Take your focus off the narcissist, and pay attention to yourself instead.

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Dr. Rhoberta Shaler - Help for Toxic Relationships

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Don't Lose or Abandon Yourself! Listen in to why you need to turn the focus on yourself and turn away from trying to please the narcissist.... Narcissistic people want all the attention as well as all the air in the room, right? You can find yourself giving it to them in hopes of them treating you better or liking/loving you more. Turn this around.
HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE:
- Why this episode focuses on a very specific kind of relationship. Check that out!
- 3 Must-Haves of a Healthy Adult Relationship = Episode 115
- Why you want to keep balance in any relationship regarding power, status, and control
- Recognizing when it's time to stop researching about toxic relationships and START making changes
- Never let anyone habitually degrade, discount, or dismiss your needs, wants, feelings, or thought!
This episode is very specifically focused on your relationship with a Hijackal, or any narcissistic person.
It is based on the dynamic that the Hijackal wants to continuously create and how it is different from a healthy relationship. Hijackals are NOT self-reflective. You know that.
You can lose yourself in meeting the demands, or believing the accusations of a narcissistic person, right? It usually happens slowly over time. Listen in to recognize if it's time for you to turn things around and go in a healthier direction for yourself (and your children.)
I'm here to help. Let's talk soon.
Rhoberta
* * Remember, narcissists and other toxic people come in all genders and ages * *
and toxic relationships can be at home, at work, at play... with your parent, boss, spouse, sibling, friend, co-worker.
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I am Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor.
Are you in relationship with a Hijackal? That's someone who consistently puts you down, love-bombs and gaslights you, creates confusion and chaos, and causes you to second-guess yourself? I can help you recognize, understand, and make decisions about those kinds of narcissistic behavior…and especially, how to keep yourself (and your children) safe and sane.
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@theresesilvawalker8407 Жыл бұрын

I found the BEST (fictional) account of gaslighting in Marion Keyes novel, "Watermelon". Starting in Chapter 23 when the bleep husband comes back, you see the gaslighting and the flying monkeys vividly depicted. Shows very baldly how dreadful and yet how plausible self doubt can be.

@robinperkins9640 Жыл бұрын

Your checklists were the harsh eye opener I needed. At the moment I changed my focus to learning about myself and reclaiming my power. I love the quote: Never put the key to your happiness in someone else’s pocket. I identified what I valued the most for my life and then started building boundaries around protecting those things. It has made my life so much simpler. I still fight the “people pleaser” mentality, but now I see it and can turn my thinking around. Thank you for sharing your experiences and lessons.

@fruitypopwhickle6806 Ай бұрын

Rip, Dr Shaler. Your work lives on.❤🙏🏾🕊

@Countrylover1946 Жыл бұрын

This is so spot on. Over the years I was programmed to put him at the center, the sun in our solar system. I’ve had to deprogram myself and reprogram to a healthy perspective. You are a blessing and an inspiration. You provide such insight and wisdom. I’m grateful for your KZfaq videos.

@sdctx17 Жыл бұрын

So Beautifully said 👍👍👍. Thank you 🥰🥰🤗🤗.

@ForRelationshipHelp Жыл бұрын

You are so welcome.

@simplysavvylife Жыл бұрын

Oooh goody specifi , specific to what I'm really working at more now than ever, esp post- prolonged and acute trauma pulling out of a mid-life rut & some legit physiological changes. Perfectly synchronized timing as usual! So much has taken a toll and after trauma it seems like so much work to get better , let alone keep up with the demands of the hijackal. Physical, emotional, total burnt out is real !! I just turned 40 and am pulling out of that very rut and all it's fallout from two marriages, 4 children between them, and insane amount of insanity the only way forward is to be diligent but forgiving with oneself - It takes a lot of intention especially if you are still dealing with some degree of it in practice and/or things like c-PTSD. I'm working on this so hard in multiple realms at once but it's really great to do practice these tenants in multiple realms of life , it makes it more consistent (but be gentle and don't bite off more than you can really chew). Master steps Best wishes to everyone .

@ForRelationshipHelp Жыл бұрын

I'm happy to hear that it was a "just on time" topic for you. You're right. It requires attention to so many things at once, however, as long as the cats are herded generally west you're doing well!