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Жыл бұрын

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@no1bandfan Жыл бұрын

Sometimes shock can make a person numb. It’s a coping mechanism.

@007dalal Жыл бұрын

But he actually murdered his wife. Lawyer found it at the end

@sbkenn1 Жыл бұрын

Some people deal with the practicalities then go into shock when the danger has passed.

@SkullCrusher757 Жыл бұрын

Apparently I'm the almost numb type

@elnationalista Жыл бұрын

It makes people numb, but they will always be in shock. The shock would not allow the person think well for more than 5 minutes. This gives suspicion that he was the murderer, and looking through the comments, he did.

@sbkenn1 Жыл бұрын

@@elnationalista when my wife first ODd, i came home to find her semi-conscious on the floor. I did what was needed for a week, including going to work, then i went into shock.

@sickisick8103 Жыл бұрын

-I've never seen antg like this in my whole career. -how long have you been of the job? -2 weeks, why?

@alright754 Жыл бұрын

Sometimes you experience a lot from 2 weeks that a year. -viis guey

@iSchmidty13 Жыл бұрын

Wtf is an antg lol

@CodewithRSV Жыл бұрын

@@iSchmidty13antg->anything

@JamesLikesCoffee Жыл бұрын

@@iSchmidty13people can't type

@_Ruhm_ Жыл бұрын

@@JamesLikesCoffeepeople can't use context clues to fill in the dots

@rockyvolcano4 Жыл бұрын

I’m the one that found my neighbors body. We were good friends and I came over to talk most mornings over coffee. He had fallen off his deck and broke his neck the night prior. I called the cops and I just sat on my porch smoking a cigarette. I felt the calmest I had ever felt in my life. The emotion didn’t come crashing in until the next morning when I started to walk over to his house for our morning chat. It hits different from person to person.

@aandyherr817 Жыл бұрын

Hence why cops with 0 training in psychology need not make baseless assumptions assertions or accusations without some evidence and knowledge.

@radhikacsa3585 Жыл бұрын

I am sorry u had to go through it. But u r true its different for different people

@Super5JRios Жыл бұрын

So true, I lost my dad in a vicious dog attack, my mother found him but I was second on scene it didn't hit me till 3days layer.

@nate4703 Жыл бұрын

@@aandyherr817cops do receive a lot of psychological training also this cop was right the defendant did murder his wife lol

@Jedislayer19 Жыл бұрын

I was the same way with my grandmother. I feel you.

@redarchived4224 Жыл бұрын

Trauma impacts people in different ways. Some become hysterical, some break apart entirely but some don’t show any emotion in fear of losing themselves to it

@elnationalista Жыл бұрын

Indeed, but there will always be a shocking response. This either expressed in tear, lost in thought, or the person needs to move away from the situation. Anyways, in the episode, he did murdered his wife.

@inthename7705 Жыл бұрын

@@elnationalistanot always.

@SendarSlayer Жыл бұрын

@@elnationalista Wherever you got your psych degree from needs to give you a refund.

@fanmrsmartdonkey Жыл бұрын

There are also those who cry once and then no longer can cry about it..

@yucol5661 Жыл бұрын

@@elnationalistayeah. It it’s a show. The pint is not not being movie reaction assumptions until real life. In the unfortunate chance that you are ever involved in such a death. Plenty of people have been punished unfairly for not grieving the right way or not being “ a normal person” when a loved one dies

@krushna4181 Жыл бұрын

The brain shuts down the emotions temporarily if the trauma is very severe. It's a kind of coping mechanism.

@treyatkinson7564 Жыл бұрын

Like you said, if severe enough. And that is different for everyone depending on their life. I'd hazard a guess that most people would break down if they saw their loved one dead, but some would be numb.

@theneet9528 Жыл бұрын

@@treyatkinson7564I watch my father die when i was 7, even my mother thought i was reactionless when i hear her talk with my aunt during my teen years. I do cry after the funeral procession though at night, alone. *Sry it was 8, same year when DragonBall first aired.

@treyatkinson7564 Жыл бұрын

@@theneet9528 I'm sorry for your loss. That sounds awful to go through

@theneet9528 Жыл бұрын

@@treyatkinson7564 God dont give u a trial that u cant endure. Beside, i believe in afterlife.

