Congrats on becoming a dad!

Congratulations on becoming a father!

Something in the edit seems different, is this video the first with the temporary outsourced editor you were looking for?

Congratulations on your new baby boy, Frank, it's amazing news! 💞 👶

Congrats! You are now a dad! Take the time you need to take care of your little human 💜

I feel your pain :|

This is why I've never had a relationship. I've overthink everything so much that I end up closing myself off.

❗️ it’s annoying cuz i eventually be like it wasn’t meant anyway cuz they wouldn’t have done/said xyz when i sat there the whole time thinking about how perfect they were & i set my expectations unrealistically high Edit: Found out I’m on the spectrum & i have did: already treated for anxiety but u guys might wanna be sure u don’t have any mental illnesses because my entire life i blamed myself for so much & just thought i was rare or not like most ppl but i actually just wasn’t living & scared to be myself since i was constantly judged & unsure about everything.

Funny enough im an infj with an infj

@@thegamer9302 where did you find your infj, are there any more

I think this is correct.

The way I always think about it is like a "there are two wolves inside of you" type situation where the big powerful rational thinking wolf is protecting the small squishy emotional wolf. The squishy wolf is worth protecting. But I will also confirm what frank is saying: I get distracted for multiple days at a time and it's likely for me to completely forget my partner's emotional needs. And secondly that I just don't prioritize relationships very much, I can manage all of my own needs; while it might be more efficient to trade that need management with a partner, "net positive relationship" can be a pretty high bar sometimes (especially with the upfront cost called dating). Younger me was far worse at this and passed over some really good potential pairings for silly reasons in hindsight.

I'm an ENFP with INTJ partner. He gives me the emotional stability that I can't maintain myself. That said - he can express anger very well. Sometimes it feels like he's consumed by anger, because nothing can calm him down, if he's angry. But other than that he likes to hide his emotions, which can be very stressful for an ENFP who constantly needs reassurance 🙈😅

Thank you!! I do feel very passionately, enough that yes being vulnerable to the wrong person can be devastating. ALso emotions need to be kept in check to function together to avoid fights over silly things.

😂😂😂That is true. My husband is an ISTJ and I am an INTJ, we rarely watch movies together and we respect the space of the other. We are very independents and introverters. It is a perfect relationship for the last 24 years. Excuse me if I am not expressing myself acuretly but English is not my usual language. Cheers from Madrid

i am INTP

Holy shiz thank you. You get a thumbs up.

Ur the best ..can i know ur type ?

@@thehomelander1373 homelander is not intp 😑ur a lier

@@Me_myself_iee Antony Starr is a sure intp

You even misunderstand each other in your coldness and communication? 😮 Despite you being both intjs??? Tell me more

@@quirogatnonerrat3214 no i meant that we're misunderstood by other people lol

only having trouble expressing because of my trust issues, they cant help, they dont care, they get annoyed or they use emotience against me. Also my emotience are like a knot, everything is connected but i can't structure is correctly unless someone gives me time, to reorganise everything and get control over myself. But it always seems like my feelings are wrong, and so i dont depend on them nor express them cause its useless, better make actions, but people dont really recognise the actions either. Honestly all of this shit leads me to not want relationships, its a waste of time unless it gets me my goals, business and work is something else but real relationships are a useless mess and it's so hard to prioretise. Happiness comes to me when im alone, i can do whatever i want without worrying too much about keeping the relationship, the relationship with myself will always be loyally kept and appreciated.

@@surgere1980 aaaaah! Well as long as you can understand each other, it's perfect 👌🏻💕

lol same. i met my partner whose INTJ too and we find it difficult to work with our past relationships because of us, being emotionally unavailable. Now, we take that as a lesson and we understand our situation and do better as a partner.

Same

Same. It's why all of my relationships end on decent terms. They usually only want me for my looks, or because I had been nice to them. I always accept the proposal to be the bf figure, but that doesn't last long (my dry ass personality, tbh 💀). I really wish they'd talk to me instead of just the vessel that I'm attached to. 😔

Exactly. And the worst is when someone just doesn't get it

This is completely accurate, sadly 😭

Fellow INTP, and exact same. This applies to friendships, too, because I've never been in a relationship before. In general, though, my social skills have always been lacking and I've always had trouble fitting in anywhere, but even during the rare occasions that I managed to get along with someone, it never moves past the acquaintance stage. Same with online friends, too. I just lose interest and have serious commitment issues. This is probably why I've (albeit unconsciously) crushed on people who I know won't stick around for long, like people who move around a lot, were being deployed, or live in a different country. I prefer casual relationships, not to be gross, but because I'm very self-aware and know that marriage and long-term commitment in general would suffocate me, which would in turn bring out the worst in me, and things go down hill. But, unfortunately, I also have a bad habit of burning bridges if ticked off, so it's a double-whammy for this INTP..

