I'm so sorry and thank you for being strong and shearing

I'm sorry for your loss :(

I feel so glad after reading about such experiences . I have been advised C section as i am expecting twins..it's been nerve wrecking as it is not preferred by anyone here in India and rather frowned upon if doctor ends up doing it on a patient. But i am glad it's not as bad as people say it is.

Christine Walker congratulations! you’re going to do great! :)

Im planning a scheduled c section and formula feeding my baby girl!!! Im glad to see this! Everyone says how one should have a vaginal birth and breastfeed or your kid will develop issues......

At least someone admits this.. I had few "friends" before my son ce out and they all had scars on their vaginas and said they would still not choose c section... Mean while one woman told me that if she could choose she would do c section because her scar didnt heal fast at all and was so painful to even walk.. Of course when I told this to those "friends" I used to have... They started to become super defencive and said that its not like that at all.. And I said.. Well yes each body is different.. And some people are more sensitive and all.. And of course after my c section even knowing it was emergency and with clinical death of mine... They still chose to say that Im just not strong enough.. I just blocked their numbers and everywhere. Some people are just rude by choice..they can be whatever they want... Just as far away from ne as possible.. Interesting how many more years I would call them "friends" if there wasnt a c section :D so grateful for that.. Two snakes out of my life:)) really happy that there are people that doesnt lie about vaginal birth giving and how painful that is aswell... Both are Hard and painful and not to be conpared because thats just egoistic to think that one is better than the other. Both are DELIVERING baby and that is all that matters.. That babies are fine and finally meating their moms. Women that scream too much about saying one is better than the other doesnt understand that they have kids and will have grand kids and at some point they may have to experience that other option and realise that judging one or another of options(which are so many times not even a choise or option) they just ask karma to step in..

Oh my gosh that would have been so difficult to go through. A broken tailbone is such a painful injury and not much can be done about it and usually it's never the same. I would talk to your midwife/doctor about your concerns because I would think that having a previous tailbone injury would effect a natural birth? Good luck!

I have permanent small deformities on my vagina due to my 2 vaginal.births ..one epidural one unmedicated....the unmedicated one worse..my son is 3 and I still Have to be careful washing myself or during sex. I even saw a surgeon about fixing it. I m about to have my 3rd child via c section due to placenta previa and I am scared but very glad to not involve the vagina this time. You really don't hear about birth injuries much and if you tear in the natural community then..you did it wrong!...thats basically what they say I think people are ashamed to admit if they tore or God forbid in a vulnerable moment ended up on your back pushing.

missmodernlove it's your choice isnt it. I'm gonna make sure I get a c section or I'm gonna get another doctor

AfroItalianSaboteur xo it should be our choice.

It is your choice ! The doctor cant decide what’s better for you . They can litterally list maternal anxiety as your reason for doing it ! I wish more people knew their rites !

So at first from reading that I was like "OK cool no c section for me ever then" but by the end i resent vaginal birth all over again

What was the doctors reasoning for not letting you have a c section?

EXACTLY! No one cares if you have a cesarean, but it's unjust for doctors to push it on women when there is no emergency and you aren't "progressing" in their eyes. :p

This wasnt true for me. I had preeclampsia and my doctor tried to inducd me for 2 days to avoid a cesarean..and after 2 days of induction i only was 1cm dialated and my liver enzymes and blood platelets were so low i had to have an emergency cesarean with general anesthesia because it was too risky to get epidural. For them a cesarean was only for emergencies sadly.

But some of us do want them so our vaginas won’t get ruined .. Someone needs to say it ✋

My doctor let me wait 2 days in labor to decide

No judgment here, just facts. I would just like to add that a c-section costs $30,000 vs $5,000 for a vaginal delivery. We pay for this in our insurance and as taxpayers. Many women get free medical care when they are pregnant. (I work as an L&D RN in a hospital). It’s crazy, right? But true. If you don’t have insurance, you file for Medicaid and get free delivery. 95% of patients in my city are in Medicaid. Also, c-sections are major surgery and carry many more risks, including higher risk of hemmhorage and death for the mother and babies more frequently go to the NICU for breathing problems because they didn’t get squeezed.

How did it go

How did your c section go?

It went amazing! I would definitely do it again.

Stephanie Alvarenga can you tell me your experience? I am a bit nervous I will need one. I have very high anxiety. So they give you something for the anxiety?

sari Hoops I was super nervous at first. But when I met my surgical team, I did mention to the anesthesiologist (which is the person thats gonna be right next you) that i have really bad anxiety & she told me that she will tell me everything that is happening once we were in the OR. & it made the experience 1000000x better. Also my husband being there (pre-covid) made me feel more at ease too.