@hoangdung7494 Жыл бұрын

@@theneet9528i was the opposite of you. my father had stage 4 lung cancer, so I cried during the time i took care of him, but didnt during and after his funeral.

@rockysquirrel4776 Жыл бұрын

When my wife died, I felt like I had to push through the numbness to show my grief because I was afraid of the stupidity of the cops. She'd been ill for more than twenty years, but it was still a deep shock to walk in to find she'd died in the couple of minutes I was away from her.

@sidvyas8549 Жыл бұрын

Aww dude I’m so sorry. You sound like you’re a great husband

@AngryCupcake1989 Жыл бұрын

Stay syrong brother

@Chillllllbruh Жыл бұрын

People need to make like cats and just wander off to return your body to the Earth.

@dungeonpastor 8 ай бұрын

@@Chillllllbruhwhat?

@Havelthegravel Жыл бұрын

Sometimes the emotional stress would be so much that the brain has to shut off the emotions to have time to process the trauma. It’s not even that uncommon, much like remaining speechless or having to sit down and stay put for some time, those are all response to trauma.

@shadowmaster1313 Жыл бұрын

If you don't know a person's normal how do you even know they have "no" reaction?

@jjnix9517 Жыл бұрын

The officer apparently forgot shock is a thing.

@henrypeters5291 Жыл бұрын

He was on the job for seven months. He did not have enough time to forget anything.

@Denozo88 Ай бұрын

From personal experience the cops logic is sound. Showing zero emotion is a rare thing.

@henrypeters5291 19 күн бұрын

@@Denozo88 I do not know if you yourself are a cop or what personal experience you are referring to but the point OP and other commenters are making is that yes Elliot reacted differently, but that does not necessarily mean he killed his wife.

@Denozo88 19 күн бұрын

@henrypeters5291 want to read my comment you assuming prick. You already assumed what I do and am. Get lost.

@aspenhill1479 Жыл бұрын

'Almost seven months". . .

@karanbirsinghbhullar Жыл бұрын

according to american police this is worth decades

@aspenhill1479 Жыл бұрын

@@karanbirsinghbhullar nopenopenope not buying it!

@karanbirsinghbhullar Жыл бұрын

@@aspenhill1479 ofcourse

@jplayzow Жыл бұрын

@@karanbirsinghbhullarThat's worth centuries to the US lawyers spend several years to touch a court a cop spends a month or two and they're taken at face value for a saint incapable of wrong

@karanbirsinghbhullar Жыл бұрын

@@jplayzow i know

@IjaatKyrayc97 Жыл бұрын

Some people simply don't display grief properly. Hell, it took me a full week and a half to be able to cry after we had to put the family dog down due to medical issues. I love my family and they know that if any of them were to die suddenly or even horribly I might not be physically able to cry right away.

@raysiris Жыл бұрын

Cops will see horrendous shit on the job and be "calm" about it but then question when a husband or wife doesn't show emotion when something terrible happens

@Lorkanthal 9 ай бұрын

To be fair, the cops aren't emotionally invested in the victim like the husband or wife would be if their spouse had suddenly died.

@nevermore7285 8 ай бұрын

I mean, they don’t tend to stumble upon horrendous shit. They’re prepared, and they experience enough to become numb to it. Not really the same thing.

@kennydude7971 5 ай бұрын

Yes, good, you were paying attention.

@kennydude7971 5 ай бұрын

Yes, good, you were paying attention.

@MikeTheNBAGuy Жыл бұрын

Trauma affects everyone differently but it is completely understandable why someone would see this situation and think the guy acted strangely

@trevormc0125 Жыл бұрын

And with me, I smile as an unintentional coping method, so I'd look guilty as hell

@dr.wolfy7072 Жыл бұрын

This is why he's a cop and not a psychiatrist.

@wilddeath1 Жыл бұрын

He was right though...

@Protont Жыл бұрын

@@wilddeath1No he wasn't. All people react differently. Would you cry? Maybe. Would someone else cry. No

@wolf_2227 Жыл бұрын

There are men who just not cry no matter what, if they are sad they just greef inside

@Readingdragon666 Жыл бұрын

My grandmother just passed away Monday I still haven't cried about that just numb to everything now

@granknight Жыл бұрын

Its basically in deniel stage or couping best be sure when you get to accepting stage your sure to be crying then.

