Along the same idea, being told that you could never be the person you were before your trauma happened, was also liberating. You can have different degrees of healing, but you are changed. I spent a lot of time trying to fix myself instead of learning to relate to myself and my relationship to the world in a new way as a changed person. My experience of the world was permanently altered, I had to accept that.

The wisdom here is right on. I was born in 1952. Until the mid 80’s most people had reasonable aspirations for themselves and for their lives. Yes, there were the famous people, the masters at something or another, the virtuosos. But most of us aspired to be basically good people, content, productive, comfortable, reasonably engaged with the wider community. My God! Now if we aren’t as rich as Elon Musk, don’t have millions of followers, haven’t raised ten children and published 15 books, in addition to teaching law and running for higher office, well, we’re nobody. It’s making people psychotic. Thanks Forrest. This is an important message.

There's a Calvin and Hobbes comic episode where Calvin asks Hobbes what he'd wish for if he could have anything he wanted. Hobbes says "a sandwich", and Calvin goes ballistic about his lack of imagination. Meanwhile Hobbes fixes up a sandwich for himself, eats it, and says "well, at least I got my wish." This video took me back to the moment I first read that comic. I love the idea of liking our experiences more and turning from wanting to liking. Maybe it's ignored because it's so simple and accessible and doesn't make for good marketing copy. Thanks for making this video.

Thank you for this validation, Forrest. Having been born into a family where abject neglect and abuse were a constant, I’ve struggled throughout adulthood to find my center and to fit myself into “normal” society. Your message essentially gives me permission to be the best version of myself that I can achieve and to let go of the unrealistic expectations and demands I and many others have placed on me. My brain and nervous system were altered by my genetics and upbringing, and while I have grown tremendously and will continue to evolve, I won’t ever be the version of myself that would have grown out of a safe and loving childhood. Accepting that gives me more space to breathe into what is...

This is my first comment ever on KZfaq but I just needed to say that this is a very valuable video. And you’ve shown so much courage by getting off the marketing trap of overpromising that get people obsessing over perfecting themselves and their experience. This is the sort of candid realism that, while not being as attractive/marketable, can truly help people. So thank you. It also highlights the importance of addressing the societal issues such as poverty that limit the wellbeing that an overwhelming number of people can experience.

Oh my… such an essential video. Such an essential message. Thank you so much for making this intelligible and freely accessible. Such a gift. I so wish my 20-year-old self, stuck in eating disorders and unending self-help books, could have seen this.

Thank you for calling out this cult-like magical thinking for what it is. I like how you make the comparison to kids with abusive parents and how they almost always blame themselves for the mistreatment they received. Society does do that exact same thing! We blame individuals unfairly and treat someone’s plight as a moral issue. In reality, it’s not an individual problem, it’s a collective problem that one person actually has a limited capacity to effect. It’s unfair to expect such outcomes from a single person. Thank you for explaining this phenomenon so people don’t feel bad for failing to accomplish the impossible, or at least the highly unlikely. Lol

"We're doom-scrolling our way through life." So good.

Really appreciate you addressing poverty. I’ve been waiting like for some politicians to mention it! Little sarcasm there. I’m actually grateful for my poverty sometimes because it prevented me from investing in some of these methods. They can prey on more vulnerable populations. Recovery for me is trudging, slow and methodical. The learning to manage my nervous system-breathing to release that fight or flight has been a huge coping skill. Thanks for being such an insightful young man with a concern about the other. Gives me hope for a more humanitarian future. Enjoy your talks

Thanks for this video, I think it's a very important topic. My childhood was very challenging and traumatic and it has taken me until the age of 30 to really be in a stable position in my life. I am really only in my 30s beginning to create the life I really wanted because I had to exert so much effort to cope with my childhood and then gradually improve my circumstances in my 20s. I think that one of the issues for me in self improvement is the artificial timelines we are supposed to follow, rather than really understanding the baseline we started with and recognising that genuine progress takes a very long time.

This is excellent and important. I tend to ignore those self-help magical thinking people exactly BECAUSE they ignore real life constraints. Their help is rarely helpful.

