You get what you tolerate. Sometimes walking away is better than going to prison.

"You train people how to treat you" is my favorite saying.

Disrespectful bullies literally destroy good companies.

My typing teacher, Ben Enriquez R.I.P. said, “You can tighten up, then lighten up, but not the other way around."

If you find yourself in a situation where you have to demand respect you've already lost. Respect is given and earned, not asked for.

Yep doesn‘t work with narcissistic family members. best is to ignore. or go no contact

Reminds me of extreme ownership. You have to look at yourself first and see if you're creating the issue. Great leaders think similarly.

I’ve learned that sometimes, your appearance is all you have to do to cause people to disrespect you. Don’t confirm those assumptions with lack of action.

I'm good hearted to everyone but it usually ends up with people being mean to me as they think they can be mean or disrespectful with no consequences to them

There are people you can never reason with, you try being calm and talk out an issue they get aggressive.

Some people don't care about your boundaries.

Well that's something every good teacher knows: Set your boundaries good and firm. Once that's established, you can get away easily with a more relaxed way of doing things

Agree with the CIA station chief. Still, meeting people socially naturally exposes you to social predators of all degrees. Upshifting to higher gears is sometimes required with such people, know and understand directness and walking away as tools, confrontation is not the goal but is in fact the last tool in the kit - use it wisely.

Saw a few people say you can do this to people over you like your boss. My real world examples ive had to use: set boundaries and consequences if they cross those boundaries. If your boss is condescending, simply call them out on it and say you dont appreciate it. If your boss is overcontrolling just let them know they are borderlining what is bullying or harassment. And the key is to be as cold and unemotional as you possibly can.

So glad to be out of this nonsense and never again having to deal with staff who need a constant checking on and management. Sad but true that the average person cannot practice self - management and need someone to keep him on a leash.

She is good & has a great delivery!! Was told many years ago PART OF BEING WISE IS KNOWING WHAT TO OVERLOOK!! 🙏🙏

To be honest some ppl are just disrespectful. If a person disrespects you, that's accountability on them. We all should have been taught basic home training on how to have manners and have mutual respect.

my manager’s best tactic when I make a mistake is saying “what’s going on with you? this is not like you”

People aren't afraid of conflict. There afraid of the truth .

Easier said than done, especially when you are a nobody (not in power). Doing this makes relationships a transaction and people are not their organic self around you then. People would then find ways to hide stuff and avoid you or even “target” you. Congratulations, you are now the “target” of despised.

This sounds great when you’re talking about people under you. How do you get people over you to respect you or stop bullying you? Where’s that advice

I like this lady’s attitude here. Great insight. She’s totally correct. She’s banging on . She has definitely resonated with me. This is how you get things done . I will now follow her advice. I like this video !

I supervised/managed police officers using this model. I got great performance from them. They kept me out of trouble and made it easy to be their boss.

This is so fascinating! I will never understand why you "need" people to validate you, like you, or respect you? That is their choice ! Be yourself, others are free to experience their reactions in any way they want ! Adults make choices and there are consequences!! That has nothing to do with you!

Loved this!

In case of infantile personalities - they are not able to respect. If you think they respect you, no, they just pretend to respect because they are afraid of you.

New trend is everyone is former CIA FBI agent 😂

Thank you 😁 so much See my smile it has meaning... Thank you

Unfortunately in the private sector. It does not work like that. Upper management will go team up with an orderly against mid management. Because they consider mid management a threat

Yes. Boundaries. Hearing. ❤

I believe in people first, warmth and support and trlling people to go home at home time. Try and put the same things on myself and I'm late, over worked, over involved eveytime. I cant turn it off.

First step is realizing who you do and don't need respect from. That by itself will drive people nuts when they're faced with the fact that their respect simply isn't worth earning

Simple. Show respect, be high value and have integrity. Really that simple.

That advice is still anecdote and works in certain type of industries, not all of them. It depends a lot on what type of workers you have to work with -- creative types need freedom and flexibility to "create".

Damn!!! She is soooo brilliant

A lot of things go out the window with narcissists. If youre dealing with a narcissist then none of this matters lol

Very interesting.

People always say respect is earned not given. Kinda weird... because you have to give respect to get respect.

oh, so that's why I have gotten disrespected for the past 10 years. Just because I'm being too nice to people.

As a boss, don't prioritize your ego over the actual work. If you are good at your job you will be respected by your reports. If you make your reports job about respecting your authority and their obedience to you, you will lose your entire team's respect. They might show up on time to every little meeting you throw at them everyday, but they will stop listening to anything you say because you are wasting their time when they could be getting work done.

BOUNDARIES

I find these issues happen with me in two situations: 1) the other party has some sort of personality disorder or mental illness, making it hard to have a rational conversation with them; or 2) there is a power imbalance, usually involving money (boss, landlord, etc.). I have found that standing up for myself backfires in these cases. Suggestions?