@bobisbob3733 Жыл бұрын

When I found my mom dead when I got home from school I never cried or freaked out, I was stone cold, and that's been how I deal with intense emotions since. If someone seems to not show any emotions, that is 100% a valid response to something like this. It's probably not healthy, but there's nothing wrong with you if you react like this.

@Denozo88 Ай бұрын

On the contrary many of those who show zero reaction to death are fucked uppsychologically.

@IraQxNajafia Жыл бұрын

That's really not enough. My dad is the kindest person out there but he would still not cry even if u put a gun to his head. My mom said in all her years the one time he took a second to cry was when his mother died (his favorite person), he didnt cry when my grandfather or any of his siblings died. Some men are just build that way.

@shadowlord1418 Жыл бұрын

I always wondered if something was wrong with me

@lorde0147 Жыл бұрын

My family and I laugh through trauma, we'd rather laugh about the good, than focus & cry on the sad. Broken bones, dead family or friends, we always laugh, that is our family's way of dealing with what is sad.

@fionnbarrcasey5247 7 ай бұрын

… so even laugh upon LITERALLY seeing your loved one’s dead body?? Not supporting the cop here just… don’t be over generalizing . As I doubt you’d laugh at the site of your wife’s dead body being found by you upon seeing it

@lorde0147 7 ай бұрын

@@fionnbarrcasey5247 Yeah I would, it may seem foreign to you, but keep in mind that some people cry, some people burst out in a anger, others go silent and some laugh. & me, yes I'd laugh, why? Because I'd rather remember the smile she would look at me with rather than a face twisted in pain and sorrow, I'd rather remember her happy moments in life rather then her untimely end. That is why I'd laugh. I can offer an example that happened a few years back. My grandad, on his death bed astounded by all his direct family, we all were able to make it, began to speak, he said "it's been over a decade since the last time we all gathered, & it's to watch me die" he proceeded to laugh & then literally dies mid laughter & amid laughter. Come what may, we all cover our sorrow with laughter, he was a truly loved man & deserved to be remembered that way.

@movie_hub Жыл бұрын

Mickey get played so well by Trevor Elliot. I'm thinking of Lisa in season 2 also playing him.

@sidvyas8549 Жыл бұрын

This is the premise of L’Etranger by Albert Camus. Fucking genius

@sbkenn1 Жыл бұрын

Delayed shock. I have been there.

@lalitharavindran 10 ай бұрын

Manuel really breathes life into this role. Amazing writing, direction and acting.

@verutor4244 Жыл бұрын

Bro, freud, the literally first mf that comes to mind if you think about psychology talked about coping mechanisms

@Denozo88 Ай бұрын

Frued was a hack who deserves to have 95% of what he wrote to be resigned ro the dust bin of history.

@fartzinacan Жыл бұрын

When I worked for 911, one of my calls was a guy that woke up and found his wife had shot herself in the head in the garage during the night. On the call, he was completely calm, clear and concise with the answers, but you could clearly tell he was in shock. After a while, the Sergeant for the department called me to ask what the guy was like on the phone. Apparently, the guy was still matter of fact with everything even an hour or so later. Both the Sergeant and I never once got any vibe from the guy that made the neck hair stand up. Dude was just in shock but still functional.

@fartzinacan 5 ай бұрын

@ShadyD365 you can, and should, still call 911. Police will respond to secure the scene and make reports. Fire/EMS will respond for their roles. They'll call out the Coroner and a lot of places will even make their Chaplin available. The Coroner will take over from there until final arrangements can be made. That's roughly the way it'd go but it'd vary by jurisdiction and what resources they have. Either way, it's still a good idea to call 911 even if the death was expected.

@dungeonpastor 8 ай бұрын

From the moment my Dad died until his funeral almost a week later I didn't really cry. I broke down weeping while driving back home the long 3 hours after the funeral.

@Mostaism 5 ай бұрын

Cops love the "in my experience" when they have none

@Kirbyterasu 6 ай бұрын

"I could win a Tekken tournament" "What was your first Tekken game?" "Tekken 8"

@jackpotjoey8828 5 ай бұрын

“It was my first murder scene…so yea I’ve never seen anything like it. Literally. Never”

@budgetproductions1178 Жыл бұрын

The officer definitely don't know how trauma affects people

@wilddeath1 Жыл бұрын

He was right though...