Thank you for addressing these fundamental problems with the self help industry and describing it so well! Ive read many of these books and the raising your vibration levels to attract good fortune from the cosmos irritates me the most. There are fabulous approaches of course all to the good, and very worthy, but to acknowledge to oneself that personal development must operate within constraints of origin and life circumstances is so important. I've never heard anyone talk about this before. I'm blown away and want to say a big thank you! Needed this today😊

I think there is a time a place for the various self help people. I totally get what you are saying about the “buy my manifesting course” people but when I was a young adult, looking for inspiration, they helped. I bought things like Tony Robbins and “Laugh Your Way to Success” while listening to Mariah Carey’s “Make It Happen” CD. But none of it did any deep work. Still, it helped me remain on a positive path. Now, I think the Crappy Childhood Fairy, yourself, and Patrick Teahan are very helpful in my healing journey and I don’t expect revolutionary healing, but my goals to identify triggers and be more confident fundamentally, seem within reach. One thing Crappy CF said was that any healing will help me feel better than I do now, so I’m just looking for some. Thank you for being real and honest and helping so many of us sort out what all of this healing stuff is and is about because honestly, I am just now trying to wrap my head around it.

Thank you. ❤ I’m very spiritual and it’s usually a good thing for me personally, but sometimes when my trauma takes over I can get really mean to myself and use it in a weaponized way where I hold my own feelings against myself. I’ve been in that place the last few days and needed to hear this. Appreciate your honesty, kindness, and integrity!

Well at least I feel comfort knowing I'm not doing it wrong. Perfectionism without an effective process is hell in a world where people would rather ignore your good qualities and hyperfocus on anything arbitrarily negative

Forrest, you’ve got to write that book, ‘Becoming a normal neurotic’ 😊

“The 40th percentile of the circumstance distribution.” WHOOOOOooooooo tawk yo sht Forrest! 🏆🎯

It's nice to hear such a humble message of self-acceptance and practical skills. I'm not crazy with how morning routines, gurus, and influencers are preying on the insecurities of the masses, but I understand how they are successful. I like your idea of normal neuroticism and if anything the success of the life-coach space proves that everyone feels like they need to fix something even if they don't know what yet. I think it's important to know when and where to stop the 'fixing' process and it's personally helped me more to avoid that train of thought and being more gentle with my inner self.

This resonates so much. I wrote about this a couple months ago: "What doesn't kill you..." What an inane, effacing truism, and an useless thing to say to someone hobbled by loss. Maybe some traumas that don't kill a person, they leave them diminished in their capacity to be in the world. Not all hurt can be transmogrified into meaning and resolve, into triumph of the human spirit. Some wounds wear and waste the self, defy its resilience, rob it of possibility.

It means so much to hear this. Your message is so honest and heartfelt - sensitive, thoughtful & grounded. A year or two ago, I attended a 4-day Sounds True webinar called "Loving, Knowing, Growing" with Tara Brach, Joseph Goldstein, and Rick Hanson. It was helpful and great. But what I recall most of all was a recommendation from Tara & Joseph that listeners all attend a few days' meditation retreat. I will never forget your father speaking up, and saying that while that's great if you can, many people don't have the financial resources or capability (may be a single parent with young kids etc) to attend an off-site retreat and that doesn't HAVE to be part of everyone's journey. I NEVER FORGOT IT.

This right here is the very reason I love this channel. It’s the fact that you guys make it known that the process of self help/healing isn’t just a one way path to succeeding. Rather an ever branching tree that really doesn’t have an end to it, just a higher level than the previous branch. Through my life I have gotten better and better at coming to terms with the “normal neurotic” idea and that I’ll never be perfect but I can always improve in one way or another. So yeah this video really lays that idea out for others and I think it’ll be extremely helpful for them. Loved this, love the podcast, cheers to this, it’s very important that people know this concept💜

This would make a brilliant TED talk.

I love this realistic approach of findig more contentment in a normal stressed life.

I’m thanking the KZfaq algorithm for suggesting this video to me. I’ve been in therapy for a couple of years doing trauma work. I’ve consistently fallen for the track 2 promises, but I need track 1. Especially now as a stay at home mom, which has proven to easily be one of the biggest challenges I’ve faced in my life. I greatly appreciate the ideas shared here. I’d love more information about how to actually apply this to my life.

Thank you - very REAL. As someone in her 60’s that started self/help as a teenager, you have nailed the unsexy simplicity of it. It’s the wanting that creates anxiety, weren’t we taught that trying hard gets us to that goal? My mind wants something, so in the absence of wanting, I will shift to the gentler liking.