you are a star

@@choonblaze 😅 Uh? 😅

Wensu you're the best 🏆

Tnx

Thank you

My sister tested as an INFJ, and, coincidentally or not, THIS here is her EXACT #1 flaw. She extends this to friends and us family members, too, which she complains about is the primary cause of fights and her relationships not working out. I get that her intentions are good... but the way she goes at it, also making assumptions on everybody based on her own opinions and being too pushy, comes across as more (destructive, rather than constructively) critical and insulting than actually helpful, if not infuriating at worst because this makes us feel judged or "not good enough," with her bad habit of putting her two cents in/offering unsolicited advice and trying to change others, and also push us to talk about our problems and feelings (which isn't a one-size-fits-all solution, especially for us Thinking types, like my being an INTP and our mother being as ESTJ -we particularly HATE "talking about it," let alone being pushed to; if we needed or wanted help, we would ask for it ourselves). But we do understand that this comes from a good place. We all have our flaws, after all, (as an INTP, one of my many flaws is not caring ENOUGH).

This is what I lack. Everything is going well and all until I realize that relationships are not just all about fun but about being there all through out. I've wasted too many potential relationship for this 🥲

I'm an INTP and I do the same which seems strange, I'm not gonna lie. But seriously, I view people's problems as interesting. My main studies right now are about language and god, pragmatic is so interesting. People say things for a reason they don't always tell, being able to see that and analyse it is really fun !

I haven't even watched the video (here looking for timestamps to skip the the INFJ part) and i already relate to this... there's been multiple times where i think someone looks beautiful and then i get to know them and see we have things in common, start liking them and then they tell me something and the "help fix the person's problem" coin drops

Agree.. some of my friends tell me please keep psychology out of relationship 😐

I feel that way at beginning of relationships with people for awhile but the long I’m with them the more I want to be by myself lol. Or sometimes the other person gets clingy also which is kind of a turn off.

Also an INFP here. When it comes to romantic relationships, I was kind of a late bloomer. At 17/18 I still thought of myself as a child/child-like, so I couldn't see myself being in a relationship. However, now at 21, I'm in a relationship. I guess it just took a bit of maturing for me. You might also be a late bloomer, which is perfectly fine. Everyone develops at a different pace and gets into romantic relationships at a different age. I would say don't stress about it, and maybe write your crush a note? For me personally, written communication has always been easier.

@@Shiri_Yam I relate so much to your comment. The first time I could see myself in a relationship was with 19 but that boy broke my heart and it took a long time for me to get over him. It's the first time now after him that I have a crush on someone again. You're right, writing is so much easier when it comes to expressing feelings

same same same. i had a crush on this girl for 3 years and after i confessed and that we're still friends, she told me that she thought that i hated her all this time LOL. i was so scared of making my crush so obvious and now with a new love interest i can still barely get up and go talk to them bc i think that i could be bothering them

@@serena4531 I feel you. Let's both be braver, we only have this life so what's there to lose, right? :)

Thanks for sharing. I hope you both spent a good time together. Right now I'm in a relationship that is similar to your previous one. The thing is that both personality being together is kind of funny, we tend to not show much or don't need to much feeling from each other and what connect us a lot is our hobbies and interests, like A LOT, by simply spending time together doing stuffs, watching stuffs and playing games in a deep level is what make both of them good partners. But when it comes to "feeling" times, it can became kind of weird, it always seems like a "job discussion." And I love the fact that both cannot be offended that easily, this helps to make the conversation flows naturally.

Sounds like an anxious-avoidant attachment relationship.

Also an INFP here, who's currently dating an INTJ. It hurts so much when I at times open myself up to share very personal emotions and thoughts and only get apathetic and purely rational responses. It's happened so many times... Honestly, I don't know whether I can take this for life and am seriously re-considering our relationship everyday.🥲

We're yall really even in love tho? Genuinely asking because I'm married to an INTJ and when u truly start to form a bond with one then that's when u start to see the emotional and softish side of them ❤️

@@youareloved1455 if he truly wasn't into her, then possibly. However, most stereotypical INFPs seem to fall in love fast, wheras it simply takes an INTJ more time to open up and get comfortable expressing their feelings. This is simply just the way the 2 are wired. Just takes a bit more effort on the INTJs end to open up more, and for the INFP to be a bit more realistic

@@juzuko When you type out the last sentence, it means it's time. Be strong. You don't know how much time you have; it can't be wasted on second guesses and doubts.