Susan Yara Hi Susan. Really enjoying these moM videos. I am 5 months pregnant, can you please do a video on experience of after labour 1- can you take a shower after birth or how long do you wait 2-whats the worst outcome for pain

Susan Yara you know susan i was searching for some encouraging video on cs because i am planning my cs on 16th of august 2018 ... i found out this one very helpful. Really want to hear .. my mental situation now is that its my 2nd cs and people and relatives will look down upon me for not trying vaginally... my husband said its upto you my love but as you said that you want to hear some one encouraging you. My mom had 2 cs.. she said go for it as u had 1st emergeny cs after trying for 52 hours. I want to shout out loud its not an easy surgery to go through just to bring in little one new life..

@@piepie6020 I had a scheduled c-section in December of last year. On #1 - you can take a shower as soon as you have your catheter and IV removed - about 24-36 hours after the surgery. It is somewhat painful to get up and do it, but the more you move after surgery, the better you will begin to feel. DO follow their instructions though about keeping your scar dry. I didn't have any problems, but have heard of people getting infections if they are not careful. On #2 - I obviously can't answer this, but I will say that you should take the medication they offer you. Take the IV medication and then take the pain killers they prescribe. They will help immensely. I tried to get off them as soon as I could since I know some of them go to the baby, but I took them for at least a week and they helped me to function! After about a week, I could live with just some ibuprofen. Again, the more you walk (to a point), the better you will feel. Try to do normal things and rest a lot. It's a process, but you'll be fine with the pain after a short while.

Niska Niska I had an emergency C -section and I was put down cuz I was screaming and frightened because I was terrified because of been cut and recovery was painful !!!!! 😣

Me too. 11 years later and im still tramatized

Please, I need this video. I had a c-section last week. managing the burning pain at the incision site, trying to breast feed or find the best sleeping position while also taking care of my one year old is difficult.

De LM I agree with you! Too many mom shamers out there. We should all be here for each other! Motherhood is very special!

And how was it? The after care and everything?

How fucking disgusting .. glad you spoke up

Some people just like to create bad karma for themselves... I hope she regrets it.. Otherwise we all know how karma works.... :) I had emergency c section aswell. And also clinical death. When ever someone tries to look down to me for that... I remember that moment when I was gone and they reanimated me and I smile because I know if there wasnt a c section... I would not be here. And my son wouldnt be here.. Now he is almost 4years old. And I am pregnant again and am planning c section. There are plenty of people telling me that its egoistic... But the truth is.. They never experienced what I experienced so they are just being ignorant and asking karma to create their future with lots of experience that will help them understand... Maybe not in this lifetime.. But I think that lack of empathy is the main problem in general in today society... So I feel like there is no reason to even respond anything to those people.. They just want to bring someone down.. Lets not be the ones they get successful on bringing down. When they get into our skin and goes trough all the same experiences, then they can share their opinions.. Otherwise its just them showing their lack of wisdom. Im proud that so many moms understand that c section is not un natural. We are natural beings still and our Children aswell. And Who is who to judge others for Whatever they do or choose to do or want to do... People that have rude opinions mostly are just not having happy life themselves thats why they try to bring others down aswell. Misery needs company.. :) head up, all that matters i what is happening right now. We have our babies, we love them, they love us.. Who cares what anyone who is not part of our bond with our Children thinks.❤️

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erica webb hope everything goes well, I’m also scared and terrified since my first was emergency C- section was traumatic for my and recovery was painful .

Very "supportive" from them. I would ignore their existance until they realise what they said and apologises. Like I did with few people aftem my emergency c section in which I also experienced clinical death. I am glad you didnt try too long because it could end up terribly.

How did you not tear during a vaginal birth?!!!

@@rachellecollin3661 I have had 6 babies so far and only tore for my 5th (very small tear)... he was also my only hospital birth, and I was just trying to get him out as fast as possible so that the doctor would go away lol... he came out shoulders up and down instead of sideways, so I think that's what did it. It helps to not actually push, just breathe through the contractions, squatting or on all 4s, let the fetal ejection reflex kick in, and your body does all of the "pushing" for you... baby comes out nice and "easy".

@@AshleyCamden thanks for this information ill remember it for the future you dont know how terrified i am of giving birth 😭

@@AshleyCamden may I ask did You have any epidural procedures during those births?

@@sydneylane3129 No, never, all 100% natural.

EXACTLY!

Doctors do things for profit also. They lie to patients about what they need or don't need. So sad.

They also see all of the things that can go wrong. I appreciate their knowledge, experience and I trust their judgement.

wish you a safe birth for you and the baby and a quick recovery.. I am 36 weeks and my baby is still in a breech position, so I am planned to have a c section too, so tell me how it goes if you have time later.. tc

@@carols4507 Hi! It went great, thank God. My little princess is 6 days old and feeling great after C-section. Got the spinal anesthesia so feeling pain in my back like crazy all the time. But it is so worth it. Hope your C-section goes perfect and your baby is born healthy and well!