People like honesty and authenticity. You and Rick are two people I really like working with. I come back to you guys all the time. And other good realistic spaces like Tara Brach and Jack Kornfield. It is always so disappointing when someone I have enjoyed working with jumps on the magic cure bandwagon. And suddenly some course they offered for 300 is $1000! It is only aimed at wealthy people in the first world ! I live and work in SE Asia. Here people have very very real problems. They are never ever going to have access to that sort of rubbish. That is being kind 💕🙏 And as a foreigner on a appropriate to this part of the world salary (as opposed to what UNICEF workers get) my spare cash goes into helping with the small shifts you talk about, on a local level in a respectful and empowering manner. This podcast is possibly the most enlightened piece of insight for these times, that I have listened to.

Brilliant! More of this please. Would love to see a deeper dive into your three points, with specific strategies. How do we increase liking, decrease wanting? Coping mechanisms? These are vast topics and I think you can explore them over a whole series of videos. Thanks for your great work!

Thank you! This is brilliant and so desperately needed! Everything you said is based in reality and is so reassuring. It's especially critical to hear that the human brain evolved to keep us looking for lunch and not being lunch! This will help so many people to feel better about being a normal human experiencing life as it is.

Hey! This perspective is so valuable to share with your friends. Some people don’t have access to the entire spectrum of personal development but their efforts are valid and their potential for progress should be represented! Remember: Most people over estimated what can be done in a year and under estimate what they can achieve in a life time. So celebrate the practical track, and if it brings you joy, experiment in the woo woo. 💛🌀🍀

In this medium, and in the mental health/ self help space, it’s easy to go down a rabbit hole and get caught up in it. The sentiment in this video is a helpful and reassuring reality check. Whether one knows better or not it’s still helpful to hear.

Hell ya! It’s so good to hear something “real”. I’ve spent way too much money and time striving to be Fantasy Tanya and not realizing the Today’s Tanya is enough as is. That basic “enoughness” allows me to work on my crap while also not setting impossible goals and then feeling “less than” when it falls through.

Oh yes. It's such a balancing act - how much of this life is mine to control? What impact can one person have, even on their own life? Forrest, I do think you’re on to something with the parallel between developmental trauma and the self-help magnet 'if only I try harder, I'll get what I need'. However in those rare cases of developmental trauma where the child DOES realise its not their fault... what then? Your own dad said he experienced this, and so have I. I'm beginning to realise that this has been a huge driving force in me to want to change the world. The difficulty is that without addressing the unmet needs within, this pathway is no less unsustainable. I'd love to hear your dad reflect more directly on how he navigated this.

Ironically, it would not be false advertising to market the three skills you mentioned as a life-changing "secret" to a happier life. Certainly they've felt like that to me! : - D 1. Get better at liking 2. Relax around wanting 3. Develop coping skills

Forest, thank you for sharing your thoughts around our day and age self-help talk. The societal factors and constraints you include into your message open up the discussion to include all people, it is inclusive! Therapy IS expensive and not everyone can afford it, OR have access to it, via language barriers, limited insurance, time constraints. I appreciate your message of what we have control of in our day to day life, and that in and of itself especially for someone who struggles with just feeling good or content on a daily basis, I feel a sense of calm with what is achievable. We have a long ways to go with mental health support, but it is so great to have content which is thoughtful, all inclusive and innate within the human spirit.

I will listen to this several times. I love Prof Paul Gilberts work on compassion and he is always talking about the things we can't change, the way our brains are, where we were born etc. I sometimes get very frustrated by self help content makers especially when they completely ignore the vast numbers of people who can't even get enough to eat each day. Thank you for this very important and inspiring message.

Forest, from my ❤, thank you. I'm not overly sentimental, but I wanted to express how touching this discussion was (especially when you almost teared up talking about a child who takes on the "bad" role to survive) & it's inspiring to me, & makes me hopeful, how deeply you seek to understand & to validate those who grew up with different circumstances than you did. While all the videos Ive seen here are interesting & illuminating,& often good for a laugh, this video made me feel a lot less alone in my struggles. Your talent is incredible. Love the way you convey ideas,& see other's humanity... pls dont ever stop lending your voice to the🌎, it's so badly needed. PS- just sayin, I would love to see more of your cool partner on your channel (I share her diagnoses)😊

This is the most practical wisdom I've experienced on KZfaq. I appreciate the accessibility of these shifts in thinking, and these ideas offer me agency - more so than attempting to "Raise my vibration " to feel more content in life.

Great talk! I have often gotten caught up in the belief that I’m doing something wrong and having unrealistic expectation after seeing others progress and move forward when I was still stuck in my trauma. I finally have seen how I am doing better than most who have similar adverse childhood experiences. Then I got clear about the basics which I attribute to mostly in the 1st track and have a great balance (and contentment) in my life. I still delve into the 2nd track but not with so much intensity. I so appreciate you describing the 2 tracks so clearly. I will definitely review this with some others in my life who are struggling and also continue to keep my wants in check.