Some are like "If you can't handle my worst, you can't have my best" We're like, "If you can't handle me now, get out"

I find no other explanation, because I (want to) believe they are generally loving and kind. So hurting people on purpose can't be the real reason. Must also be some kind of black and white thinking. While in most areas I connect perfectly with them- having an aversion to subject their theories to a reality check is actually still beyond my understanding. From my perspective they rob themselves of the opportunity to feel cared for and loved. Because if most people are terrible in their mind they most likely feel like victims who must protect themselves most of the time, right? That's so sad 😔

Yes that is definitely a problem. I also think INFJs tend to have a bit of general anxiety as well. I think getting that treated with a therapist helps a lot. We tend to forget that we can get trapped in unhealthy or assuming the worst type thought patterns since we're so good at helping other people, and we tend to be more self aware than other types and can overcome our problems alone. Having a partner really drew out my anxiety symptoms. We can always improve!

Being in an INFJ-INFJ relationship, I realized we pigeonhole each other. And it feels bad. Especially since the other very logically misinterpreted us. So I always say, I can see why you think that about me, even though that I don't agree with you that that is what I'M feeling, I just don't know how to break your logic... you're just going to have to trust me... My point is, sometimes INFJs unfairly judge our partners

@@jamielaw4749 Yes. We can only actually know what goes on in somebody if we ask them (and they answer honestly). 😊

imaging being in a relationship as an intp and doing things as both infj and intp at the same time

❤ As an INFJ, that means a lot, thank you. All my life, I have found people interesting. Even while growing up with crippling shyness, even while grappling with my own anxiety, even while being very much an introvert - people have always intrigued me. Studying people, seeing the strengths and flaws and quirks in each individual is endlessly fascinating. I, like many INFJs, have been a student of psychology all my life in an attempt to understand. Add in our empathy and we seek to not only see others, but to perceive the world as they may. I do agree that a lot of times, I’d like to get to the root of the problem with a person to try to resolve it at its source. It just feels like otherwise, the same issue with continue to crop up over time. But I can understand how it can be frustrating for our loved ones to feel psychoanalyzed… a lot.

Thank you!! ❤️💚💜

I'm an INFJ and my husband is an ENTP... GLAD to hear you say that as I wonder sometimes if I should "help" less but I do think ENTPs need help connecting and processing their feelings so 🤷

But sadly they are so rare(me entp)

Nah, I think this INFJ skill is better when used together with ENTP, not only INFJ "studding" their partner. Both got a lot to share together while thinking and planning things, the problem with both together is that ENTP will study INFJ as well, so INFJ "needs" to let that happened, I found some INFJ's in the past that kind of got "scared" by people knowing their "thoughts" or "plans" they wanna others being on that spot, but it's healthier when both use this process of "therapy" on each other.

I either want to date an INFJ or another INFP 😖

That's what Frank just said. You aren't deep not emotional like others are. For you it's a lot but compared to everyone else, is like almost zero. I am an infj and text my partner everyday for hours even. If we don't it means we don't love each other anymore. Others do the same. You are the only one who is the coldest .

What's your partner's MBTI?@@quirogatnonerrat3214

Exactly now how will ppl understand this? I guess nobody will love me or I’ll get divorced early great….

@@ManhwaBliss Not necessarily. Relationships have yet to work for me because long story Man that got away got away. It takes a special person to understand the not initiating conversation doesn't mean you don't care. Heck we could be thinking about your boyfriend/girlfriend all day long, then find out his feelings are hurt because you didn't text him every hour of the day. It's like "dude...if you want to talk call, and if I don't want to talk I'll tell you" It's not complicated. But for most people, like the comment from a year ago, they're incredibly attention hungry, but also often very boring. If you want my attention then don't be boring. If you're calling me to tell me you're bored I'm going to wonder why, because being bored is not something I ever do. There is always something interesting going on in my head. That tangented a bit, but long story short. You aren't destined for loneliness. Just need to find the right man or woman for you. Much easier when you look your best and you're in your mid 20s, but don't lose hope.

@@patriot639 the comment from year ago is not even worth reading from the first two lines lol, I’m at uni now still young but my future is clearly a working woman rather than a family person because that’s what I’m good at, but I do watch romantic series and read novels and wish if I could experience similar things , I can only continue to hope as you said, tbh I don’t want my first love a failure because I probably wouldn’t try again that’s why Im worried , thank you for replying

My husband is INTJ and while he seemed aloof when I first met him, the more we dated, the more he opened up to me. After a while, he turned into by far, the most romantic partner I've ever had. I think INTJs are just very private, but once they know they can trust you completely, they can surprise with such how deep and beautiful their emotions are.