@Denozo88 Ай бұрын

Your all correct that a lot of people don't cry but to have zero reaction isn't normal.

@MstrJediKyle Жыл бұрын

Numbness from shock is a very real trauma response

@Big_Ego Жыл бұрын

THE LEGENDARY STOCKTON SLAP

@no-sway3709 Жыл бұрын

Objected to argumentative when the entire situation was speculative. Nice.

@jerrykinnin7941 Жыл бұрын

Numb is an emotion.

@futurewitness2862 Жыл бұрын

I have hard time processing grief too when my dad died i didn't cry i tried coz people were looking at me different. but no matter how hard i tried i coudent cry at all fast forward 3 years later. i was working on my garage and suddenly i remembered an insignificant memory. i was watching tv and something exiting happened so i said dad look but he didn't respond so i was angry then i thaught maybe he was feeling tired. and suddenly i started crying and broke down to the point it was hard for me to breath it messed me up for weeks. I was constantly getting flashback things that you really don't remember came to me one after another it was a hard time for me.

@brandonbeilbymcleod6546 9 ай бұрын

I had someone rather important to me die, I didn't react to it for probably over two weeks and then just one night it all hit and I just cried. Everyone handles this stuff differently

@nathanvega6281 8 ай бұрын

When my dad died I was 24 and it didn’t sink in until after a week or so.

@airi2857 9 ай бұрын

i remember when the same thing happened to me when my baby sister died from all sorts of diseases while she was still a few weeks old. it took me until after the funeral and being back in school to start bawling my eyes out when i read the letter my mom gave to me to give to the teachers where it was written the reason why i wasnt in school the previous week.

@williamlee9669 Жыл бұрын

I’ve seen a guy just turned and walked off when told his wife was dead Another guy laughed and kept insisting I was kidding for like 5 minutes before it all sinked it

@buttercup947 9 ай бұрын

PTSD and the way in which we respond to traumatic events is interesting. For my own my body just shuts down. It’s my brains way of protecting myself. This it probably what happened here

@Cyberwar101 Жыл бұрын

Yeah, everyone has a different reaction to trauma and grief. They can be wildly different than wr might expect

@Deltoren1 Жыл бұрын

When I learned my little brother died I cried for roughly 30 seconds then shut down emotionally for a week and only got it out 6 months later

@josephcatindoy3067 8 ай бұрын

Plot twist the client was actually commit a murderer

@gluttonousgoddess Жыл бұрын

Fun fact, some people mentally shut down and don't react to trauma due to shock. I watched my mom die. My face was stone cold, but my mind was racing.

@grant8653 Жыл бұрын

What if say someone is a diagnosed sociopath that is capable of human connection.

@deviousalemanni4235 Жыл бұрын

*incapable ?

@nearby222 Жыл бұрын

That's quite literally impossible, you have a genuine lack of empathy. Now granted, it doesn't mean you cannot mimic it or what you believe empathy to be, but you do not feel it. But buy it not being real, it doesn't make it less genuine to the person who does fill it.

@grant8653 Жыл бұрын

@@nearby222 See your cut and dry explanation of sociopaths sounds more like you are confusing a sociopath with narcissistic tendencies with just straight sociopaths. Empathy has nothing to do with relationships. You do not need to feel empathy over something to feel connected to it or have a connection with it. Just because it is not conveyed in your cookie cutter everyone is the same mold. I think you need to learn a lot more if you are gonna state your thoughts as facts.

@nearby222 Жыл бұрын

@@grant8653 no, I read psychopath instead of sociopath but ehh I'm not engaging with you. Also, that's not narcissism either.

@GoodBoyGoneDad 9 ай бұрын

When my sister died i didn't cry til days later. Then again at her funeral.

@NobodySpecsh 6 ай бұрын

I feel its important to remember that the people who are the best in the world at reading others emotional or mental states, or if theyre even just lying, their accuracy under controlled conditions tops out at about 50/50. So when random rookie piglets think they can feel a murderer because of how they react, theyre lying to themselves and the judge.

@mrducky6322 Жыл бұрын

When my great grandfather died my great grandmother couldn’t stop laughing like she had to go to the hospital because she hurt herself laughing She wasn’t happy he died,He battled Alzheimer’s for almost a decade and when he finally passed it just broke her

@gamingtics Жыл бұрын

Bro's never heard of shock😂

@MuzerlinaV Жыл бұрын

It’s like when people used to think people reacted to danger/trauma with ONLY fight or flight. Now, it is known as Fight, Flight, Freeze, and Fawn.