Wow. I have no words. This knowledge is so powerful and I wish I could share it with everyone! We are now in a world full of resources that’s so easily accessible but need to weed out the unhelpful information. This is the gold I’ve been looking for!

This is very good and refreshingly candid. Your podcasts bring me blinking into the light. You (and your dad) are delightful and insightful. It feels like I'm hanging out with smart funny friends and learning incredibly helpful skills at the same time. I wish I could share my veggie garden with you. Warm wishes from Greece!

thank you Forrest. I'd add instead of self-help or self-improvement, it may be better to orientate towards self acceptance and self actualisation. Remove any underlying assumption of being broken or needing fixing, which again easily drives the mind on another craving cycle. "Life is not a problem to be solved but a reality to be experienced".

Hi Forrest, it’s great when you post your own content based on your extensive research (but not clinical experience, as you so often remind us). Your life experience and heavy dose of common sense and a sincere desire to truly help people has brought out this message. I think I’ve come to this a lot myself, but your clear articulation of it was very helpful. Do more of this.

Sobering, very practical, relevatory from someone who couldn't really afford a long term therapist and seeked most of their information on mental health improvement from this platform, thank you very much

This video is one of those that you can place above most others for the value it offers (as mentionned by so many people in the comment): the information, the realism, the spectrum, the passion, the will to really help... and it's explained in a very clear and organised manner. Your speech is also pleasant, varied, vivid and articulate. Subscribed and I'll definitely watch more of your videos!

This makes sense, it's self empowering and feels self compassionate rather than a constant struggle of pushing yourself too hard , in all the wrong places! Thank you. Appreciate your videos.

normal neurotic! Love that expression. Just what I have been aiming for, but didn’t know it had a name.😅 I have been very much aware in the last 4 years after a crash that focusing on the positive instead of the fears. Thank you Forrest. This podcast was great.

I absolutely resonate with everything that you’re saying. And I love your suggestions. We seem to be in a culture of over complicating things that are much more simple. You also highlight some of the issues with social media and how self-help has become big business. And that’s the reason we need discernment when dealing with these type of things. And you’re absolutely right about restraints that that occur due to many reasons. I would say keep speaking to this, because the right people will hear it that need to hear it like myself and others. I am I feel a true testament to what you’re saying. I have had restraints throughout my life that I prevented me from having opportunities that others have had or have. Some of that I also know, is perception, and how we view things. But we have to start somewhere getting to know ourselves, working on our resilience, and keeping it simple or a great place to start

THANK YOU! Forrest, you hit the nail on the head! Listening to your podcast is a pleasure and I’m grateful for the wisdom I hear in each episode. So true! Take into account the individual’s experiences, conditioning circumstances, and genetics. No one size fits all when it comes to following a self improvement regime and the promised end result. Imo, self improvement gurus are mostly “improving” their own pocketbooks! I also take issue with those who believe that everyone should just pull themselves up by their bootstraps. This thinking lacks compassion and also doesn’t take into account the individuals circumstances, conditioning and experiences. Thanks again for this insightful and thoughtful content.

You’re absolutely right. I’m always hard on myself but my upbringing was terrible and my brain has all of the adhd symptoms. No family support. I have real limitations. But I don’t like to see myself as a victim so I go the other way, I think.

Thank you for your candor. Thank you for a path that genuinely will help my quality of life. Profitable for you? Probably not. Increadibly helpful to me? Very much so. Thanks 😊

💯 Well said Forrest. It's an important reminder that sometimes doing small things in the present (that are available/accessible) can produce big results.

Hey Forrest, Yes I totally agree. track 1 track 2, some people cant access track 2 due to certain constraints. I loved -; relax around wanting I think the oportunities / we miss them - distracted by external stresses. such as pain, grief, stress of one kind or another. small steps daily.

This felt definitely relieving for me. It relieved some pressure to succeed and change everything and sounds more realistic to me. I appreciate the honesty behind it.

Wow, great points. Really helpful.

Wow, you just covered a LOT of ground very skillfully. I’m impressed and grateful!

This was excellent! We're all just doing the best we can if what you're doing is helping you progress no matter what form that it takes, then that is enough. Thank you for your message.