Yes, please!

Great one! Also, maybe 16 personalties giving advice to parents about their babies like how to help them stop hiccups. And then the other side from the parents perspective hearing the well intentioned advice over and over and and over haha

@@JohnHenrysaysHi I got far more unwanted advice during pregnancy. My favorite: "Don't raise your arms above your head. It'll cause the umbilical cord to strangle the baby." Um... what? I've had four babies, and I'm very short. I can definitely say that is false.

​@@letfreedomring7330 Woah. When it comes to stressful advice, that takes the cake. And that right there is why everyone should give their mother's the biggest hug and kiss, or maybe an entire peaceful day away from kids for a big metaphorical hug and kiss for all you do for your families. Have you heard Mr. T's Treat Your Mother Right? M is for the moan, and the miserable groan From the pain that she felt when I was born O is for the oven with it's burning heat Where she stood making' sure I had something to eat T is for the time that she stayed up at night And took my temperature when I wasn't feelin right H is for the hard earned money she spent To keep clothes on my back and try to pay da rent E is for every wrinkle I put on her face And every worry that I caused when I stayed out late The last letter R is that She taught me Respect And for the room in Heaven that I know she'll get Also, congratulations on the 5th baby! I love your username, Let Freedom Ring!

@@JohnHenrysaysHi Wow, thank you. You're very kind.

Same 😭😭

Me too Frank! You are so fun! By the way, blessed be your relationships as we are talking wife and baby.

That's the top motivation to become a father. Alas, a dad joke pass. They have been great! Are dad jokes just playground jokes? It was awesome when he brought up the orange juice concentrate yo mamma joke style joke in a previous video because I hadn't heard it since I was a little kid, and then I think he actually directly brought up a yo mamma joke recently. Someone brought up the "orange you glad" joke when Frank did his color poll so he attracts cool viewers who appreciate comedic genius humor. Viewers like you. Thank you.

Exactly. We just need to be told verbally that you still like us and just need some alone time or time with your friends or whatever it is you need. Because we want you to feel good.

I think you guys are the best. Your only flaw is being clingy, but if dealt with proper communication like you said, the issue is no longer. ❤️ Infj here (can't stop overanalyzing 😭)

yesssss. im an isfp with infp bf

yes, and then when even spending time with them too much and we need a small miniscule break, they constantly repeat the fact that we will leave them, and then makes me think that they dont want me to stay cuz theyre constantly reminding me that im gonna leave, which i did leave in a relationship, and a week later told me that i unfriended them when they were the first to say that we werent friends anymore, and... i slightly vented in a comment reply section... whoops

That's partly true for me as well, as an ISTJ

Exact same for us INTPs. When we find people we share something in common with, it can be hard to keep us quiet (at least in my case). 😅 These shared quirks are the reasons why this INTP particularly loves INFPs the most (when they're healthy, of course).

yeah, that would be fantastic to have (I mean the next video suggestion)

Same

Awwwwwww you too sound so adorable! So your clingyness is actually something he likes 💕 I am an infj and I also have tendencies to be super clingy.. I am trying to work through it... How did you handle this aspect?

ESTP ESFP ISTJ ISFJ ESTJ ENTJ ESFJ ENFJ ISTP INTP ISFP INFP

my ex was INTJ and i'm ENFP. This is exactly the problem was. Hope he read your comment which is nearly impossible and be more understanding to his future partner later.

Yes, exactly. We don’t need to spend every second with you to show love. Even my ex was an infp, he was extremely clingy and he’d always be depressed about me not showing love. I just couldn’t show it well and it seemed like I was in the relationship for the sake of being in one.

Great advice to INTJs, talk about your feelings. If the person knows, it's a lot easier.

The dynamic. The one that express a lot and the one that have troble expressing themselves. Matye opposites do attract.