@fingmoron Жыл бұрын

Had a stressful experience witnessing death as a young child, since then in similar situations i smirk or laugh out of nervousness. Get told about someones death I will nervously giggle like a little girl. If I ever cry itll be in my own time randomly but its rare, we have different ways of managing it .

@BluCappy419 Ай бұрын

Reminds me of the guy who was arested for the murder of his father. He didn't know where he was so he reported him missing. When the officers questioned him about the last time he saw him they thought he was too calm and not worried enough. They arrested him and questioned him for several hours. They even told him that they were going to have to put his dog down because there was nobody to watch it while he was in jail. They even told him they found the body and found his fingerprints on the murder weapon. After hours of "interview" without his medication, the 'suspect' eventually confessed to the murder of his father which was really awkward when his father found out.

@The_Memorial 5 ай бұрын

I never cry at funerals. My grandpa died and I shed no tears. Then my other grandpa. Again no tears. I had some kind of panic attack during the funeral. I couldn’t breathe run away and almost passed out. Last year a very close family friend died. Everyone cried but I didn’t. Sometimes I feel bad because I will cry for silly things but not important ones. It’s not that I don’t care. I just don’t cry. It hurts, and it hurts that I don’t cry because I imagine what people think when they see me not crying. I never looked at their dead bodies. I couldn’t. I didn’t want my last memory of them to be a cold dead body. I remember both my grandpas smiling and our family friend laughing while we had drinks and danced and listened to music.

@estebanzadok7592 Жыл бұрын

Man, i have a small self-induced trauma (dumb mind, making up stuff) and now i can't show emotion most of the time

@ezekiel2348 9 ай бұрын

Bro is 7months into his job and he says hes never seen anything quite like it in his job and proceeds say hes speaking from experience

@FormerGovernmentHuman Жыл бұрын

I just go numb. Detached from reality. Get my body performing an action to be doing something stay in motion, Or absurdly angry. I didn’t get to cry either time until well after when the gravity of it truly hit. One time I was just dead on my feet for weeks in catatonic disbelief until the funeral and lost it. If it was my wife I don’t know, I figure I really would be a zombie. Idk if I would cry, idk if I would do anything but stare into the void.

@twintailMedia Жыл бұрын

My grandma passed away earlier this year and i have yet to cry. Update. Havent cried yet.

@Pablo-ndk Жыл бұрын

That is true, when my mom passed away i desperately wanted to cry but my body didn't whilsty three siblings couldn't stop crying for the next few hours, my dad was sorta in between me and my siblings, tears were coming but not quickly like his mind was still trying to realize mom was gone

@johnanderson6566 7 ай бұрын

Well from personal experience i tend to go numb for a extended period usually until im in a controlled environment when im alone then i react

@Talktastic_Suraj Жыл бұрын

I was 16 when I lost my beloved father. The day he died, I didn't know how to react. I felt nothing. For 2 weeks I didn't cry,laugh or anything else. Just sitting around and doing nothing. Then one day I realised it is real..He is gone for real.. I was broken, I cried like a baby.. So yeah, not everyone has same coping mechanism..

@JeSt4m 9 ай бұрын

when my grandpa which is like father to me died I feel strangely calm yet there's this buzz in my temple. I went to arrange a lot of thing like notifying my family, looking for his funeral attire, etc etc and I feel like I'm running in Auto-mode all the time It's a very trippy feeling. like I'm actually conscious that I'm controlling my body. Like I'm in a lucid dream. Like there's a thin film between my consciousness and reality. but I did not cry until days later.. I don't even remember when or where I cried.

@garvitgarg709 11 ай бұрын

The thing is his client did comit the murder

@bubblegum8959 Жыл бұрын

I didnt cry at my grandfather dying until days after the funeral you would think I was just in a bad mood but I didn't express any real emotion, tragedys don't trigger emotion the grieving does

@Pyreax865 Жыл бұрын

Many people become numb when those things happen

@Weekend_Papi 10 ай бұрын

When my father pass away i don't cry, even when his funeral, my only sister even angry at me for not crying at that time my feeling just between sad and relieved, relieved because my father already years life with lung cancer and seeing him in pain everyday just pain my heart, and everyday in the last of his life he just talking about why God not yet take his life, so when he is pass away and in his funeral the relief feel is stronger to me, but the next few day when all the family go back to each of their own home, when I'm alone at home and no one to talk anymore, all the emotion, memory and reality hit me like a bull and at that time i cry like a b*ch.