I think the second point, relaxing from wanting, is the most important one. Because wanting blurs our mind all the time. Wanting makes us do things, we don't really like to do. Like the famous saying "We buy things we don't need with money we don't have to impress people we don't like". One good thing about getting older, in my opinion, is that one starts to care less. Care less about other people's unsolicited opinions, care less about making false compromises, care less about pretending stuff. And it is very liberating.

I appreciate the honesty here. Fulfillment is off the table for the overwhelming majority of us. Our lives are shit sandwiches we are forced to eat. Try to find a way to smile while we swallow it down. Small wonder so few of us want to settle for so little and keep buying snake oil.

Forrest, Beautifully expressed. Practical, hopeful, compassionate. Love this vid’s topic. Keep going, excellent work ❤️ All ways love, Sandi 😊

My blood pressure lowered, LOL, when you defined the difference between want and like. A lot of the heaviness leaves me concentrating on my ‘likes’ instead of going into automatic-wants mode.

"naval gazing". Ive never heard of this, but makes total sense! Action conquers fear, so we need to focus on that. Thank you, Forrest!

Real. Phew. This has just taken a huge weight off my shoulders. I feel hearing this will now mean that I can make real, albeit small, steps that WILL improve how I feel and function. Thankyou so very much Forest. You are a blessing pet. A plus 10 today =)

Turning a mundane moment into Gold. It's such a powerful, gratifying experience to witness how willingly bringing another set of eyes to a moment can reveal a hidden treasure (and yes, its emotional, hard to put into words). The mystic Gurdjieff said: "A human being's highest possibilities are emotional". Thanks Forest, you are a King of Hearts!

Wow. Being well? You mean I don't have to keep running on this wheel? Thank you for the breath of fresh air.

This confirms all the lack of alignment that I feel in the self-help world. Thanks for breaking down reality & where we can go with it.

Thank you for being honest and real with your content! I first connected with your Dad years ago and have navigated the Foundations of Wellbeing program. The co-written book Resilient is on my well loved bookshelf. It has felt like a natural growth progression for me to follow you and the Being Well podcast too. I've loved the honoring of your father's work being blended, updated, highlighted, and freshly viewed with a youthful perspective. I thoroughly appreciate the focus on accessibility and have shared your content with my adult children. Keep on keeping on, Forrest!🙏🏻💖😁

Before getting caught up in life's gymnastics, remember at the end of the day, it's all past tense in the making

Congratulations! Finally someone who is interested in realistic goals. Shooting too close to the ground? No - acknowledging hype and clicks over steps that can truly change one's outlook on life is the kind of honesty that is needed. Bravo 👏

THIS is one of your best videos. When I started doing these things, +2 became +8 (with practice).

I've been waiting for someone to say this. I've been hammering this stuff for a decade and the "sexy" self help shit just consistently gets traction. This is empirically true, intrinsically valuable, and practical, but unfortunately it's not sexy. Not nearly enough people are going to catch up with this.

Thank you so much! This video really helps me with where I'm at right now. It helps me not feel like such a failure for being exhausted and unable to pursue some of my dreams/goals right now, and reminding me to look at all the great things I do have in my life and really take the time to enjoy and appreciate those instead of constantly wanting more.

I’m a big fan of your message and your work. Telling it like it is in the face of all that other sh*t. Bravo, Forrest. ❤

Thank you thank you for reminding me to get off the fast lane to no where and enjoy the lane l am in . Thank you for looking at the larger picture of what is truly happening in the world especially with material poverty and how this limits emotional well being. Thank you for reminding me l am doing enough which allows me to love myself and not constantly compare myself to others.

This is so refreshing. Certainly takes the pressure off from tgat negative voice making me feel wrong. Thank you 😊

KZfaq randomly recommended me this video . I am really glad it did

Thank you so much for this! It may not sound glamorous, but the incremental small efforts are truly ripples in the pond. If we grow our capacity to notice and appreciate that, our entire perception of experience is altered. There is nothing outside of our direct experience anyways, no matter where we search. It may sound obvious, but we can still spend a lifetime searching. How loving of you to shed some light on this, in your kind and thoughtful way 💕

Thank you for this... I'm literally the Queen of Self-Care... and yet, even with all the effort put in, my mental health isn't perfect. It is much better, but hardly perfect! Acceptance of my limitations, whilst also giving myself the space and self-compassion to do whatever I can manage today has really helped however.

This was so empowering! And I do feel freed by it! Being bombarded with messages of “the perfect faultless life is out there and until you achieve it you are broken” is so exhausting to hear. Thank you:?