Me, an INTJ, had no problem with one of my ex ghosting my messages or reply with a one would answer to a wall of text. Had it been most of other people, it would have been a huge problem. The reason we parted way is something else. Also, the focus on practical problem solving made me and my suspected-to-be ESTP mom a good team when dealing with problems but her thoughtless words, shallow understandings and tendency to brush off or dismiss my feelings and emotions (could be seen as gaslighting) , trying to decide for me before letting me know what it is (more from a place of naive good will goes wrong than control grasp) drove me away from her while she craved having people interacting with her and would try to guilt trip me as being ungrateful for what she did when I didn't ask for it. 😅

Но правда в том, что я любила тебя, Анфиса

This is so true for me too... I'm super clingy but after that I need a lot of time to myself. I truly Get along well with INTJ and I don't understand why we are shipped with ENFJ or enfp. They tire me soon much. I cannot keep up with their energy. I g

Yes clingy boys are a red flag for me cuz I need some space

@@lucalucanez it's the best 😆

Same here! Me and my INTJ love to be around each other tho. Like being in the same room but just working on separate projects lol 😆

@Tyra that's what im talking about but I like to cuddle and very much into skinship. I need to lean on his shoulder without talking or soemthing

Isn't it just cute! 🤗 Frank will be such a good father!

I didn't get the last part about preferences. Can you elaborate please? I'm also an infj so I wanna exchange ideas and experiences,learn from other infjs 🤗

I just find the guys annoying if they are clingy

Wow intense. This happened for you or someone else? A bf turned into more could be good if intuit it will be if not I wouldn’t

@@quirogatnonerrat3214 The last one is when it seems his friends don't like you to be with him and instead preferred your friend.

@@Emily_Hurley It's my personal experience.

Well, I believe you INFPs need to ask your Fi if this person deserves the delicate feelings you have for them, as we INFJs should ask ourselves in Ni if we are interpreting people or things the right way before issuing unrequested opinions about them.

I think you could be ok with another infp like you to match your intensity. Cuz like you said, at least in your romantic relationship you DO DESERVE to have someone who can match you and your intensity, practically being compatible 👌🏻which is the entire point here. I am an infj in an infj-infj relationship. It is fun to see how it is to live with a clone of yours 🤭 It is very rewarding as long as I freaking out away the overthinking and live more in the present and not in the future. I am more intense with these defects of mine than my partner is😞

I totally understand you! I need that depth and at least emotional closeness as well. I think everyone deserves to feel loved for who they are. And if your love language is showing lots of affection then that's something to go for! Oftentimes what are downsides in the eyes of some are the advantages in other peoples eyes. Your needs are valid! 💚 (ENFP)

Accurate 🤭

Hey as an INFJ myself there s something about INTJ s that really catch my attention, they have a very interesting personality, that s why I started to go on dates with a few INTJs ...what would u say is the biggest challenge in maintaing a healthy and long lasting relationship between those two types as u married to an INTJ yourself?

@@katystrawberry2513 Communication, especially regarding emotions. That's been my experience, anyway. We have a great time when things don't require too much communicative collaboration, and everything is light hearted fun discussions, but when things get serious, or emotional, he really struggles with both listening and communicating his own thoughts and feelings. As a result, I tend to then over communicate or elaborate to try and make up for the lack, which can set off my anxiety spiral. We've figured a lot of it out, but it has definitely been, and still is the biggest challenge for us.

@@katystrawberry2513 Otherwise, we get along famously, though. We consistently make each other laugh and have deep, abstract conversations and debates that can last for hours. We've been together over 11 years, and are still head over heels for each other, both regarding attraction and intellectual interest. We can work really well together on a lot of things so long as they don't require too much emotional or detail oriented communication. Lol I hope this helps, and I hope you find luck and love, whether or not it's with an INTJ. ☺️

Wow that s amazing, congrats to both of u for going strong together for all those years😉 Also, thanks for ur perspective on that I'm sure it s gonna be helpful next time I ll be meeting another INTJ or any other thinking type🥰

@@katystrawberry2513 Thank you. It's been a harrowing adventure, but the best adventure of my life thus far. You're welcome. ☺️ I'm glad I could be of some help. Good luck out there! 🥰

@@sabakalshoven7824 You're so welcome! To me, a more accurate way I could see an INTJ sabotaging a relationship would be struggling to share their emotions and feelings with their significant other since it can sometimes take y'all a while to feel comfortable and feel like you can really trust the other person. I could see some types getting impatient with that. My husband said I pulled him out of his shell faster than anybody he had ever met. He almost immediately felt comfortable with me, but I could see that being an issue with other personality types that aren't as good at drawing people out as I am. I could see the other person perceiving that cautiousness to open up and fully trust as indifference even when it really isn't. It's a protective layer. My husband, myself, and our best friend (INFJ) all have these silly animal nicknames. She's Fishy because she's always a fish out of water. I'm bunny because I'm sweet and cuddly, but I also embrace the killer bunny side like in Monty Python if you mess with someone I love 😂. I will tear your face right off if I have to lol. And my sweet INTJ husband is turtle. Hard exterior with a soft gooey center. And he will hide in his shell whenever he feels like it 😂😂😂

This is accurate. My spouse is also an INFP. We, INTJs, show the world what we want to show them. We safeguard our emotions so much because they really upset the essence of our being and we hate being vulnerable, especially to the wrong people. We do indeed feel very deeply but it would be towards one or two people in our entire lifetime.