@@isabelcapeles2346 Glad to hear that it went well 👍🏼, congratulations!! lots of love and good wishes to you and your baby girl

Imagine she saying that to someone who has their adopted Children with her at that moment............. Just disgusting. Giving vaginal birth doesnt make one a mother. Unconditional love and acceptance is what makes one a real mother...🌻

My own mother told me I didn’t give birth because I had a c-section. It really hurt me. Once day she admitted when she was down that she was jealous on how I was connected with my child and didn’t need her help. She said “I really f up with you”. Then she became mean again. Women who feel superior and put other down often have deep issues.

H 35 do what I did. Search until you find one who will listen to you! I’m having mine in March! I would’ve never gotten pregnant on the first place if I hadn’t found my ob! It’ll work out love 😘

@@courtneyusmcwife5665 ❤ congratulations 😊 Thanks for the info!

Eva C I also had an emergency C-section it was something that I was terrified and scared that I screamed going to the operating room . I was put under and while been under I started to alucínate and recovery was so painful !!!!😖 😣 now pregnant again I’m also terrified and my anxiety is not helping either just thinking about what’s going to happen during labor 😢😭😦😦 . I talked to my obyn she asked if I wanted more babies in the future I said no then she suggested C- section! Again??? 😣😯😦 I let her know I’m terrified

Rebekah Parr how was it?? My baby is breeched also

@@lilymel9759 Do you really feel like having your abs cut in half (and then growing scar tissue instead of the muscle so it will never work as before) is better than a tear in a soft tissue that will heal with time?!?!?!

Kristýna Chrbolková it doesn’t always happen like that. After two C sections, I don’t have scar tissues, I have toned abs and recovery for both seemed easy.

Congrats on your vbac. I also had one 17 months ago and share your opinion.. I had a 2nd degree tear but regardless of that.. it was incredibly easier with recovering. 🙂

Lets raise future generations that are not as ignorant to whatever other people choose.. And hope for a better world.. Without one another looking down to each other... Maybe SOMEDAY in future people will become empathetic again... Lets hope❤️

LightUponLight888 how did your c-section go? I’m also in Canada and am scheduled to have one next week!

@@londontimetube how did yours go? im in canada too and im having mine booked soon for next month

I just want to share I've had 6 c-section for all 6 of my children. My newest one is 6months old. :)

Kaitlyn Sherman how far apart were the pregnancies? I want a second baby. My first was emergency cesarean

@Fearn and Tucker’s Angel Forever there has been plenty of studies talking about the benefits of skin to skin contact and in most cases when you have a c-section you dont get that.

That's awesome they allowed that

If you want they do it normally right after the baby is born they clean them and lay them on to your skin if you aren’t in total anastehtics but only for few minutes while they are removing the placenta after this they will need to take the baby out when starting to close your belly for safety reasons and is normally waiting with the dad or someone of your family you brought in until you‘re out of the surgery room and after that they will directly lye the baby again on your cheast while the anastehtics is fading

It’s crazy that they let you have a VBAC after 14 months after your first cesarean! I’m glad you’re alright! My OBGYN didn’t let me have one at 19 months after my c-section.

I’m considering a c section as my natural was quite traumatic! Only concern is recovery of c section so like picking baby up and doing day to day things with a 6 year old.. 💓

@@taramaryalice8877 it's not too bad with a planned c-section speaking fron experience. The things that I found hard were getting up, coughing, laughing. I suppose everyone is different with their recovery and pain threshold. Good luck 👍

How was caring for your little one right after it?

@@laurenemond9384 if you have someone that can stay with you like your partner or a close family member that really helps. I could care for the baby pretty well, but all household stuff like cooking dinner, doing laundry, etc was too much at first. You can't lift anything heavier than like 10lbs and I found if I was doing too much I would be really sore by the evening.

Do it! ❤️✨ C section is just as good as vaginal.. Whatever makes you feel safe and less stressed is for you

Please tell me how, I want this option and my hospital says no, that I cannot have a c section unless vaginal doesn’t work or if there are complications. How do you get one ?

@@nvmee8 depends on which country you live in. If you have a health insurance and it can cover it then there shouldnt be a problem. Also I would go and see different midwife, if this one is not listening to what you want. Your body, your choice!:)

@Janet Adebanwo you will be fine, and your organs wont be pulled out lol. I just had second c section and it was fun lol. It was like... I heae my baby screaming and i smile and ask.. "What she is aready out?!" and doctors be like.. "Yes! And we are almost done with surgery. :)" and then they gave her to me. The most painful part for me to be honest was when they added urine catheter.. 🤦🏼‍♀️😂 All catheter adding is painful.. But c section is not that painful because of anesthesia.

Same over here I‘m happy I‘m not the only one And still a little scared of my planed C section But definitely not getting panic attacks like when I tried to get prepared for normal birth so Me and my doctor decided to plan the C section