I call it, “presence” when a person has “presence” they don’t demand respect, they command respect. If someone is rude, demeaning, or simply “sees themselves as entitled to treat people in a derogatory manner.” They are DEMANDING TO BE COMMANDED by flipping their script, dropping them down a notch and literally commanding them to change tone and show respect. Sarcasm executed with wit, charm and lightening fast response completely throws them off balance. It’s like being smacked in the head in snapped back to “reality.” They instantly get this from the person with “presence,” I AM NOT THE ONE FOR YOU TO FUCK WITH, I WILL ARTICULATELY EVISCERATE YOU AND YOUR EGO SIMPLY CAN’T HANDLE THAT… BECAUSE YOU “THINK” YOUR SOMEONE SPECIAL. I KNOW.

Works for parenting too

From my experience, you're the one to blame, not the other party, because, like it or not, you've been teaching them how to treat you based on what you accept and what you don't. Boundaries are crucial for your mental health and well-being. If you don't draw them, they will step on you despite how kind or supportive you have been. Human beings unconsciously don't like weak people (too much kindness is weakness, don't be a people pleaser), and if they see or sense weakness, they will step on you. Solution? ALWAYS PUT YOURSELF FIRST NO MATTER WHAT, AND NEVER EVER LOVE SOMEONE MORE THAN YOU LOVE YOURSELF. I wish I knew this a couple of years ago. I went through the deepest, most dangerous depression I've ever experienced. Please don't repeat my mistake, be save.

Examples of specific ACTIONS please. Address it HOW …to “set boundary”. And what about narcs who revel in glee that they caused grief?

"tow that line"... You mean "toe that line", as in - putting your toe on a line, or meeting a standard. You're not towing anything anywhere.

I thought from thumbnail that she was invisible woman from fantastic four

Thank you... I was fkin myself up for 30 years.. Im gonna change that from now on.

Some people no matter what will not respect you ever, they dont respect others either, nor do they respect themselves. They only fear people who can lean on them or expose them at that still isn't respect, it just mimics it

Did she mention she doesn't drink

This advice will never work with your superiors, maybe your inferiors or your peers

The first thing I'd do is to say to this woman don't point your index finger at me or you'll lose it.

Those who want respect, give respect. Don't need agent orange to tell you that

3:38 “Is there anything I can do to help your job better” depends A LOT on the person asking. A lot of the times is just a dishonest humblebrag. “I would like more time next time we go around the same situation” -unlikely to happen, it’s time boxed “Ok, how about we put in place these better faster machines” -out of budget constraints “Alright, can I work from home? I got my own personal gear that will help me go faster and better and on time” -wfh is not a company policy anymore Have seen it all happen, where I don’t even know why they asked for what to do to help.

U can herd cattle but comprehend they only following the next person azz

OT You need better lightning in the room. She is in the dark, "all" the lights should be on her

Operative word "ex"

At first I thought the guy was the CIA agent

Wow lady Gaga is also in the CIA. Very busy

this all predates on the assumption...that humans are instinctually sloth-like in nature...a common expression of the extroverts that wish to push their force outward...quite endearing really, you aim to radiate the opposite, but instead expose your vulnerability

All these « former something » are not former at all...

WALK AWAY. It's always the best. If you can't walk away then you got confrontation. The other party knows what they are doing. If you do confrontation you better make sure you have absolute superior firepower. If you dont have superior firepower, then you gotta endure and build up your superior firepower. HINT: being intellectual or trying to verbally resolve a conflict where you are the one being assaulted or bullied rarely/EVER works...Even in the most professional environment it does not really work...Doing more of what you have done is not going to work either...You either quit the situation or you confront the situation heads on. If you are not in a position to confront the situation heads on then you gotta ask yourself what you are doing wrong. What core beliefs do you have that made you who you are that leads you to a situation where you are the bullied and people bully you. Respect has always been about perceived value

The subtitles are irritating! This is not a yt short!

😂 Edward Snowden 😂😂😂😂😂

It's all Greek to me.😂❤

is that Lady Gaga? jokes aside. good vid (y)

you get what you allow . . . oh wait, you got the president shot... what should you get?

Real life Nina Williams

Is she still going on about the same old thing

I know she talks about a former CIA but she's former Secret Service so shouldn't the tittle say former Secret Service agent.

i am

Please remove the captiins

Oh look, a female Andrew Bustamante! Okay! 😄

How come no one respects the CIA? 😂

Samson

Waterboarding?

are this kind of subs necessary? do ppl really have that short of an attention span?

👍🏿, Blm

guys in socks podcast

The words popping up on these videos is hella distracting and hard to read

Another BS misleading video with the wrong title.

Hot voice

I can't stand these God damned subtitles

Lot of people in here purposefully trying to poke holes in the concepts she’s presenting, this info isn’t a one size fits all thing and she never stated it was either, these are situational depending on where in life you are positioned, I never get why I see such discord and negatively when concrete information is given Hypothetical situations that you’d have to try to place yourself in shouldn’t be counter arguments… all that shit is in bad faith

Yeah. Gonna learn based ideas from a broad. 😂😂

Corny.

Don’t fully agree with this. This doesn’t work with Narcissists. Respect is an equal give and take.

I'm good hearted to everyone but it usually ends up with people being mean to me as they think they can be mean or disrespectful with no consequences to them