That's the thing: FJ said they are cold and closed and all that be ahse that's how they are the most part till they slowly get to show some feelings. But by the time they do, their partner is long gone. Why? Because of the reason FJ just mentioned. Even you said it took a while to trust you since he had to trust you THE MOST in order to open up and show love and affection. The thing is, you had patience

I can confirm this for ISTJs as well. People see that Te face and stereotype us as having no emotions when that is not true. This is aided by some of us playing it up (you see this even in comment sections around here) and outright trying to hide that vulnerability as much as possible as you said but we have deeply held emotions and values as well. I mean, just try to be purposefully obtuse and ignore logic and facts to an IXTJ (or even IXTP) and you will see how angry we can get. Or do something unfair. Or hurt the few people they care about. (Please don’t actually do these and make an enemy out of the IXTJ for life, this is for illustrative purposes only). It is the same with other emotions, just that anger is the easiest one to get to display outwardly to a stranger. At best you will get one of the infamous stares, possibly accompanied by them leaving, at worst they will erupt into shouting. For me it is like I don’t TRY to hide it THAT much, I mean I have cried in public when it got too much (read:when I criticised myself for being an idiot and making stupid mistakes on school tests, that was usually the issue) and I will reply if asked about the issue as my value of being honest takes charge but it usually doesn’t get to that level and even if it does I won’t vent to people I don’t know like that (and that list is like everyone except 5 people) out of my own initiative, I might just start crying though. Also, stepping aside from negative emotions, another thing that contributes to this is that many of us don’t really know how to smile, especially when prompted to, so people might not realise that we are happy and having fun even though we are. I just got reminded of that meme where INTJ stares can be translated as everything from “you are stupid and it is making me angry” to “I am actually having a lot of fun, just not smiling right now”, that is about how it works if you don’t know that INTJ well

@@quirogatnonerrat3214 He also said that they don't really feel much at all. That just isn't true in my experience. They feel very deeply. They just don't show it to everyone. And I agree that not showing their deep feelings can be an issue in relationships, but I disagreed with the comment he made about them not having those deep feelings at all. So I agreed with most of what he said, it was just that one part that I didn't agree with. And it makes me wonder if FJ has ever been really close to an INTJ. Because if he hasen't, I can completely understand that being his assessment of them.

Agree

its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let her go i did all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring her back

@@peterwilliams6361 Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?

@@DailamiPuang Her name is Sylvia Regina White, and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.

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Interesting. I hope you find the reason for friendship and why it’s worth the struggle; I can definitely see why it may seem like too much effort, but maybe one day you’ll find a friend that is better than your alone time and worth more than you’re willing to give up. Best of luck to you 🍦🧡

Oh no I like an infp but I’m an intj

Wow. I'm sorry but how does that even work? 😅

@@shillout You'd be surprised. Most people end up in anxious-avoidant attachment relationships where one partner is clinging and the other is running away. The reason these two polar types often are attracted to each other is because they perceive something they wish they had in the other person. Anxiously attachment individuals wish they were more independent and avoidantly attachment individuals wish they were more in touch with their emotions.

@@jakinlee5961 just try not to be dismissive of their emotions and needs is probs best thing to avoid a bad time. But I know us info’s can be a lot to deal with at times so 🤷‍♀️

@@youareloved1455 also I’m emotional and daydreamy enough, I can’t handle someone like me. Need someone to keep me grounded and more stoic.

But I'm really chill about him having time to do stuff he likes... Everyone needs time for that! Otherwise we become cranky and lose ourselves.

Would it be good to find another INFP?

I'm an ENFJ, and the INFP's "problem" sounds kind of like what I wish I could find. XD

Yeah, his older videos had such a depressive and existentialist vibe, tbh I miss them as they always got you thinking about a topic. Man went from “the INFJ door slam” and “be a lonely introvert or a depressed failure of an extrovert?” to having a wife and a kid, goes to show that it can happen to all of us-shy, awkward and currently depressed ISTJ

Yeah i totally agree. Especially with the infj content it helped me understand why i act the way i act. Now the next step is to actively fix those weaknesses and anxieties and maybe i can end up living more freely and happier like he is now - from an arkward, currently sad(depressed?) and isolated INFJ

I'm wondering if you doorslam them (without trying to figure things out) because you are already sure the assumptions you made about them inside of you is the only truth anyways, or because you are hurting so much, or because you actually turn cold just like that? Honest interest to learn here 😊