What you are saying is refreshing! I have cptsd and I have found that coping skills has helped me immensely. I still have intense physical reactions to certain stimuli but being able to identify it and use my new coping skills helps my mind slow down and redirect the anxiety. I particularly enjoyed the part about craving because I recognize that within myself but it had never dawned on me before. That will help me to practice mindfulness better! Thank you for your valuable advice!

Thank you for speaking so openly and honestly about topics which often feel overcomplicated and mysterious. The manner in which you broke down the overarching topic of mental health into 3 concrete doable tasks is incredibly refreshing. I am struck by what seems to be your genuine empathy and compassion for people. Please, keep creating more straightforward, easy to comprehend videos and podcasts. Thank you sincerely for this one.

Extraordinary stuff. Really really useful. It is such a shame that it is so difficult to sell anything that isn't a pot of gold at the end of the rainbow.

A lot of us need this reminder right now, so thank you Forrest! Recently got into your podcast and have already listened to it loads

THANK YOU 🙏🏻!!! This is so liberating and I feel like sharing it with many who I think will feel as relieved as I am to be normally neurotic - that we can feel unified by this and get on with life! Keep sharing the “ different” content- it’s solid gold !

Thank you for putting this video on! It's soooooo damn true to every word. No one actually gives the slightest glance possible to the 'circumstances' area! It has a lot to do with our overall well-being. I'm struggling to heal my c-ptsd as much as possible, sometimes it's all so overwhelming that kinda paralyzes me from doing anything at all. Really reallyyyyyyy thank you soo sooo much for this video! ❤️

I have reached normal neurotic phase. I hope to move on. I like it here, but I know there is more. AND thank you for making the goals achievable. Love your work.

This is exactly what I needed to hear. I think at times I can get so overwhelmed with 'optimizing' (the second path that you talk about) that I actually end up not moving the needle at all. I would love more videos on the first path and the little small changes we can make around liking, wanting, and coping. Thank you for this!

Hanging out in liking relaxing around wanting getting better at coping ~simple genius

I absolutely love how you have dexcribed a profound topic into 3 focussed areas. I feel inspired to write those things down, for me to look at each day and practise them. I feel they could be life changing. Thank you.

I’m subscribing because of your integrity and your ability to synthesize a big idea so effectively. As someone whose craving has often been wrapped in the self help industry, your candid message is not without hope and is much appreciated. Thank you.

I’m sold anyway, Forest. Keep up the good work. Your channel is extremely helpful. Thank you so very much! I appreciate your compassion and honesty. Say hi to Rick for me. Love and light.

Thank you, Forrest! This video was wonderful to understand the reality of our lives without us looking at it first. The practice actions are absolutely true. I have been doing therapy for a long time and resolved some deeply hard things, but still, there are still a lot to go through. I appreciate your thoughts, as well as direct and objective ways to try to help ourselves. Thanks again!

Really needed to hear this message and hope more people hear it!

Forrest, not only does this message resonate, you articulate it so well. Thank you for this.

Thank you so much!! I'm so grateful and relieved that someone talks about this! After having self-help as a hobby for many years and feeling like a failure in it, I'd started to suspect that magical quick fixes aren't possible for people with my kind of background. And now you made me feel seen, through your video. 🙏💓

Thank you for being so articulate & sharing your thoughts on a space like this .....free & accessible , because poverty is real . I think like you , after having gone down many rabbit holes of self help & improvement ; some successful & some not . After fending off disapproval from others for not raising above my circumstances as effectively as they believe is possible; some of those people are just trying to sell their product & need me to believe more is possible. I have risen above many of life's limitations & not above others . I am grateful for the changes & always aspire to improve whilst at the same time wanting to be content & not be shamed for not having improved every area of my life. Thanks for the understanding you have portrayed in this video of my life experience. This was freeing 💯

Brilliant!!! I so so so appreciate what and how you present your information and ideas- I’ve read a ton of self help books but I am a lucky soul who doesn’t usually dwell on this stuff very often. I am sending this link to a friend who needs to hear this. Thank you!

Thank you so much for this video, you are spot on. This is something I’ve been feeling for a while.

A million thanks!!!

Never seen any of your other content and I'm at work so I don't have time to say much but I thought this was great, very insightful and very resonant with how im feeling about things as well and it was very reassuring to hear this articulated very clearly by someone else, so thank you, exactly what I needed to hear today

Thank you for this video. Your message makes me feel more normal in my day to day life because all this self help material sometimes makes me feel as though there is something wrong with me for having intrusive thoughts. Knowing the things we can do is already a coping mechanism for me, do thank you ❤️