@Blackfire970 Жыл бұрын

For a second I thought he said 7 years 😂

@KingTiger10588 Жыл бұрын

Well the joker... Metal Gear Solid 5 does a good job explaining this all the bosses represent an emotion from trauma

@OutBack-pt4zm 5 ай бұрын

After 19 years as a paramedic I can honestly say I dont know what a proper response to anything anymore. You can interchange laugh and cry, knumbness and outrageous pain, anger and pity. It doesnt make sense why people react the way they do

@cygnusereve4779 Жыл бұрын

At this moment, you call in a psychiatrist as an expert witness. Not rely on a police officer's assumptions.

@GeFlixes Жыл бұрын

When we had to put down our dog for liver failure I cried like a baby for ten minutes after I held him when he took his last breath. Then I stood up, went to the receptionists and ask "can I have proof of death, please? For tax purposes?" He was a big dog, and later I helped the assistant who was a small woman to put him into the freezer (for when the body disposal team comes). As she pulled out a few dogs and cats to put our dog at the bottom, I said "sounds and feels like deep frozen chicken. They tasty?" I learned something about me that day: I cope with sadness with really dark humour. Good that I'm not a mortuary assistant or something like that...

@blah914 Жыл бұрын

my brain shuts doen emotional responses in emergencies. has made me very handy on the few accident sites ive been on, or if someone died, general traumatic situation whre u need to keep your shit together for the sake of others, but it catches up w me later. its a survival stand-by mode.

@djdoc06 9 ай бұрын

So in 7 months, he’s never seen somebody react that way to their wife’s murder. Because this is the first murder scene he’s been on.

@anikuzatepan Жыл бұрын

In my experience... Dude at least have 2 years of it before using it as an excuse

@harisraja2931 Жыл бұрын

Eren Yeager laughs. That's all the proof and reasoning I need

@Renshai32 Жыл бұрын

Men especially can be conditioned not to cry from a young age. Dudes literally have to work through how to eve process the feeling of needing to cry...

@unoriginalname3442 Жыл бұрын

I don’t understand how this is correlative. Someone could just be a psychopath, doesn’t mean they’re the killer

@Thicccynickky Жыл бұрын

It took months for the emotion to catch up after my mom died even though I was in the room

@TheSpongebob1919 Жыл бұрын

Ironic, a cop talking about human emotion

@Ramhams1337 8 ай бұрын

My cousin once crashed his car and it did a barrel roll and landed right side up again. He laughed about it and drove on. People can have very different reactions to things

@TheJumpingJake Жыл бұрын

When my little brother came running down stairs hysterical calling ‘there’s something wrong with mum, she’s not waking up HELP’ - I went straight up stairs, checked on her, call 999 for an ambulance and my dad was in shock the entire time and couldn’t move or say anything. My mum died later than night from a second stroke. I woke up to my dad telling me she died and I didnt cry until I sort counsel. And even when my dad died of cancer and we were all around him when he passed at home peacefully, it took me a good 5 months to cry. Im only 27 and believe experiencing someone’s death can and will never be moment you can judge, you can only judge them with their actions after the fact.

@danahansen5427 5 ай бұрын

My mom died at the hospital. My wife accompanied me to the hospital as support. The hospital chaplain was also there in case of need, and I wished he would leave. I was matter of fact in front of this stranger, because I didn't trust him; my wife I trusted, not this stranger (even if he was wearing the clerical collar). I don't know what he thought about that, but I'm sure he thought I was cold concerning my mom, when I was anything but.

@dannybailes3948 Жыл бұрын

Almost 7 months. I’ve seen it all.

@jacobhatfield4970 Жыл бұрын

From experience i go full numb for a long time with feelings only returning periodical. Each persons respose to trauma is individual

@ysucae 11 ай бұрын

my grandma death only really hit after a few months. my brain didn't register it, i knew she was gone but it didn't go through. me and my dad (her son) were super collected at the funeral, no big emotions, some little tears mostly when seeing other family members cry. then one night, it just blindsided me like a brick wall and i wept like a fucking baby for hours. couldn't eat for days. delayed reactions and compartimentalizing are tools of the brain to make us keep going until we are able to process.