Hello there fellow infj 🤗 I am begining to have these issues with my current partner (infj-infj ) relationship. He too thinks about causes but a whole lot LESS than I do and even called me out on the fact that I always need to find the cause for the effect in order to fix it or that I always analyze why he said that comment right after I came to him to discuss issue X. I was wondering what link was in his brain to tie those 2 seemingly unrelated facts. Welp, turns out one thing made him recall a song that made him recall a moment in his life that made him recall etc and 100 years later got to the other topic. But that's what his brain did. He didn't walk me through it, he just mentioned point A and point B. And me wanting to know the road from point A to point B was frustrating for him because it's too much and too complex to say and doesn't need to be said in the first place. Turns out I understand that web of connections since I also connect them more or less the same way, haha. And like you said, we need to learn to live in the moment. I couldn't, I just could say that hey, from now on I am gonna live more in the present. Pff. Not a chance. But then life itself hit me : there were a lot of moments when I was close to losing (forever) someone that I loved. Prayed to God to save them and He did🥺 will eternally be grateful for God's love and care and also realized while I was crying and praying for that person to live, I realized that all the moments that we spent together, I did not tell them how lovely they are or how amazing their food was and so on. I didn't appreciate them for what they did in the present,but rather ask them what are they planning to buy or cook in the future, how much is gonna cost, tell them they look nice but not dabble too much nor five more attention to it. I regretted not enjoying their presence and person, not making them feel special as much as they deserved. So all that shoock me to the core and shifted my view in regards to my loved ones. Now I am trying to create nice memories with them and to stay more in the present to keep them company and not ruin the moment. But without the shock, pain and suffering I wouldn't have been able to see or apply this living more in the moment need

@@quirogatnonerrat3214 Dang this made me feel emotional. Thank you for sharing this. Some of the things you mentioned are the same things I’ve noticed in myself, at times. Although, most of the time I feel like I’m just so hell bent about doing a good job that it’s like I’m hovering over myself. I pretty much just end up getting in my own way, and ironically cause myself to not do as good of a job as I wanted. The issue is that I sometimes overanalyze other people and myself at the same time, and micromanage my reactions to them, instead of just being part of the moment. I don’t do this all the time, but it’s something I still want to work on not doing at all, if possible. Watching Frank’s content has definitely helped me to understand myself a lot and grow as a person this past year, though. Idk where I’d be, personal growth-wise, without this channel The man is a Godsend ❤

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My heart goes out to you! 💖😊 My best friend is an ISFJ and I noticed as well that she rarely speaks up about her needs and wants but is very caring. I have to ask her if there's anything she worries about or her inner world to be able to be there for her as well. The rest of the time I make sure to respect her boundaries. I could imagine that most of them didn't want to hurt you on purpose but didn't know about your needs because you never talked about them. Even tho I'm quite good at sensing other peoples emotions I'm not able to read minds and guess the exact reasons behind peoples feelings and behaviour. Did you ever had an open conversation with them? Might be a good thing to heal. 🌱 And being kind doesn't mean you're automatically a prey.💪 I encourage you to define clear boundaries for yourself and to communicate them! That's by the way what I'm currently working on as well! Listen to yourself what you need. Ask for what you need from others. You deserve it! Make sure you reserve enough time for you and your passions/goals and you will be much happier than you are right now! You'll have people in your life who respect and nourish you and you can do the same for them without burning out inside. Hope that helped! Much love! ☺🍀✨ (ENFP)

Same ,being an isfj is painful

@@freidenkerin5198 Thank you very much for your kind words. Very much appreciated. :)

@@yuiitodoro7791 When we're trying to be cold, but the warmness in our hearts can't say "no". 🤣

i feel like this is a struggle that all ISFJs go through, especially those that undergo something similar to that. flipping off that sort of humanity switch off

From an ENFP to another ENFP you deserve someone who will value you and show you that with their words, actions, etc just also communicate your expectations, but don't demand it. When you feel like you're starting to demand it then maybe it's time to leave.. and your emotional side makes you so special. So keep being you, Love you😂😅😊💚❤️

@@favouradis Beautifully said! 💖What I realized about this video is, that it points people in the wrong direction. Instead of valueing each other for what we can bring to the table, people start to call types generally toxic or people themselves feeling bad for who they are. I vote for a more constructive and loving approach! 💪

I agree with @Favour Adis . ENFPs are usually just a joy to be around! Imagine calling a child or dog out for being alive and bubbly! 🤨Fellow ENFPs- that's why people fall in love with us! 🤗✨ You deserve to be cherished for who you are!

