20 Ways Childhood Trauma Can Show Up in Your Adult Life

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20 Ways Childhood Trauma Can Show Up in Your Adult Life

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Dr. Rhoberta Shaler - Help for Toxic Relationships

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Childhood trauma - bad things that happened to you, or experiences that registered to your young mind as bad (whether you actively remember them or not) - can have deep and lasting impacts. Wonder why you do what you do? Feel like you feel? What shaped you? Listen to this episode and check for these twenty ways you could be feeling and behaving that are result of things you may not even think about in your childhood. Good step towards enhanced emotional well-being.
It's NOT direct cause and effect. People and events in your early life CAN lead to the way your feel about yourself in relationship in your later life. This is important to recognize so that you can make conscious decisions about what is best for you NOW. Two children in the same family can have very different perceptions and reactions to the same event. Everyone is different. AND, some of these may resonate for you. Others may be validating. All are good to think about!
HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE:
- 20 possible responses to what you learned about yourself and others in your family
- Not everyone is affected in the same way
- Why it's wise to consider these
- Knowing what you'd like to change is a powerful start for reclaiming your personal power
- What contributes to your ability to trust
- Why you may never feel safe
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@kimberlyk3928 Жыл бұрын

We grew up with an alcoholic dad which made my mom very angry all the time & we paid for it! Now as an adult I’ve suffered because of it.

@lunareyes5643 3 ай бұрын

Rest in peace, Dr. Shaler. Thank you for your generosity. ♡

@pinaytunay 3 ай бұрын

she passed away? what cause?

@lunareyes5643 3 ай бұрын

@@pinaytunay If you click on "About" for the channel it states she passed last month (April 3, 2024). I just discovered her channel so I don't know any more info, sorry.

@user-qu1rf9dx1b 5 ай бұрын

Every single word you've said is true. We don't have to blame anybody for what we've been through. We simply need to understand ourselves and our personalities to know how to walk through life safely. Remember, it's never too late to change your mindset and shape the life you want. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

@richardrickford3028 10 ай бұрын

Thank you Dr Shaler. An excellent speech. I scored twenty out of twenty and I feel I have myself in clearer focus now - which helps me to realise what I still need to do on my journey of recovery.

@theresefournier3269 4 ай бұрын

One thing is for sure. She is one beauti-FULL soul❤

@agak9974 Жыл бұрын

Very true. However at one point we all have to put our big pants on and live. Many get stuck in this blaming mode and don’t move forward ;)

@rodfrancis9160 3 ай бұрын

wow,the mental health system are no longer needed now.

@robertafierro5592 11 ай бұрын

I had to let all of them go. They're sick.

@Callumcj 7 ай бұрын

my mother passed away when I was 4 and my father is a drug addict and an alcoholic and abused me for 13 years and neglected me and stole from me. took a lot of pain and buckets full of tears to get out of that horrible situation but I now live alone and I haven’t spoken to me father for a year and the trauma has hit and it’s been here for 4 months and sadly now I’m crumbling as I’ve been relying on alcohol for 3 months to help but now I’ve moved onto cocaine because the pain isn’t even possible to put into words :(

@earthangel2590 Ай бұрын

Please seek help for your addiction. You are so worthy of love and happiness. Please seek Hod even if you don't understand who he is right now. Ask him to show you who he is and adk for his help! He already knows you need help. I promise you that your life will change! God bless you ❤🕊️🙏

@nancyf2665 Ай бұрын

The Lord God above knit you in your mother's womb and the enemy wants to destroy you. Jesus will never forsake you, like your father did.

@simplysavvylife Жыл бұрын

Great , practical , and applicable video!

@ForRelationshipHelp Жыл бұрын

Glad you liked it!

@jenniferwong4530 Ай бұрын

Wow. I've never heard what replays in my mind said out loud before by another person.

@tmking7483 10 ай бұрын

Its time to re_ evaluate the definition of all this shame we have to endure_ those who survived abuse from caregivers. We dont carry our own shame_ we were yoked to our parents toxic shame. Thats why they had kids so they have a dumping ground for all their toxic shame. I have seen this pattern played out over and over. As soon as someone had akid and they start making tahat kid into a football player,a professor ect,ect _ well that kid gets a life of slavery and misery and early cancer. Conditional love who needs this kind if love_ this is not caregiving its a transaction.

@risingeagle6332 Жыл бұрын

😳😳😳 ALL WERE PRESENT IN MY RELATIONSHIP WITH MY WIFE!!!! Ouuuuch!!! 😭. What happened to me….is an understatement. (Yep! I was married for years to a Covert Vulnerable Narcissist).

@jackilynpyzocha662 9 ай бұрын

I had to be more mature than my narcissistic dad(I was 5, he was 21), he's still childish. I am tired of parenting him. I wish he would grow up already! When he was acting the kid, he'd project and tell me to "grow up" very harshly! I wish he'd take his own advice!

@emilkadd 5 ай бұрын

Thank you

@RobertaFierro-mc1ub Ай бұрын

Hijackal!! That is GREAT!

@nancybartley4610 Жыл бұрын

What does that mean: to ask for help? Whom do you ask for help? What kind of help? ?????

@robertafierro5592 11 ай бұрын

Listen again

@carolnahigian9518 5 ай бұрын

i scored 20 out of Twenty; both Parents smiled only When I cried.. Glad I hot THERAPY💚🧡

@rodfrancis9160 3 ай бұрын

At family meetings, all i see is a mother that tortured me from 5 years old and a step sister whose dad did the same,she has his looks and character ...my mental health can dip a lot after the meeting and it takes about a week to get my mental health back to normal...yes I can put my big pants on and laugh at the madness of humanity instead and accept it was my time and place to be abused.Simple.

@shaem9702 Жыл бұрын

❤

@robyn6018 2 ай бұрын

You're drunk!!

@Alanrknight74 Жыл бұрын

All vids should begin w qualifications. There’s no qualifications, so pointless.

@triciashortridge2309 Жыл бұрын

She's probably not really a doctor. That does not mean what she has to say is pointless.

@b52270 Жыл бұрын

@@triciashortridge2309 she has a PHD hence she is a doctor.

@pattymatthews8108 Жыл бұрын

I disagree. I want to get right into what the video is about. I get tired of hearing how the speaker is qualified at the beginning of every video. Put your qualifications in the notes of the video so I can find them if I am interested.

@gabrielleaumont3971 Жыл бұрын

Then dont watch !

@gabrielleaumont3971 Жыл бұрын

@@triciashortridge2309 Whst is REALLY a doctor?? A PhD is a REAL doctor. A medical " doctor" is only Called a doctor. They are literally Bavhelors of Medicine !