@seikouchan Жыл бұрын

I hardly can believe that a police officer would answer in a way that is so unconvincing.

@SoelKing Жыл бұрын

I had a friend in HS and he told me that when he was in his probationary period, he said that most other people like him with that little time being a cop, he said you don't really know anything until you've been through tough experiences as a cop. Even now he said that some of his graduation mates, that don't even know anything yet and it's like 6 years since he started and he still thinks that he has stuff to learn, every cop should have that attitude.

@HG-yo8wj 9 ай бұрын

My mother passed away, suddenly just a couple months ago, and my brother was the one who found her in the bathroom. I won’t detail how she was found, but the bathroom looks like a murder scene. He was extremely calm when he called me and the paramedics, and it wasn’t until hours later, after everybody had left, that he finally cried. Sometimes people go into a preservation mode, especially when there is tasks to be done. And some people, especially men, just don’t like to cry in front of others. I would never question somebody’s emotional response to a trauma.

@dustypaladin9216 Жыл бұрын

I didn’t cry when my grandmother died, I just felt numb. I. I did pretty much nothing but lay in my bed and sleep for about a week. My dog died and I cried uncontrollably for over an hour. Forget different people having different reactions, even the same person can have wildly different reactions to death at different times. According to this cop I am apparently a murderer

@Tounushi Жыл бұрын

Sometimes the most appropriate reaction the human mind takes when confronted with extremely emotional situations is to shut all of it down and run away until it's safe to process it. Complete dissociation is like a pause button and you resume the processing later.

@Slayman3909 Жыл бұрын

It makes sense if you really stop to think about it. Sometimes you need to run away from a bear *right now* instead of mourning immediately. The caveman in us still sometimes struggles with modern happenings

@ThaSouthMU Жыл бұрын

When my mother died, I was numb through the whole process of getting her affects in order and through the burial. Everyone was amazed…. Or maybe weirded out by it. It didn’t hit me until I got home after the funeral and i was going through the closet and I stumbled upon her old purse. Water works…

@pickle3719 9 ай бұрын

Sometimes when a man see's something so horribale they have to shut their emotions down just so they can do what needs to be done. They later can let their emotions out and then break down afterwards.

@zorojirou5471 Жыл бұрын

My grandmothers' sister/grandaunt passed away and i remember at that time I didn't show emotion seeing her body. I just stood there while everyone was crying; finding it weird that I was the only kid who didn't cry. I forced myself to shed tears just so I can fit the atmosphere. Why is that?

@kj3026259 5 ай бұрын

Had a guy at work get a call from his wife. Not so strange. 45 minutes later, his brother came and got him from work. Find out 4 days later, the first call was his wife telling him to get to the hospital his daughter was in a wreck, dead on scene, and he needed to go, and id the body. The wife was out of state at the time, or else she'd have got to get him and gone with him to id the body. The guy worked those 45min because he didn't want to see his baby like that. Don't know what all way going through his head. I'm just glad he had family that could help him out with everything.

@kjhkj 9 ай бұрын

During my time in military as a medic I ran up on someone I knew who had a bad accident during a airborne jump. The dude broke 2 of thr most important body parts on his left leg. Pretty much he will never walk right again. He was joking and laughing with me the whole time.

@48webber Жыл бұрын

My father was murdered in cold blood, when I got the calls from around the world, I spoke like absolutely nothing happened. Even at the funeral, u would swear it wasn't even my dad as I was like a visitor there.. it's takes time to HIT you but some people like me, it takes much longer and people handle it differently

@deadlock89 5 ай бұрын

When people experience trauma they become an inflated balloon: some people pop immediately and all the emotions are release right then and there. Others pop later or are popped releasing their emotions. Some people slowly deflate over time releasing their emotions gradually. And then there are people that never pop and that balloon turns into a reinforced ball and they never feel anything ever again. What i'm saying is everyone responds differently, even psychologists have to carefully analyse their patients to under stand how theyvare coping with trauma and they have advance education in that field so how is a cop of 7 months gonna know what he's talking about.