@@freidenkerin5198 yes I totally agree with you 👏👏👏🙌🙌🙌🙌 yes we all have things to work on but coming at each other negatively does not help in anyway..........💚💚❤️❤️

@@freidenkerin5198 just out of curiosity what is your personality 😊

So practically you wanna be a robot that perfects and fixes problems and makes sure the statistics are in order as opposed to having feelings and being aware and concerned AT ALL TIMES how your partners feels and if you give them care and attention and love without trying to fix them. So practically it is right what the video said

@@quirogatnonerrat3214 No we do give love care and attention then that develops to the want to better their lives

As an istp I'm curious how we try to make people dumb ?

Awwwwwwwww that is so lovely and sweet. I ship infj-enfj and infj-infj relationships the most 🤭 Your story makes me so happy cuz I am rooting for such kind of a pair. 41 years is a long time. Which means you 2 are meant for each other. Wonderful that you 2 found each other ❤️❤️❤️❤️. May God bless you both , you sweet lovebirds 🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗 P.s.: I am also an infj

@@quirogatnonerrat3214 thank you. I was very lucky.

Congratulations Frank, your human is a little clone of you! Which is good, if anyone should breed it's people like you

Infj here. I embraced having plans. If I don't,I freak out, I act like I am on drugs and illogical. It's like my entire world is falling down if I don't have a plan. Luckily I found an infj (from all away across the globe from another continent 🤣 online on some servers) When I say about something that it looks like it's impossible to do or hard or a challenge, he then as the challenge lover that he is, always says "I'll make a plan!" (As in: eh, don't worry, it will just take a bit longer since it's a challenge, but it's gonna be thrilling to grind my brains into finding a solution 🥳) As opposed to my ex, an estp....who was your topical estp. Toxic, disrespectful and so on. Affected my mental, emotional and later even physical health with his way if being and of course , doing EVERYTHING on a whim, causing trouble and then have both of us struggle to fix it. Then do it again 😑 So...just get yourself someone who is COMPATIBLE with you. In my case, I needed compatibility and now that I found it, I know there cannot be any other perfect match for me than my infj 🥺

What an interesting story! Thanks for the thoughtful reply😊❤️

I don' t see this as a problem either. I for my part love to grow (ENFP).

I’m an INTJ and I just write down everything including her body language so I already know :D

Until it’s something I haven’t prepared for then I sit there awkwardly just analysing everything even the amount of people there

perfectly said. we're so intense when we're willing to commit and dive down deep. From recent experiences, I'm learning that even when that special friend/person might not feel the EXACT same intensity as I do-they nonetheless still do feel a connection...

I always thought infj-infp relationships could work (better than estp-infj for example) So both parties had those issues and full intensity? I am also an infj and trying to learn and find out more from other people's experiences 🥺

@Qui rogat, non errat Ahh well it didn't work out for us at all 😌 I was too busy fixing his childhood problems while he just wanted me to hear him complain for a while. Meanwhile I was feeling suffocated by him and always feeling responsible for all his feelings..

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yess. As an isfp too I feel you!

Have you found a solution? Are you still together? I am an ENTP and I have just met an ENFJ. I really like the guy but I also really like my interests. Right now I work at University inventing new technology in the digitalisation of civil engineering. So I really love my work. Until I met him, he had more interests than me. Now I wanna tell him about my work and he is super supportive. Like a personal cheerleader. But when he starts talking its not about his day/work but how we can have a family, how we can go on romantic walks, etc. I am really invested into him but I feel guilty that right now I am a little bit more interested in my work. How did you overcome this guilt? Did you have to change? Did he pick up his interests again?

Does he ever not care about his appearance when around you or others? Appreciate reading from an ESFJ. If you don't mind sharing, what kind of interests do you have? That's neat to be in a relationship with someone of the complete opposite type!

Me, an ENTP, hearing about INTP: that's me

Me, an INTP: agreed

I held back a lot of comments, cause I knew those hurt people around me. I just pretend I didn’t hear when I was thinking stuffs like that’s dumb lol -istp

@@maylovie3618 I tend to hold back initially. But when people get to know me more, I reveal that aspect of me. I ease them into it so they know that I don't mean to belittle them.

Hahaha, so for you it works because you are not affected by emotions, but facts. We have a real engineer on our hands here. Glad to hear your secret to a good marriage and wish you a long happy and healthy life together 💕God bless you both you lovebirds ❤️❤️

@@quirogatnonerrat3214 Amen to that; more blessings to you 🥰

@@nanatk89 thank you 🤗

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